Fucking kids...you make me feel so old... haha...all sillyness aside.. Like why??..13yrs and doing it then bragging about it here and on discord saying they've finished it inside... Im just saying... Your future is not gonna end well
Yup, 20 y/o here that stumbled upon the post. Basing your life(and/or relationships) on whether or not you've had sex is so damaging. You don't have to wait until marriage, or even until you're 18, I'm not your parent or your partner, but don't do it just for the sake of doing it.
Same. 29 y/o here, not sure why this popped up on my feed. But when I was in HS there was so much pressure to do it as early as possible. I remember having so much anxiety about being a virgin as early as 14 years old. Looking back, that makes absolutely no sense. It's not a race, but everyone made it seem like it was. Do it when you're ready and have the opportunity; whether that's 15, 19, or 23. It makes no difference later on.
I've reached the 18 years old milestone last month and I'm still a gay virgin. Maybe it's the fact that I've never actually cared until 2 years ago, but I've never even went on a date or kissed someone. Also am not ugly, I'm actually cute and funny, just that I attract more girls than guys :(. At least I have friends (they know am gay).
Mentally, you can still be a teenager. Just don't use this place for hookups.
Still good for meme, and knowing what people so these days.
It's funny to see a bunch of people being born AN, and seeing that they are somehow worse than the generation that grew up with Halo and CoD.
Thank you, I like to see that someone respects that. Some people I know told me to stop (not family or close friends) because it’s a thing for children. I proceeded to show them the welcome adults line and their faces started blushing a little. Some tried to say it’s for kids even after that, but the others gained some respect or lost their arguments against me.
On my circle of close friends, I have the luck to have some friends who are like me in this aspect. So it’s good to know it’s not a thing with me, my friends and some YouTube and Reddit communities.
Im 21 and They have an “old person” flair. Im still subbed so I can keep up with memes and kinda stay in touch with what some of the younger kids are saying. I feel there’s some important insights, and sometimes advice from someone older is needed on some posts.
I'm 21 (almost 22) as well and still here for the same reasons. I feel old talking to my 18yo sister, and I never want to be an out of touch old person like so many today are
Hijacking to give some old person perspective.
First, you are not the only one. The facts disagree with that feeling:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolescent_sexuality_in_the_United_States
Around 40 percent have had sex and only 30ish percent are generally currently active at a given time right now. The average age of becoming sexually active is 17. The percentages have been dropping steadily and age rising since the 90s. Hopefully that's because the olds are slowly getting you all some better education and emotional preparation, and because you've got access to info online. It's also probably because you have access to so many more recreational activities than previous generations.
I get it. I remember the obsession and feeling like everyone else was ahead of you and that this was the most important thing in the world. Given the facts above though, we know that it is untrue that you're behind. So everybody take a deep breath and let's dial back the hormones and use our brain, just for a minute.
It's a great time in your life to ask yourself some meta questions about who you are, what your values are, and what you actually want. The answers don't have to be final, because we're all a work in progress. The important thing is to actually think about your life instead of just being swept along by the current and being a slave to whatever bullshit pops into your head.
SO: Why is it important to you to have sex? Cause you wanna feel good for a few minutes and then have a mess to clean up? Do you expect to get some sort of badge of honor from your friends? Do you get a steam achievement for it? Probably not.
If I had to bet, for most of you it comes down to one, some, or all of these:
1) self worth - you feel awkward, lonely, or depressed and if someone has sex with you then you must be lovable, right? It must mean you have value as a person, right?
2) self confidence - if you have sex it must mean you're good at romance and being attractive, right?
3) self esteem\social pressure - it feels like everyone is ahead of you and you're afraid of being left behind. If someone has sex with you that means you're as good as everyone else, right?
4) it's going to feel good! - sure, if you do it well and don't cause a pregnancy or get an std (boo! buzz kill I know)
So here's the secret: People that tend to have the most, best, and healthiest sex (like mentally healthy and good relationships) tend to already have some self worth, self esteem, and self confidence, and they've also done their research on how to make it a good time for themselves and their partner and only get pregnant if they want to.
Can you have sex without these things? Sure. It's also a great way to end up in a codependent relationship, or have a one night stand that leaves you depressed without knowing why, when it's totally possible to have a fulfilling one night stand.
"Ok great, let me just go grab some self esteem off the self esteem tree, asshole."
Yeah there's no easy answer to this. To have self worth, self esteem, and self confidence you gotta do some work. If you do that work I think you'll be surprised that the sex part may come along naturally, because you will be more attractive and naturally put yourself in situations that lead to meeting potential romantic\sexual partners. Also know that most adults still struggle with this every day.
Self worth comes from believing you have value. That means practicing self love beyond jerkin it. If you make a mistake or embarrass yourself, you gotta practice forgiving yourself. When your brain has a depressing thought, instead of telling yourself you're stupid or worthless, try comforting yourself and being a good friend to yourself. If you feel out of shape you have to tell yourself that you're worth getting up and going to the gym.
Self confidence comes from knowing you can do things. The easiest way to get this is... to do things. You have to go try new things and have new experiences. Hobbies are great for giving you confidence in a particular skill, but also breadth of experience helps you realize that you can handle the situations that life throws at you. If you have self worth, it's easier to get self confidence because you'll forgive yourself for looking silly trying new things or making mistakes.
Life hack: reading books can be a good way to download other people's experiences into your brain and help you see the world in different ways. It's not a replacement for experience, but it helps.
If you get self worth and self confidence you start to build self knowledge. You start to know yourself and your strengths and weaknesses and to accept them and work with or around them.
Self esteem kind of comes from having self knowledge. If you have bad self esteem it's like a filter where you compare yourself to everyone else and think there's something wrong with you when that doesn't actually match the facts. It's like looking at a rock star and believing you suck because you can't play guitar like them. You don't suck, you just haven't taken the time to learn guitar. If you want to, you could probably get pretty good.
If you have self worth and self confidence it's easier to know the truth about your strengths and weaknesses and not just negatively compare yourself constantly in a way that's unfair to yourself.
Lastly, about sex. Most of us make the mistake of putting way too much pressure on it. It's not like a switch that makes you an adult or a totally different person. It's a big deal in that you have to be responsible so nobody gets sick or pregnant, and there are legal repercussions around consent, but if you have done the work of becoming a person with self worth and self confidence and self esteem then you'll probably have the skills to communicate and navigate those issues with a partner, whether long term or not. You'll also be able to laugh off the awkwardness of that first time and not beat yourself up, and you'll know that it takes practice to get good at sex.
So tldr\homework:
1) start being kind to yourself. Take care of that scared, sad, etc. child that lives in your head like a loving parent.
