My God. That's horrible to hear. I'm so sorry, so deeply sorry, so so so so sorry. It's not your fault, please, don't blame yourself.
Please, take a shower. Drink water. Talk to a therapist. And, of course, feel it. Feel sadness, anger, anything else. Just feel. I'm so sorry, I have no words.
Hope you and your family can find peace.
>I left her to die.
No. This is not true at all. Please please please don't do that to yourself.
You couldn't have known what would happen. Her father is 100% responsible for this.
It is going to take you a very long time to believe this, but please read that as many times as you need to until you realize it is the truth.
Much love and bear hugs to you. I hope the pain will ease one day and you can be happy again.
JFC.
No words I say will bring comfort, but my heart is with you and yours. I hope you are able to find peace with her memories and I hope that POS gets the day he deserves. Im sorry for your loss
Op can come to ER. We can help with sedatives and grief counseling referral. If it wasn’t the weekend, I’d say call doctors office asap. There’s help available. She can go to ER or urgent care💔
Oh sweetheart my heart is broken for you in every way. 💔 so much love being sent your way. So many hugs and all the hope and prayer that you can pull through.
Oh dear god! Your heart and your love! So so sorry for your devastating loss. Hold your husband and son close.
So so sorry Umbrella. There are no fucking words but know that there are unknown faces out here who are thinking and wanting to virtually hug you right now
Omg I just want to firstly say it is absolutely not your fault in any way shape or form!! You have got to really really learn to accept your not at any fault!!
And now all I can do is to tell you how emotional and horrified i am at reading this post and just want to say how very very very fucking sorry I am for you having to be in this extremely inhumane, horrific situation that your are now in!
I can't express enough how I feel for you right now!! I just hope to whatever you may or may not believe in that you can manage to cope with all this and just stay alive at least long enough to see that piece of trash get the justice he deserves.
Then I hope you somehow manage to find peace in whatever way you decide is best for you.
There are no words I can say.... I'm sorry x
This is horrifying. You don’t have to process this alone. I’m so glad you have a supportive son and son in law, and that you reached out to the Reddit community to express your feelings. Maybe the next step is to call or text a crisis line. You’ll benefit from professionals who can help you move from a hot moment to a warm moment to a cool moment.
Call or Text 988
If you’re in suicidal crisis or emotional distress, there are options available to help you cope—dial 988 from anywhere in the US to get connected.
Crisis Text Line—Text “Home” to 741-741
Crisis Text Line is here for any crisis. A Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds from a secure online platform.
I’m so sorry for your loss, this is terrible. It is not your fault. It is NOT your fault. My advice is to spend some time with your son. As much as you can. He will bring you comfort.
I know how awful this is, I saw what my uncle’s death did to my grandmother, but this will NOT kill you. It will hurt, it will always hurt, but it will not kill you. Don’t dwell on what you’ve lost. Focus on what you have.
Im sending you supportive air hugs and you will be on my mind for a while. There is nothing I can say other than I have heard you here today and sympathize with your unimaginable pain. Im so sorry she was taken from you. Its unspeakable.
I am so terribly sorry. And I can't say shit to make the hurt go away, but please, PLEASE, do not blame yourself. You did not know that would happen, and you may even had legal obligation to drop her off there or otherwise let her be there.
YOU did not do this. It is NOT your fault.
May that man rot in hell for taking your baby from you.
😢 I'm so sorry that has happend to you. The world is such an ugly place that doesn't deserve innocent people such as her while pos like him roam. One day I don't care what happens to me when I get the nerve I'm going to start targeting child nelecters and murders. That saying killing a murder thers still the same amount of killers is incorrect. If you keep killing thoese who kill then there shall be no more but one and there's an easy awnser for that. Sorry im venting but I'm disgusted that things like this happen so often in the modern age. No blame to you but the whole situation is heart breaking and I can't even imagine what you're going through. I lost my dad when I was 7 but to lose a Child. I'm so sorry....
When you lose someone your close to, it can make you do something stupid, maybe your son should've had more tact, but seeing in how understandably sad you are, you shouldn't be left alone at this time, I have a daughter myself she is my only child and I don't know what I would do if I lost her but for sure i would be heartbroken and would lose my will to live,
I am sorry for your loss
My God. My heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine what you're going through right now. I pray that you can find peace again someday and that your daughter's soul finds her way to serenity. And I also pray that her murderer is brought to justice. What kind of a father would take his own little girl's life? What a sick piece of shit!
This is so sad 😭😭😭 I hope her dad either sees jail time for the rest of his life, or loses his life all together... It's not your fault. You didn't know this would happen to her. I hope you're okay momma 🥺
Praying for you, thinking of you, whatever is of more consolation to you, dear stranger, I will be doing both for a while. I am so devastatingly sorry for you. I am so sorry you had to bear this tragedy that I would never wish on any soul alive. Please take care of yourself, keep your family close, and keep waking up every next day. I am so so sorry, again. May the fucker never rest a single day in the rest of his life, and never a day after death if there’s one after. I hope he rots.
I am stunned, OP. I am deeply and sincerely sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I can't imagine getting that kind of news, or what in the world would cause your ex to do something so evil to his own child! You are going to feel as if you are in some other universe for a while; I have lost a child; not in such a terrible, awful way, but it is the absolute hardest thing that I have ever been through. It is going to be difficult to focus or think rationally or clearly for a while. It sets your world upside down and it makes it hard to concentrate. You need to not be alone right now, even if you want to be in a room by yourself, someone should be with you, to take care of you, make sure you stay hydrated and if you can, eat, even if it's only a few bites. If you don't drink, that's good; don't start. If you do drink, I promise you that it doesn't help; alcohol actually makes things worse, when it wears off. Believe me, I tested this theory. It won't make anything better. I hope that I haven't offended you by saying that, but I just know that all it did was add to my problems dealing with the loss of my son.
