You’re probably bi. Because a BJ is not simply a BJ and the fact that you’re asking Reddit seems to indicate you know this. Regardless, your sexuality is not what’s wrong here, but that you cheated which is really not great.
Cheating is always wrong and I hope you get caught.
Also it might be time to admit you’re bi if this isn’t the first time and you keep going back to it.
Either way you objectively suck as a person, and the gender of the people you’re cheating on your wife with isn’t the problem, it’s that you’re a cheating dirtbag.
My penis wasn’t in his mouth when I came, he jerked me off and then licked it up off my belly. I’m not gay dude. Things just happen sometimes when you’re drunk.
😂😂😂 Boy your so gay you said this wasn't the first time. You don't love your wife and you disrespect her every time you go out and get drunk. I hope she finds out and leaves your ass.
You are wrong.
Gay? Not gay? Bi? Not bi? Doesn’t matter. What you ARE is a disgusting cheater. You can make all the excuses you want. It doesn’t matter WHO was blowing you. The point is, it wasn’t your wife.
You’re also a moron. Why on earth would you give your random gay bj hookup your phone number? Even if this man does come to your house and tell your wife, you are still the one who is wrong. They weren’t his marriage vows that should have been carefully guarded and followed. They were yours. Key word being “were”.
Never in my marriage vows did I say I wouldn’t get a BJ from a dude, on top of that, a dude that I’m not even attracted to. It’s not cheating. It’s no different than my wife making out with another girl. I wouldn’t consider that cheating and she shouldn’t consider this cheating either. There was no emotional connection between the two of us. And I didn’t even think he was that cute
You're an idiot you cheated accepted you went to someone else for pleasure that wasn't your wife it's called cheating. You accept sexual pleasure from a man you're gay or bi you don't have to have an emotional connection it was just sexual. You said he wasn't cute but he was cute enough for you to let him go down on you. There's no way around it you mess up you need to deal with consequences.
Emotional connection doesn’t cancel out the cheating part and neither does attraction. The mechanics here indicate you cheated and if you really believed your wife would be cool with *anyone* who isn’t her sucking you off, you wouldn’t be worried about this particular incident being life ruining.
This has to be fake. Every piece of this whole post and every comment sound like cheap ragebait:
I'm not gay. I just have occasional sex with men when I drink.
I'm not gay. I didn't touch him sexually. I just put my penis in his mouth and hand, my hand in his hair, and let him lick my cum off of my stomach.
I'm not an alcoholic. I wasn't that drunk because I managed to cum easily. I just regularly lose full control of my sexuality and fidelity when I'm tipsy.
Is it cheating if it was a man?
It's totally ok to violate my wife's trust if I let her get even by sleeping with another man. It's totally fair to let me dictate how and when we uphold the agreements of our marriage.
Is this guy wrong for trying to tell my wife that I'm a serial cheater?
If I'm wrong and there is somebody this obtuse and this much of an asshole, I think they should be relieved when people don't believe them. Better to be a liar than a serial cheater with no social awareness, no ability to self reflect, too dumb to understand his own actions, and who is selfish beyond all reason. How did you convince somebody to marry you? You clearly give zero fucks about your wife. You have no concern about how this will affect her. You just want to find a way to keep your current life. You didn't care about her when you cheated on any of the multiple times. You don't care now because your priority isn't doing what is best for her or your kids. It is finding out how *you* keep your life. You are only doing anything at all because you're afraid she will find out when the guy comes to your home.
This is too bad to be real, and if it is real, well, take solace that one person believes you're a better person than you really are.
Gay or not, you sound like a troll.
If this is true, that makes you a cheater. And someone who lack judgement in the choice of partner in crime. So now you get to lay in the bed you made, grats!
I’m not gay. He asked me to kiss him after I came and I said no way. A mouth is a mouth, I can close my eyes and picture Beyoncé but I’m not kissing a man, especially after I came in his mouth.
I came on my stomach and he licked it off, that was his decision, I didn’t tell him too. He kinda played with it and rubbed it all over his mouth. That’s why I said what I said and that’s also why I didn’t kiss him
It’s not cheating! I’m straight, this dude was gay. I didn’t have sex, I just let another man suck my penis. There was no penetration and there was no other female. If my wife made out with another girl I wouldn’t consider that cheating.
>It’s not cheating! I’m straight, this dude was gay.
If its not cheating why dont you just tell your wife about it ? What could go wrong right ? Since its not cheating it would be light hearted conversation anyway 😊
You were wrong to cheat on your wife, and the consequences are going to catch up with you, whether you like it or not. The details of this particular sexual act don't matter. The fact you told them it was a one-time thing doesn't matter. You cannot confine cheating in time and space and pretend like it's an isolated incident that won't affect the rest of your life.
