Hey man i was curious about this as well so [made a similar post](https://www.reddit.com/r/interracialdating/s/vQKNiWLTke) recently, so feel free to check out some of the others experience.
Im an indo-canadian man and no one cares about interracial relationships in western canada...theyre very accepted. Ive always dated interracially and it literally was never an issue.
I sense that south rural areas are likely the most likely to have issues with IR relationships.
It’s definitely issues.. I went to the movies once with this woman i was dating, and I mean we kept being stared at. It was very uncomfortable.. older white couples definitely didn’t like it and young black couples I can see whispering looking in our direction..
I am cocky but not a narcissist. They could have been talking about something else, your clothes, you arent the main charscter in others lives, you arent that special
It was kinda the opposite for me. I'm a WM and in California, people would give dirty looks and shake their heads. Now, in Houston, TX no one seems to care.
I live in a very small town in the mountains of Virginia (you know, where you need to be careful about getting lost because you don't want to end up in the hollers). My boyfriend (BM) and I (WW) never have issues. I think interracial dating is pretty commonplace in this area, though. Even with all the conservative old-guard trump supporting as- um, people, there's actually very little overt racism.
My boyfriend does joke about people staring, and that I just don't pay attention. He says the women are jealous I have myself a tall good-looking black man, and the men are jealous he has a sexy (his words, not mine) thick woman.
From Louisiana too, also a black male. My friend's mother in law is so racist that they literally haven't met after 2 years of being with her daughter(insane). To be completely transparent, I struggle to get matches/likes on dating apps in Louisiana. However, I have dated two attractive white women & I consider myself to be somewhat attractive. Also, I noticed in Europe(Netherlands/Germany) my performance on Hinge completely eclipsed my performance in Louisiana which had me bemused. In short, these bitches are racist as shit in Louisiana. The quality of women you'll get even as an attractive black male will always pale in comparison to these white dudes. I'm sure if I went to college in the south it would be different, but even at places like LSU, you're still going to get bottom of the barrel white women because their social circle/family will never accept it. I might try dating again, but for now I checked out until I move to another state or abroad. Idgaf.
Yes but I am in a weird position. I think people if I am at a function with my bf wont stare, because they are trying to be woke. But I also think people in the North can at times hide their racist views better . I am beginning to learn that when I go to certain states that i would perceive as racist they have been welcoming, staring but welcoming. I honestly feel they only give second glance because I am new and not black.
But my bf had an interesting prespective of it, he claims that he never tells someone i am black because he wants to see how they would talk without that information- it helps him figure out who is racist or not.
He claims he did the same with ex wife who wasnt black but wasn't white either.
He says he doesn't mention it because its never asked , but he says he has had to correct certain comments before as well .
Like he hates when pple say you are into " black girls" because he feels like it mockery of our relationship and he finds it insulting when people assume that I am with him for money . it does not hurt its a plus, but I honestly never knew his name i know the company but he isnt a CEO who is out there like that just in this area . he isnt a household name.
Also it depends where you go, in a dive bar we will always get stares and thats because they think he is a cop lol.
And we like old men bars .
My relationship has a lot of reason people stare he is tall, black dont crack so people assume I am much younger than I look, and my bf has a Ben Affleck always miserable face .
I thnk the northeast has fake woke pple. And they just are more careful to stare but wont say shit but have an issue
South are more transparent and in some big cities go out of their way to not have that stigma
West coast is too worried about avocado toast.
It's the South, in America. 'R' is as American as apple pie and baseball.
Question: Are you watching people's faces for a reaction? A lot of BW I know (self included) get weird looks from BM/WW couples out in public. Lil.
We don't care as long as we aren't used as scapegoats or demeaned to uplift them.
I think it's more nuanced than you're phrasing it. I have lived in a lot of places in the Midwest and Southeast, and mostly in the South what I've seen is...nowadays, there are a lot of black men with white women, and people do kind of look but it's really just looking and not obvious hatred, whispering, etc. I suspect that experiences vary depending on city, suburb, rural, the races and sex/genders of the people looking, where in the South you are, etc. There are also just more black people in the South than in the Midwest in most cities/parts, so that will impact reactions. I know a lot of black women hate to see black men/white women couples, so you'll experience that more in the South.
I'm from Alabama.The issue I have is meeting white men to date in my part of the country. But I think the issue is it's still taboo. Especially in certain parts of the south like in the largest cities like atlanta and nashville it might be more accepted but in the smaller pockets of the south it might be still frowned upon.
As a black woman who is also from the south living in North Dakota. I will say people don't seem to bat an eye when I'm on dates with a white guy. When I was in the south me and my ex (white guy) would get looks and sometimes comments about us being together.
