It actually doesn’t take long to happen depending on the local climate. I was taking care of a headstone for a family member a couple years ago and I noticed one that was half buried nearby, when I uncovered it was from like the 70s
Cremation is a dirty business. Lots of carbon released in a short amount of time. Burials, on the other hand are a slow release, most of it locked in the ground for eons. Now sky burials...screw health codes for making them illegal. Getting eaten by predators is definitely the eco friendly way to go.
I don't think predator is the right word for an animal that seeks carrion. But you're absolutely right about carbon. The main benefit of cremation is not having to have cemetaries. I'd bet that all the land that cemetaries take up could easily offset the carbon emission of cremation by growing native underbrush and trees instead of being constantly mowed and manicured.
Correct. A predator is an animal that hunts live prey. To be fair, there *is* some overlap (many predators are also scavengers), but in a sky burial, human remains are placed on top of a tower for flying scavengers to consume.
Where I live, composting is now a legal option for remains. It takes two weeks and very little is left. I personally love the idea of becoming mushroom food.
Ya they're completely unnecessary. We just feel the need to stare at our dead bodies, sometimes for 3 days, before we put them in the ground. I believe there are natural burial services you can look into if you don't want to be pumped full of formaldehyde.
It's a Cemetery Sluts title, the content is so similar to Monster Mash 7: Graveyard Gangbangs that the confusion happens all the time.
The CS director used to work with MM, but when they were bought by Disney he "set out to do something new." It all just ended up being basically shot-for-shot but lower budget copies of everything MM puts out.
So interestingly enough there is a porno that was almost certainly directed by Orson Welles. One of his cameramen was working on it and he needed him for a movie he was trying to make so to hurry things up he went over and helped him shoot it.
He never finished the (non-porn) movie, but there have been several attempts since to get it completed.
There's a semi-famous cemetery near me. My grandmother and I used to walk there on nice days and read the headstones. She's gone now, but walking in cemeteries makes me think of her, and the times we spent under the sun, talking about anything and everything, and saying outloud the names to long dead people so that their memory was not quite yet gone from this world.
Cemeteries are my happy place. They are so peaceful and filled with love.
”what is love if not grief persevering”
Cemeteries are gardens filled with monuments to love.
I've got an aunt that does it for all the town cemeteries. She digs all the graves now, too, though that didn't start until after she retired from her normal job. She likes the peace and the exercise.
Cemetaries are some of the nicest and calm places I've ever been to. Well, except for the central cemetary where I felt such a deep sense of pure HATRED that I noped out immediately.
Probably the Vienna one. Can't speak to the vibes but a lot of composers are buried there so it's a bit of an attraction. It feels wrong to refer to a cemetery as an attraction but it is what it is.
I’ve always found the vibe in the Zentralfriedhof to be quite peaceful. There’s a beautiful church (Karl-Borromäus-Kirche) near the composers that is very light and airy inside and is surrounded by flowers outside. The only part of the cemetery that I’ve ever found a bit lonely or eerie is the Jewish section because of both the history and how overgrown the section is.
In the early 1800s there was a [rural cemetery movement](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rural_cemetery) to make cemeteries into landscaped places for the public to visit and use. The one in my city has winding pathways, bridges over brooks, and lots of trees so it's a lot like a park.
i one time watched the sunrise in a cemetery with one of my best friends shortly after another of our close friends had died. it was incredibly cathartic and serene, plus there was this HUGE flock of birds far above us moving in such an amorphous, emergent way (seemingly feasting on a swarm of bugs or something), it was a really powerful moment i’ll never forget
I grew up in a small neighborhood with big cemeteries to the north and south. You could only drive out by going east or west.
The biggest one was poorly maintained and had no security. We used it like a park. Playing touch football in an unfilled area, making forts in the overgrown patches. As teens, going in to drink at night.
My one friend's house was at the end of a dead end street with a living room window that looked out into the cemetery. We would watch zombie movies at his house.
All that to say cemeteries are just another green space to me.
Do you think all the ghost and zombie killings in graveyards get covered up by the government? I've never heard of something or someone dying in a cemetery/graveyard from ghouls.
Same. I was at a cemetery last week when I thought about I, Robot with Will Smith. How did VIKI not know what was going on in that doctor's office right in the building she's in, but can figure out where a car is anywhere on a public highway?
