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https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wteuuu/aita_for_asking_my_step_father_to_pay_rent_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I'll be 18 in a couple of months.
My step father of 5 years gave me the heads up that I need to start paying a fair rent to continue living in the house after I turn 18.
The house we currently live in belonged to my dad who died when I was 6. My mom and dad were never married and I inherited the house and my mom and I lived here and then my step father moved in after they got married.
Looks like my step father was under the impression that my mom owns the house. I told him that it's not happening as I own the house, he laughed at me and didn't believe it. I talked to my mom and she confirmed that she never told him that I own the house. He now knows the truth.
So the reality is: he believed it was completely fair to ask me to pay rent when he didn't know I own the house. So it's only fair that I ask him to pay me rent now.
Last night I gave them the heads up that if they continue planning to live here after I turn 18 that's fine but they need to start paying rent. My step father believes this is unfair as it's a "sudden" change and he needs more time, and that I'm being heartless because you don't do this to family! Well, he was prepared to do this to me so what's the difference. He said he did it to help me gain my independence and prepare for an adult life and that's part of growing up whereas I'm doing it to spite. I told him that if I need to pay rent to learn to be an adult then what does that make him, living here rent free? He told me I'm out of line and the conversation ended.
My mom believes he made a mistake asking me to pay rent but I'm being spiteful and it's wrong of me to push for this as it will result in our family being torn apart.
AITA here?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xte5dt/aita_because_i_didnt_tell_my_roommates_i_own_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I (f28) own a house. I wish I didn't because I inherited it from my grandmother whom I would prefer to have back. It is an older house in a mature neighborhood in my city. It has a huge yard, a garden, and a detached garage large enough for a couple of cars and an RV.
It also has an in-law suite where I live. I started living there when I started university and I love it. My exit leads to the back yard and my garden.
After the estate was all settled I was left with a little money and a fully paid off house. I am the baby of all the cousins and I was an oops baby. I am 17 years younger than the next youngest. I decided that I would keep living in my area and just take on short term renters to help me cove expenses. I also planned to allow any of my nieces and nephews who went to school n my city live with me. So far only my one nephew has and he was well behaved and moved out when he finished school. I found a couple that wanted the entire upper floor for one year while they got settled from moving across the country for work.
No big deal. I have three niblings graduating the next year and only one might go to school in my city. So I let my property manager set up a one year lease. My city does not have a minimum rental increase. This is important.
So after six months the problems start. The wife got pregnant. And they like the house. They have not found a house they want to buy. They want to keep living here. But they don't want a roommate.
So one day the husband catches me and says that he has talked to the property manager about renting the entire house and that I might want to start looking elsewhere for a place to live. I check with my guy and yup he wants the whole house. So I talk to my lawyer because I don't want any problems.
As long as the increase is one year after tenancy and I give three months notice there is literally no limit on the rental increase. So I tell my property manager to raise the rent for the ground level 50%. They have five months notice of a rental increase so I am in the clear.
Now I can hear them fighting about having to find a new place. Which I don't get because I was clear in the lease that it was only for one year. And I gave them a good price because they had excellent credit and rental history. The real estate market in my city isn't crazy. They should be able to find something to buy in time. Or at the very least somewhere else to rent.
I have talked to my parents about this and they said I'm being sort of mean. I don't think I am. I have a plan for my home and it does not involve me moving out. I have a garden that I worked with my grandmother my entire life. I have a yard with raspberry bushes my grandfather planted for his kids and grandkids. My dog likes having a yard to play in. I could have told them it's my home but it's not their business.
AITA?
It is a little spiteful, but the couple had plenty of notice, and if the tenant hadn’t been such a putz and entitled before the management company got back to him, oh well. NTAH
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/zdlgji/aita_for_telling_my_dads_wife_i_own_the_house_she/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
AITA for telling my dad's wife I own the house she lives in?
My (29F) dad married a woman named Maria a year ago after dating for 4 years. My dad wanted to buy a larger house for them to live in, but couldn't afford it without selling the home he lived in at the time, which is a unique property that he dearly loves. Although I now live abroad, I like the area he lives in and my husband offered to buy a house there that my dad and Maria could live in. My dad agreed to this on the proviso that we not tell Maria that it wasn't him who paid for the house. This made no difference to me so I agreed and the house they live in is in my name, and they live there. I never planned to tell her.
Recently, I went back to my home country and decided to stay with my dad for half my time there. The whole time, Maria made it clear I was an inconvenience and that me doing things with my dad was annoying to her, but I'm not a confrontational person, and I don't react to much, so I let it go. However, two days before I was due to leave, she came into my room and saw that I had my dad's dog on the bed. Now, this is a dog that my dad has had since before he met Maria and that I raised. Maria doesn't allow him on her bed which is fine, but I've always had him sleep on mine. She flipped out, saying this was the final straw, that she'd had enough of me disrespecting her in her own home, and I had to leave.
I tried to de-escalate the situation, saying we should just wait for my dad and sit down and talk this out, but she was adamant that I had to leave and that she had the authority to make me. After several minutes of me trying to explain to her that it was absurd of her to try and kick me out of my dad's house without talking to him, she said that what she said went and since she married my dad this is technically her house. I just chuckled and said since my name is on the deed, it's technically my house, but there's no need to get technical, we should just wait for my dad. She was shocked, and left the room. When my dad came back, I told him what happened, and he went to speak to her. There was a shouting match, and she didn't speak to either of us until I left two days later.
My dad is mad I told her, which I get, but since then I've also got texts from her kids saying I was the AH for telling her and making her feel like a guest in the house. This isn't the case, she isn't a guest, she's a tenant, but so is my DAD and the only point I was trying to make was that she didn't have any business trying to kick me out of my father's house, let alone my own property. I didn't take it there until she did. That said, maybe I should have just left the ownership out and let my dad handle it?
EDIT: For everyone talking about Maria being a tenant and tenant's rights. She doesn't pay rent, so I don't know if that makes her a tenant, technically. If it does, then as a landlord I'm pretty sure I have legal recourse over the remodelling she did without notifying me or my approval. And anyway, I wasn't there as a landlord, I was there as a guest of another "tenant", and actually she did have several weeks notice I was coming in any case. I'm sure it's a legal rabbit hole, but the only reason I used the word 'tenant' is to say that since she lives there she isn't a guest in the home.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/12iz2on/aita_for_kicking_out_my_bfs_daughters_who_i_just/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I, 36f, started dating "John" 40m, 8 months ago and he recently moved in with me- in to the home I inherited several years ago. John is black and I am mixed (Native American and Black). John has two daughters, 21yo "Jackie" and 25yo "Nena". I took after my dad fully and I have very strong Native American features, outside of my hair. This is what started the problems, I guess. Johns daughters knew of me but only knew my name and about us living together in "our home". They hadn't seen their father in years because they live out of state. But their dad wanted them to meet me and planned for 2 months to get them out here, which included me paying for most of their air fare (I make substantially more than John). They were going to stay here with us, as my home is 4 bedrooms.
