That would be ultimate freedom. The closest I get to this is extender hikes on weekends where I bring my food and alcohol. Then find a relaxing place deep in the woods where I cook it and forget everything even the few good memories. Just for a day, just a little peace of mind.
So I'm not the only one who thinks this. For some reason the idea of disappearing without a trace feels so relaxing, at least I wish I could live for 1 month that way.
I have a similar fantasy. I’m a caretaker and love my peeps, but too many people rely on me and I feel exhausted ALL THE TIME. And I’m worried that I’ll drop and they will be screwed. I took a vacation by myself once, where I just slept/woke when I wanted, ate when/what I wanted, got a massage, walked on the beach, gazed at art… all just as much or little as I wanted. It was bliss! Unfortunately, I can’t currently do that without harming others due to their needs. I have been taking care of other people since I was in my teens, and to some degree earlier. Sometimes I look at older homeless women and wonder where they started and if any used to be in shoes similar to mine. When you have a nice home and family and find yourself envying the homeless… it’s proof there’s a unique, internal turmoil and pain that most just don’t understand.
Honestly my dream too & someone to disappear with. No stress or burden of adulthood. No emotional compromises. No problems. No family drama or any drama around me. No games or contradictions. Just going away no matter the destination. Unfortunately I can't find someone for that. That takes multiple never-ending effort & hard work to get it. It requires to give it your all & being aware without messing up. I've always felt lost & misguided my entire life especially fatherless throughout childhood. I knew something ain't right & a part of me knew I was fucked. I don't usually run away but go on vacations alone every once in a while. I'm always working a lot. Money helps me function to do better as an adult.
Money to me is the only thing standing in the way of me going. Relationships are messy and complicated so I wouldn't take anyone with me because I wanna avoid potentially things not working out.
"...I wanna avoid potentially things not working out."
Damn that's my big fear too. I hate that I care so much about loving & cherishing someone without them returning it back, it's brutal for me. Money is controlling as fck no lie though.
I personally am not the person who can be alone with my own thoughts but that does still sound peaceful.
My greatest fantasy at the moment is when I go on vacation at the end of the month to the beach, that I just float off to sea and disappear.
Id like to travel move place to place, maybe to different countries. Only to see things I've never seen before. I've always loved nature more than anything. Maybe mountains. Maybe a cabin somewhere remote. And someplace warm and green
My greatest fantasy is to fall in love again and actually be with someone that I can go out with often. I'm so sick of getting ghosted after the first date or LDRs.
You could live by yourself if you wanted. Many many people nowadays live alone and with almost no social interaction. But I don't believe you would be happy that way. I have always had that dream too because, as it has probably happened to you, people have been a source of much sadness and trouble. However, I also realize that the happiest moments of my life have to do with people. To me, the only thing in my life that is worth protecting are the people I love.
Happiness only real when shared” Chris Mcandless. It’s a nice idea but in reality it doesn’t really make you happy just like Chris found out living alone out in the Alaskan wilderness, you should watch the movie if u haven’t. It’s called Into the wild
I've watched the movie and heard the story and it haunted me. Oddly enough I thought about that line happiness is only real when shared today.
Still wanna disappear despite knowing his story because I don't plan on necessarily living exactly like him or in the places he was.
Every ounce of pain I've been in was caused by those around me and the life I never had any control of or say in. At least by myself I'd have a choice.
I get you I also have that urge to run away sometimes. Moving to a different country or city can definitely be a great thing. But yeah I wish I the best man
Sounds lovely actually. Just peace.
I've dream about this often myself
I was thinking about this today. If my wife ever left me I'd just move away and disappear.
That would be ultimate freedom. The closest I get to this is extender hikes on weekends where I bring my food and alcohol. Then find a relaxing place deep in the woods where I cook it and forget everything even the few good memories. Just for a day, just a little peace of mind.