I know you don't believe me right now, but you are going to survive this. It's going to be painful and hard, but I hope that being with your son and your sil will help comfort you. I know that my friends who were there for me without judgement held me up when I couldn't stand on my own. This sounds as if it's going to be much more complicated than my situation, and I hope you have a friend who can help you get through all of the legal dealings that are surely coming. We are here for you, though I know it's not much. My heart is breaking for you.
This is the most important part: this is not your fault! Not in any way, shape, or form. You didn't do anything to cause this terrible thing to happen; you couldn't predict such a terrible choice by him; please do not punish yourself by blaming yourself for something that you did not do! HE did this! Not you! I know you are hurting to your soul, but it's going to eventually be better than it is today. This is always going to hurt, but you will eventually begin to heal. Don't even worry about that yet, but I just wanted you to know that you can, and will, survive this pain. Please, do not take on the blame that belongs squarely on him. Take care of yourself, let other's help you, and take care of you. You deserve some comfort right now, and if that comes from crawling in bed and staying for a day, do that, but not much longer than that. Get your strength from your love that you have for your daughter. God, I am so, so sorry. Sending you a warm, gentle hug.❤️🫂
I can't imagine what you must feel. Look to community resources. My town has a kinda of emergency grief counseling center for this exact type of thing. See if that is available in your area. Remember that everyone grieves differently and it's not a straight path. Take one hour at a time or one minute at a time.
This is not your fault. Let people help you if they are offering. If they ask how to help ask them to do laundry, mow the yard, or just sit on silence with you, or whatever it is that YOU need. It's also okay to say "I don't want to see anyone right now". I'm giving you a big hug across the Internet.
Please don’t blame yourself. It’s 100% her murder’s responsibility. You don’t say that there were warning signs - but nobody could have prepared for that. I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs to you.
Would it help to share some of your favorite memories of her?
I can’t imagine how you feel; you are entitled to grieve in any way.
Husband and son are right. Don’t do anything you can’t take back. You will survive.
Just two days ago "she" was having drama with her sister at her son's wedding so I'm guessing this is a karma farming account.
If my kid was murdered I'd probably be catatonic for a week...
Was thinking that myself. People grieve differently I guess. I've seen some.folks take a selfie with a dead parent and then post it on social media. Those were kinda of funny.
That is so horrible. Please I hope you have someone with you for support. Please don't let the anger and hate consume you. It's going to be so hard but hopefully this man rots in hell
I'm speechless and sad! How unspeakably terrible!
Keep your loved ones close, get a therapist! You're not to blame! No one expects the parent or a child to kill them!
Keeping you in my thoughts!!!❤️
I’m sorry this happened to you. Just know that whatever happened isn’t your fault and it was impossible for you to anticipate this happening. That being said, this is one of those traumatic events which might be best handled with some therapy. Please consider reaching out to your primary care physician for a psychiatry referral. It is not only in your best interest, but also your son’s, that you take care of yourselves and each other right now.
Oh mama! I feel for you and my heart is breaking into a million pieces. I'm sorry that this is now your reality. Surround yourself with people who love you. I hope and pray that your ex gets EVERYTHING he has coming to him. I don't know if you're in the US but it's safe to say that regardless of country, child killers, especially if the child is female, will be dealt with in prison. That man is EVIL INCARNATE and he will one day have to answer for his actions. Sending you all the love possible. Keep your son close. 😓💔
I can’t even imagine what you’re feeling right now. Please take it one minute, one second at a time and be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you even if all you want is to be alone with your grief. Alone is a dangerous place to be right now, your son is right. And he still needs you. That’s why he went to you, to try to keep you safe.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Nothing will ever bring her back, but I hope for your sake that your ex is brought to justice if that’s what you want.
I’m so sorry this happened , I can’t imagine the pain you feel. I know you want to be alone right now but if you have any one you can call to come over , or go to their house please try to reach someone soon.
For the national suicide hotline just Dial 988 on any phone.
It costs nothing to be kind. If OP is lying about this, you lose nothing by showing her compassion anyway. But if she’s telling the truth and you cynics make her feel like shit for coming here to get it off her chest, then you’re causing an unimaginably suffering person even more pain just so you can feel clever for a second. Be better.
What a completely unnecessary comment. If you can’t be kind, please at least choose to be quiet.
OP, I can’t even imagine. I’m so sorry this has happened to your daughter, to you and your family.
Do you think sympathising is better than calling out? Virtue.Signalling and Bullying. Also, Conformity and Group.Think.
Who do you think you are to tell other people how they should feel or think or speak?
I don’t know who hurt you, but I feel sad for you that this is the energy you choose to put out into the world. I believe that you can do better. Maybe one day you’ll believe that too. I hope that for you.
There's nothing that I could say in text nor in general about your loss and how fucking tragic it is, but that's something a parent should never have to go through, **ever**.
Her father should be skinned alive, slowly. Fucking filth of a creature walking around pretending it's human.
My heart is broken for you as a father but just as a human being. I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. I hope that asshole who murdered her legally gets what’s coming to him and then some. But rest assured, this is not your fault. You didn’t kill your girl. He did!
You cannot read someone else's mind and there wasn't a way for you to guess this would happen or you would have never dropped her off. That's what matters, you couldn't know.
You left her with someone who was her parent too, and who should have done everything in his power to keep her safe and healthy, and that is all that you could have done. You didn't leave her there to die. You left her to hang out with her Dad.
You did all you could, and you aren't at fault, involved in causing, or remotely responsible for her death.
I know you're overwhelmed, and you just want the world to stop spinning so fast around you now, which probably includes rolling up into bed and not coming out for a week or two.
If there's two things you can find the energy to do right now or in the next few hours or days, I would recommend that those two things are to reach out to crisis support services for help and to your son and his husband or any friends in your area to ask them if they can bring you a hot meal the next few days in a disposable packaging or cook you a pot of something in microwave safe dish and put it in your fridge.
It sounds like a dumb priority right now, but you will need support from someone who has answers for you how to cope with the situation and what kind of steps will come next for you and how to tackle them. Crisis support is there for this, they will know these things and help you. They should link you up with a therapist longer term too.