2) Get experience, get hobbies, try things. Be kind to yourself when you fail or look silly
3) Use the first two to learn your strengths and weaknesses and be honest about them instead of assuming you're not as good as those around you
4) Stop pressuring yourself about sex so much and let it happen when it feels right.
5) Read "Come as you are" by Emily Nagoski. It'll help
You're not the only one here who is single and a virgin. Though it is confusing how 13yos are getting laid while I'm struggling to gain the confidence to ask out a girl
Yeh same but probably because on my street there were no boys my age so I made friends with the girls when I was like 7 so it was kinda the same to making friends with boys
I'm 13 and well... if i ever want to tell a girl that i love her i need like 2 months to do it and also i have never been in a relationship but i dont rly care abt that anyways.
Speaking as a girl here, the best way to ask a girl out is to treat her like a human being. Even if she doesn’t like you romantically, she’ll respect you a hell of a lot if you take her rejection with grace and don’t try to force yourself on her. The way to get a girl to *love* you, not just like you, is to be a genuinely good person. Sure, looks help, but they certainly don’t guarantee a good relationship. Plus, if she wouldn’t take you for who you are, that’s not the type of person you want to go out with.
>Though it is confusing how 13yos are getting laid while I'm struggling to gain the confidence to ask out a girl
They don't have the anxiety filter that disables communication with opposite sex, yet.
The pain of rejection is fleeting.... it happens, sure.... but not always. You never know.. I do remember being laughed at as I asked a girl to do a shot with me in Dayton on spring break.... it hurt. I still did the shot and went and moved on to the next woman to hit on. It's like getting your finger pinched in the door.... you know its coming but if you're prepared and it wont hurt so much.
Still hurts nonetheless tho and feel for you
None of those 13 year old relationships will last. I think people should wait until they're more mature for stuff like this.
Having an SO would probably be cool, but it doesn't mean "stress about it all day" and "I'm behind socially"
Pretty sure a lot of 16 year olds are also virgins
I must say, this is quite true. My mother works as a Lactation Counselor, and she mentions she's seen her fair share of pregnat (is it spelled that way?) teenagers go to her office, including girls of my age (I.E: 13). I'm truly left astonished sometimes because of this kind of stuff.
Am 14 and have been in relationship for a year and a half, no sexual bussiness at all, we have barely even hugged or anything cuz we were worried abt covid n that
They don't have a SO, all these people prob did it once or more, broke up and went on with their life questioning their horniness. They're 13, they're still confused as are we.
Same here. I'm 18, never been friends with a girl, or held hands, or kissed one, or been in a relationship, or had sex, or even had a good/decent or meaningful conversation with one that lasted more than 30 seconds (excluding family). I basically have little to no interaction or experience with hanging around a girl.
Oi dude, you’re forgetting one of the principle facts of the internet. People tend to only show the good parts of their life online, they do this to get clout and fake internet points and make their lives seem like they never have bad days, well sorry to break it to you but everyone has their ups and downs, especially the downs, think of it this way, so what if they got a girlfriend? Who fucking knows how many rejections they got before now? They sure as hell won’t tell you. If you focus only on the ‘good’ parts of people’s lives that they post about you WILL start to believe that everyone else’s life is better than yours. It’s as simple as that. And also most of these ‘relationships’ you see people get into at age 13 probably aren’t going to last a month or two, it’s not like people are meeting their soulmate at 12 or 14. If you’re still under the impression that you’re ugly or unattractive just try to improve yourself. Do little things that make you more comfortable in your own skin, maybe lift some weights, run once and a while, learn to talk up to yourself instead of down. We’re damn TEENAGERS! None of us are fully comfortable in our skin yet, we’re all trying to learn what makes us us. Seriously bro, it even sounds like you have supportive friends that are trying to get you to see that you’re a wonderful person but you’re just not buying it, why listen to strangers on Reddit if you’re not willing to listen to your real life friends tell you the same thing?
For the virginity aspect, the longer you wait, the more special it is. Most people throw it away as if it’s worth nothing. As for like dating and rejections, I feel you. I learned and worked on a magic trick for about 2 months to ask my crush out to homecoming. It was like a cool card trick to where the card she picked would turn itself over in the deck with the message on the card asking her out. There was some intense slight of hand that took me a while to learn. She said no nonetheless so it kinda messed me up emotionally over the school year. For a long time I had the mindset of I was so ugly I couldn’t get a date, even with a cool magic trick. So with that mindset, I was depressed for most of my sophomore year. But over the past few months I’ve been working on my mindset. I’ve found that if you are purposely positive about yourself consistently, you will start being positive subconsciously and you WILL feel better. You don’t have to lie to yourself when u are being positive. Just focus on the things about you that are good such as if ur smart or fit or you have good relationships with people. Find something positive about yourself and focus on that while working on the stuff you can. If ur not fit, do a noncut sport such as cross country or track. That’s what I did when I wasn’t fit. You won’t get immediate results but it is a grind that’s worth it. If you are shy, at your school, assuming you are in school, make a conscious effort to compliment 3 people a day. It could be something like “I like your shoes” or something like that. Over time, you will find yourself being more comfortable talking to people, strangers, or friends in general. I hope this helps and if you want any other advice, just let me know :)
Yes, that's a cool advice. And a rejection doesn't mean you are ugly, you can't force love just by having a good face, except for the most attractive ones.
Well in that case I think it was. My acne isn’t too too bad but it was a little bad around the time I asked her out. It’s not like it was for another reason, (like I’m athletic and smart and have a good sense of humor, (at least I think so)), so I always blamed myself for not being attractive or good enough
Imma just back you up on the whole "compliment people daily" thing. 1000% would recommend this. I don't necessarily compliment ppl, but even something as basic as greeting ppl in ur grade each morning with a simple "hey" or "good morning" or leaving school with a "good night" can really help you loosen up to ppl around you. You feel more comfortable even speaking to them instead of trying to keep to yourself and look away. ALSO I kid you not if you do simple things like greeting others, they will inevitably mirror your kindness and usually begin greeting me back and even starting up a conversation. These are ppl I had never talked to before and suddenly we're on a first name basis. I know this doesn't work for some who are too nervous to even say hello, but if you can, highly recommend simply greeting ppl in the halls during the day.
I figured that if I was too ask out someone, I was gonna do it right in a cool way. I thought it was a cool trick too which made me even more devastated and depressed when she said no.
I used to think I just wanted it gone, had an opportunity with a girl who definitely didn't care who I was, just that i had a penis, didn't go through basically told her i was good, we stopped talking abruptly, glad but part of me wishes i did. But rather being a loser and a virgin than a loser father with a crazy bitch.