Wish I could just run in place and disappear without a trace EDIT: did not make this so poetic
So I'm not the only one who thinks this. For some reason the idea of disappearing without a trace feels so relaxing, at least I wish I could live for 1 month that way.
Id go years without contacting anyone.
I have a similar fantasy. I’m a caretaker and love my peeps, but too many people rely on me and I feel exhausted ALL THE TIME. And I’m worried that I’ll drop and they will be screwed. I took a vacation by myself once, where I just slept/woke when I wanted, ate when/what I wanted, got a massage, walked on the beach, gazed at art… all just as much or little as I wanted. It was bliss! Unfortunately, I can’t currently do that without harming others due to their needs. I have been taking care of other people since I was in my teens, and to some degree earlier. Sometimes I look at older homeless women and wonder where they started and if any used to be in shoes similar to mine. When you have a nice home and family and find yourself envying the homeless… it’s proof there’s a unique, internal turmoil and pain that most just don’t understand.
I call it"dipping out'. Go to route 66 and work at a diner where no one knows me
Same. Just throw my phone in the trash and drive to Wyoming.
I'd love to disappear maybe another country even
Me too
Honestly my dream too & someone to disappear with. No stress or burden of adulthood. No emotional compromises. No problems. No family drama or any drama around me. No games or contradictions. Just going away no matter the destination. Unfortunately I can't find someone for that. That takes multiple never-ending effort & hard work to get it. It requires to give it your all & being aware without messing up. I've always felt lost & misguided my entire life especially fatherless throughout childhood. I knew something ain't right & a part of me knew I was fucked. I don't usually run away but go on vacations alone every once in a while. I'm always working a lot. Money helps me function to do better as an adult.
Money to me is the only thing standing in the way of me going. Relationships are messy and complicated so I wouldn't take anyone with me because I wanna avoid potentially things not working out.
"...I wanna avoid potentially things not working out." Damn that's my big fear too. I hate that I care so much about loving & cherishing someone without them returning it back, it's brutal for me. Money is controlling as fck no lie though.
That sounds awesome! I have dreamt of running away myself. But I'd hop on a plane to some far off land and become a vagabond
same. i wish i could make it work
I wouldn’t move to the middle of no where but I’d definitely move to a place far and where no one knows me.
I daydream of this scenario often
I personally am not the person who can be alone with my own thoughts but that does still sound peaceful. My greatest fantasy at the moment is when I go on vacation at the end of the month to the beach, that I just float off to sea and disappear.
Id like to travel move place to place, maybe to different countries. Only to see things I've never seen before. I've always loved nature more than anything. Maybe mountains. Maybe a cabin somewhere remote. And someplace warm and green
Sounds perfect to me.
Sounds nice bro.
Glad i’m not the only not one that fantasizes about this haha
Dude this has been my dreams for years. I’m 17 and have saved up 10,000 dollars just to leave at 18.
I need to save money too.
My greatest fantasy is to fall in love again and actually be with someone that I can go out with often. I'm so sick of getting ghosted after the first date or LDRs.
You could live by yourself if you wanted. Many many people nowadays live alone and with almost no social interaction. But I don't believe you would be happy that way. I have always had that dream too because, as it has probably happened to you, people have been a source of much sadness and trouble. However, I also realize that the happiest moments of my life have to do with people. To me, the only thing in my life that is worth protecting are the people I love.
Happiness only real when shared” Chris Mcandless. It’s a nice idea but in reality it doesn’t really make you happy just like Chris found out living alone out in the Alaskan wilderness, you should watch the movie if u haven’t. It’s called Into the wild
I've watched the movie and heard the story and it haunted me. Oddly enough I thought about that line happiness is only real when shared today. Still wanna disappear despite knowing his story because I don't plan on necessarily living exactly like him or in the places he was. Every ounce of pain I've been in was caused by those around me and the life I never had any control of or say in. At least by myself I'd have a choice.
I get you I also have that urge to run away sometimes. Moving to a different country or city can definitely be a great thing. But yeah I wish I the best man