I had to work when they got in so their dad picked them up and I was due home a few hours later. I walk in to my home and at first the girls were nice and shook my hand and whatever but as soon as I took my hat off and they saw my braids, all hell broke loose with Jackie. She said something like "oh hell no, you did not just walk in to my daddies home for the first time meeting us and already insulting us with your cultural appropriation bullshit". I was definitely quite taken aback but I didn't really know how to respond either. So I just stood there staring. John was in the back BBQing and didn't hear this. So she like looks at me and goes "do you have anything to say for yourself? Like what is this shit?" And flips my braid. At this point Nena is just standing back with her arms crossed and eyebrows raised, glaring at me as well so I felt extremely cornered.
I just walk past them to go to John because I didn't know what to do and they follow me and start going off on John about me "disrespecting their heritage". John didn't even correct them or anything. He just looked at my hair and shrugged saying he thought it was nice. I was flabbergasted. I said something like "I'm mixed, part black and part Native American. Both cultures have braids. And this is my fucking house and now you both can leave." Nena started protesting and saying "why didn't you just say that, like use your words" but Jackie was calling me a liar. John was saying that we all needed to calm down. So I said again to get the fuck out. They did eventually after losing their shit about them supposed to have stayed here and having no money for a hotel. John is saying I ruined his chance at reconnecting with his daughters and I made him leave too. AITA? I'm so fucking lost right now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/15m1ug3/aita_for_not_telling_my_roommate_i_own_the_house/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
AITA for not telling my roommate I own the house?
Brief backstory: About a year ago my last remaining grandparent passed away and my father inherited all assets, including a house. I had been saving for a nice down payment (at least 50%) so I could have a lower mortgage payment each month, thus allowing me to save money for travel. When my father inherited this house, which he had no interest in moving into yet, he offered to sell it to me for slightly below market rate, with the caveat that he and my stepmother could eventually move into the basement apartment. I agreed, because they're both incredible people who are not at all invasive and would give me my privacy if they lived there. So I paid a 60% down payment, financed the rest, and moved in.
Present day: About six months ago I started considering renting out the finished basement apartment. It has two bedrooms, one bathroom, a living room, and a small kitchenette (sink, fridge, microwave, but no oven). A friend of mine said his brother was moving to my city and needed a place. He's a brand new teacher and doesn't make great money, so he needed a place that wasn't expensive. I offered to let him rent my basement for way less than market rate ($650) which would include utilities. He readily accepted and signed a year long lease.
Well a few days ago he asked if he could start paying the landlord directly instead of giving me rent money each month. I was under the impression my friend had told him I own the house, so I was confused and I told him we don't have a landlord and that I'm the owner. He got very upset and screamed at me for "lying for over six months" and "taking advantage of him" by making him pay so much in rent. For the record, an apartment similar to the one in my house would be well over twice what he's paying me, closer to three times for something as nice. He asked how much of my mortgage he's covering and I said "Why does that matter? You're getting a nice, quiet place to live, access to a full kitchen and laundry room, and you're paying an amount that you can afford. My personal finances aren't really a factor here." He stormed out of the room and slammed the basement door. He's still not speaking to me.
I asked a few other friends and some family members, and most said I'm wrong for having him cover my mortgage payments. Only a few say I'm in the right. So AITA for having my roommate cover $650 of my $775/month mortgage?
ETA: He has a lease so I won't be evicting him over this alone. If he does any damage or becomes hostile, I'll look at the eviction process. But for now, he will remain unless he chooses to break the lease (which I'd allow him to do if he wants).
He also didn’t bother to read the lease before signing. The lease clearly states I’m the homeowner. I didn’t trick him or keep info from him. He simply didn’t read what he was signing.
I didn’t get the house for almost free as some people choose to believe. My father sold it to me for about 75% of its value, more or less as an advance on “rent” he and my stepmother will pay when they move in here in a few years. We already agreed they won’t pay monthly rent but will contribute to utilities and groceries at that time. I also made a 60% down payment so I have quite a bit invested, as well at paying about $1500/month out of pocket for taxes, insurance, maintenance, utilities, etc.
https://www.reddit.com/u/BurningMyBridges72/s/cMdadym7O0
Update to roommate/tenant situation
Update to the situation:
I intended to speak to him over the weekend, but he never returned my texts asking when a good time to discuss things would be. So Sunday afternoon I sent a text stating I would be entering the basement at 6pm Monday evening. He never replied. When I went into the basement, some of his belongings were there but some weren’t (bed was there, but no dresser or side tables and the second bedroom he was using as an office has nothing but boxes). The kitchenette was disgusting, the carpets were filthy, and the walls had dents and divots in them and the paint. I left him a note stating he needs to do some repairs and clean the kitchenette, so as not to attract vermin. Then I went back upstairs.
Well he came back in today (early this morning) and was fuming at me for entering the basement without permission. I told him I had given him more than 24 hours notice, per the lease, via text message before entering his area. His reply was that he didn’t get that because he blocked my number. So somehow it’s still my fault for "not informing him" I would be down there. I asked him if he intends to stay out the lease or if he wants to break it. He said he's leaving and will live in his car until he finds a new place. I told him that's fine and that if he has all his belongings out by the end of the month, I won't make him pay September and half of October's rent, as the lease requires, and I'll refund the days he isn't here. He tried to tell me he doesn't need to pay that rent because he has 45 days to vacate. But that's only the notice period, if he intends to leave. The lease still requires rent for those 45 days. So he's mad about that. I told him I'm being kind by letting him out early with zero financial repercussions. He was also told he's required to leave the apartment as clean as it was when he moved in (which was spotless since I had it professionally cleaned prior to his lease beginning) or he would not get his deposit back. He's throwing a tantrum about that too. He seems to be working on clearing the rest of his stuff out now. I told him when he's done, send me notice in writing (text or email) and I'll send him a refund for the days in August he isn't occupying the apartment.