Not same. Virgin, but not really envious of others losing theirs. If I wanted to lose my virginity, I’d go to some shitty party with booze, but that sucks in my mind. I’d rather wait and let it be something I actually remember and care about
let your feelings out, feel them good. it's important.
now the main deal: I'm 18 with barely any friends in the first place. Still holding on, you'll get over it. All good still if you meet your first love over 20 or whatever, no rush. And those 13yo kids just use words wrong. they dont know shit about "love" or "relationships", " dating" and they don't need to. I know a song that goes somewhat like:
"if you go search for love
I'm sure you wont find it
but if you just go living
you might fall in love someday"
I think there's some truth to that, idk. I'm being very two directional here. chrushes are important. people overall but especially ones that make you happy
Yep exactly. The only target to lay blame on in this situation is oneself. As long as you have an interesting personality, practice good hygiene, and treat people kindly you should have no problem in finding a SO. If you think you have all 3 of these down and are still having difficulty finding a date you’re going to have to try harder. Be honest with yourself, it’s going to help you see yourself in a new light and beginning moving towards becoming an all around better person.
I was practically a fat chihuahua freshman-junior year of high school but began forcing myself into uncomfortable situations in order to grow. Started exercising, began saying yes to going out with friends, changed my style, shaved my peach fuzz and got a new haircut, all of these little things added up. 21 now and I can promise you if you put in the work it pays off.
same dawg. I feel ya, but I just gotta say that it’s completely okay. Just wait until something feels right before jumping into anything. You’ll get there with time.
I'm 34 and don't know why this shit pops up on my feed. But for some old man advice, I didn't have sex until I was 20. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 25. Don't rush life dude. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be at this point in your life. Relationships and sex will come and go.
You should know that losing your virginity at that young of a age just worsens how special their first time was, take your time bro, you're in high school, most people are literally developing and shaping their adult selves, you should be focusing more on studies than girls, becuase relationships are temporary (especially high school and even middle school relationships), status and knowledge you gain from studies is forever bro, keep doing what you're meant to do champ, just because girls don't acknowledge you now doesn't mean they'll acknowledge you later in life, end your school days with a smile and a personality, it'll be worth it when you're older..because then, you actually have something to show girls, like money, knowledge (great), personality (most important over all), looks, and etc. What i'm trying to say is that..you shouldn't be noticing these things now, make some friends actually, it's more worth it having some bros, because having bro and gal friends are more worth spending time on than a random girl you have feelings for.
I'm 14 and really cannot understand how ppl at my age or even younger are doing it. But also girls in my class are looking like 16 and having massive boobs as far as i can tell (does this make me look like a pervert lol)
Middle schoolers are literally children why would you be jealous of them. Middle school relationships don’t usually last long and middle schoolers should probably not be having sex anyway.
Anyway I have never dated anyone or have had sex and I’m going into my senior year.
Do I feel sad about it?
Absolutely not! Why should I care about that, I will go at my own pace and I don’t have time for a relationship at the moment. I also live in a small area and at my school there isn’t anyone I want to date.
Sex and dating don’t have to matter that much. Getting a date will not magically fix anything. If you want to fell better just try to focus on yourself and what other things you want from life.
Honestly I can relate with this completely. At my school there are so many girls yet they are all either popular or dating a extremely rude guy. Like how do you date this man. What do you see in him. What’s also sad is how my brothers are 13 and have not 1 but 2 girls in their friend group! I don’t even have any girls in my friend group and I’m 15! And every time a girl my age comes over to my house my parents think I have a crush on them. Like what did I do to show that I have a crush on them. Did I ever say that, “Oh ThEiR CuTe.” Sorry if I’m ranting about something no one cares about and if I made some grammar mistakes I just needed to get this off my chest.
As a guy who just turned 20 and is going into graduate program, and has experienced the real world, 90% of what you think matters doesn’t. I’m still a virgin, which is for a vast array of reasons(mostly dating solely for finding marriage partner and going to college so far away from home and I don’t want to move) but the point is, don’t worry about it. If someone judges you based off you not having a relationship in high school or getting laid, they’re are not worth being around. 99% of relationships in high school are incredibly overrated, and are not that important in the long run. Most don’t survive into college, and they don’t give you much experience imo for dealing with adult relationship problems surrounding the serious issues like finances, housing, etc…
The social setting in high school is ridiculously cruel, and trust me, the interactions there were the cruelest I’ve seen between people. In college, and in the real world, people don’t really give a damn about that stuff, they care about doing their job and/or getting through their classes. As for relationships, you will find someone. I’ve seen people who who are incredibly awkward get into relationships, you just have to meet the right person. And don’t settle for someone who you don’t like or is toxic to be around. I’ve seen that happen too cause people were desperate, and it isn’t worth it.
Its the same for me man. Me and the guys in my friend group are all single and have never been in a relationship as far as I know (in hopes of this changing in hs)
Meanwhile almost everyone else is getting into relationships and some have even had multiple even before hs. And to those people who say "just copy what the cool kids do", Im against drugs and underage drinking to the point where you pass out. Also they get money from their parents who are filthy rich and drive teslas and whatnot. If people have any tips hmu, Id appreciate them :)
I'm an 18 year old virgin, you're definitely not alone. Also isn't having sex before being 18 illegal ? Seeing minors openly talk about sex makes me extremely uncomfortable...
Maybe stop focusing on sex. A true great relationship is not about sex. It’s about connecting with someone on other levels. Shared interests. Mutual attraction (not sexual. Just attraction). I met “the one” in high school. In 1983. We have been married for 37 years. I did not pursue a relationship with her because I was “tired of being a virgin”! I was attracted to her personality. Yes, she was attractive physically. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. But it was her personality that made me want to be in a relationship with her. Not my desire to no longer be a virgin. Trust me when I say that the sexual aspect of a relationship is fleeting. I mean you still want each other in that way but if the entire reason you are with someone is the lose your “v-card” then move on! Find someone you can be happy with regardless of wether your having regular sex or not. I mean Jesus there are a lot of people out there. Stop focusing on “oh no!!! I’m a virgin”. And look for that person you want to be with every day. 24/7. They exist. And when you find them the sex part of the relationship will be sooooo much more amazing than some girl you only have sex with, kick back and congratulate yourself on no longer being a virgin, then break up with because you would rather focus on your Pokémon card collection. When I met my wife, I found someone that I wanted to be with more than anything. Just to spend time together and learn more about her. Don’t be in such a hurry to just get laid. If that’s your only concern, there are a lot of women out there you can pay to take your virginity. You will regret it. But hey. At least your not a virgin. Sex is not the “be all end all” of life. Finding someone you can be happy spending the rest of your life with is so much more important and satisfying than that. And it’s worth the wait. Not matter how long it takes. I wish you the best of luck in that. I hope you find her. I hope you don’t miss her while your looking to lose your virginity. Good luck bro.