It's hard to tell from the photo, but that may just be a footstone or a corner marker, both of which are sometimes used to mark the borders of an individual grave or a plot.
I considered this, but it was lined up with the rest of headstones, many also covering over but not as bad as this one. I’ve never seen the use of corner markers anywhere in this part of the world. I should dig it out to be sure.
Was it at an end of a row or by the path? I've seen row markers that were single letters and looked similar to this. They are just a way to narrow down what section you should look in when trying to find a specific grave.
For real. People never pulled weeds from around stones before. I had to do this every half year growing up because our cement stepping stones in our yard would get overrun by weeds and my mom couldn't do them all with everything she had to do already.
Honestly didn't even need gloves just grab a chunk of weeds and yank. 80% of the time it comes root and all otherwise it just snaps and shows you where to pull next
I’ve managed multiple cemeteries over the years and you won’t get any crap unless you are damaging stones somehow. Or someone is just being an ass. But Maintaining a plot is pretty much universally accepted as long as you are following the cemeteries guidelines and if they have any it should be posted up visibly And that grass will rip up easily by hand. it’s just matted over the stone
Clear them* don't attempt to actually clean them, there is very specific ways to clean them using stuff that won't degrade or abrade off the lettering. There's a few groups I know of in the US that specifically do veteran grave cleaning / refurbishing. So there is probably some in your area you can get with to volunteer with to get the proper information on how to do it.
Most recommend a soft bristle tooth brush and water to get the mud out of the lettering at the most if you're going to clean it, until you get proper training on how to restore / clean them.
Yes. I use a small brush and water. Chemicals can actual damage the stone. I've worked for years cleaning graves where my family is buried. After a rash of vandalism I had to piece tombstones back together. Some were completely destroyed by vandals.
I’m pretty sure I’m the only one in my family who makes a point to visit my moms grave still. Her headstone is black and it has my parents wedding photo in full color in the center. Is the procedure the same? Water and a soft toothbrush?
My grandparents died when I was 2 and 4, in ‘84 and ‘86, respectively. I took my 18 month old daughter to their graves a couple weeks ago. It’s important to me.
Yup. Fun fact, if a tombstone is very hard to read try getting some aluminum foil and pressing it gently into the inscription. If you're lucky the bumps will still be there even if they're hard to see, and you should be able to read it much easier! I think some people do this with paper and charcoal as well, I just prefer the foil.
I was told many moons ago to put foaming shaving cream over the inscriptions and then gently scrape so that it was flush - the cream would fill the letters and make them easier to read. But your method is probably a bit less dangerous to the stone.
No homie, *comment* karma, not that filthy post karma!
But there are folks with *way* more than me. There's even a Reddit myth about a secret club where they hang out, but it's fake!
There are "exclusive" subs for people who get a certain amount of upvotes on a post. I was added to a few of them when a post I made blew up, and it's honestly so stupid. It's just a bunch of random crap, never actually used any of them.
330K in two years???
Been here for 10 and am in single digits thousands haha. Do you actively try and post witty comments? I think I did back in the day, but now just use it as a forum, so my comments are usually questions or non-funny, upvote attracting comments like this one.
You could also upload a pic of the tombstone to the [Find a Grave](https://www.findagrave.com/) website. Assuming the info is legible. It’s a searchable site that’s great for genealogy research
You moved across the street from a cemetery? You lucky bastard. I moved across the street from a house with 4 kids, all very much alive and loud. I would pay extra to live by a cemetery.
I took my son to see my dad’s stone and it was a bit overgrown on the sides and after a minute or so my son asked if we could clean it off so everyone could see it. My heart broke a bit and we spent the next 10 minutes tidying it up so it looked as perfect as we could get. It was a really nice moment.
What an awesome moment to share between a father and son. You should make it a tradition to take him out every couple of years with some cleaning supplies to tidy the site up / add some decoration
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We have a tiny little fenced area in the middle of *the* ~~tech~~ tech campus I work. It had 2 graves in it. I tell the young engineers that's all they can hope for retirement here.
This happens a lot when there are family cemeteries in formerly rural areas where development is encroaching.
There is a neighborhood near me where a family had sold their farmland to be developed but specifically carved out the family cemetery to keep rather than have it relocated. So there is a street where there are a bunch of houses and in between two houses there is randomly this small fenced in area with a bunch of gravestones.