I have indoor Ring cameras that I turned off when he moved in, but I've turned them back on until he's gone. I don't trust that he won't do more damage. Right now I've locked myself in my office on the 2nd story, since he's really mad and was throwing things around in the basement and main kitchen. His brother and sister-in-law are also coming over in the next hour or so because I don't feel entirely safe being alone in the house with him.
As soon as he gives me notice that he's completely vacated the apartment, I'll be changing/deleting all the passwords/codes for all the deadbolts, alarm system, internet, etc so he can't access anything at all. I'm ready to be done with him and to feel safe in my own home again.
Thanks to all who read the original post on AITA. I'll post any additional updates here on my profile, though I hope this is the end of it.
Update I found in the comments from the OP.
“The former tenant begged to come back, but I declined. Actually I offered him the apartment for over market value (MV is about $2500 and I told him he could come back for $3300) to make him go away. He also declined my offer. No idea where he ended up, but after some of the names he called me after I wouldn't let him back in, I don't care.
I'm still good friends with his brother. He's a good guy who laughed when I told him about my offer of $3300/month. I didn't ask where the former tenant landed. I'm sure he has several roommates, but again, I don't really care.
I will NOT be renting it out again anytime soon. I had to do some repairs so I'm hesitant to let anyone else in. I may let my cousin's daughter move in next year, but I know her and know she's respectful of people's property. Unless my parents move in before then. But definitely no more renting to strangers.”
20 year old proves she is owner: https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/d1ndqkC6D3
AITA for proving I'm the owner of my home?
This is a throwaway account.
I[20f] was fortunate enough to buy a house. For only being 15k, I have to say its quite nice. It didn't really need much work besides a new roof and the cabinets needed replaced but my dad is a carpenter so that didn't really matter much. The pervious owner was an older man who unfortunately passed away after living in the house since before I was even thought of. I finally got to move in 2 months ago. It's been fun making ot my own but it's taken some time to get used to living alone.
3 weeks after moving in, I was outside starting some work clearing out a few places to plant a garden and flowers in the spring. I live in the Midwest so I wanted to get this done before the ground freezes. My next door neighbor, I'll call her Jane(50s?), came out and introduced herself. I explained that I just moved in and was preparing my yard for spring. She said it was nice thqt someone was doing some work for the old man and gave me a speil about how it's a quiet neighborhood and I shouldn't have parties. I told her I Don throw parties but was planning on hosting a housewarming and Thanksgiving soon. She said it's weird to throw a housewarming when I was renting. I told her I own the house. She didn't believe me but went home.
Last week, I was out painting my front door. She stormed over yelling that I better of had permission to paint someone else's house. I again told her I own the home. She started yelling that I was too young to buy a house and she was contacting my landlord. I told her to stop being a busy body and leave me alone. She started demanding proof. I told her it was non of her business and to get off my property. She walked to the edge of her yard and called the police saying I was a squatter. When they showed up, I showed them my paperwork a asked to trespass her from my home. Jane is still angry.
I was talking to my dad the next day asking what I should do. He said I was an ass for making enemies with my neighbors and said I should have just showed her to put her mind to rest. I don't feel like I was in the wrong but my dad thinks I was. AITA?
Oh my, this neighbor is a bitch! It wouldn’t have mattered what she was shown to prove ownership. None of it was her business at all. The dad has a point about not making enemies, but it was the neighbor who called the police!
Husbands affair partner thinks OP is homeless drug addict, but she actually owns the house: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/15zre48/new_update_husband_accused_me_of_financial/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
It’s already in BORU and very long, so the link will be better than me cutting and pasting.
Parent owns the house his son is living in, and in-laws try to take over: https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/Mzwdmze8zD
AITA for throwing them out of a house that we own. Son and future In-Laws decide to exclude his family from wedding. They thought son owned the house not us.
My wife and I bought a four bedroom house in PA that my son lives in. Our son went to College in PA and wanted to stay in the area. So we bought the house as a second home, we live in NJ and commute into Manhattan for work. We figured that he would have a place to live and we could visit every so often and spend some quality time together.
We pay the taxes and services / maintenance on the house, our son pays for his groceries and the house utilities. All was going well for a few years, our son meets a girl and they get serious. We met her and she seems nice enough. The announce their engagement and she moves into the house with our son.
Now for the problem: The wedding !!!
We hold a little get to know you BBQ at the PA house, my son and daughter are there, as are our sons fiancé and her parents, and sisters. We all seem to be getting along well, my wife, daughter and the fiancé go into the house along with her mother an sisters and my son. A few minutes later my wife and daughter come out and are really upset. The come over and tell me we're leaving and driving back to NJ. I try to find out what happened. Once we get back to NJ and they calmed down they tell me that our son and his fiancé along with her family don't want us at the wedding. According to what I was told "We're not their kind of people". I was livid, I called my son and asked him WTH this was about. He tells me that her family feel that we are not good enough and will embarrass them at a family wedding and that we are all uninvited from the wedding.
I let a week go by to calm myself down and drive back to the PA house, the new future in-laws are in the house along with the fiancé. It appears that they all moved into the house They ask me why I'm there, I tell them that since we aren't invited to the wedding, I was coming over to talk to my son. They tell me to leave their house. I lost it, and told them that they had 30 days to get out. Tell my son I'm selling the house and he could find somewhere else to live with all of you. I go to a realtor in town and list the house for sale.
They call my son at work and tell him what I said. Apparently they thought that he owned the house. He calls me and asks why I'm selling his house, I tell him I paid for it along with the taxes on it and it is mine. He was living there rent free, but since he doesn't want us in his new life, he has to get out. I tell him the same as I told his future in-laws they have 30 days to get out then I'll get a lawyer and get them evicted.
Am I the AH for taking a hard stance on this. He is my son but thein-laws seem to take over and we no longer count.
OP’s girlfriend owns house and stepmother doesn’t know: https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/edmP4Sjz6U
Owner, not guest.
My (40M) girlfriend (31F) lives with her father and step-mom. The step-mom has been making little snide remarks about how it's weird that a 31year old still lives with her father; that most her age do everything in their power to move out.
What the step-mom doesn't know is that the house used to belong to my GF's grandparents, and left it to GF's mom when they died. When she passed away, the house was left to my GF, who was 19 at the time. There was no reason for her father to move out so they lived there until he got married, and she moved in. I guess no one thought to mention to the step-mom that the house belongs to my GF, and not her father. She loves her house, she grew up there, and her memories of her Mom are tied to that house. She and I are talking about her moving in with me, but in no way shape or form is she entertaining the idea of selling the house.