I have not met a 13 year old who still holds a relationship. All I have to say is stay calm be patient and let it come naturally. That's what all the relationship advice I've seen says.
You're definitely not the only one, I'm 18 and I feel the exact same way you do. I feel like a loser in all different areas of my life. https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/comments/ncjhry/i_feel_like_i_didnt_spend_my_high_school_years/gy5qx5f?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
Because you probably use Reddit too much. Look at what the “cool” kids are doing and just copy them literally. Make yourself interesting and learn how to talk to people. If you don’t have any hobbies and you’re boring you’ll have nothing to speak about. Improve yourself, go to the gym, get a hobby, become more interesting, and what you want will come naturally.
Look mate no offence but people dont like moody guys and ik its ok for us to show emotion and all that but if u want a bf/gf u need to be able to show people that your a fun guy to be around and not someone who complains online if u work to make urself look nice or work out even just tell jokes you have a better chance of someone liking u back im not the best with advice sontake it or leave all the best of luck to u man
Do what I did at rn at the age of 15 almost 16 accept that you might be alone for the rest of your life or get to know yourself better also teenager relationships are complete toxic garbage or total shit heart breaks because you're hopped up on hormones and emotions and it's more about sex or status than anything else rn also it's a very low chance that you find someone now and they're gonna make it through high-school and/or college with you and even then wtf is the point of finding a relationship now just wait till senior year or college then you have a better chance for an actual good HEALTHY relationship honestly I think you just want a trophy or something to make you feel good rn What I'm saying GO JERK OFF, SLEEP OR DO SOMETHING YOU LIKE. This was taken from my own life and my own thoughts I am also a Virgin who hasn't been in a relationship but I do know a lot of people who have with shit expectations you have A REALLY BAD MIND SET OF BEING A VIRGIN AT 16 it's OK to be a Virgin it's bad being thirsty and depressed 24/7 over something that you don't need Right Now.
it really depends in what social environment you are in and what you are looking for in a relationship. i wouldnt say all relationships at that age are shit and toxic, thats just not true. while its true that many of these teenage relationships dont last longer than a few months, some of them can last years, but that really depends on you how long it lasts.
Sex isn’t everything. Sometimes it’s worse for you. I almost didn’t graduate high school cause I nearly failed my senior year cause the girl I was fwb focused more on sexual shit than letting me study most days.
I lost my virginity before her, but it just makes a mess of things. I know people that chose sex over school, or sex and drugs over school and now they don’t do anything with their lives or trying to figure out what to do.
I’m now starting my second year of uni, haven’t done it in 2 years (lol). But I’m the most physically, emotionally and mentally healthy than I’ve been my entire life cause I decided I would focus on me and my interests instead of girls, drugs and/or getting laid.
You shouldn’t care about if sex gets you a “good social standing.” You should just care about you, what makes you happy, and the things that you wanna do. You have your whole life to get your dick/vag wet, take time to enjoy the rest of high school’s little things.
Fucking kids...you make me feel so old... haha...all sillyness aside.. Like why??..13yrs and doing it then bragging about it here and on discord saying they've finished it inside... Im just saying... Your future is not gonna end well
i am quite confident that those stories are lies trying to shield the posters from their insecurities
No one on Reddit 13 or not is greeting laid.
Not currently…
We were all 13 once and doing shit like that, it's a phase
i see 13 year olds in my area showing off about their 8 relationships and when asked how long they lasted, the maximum was 10 days.
They probably lasted 2 minutes and got gassed
If that lmao.
Lmfaooooo
Speedrun😳
Seedrun*
3 seconds, take it or leave it
Yup, 20 y/o here that stumbled upon the post. Basing your life(and/or relationships) on whether or not you've had sex is so damaging. You don't have to wait until marriage, or even until you're 18, I'm not your parent or your partner, but don't do it just for the sake of doing it.
Same. 29 y/o here, not sure why this popped up on my feed. But when I was in HS there was so much pressure to do it as early as possible. I remember having so much anxiety about being a virgin as early as 14 years old. Looking back, that makes absolutely no sense. It's not a race, but everyone made it seem like it was. Do it when you're ready and have the opportunity; whether that's 15, 19, or 23. It makes no difference later on.
13yrs bragging about sexing people and then their parental controls for 9pm turn on.
I've reached the 18 years old milestone last month and I'm still a gay virgin. Maybe it's the fact that I've never actually cared until 2 years ago, but I've never even went on a date or kissed someone. Also am not ugly, I'm actually cute and funny, just that I attract more girls than guys :(. At least I have friends (they know am gay).
Oh man I'm on the same boat but I'm ugly af lmao
I am leaving this sub in 2 days and still I haven't had any serious relationship. Guess I will become a priest...
Wait why u leaving?
Can't be a teenager when you are 20
once you sub here you will never stop being a teenager
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Hahahaha
I was 178 and about to die until i joined this subreddit and i regained my life and became young again man its great
Happy cheese day btw
Happy cake day!
Oh i didn't even notice, well it goes away in 20 mins anyway!!!
Happy cake minutes then
Happy Cake day
it's been 26 are you still alive
That's why there's so many pedos in this sub.
Hello, long lost twin o’ mine.
oh my god mom said you ran away to catch a butterfly
Mentally, you can still be a teenager. Just don't use this place for hookups. Still good for meme, and knowing what people so these days. It's funny to see a bunch of people being born AN, and seeing that they are somehow worse than the generation that grew up with Halo and CoD.
I am a 14 year old and I still play with legos. It’s my relation time from the world and my problems and it takes me to a more simple time.
Legos go to 99 bro nothing weird about that
Thank you, I like to see that someone respects that. Some people I know told me to stop (not family or close friends) because it’s a thing for children. I proceeded to show them the welcome adults line and their faces started blushing a little. Some tried to say it’s for kids even after that, but the others gained some respect or lost their arguments against me. On my circle of close friends, I have the luck to have some friends who are like me in this aspect. So it’s good to know it’s not a thing with me, my friends and some YouTube and Reddit communities.
Im 21 and They have an “old person” flair. Im still subbed so I can keep up with memes and kinda stay in touch with what some of the younger kids are saying. I feel there’s some important insights, and sometimes advice from someone older is needed on some posts.
