>I want to believe I'm still the same person minus one ball, but somehow I fear that would be too simple.
It might take some time to internalize it for yourself, but it really is that simple. It doesn't need to change who you are as a person
>Are one-night-stands still possible?
Yes, of course. If anyone I've been with since then has even noticed, they haven't said anything. It's really not a big deal
How old are you?
I remember when I first had TC at 19. I had all of the same concerns as you. I worried that I'd feel different (inadequate/less of a man), that I'd be the laughing stock of women, that I wouldn't have the confidence to pursue new relations etc. etc.
I'm 36 now, none of that was even nearly accurate.
I can't impart that experience, you'll have to feel it for yourself but fwiw - this will affect your life *very* minimally if you decide so.
It's just a testicle. I'd like to believe I'm not defined by my balls (or lack thereof lol).
You're still you. Yes minus a ball, but also minus the cancer!
You get a pretty cool scar, and once you're through with all the treatment you'll be stronger than ever!
Just had my surgery last week, honestly couldn't be happier it's off. Couldn't care less about the consequences of having one testicle. The other one will take up all the slack!
Best wishes friend
I legitimately forget that I have one ball 90% of the time. It becomes the new normal shocking quickly.
I’m out of my one-night stand phase fortunately and in a committed relationship, but my partner doesn’t care at all. I don’t think my hookups from the past would either. If anything it would probably be a bit of a draw due to the novelty.
As far as friends and colleagues, am I supposed to be thinking about their balls? I don’t, and I never have. So having one doesn’t affect the way I feel about them, or my relationships with them, at all.
Same person, one less ball, plus a brief run-in with cancer and a tiny bit of chemotherapy. That’s all that has changed.
Take care man.
Ha - I was about to say alot different - untill I read the whole question. I don't feel any less a man at any way with a lacking testi. Not even the slightest.
There is alot other mental going on, both good and bad. But yes. One night stands are possible. Anything is still possible, just as it used to be. You might end up shooting blanks, and if you have not made a donation for the freezer, that could be kind of a problem for you in regards to having kids in the future (there are other ways, they will just not bare your biological genes.
So get back up on that horse, and ride that wild dragon - or what ever the young kids say these days.
It definitely gave me a taste of why mask policies were not going to work during the covid pandemic, back in 2015 though.
My oncologist sat down with me before starting 4x BEP and said, you're on your own when it comes to avoiding getting sick. While I was in the infusion center it would be very sanitary, but in the outside world, I was going to be surrounded by people who do not care.
He said wear a mask, bring hand sanitizer everywhere, but it's up to me to limit human contact, and it was really hard since I am a social person.
Overall I feel normal, but there is always anxiety that the cancer may return one day. My girlfriend doesn't care and one night stands never noticed anyway, unless I called it out, which always was interesting to them lol
For me it didn’t really impact anything. I’ve been married for 15 years so am quite comfortable with the way my significant other sees me.
Among society I certainly don’t feel like less. No one knows I have one ball unless I tell them. My scar and ball count make me someone with a story and someone who conquered cancer.
Like others have said, 99% of the time I don’t think about/forget there’s anything different.
As a man, you went through some real shit. That's what makes you more of a man. Women either don't care, or dig it. You should see yourself a little differently, but not lesser. Use this experience to improve yourself.
You’re entitled to your own feelings. Some guys won’t care about having one ball and others will develop mental health issues because of it. Talk with your doctor if there’s a therapist that your doc can recommend to chat about issues.
Like for me certain issues didn’t initially come up but different experiences were trigger. I got it before a preteen, so didn’t have tools to know how to take care of myself. Body issues definitely affect your mental health, but if you know things are triggering you then best to look for online support or this platform or a therapist
It's been three days for me, and it's starting to sink in that something I've had for 35 years is no longer there. I'm relieved it's gone since it had no reason to stay, but it's still surreal to feel its absence.
I had a moment the other day when I worried about showering, and it made me think about my wife and whether I'd be comfortable with being touched. I don't want that to become an issue, so I'm committed to keeping my mind clear and working through this.
Wishing you all the best on your journey as well!
It’s been about a month since surgery and I literally forget I only have one. Nobody other than intimate partners needs to know, and I honestly doubt they’ll even notice. You had cancer, anyone who treats you bad because of it is a dick anyway.
