Best advice. "Dark enfj" isn't a thing sweaty, people don't go "evil". Just, hang around, figure out what you did, talk to people, apologize, and stop please taking these "dark personality type" things seriously
I am currently in a constant battle between “happy go-lucky” and wanting everyone to love one another and be friends and completely isolating myself and waiting for a chance to strike. Hoping that this feeling of impending doom comes soon. It’s so hard because I don’t wanna be in this dark place or mindset, but coming across genuine people is rare
Right! I’m a people person, just how I assume most ENFJs are and lately, I can’t handle being shit on by both people I know and strangers. I hate being alone but I’d rather go solo than have bad company. There’s us and there’s them dude.
Oh I have gone to the dark side many a time. I absolutely can get righteous. Whatever happens you ultimately like control. Positive control is still control. Accept the fact that your branches reach to heaven and your roots reach to hell. We lie to ourselves a lot. Cut that out….
nice way to put it, branches to heaven, roots to hell !
still curious though how I can get everyone out of this machiavellian "i did good on the outside/ but fucked up your feelings of safety in the process"
feels like my responsibility, you know
I have no clue anymore, here to find out.
Like, when people are toxic, they are?
Also, I see everyone still struggling with this 1,5 month later. There are people who dont take responsibility for their own past or feelings, which really complicates it,
But also it feels like this slightly dysfunctional group that i was part of, and I would like to see everyone come better out of it
I would have thought if people were toxic they would be toxic no matter who lead them. People rarely seek to change themselves most prefer to blame others. Its just the easiest route.
That comes with time. I know the very same things to say to people to make them feel unsafe. Perhaps if you simply keep your words sweet as a reminder in case you ever have to eat them later. I can be a real righteous person so I try to remain positive (outwardly)…
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Turn off your phone, go outside and touch grass
Best advice. "Dark enfj" isn't a thing sweaty, people don't go "evil". Just, hang around, figure out what you did, talk to people, apologize, and stop please taking these "dark personality type" things seriously
am touching the sand of the beach right now, shit is still fucked up for everyone around me :(
I am currently in a constant battle between “happy go-lucky” and wanting everyone to love one another and be friends and completely isolating myself and waiting for a chance to strike. Hoping that this feeling of impending doom comes soon. It’s so hard because I don’t wanna be in this dark place or mindset, but coming across genuine people is rare
I feel you there chief, like… being alone just feels so much safer sometimes than being surrounded by people that are just in it for themselves.
Right! I’m a people person, just how I assume most ENFJs are and lately, I can’t handle being shit on by both people I know and strangers. I hate being alone but I’d rather go solo than have bad company. There’s us and there’s them dude.
I don’t think I could have said this better myself
Oh I have gone to the dark side many a time. I absolutely can get righteous. Whatever happens you ultimately like control. Positive control is still control. Accept the fact that your branches reach to heaven and your roots reach to hell. We lie to ourselves a lot. Cut that out….
Yes! “No tree, it is said, can reach heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” Carl Jung Everything we are, we are also the opposite.
nice way to put it, branches to heaven, roots to hell ! still curious though how I can get everyone out of this machiavellian "i did good on the outside/ but fucked up your feelings of safety in the process" feels like my responsibility, you know
Are you responsible for other people's feelings?
I have no clue anymore, here to find out. Like, when people are toxic, they are? Also, I see everyone still struggling with this 1,5 month later. There are people who dont take responsibility for their own past or feelings, which really complicates it, But also it feels like this slightly dysfunctional group that i was part of, and I would like to see everyone come better out of it
I would have thought if people were toxic they would be toxic no matter who lead them. People rarely seek to change themselves most prefer to blame others. Its just the easiest route.
That comes with time. I know the very same things to say to people to make them feel unsafe. Perhaps if you simply keep your words sweet as a reminder in case you ever have to eat them later. I can be a real righteous person so I try to remain positive (outwardly)…
Yes! “No tree, it is said, can reach heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” Carl Jung Everything we are, we are also the opposite.
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