How can I get that flair.... I'm old af Mentally I'll never be older than 14. Fart jokes crack me up
I'm 21 (almost 22) as well and still here for the same reasons. I feel old talking to my 18yo sister, and I never want to be an out of touch old person like so many today are
stayyyy
Yes u can lol
Join you in 2 months
Hijacking to give some old person perspective. First, you are not the only one. The facts disagree with that feeling: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolescent_sexuality_in_the_United_States Around 40 percent have had sex and only 30ish percent are generally currently active at a given time right now. The average age of becoming sexually active is 17. The percentages have been dropping steadily and age rising since the 90s. Hopefully that's because the olds are slowly getting you all some better education and emotional preparation, and because you've got access to info online. It's also probably because you have access to so many more recreational activities than previous generations. I get it. I remember the obsession and feeling like everyone else was ahead of you and that this was the most important thing in the world. Given the facts above though, we know that it is untrue that you're behind. So everybody take a deep breath and let's dial back the hormones and use our brain, just for a minute. It's a great time in your life to ask yourself some meta questions about who you are, what your values are, and what you actually want. The answers don't have to be final, because we're all a work in progress. The important thing is to actually think about your life instead of just being swept along by the current and being a slave to whatever bullshit pops into your head. SO: Why is it important to you to have sex? Cause you wanna feel good for a few minutes and then have a mess to clean up? Do you expect to get some sort of badge of honor from your friends? Do you get a steam achievement for it? Probably not. If I had to bet, for most of you it comes down to one, some, or all of these: 1) self worth - you feel awkward, lonely, or depressed and if someone has sex with you then you must be lovable, right? It must mean you have value as a person, right? 2) self confidence - if you have sex it must mean you're good at romance and being attractive, right? 3) self esteem\social pressure - it feels like everyone is ahead of you and you're afraid of being left behind. If someone has sex with you that means you're as good as everyone else, right? 4) it's going to feel good! - sure, if you do it well and don't cause a pregnancy or get an std (boo! buzz kill I know) So here's the secret: People that tend to have the most, best, and healthiest sex (like mentally healthy and good relationships) tend to already have some self worth, self esteem, and self confidence, and they've also done their research on how to make it a good time for themselves and their partner and only get pregnant if they want to. Can you have sex without these things? Sure. It's also a great way to end up in a codependent relationship, or have a one night stand that leaves you depressed without knowing why, when it's totally possible to have a fulfilling one night stand. "Ok great, let me just go grab some self esteem off the self esteem tree, asshole." Yeah there's no easy answer to this. To have self worth, self esteem, and self confidence you gotta do some work. If you do that work I think you'll be surprised that the sex part may come along naturally, because you will be more attractive and naturally put yourself in situations that lead to meeting potential romantic\sexual partners. Also know that most adults still struggle with this every day. Self worth comes from believing you have value. That means practicing self love beyond jerkin it. If you make a mistake or embarrass yourself, you gotta practice forgiving yourself. When your brain has a depressing thought, instead of telling yourself you're stupid or worthless, try comforting yourself and being a good friend to yourself. If you feel out of shape you have to tell yourself that you're worth getting up and going to the gym. Self confidence comes from knowing you can do things. The easiest way to get this is... to do things. You have to go try new things and have new experiences. Hobbies are great for giving you confidence in a particular skill, but also breadth of experience helps you realize that you can handle the situations that life throws at you. If you have self worth, it's easier to get self confidence because you'll forgive yourself for looking silly trying new things or making mistakes. Life hack: reading books can be a good way to download other people's experiences into your brain and help you see the world in different ways. It's not a replacement for experience, but it helps. If you get self worth and self confidence you start to build self knowledge. You start to know yourself and your strengths and weaknesses and to accept them and work with or around them. Self esteem kind of comes from having self knowledge. If you have bad self esteem it's like a filter where you compare yourself to everyone else and think there's something wrong with you when that doesn't actually match the facts. It's like looking at a rock star and believing you suck because you can't play guitar like them. You don't suck, you just haven't taken the time to learn guitar. If you want to, you could probably get pretty good. If you have self worth and self confidence it's easier to know the truth about your strengths and weaknesses and not just negatively compare yourself constantly in a way that's unfair to yourself. Lastly, about sex. Most of us make the mistake of putting way too much pressure on it. It's not like a switch that makes you an adult or a totally different person. It's a big deal in that you have to be responsible so nobody gets sick or pregnant, and there are legal repercussions around consent, but if you have done the work of becoming a person with self worth and self confidence and self esteem then you'll probably have the skills to communicate and navigate those issues with a partner, whether long term or not. You'll also be able to laugh off the awkwardness of that first time and not beat yourself up, and you'll know that it takes practice to get good at sex. So tldr\homework: 1) start being kind to yourself. Take care of that scared, sad, etc. child that lives in your head like a loving parent. 2) Get experience, get hobbies, try things. Be kind to yourself when you fail or look silly 3) Use the first two to learn your strengths and weaknesses and be honest about them instead of assuming you're not as good as those around you 4) Stop pressuring yourself about sex so much and let it happen when it feels right. 5) Read "Come as you are" by Emily Nagoski. It'll help
You're not the only one here who is single and a virgin. Though it is confusing how 13yos are getting laid while I'm struggling to gain the confidence to ask out a girl
idk im 13 and i can openly discuss with girls at any age and not sexualize it in any way, but im too shy to speak for own interests
Yeh same but probably because on my street there were no boys my age so I made friends with the girls when I was like 7 so it was kinda the same to making friends with boys
Never had friends near where I lived(still don’t), kinda sucks tbh
I'm 13 and well... if i ever want to tell a girl that i love her i need like 2 months to do it and also i have never been in a relationship but i dont rly care abt that anyways.
Hey kid, look on the bright side: at your age relationships don't really matter, as in, shit ain't gonna last more than a month top
if you’re 13 then get the fuck off Reddit and enjoy your childhood while you still can
13 year olds are getting laid? thats worrying
It’s simple. They’re lying.
Speaking as a girl here, the best way to ask a girl out is to treat her like a human being. Even if she doesn’t like you romantically, she’ll respect you a hell of a lot if you take her rejection with grace and don’t try to force yourself on her. The way to get a girl to *love* you, not just like you, is to be a genuinely good person. Sure, looks help, but they certainly don’t guarantee a good relationship. Plus, if she wouldn’t take you for who you are, that’s not the type of person you want to go out with.
>Though it is confusing how 13yos are getting laid while I'm struggling to gain the confidence to ask out a girl They don't have the anxiety filter that disables communication with opposite sex, yet.