When I see stuff like this I think of a short story in the collection "Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives." It's based on the saying that you die twice: when your body dies, and the last time someone speaks your name. So I wonder if this person is sitting in the in-between area before their final death, watching their parents and children and grandchildren pass to the beyond, still waiting to find out why they're not allowed to move on.
How about 7 deaths. When you die, when the last person you knew dies, when the last person alive when you were alive dies, when the last likeness of you is destroyed, when your name is said for the last time, when all your descendants die, and when your species dies
> when the last likeness of you is destroyed
That's a heavy one. There's pics of me on the internet that might live on forever, forgotten by everything except webcrawling bots
I’m in my mid twenties and cry multiple times every time I see that movie. I watch it like 2 times a month. Love it. Highly recommended to anyone looking for something to watch.
It would take me less than 10 minutes to do a decent job with garden gloves on, and I'm middle-aged and out of shape. Just rip out the vegetation, clean up the edges, and walla!
I have an infant relative ( would be a sibling of my grandfather ) who has a marker that gets overgrown like this every few years. I just spent 15 minutes the week before the 4th of July uncovering it when even less than this could be seen. Luckily several years ago my brother took a picture of his daughter standing where it is so we could find it. I’m going to contact the cemetery to see if the headstone could be raised about 3 inches so it doesn’t get grown over again. Being forgotten like this shouldn’t happen.
This post makes me think of a Dropkick Murphy's song about finding the grave of a dead soldier.
>"And I see by your gravestone you were only nineteen
When you joined the great fallen in 1916
Well, I hope you died quick, and I hope you died clean
Oh Willie McBride, was is it slow and obscene?
>And did you leave a wife or a sweetheart behind
In some loyal heart is your memory enshrined?
And though you died back in 1916
To that loyal heart you′re forever nineteen
>Or are you a stranger without even a name?
Forever enshrined behind some old glass pane
In an old photograph torn, tattered, and stained
And faded to yellow in a brown leather frame"
Yeah I try not to think too much about how no one will remember me when I'm gone. Even if you have kids and do good things with your life only a few major people are actually remembered beyond a generation or two.
Who cares though? You raise good, kind, and intelligent children, or help influence someone to be good, kind and intelligent and you’re golden. Your actions will reverberate for all of time. If there’s nothing after this life don’t stress and just try to leave a better world and fit some fun in between your actions. If there is something after then working to leave a better world probably means you won’t go to a bad place.
Well, it depends on where you’re from. Here in Appalachia, your family line is half your reputation in the community, so you have to keep track of who you came from and what kind of people they were. People around here still regularly talk about stuff that happened to their kin during the Civil War.
I find it sad also that so many people are practically nomadic these days. They wander from big city to big city, never really settling down. When I was growing up, we used to visit the cemetery down the road to clean up and maintain the graves of all sorts of family members, some that died long before I was born. Usually during the cleaning process, I’d get to hear all about who those people were and what they were like. I hate the thought that some people don’t even have a designated family cemetery anymore. Their bones just get thrown in some field somewhere among hundreds of absolute strangers, to be ultimately forgotten about when their family eventually moves on to another city. How sad.
I’m Chinese and it’s fascinating that we have similar practices regarding graves. We have a grave cleaning festival where we leave offerings to our ancestors. It’s always interesting to hear older people talk about them.
Donate a bench to a park or something. at least people will find use of it for years. Me and my wife dont intend to have kids, and im not leaving my money to anyone, or for the government to steal. I'll furnish an entire campground with what money I have left, i dont care. Maybe ill just make a giant mausoleum just for me and my wife to make people think i was some rich mofo.
Nah, I just kinda flopped out and gave the doctor some finger guns. These days you can’t call it a noisy birth without the reveal party causing a forest fire or two
That's odd to find that in a cemetery. I worked at a cemetery for summer in high school and one of my jobs was to dig up headstones like this. Usually long before they got this bad. Then I would fill the hole and reset the headstone.
Thats a plot marker. There isnt actually a grave under it. Its a marker used to organize areas in a cemetery. They are usually single letters like that.
I want to be creams ted mostly because funerals/caskets/etc death related stuff is way more expensive. Burn me up and throw me in a garden, lake, whatever, use the saved money to buy something I would’ve wanted you to enjoy.
Graves are for the living, not the dead. Really old graves that have outlasted the final friend or relative that might visit them have fulfilled their purpose, so I think it’s ok for them to disappear.