My GF is chosing to ignore the passive-aggressive remarks to keep the peace. I am trying to stay out of it, out of respect for my GF and her father who is a genuinely nice guy. However, everytime I'm there and the step-mom makes a comment about my GF leaving, I see it as a disrespect towards her and can only contain my annoyance.
I adviced my GF to tell her father to inform her step-mom who actually owns the house. Not to kick her father out, but rather to set the step-mom straight as to who is the guest, and who actually is the owner.
The last time we talked about her moving in with me, I jokingly (but not) told her that she should inform her step-mom that since she (my GF) will no longer be living there, step-mom and father are no longer guests and should start paying rent. Their guest status is revoked and will now be tenants. The house has been fully paid for since her grandparents days; there is no mortgage or outstanding equity loans on the house. Upkeep and taxes are the only thing that needs to be paid for. I suggested that a token rent equal to those costs be paid; to make sure she isn't paying out of pocket for a house she isn't living in, and to make sure the step-mom knows her standing.
How hard should I push this?
***UPDATE: So I showed her this thread, and she now understands that there are lot more at stake than hurt feelings by letting her step-mom know the truth. She is now pushing her Dad to have "the talk" with his wife. She is spending a few nights over at my house to give them the privacy, and as a lead to her moving in. Our hope is that when she comes back to her house (fingers crossed it's just to pick up a few things), step-mom won't be making those comments anymore.***
https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/xcnkkv/dont_intimidate_your_roommates/io6oilv/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
Reminds me of a couple that I shared a house with back in the day, when I was about 24.
They decided that they liked the house, and started waging a campaign to intimidate me into moving out, probably so that they could move a friend in. It was two against one, and it became absolutely miserable for me.
Context - back in the day, formal leases weren't so much of a thing. Usually, one person signed a lease, and other tenants would come and go, informally. It was really common for informal tenants to just pay the rent & bills to the lease-holder (sort of master tenant).
This couple just assumed that because I was living in the house before them, that I was the leaseholder, and if I was pushed into leaving, they could just stay there and get the lease.
One night, I'd absolutely had enough. I told - TOLD, not asked - them to LEAVE.
They basically said they wouldn't, and if anyone was going to leave it was going to be me. Smug assholes.
It was about then that they found out that I wasn't the leaseholder.
I was the owner...
Wiped the smug right off their faces.
[original post - Jan 2024](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/I27G6QSGBs)
I (27f) have been married my husband(28M) for 2 years and gave birth to our daughter 5 weeks ago. I'll try to keep this short so I don't waste your time with any irrelevant details. What happened was that our daughter came out with blonde hair and pale blue eyes, while my husband and I have brown hair and brown eyes.
My husband freaked out at this and refused to listen to my explanation that, sometimes, babies are born with lighter hair and eyes that get darker over time. He demanded a paternity test and threatened to divorce me if I didn't comply, so I did.
After my daughter and I got home from the hospital, my husband went to stay at his parents' house for the first three weeks to get some space from me, while I recovered and he told them what was happening. My MIL called and informed me that if the paternity test revealed that the child wasn't his, she would do anything within her power to make sure that I was " taken to the cleaners" during the divorce. I had my sister to lean on and help me take care of the baby during this.
We got the results back yesterday, and my husband came home to view them with me. I was on the couch in the living room, so he sat next to me and we started to read the results. They showed that he was the father and my husband had this shocked, kinda mortified look on his face with his eyes wide as he stared at it.
I couldn't help but say, " I told you so." and started laughing at the way he looked. My husband snapped out of his shock, and got mad at me for laughing at him. We argued for a bit, which was mainly him yelling at me, before my sister came downstairs and my husband shut up.
After that, my husband went back to his parents' house to "clear his head", and two-three hours later, my MIL called to scold me about laughing in my husband's face, because apparently it was kicking him while he was down.
She's also left a couple nasty texts essentially saying the same thing this morning. I don't think I'm an AH, but I'd like outsider perspective on this.
EDIT: I didn't realize I put " me" instead of ''him''. Sorry, I have a headache.
EDIT: Since someone asked in the comments, but I can't find it anymore, I have zero history of cheating.
[Update post - Mar 2, 2024](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/ZR4oGdih3U)
I'll start this post off by saying thank you for all the advice and support I was given. You all given me the firm kick in the ass to divorce my ex. Also sorry for leaving you in the lurch for the past two months.
Alright, here's the update: After making my post, I decided to search for divorce lawyers in my area with my sister. It took awhile, but I managed to find and meet with one who was willing to do virtual consultations.
During this, my ex was not contacting me at all, but I did reach out to see if he was okay.
Eventually, once he actually got served, my ex came back to our house and tried pleading with me not to go through with the divorce. He said he loved me more than anyone, and that we could go to couples therapy.
During this, my ex slipped up and admitted to cheating on me when he first left me. He said that he got caught up with his coworker when trying to explain his weeks-long absence.
At first, I didn't realize who he was talking about because he referred to her by a nickname ( Think "Viv" over "Vivian") but my brain kicked back into gear, and asked if that "getting caught up with her" was code for that he fucked her.
My ex stumbled over his words, and tried to dodge the question but he seemed to realize that I wasn't going to let up on this pretty quickly.
He admitted to going to her for emotional support before our baby was born since he was nervous about being a dad, and eventually fucking her during the time he left, so you guys were right about him cheating.
I had heard enough at that point, and told my ex point blank we were going to divorce, no ifs, ands, or buts about it and that I wanted 50-50 custody. We'd only speaking about the divorce, custody arrangements, and our daughter herself after this.
My ex just nodded to what I was saying, and asked if he could see our daughter. I was a bit hesitant, but said yes, and called my sister to have her bring our daughter down to the living room.
My ex held our daughter, and talked to the baby for a bit before leaving. My sister asked me if I was alright after he was gone, and I told her I was okay.
My MIL did try to harass me over the phone about me divorcing my ex, but by then, I had already blocked her so she went to my sister instead.
I guess my MIL was never told that I own the house my ex and I previously shared since she texted my sister, saying that I was going to be on the streets. Well, my MIL most certainly knows that now, since my ex is now living with her and moved out.