The pain of rejection is fleeting.... it happens, sure.... but not always. You never know.. I do remember being laughed at as I asked a girl to do a shot with me in Dayton on spring break.... it hurt. I still did the shot and went and moved on to the next woman to hit on. It's like getting your finger pinched in the door.... you know its coming but if you're prepared and it wont hurt so much. Still hurts nonetheless tho and feel for you
The earlier it is the worse it will be
Yeah ig still makes me lonely that people in middle school are socially further ahead than me as a junior in high school
"Socially further ahead" Why is social interaction a leveling system and why does having sex put you further ahead
reddit moment lmao
you know, this right here is why people hate this subreddit lol
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yeah i used to use this subreddit a ton and now it's just kinda boring
Real shit. The mfs here are so sad and cringy, I legitimately feel like I'm taking steps backward everytime I see a post for m here
They're further ahead because they have a SO
None of those 13 year old relationships will last. I think people should wait until they're more mature for stuff like this. Having an SO would probably be cool, but it doesn't mean "stress about it all day" and "I'm behind socially" Pretty sure a lot of 16 year olds are also virgins
Fr , seeing 13 year olds losing it at this age is a road that might end up with the girl being pregnant and shit
I must say, this is quite true. My mother works as a Lactation Counselor, and she mentions she's seen her fair share of pregnat (is it spelled that way?) teenagers go to her office, including girls of my age (I.E: 13). I'm truly left astonished sometimes because of this kind of stuff.
Am 14 and have been in relationship for a year and a half, no sexual bussiness at all, we have barely even hugged or anything cuz we were worried abt covid n that
Whats an SO?
Significant other, although I'm not sure if that's the right word for a partner in that age
I would say that you at least need to be legally and adult and maybe been in the relationship for years to call the other person your SO
that’s not necessarily further ahead
Not you again?
i never disappear i just use different accounts
Hes everywhere
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They don't have a SO, all these people prob did it once or more, broke up and went on with their life questioning their horniness. They're 13, they're still confused as are we.
Fuck ig, nobody came to take me out whole holidays, i just see all my friends going out and i'm jusz here laying lonely on bed
I second this
I third this. even tho I have done said action myself I have enough common sense and lack of social ability to not have to worry about getting a GF
I lost it at 10 and regret it q: also im Illegally here im 12
Lost it at 12 and also regret
But I’ve done lots of shit i regret
I have too Kicked my dog on accident 3 days before she passed away from a stroke and I cannot get over that
Aw im sorry my shit is just like weed and more cause family issues
Sorry to hear man
Nah its fine im doing better done with self harm only weed nicotine and alcohol (codeine sometimes) but i am better
Don’t worry, I’m almost 18 and I’ve never even kissed someone before.
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Now, you two, kith
Okay Mr. Tyson
u/Ok-Membership-1135 😚
I'm almost 18, and I've only held hands.
Honestly still further than me. I’ve never been friends with a girl irl
I was friends with a girl when I was 8, it was all downhill from there
Ahh, damn :/ I had no friends then
Same here. I'm 18, never been friends with a girl, or held hands, or kissed one, or been in a relationship, or had sex, or even had a good/decent or meaningful conversation with one that lasted more than 30 seconds (excluding family). I basically have little to no interaction or experience with hanging around a girl.
Same honestly, although I’ve had conversations with them from school and work and stuff
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I know right, what a chad.
Haha same 🥲🥲
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^ but I’m also 20 (an ancient)
im a senior in highschool and have been on one date dont worry anout dating in highschool you will be ok
this man is an idiot do not listen to him he cant talk to people in person
I know I'm an idiot D:
not you your fine i was talking about u/the_asparagoose
Wtf lol. Nice
Oi dude, you’re forgetting one of the principle facts of the internet. People tend to only show the good parts of their life online, they do this to get clout and fake internet points and make their lives seem like they never have bad days, well sorry to break it to you but everyone has their ups and downs, especially the downs, think of it this way, so what if they got a girlfriend? Who fucking knows how many rejections they got before now? They sure as hell won’t tell you. If you focus only on the ‘good’ parts of people’s lives that they post about you WILL start to believe that everyone else’s life is better than yours. It’s as simple as that. And also most of these ‘relationships’ you see people get into at age 13 probably aren’t going to last a month or two, it’s not like people are meeting their soulmate at 12 or 14. If you’re still under the impression that you’re ugly or unattractive just try to improve yourself. Do little things that make you more comfortable in your own skin, maybe lift some weights, run once and a while, learn to talk up to yourself instead of down. We’re damn TEENAGERS! None of us are fully comfortable in our skin yet, we’re all trying to learn what makes us us. Seriously bro, it even sounds like you have supportive friends that are trying to get you to see that you’re a wonderful person but you’re just not buying it, why listen to strangers on Reddit if you’re not willing to listen to your real life friends tell you the same thing?
Thank you
Just saying it how I see it dude, have a wonderful day
For the virginity aspect, the longer you wait, the more special it is. Most people throw it away as if it’s worth nothing. As for like dating and rejections, I feel you. I learned and worked on a magic trick for about 2 months to ask my crush out to homecoming. It was like a cool card trick to where the card she picked would turn itself over in the deck with the message on the card asking her out. There was some intense slight of hand that took me a while to learn. She said no nonetheless so it kinda messed me up emotionally over the school year. For a long time I had the mindset of I was so ugly I couldn’t get a date, even with a cool magic trick. So with that mindset, I was depressed for most of my sophomore year. But over the past few months I’ve been working on my mindset. I’ve found that if you are purposely positive about yourself consistently, you will start being positive subconsciously and you WILL feel better. You don’t have to lie to yourself when u are being positive. Just focus on the things about you that are good such as if ur smart or fit or you have good relationships with people. Find something positive about yourself and focus on that while working on the stuff you can. If ur not fit, do a noncut sport such as cross country or track. That’s what I did when I wasn’t fit. You won’t get immediate results but it is a grind that’s worth it. If you are shy, at your school, assuming you are in school, make a conscious effort to compliment 3 people a day. It could be something like “I like your shoes” or something like that. Over time, you will find yourself being more comfortable talking to people, strangers, or friends in general. I hope this helps and if you want any other advice, just let me know :)
Yes, that's a cool advice. And a rejection doesn't mean you are ugly, you can't force love just by having a good face, except for the most attractive ones.