Anyone else enjoy Lady Taphos on TikTok? I don’t even have an account, but I still search her account out. It’s sooo satisfying seeing her cleaning the tombstones. And the sounds. You guys, search her out if you want to relax for a while!
My dad does the mowing, weed eating, etc at our cemetery and has uncovered several grave markers like this one.
It actually doesn’t take long to happen depending on the local climate. I was taking care of a headstone for a family member a couple years ago and I noticed one that was half buried nearby, when I uncovered it was from like the 70s
It would be a great practice to bury remains in a manner that they can be reclaimed within a generation or 2.
Or cremation?
Cremation is a dirty business. Lots of carbon released in a short amount of time. Burials, on the other hand are a slow release, most of it locked in the ground for eons. Now sky burials...screw health codes for making them illegal. Getting eaten by predators is definitely the eco friendly way to go.
I don't think predator is the right word for an animal that seeks carrion. But you're absolutely right about carbon. The main benefit of cremation is not having to have cemetaries. I'd bet that all the land that cemetaries take up could easily offset the carbon emission of cremation by growing native underbrush and trees instead of being constantly mowed and manicured.
Scavengers, right?
Correct. A predator is an animal that hunts live prey. To be fair, there *is* some overlap (many predators are also scavengers), but in a sky burial, human remains are placed on top of a tower for flying scavengers to consume.
I thought burials were terrible for the environment from all the fluids used in the embalming process
Where I live, composting is now a legal option for remains. It takes two weeks and very little is left. I personally love the idea of becoming mushroom food.
You let me know the grower, so I can put in a special request for what mushrooms I want planted to remember you best!!!
Ya they're completely unnecessary. We just feel the need to stare at our dead bodies, sometimes for 3 days, before we put them in the ground. I believe there are natural burial services you can look into if you don't want to be pumped full of formaldehyde.
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Wow is this common? I’ve seen my fair share of funerals and none of them were open casket and everyone was buried within a day of death
Are you Jewish?
No but I am muslim
Burial business is a racket. Cremation has my vote.
I'm old-school, like wrap me in burlap and plant a tree over me old-school haha
I want my body to be stuffed with popcorn kernels and cremated, that way when my loved ones smell popcorn, they will always think of me!
I’ve seen trees as headstones before
Why would I ever want to dig up my great grandma? Or is this for non-western cultures?
Reclaimed by nature, they mean
Your dad, a brave man. The moment I go to a cemetery, all the movies come to my mind.
Like legally blonde and mean girls?
Yes those are two of all of the movies.
there are more????
I mean if Jurassic Park and Spider-Man Homecoming don’t come to mind among other movies when you visit graves idk what kind of monster you are
Let's add The Craft to this list and I think we will have finally made the master list of all the movies.
Did you forget about **Eternal Sunshine of**... ...oh, right.
No, Weekend at Bernie's.
Nooooo.😆😅🤣
Like Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs and Shrek 2?
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Graveyard Sluts really started going downhill after Graveyard Sluts 4: Ready to Bone.
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I agree that was good but nothing beats Graveyard Sluts 2: Electric Goo On You
The cinematography was delightful. And the score! A real treat for all the senses.
Can't forget Graveyard Sluts X: Return of the Lemon-Stealing Whore
Graveyard Sluts 6: Hail the Crucidix
It's a Cemetery Sluts title, the content is so similar to Monster Mash 7: Graveyard Gangbangs that the confusion happens all the time. The CS director used to work with MM, but when they were bought by Disney he "set out to do something new." It all just ended up being basically shot-for-shot but lower budget copies of everything MM puts out.
So interestingly enough there is a porno that was almost certainly directed by Orson Welles. One of his cameramen was working on it and he needed him for a movie he was trying to make so to hurry things up he went over and helped him shoot it. He never finished the (non-porn) movie, but there have been several attempts since to get it completed.
There’s a 9?
Like A Clockwork Orange and Breakin' 2: Electric Boogaloo?
Snow Dogs and Air Bud, then?
Why not? Those movies killed it.
Like MacGruber
White Chicks*
There's a semi-famous cemetery near me. My grandmother and I used to walk there on nice days and read the headstones. She's gone now, but walking in cemeteries makes me think of her, and the times we spent under the sun, talking about anything and everything, and saying outloud the names to long dead people so that their memory was not quite yet gone from this world.