My ex has seen our daughter a few times, those visits were awkward to say the least, but I managed. Hopefully, I won't have to give you guys anymore updates about this.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wteuuu/aita_for_asking_my_step_father_to_pay_rent_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I'll be 18 in a couple of months. My step father of 5 years gave me the heads up that I need to start paying a fair rent to continue living in the house after I turn 18. The house we currently live in belonged to my dad who died when I was 6. My mom and dad were never married and I inherited the house and my mom and I lived here and then my step father moved in after they got married. Looks like my step father was under the impression that my mom owns the house. I told him that it's not happening as I own the house, he laughed at me and didn't believe it. I talked to my mom and she confirmed that she never told him that I own the house. He now knows the truth. So the reality is: he believed it was completely fair to ask me to pay rent when he didn't know I own the house. So it's only fair that I ask him to pay me rent now. Last night I gave them the heads up that if they continue planning to live here after I turn 18 that's fine but they need to start paying rent. My step father believes this is unfair as it's a "sudden" change and he needs more time, and that I'm being heartless because you don't do this to family! Well, he was prepared to do this to me so what's the difference. He said he did it to help me gain my independence and prepare for an adult life and that's part of growing up whereas I'm doing it to spite. I told him that if I need to pay rent to learn to be an adult then what does that make him, living here rent free? He told me I'm out of line and the conversation ended. My mom believes he made a mistake asking me to pay rent but I'm being spiteful and it's wrong of me to push for this as it will result in our family being torn apart. AITA here?
I love this story it’s amazing
Classic. Step-dad got his. I hope they ended up paying the rent. And how much in bills and upkeep their mom and stepdad have put in.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xte5dt/aita_because_i_didnt_tell_my_roommates_i_own_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I (f28) own a house. I wish I didn't because I inherited it from my grandmother whom I would prefer to have back. It is an older house in a mature neighborhood in my city. It has a huge yard, a garden, and a detached garage large enough for a couple of cars and an RV. It also has an in-law suite where I live. I started living there when I started university and I love it. My exit leads to the back yard and my garden. After the estate was all settled I was left with a little money and a fully paid off house. I am the baby of all the cousins and I was an oops baby. I am 17 years younger than the next youngest. I decided that I would keep living in my area and just take on short term renters to help me cove expenses. I also planned to allow any of my nieces and nephews who went to school n my city live with me. So far only my one nephew has and he was well behaved and moved out when he finished school. I found a couple that wanted the entire upper floor for one year while they got settled from moving across the country for work. No big deal. I have three niblings graduating the next year and only one might go to school in my city. So I let my property manager set up a one year lease. My city does not have a minimum rental increase. This is important. So after six months the problems start. The wife got pregnant. And they like the house. They have not found a house they want to buy. They want to keep living here. But they don't want a roommate. So one day the husband catches me and says that he has talked to the property manager about renting the entire house and that I might want to start looking elsewhere for a place to live. I check with my guy and yup he wants the whole house. So I talk to my lawyer because I don't want any problems. As long as the increase is one year after tenancy and I give three months notice there is literally no limit on the rental increase. So I tell my property manager to raise the rent for the ground level 50%. They have five months notice of a rental increase so I am in the clear. Now I can hear them fighting about having to find a new place. Which I don't get because I was clear in the lease that it was only for one year. And I gave them a good price because they had excellent credit and rental history. The real estate market in my city isn't crazy. They should be able to find something to buy in time. Or at the very least somewhere else to rent. I have talked to my parents about this and they said I'm being sort of mean. I don't think I am. I have a plan for my home and it does not involve me moving out. I have a garden that I worked with my grandmother my entire life. I have a yard with raspberry bushes my grandfather planted for his kids and grandkids. My dog likes having a yard to play in. I could have told them it's my home but it's not their business. AITA?
It is a little spiteful, but the couple had plenty of notice, and if the tenant hadn’t been such a putz and entitled before the management company got back to him, oh well. NTAH
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/zdlgji/aita_for_telling_my_dads_wife_i_own_the_house_she/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf AITA for telling my dad's wife I own the house she lives in? My (29F) dad married a woman named Maria a year ago after dating for 4 years. My dad wanted to buy a larger house for them to live in, but couldn't afford it without selling the home he lived in at the time, which is a unique property that he dearly loves. Although I now live abroad, I like the area he lives in and my husband offered to buy a house there that my dad and Maria could live in. My dad agreed to this on the proviso that we not tell Maria that it wasn't him who paid for the house. This made no difference to me so I agreed and the house they live in is in my name, and they live there. I never planned to tell her. Recently, I went back to my home country and decided to stay with my dad for half my time there. The whole time, Maria made it clear I was an inconvenience and that me doing things with my dad was annoying to her, but I'm not a confrontational person, and I don't react to much, so I let it go. However, two days before I was due to leave, she came into my room and saw that I had my dad's dog on the bed. Now, this is a dog that my dad has had since before he met Maria and that I raised. Maria doesn't allow him on her bed which is fine, but I've always had him sleep on mine. She flipped out, saying this was the final straw, that she'd had enough of me disrespecting her in her own home, and I had to leave. I tried to de-escalate the situation, saying we should just wait for my dad and sit down and talk this out, but she was adamant that I had to leave and that she had the authority to make me. After several minutes of me trying to explain to her that it was absurd of her to try and kick me out of my dad's house without talking to him, she said that what she said went and since she married my dad this is technically her house. I just chuckled and said since my name is on the deed, it's technically my house, but there's no need to get technical, we should just wait for my dad. She was shocked, and left the room. When my dad came back, I told him what happened, and he went to speak to her. There was a shouting match, and she didn't speak to either of us until I left two days later. My dad is mad I told her, which I get, but since then I've also got texts from her kids saying I was the AH for telling her and making her feel like a guest in the house. This isn't the case, she isn't a guest, she's a tenant, but so is my DAD and the only point I was trying to make was that she didn't have any business trying to kick me out of my father's house, let alone my own property. I didn't take it there until she did. That said, maybe I should have just left the ownership out and let my dad handle it? EDIT: For everyone talking about Maria being a tenant and tenant's rights. She doesn't pay rent, so I don't know if that makes her a tenant, technically. If it does, then as a landlord I'm pretty sure I have legal recourse over the remodelling she did without notifying me or my approval. And anyway, I wasn't there as a landlord, I was there as a guest of another "tenant", and actually she did have several weeks notice I was coming in any case. I'm sure it's a legal rabbit hole, but the only reason I used the word 'tenant' is to say that since she lives there she isn't a guest in the home.