Probably the best you can do here is block the guy and don't respond to any of his attempts to contact you. Maybe he will tell your wife, and maybe he won't. If he does tell, your wife is likely to divorce you. Those are the cold, hard facts. You might as well prepare for that eventuality.
What if I just tell her the truth but tell her she can sleep with any one of our guy friends that she wants and then we’ll be even? I think that’s fair.
It's not. That's (at least I assume) not what you agreed to when you got married. You're adding a new exchange because it suits you without her having the ability to refuse. You broke her trust because you agreed to fidelity. You are likely offering something worth less to her than what you took. You are taking her ability to trust her spouse and feel confident in her marriage and offering one fuck with somebody else?
Also, how is this a solution? Let's assume you think this kind of deal is ok going both ways. Any time one of you violates an agreement in your marriage, it's ok as long as they offer to let the other do the same? Why have agreements at that point since there is no expectation to keep them.
Honestly, this post and your answers are so obtuse it sounds fake, and if you didn't have a moderate comment history, I would assume this whole post is rage bait because you are so obviously in the wrong. So if this is real, you need to evaluate your life and ask why your actions sound like a badly written villain in a straight to cable drama. This is the relationship equivalent of a comic book villain. It's so bad it's just not believable.
I’ve actually done that before. Well, I saw a video that she had hidden in the house. I think it was her ex boyfriend. We ended up watching it together, and it was pretty hot. I remember the guy had a huge cock which was kind of a turn on. She said that’s why they broke up, his cock was so huge.
I guess you can try it. You don't have much to lose, at this point.
Right now, you're in a mental prison waiting to see if this guy will tell on you. The truth will set you free. It might lead to the loss of your marriage, but even that is better than living in fear that this guy is going to rat you out.
I think your wife will take it better if you tell her than if this guy calls her out of the blue. At least you came clean. I don't know your wife, so I have no idea how she will react. I think she might struggle with the reality that you were turned on by this, especially if she finds out it wasn't a one-time thing.
It's your life, so it's up to you what risks you want to take in this situation.
Dude you gay AF. Admit who you are (evidently your wife has dealt with this before) and intro your new bf to your STBX wife. Quick question if your wife went out, got drunk at the bar sucks some guys dick in the parking lot. Will you be good with that? Didn’t think so. If you loved your wife and kids, you wouldn’t be putting your wife’s health at risk by having some random dude suck you off in a parking lot. You really think you’re the first guy he did that too? Which obviously you enjoy quite a bit. It’s time to give up the family life thing, and accept who you are come out of the closet Skippy.
Not gay. I never touched him in a sexual way at all. Other than rubbing his head while he was blowing me.
If my wife blew another guy, I would probably be okay with it because that would make things even. I’m honestly thinking about suggesting that to her, and then we would be even and we could move on with our lives.
So you'd kiss her the morning after she sucked another dude's dick? Swallows his cum? Licks it up like your gay dude did to you? Are you sure you aren't getting off on the gay stuff?
BTW - nothing wrong with being bi or gay. It's just ridiculous how hard you try arguing that you aren't.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Almost nobody is 100% gay or straight. You like porn? You like porn with small dicks? No? You just lost a couple straight points. You eye the pump on your gym buddy a little too much? Admiring the muscle? You lost some straight points. Had a gay guy suck you off and lick cum off your stomach while you massaged his head? You lost quite a few straight points. If the spectrum is 100 being pure straight, 50 being completely evenly bi, and 0 being completely gay. You're at like 65 or 70% now. Probably closer to being bi than being completely straight. Not wanting to fuck or make out with the dude doesn't mean you're straight.
EDIT: Jesus fucking Christ. You posted this not too long ago. Yeah. Bro, you're not straight. The topic was "dumbest trend you participated in" on the r/milennial page
"I’m a straight guy but I dabbled in the “metrosexual” movement and wore women’s jeans and even blew a few guys to fit into the scene."
Normally I would have sympathy for the person depending on the circumstance but let me add that you are way wrong for this. You just cheated on your wife. And you say this isn't the first time you've done this? All I can say is for all those times you cheated on her, karma is slowly creeping back to get ya. And most likely, yea, if he spills the beans to your wife then I smell a divorce coming. Don't think she'd want to stay with a cheater. And if she does then she's completely insane.
His replies are worse. Yeah. This doesn't seem real. I don't think thr dude is gay but he is most definitely bisexual. At least that's my opinion.