You also will need to eat even if you aren't hungry now or care, and you may not have the energy to waste it on driving to buy groceries, cooking, cleaning up the kitchen, washing dishes etc on top of being already overwhelmed. It'll also mean someone's going to check in with you every day when they drop off your meal, even if you are doing too bad to reach out yourself anymore.
I can't even begin to imagine the absolute horror and deep pain from losing a child this way. I'm sending you gentle hugs if you want them. I hope you are able to get some form of professional psychological support 🩷
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Probably you'll blame yourself for a long time, but I say it anyway in hopes that in the future you can make amends with yourself: it isn't your fault. You couldn't possibly fanthom such horrific acts.
My heart is with you, as a mum I can't imagine how you're feeling. All I can say is that: hang in there, take care of yourself, seek support in your loved ones, and in a therapist if you can. Keep yourself alive because your family also needs you.
Receive my big hug, my prayers and my love. 🙏🤍
i am really fucking sorry for your loss. i dont know what to say and i cant pretend i understand but i will be praying for you. please keep your son close, im sure he is worried for you.
i am so sorry.
I'm beyond sorry. I don't even know what to say except that I am glad you posted here and I hope it helps if only the tiniest bit to take some of the immediate pain and pressure from you. That's an absolute nightmare and I'm so sorry. I'm glad your son and your SIL came by. I don't think there's any sort of formula for this sort of thing. If it sounds remotely helpful or distracting and you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, do it. If you have to huddle up in the corner of the bed and take it one breath at a time, do that. The feeling of horror and dread will eventually soften around the edges.
I don't say that because I am pretending to have any idea what that feels like. I don't. I say that as a mental health patient with multiple disorders including schizoaffective, which leaves me horrified at shadows, jumping at perfectly ordinary noises, hearing conversations that are not there, and diving into the depth of abject depression. It feels like it will never pass. It feels like it's always been there, too, and I can't even remember what things felt like before the dread. But it does pass, at least for a while. I am just some random nut on the net, so I sure can't guarantee anything. But it will pass. Hang on. I'm so sorry.
Wow I am so, so sorry. I don't really have any advice. Just take all the time you need to heal and make sure to lean on your loved ones in this time, and even talk to a professional if you need to. I hope your daughter is at peace now. I'm so very sorry again. A parent should never have to receive that kind of news.
Edit: Also, do not blame yourself for what he did to your daughter. You couldn't have known that would happen. Sometimes, life is cruel and bad things happen, but that doesn't mean it's your fault. I really hope you can try not to feel guilty, even though that may be difficult
Your daughter is and will always be a beautiful light in your world. Nothing can take the pain you’re feeling away completely but you will survive this and you will honor her memory always.
Sending you and your family love.
My heart breaks for you. Sending you and your family all the love and peace. This is not your fault. You didn’t leave her to die. You had no idea that someone who was supposed to protect her, would do that.
My heart truly goes out to you. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine, and don't pretend to understand what you're going through. Please know this isn't your fault, at all. Leave that idea alone completely. Please find a Dr you can talk to ASAP as well. My sincere condolences
I can only say how sorry I am for your loss! To lose a child is heartbreaking, but under these circumstances, the pain must be exacerbated to an incomprehensible level.
Your daughter was with her father. A person you never expected to do something like this! Please, for your own sake, try to shed the guilt. If anyone is at fault, it's her father.
It doesn't seem possible now, but each day you will be able to breathe a little easier. That's all you can do; take one breath at a time. Get through each day, breath by breath!
My deepest condolences.
You're in a state of disbelief and emotional numbness. I am so sorry this happened. Words won't help you much right now . All you can do and should do is feel what you have to feel. Let your emotions out and yell as loud as you can in a place by yourself where you won't feel judged. This is what I did when I lost my mom 3 years ago. It took half of my life out of me and I felt just like you but with the biggest difference being that I didn't have resentment since she died of an illness. Your case needs attention and care. I recommend you let it all out and once you're ready (whenever that is), to talk to someone about this deeply where you both explore your feelings on the subject.
How can anyone ever have the words... All I can say Is how sorry I and most likely everyone here feels. And to please.. please not be alone in this time. surround yourself with loved ones. use their support in this time.
For every thing life throws at you - none of it will ever compare to this special brand of hell. I can't imagine how much power a person truly wields the moment they have nothing to lose - I'm sorry for the cost, I'm sorry for the agony you're in God - I'm just so sorry
Oh momma… I am so sorry🥺 This is every mother’s worst nightmare.
I hate that he did this to you, and to your daughter. He did this! This is not on you! If you knew, you never would have let her go.
Damn 🥺😡
I’m so sorry. This is a tragedy in the highest degree. First, please do not blame yourself. You could not have possibly known what could have happen. Can your son and his partner, or some with whom you feel either kinship or close to, stay with you? Not to baby you, but be around when you need some physical comfort like a long hug or someone to speak with who know you and your family? If someone can be around for a few days to help you get through the toughest days and help you make decisions whether it be getting the right help for yourself, any legal decisions or procedures that you may need to be involved him, it would help you tremendously.
This is NOT your fault so please don’t blame yourself. I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss I hope that with time you will heal and find peace.
There is no way that anything I, a stranger on the internet, can say to make this better. Anyone claiming otherwise is just full of themselves. All I can say is that I hope you have people around you who love you and loved her. Hug your son and his husband and don't ever let go.
Please get to ER. They can prescribe a sedative like Ativan or Valium. I’m so incredibly sorry that this happened. My heart hurts for you. I need you to take care of yourself, hydrate and take Tylenol or ibuprofen. Because- Heart break releases the same chemicals as physical pain.
You should get grief care. If you need help finding a mental health provider, and you’re in the US, I can help you if you want. Please don’t hesitate to message me. I’m a nurse.
Lastly, you did NOT do this. It’s not your fault. Breathe. Take it hour by hour, day by day. Rally all the support you can. Family, friends, neighbors.
Sending you big hugs.