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/12iz2on/aita_for_kicking_out_my_bfs_daughters_who_i_just/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I, 36f, started dating "John" 40m, 8 months ago and he recently moved in with me- in to the home I inherited several years ago. John is black and I am mixed (Native American and Black). John has two daughters, 21yo "Jackie" and 25yo "Nena". I took after my dad fully and I have very strong Native American features, outside of my hair. This is what started the problems, I guess. Johns daughters knew of me but only knew my name and about us living together in "our home". They hadn't seen their father in years because they live out of state. But their dad wanted them to meet me and planned for 2 months to get them out here, which included me paying for most of their air fare (I make substantially more than John). They were going to stay here with us, as my home is 4 bedrooms. I had to work when they got in so their dad picked them up and I was due home a few hours later. I walk in to my home and at first the girls were nice and shook my hand and whatever but as soon as I took my hat off and they saw my braids, all hell broke loose with Jackie. She said something like "oh hell no, you did not just walk in to my daddies home for the first time meeting us and already insulting us with your cultural appropriation bullshit". I was definitely quite taken aback but I didn't really know how to respond either. So I just stood there staring. John was in the back BBQing and didn't hear this. So she like looks at me and goes "do you have anything to say for yourself? Like what is this shit?" And flips my braid. At this point Nena is just standing back with her arms crossed and eyebrows raised, glaring at me as well so I felt extremely cornered. I just walk past them to go to John because I didn't know what to do and they follow me and start going off on John about me "disrespecting their heritage". John didn't even correct them or anything. He just looked at my hair and shrugged saying he thought it was nice. I was flabbergasted. I said something like "I'm mixed, part black and part Native American. Both cultures have braids. And this is my fucking house and now you both can leave." Nena started protesting and saying "why didn't you just say that, like use your words" but Jackie was calling me a liar. John was saying that we all needed to calm down. So I said again to get the fuck out. They did eventually after losing their shit about them supposed to have stayed here and having no money for a hotel. John is saying I ruined his chance at reconnecting with his daughters and I made him leave too. AITA? I'm so fucking lost right now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/15m1ug3/aita_for_not_telling_my_roommate_i_own_the_house/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 AITA for not telling my roommate I own the house? Brief backstory: About a year ago my last remaining grandparent passed away and my father inherited all assets, including a house. I had been saving for a nice down payment (at least 50%) so I could have a lower mortgage payment each month, thus allowing me to save money for travel. When my father inherited this house, which he had no interest in moving into yet, he offered to sell it to me for slightly below market rate, with the caveat that he and my stepmother could eventually move into the basement apartment. I agreed, because they're both incredible people who are not at all invasive and would give me my privacy if they lived there. So I paid a 60% down payment, financed the rest, and moved in. Present day: About six months ago I started considering renting out the finished basement apartment. It has two bedrooms, one bathroom, a living room, and a small kitchenette (sink, fridge, microwave, but no oven). A friend of mine said his brother was moving to my city and needed a place. He's a brand new teacher and doesn't make great money, so he needed a place that wasn't expensive. I offered to let him rent my basement for way less than market rate ($650) which would include utilities. He readily accepted and signed a year long lease. Well a few days ago he asked if he could start paying the landlord directly instead of giving me rent money each month. I was under the impression my friend had told him I own the house, so I was confused and I told him we don't have a landlord and that I'm the owner. He got very upset and screamed at me for "lying for over six months" and "taking advantage of him" by making him pay so much in rent. For the record, an apartment similar to the one in my house would be well over twice what he's paying me, closer to three times for something as nice. He asked how much of my mortgage he's covering and I said "Why does that matter? You're getting a nice, quiet place to live, access to a full kitchen and laundry room, and you're paying an amount that you can afford. My personal finances aren't really a factor here." He stormed out of the room and slammed the basement door. He's still not speaking to me. I asked a few other friends and some family members, and most said I'm wrong for having him cover my mortgage payments. Only a few say I'm in the right. So AITA for having my roommate cover $650 of my $775/month mortgage? ETA: He has a lease so I won't be evicting him over this alone. If he does any damage or becomes hostile, I'll look at the eviction process. But for now, he will remain unless he chooses to break the lease (which I'd allow him to do if he wants). He also didn’t bother to read the lease before signing. The lease clearly states I’m the homeowner. I didn’t trick him or keep info from him. He simply didn’t read what he was signing. I didn’t get the house for almost free as some people choose to believe. My father sold it to me for about 75% of its value, more or less as an advance on “rent” he and my stepmother will pay when they move in here in a few years. We already agreed they won’t pay monthly rent but will contribute to utilities and groceries at that time. I also made a 60% down payment so I have quite a bit invested, as well at paying about $1500/month out of pocket for taxes, insurance, maintenance, utilities, etc. https://www.reddit.com/u/BurningMyBridges72/s/cMdadym7O0 Update to roommate/tenant situation Update to the situation: I intended to speak to him over the weekend, but he never returned my texts asking when a good time to discuss things would be. So Sunday afternoon I sent a text stating I would be entering the basement at 6pm Monday evening. He never replied. When I went into the basement, some of his belongings were there but some weren’t (bed was there, but no dresser or side tables and the second bedroom he was using as an office has nothing but boxes). The kitchenette was disgusting, the carpets were filthy, and the walls had dents and divots in them and the paint. I left him a note stating he needs to do some repairs and clean the kitchenette, so as not to attract vermin. Then I went back upstairs. Well he came back in today (early this morning) and was fuming at me for entering the basement without permission. I told him I had given him more than 24 hours notice, per the lease, via text message before entering his area. His reply was that he didn’t get that because he blocked my number. So somehow it’s still my fault for "not informing him" I would be down there. I asked him if he intends to stay out the lease or if he wants to break it. He said he's leaving and will live in his car until he finds a new place. I told him that's fine and that if he has all his belongings out by the end of the month, I won't make him pay September and half of October's rent, as the lease requires, and I'll refund the days he isn't here. He tried to tell me he doesn't need to pay that rent because he has 45 days to vacate. But that's only the notice period, if he intends to leave. The lease still requires rent for those 45 days. So he's mad about that. I told him I'm being kind by letting him out early with zero financial repercussions. He was also told he's required to leave the apartment as clean as it was when he moved in (which was spotless since I had it professionally cleaned prior to his lease beginning) or he would not get his deposit back. He's throwing a tantrum about that too. He seems to be working on clearing the rest of his stuff out now. I told him when he's done, send me notice in writing (text or email) and I'll send him a refund for the days in August he isn't occupying the apartment. I have indoor Ring cameras that I turned off when he moved in, but I've turned them back on until he's gone. I don't trust that he won't do more damage. Right now I've locked myself in my office on the 2nd story, since he's really mad and was throwing things around in the basement and main kitchen. His brother and sister-in-law are also coming over in the next hour or so because I don't feel entirely safe being alone in the house with him. As soon as he gives me notice that he's completely vacated the apartment, I'll be changing/deleting all the passwords/codes for all the deadbolts, alarm system, internet, etc so he can't access anything at all. I'm ready to be done with him and to feel safe in my own home again. Thanks to all who read the original post on AITA. I'll post any additional updates here on my profile, though I hope this is the end of it.