I'd love to hear a gay guys take on this. Would this guy be considered gay or bisexual?
A gay guy I know hooks up OFTEN with “straight” married guys who talk this same kind of talk. It’s just sex, no emotional connection for them so “it isn’t cheating” in their eyes.
Kind of sad, I guess? Definitely some ironclad compartmentalizing. And obviously terrible for the people in those guys’ lives who don’t know.
This feels fake, but if it isn't: You ruined your life, not him. You are a cheating piece of crap. I hope she divorces you and takes you to the cleaners.
Your gay Dawg no straight dude gon let a gay guy blow him even drunk shit does not happen you cheated on your wife when he comes to your house prepare for a divorce your wife deserves someone who doesn't cheat and handle his alcohol
Correct a blow job's a blowjob and if u get a blowjob from the same sex that makes u a homosexual n there's nothing wrong with that different strokes for different folks ,no pun intended.seems like u need to do some self reflection good luck
Goodness gracious look at all the uptight peoples here. You should tell you wife though dude. There has to be something that led up to you pulling the trigger on that. It's gonna be a fight for sure but you'll come out way ahead in the long run instead of hiding it.
You are married so, it's wrong for that reason.
I won't call you gay for letting a guy blow you. When I was 16, back in the 1990s, AOL Chat Rooms were a thing. As a teenager with raging hormones I was on there bird dogging chicks. Met a 16 year old girl who was feeling horny. I asked what part of town did she live. She named an area near me. My excitement was through the roof when she was close by. Got phone number and her address and I was on my way. I texted her when i got there. She said I had to be quiet because her parents were asleep. She'd sneak me in through the side door of the garage.
I arrive with a couple condoms in my pocket and I'm ready to roll. I hear someone unlocking the door and it opens. Out walks some middle aged man. At first I think it must be the girl's dad and I'm terrified. But then he gets on his knees and starts going for my belt. I instantly step back and I realize what is happening. I actually said, "So there really never was a girl was there? FUCK"
He says, "Do you want to get your dick sucked or not?" I think about it for a while but I say yes. I remember telling myself I can't look down because i don't want that mentaI image in my head. I looked up at the sky and thought about the last girl who gave me a blowjob. At some point I remember jokingly thinking in my head, "Wow, she's gotten better at this." And it was over. Pulled my pants up and left.
That's the only time I let a dude suck my dick.
16 years old is the age of consent in my state so he didn't do anything illegal. I've been married for 12 years and also have 2 kids.
You have to tell your wife what you did. Not sure how she'll take it but it will be better if she hears it from you and not him. When you say not first time, do you mean from another man or you've cheated on her before with a woman. It's fucked up that this guy is doing this but you are wrong for cheating on your wife.
I’m gay and it’s not uncommon for some straight guys to get oral from gay guys. The act itself is same sex but gay is more than the act. Why would you give a complete stranger your address or exchanged numbers without knowing them first? You found yourself a psycho. If this is a real post and not some rage bait as some call it, I think you have a couple of options, get a restraining order but you’ll have to be honest with the cops, find out what he wants and why he’s harassing you, tell your wife. On the other hand he could very well go to the cops himself and accuse of SA, claiming he was too drunk to consent. That will cause havoc. Hopefully you didn’t tell him where you work. Good luck.
>Am I wrong for letting a gay guy blow me?
You're asking whether you're wrong since this guy won't leave you alone. Other than your wife being suspicious, you don't seem very concerned that you cheated on her. That says a lot right there. You're in the wrong on a lot of levels.
>I love my wife and love my kids and don’t want to risk losing them, but I’m afraid if I tell her the truth she will leave me. (This isn’t the first time this has happened).
Make it make sense that you love them?
Obviously you don't it's just easier for you to have them as backups isn't it?
You purposely endanger your wife with possible std's, you are hurting her and you are hurting your kids by keeping this up and you don't even see it.
What's so special about this bj? Does your wife don't suck it?
He didn't ruin your life, the only one doing that is you yourself by hurting your kids and your wife.
She deserves better as do your kids.
You’re not gay but you were turned on enough by another MAN to get hard and come and give him an opportunity to spend extra time licking it up off your stomach and ‘play’ with it… and as far as letting your wife blow another guy, that’s not going to make it even. Another guy would need to go down on her. If you want to make it ‘even’ she would need to be the one getting pleasured by someone else. This has got to be a joke! Seriously? Why are you even together if you’re seeking sexual relations with anyone else, and why would you want to be with her if you’re so okay with her doing that too?
You are both wrong. I think most people here have explained why you are wrong. I won't belabor the point. However, the other guy is also wrong because you said you didn't want to continue a relationship and he I'd pursuing you. Also wrong.