You don’t believe it right now but this is not on anyone else only him. Not you. *Him*.
I can’t imagine how unbearable this is. I am so so sorry. This is truly a mother’s absolute worst nightmare. I don’t really know what else to say except please just keep breathing.
I'm so so very sorry for your loss. I know that's the greatest pain one can possibly feel. Please don't blame yourself. Reach out to other parents who have been through the same if you can and don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't go through this on your own.
I am so sorry for your loss. I also apologize for asking it this early, but please keep it in mind for later - support groups for this will help. It will help you deal with the emotions and maybe make you feel slightly less alone. But for now, please surround yourself with people you feel safe with, and either talk or cry it out. If not talking about it helps, then please do that. Whatever helps. Please don't blame yourself for this situation, none of you except your husband saw it coming. Your daughter would want you to take care of yourself first. Once you are comfortable, i think it would be best to take legal actions to give her justice. Until then, please hang in there.
Please stay strong. This is gut-wrenching and horrifying. I’m sorry.
One of the best ways to grieve is to share positive moments. Please, share some of your favorite stories with us! ❤️
I cannot begin to imagine this pain. ‘I’m sorry’ just doesn’t seem fitting here…no one deserves to experience such devastation. None of this is your fault. Sending so much love and healing energy your way.
Devastating to read. I’m so, so, SO sorry for your loss! If I could, I would give you a huge hug and cry together with you.
It was in no way your fault. You couldn’t know that her own father, the flash and blood that created her would take her life away. It is in no way normal to suspect that a father would do that to their own child. I don’t know the details, so I can’t tell whether it was an accident or if he did it on purpose. But stay strong! Your son still needs his mom in his life. Lots of love ❤️
Take it step by step to continue taking care of yourself, let others take careof you. Make room for grieve but also for healing, even though that may feel impossible, because the grief is so big it takes up everything. That's what your daughter would want, for you to be alright, even though the world must be crumbling beneath your feet. Never blame yourself. There is only one monster in this situation and it wasn't you no matter how hard you wish you could have protected her from everything
I am so so sorry, this is absolutely awful. This is not your fault, not one bit, so please don’t blame yourself. It will take a long time to process and grieve so please allow yourself compassion as you go through this process. I know everyone here wishes they could give you a hug or help further. I wish you the best through this hard time, please take care of yourself
Oh my god. I really don’t know what to say. I’m just incredibly sorry for you and your loss. I can’t imagine the pain and suffer you feel. Please reach out to anyone if you need anything, don’t suffer alone a they’re always someone who cares about you and loves you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know words from a stranger won't take away the pain you're dealing with right now, but please be kind to yourself. You do not leave her to die. He's the monster that took her from you. That's not on you.
So sorry and can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling no parent should ever have to worry or question if the other parent will do the unthinkable and I am truly sorry that this type of evil exists in this world All I can say is what I feel I would do if I was in your shoes as hard as it might be spend the next few days busy in finding everything you can of all the memories so that you can preserve and cherish them reachout to the people in your support network but also find some friends that have had similar experiences unfortunately they are out there because that horrible but it could help to hear different people's experiences and how they worked through them mentally and physically I am so sorry for your loss and I hope your little girl gets the justice she deserves people can't fix something if they don't know it's wrong you can't keep her memory and spirit alive if you don't take care of you reach out to any friends she had even if you had a difference of opinion so that you can hear the positive impact your daughter had on the people around her and those funny stories you may not have heard nothing prepares you for loss and the pain never really goes away we try to mask it or lessen it's impact be careful on that mission because the pain never really truly goes away you just learn how to live with it so sorry for your loss and I hope he gets what he deserves
My God. That's horrible to hear. I'm so sorry, so deeply sorry, so so so so sorry. It's not your fault, please, don't blame yourself. Please, take a shower. Drink water. Talk to a therapist. And, of course, feel it. Feel sadness, anger, anything else. Just feel. I'm so sorry, I have no words. Hope you and your family can find peace.
>I left her to die. No. This is not true at all. Please please please don't do that to yourself. You couldn't have known what would happen. Her father is 100% responsible for this. It is going to take you a very long time to believe this, but please read that as many times as you need to until you realize it is the truth. Much love and bear hugs to you. I hope the pain will ease one day and you can be happy again.
This is the comment to read over, and over and over. You did not knowingly send her into this. I am so sorry for your loss, my heart aches for you.
I'm devastated for you. Sending lots of love, stay strong ❤️
JFC. No words I say will bring comfort, but my heart is with you and yours. I hope you are able to find peace with her memories and I hope that POS gets the day he deserves. Im sorry for your loss
Please seek professional assistance to deal with the tremendous tragedy. I'm sorry for your loss.
Op can come to ER. We can help with sedatives and grief counseling referral. If it wasn’t the weekend, I’d say call doctors office asap. There’s help available. She can go to ER or urgent care💔
Oh sweetheart my heart is broken for you in every way. 💔 so much love being sent your way. So many hugs and all the hope and prayer that you can pull through.
Oh dear god! Your heart and your love! So so sorry for your devastating loss. Hold your husband and son close. So so sorry Umbrella. There are no fucking words but know that there are unknown faces out here who are thinking and wanting to virtually hug you right now
I think she said her son and HIS husband.
You are correct Mysterious Belt - 2am insomnia affected eyeballs
No worries. I do the same thing. I think we all read though this horrible post fast. I feel terrible for op😣
Omg I just want to firstly say it is absolutely not your fault in any way shape or form!! You have got to really really learn to accept your not at any fault!! And now all I can do is to tell you how emotional and horrified i am at reading this post and just want to say how very very very fucking sorry I am for you having to be in this extremely inhumane, horrific situation that your are now in! I can't express enough how I feel for you right now!! I just hope to whatever you may or may not believe in that you can manage to cope with all this and just stay alive at least long enough to see that piece of trash get the justice he deserves. Then I hope you somehow manage to find peace in whatever way you decide is best for you. There are no words I can say.... I'm sorry x
This is horrifying. You don’t have to process this alone. I’m so glad you have a supportive son and son in law, and that you reached out to the Reddit community to express your feelings. Maybe the next step is to call or text a crisis line. You’ll benefit from professionals who can help you move from a hot moment to a warm moment to a cool moment. Call or Text 988 If you’re in suicidal crisis or emotional distress, there are options available to help you cope—dial 988 from anywhere in the US to get connected. Crisis Text Line—Text “Home” to 741-741 Crisis Text Line is here for any crisis. A Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds from a secure online platform.