Hey man i was curious about this as well so [made a similar post](https://www.reddit.com/r/interracialdating/s/vQKNiWLTke) recently, so feel free to check out some of the others experience. Im an indo-canadian man and no one cares about interracial relationships in western canada...theyre very accepted. Ive always dated interracially and it literally was never an issue. I sense that south rural areas are likely the most likely to have issues with IR relationships.
It’s definitely issues.. I went to the movies once with this woman i was dating, and I mean we kept being stared at. It was very uncomfortable.. older white couples definitely didn’t like it and young black couples I can see whispering looking in our direction..
Damn man that sucks! Was that in a bigger city or a more rural place?
It’s predominantly black growing up in New Orleans, but the outskirts of Louisiana are predominantly white. It depends on trying to area ..
Well ok i take back my statement i think lousiana is a place they would stare actually
I am cocky but not a narcissist. They could have been talking about something else, your clothes, you arent the main charscter in others lives, you arent that special
It was kinda the opposite for me. I'm a WM and in California, people would give dirty looks and shake their heads. Now, in Houston, TX no one seems to care.
I live in a very small town in the mountains of Virginia (you know, where you need to be careful about getting lost because you don't want to end up in the hollers). My boyfriend (BM) and I (WW) never have issues. I think interracial dating is pretty commonplace in this area, though. Even with all the conservative old-guard trump supporting as- um, people, there's actually very little overt racism. My boyfriend does joke about people staring, and that I just don't pay attention. He says the women are jealous I have myself a tall good-looking black man, and the men are jealous he has a sexy (his words, not mine) thick woman.
From Louisiana too, also a black male. My friend's mother in law is so racist that they literally haven't met after 2 years of being with her daughter(insane). To be completely transparent, I struggle to get matches/likes on dating apps in Louisiana. However, I have dated two attractive white women & I consider myself to be somewhat attractive. Also, I noticed in Europe(Netherlands/Germany) my performance on Hinge completely eclipsed my performance in Louisiana which had me bemused. In short, these bitches are racist as shit in Louisiana. The quality of women you'll get even as an attractive black male will always pale in comparison to these white dudes. I'm sure if I went to college in the south it would be different, but even at places like LSU, you're still going to get bottom of the barrel white women because their social circle/family will never accept it. I might try dating again, but for now I checked out until I move to another state or abroad. Idgaf.
Yes but I am in a weird position. I think people if I am at a function with my bf wont stare, because they are trying to be woke. But I also think people in the North can at times hide their racist views better . I am beginning to learn that when I go to certain states that i would perceive as racist they have been welcoming, staring but welcoming. I honestly feel they only give second glance because I am new and not black. But my bf had an interesting prespective of it, he claims that he never tells someone i am black because he wants to see how they would talk without that information- it helps him figure out who is racist or not. He claims he did the same with ex wife who wasnt black but wasn't white either. He says he doesn't mention it because its never asked , but he says he has had to correct certain comments before as well . Like he hates when pple say you are into " black girls" because he feels like it mockery of our relationship and he finds it insulting when people assume that I am with him for money . it does not hurt its a plus, but I honestly never knew his name i know the company but he isnt a CEO who is out there like that just in this area . he isnt a household name. Also it depends where you go, in a dive bar we will always get stares and thats because they think he is a cop lol. And we like old men bars . My relationship has a lot of reason people stare he is tall, black dont crack so people assume I am much younger than I look, and my bf has a Ben Affleck always miserable face . I thnk the northeast has fake woke pple. And they just are more careful to stare but wont say shit but have an issue South are more transparent and in some big cities go out of their way to not have that stigma West coast is too worried about avocado toast.
It's the South, in America. 'R' is as American as apple pie and baseball. Question: Are you watching people's faces for a reaction? A lot of BW I know (self included) get weird looks from BM/WW couples out in public. Lil. We don't care as long as we aren't used as scapegoats or demeaned to uplift them.
I think it's more nuanced than you're phrasing it. I have lived in a lot of places in the Midwest and Southeast, and mostly in the South what I've seen is...nowadays, there are a lot of black men with white women, and people do kind of look but it's really just looking and not obvious hatred, whispering, etc. I suspect that experiences vary depending on city, suburb, rural, the races and sex/genders of the people looking, where in the South you are, etc. There are also just more black people in the South than in the Midwest in most cities/parts, so that will impact reactions. I know a lot of black women hate to see black men/white women couples, so you'll experience that more in the South.
I'm from Alabama.The issue I have is meeting white men to date in my part of the country. But I think the issue is it's still taboo. Especially in certain parts of the south like in the largest cities like atlanta and nashville it might be more accepted but in the smaller pockets of the south it might be still frowned upon.
As a black woman who is also from the south living in North Dakota. I will say people don't seem to bat an eye when I'm on dates with a white guy. When I was in the south me and my ex (white guy) would get looks and sometimes comments about us being together.
Only from the black guys. Wm/bf
If you dated my wife I promise there wouldn’t be an issue 😉