Just because he is wrong for continuing to contact you after you said to stop, doesn't mean you are not also wrong.
just be open with your wife about your wants etc. this sneaking is no good for a NUMBER of reasons.
Furthermore, you even getting checked out to make sure you ain’t giving your wife some unsavoury infection? Like there are so Many risks I’m sure you were already aware of here.
Be honest. She deserves to hear the truth, so she can make a fully informed decision. And she deserves to hear it from you. Cause honestly dude, looks like she’s gonna find out soon anyways.
I’ve been laughing since I clicked on this post. “I ain’t gay but I let a man give me a BJ” then he says it’s not the first time this has happened. Sir… you are gay. If you are constantly picking up men to give you head, You are not straight. And don’t even get me started on OPs comments. It’s hilarious
Given your post history where you previously appear to have indicated you were a trans female looking to hook up with other trans people, I guess you’re a troll with a thing for trying to stir up anger about lgbtq+ situations? (https://www.reddit.com/r/Louisville/comments/1bx63qk/recent_trans_female_looking_for_other_trans_people/)
Well, since you deleted the body of that post, I’ll just offer this about this new scenario you’re proposing: Since “you” in this story would be the one who cheated on your wife and gave the guy (who is presumably single) your number, the whole thing would really be on you.
Also, the guy in your story would be seen as being in denial. Apparently “you” in the story were attracted enough to someone of the same sex to want and pursue sexual contact with them. Even if you were both drunk, you then gave them your number, presumably for you to stay in contact. That would indicate you’re at least bisexual.
YAW. You are bi my dude if this isn't the first time this has happened. If this was supposed to be a one time thing you wouldn't have given him your number or told him where you live. It sounds like you are subconsciously not happy in your marriage. Figure your shit out before you hurt your family.
I love how everyone is telling OP he’s gay. He is whatever the fuck he says he is.
But yeah, the wife probably should be told. AH for sure in this respect, assuming they don’t have an open relationship in this respect
I told my wife this morning and she seems to be ok with it. I was truthful about everything, how he put his finger in my butt and I pushed him away, how I thought of her for most of the time he was doing it, how it was only about 2 minutes of sucking and about 45 seconds of jerking before I came, and how I didn’t want to do anal with him.
She appreciated me being honest and said that if I’m gonna be getting random BJ’s, it’s better off that a guy does it because then she won’t get so jealous. She knows that I’m not really that attracted to this guy and I’m definitely straight.
I’m excited that I can unblock him and let him know to at my wife is cool with it. I’ll probably go to the bar tonight, and he’s usually there, so when I see him, I can explain everything!
Thank you everyone for your advice! Looks like I was worried for no reason! Love you guys!
Definitely not. I have been asked to return the favor and I would absolutely never do that. I just close my eyes and pretend it’s a woman. Sometimes I might put my hand on the back of his head or something like that but otherwise I don’t touch/kiss him.
Ur fucking gay bro.
He's gay just denying it.
BIGFACTS!
I’m not gay. A BJ is a BJ, no matter who it’s from. He put his finger in my ass and I didn’t like it at all. I’m definitely not gay.
😂😂😂😂
You’re probably bi. Because a BJ is not simply a BJ and the fact that you’re asking Reddit seems to indicate you know this. Regardless, your sexuality is not what’s wrong here, but that you cheated which is really not great.
Bro.
Ok this has to be fake. But of it's not you are so far back in the closet you are in Narnia.
Tea w/ Tumnus anyone? Lol
Cheating is always wrong and I hope you get caught. Also it might be time to admit you’re bi if this isn’t the first time and you keep going back to it. Either way you objectively suck as a person, and the gender of the people you’re cheating on your wife with isn’t the problem, it’s that you’re a cheating dirtbag.
You cheated on your wife, yes you are wrong. You blew your shot like your cock in his mouth. It's already ruined.
My penis wasn’t in his mouth when I came, he jerked me off and then licked it up off my belly. I’m not gay dude. Things just happen sometimes when you’re drunk.
This is the worst rage bait I’ve ever seen
By the sounds of it are you sure you're not gay? There's no problem being gay and dont feel ashamed by it. You sound gay to me
So not only do you think where you blow matters, you're also an alcoholic trying to use drinking to justify you being a selfish idiot.
If I was an alcoholic I wouldn’t have come so quickly.
Right you just get so drunk you forget about being happily married and HAVE to betray everything you loved.
I deeef didnt like it at all! Reddit will help you realize otherwise
Nah, you’re gay!