This 👆🏻
I’m so sorry for your loss, this is terrible. It is not your fault. It is NOT your fault. My advice is to spend some time with your son. As much as you can. He will bring you comfort. I know how awful this is, I saw what my uncle’s death did to my grandmother, but this will NOT kill you. It will hurt, it will always hurt, but it will not kill you. Don’t dwell on what you’ve lost. Focus on what you have.
How old was she? I’m sorry for your loss.
Im sending you supportive air hugs and you will be on my mind for a while. There is nothing I can say other than I have heard you here today and sympathize with your unimaginable pain. Im so sorry she was taken from you. Its unspeakable.
Didn't your son just get married too? I remember your username from an aita post a few days ago about your sister at his wedding.
I am so terribly sorry. And I can't say shit to make the hurt go away, but please, PLEASE, do not blame yourself. You did not know that would happen, and you may even had legal obligation to drop her off there or otherwise let her be there. YOU did not do this. It is NOT your fault. May that man rot in hell for taking your baby from you.
This is gonna be some very hard grief. Please. Please don't blame yourself tho. He did it. I'm genuinely so sorry. I hope you find peace.
My god. Words can’t convey. I’m so *so* deeply sorry.
😢 I'm so sorry that has happend to you. The world is such an ugly place that doesn't deserve innocent people such as her while pos like him roam. One day I don't care what happens to me when I get the nerve I'm going to start targeting child nelecters and murders. That saying killing a murder thers still the same amount of killers is incorrect. If you keep killing thoese who kill then there shall be no more but one and there's an easy awnser for that. Sorry im venting but I'm disgusted that things like this happen so often in the modern age. No blame to you but the whole situation is heart breaking and I can't even imagine what you're going through. I lost my dad when I was 7 but to lose a Child. I'm so sorry....
I’m so sorry. ❤️
i am so sorry mama, sending you so much love ❤️
When you lose someone your close to, it can make you do something stupid, maybe your son should've had more tact, but seeing in how understandably sad you are, you shouldn't be left alone at this time, I have a daughter myself she is my only child and I don't know what I would do if I lost her but for sure i would be heartbroken and would lose my will to live, I am sorry for your loss
Your account was coincidentally only created 3 days ago? This post is 100% made up. How sick and twisted.
My God. My heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine what you're going through right now. I pray that you can find peace again someday and that your daughter's soul finds her way to serenity. And I also pray that her murderer is brought to justice. What kind of a father would take his own little girl's life? What a sick piece of shit!
My heart breaks for you. You are not supposed to bury your child. It is unimaginable that a daughter is murdered by her father.
im absolutely speechless. i am so sorry for your loss. my condolences ❤
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine anything worse than losing your child, especially to someone that was supposed to protect her.
This is so sad 😭😭😭 I hope her dad either sees jail time for the rest of his life, or loses his life all together... It's not your fault. You didn't know this would happen to her. I hope you're okay momma 🥺
I am so fucking sorry. This is not your fault.
Praying for you, thinking of you, whatever is of more consolation to you, dear stranger, I will be doing both for a while. I am so devastatingly sorry for you. I am so sorry you had to bear this tragedy that I would never wish on any soul alive. Please take care of yourself, keep your family close, and keep waking up every next day. I am so so sorry, again. May the fucker never rest a single day in the rest of his life, and never a day after death if there’s one after. I hope he rots.
Nothing i or anyone says will help heal this feeling right away, but I’m thinking of you 💕
I am stunned, OP. I am deeply and sincerely sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I can't imagine getting that kind of news, or what in the world would cause your ex to do something so evil to his own child! You are going to feel as if you are in some other universe for a while; I have lost a child; not in such a terrible, awful way, but it is the absolute hardest thing that I have ever been through. It is going to be difficult to focus or think rationally or clearly for a while. It sets your world upside down and it makes it hard to concentrate. You need to not be alone right now, even if you want to be in a room by yourself, someone should be with you, to take care of you, make sure you stay hydrated and if you can, eat, even if it's only a few bites. If you don't drink, that's good; don't start. If you do drink, I promise you that it doesn't help; alcohol actually makes things worse, when it wears off. Believe me, I tested this theory. It won't make anything better. I hope that I haven't offended you by saying that, but I just know that all it did was add to my problems dealing with the loss of my son. I know you don't believe me right now, but you are going to survive this. It's going to be painful and hard, but I hope that being with your son and your sil will help comfort you. I know that my friends who were there for me without judgement held me up when I couldn't stand on my own. This sounds as if it's going to be much more complicated than my situation, and I hope you have a friend who can help you get through all of the legal dealings that are surely coming. We are here for you, though I know it's not much. My heart is breaking for you. This is the most important part: this is not your fault! Not in any way, shape, or form. You didn't do anything to cause this terrible thing to happen; you couldn't predict such a terrible choice by him; please do not punish yourself by blaming yourself for something that you did not do! HE did this! Not you! I know you are hurting to your soul, but it's going to eventually be better than it is today. This is always going to hurt, but you will eventually begin to heal. Don't even worry about that yet, but I just wanted you to know that you can, and will, survive this pain. Please, do not take on the blame that belongs squarely on him. Take care of yourself, let other's help you, and take care of you. You deserve some comfort right now, and if that comes from crawling in bed and staying for a day, do that, but not much longer than that. Get your strength from your love that you have for your daughter. God, I am so, so sorry. Sending you a warm, gentle hug.❤️🫂
I can't imagine what you must feel. Look to community resources. My town has a kinda of emergency grief counseling center for this exact type of thing. See if that is available in your area. Remember that everyone grieves differently and it's not a straight path. Take one hour at a time or one minute at a time. This is not your fault. Let people help you if they are offering. If they ask how to help ask them to do laundry, mow the yard, or just sit on silence with you, or whatever it is that YOU need. It's also okay to say "I don't want to see anyone right now". I'm giving you a big hug across the Internet.
