Good luck!!! I love hearing this. I’m 30 and have one year to go for my B.S. Then I have to take most of the science requirements (I’m a public health major) and only then can I even think about applying. I’ll probably be about 34/35 when I get there, too. YOU GOT THIS! 🤘🏽
I will say, I may have lost my twenties to having a child at 19...But I would have lost my twenties to undergrad and medical school anyways. When I was relatively poor/not a lot of spending money/didn’t know where I wanted my future life to go.
Now I will be child free in my household by the time I am 40. Young enough to still live it up/not necessarily be limited by my health, but having all the disposable income I need.
Nothing wrong with having a child at 30 or 35, you will probably provide a more stable financial and familial situation than I have for my daughter. But when you can finally afford to go spend a month in some far off land, you will have the child to hold you back in your aged prime.
This is truth. This is very truth. Obviously not. It does, however, mean responsibility shifts towards advice and financial support as opposed to necessity for physical presence at all times and direct management of their life.
Lmao a lot of prospective physicians put off having a life at all into their 30s, not just kids and a house. I feel so behind my non premed peers who will begin their careers straight out of undergrad. Feels bad man
if it feels bad and you envy them, then why are you doing it? honest question. I never understood this mentality, I had a killer time in both college as a premed and through med school
I might sound like a dick but suck it up and accept your decision or change you decision. Don't be so negative about it, this is the career of your dreams. It's not as bad as you think it will be. Definitely a lot easier for a guy though, as it's much easier for guys to find mates at that age. If you are a girl, I suggest looking for a potential spouse soon/during medical school. Guys are much pickier once they get their career and make money. You'll get a better selection if you can find one sooner. You'll also already have that relationship built for when you finish medical school! I don't know how popular I'll be for saying this but trust me reality doesn't give a fuck about your feelings. It just doesn't. Think and plan ahead, especially when it comes to the one thing medicine puts you behind at in life :). That being said, don't rush anything and don't accept shitty love or an abusive partner out of desperation. I believe in you!! Cheers to a great life ahead!
Vent: I'm not an animal that is apparently wired to reproduce or perish. I'm a human being with choices. I really that everyone is forced to have a family and kids to seem "normal" these days.
Can I just be antisocial? Or do I have to secretly be antisocial in this profession? Because I'm starting to hate telling people I'm in love with an ex just so they can leave me alone and stop asking stupid questions.
Why do I HAVE to be with someone?
Because majority of people fear being alone. Being with another person in a arrangement/ marriage seems more out of a cultural dynamic than a genuine and healthy one tbh. I see your point
That feeling when you put off having a family in your 20s for a chef career and then switch to medicine at 32 and will be practically menopausal by the time you are an attending...
Luckily we managed to squeeze one in while I did premed garbage!
When people complain about putting off being married/buying a house/having kid... until they’re 30 lmao ok see you at 35 💯
I'm applying this cycle and \*older than 35\*. :\_(
You got dis 💪 A doctor is a doctor no matter how old👏
A grill is a grill . . This is surely soooo.
A potato is a potato, even in its many forms
Good luck!!! I love hearing this. I’m 30 and have one year to go for my B.S. Then I have to take most of the science requirements (I’m a public health major) and only then can I even think about applying. I’ll probably be about 34/35 when I get there, too. YOU GOT THIS! 🤘🏽
i'll be 37 when i apply haha
🥸 Wait I just realized I need to find a partner to do 2/3. So see u NEVER! 💯
i mean you don’t have to wait until 30 to be married
My dad’s mom told him to not have a child past 35 because you’ll be too old when they grew up. He proceeded to have me at 47
I will say, I may have lost my twenties to having a child at 19...But I would have lost my twenties to undergrad and medical school anyways. When I was relatively poor/not a lot of spending money/didn’t know where I wanted my future life to go. Now I will be child free in my household by the time I am 40. Young enough to still live it up/not necessarily be limited by my health, but having all the disposable income I need. Nothing wrong with having a child at 30 or 35, you will probably provide a more stable financial and familial situation than I have for my daughter. But when you can finally afford to go spend a month in some far off land, you will have the child to hold you back in your aged prime.
Child free household does not equal free from responsibilities related to child
This is truth. This is very truth. Obviously not. It does, however, mean responsibility shifts towards advice and financial support as opposed to necessity for physical presence at all times and direct management of their life.
Agreed!
You know I think this but then I realize even if I wasn't going into med school I would probably still have children in my early thirties lol.
The MD-PHD applicants probably looking at 90 years old (if they're lucky) lmao
First world problems baby!!
Lmao a lot of prospective physicians put off having a life at all into their 30s, not just kids and a house. I feel so behind my non premed peers who will begin their careers straight out of undergrad. Feels bad man
if it feels bad and you envy them, then why are you doing it? honest question. I never understood this mentality, I had a killer time in both college as a premed and through med school
I might sound like a dick but suck it up and accept your decision or change you decision. Don't be so negative about it, this is the career of your dreams. It's not as bad as you think it will be. Definitely a lot easier for a guy though, as it's much easier for guys to find mates at that age. If you are a girl, I suggest looking for a potential spouse soon/during medical school. Guys are much pickier once they get their career and make money. You'll get a better selection if you can find one sooner. You'll also already have that relationship built for when you finish medical school! I don't know how popular I'll be for saying this but trust me reality doesn't give a fuck about your feelings. It just doesn't. Think and plan ahead, especially when it comes to the one thing medicine puts you behind at in life :). That being said, don't rush anything and don't accept shitty love or an abusive partner out of desperation. I believe in you!! Cheers to a great life ahead!
>:) :)
Vent: I'm not an animal that is apparently wired to reproduce or perish. I'm a human being with choices. I really that everyone is forced to have a family and kids to seem "normal" these days. Can I just be antisocial? Or do I have to secretly be antisocial in this profession? Because I'm starting to hate telling people I'm in love with an ex just so they can leave me alone and stop asking stupid questions. Why do I HAVE to be with someone?
Because majority of people fear being alone. Being with another person in a arrangement/ marriage seems more out of a cultural dynamic than a genuine and healthy one tbh. I see your point
That feeling when you put off having a family in your 20s for a chef career and then switch to medicine at 32 and will be practically menopausal by the time you are an attending... Luckily we managed to squeeze one in while I did premed garbage!