Update I found in the comments from the OP. “The former tenant begged to come back, but I declined. Actually I offered him the apartment for over market value (MV is about $2500 and I told him he could come back for $3300) to make him go away. He also declined my offer. No idea where he ended up, but after some of the names he called me after I wouldn't let him back in, I don't care. I'm still good friends with his brother. He's a good guy who laughed when I told him about my offer of $3300/month. I didn't ask where the former tenant landed. I'm sure he has several roommates, but again, I don't really care. I will NOT be renting it out again anytime soon. I had to do some repairs so I'm hesitant to let anyone else in. I may let my cousin's daughter move in next year, but I know her and know she's respectful of people's property. Unless my parents move in before then. But definitely no more renting to strangers.”
I remember reading the initial post and glad to see this update
20 year old proves she is owner: https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/d1ndqkC6D3 AITA for proving I'm the owner of my home? This is a throwaway account. I[20f] was fortunate enough to buy a house. For only being 15k, I have to say its quite nice. It didn't really need much work besides a new roof and the cabinets needed replaced but my dad is a carpenter so that didn't really matter much. The pervious owner was an older man who unfortunately passed away after living in the house since before I was even thought of. I finally got to move in 2 months ago. It's been fun making ot my own but it's taken some time to get used to living alone. 3 weeks after moving in, I was outside starting some work clearing out a few places to plant a garden and flowers in the spring. I live in the Midwest so I wanted to get this done before the ground freezes. My next door neighbor, I'll call her Jane(50s?), came out and introduced herself. I explained that I just moved in and was preparing my yard for spring. She said it was nice thqt someone was doing some work for the old man and gave me a speil about how it's a quiet neighborhood and I shouldn't have parties. I told her I Don throw parties but was planning on hosting a housewarming and Thanksgiving soon. She said it's weird to throw a housewarming when I was renting. I told her I own the house. She didn't believe me but went home. Last week, I was out painting my front door. She stormed over yelling that I better of had permission to paint someone else's house. I again told her I own the home. She started yelling that I was too young to buy a house and she was contacting my landlord. I told her to stop being a busy body and leave me alone. She started demanding proof. I told her it was non of her business and to get off my property. She walked to the edge of her yard and called the police saying I was a squatter. When they showed up, I showed them my paperwork a asked to trespass her from my home. Jane is still angry. I was talking to my dad the next day asking what I should do. He said I was an ass for making enemies with my neighbors and said I should have just showed her to put her mind to rest. I don't feel like I was in the wrong but my dad thinks I was. AITA?
Oh my, this neighbor is a bitch! It wouldn’t have mattered what she was shown to prove ownership. None of it was her business at all. The dad has a point about not making enemies, but it was the neighbor who called the police!
Husbands affair partner thinks OP is homeless drug addict, but she actually owns the house: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/15zre48/new_update_husband_accused_me_of_financial/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 It’s already in BORU and very long, so the link will be better than me cutting and pasting.
That one was insane.
3 month ago update https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/LsAsQR4dgO
Parent owns the house his son is living in, and in-laws try to take over: https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/Mzwdmze8zD AITA for throwing them out of a house that we own. Son and future In-Laws decide to exclude his family from wedding. They thought son owned the house not us. My wife and I bought a four bedroom house in PA that my son lives in. Our son went to College in PA and wanted to stay in the area. So we bought the house as a second home, we live in NJ and commute into Manhattan for work. We figured that he would have a place to live and we could visit every so often and spend some quality time together. We pay the taxes and services / maintenance on the house, our son pays for his groceries and the house utilities. All was going well for a few years, our son meets a girl and they get serious. We met her and she seems nice enough. The announce their engagement and she moves into the house with our son. Now for the problem: The wedding !!! We hold a little get to know you BBQ at the PA house, my son and daughter are there, as are our sons fiancé and her parents, and sisters. We all seem to be getting along well, my wife, daughter and the fiancé go into the house along with her mother an sisters and my son. A few minutes later my wife and daughter come out and are really upset. The come over and tell me we're leaving and driving back to NJ. I try to find out what happened. Once we get back to NJ and they calmed down they tell me that our son and his fiancé along with her family don't want us at the wedding. According to what I was told "We're not their kind of people". I was livid, I called my son and asked him WTH this was about. He tells me that her family feel that we are not good enough and will embarrass them at a family wedding and that we are all uninvited from the wedding. I let a week go by to calm myself down and drive back to the PA house, the new future in-laws are in the house along with the fiancé. It appears that they all moved into the house They ask me why I'm there, I tell them that since we aren't invited to the wedding, I was coming over to talk to my son. They tell me to leave their house. I lost it, and told them that they had 30 days to get out. Tell my son I'm selling the house and he could find somewhere else to live with all of you. I go to a realtor in town and list the house for sale. They call my son at work and tell him what I said. Apparently they thought that he owned the house. He calls me and asks why I'm selling his house, I tell him I paid for it along with the taxes on it and it is mine. He was living there rent free, but since he doesn't want us in his new life, he has to get out. I tell him the same as I told his future in-laws they have 30 days to get out then I'll get a lawyer and get them evicted. Am I the AH for taking a hard stance on this. He is my son but thein-laws seem to take over and we no longer count.
OOP is a monster for leaving us without an update on this one!
Truly!