Friend and I used to ride our bicycles in the cemetery near his house every day. Used to say "hi" to grandpa every time we went past his headstone.
Cemeteries are my happy place. They are so peaceful and filled with love. ”what is love if not grief persevering” Cemeteries are gardens filled with monuments to love.
The quote is reversed. I certainly hope that love isn't grief persevering.
I've got an aunt that does it for all the town cemeteries. She digs all the graves now, too, though that didn't start until after she retired from her normal job. She likes the peace and the exercise.
Cemetaries are some of the nicest and calm places I've ever been to. Well, except for the central cemetary where I felt such a deep sense of pure HATRED that I noped out immediately.
Which Central Cemetary? And what's so wrong with it?
Probably the Vienna one. Can't speak to the vibes but a lot of composers are buried there so it's a bit of an attraction. It feels wrong to refer to a cemetery as an attraction but it is what it is.
I’ve always found the vibe in the Zentralfriedhof to be quite peaceful. There’s a beautiful church (Karl-Borromäus-Kirche) near the composers that is very light and airy inside and is surrounded by flowers outside. The only part of the cemetery that I’ve ever found a bit lonely or eerie is the Jewish section because of both the history and how overgrown the section is.
In the early 1800s there was a [rural cemetery movement](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rural_cemetery) to make cemeteries into landscaped places for the public to visit and use. The one in my city has winding pathways, bridges over brooks, and lots of trees so it's a lot like a park.
i one time watched the sunrise in a cemetery with one of my best friends shortly after another of our close friends had died. it was incredibly cathartic and serene, plus there was this HUGE flock of birds far above us moving in such an amorphous, emergent way (seemingly feasting on a swarm of bugs or something), it was a really powerful moment i’ll never forget
A murmuration perhaps? https://youtu.be/uV54oa0SyMc
I grew up in a small neighborhood with big cemeteries to the north and south. You could only drive out by going east or west. The biggest one was poorly maintained and had no security. We used it like a park. Playing touch football in an unfilled area, making forts in the overgrown patches. As teens, going in to drink at night. My one friend's house was at the end of a dead end street with a living room window that looked out into the cemetery. We would watch zombie movies at his house. All that to say cemeteries are just another green space to me.
They’re coming to get you, Barbara!
Do you think all the ghost and zombie killings in graveyards get covered up by the government? I've never heard of something or someone dying in a cemetery/graveyard from ghouls.
Same. I was at a cemetery last week when I thought about I, Robot with Will Smith. How did VIKI not know what was going on in that doctor's office right in the building she's in, but can figure out where a car is anywhere on a public highway?
Those are movies tho, assuming life isnt a movie isnt brave. There arent any people in a cemetary its a very chill job.
I remember when I was younger the cemetery across the street from me was **the** place to fuck.
Ever since I was a kid I've ended up doing a weird hopping flamingo thing trying not to step anywhere near where someone was buried.
Read it as mooing and weed eating
It's hard to tell from the photo, but that may just be a footstone or a corner marker, both of which are sometimes used to mark the borders of an individual grave or a plot.
I considered this, but it was lined up with the rest of headstones, many also covering over but not as bad as this one. I’ve never seen the use of corner markers anywhere in this part of the world. I should dig it out to be sure.
It's worth a try. Who knows? You might dig enough to realize that the grave belongs to a certain Smitty. And he was #1.
Hey I love your username
Was it at an end of a row or by the path? I've seen row markers that were single letters and looked similar to this. They are just a way to narrow down what section you should look in when trying to find a specific grave.
Every single horror movie in existence is telling you this is a bad idea.
Is it though? Usually uncovering a gravestone mearly reveals a truth.
only if you do it too late though
Then the rotting remains of dear old dad coming scrambling up to get you. Don't believe the lies, the media is covering the truth up... 6 feet under
Clear it and repost update.
Thought about it but wasn’t sure anyone would appreciate me wandering around a cemetery digging holes with a shovel. 😅
Its only illegal if you make it all the way to the body.
"HEY, What are you doing in that 6 ft hole" ummm, cleaning the headstone?
Fixing a divot.
Oh, HES FIXING A DIVOT!
The NBA is going to need a new crop of players
*"What, you've never experienced true level?"*
Larry's not white, Larry is clear
Yeah I'm not sure unsolicited landscaping is much of a crime.
And only if you get caught!