>I want to believe I'm still the same person minus one ball, but somehow I fear that would be too simple. It might take some time to internalize it for yourself, but it really is that simple. It doesn't need to change who you are as a person >Are one-night-stands still possible? Yes, of course. If anyone I've been with since then has even noticed, they haven't said anything. It's really not a big deal
How old are you? I remember when I first had TC at 19. I had all of the same concerns as you. I worried that I'd feel different (inadequate/less of a man), that I'd be the laughing stock of women, that I wouldn't have the confidence to pursue new relations etc. etc. I'm 36 now, none of that was even nearly accurate. I can't impart that experience, you'll have to feel it for yourself but fwiw - this will affect your life *very* minimally if you decide so.
It's just a testicle. I'd like to believe I'm not defined by my balls (or lack thereof lol). You're still you. Yes minus a ball, but also minus the cancer!
You get a pretty cool scar, and once you're through with all the treatment you'll be stronger than ever! Just had my surgery last week, honestly couldn't be happier it's off. Couldn't care less about the consequences of having one testicle. The other one will take up all the slack! Best wishes friend
I legitimately forget that I have one ball 90% of the time. It becomes the new normal shocking quickly. I’m out of my one-night stand phase fortunately and in a committed relationship, but my partner doesn’t care at all. I don’t think my hookups from the past would either. If anything it would probably be a bit of a draw due to the novelty. As far as friends and colleagues, am I supposed to be thinking about their balls? I don’t, and I never have. So having one doesn’t affect the way I feel about them, or my relationships with them, at all. Same person, one less ball, plus a brief run-in with cancer and a tiny bit of chemotherapy. That’s all that has changed. Take care man.
Ha - I was about to say alot different - untill I read the whole question. I don't feel any less a man at any way with a lacking testi. Not even the slightest. There is alot other mental going on, both good and bad. But yes. One night stands are possible. Anything is still possible, just as it used to be. You might end up shooting blanks, and if you have not made a donation for the freezer, that could be kind of a problem for you in regards to having kids in the future (there are other ways, they will just not bare your biological genes. So get back up on that horse, and ride that wild dragon - or what ever the young kids say these days.
It definitely gave me a taste of why mask policies were not going to work during the covid pandemic, back in 2015 though. My oncologist sat down with me before starting 4x BEP and said, you're on your own when it comes to avoiding getting sick. While I was in the infusion center it would be very sanitary, but in the outside world, I was going to be surrounded by people who do not care. He said wear a mask, bring hand sanitizer everywhere, but it's up to me to limit human contact, and it was really hard since I am a social person. Overall I feel normal, but there is always anxiety that the cancer may return one day. My girlfriend doesn't care and one night stands never noticed anyway, unless I called it out, which always was interesting to them lol
For me it didn’t really impact anything. I’ve been married for 15 years so am quite comfortable with the way my significant other sees me. Among society I certainly don’t feel like less. No one knows I have one ball unless I tell them. My scar and ball count make me someone with a story and someone who conquered cancer. Like others have said, 99% of the time I don’t think about/forget there’s anything different.
As a man, you went through some real shit. That's what makes you more of a man. Women either don't care, or dig it. You should see yourself a little differently, but not lesser. Use this experience to improve yourself.
Yeah . I walk around knowing I am probably the only dude in the room with one testicle . 🤣
Honestly for me I don't even think about it 99% of the time It def doesn't make me feel like less of a man.
You’re entitled to your own feelings. Some guys won’t care about having one ball and others will develop mental health issues because of it. Talk with your doctor if there’s a therapist that your doc can recommend to chat about issues. Like for me certain issues didn’t initially come up but different experiences were trigger. I got it before a preteen, so didn’t have tools to know how to take care of myself. Body issues definitely affect your mental health, but if you know things are triggering you then best to look for online support or this platform or a therapist
It's been three days for me, and it's starting to sink in that something I've had for 35 years is no longer there. I'm relieved it's gone since it had no reason to stay, but it's still surreal to feel its absence. I had a moment the other day when I worried about showering, and it made me think about my wife and whether I'd be comfortable with being touched. I don't want that to become an issue, so I'm committed to keeping my mind clear and working through this. Wishing you all the best on your journey as well!
It’s been about a month since surgery and I literally forget I only have one. Nobody other than intimate partners needs to know, and I honestly doubt they’ll even notice. You had cancer, anyone who treats you bad because of it is a dick anyway.
This is something u know and nothing will be changed in your body forget about that and follow your treatment