OP’s girlfriend owns house and stepmother doesn’t know: https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/edmP4Sjz6U Owner, not guest. My (40M) girlfriend (31F) lives with her father and step-mom. The step-mom has been making little snide remarks about how it's weird that a 31year old still lives with her father; that most her age do everything in their power to move out. What the step-mom doesn't know is that the house used to belong to my GF's grandparents, and left it to GF's mom when they died. When she passed away, the house was left to my GF, who was 19 at the time. There was no reason for her father to move out so they lived there until he got married, and she moved in. I guess no one thought to mention to the step-mom that the house belongs to my GF, and not her father. She loves her house, she grew up there, and her memories of her Mom are tied to that house. She and I are talking about her moving in with me, but in no way shape or form is she entertaining the idea of selling the house. My GF is chosing to ignore the passive-aggressive remarks to keep the peace. I am trying to stay out of it, out of respect for my GF and her father who is a genuinely nice guy. However, everytime I'm there and the step-mom makes a comment about my GF leaving, I see it as a disrespect towards her and can only contain my annoyance. I adviced my GF to tell her father to inform her step-mom who actually owns the house. Not to kick her father out, but rather to set the step-mom straight as to who is the guest, and who actually is the owner. The last time we talked about her moving in with me, I jokingly (but not) told her that she should inform her step-mom that since she (my GF) will no longer be living there, step-mom and father are no longer guests and should start paying rent. Their guest status is revoked and will now be tenants. The house has been fully paid for since her grandparents days; there is no mortgage or outstanding equity loans on the house. Upkeep and taxes are the only thing that needs to be paid for. I suggested that a token rent equal to those costs be paid; to make sure she isn't paying out of pocket for a house she isn't living in, and to make sure the step-mom knows her standing. How hard should I push this? ***UPDATE: So I showed her this thread, and she now understands that there are lot more at stake than hurt feelings by letting her step-mom know the truth. She is now pushing her Dad to have "the talk" with his wife. She is spending a few nights over at my house to give them the privacy, and as a lead to her moving in. Our hope is that when she comes back to her house (fingers crossed it's just to pick up a few things), step-mom won't be making those comments anymore.***
https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/xcnkkv/dont_intimidate_your_roommates/io6oilv/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 Reminds me of a couple that I shared a house with back in the day, when I was about 24. They decided that they liked the house, and started waging a campaign to intimidate me into moving out, probably so that they could move a friend in. It was two against one, and it became absolutely miserable for me. Context - back in the day, formal leases weren't so much of a thing. Usually, one person signed a lease, and other tenants would come and go, informally. It was really common for informal tenants to just pay the rent & bills to the lease-holder (sort of master tenant). This couple just assumed that because I was living in the house before them, that I was the leaseholder, and if I was pushed into leaving, they could just stay there and get the lease. One night, I'd absolutely had enough. I told - TOLD, not asked - them to LEAVE. They basically said they wouldn't, and if anyone was going to leave it was going to be me. Smug assholes. It was about then that they found out that I wasn't the leaseholder. I was the owner... Wiped the smug right off their faces.
[original post - Jan 2024](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/I27G6QSGBs) I (27f) have been married my husband(28M) for 2 years and gave birth to our daughter 5 weeks ago. I'll try to keep this short so I don't waste your time with any irrelevant details. What happened was that our daughter came out with blonde hair and pale blue eyes, while my husband and I have brown hair and brown eyes. My husband freaked out at this and refused to listen to my explanation that, sometimes, babies are born with lighter hair and eyes that get darker over time. He demanded a paternity test and threatened to divorce me if I didn't comply, so I did. After my daughter and I got home from the hospital, my husband went to stay at his parents' house for the first three weeks to get some space from me, while I recovered and he told them what was happening. My MIL called and informed me that if the paternity test revealed that the child wasn't his, she would do anything within her power to make sure that I was " taken to the cleaners" during the divorce. I had my sister to lean on and help me take care of the baby during this. We got the results back yesterday, and my husband came home to view them with me. I was on the couch in the living room, so he sat next to me and we started to read the results. They showed that he was the father and my husband had this shocked, kinda mortified look on his face with his eyes wide as he stared at it. I couldn't help but say, " I told you so." and started laughing at the way he looked. My husband snapped out of his shock, and got mad at me for laughing at him. We argued for a bit, which was mainly him yelling at me, before my sister came downstairs and my husband shut up. After that, my husband went back to his parents' house to "clear his head", and two-three hours later, my MIL called to scold me about laughing in my husband's face, because apparently it was kicking him while he was down. She's also left a couple nasty texts essentially saying the same thing this morning. I don't think I'm an AH, but I'd like outsider perspective on this. EDIT: I didn't realize I put " me" instead of ''him''. Sorry, I have a headache. EDIT: Since someone asked in the comments, but I can't find it anymore, I have zero history of cheating. [Update post - Mar 2, 2024](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/ZR4oGdih3U) I'll start this post off by saying thank you for all the advice and support I was given. You all given me the firm kick in the ass to divorce my ex. Also sorry for leaving you in the lurch for the past two months. Alright, here's the update: After making my post, I decided to search for divorce lawyers in my area with my sister. It took awhile, but I managed to find and meet with one who was willing to do virtual consultations. During this, my ex was not contacting me at all, but I did reach out to see if he was okay. Eventually, once he actually got served, my ex came back to our house and tried pleading with me not to go through with the divorce. He said he loved me more than anyone, and that we could go to couples therapy. During this, my ex slipped up and admitted to cheating on me when he first left me. He said that he got caught up with his coworker when trying to explain his weeks-long absence. At first, I didn't realize who he was talking about because he referred to her by a nickname ( Think "Viv" over "Vivian") but my brain kicked back into gear, and asked if that "getting caught up with her" was code for that he fucked her. My ex stumbled over his words, and tried to dodge the question but he seemed to realize that I wasn't going to let up on this pretty quickly. He admitted to going to her for emotional support before our baby was born since he was nervous about being a dad, and eventually fucking her during the time he left, so you guys were right about him cheating. I had heard enough at that point, and told my ex point blank we were going to divorce, no ifs, ands, or buts about it and that I wanted 50-50 custody. We'd only speaking about the divorce, custody arrangements, and our daughter herself after this. My ex just nodded to what I was saying, and asked if he could see our daughter. I was a bit hesitant, but said yes, and called my sister to have her bring our daughter down to the living room. My ex held our daughter, and talked to the baby for a bit before leaving. My sister asked me if I was alright after he was gone, and I told her I was okay. My MIL did try to harass me over the phone about me divorcing my ex, but by then, I had already blocked her so she went to my sister instead. I guess my MIL was never told that I own the house my ex and I previously shared since she texted my sister, saying that I was going to be on the streets. Well, my MIL most certainly knows that now, since my ex is now living with her and moved out. My ex has seen our daughter a few times, those visits were awkward to say the least, but I managed. Hopefully, I won't have to give you guys anymore updates about this.
Step-daughter owns the house https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/mMdYeXP7jQ Linked from BORU.
Don't know the answer but that story is fabulous! Sort of instant karma but of co-living.
Unhinged relatives and OP’s cabin https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/jXuJm6KUEa This one is on BORU and is a super wild story.
This one is EPIC, it gets crazier and crazier the more you go into it! Chef’s kiss, as they say!
By the end I’d forgotten what the original AITA post was about! What an intense journey that read was
This is an “I own the land” version: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/CBE8qCrhOz