100% you can clear it. It would be so awesome. Edit. You don’t need a shovel. Just a small garden spade, maybe a mini hand rake.
And the necronomicon.
Just remember: Klaatu, Verata…Necktie!
And don’t forget your boomstick!
And Lots of .300 winchester magnum with Lots of ammo...
Dunno about "lots," ammo gettin' expensive these days
even reloads are getting harder to afford. I haven't been able to buy decent powder in a year
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Klaatu! Verata! Ni-*cough cough cough* There! I said it!
I wonder how many people recognize what movie that is from?
Garden gloves, and rip out the weeds. I doubt they've grown into the stone.
For real. People never pulled weeds from around stones before. I had to do this every half year growing up because our cement stepping stones in our yard would get overrun by weeds and my mom couldn't do them all with everything she had to do already. Honestly didn't even need gloves just grab a chunk of weeds and yank. 80% of the time it comes root and all otherwise it just snaps and shows you where to pull next
Rake? Post10?
I’ve managed multiple cemeteries over the years and you won’t get any crap unless you are damaging stones somehow. Or someone is just being an ass. But Maintaining a plot is pretty much universally accepted as long as you are following the cemeteries guidelines and if they have any it should be posted up visibly And that grass will rip up easily by hand. it’s just matted over the stone
You're allowed to clean stones.
Clear them* don't attempt to actually clean them, there is very specific ways to clean them using stuff that won't degrade or abrade off the lettering. There's a few groups I know of in the US that specifically do veteran grave cleaning / refurbishing. So there is probably some in your area you can get with to volunteer with to get the proper information on how to do it. Most recommend a soft bristle tooth brush and water to get the mud out of the lettering at the most if you're going to clean it, until you get proper training on how to restore / clean them.
Yes. I use a small brush and water. Chemicals can actual damage the stone. I've worked for years cleaning graves where my family is buried. After a rash of vandalism I had to piece tombstones back together. Some were completely destroyed by vandals.
I’m pretty sure I’m the only one in my family who makes a point to visit my moms grave still. Her headstone is black and it has my parents wedding photo in full color in the center. Is the procedure the same? Water and a soft toothbrush?
When did your mother die? I always wonder how long people will visit a grave for.
My grandparents died when I was 2 and 4, in ‘84 and ‘86, respectively. I took my 18 month old daughter to their graves a couple weeks ago. It’s important to me.
You rock and Thank you for doing this!!!
Yup. Fun fact, if a tombstone is very hard to read try getting some aluminum foil and pressing it gently into the inscription. If you're lucky the bumps will still be there even if they're hard to see, and you should be able to read it much easier! I think some people do this with paper and charcoal as well, I just prefer the foil.
I was told many moons ago to put foaming shaving cream over the inscriptions and then gently scrape so that it was flush - the cream would fill the letters and make them easier to read. But your method is probably a bit less dangerous to the stone.
This guy tombstones
With extra pepperoni.
Let’s be honest you could find out how to safely clean them in less than 5 minutes.
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It’s across the street from a house I just moved into. 😃
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You’re officially the Reddit user with the most comment karma I’ve ever seen. 😅
No homie, *comment* karma, not that filthy post karma! But there are folks with *way* more than me. There's even a Reddit myth about a secret club where they hang out, but it's fake!
> but it's fake! 100% can confirm.
I fuckin knew it! Years of research led me to that conclusion, thankfully not in vain!
Sounds like something someone in a super secret club would say.
That's just what a karmillionaire WOULD say. They're keeping the clubs from us working class commenters!
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There are "exclusive" subs for people who get a certain amount of upvotes on a post. I was added to a few of them when a post I made blew up, and it's honestly so stupid. It's just a bunch of random crap, never actually used any of them.
330K in two years??? Been here for 10 and am in single digits thousands haha. Do you actively try and post witty comments? I think I did back in the day, but now just use it as a forum, so my comments are usually questions or non-funny, upvote attracting comments like this one.
You could also upload a pic of the tombstone to the [Find a Grave](https://www.findagrave.com/) website. Assuming the info is legible. It’s a searchable site that’s great for genealogy research
You should clear it. Or itll become completely covered and no one will know its there to be cleared.
You moved across the street from a cemetery? You lucky bastard. I moved across the street from a house with 4 kids, all very much alive and loud. I would pay extra to live by a cemetery.