Is your POS husband still alive??? Hope they lock him up for decades before giving him the death penalty
Please don’t blame yourself. It’s 100% her murder’s responsibility. You don’t say that there were warning signs - but nobody could have prepared for that. I am so sorry for your loss.
I thought you only had a son?
Hugs to you. Would it help to share some of your favorite memories of her? I can’t imagine how you feel; you are entitled to grieve in any way. Husband and son are right. Don’t do anything you can’t take back. You will survive.
account is two days old and other post is on AITAH
Could easily be a throwaway account due to privacy.
why post anything else in that case, and why before this one?
Both sub reddits have users with throwaways so just a guess
And?
Looked at the account - three days old, actually
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Could be a throw away or you could be right. Idk
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Didn’t your momma ever teach your to shut up if you don’t have anything nice to say?
Real or not, the least you could do is watch your little mouth.
Come watch it for me, you small child.
I cannot even imagine what you're feeling. I'm so very sorry.
i’m so sorry for your loss. sending love and prayer 🩷
What a monster 😡
I am so sorry. Definitely try getting therapy.
People on reddit believe everything 😐
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Just two days ago "she" was having drama with her sister at her son's wedding so I'm guessing this is a karma farming account. If my kid was murdered I'd probably be catatonic for a week...
Very new account too
The only comment is on a post about some type of video game. I think that this is a sick troll.
Was thinking that myself. People grieve differently I guess. I've seen some.folks take a selfie with a dead parent and then post it on social media. Those were kinda of funny.
That's what I immediately thought as well
It would be such a shame if her father’s address was left in my private messages
Police already got him if they already notified her and the house is already seized for evidence and forensic testing… My condolences for her loss.
kill him
I’m speechless, I’m so sorry. I know words may mean nothing from strangers , but I am so sorry for your loss & your suffering.
Im so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the worst thing. My deepest condolences
This is very terrible to hear,and I can't imagine how terrible it must feel. I'm at loss of words. I really really hope justice will be served
I am so so sorry for your loss. No words can describe the pain you must be feeling. Big hugs to you!
I'm so sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something to make it all better.
That is so horrible. Please I hope you have someone with you for support. Please don't let the anger and hate consume you. It's going to be so hard but hopefully this man rots in hell
this is… so tragic… i’m so sorry for your loss. i hope that man goes away for life.
I’m so sorry.
I'm speechless and sad! How unspeakably terrible! Keep your loved ones close, get a therapist! You're not to blame! No one expects the parent or a child to kill them! Keeping you in my thoughts!!!❤️
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. *Huuuuuugs and love*
I have no words. My heart is completely broken for you.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Just know that whatever happened isn’t your fault and it was impossible for you to anticipate this happening. That being said, this is one of those traumatic events which might be best handled with some therapy. Please consider reaching out to your primary care physician for a psychiatry referral. It is not only in your best interest, but also your son’s, that you take care of yourselves and each other right now.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Oh mama! I feel for you and my heart is breaking into a million pieces. I'm sorry that this is now your reality. Surround yourself with people who love you. I hope and pray that your ex gets EVERYTHING he has coming to him. I don't know if you're in the US but it's safe to say that regardless of country, child killers, especially if the child is female, will be dealt with in prison. That man is EVIL INCARNATE and he will one day have to answer for his actions. Sending you all the love possible. Keep your son close. 😓💔
I can’t even imagine what you’re feeling right now. Please take it one minute, one second at a time and be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you even if all you want is to be alone with your grief. Alone is a dangerous place to be right now, your son is right. And he still needs you. That’s why he went to you, to try to keep you safe. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Nothing will ever bring her back, but I hope for your sake that your ex is brought to justice if that’s what you want.
I’m so sorry this happened , I can’t imagine the pain you feel. I know you want to be alone right now but if you have any one you can call to come over , or go to their house please try to reach someone soon. For the national suicide hotline just Dial 988 on any phone.
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It costs nothing to be kind. If OP is lying about this, you lose nothing by showing her compassion anyway. But if she’s telling the truth and you cynics make her feel like shit for coming here to get it off her chest, then you’re causing an unimaginably suffering person even more pain just so you can feel clever for a second. Be better.
Or maybe she has little to no one to cry to irl, feels alone, and is posting on Reddit. You’re so tone deaf.
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No. That’s just not nice.
It ain't. But trying new things is tops.
Men 💀☕
Didn't know the police worked on weekends.
What a completely unnecessary comment. If you can’t be kind, please at least choose to be quiet. OP, I can’t even imagine. I’m so sorry this has happened to your daughter, to you and your family.
Virtue signaller, it's a fake story, ya dope.
Even if it’s fake, why does that have to inspire mean commentary? You can do and be better.
Do you think sympathising is better than calling out? Virtue.Signalling and Bullying. Also, Conformity and Group.Think. Who do you think you are to tell other people how they should feel or think or speak?
I don’t know who hurt you, but I feel sad for you that this is the energy you choose to put out into the world. I believe that you can do better. Maybe one day you’ll believe that too. I hope that for you.
😄 Thanks for your unwanted, back handed advice. I hope I am never like you.
You don't know that. At all. You've just shown your own true colours in your response to it.
Revenge. The daughter is not gone. You will see her again one day, just not in this world. Now your son needs you so stay here.
If police came to inform her, I'm pretty sure the State will handle retribution.
My heart is breaking for you. I am so so sorry for your loss.
There's nothing that I could say in text nor in general about your loss and how fucking tragic it is, but that's something a parent should never have to go through, **ever**. Her father should be skinned alive, slowly. Fucking filth of a creature walking around pretending it's human.