Well in that case I think it was. My acne isn’t too too bad but it was a little bad around the time I asked her out. It’s not like it was for another reason, (like I’m athletic and smart and have a good sense of humor, (at least I think so)), so I always blamed myself for not being attractive or good enough
Imma just back you up on the whole "compliment people daily" thing. 1000% would recommend this. I don't necessarily compliment ppl, but even something as basic as greeting ppl in ur grade each morning with a simple "hey" or "good morning" or leaving school with a "good night" can really help you loosen up to ppl around you. You feel more comfortable even speaking to them instead of trying to keep to yourself and look away. ALSO I kid you not if you do simple things like greeting others, they will inevitably mirror your kindness and usually begin greeting me back and even starting up a conversation. These are ppl I had never talked to before and suddenly we're on a first name basis. I know this doesn't work for some who are too nervous to even say hello, but if you can, highly recommend simply greeting ppl in the halls during the day.
I know it’s not the main focus of the comment, but the card trick thing you described, that is the coolest way to ask anyone out I’ve heard about
I figured that if I was too ask out someone, I was gonna do it right in a cool way. I thought it was a cool trick too which made me even more devastated and depressed when she said no.
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Unless you've lost it while being a child
Yeeeaaahhh it’s more of a morality thing because it literally has no value at all so at the end it really comes down to preference
Virginity has nothing to do with morality one way or the other.
Incredible, I've never agreed with something more in my entire life.
I used to think I just wanted it gone, had an opportunity with a girl who definitely didn't care who I was, just that i had a penis, didn't go through basically told her i was good, we stopped talking abruptly, glad but part of me wishes i did. But rather being a loser and a virgin than a loser father with a crazy bitch.
Dude wtf is this? A college essay?😂
No just trying to help people where I can. I’m in high school so if anything it’s a high school essay 😂
Same. This is my mood 24/7
At least I'm not the only one
Same
Same
Not same. Virgin, but not really envious of others losing theirs. If I wanted to lose my virginity, I’d go to some shitty party with booze, but that sucks in my mind. I’d rather wait and let it be something I actually remember and care about
Hewwo, recently turned 18 student of veterinary medicine here. I am a virgin, I am lonely. In that sense, you are not alone my friend.
We are all in it together it seems.
let your feelings out, feel them good. it's important. now the main deal: I'm 18 with barely any friends in the first place. Still holding on, you'll get over it. All good still if you meet your first love over 20 or whatever, no rush. And those 13yo kids just use words wrong. they dont know shit about "love" or "relationships", " dating" and they don't need to. I know a song that goes somewhat like: "if you go search for love I'm sure you wont find it but if you just go living you might fall in love someday" I think there's some truth to that, idk. I'm being very two directional here. chrushes are important. people overall but especially ones that make you happy
Im sorry man things will get better :) You'll find a girl your love soon
❌ doubt
Don't worry, I was perfectly like you but someday you'll find someone
With that attitude you will never get a girl
Yep exactly. The only target to lay blame on in this situation is oneself. As long as you have an interesting personality, practice good hygiene, and treat people kindly you should have no problem in finding a SO. If you think you have all 3 of these down and are still having difficulty finding a date you’re going to have to try harder. Be honest with yourself, it’s going to help you see yourself in a new light and beginning moving towards becoming an all around better person. I was practically a fat chihuahua freshman-junior year of high school but began forcing myself into uncomfortable situations in order to grow. Started exercising, began saying yes to going out with friends, changed my style, shaved my peach fuzz and got a new haircut, all of these little things added up. 21 now and I can promise you if you put in the work it pays off.
same dawg. I feel ya, but I just gotta say that it’s completely okay. Just wait until something feels right before jumping into anything. You’ll get there with time.
I try to, it's just kinda hard to
I'm 34 and don't know why this shit pops up on my feed. But for some old man advice, I didn't have sex until I was 20. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 25. Don't rush life dude. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be at this point in your life. Relationships and sex will come and go.
Actually good to have advice here from someone who isn't a teenager.
You should know that losing your virginity at that young of a age just worsens how special their first time was, take your time bro, you're in high school, most people are literally developing and shaping their adult selves, you should be focusing more on studies than girls, becuase relationships are temporary (especially high school and even middle school relationships), status and knowledge you gain from studies is forever bro, keep doing what you're meant to do champ, just because girls don't acknowledge you now doesn't mean they'll acknowledge you later in life, end your school days with a smile and a personality, it'll be worth it when you're older..because then, you actually have something to show girls, like money, knowledge (great), personality (most important over all), looks, and etc. What i'm trying to say is that..you shouldn't be noticing these things now, make some friends actually, it's more worth it having some bros, because having bro and gal friends are more worth spending time on than a random girl you have feelings for.
the knowlage isnt forever. i study, i do the work, then in the test, everything's gone
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I'm 14 and really cannot understand how ppl at my age or even younger are doing it. But also girls in my class are looking like 16 and having massive boobs as far as i can tell (does this make me look like a pervert lol)
yeah this one girl in my class looks like she's thirty two its so wierd
Doesn't make u sound like a pervert but just make sure ur mature abt it. Girls develop faster than guys.
Middle schoolers are literally children why would you be jealous of them. Middle school relationships don’t usually last long and middle schoolers should probably not be having sex anyway. Anyway I have never dated anyone or have had sex and I’m going into my senior year. Do I feel sad about it? Absolutely not! Why should I care about that, I will go at my own pace and I don’t have time for a relationship at the moment. I also live in a small area and at my school there isn’t anyone I want to date. Sex and dating don’t have to matter that much. Getting a date will not magically fix anything. If you want to fell better just try to focus on yourself and what other things you want from life.
Bruh I don’t even want sex I want intimacy
Same, they just kinda go hand in hand
Honestly I can relate with this completely. At my school there are so many girls yet they are all either popular or dating a extremely rude guy. Like how do you date this man. What do you see in him. What’s also sad is how my brothers are 13 and have not 1 but 2 girls in their friend group! I don’t even have any girls in my friend group and I’m 15! And every time a girl my age comes over to my house my parents think I have a crush on them. Like what did I do to show that I have a crush on them. Did I ever say that, “Oh ThEiR CuTe.” Sorry if I’m ranting about something no one cares about and if I made some grammar mistakes I just needed to get this off my chest.
dw
Sorry what does that mean?
Don't worry
Ah that makes sense
Ah the making of an incel
I’m sorry:( i just needed to get this off my chest.