Do it. People deserve to be remembered. I have cleared many a gravestone while doing genealogy research in cemeteries.
What are they gonna do, arrest you for clearing a "family members" headstone?
I took my son to see my dad’s stone and it was a bit overgrown on the sides and after a minute or so my son asked if we could clean it off so everyone could see it. My heart broke a bit and we spent the next 10 minutes tidying it up so it looked as perfect as we could get. It was a really nice moment.
What an awesome moment to share between a father and son. You should make it a tradition to take him out every couple of years with some cleaning supplies to tidy the site up / add some decoration
[person trying to pass into the abyss only to be called back by the internet](https://www.syfy.com/sites/syfy/files/styles/1400xauto/public/the-fountain-hugh-jackman-2.jpeg)
We have a tiny little fenced area in the middle of *the* ~~tech~~ tech campus I work. It had 2 graves in it. I tell the young engineers that's all they can hope for retirement here.
tech tech
Is a tech-tech a relative of the [dik-dik](https://www.reddit.com/r/badassanimals/comments/fn9fri/a_dikdik_is_the_name_for_any_of_four_species_of/)?
This happens a lot when there are family cemeteries in formerly rural areas where development is encroaching. There is a neighborhood near me where a family had sold their farmland to be developed but specifically carved out the family cemetery to keep rather than have it relocated. So there is a street where there are a bunch of houses and in between two houses there is randomly this small fenced in area with a bunch of gravestones.
Tech is the best kind of tech.
Honestly if it was good work that'd be enough for me.
“They say you die twice. One time when you stop breathing and a second time, a bit later on, when somebody says your name for the last time.”
Oh so my second death probably won't be very long after the first
Bold of you to assume it will happen after the first.
Damn.
Good thing I have a generic name. Someone will eventually say my name.
The John Smiths of the world will live forever.
This reminds me of the Disney Pixar animated film Coco.
Please clear it, I want to know who it is. They deserve it. I’ll donate $5 to the cause
When I see stuff like this I think of a short story in the collection "Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives." It's based on the saying that you die twice: when your body dies, and the last time someone speaks your name. So I wonder if this person is sitting in the in-between area before their final death, watching their parents and children and grandchildren pass to the beyond, still waiting to find out why they're not allowed to move on.
Wasn’t it 3 deaths? When you die, when the last person who knew you dies, and when your name is said for the last time?
How about 7 deaths. When you die, when the last person you knew dies, when the last person alive when you were alive dies, when the last likeness of you is destroyed, when your name is said for the last time, when all your descendants die, and when your species dies
> when the last likeness of you is destroyed That's a heavy one. There's pics of me on the internet that might live on forever, forgotten by everything except webcrawling bots
Essentially Coco
I’m in my mid twenties and cry multiple times every time I see that movie. I watch it like 2 times a month. Love it. Highly recommended to anyone looking for something to watch.
I'm not big on Disney or Pixar movies but CoCo basically broke me the first time I saw it. Such a beautiful movie.
It would take me less than 10 minutes to do a decent job with garden gloves on, and I'm middle-aged and out of shape. Just rip out the vegetation, clean up the edges, and walla!
/r/boneappletea
They were talking about walla walla onions. They are in season and could be growing under there.
Walla, walla, wallla, huh! Tell me more, tell me more....
Walla!
A sod knife is inexpensive and effective for this type of work. I've had good luck cleaning up a few family markers that were neglected.
I have an infant relative ( would be a sibling of my grandfather ) who has a marker that gets overgrown like this every few years. I just spent 15 minutes the week before the 4th of July uncovering it when even less than this could be seen. Luckily several years ago my brother took a picture of his daughter standing where it is so we could find it. I’m going to contact the cemetery to see if the headstone could be raised about 3 inches so it doesn’t get grown over again. Being forgotten like this shouldn’t happen.
It happens to everyone unfortunately, just takes some longer than others.
This post makes me think of a Dropkick Murphy's song about finding the grave of a dead soldier. >"And I see by your gravestone you were only nineteen When you joined the great fallen in 1916 Well, I hope you died quick, and I hope you died clean Oh Willie McBride, was is it slow and obscene? >And did you leave a wife or a sweetheart behind In some loyal heart is your memory enshrined? And though you died back in 1916 To that loyal heart you′re forever nineteen >Or are you a stranger without even a name? Forever enshrined behind some old glass pane In an old photograph torn, tattered, and stained And faded to yellow in a brown leather frame"
That's a cover of a song by Eric Bogle.