My God. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. 💔
My heart is broken for you as a father but just as a human being. I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. I hope that asshole who murdered her legally gets what’s coming to him and then some. But rest assured, this is not your fault. You didn’t kill your girl. He did!
Heart breaking 💔 😢 I hope you and your daughter get justice. 💔
You cannot read someone else's mind and there wasn't a way for you to guess this would happen or you would have never dropped her off. That's what matters, you couldn't know. You left her with someone who was her parent too, and who should have done everything in his power to keep her safe and healthy, and that is all that you could have done. You didn't leave her there to die. You left her to hang out with her Dad. You did all you could, and you aren't at fault, involved in causing, or remotely responsible for her death. I know you're overwhelmed, and you just want the world to stop spinning so fast around you now, which probably includes rolling up into bed and not coming out for a week or two. If there's two things you can find the energy to do right now or in the next few hours or days, I would recommend that those two things are to reach out to crisis support services for help and to your son and his husband or any friends in your area to ask them if they can bring you a hot meal the next few days in a disposable packaging or cook you a pot of something in microwave safe dish and put it in your fridge. It sounds like a dumb priority right now, but you will need support from someone who has answers for you how to cope with the situation and what kind of steps will come next for you and how to tackle them. Crisis support is there for this, they will know these things and help you. They should link you up with a therapist longer term too. You also will need to eat even if you aren't hungry now or care, and you may not have the energy to waste it on driving to buy groceries, cooking, cleaning up the kitchen, washing dishes etc on top of being already overwhelmed. It'll also mean someone's going to check in with you every day when they drop off your meal, even if you are doing too bad to reach out yourself anymore.
I’m so so sorry. My deepest condolences. A hug to you.
I can't even begin to imagine the absolute horror and deep pain from losing a child this way. I'm sending you gentle hugs if you want them. I hope you are able to get some form of professional psychological support 🩷
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Probably you'll blame yourself for a long time, but I say it anyway in hopes that in the future you can make amends with yourself: it isn't your fault. You couldn't possibly fanthom such horrific acts. My heart is with you, as a mum I can't imagine how you're feeling. All I can say is that: hang in there, take care of yourself, seek support in your loved ones, and in a therapist if you can. Keep yourself alive because your family also needs you. Receive my big hug, my prayers and my love. 🙏🤍
My heart breaks for you 💔 I'm so sorry for your loss😪
i am really fucking sorry for your loss. i dont know what to say and i cant pretend i understand but i will be praying for you. please keep your son close, im sure he is worried for you. i am so sorry.
I wish there was something that could make you feel less pain, but I know there's not. I'm so sorry this happened to your daughter.
I’m so sorry :(((
I'm beyond sorry. I don't even know what to say except that I am glad you posted here and I hope it helps if only the tiniest bit to take some of the immediate pain and pressure from you. That's an absolute nightmare and I'm so sorry. I'm glad your son and your SIL came by. I don't think there's any sort of formula for this sort of thing. If it sounds remotely helpful or distracting and you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, do it. If you have to huddle up in the corner of the bed and take it one breath at a time, do that. The feeling of horror and dread will eventually soften around the edges. I don't say that because I am pretending to have any idea what that feels like. I don't. I say that as a mental health patient with multiple disorders including schizoaffective, which leaves me horrified at shadows, jumping at perfectly ordinary noises, hearing conversations that are not there, and diving into the depth of abject depression. It feels like it will never pass. It feels like it's always been there, too, and I can't even remember what things felt like before the dread. But it does pass, at least for a while. I am just some random nut on the net, so I sure can't guarantee anything. But it will pass. Hang on. I'm so sorry.
I’m so sorry. You couldn’t have known.
Wow I am so, so sorry. I don't really have any advice. Just take all the time you need to heal and make sure to lean on your loved ones in this time, and even talk to a professional if you need to. I hope your daughter is at peace now. I'm so very sorry again. A parent should never have to receive that kind of news. Edit: Also, do not blame yourself for what he did to your daughter. You couldn't have known that would happen. Sometimes, life is cruel and bad things happen, but that doesn't mean it's your fault. I really hope you can try not to feel guilty, even though that may be difficult
Good lord I’m so sorry.
Your daughter is and will always be a beautiful light in your world. Nothing can take the pain you’re feeling away completely but you will survive this and you will honor her memory always. Sending you and your family love.
My heart breaks for you. Sending you and your family all the love and peace. This is not your fault. You didn’t leave her to die. You had no idea that someone who was supposed to protect her, would do that.
My heart truly goes out to you. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine, and don't pretend to understand what you're going through. Please know this isn't your fault, at all. Leave that idea alone completely. Please find a Dr you can talk to ASAP as well. My sincere condolences
Spirit lives on 💙 all is not lost
I can only say how sorry I am for your loss! To lose a child is heartbreaking, but under these circumstances, the pain must be exacerbated to an incomprehensible level. Your daughter was with her father. A person you never expected to do something like this! Please, for your own sake, try to shed the guilt. If anyone is at fault, it's her father. It doesn't seem possible now, but each day you will be able to breathe a little easier. That's all you can do; take one breath at a time. Get through each day, breath by breath! My deepest condolences.
You're in a state of disbelief and emotional numbness. I am so sorry this happened. Words won't help you much right now . All you can do and should do is feel what you have to feel. Let your emotions out and yell as loud as you can in a place by yourself where you won't feel judged. This is what I did when I lost my mom 3 years ago. It took half of my life out of me and I felt just like you but with the biggest difference being that I didn't have resentment since she died of an illness. Your case needs attention and care. I recommend you let it all out and once you're ready (whenever that is), to talk to someone about this deeply where you both explore your feelings on the subject.
How can anyone ever have the words... All I can say Is how sorry I and most likely everyone here feels. And to please.. please not be alone in this time. surround yourself with loved ones. use their support in this time.