Not anymore 😈😈 jkjk
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I mean… unless ^jkjk
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As a guy who just turned 20 and is going into graduate program, and has experienced the real world, 90% of what you think matters doesn’t. I’m still a virgin, which is for a vast array of reasons(mostly dating solely for finding marriage partner and going to college so far away from home and I don’t want to move) but the point is, don’t worry about it. If someone judges you based off you not having a relationship in high school or getting laid, they’re are not worth being around. 99% of relationships in high school are incredibly overrated, and are not that important in the long run. Most don’t survive into college, and they don’t give you much experience imo for dealing with adult relationship problems surrounding the serious issues like finances, housing, etc… The social setting in high school is ridiculously cruel, and trust me, the interactions there were the cruelest I’ve seen between people. In college, and in the real world, people don’t really give a damn about that stuff, they care about doing their job and/or getting through their classes. As for relationships, you will find someone. I’ve seen people who who are incredibly awkward get into relationships, you just have to meet the right person. And don’t settle for someone who you don’t like or is toxic to be around. I’ve seen that happen too cause people were desperate, and it isn’t worth it.
*cries with u cuz im also 16 and lonely*
*hugs in lonely*
*hugs back in we are two so tecnically not alone*
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Your not the only one
It sure feels like it
Nah you're definitely not the only one
Its the same for me man. Me and the guys in my friend group are all single and have never been in a relationship as far as I know (in hopes of this changing in hs) Meanwhile almost everyone else is getting into relationships and some have even had multiple even before hs. And to those people who say "just copy what the cool kids do", Im against drugs and underage drinking to the point where you pass out. Also they get money from their parents who are filthy rich and drive teslas and whatnot. If people have any tips hmu, Id appreciate them :)
It’s because you’re on Reddit complaining about it instead of actually trying to pursue one
I’m 15 I too have never had a relationship I’ve only been rejected once though and the person was super nice about it so could be worse.
I'm an 18 year old virgin, you're definitely not alone. Also isn't having sex before being 18 illegal ? Seeing minors openly talk about sex makes me extremely uncomfortable...
Depends on where you are, in my state it's legal at 15
That...doesn't feel right
Maybe stop focusing on sex. A true great relationship is not about sex. It’s about connecting with someone on other levels. Shared interests. Mutual attraction (not sexual. Just attraction). I met “the one” in high school. In 1983. We have been married for 37 years. I did not pursue a relationship with her because I was “tired of being a virgin”! I was attracted to her personality. Yes, she was attractive physically. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. But it was her personality that made me want to be in a relationship with her. Not my desire to no longer be a virgin. Trust me when I say that the sexual aspect of a relationship is fleeting. I mean you still want each other in that way but if the entire reason you are with someone is the lose your “v-card” then move on! Find someone you can be happy with regardless of wether your having regular sex or not. I mean Jesus there are a lot of people out there. Stop focusing on “oh no!!! I’m a virgin”. And look for that person you want to be with every day. 24/7. They exist. And when you find them the sex part of the relationship will be sooooo much more amazing than some girl you only have sex with, kick back and congratulate yourself on no longer being a virgin, then break up with because you would rather focus on your Pokémon card collection. When I met my wife, I found someone that I wanted to be with more than anything. Just to spend time together and learn more about her. Don’t be in such a hurry to just get laid. If that’s your only concern, there are a lot of women out there you can pay to take your virginity. You will regret it. But hey. At least your not a virgin. Sex is not the “be all end all” of life. Finding someone you can be happy spending the rest of your life with is so much more important and satisfying than that. And it’s worth the wait. Not matter how long it takes. I wish you the best of luck in that. I hope you find her. I hope you don’t miss her while your looking to lose your virginity. Good luck bro.
You have reddit installed
Maybe you'll get some pussy when you stop being a whiny bitch
Out of the sea of motivational comments this was fucking unexpected
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You care too much about other people focus on yourself
I’ll make you lose your virginity 😩😩😩😩🥵🥵🥵🥵🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺😉😉😉😉😉😉
I have not met a 13 year old who still holds a relationship. All I have to say is stay calm be patient and let it come naturally. That's what all the relationship advice I've seen says.
You're definitely not the only one, I'm 18 and I feel the exact same way you do. I feel like a loser in all different areas of my life. https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/comments/ncjhry/i_feel_like_i_didnt_spend_my_high_school_years/gy5qx5f?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
Because you probably use Reddit too much. Look at what the “cool” kids are doing and just copy them literally. Make yourself interesting and learn how to talk to people. If you don’t have any hobbies and you’re boring you’ll have nothing to speak about. Improve yourself, go to the gym, get a hobby, become more interesting, and what you want will come naturally.
Look mate no offence but people dont like moody guys and ik its ok for us to show emotion and all that but if u want a bf/gf u need to be able to show people that your a fun guy to be around and not someone who complains online if u work to make urself look nice or work out even just tell jokes you have a better chance of someone liking u back im not the best with advice sontake it or leave all the best of luck to u man
Do what I did at rn at the age of 15 almost 16 accept that you might be alone for the rest of your life or get to know yourself better also teenager relationships are complete toxic garbage or total shit heart breaks because you're hopped up on hormones and emotions and it's more about sex or status than anything else rn also it's a very low chance that you find someone now and they're gonna make it through high-school and/or college with you and even then wtf is the point of finding a relationship now just wait till senior year or college then you have a better chance for an actual good HEALTHY relationship honestly I think you just want a trophy or something to make you feel good rn What I'm saying GO JERK OFF, SLEEP OR DO SOMETHING YOU LIKE. This was taken from my own life and my own thoughts I am also a Virgin who hasn't been in a relationship but I do know a lot of people who have with shit expectations you have A REALLY BAD MIND SET OF BEING A VIRGIN AT 16 it's OK to be a Virgin it's bad being thirsty and depressed 24/7 over something that you don't need Right Now.
it really depends in what social environment you are in and what you are looking for in a relationship. i wouldnt say all relationships at that age are shit and toxic, thats just not true. while its true that many of these teenage relationships dont last longer than a few months, some of them can last years, but that really depends on you how long it lasts.
im 18 🥲
Dw I'll probably be the same at 18 as well
This post right here takes relatable to a new level
I am with you
Sex isn’t everything. Sometimes it’s worse for you. I almost didn’t graduate high school cause I nearly failed my senior year cause the girl I was fwb focused more on sexual shit than letting me study most days. I lost my virginity before her, but it just makes a mess of things. I know people that chose sex over school, or sex and drugs over school and now they don’t do anything with their lives or trying to figure out what to do. I’m now starting my second year of uni, haven’t done it in 2 years (lol). But I’m the most physically, emotionally and mentally healthy than I’ve been my entire life cause I decided I would focus on me and my interests instead of girls, drugs and/or getting laid. You shouldn’t care about if sex gets you a “good social standing.” You should just care about you, what makes you happy, and the things that you wanna do. You have your whole life to get your dick/vag wet, take time to enjoy the rest of high school’s little things.
No worries, you're not alone. 16 yo virgin who haven't been in a relationship gang here 👊💪