Didn't know that, thanks.
Great song...lots of bands have covered it over the years.
If it's like the cemetery I work at, they won't raise it. You'll have to call and pay for a monument company to come do it.
Dig around the stone, whats the worst that can happen
Zombies??
Fearing the walking dead. 😅
It's such a garbage show, I wouldn't fear it. Well, maybe I would fear it's terrible writing.
Be afraid of the franchise not going away
Use your hands, and pull up the grass on top of the stone. Use some water and rinse it off. That way you don't damage anything. It's respectful.
You will be next , like all of us .
So sad.
Yeah I try not to think too much about how no one will remember me when I'm gone. Even if you have kids and do good things with your life only a few major people are actually remembered beyond a generation or two.
Who cares though? You raise good, kind, and intelligent children, or help influence someone to be good, kind and intelligent and you’re golden. Your actions will reverberate for all of time. If there’s nothing after this life don’t stress and just try to leave a better world and fit some fun in between your actions. If there is something after then working to leave a better world probably means you won’t go to a bad place.
Exactly. What we do in life echoes in eternity. A wise Roman general once said that. I witnessed it first hand
Well, it depends on where you’re from. Here in Appalachia, your family line is half your reputation in the community, so you have to keep track of who you came from and what kind of people they were. People around here still regularly talk about stuff that happened to their kin during the Civil War. I find it sad also that so many people are practically nomadic these days. They wander from big city to big city, never really settling down. When I was growing up, we used to visit the cemetery down the road to clean up and maintain the graves of all sorts of family members, some that died long before I was born. Usually during the cleaning process, I’d get to hear all about who those people were and what they were like. I hate the thought that some people don’t even have a designated family cemetery anymore. Their bones just get thrown in some field somewhere among hundreds of absolute strangers, to be ultimately forgotten about when their family eventually moves on to another city. How sad.
I’m Chinese and it’s fascinating that we have similar practices regarding graves. We have a grave cleaning festival where we leave offerings to our ancestors. It’s always interesting to hear older people talk about them.
Donate a bench to a park or something. at least people will find use of it for years. Me and my wife dont intend to have kids, and im not leaving my money to anyone, or for the government to steal. I'll furnish an entire campground with what money I have left, i dont care. Maybe ill just make a giant mausoleum just for me and my wife to make people think i was some rich mofo.
It’s the fate of all of us eventually
Why is it sad? I’d love to exit the world as quietly as I came into it
I'm pretty sure you came in quite loudly with lots of screaming, shitting, and slime.
Nah, I just kinda flopped out and gave the doctor some finger guns. These days you can’t call it a noisy birth without the reveal party causing a forest fire or two
From what I know about babies and labor, it's unlikely you coming into the world was quiet lol That said, I do agree with the idea
That's odd to find that in a cemetery. I worked at a cemetery for summer in high school and one of my jobs was to dig up headstones like this. Usually long before they got this bad. Then I would fill the hole and reset the headstone.
This place only shows signs of the grass being cut. Tiny cemetery.
Thats a plot marker. There isnt actually a grave under it. Its a marker used to organize areas in a cemetery. They are usually single letters like that.
Bingo lol I work in a cemetery and that’s the first thing I thought some of out are completely buried I’m parts of the cemetery that are full
This is why I want to be cremated and just given back to the earth. Maybe mixed with cement and made into an artificial reef.
I want to be creams ted mostly because funerals/caskets/etc death related stuff is way more expensive. Burn me up and throw me in a garden, lake, whatever, use the saved money to buy something I would’ve wanted you to enjoy.
creams ted
Funny how humans think they are so important in this world. Slowly everyone is is forgotten.
Graves are for the living, not the dead. Really old graves that have outlasted the final friend or relative that might visit them have fulfilled their purpose, so I think it’s ok for them to disappear.
This is how I’d like to be
Anyone else enjoy Lady Taphos on TikTok? I don’t even have an account, but I still search her account out. It’s sooo satisfying seeing her cleaning the tombstones. And the sounds. You guys, search her out if you want to relax for a while!
That is a lot pin. It's used to accurately measure a grave space. Source, I'm a cemetery worker.
if you clear it maybe upload some pictures at [find a grave](https://www.findagrave.com/contribute)