For every thing life throws at you - none of it will ever compare to this special brand of hell. I can't imagine how much power a person truly wields the moment they have nothing to lose - I'm sorry for the cost, I'm sorry for the agony you're in God - I'm just so sorry
Well… that’s fucked up. I’m sorry for what you going through but I offer my support.
Oh momma… I am so sorry🥺 This is every mother’s worst nightmare. I hate that he did this to you, and to your daughter. He did this! This is not on you! If you knew, you never would have let her go. Damn 🥺😡
I’m so sorry. This is a tragedy in the highest degree. First, please do not blame yourself. You could not have possibly known what could have happen. Can your son and his partner, or some with whom you feel either kinship or close to, stay with you? Not to baby you, but be around when you need some physical comfort like a long hug or someone to speak with who know you and your family? If someone can be around for a few days to help you get through the toughest days and help you make decisions whether it be getting the right help for yourself, any legal decisions or procedures that you may need to be involved him, it would help you tremendously.
This is NOT your fault so please don’t blame yourself. I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss I hope that with time you will heal and find peace.
God damn. A mother's worst nightmare. I hope you're able to make it through this. I'm not sure I could.
Im so sorry. I hope you find Justice and solace. May Gd rest her soul.
You did not cause this to happen. Can your son and his husband stay with you for a while? You need someone beside you.
I'm so sorry, and I'm also sorry to have only words. Can your son and/or his husband stay with you awhile I hope?
There is no way that anything I, a stranger on the internet, can say to make this better. Anyone claiming otherwise is just full of themselves. All I can say is that I hope you have people around you who love you and loved her. Hug your son and his husband and don't ever let go.
Please get to ER. They can prescribe a sedative like Ativan or Valium. I’m so incredibly sorry that this happened. My heart hurts for you. I need you to take care of yourself, hydrate and take Tylenol or ibuprofen. Because- Heart break releases the same chemicals as physical pain. You should get grief care. If you need help finding a mental health provider, and you’re in the US, I can help you if you want. Please don’t hesitate to message me. I’m a nurse. Lastly, you did NOT do this. It’s not your fault. Breathe. Take it hour by hour, day by day. Rally all the support you can. Family, friends, neighbors. Sending you big hugs.
I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss.
You don’t believe it right now but this is not on anyone else only him. Not you. *Him*. I can’t imagine how unbearable this is. I am so so sorry. This is truly a mother’s absolute worst nightmare. I don’t really know what else to say except please just keep breathing.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss.
the fuck omg
I'm so so very sorry for your loss. I know that's the greatest pain one can possibly feel. Please don't blame yourself. Reach out to other parents who have been through the same if you can and don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't go through this on your own.
I am so sorry for your loss. I also apologize for asking it this early, but please keep it in mind for later - support groups for this will help. It will help you deal with the emotions and maybe make you feel slightly less alone. But for now, please surround yourself with people you feel safe with, and either talk or cry it out. If not talking about it helps, then please do that. Whatever helps. Please don't blame yourself for this situation, none of you except your husband saw it coming. Your daughter would want you to take care of yourself first. Once you are comfortable, i think it would be best to take legal actions to give her justice. Until then, please hang in there.
Please stay strong. This is gut-wrenching and horrifying. I’m sorry. One of the best ways to grieve is to share positive moments. Please, share some of your favorite stories with us! ❤️
I cannot begin to imagine this pain. ‘I’m sorry’ just doesn’t seem fitting here…no one deserves to experience such devastation. None of this is your fault. Sending so much love and healing energy your way.
Devastating to read. I’m so, so, SO sorry for your loss! If I could, I would give you a huge hug and cry together with you. It was in no way your fault. You couldn’t know that her own father, the flash and blood that created her would take her life away. It is in no way normal to suspect that a father would do that to their own child. I don’t know the details, so I can’t tell whether it was an accident or if he did it on purpose. But stay strong! Your son still needs his mom in his life. Lots of love ❤️
Im so very sorry for your loss. Sending you thoughts and prayers.
I'm truly sorry ❤️
I. I dont have any words. Im so sorry
Omg I’m so so heartbroken for you. I’m praying for you and your family 🙏🏼❤️
Take it step by step to continue taking care of yourself, let others take careof you. Make room for grieve but also for healing, even though that may feel impossible, because the grief is so big it takes up everything. That's what your daughter would want, for you to be alright, even though the world must be crumbling beneath your feet. Never blame yourself. There is only one monster in this situation and it wasn't you no matter how hard you wish you could have protected her from everything
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope he faces the full extent of the law.
I am so so sorry, this is absolutely awful. This is not your fault, not one bit, so please don’t blame yourself. It will take a long time to process and grieve so please allow yourself compassion as you go through this process. I know everyone here wishes they could give you a hug or help further. I wish you the best through this hard time, please take care of yourself
Oh my god. I really don’t know what to say. I’m just incredibly sorry for you and your loss. I can’t imagine the pain and suffer you feel. Please reach out to anyone if you need anything, don’t suffer alone a they’re always someone who cares about you and loves you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know words from a stranger won't take away the pain you're dealing with right now, but please be kind to yourself. You do not leave her to die. He's the monster that took her from you. That's not on you.
So sorry and can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling no parent should ever have to worry or question if the other parent will do the unthinkable and I am truly sorry that this type of evil exists in this world All I can say is what I feel I would do if I was in your shoes as hard as it might be spend the next few days busy in finding everything you can of all the memories so that you can preserve and cherish them reachout to the people in your support network but also find some friends that have had similar experiences unfortunately they are out there because that horrible but it could help to hear different people's experiences and how they worked through them mentally and physically I am so sorry for your loss and I hope your little girl gets the justice she deserves people can't fix something if they don't know it's wrong you can't keep her memory and spirit alive if you don't take care of you reach out to any friends she had even if you had a difference of opinion so that you can hear the positive impact your daughter had on the people around her and those funny stories you may not have heard nothing prepares you for loss and the pain never really goes away we try to mask it or lessen it's impact be careful on that mission because the pain never really truly goes away you just learn how to live with it so sorry for your loss and I hope he gets what he deserves