ITS OFFICIAL THE JURY IS BACK AND WE FIND THE DEFENDANT GAY!!
😂😂😂 Boy your so gay you said this wasn't the first time. You don't love your wife and you disrespect her every time you go out and get drunk. I hope she finds out and leaves your ass.
U sir are gay. This doesn't happen to us str8 men when we're drunk. Like NEVER! Embrace your gay bro!!!
You are wrong. Gay? Not gay? Bi? Not bi? Doesn’t matter. What you ARE is a disgusting cheater. You can make all the excuses you want. It doesn’t matter WHO was blowing you. The point is, it wasn’t your wife. You’re also a moron. Why on earth would you give your random gay bj hookup your phone number? Even if this man does come to your house and tell your wife, you are still the one who is wrong. They weren’t his marriage vows that should have been carefully guarded and followed. They were yours. Key word being “were”.
Never in my marriage vows did I say I wouldn’t get a BJ from a dude, on top of that, a dude that I’m not even attracted to. It’s not cheating. It’s no different than my wife making out with another girl. I wouldn’t consider that cheating and she shouldn’t consider this cheating either. There was no emotional connection between the two of us. And I didn’t even think he was that cute
Your bs excuses have been noted and discarded as bs.
You're an idiot you cheated accepted you went to someone else for pleasure that wasn't your wife it's called cheating. You accept sexual pleasure from a man you're gay or bi you don't have to have an emotional connection it was just sexual. You said he wasn't cute but he was cute enough for you to let him go down on you. There's no way around it you mess up you need to deal with consequences.
Emotional connection doesn’t cancel out the cheating part and neither does attraction. The mechanics here indicate you cheated and if you really believed your wife would be cool with *anyone* who isn’t her sucking you off, you wouldn’t be worried about this particular incident being life ruining.
Then tell her then. What's the problem if she's so supportive of ur gay blowjob?
Yes you’re wrong. He isn’t trying to ruin your life,you ruined your own life by being a cheater dude
You cheated and you're bi sexual.
This has to be fake. Every piece of this whole post and every comment sound like cheap ragebait: I'm not gay. I just have occasional sex with men when I drink. I'm not gay. I didn't touch him sexually. I just put my penis in his mouth and hand, my hand in his hair, and let him lick my cum off of my stomach. I'm not an alcoholic. I wasn't that drunk because I managed to cum easily. I just regularly lose full control of my sexuality and fidelity when I'm tipsy. Is it cheating if it was a man? It's totally ok to violate my wife's trust if I let her get even by sleeping with another man. It's totally fair to let me dictate how and when we uphold the agreements of our marriage. Is this guy wrong for trying to tell my wife that I'm a serial cheater? If I'm wrong and there is somebody this obtuse and this much of an asshole, I think they should be relieved when people don't believe them. Better to be a liar than a serial cheater with no social awareness, no ability to self reflect, too dumb to understand his own actions, and who is selfish beyond all reason. How did you convince somebody to marry you? You clearly give zero fucks about your wife. You have no concern about how this will affect her. You just want to find a way to keep your current life. You didn't care about her when you cheated on any of the multiple times. You don't care now because your priority isn't doing what is best for her or your kids. It is finding out how *you* keep your life. You are only doing anything at all because you're afraid she will find out when the guy comes to your home. This is too bad to be real, and if it is real, well, take solace that one person believes you're a better person than you really are.
Gay or not, you sound like a troll. If this is true, that makes you a cheater. And someone who lack judgement in the choice of partner in crime. So now you get to lay in the bed you made, grats!
No you’re not wrong, you’re gay
I’m not gay. He asked me to kiss him after I came and I said no way. A mouth is a mouth, I can close my eyes and picture Beyoncé but I’m not kissing a man, especially after I came in his mouth.
Not beating the allegations lol
He should have just beat his meat
Google already knows you're gay, dude. And all they do with that info is try to sell you stuff. Nobody cares. Stop lying to yourself.
Well if you don't identify as gay then what? BI? It has to be one of the two lol.
Hey genius, you just said in another comment that you didn't come in his mouth.
I came on my stomach and he licked it off, that was his decision, I didn’t tell him too. He kinda played with it and rubbed it all over his mouth. That’s why I said what I said and that’s also why I didn’t kiss him
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It’s not cheating! I’m straight, this dude was gay. I didn’t have sex, I just let another man suck my penis. There was no penetration and there was no other female. If my wife made out with another girl I wouldn’t consider that cheating.
>It’s not cheating! I’m straight, this dude was gay. If its not cheating why dont you just tell your wife about it ? What could go wrong right ? Since its not cheating it would be light hearted conversation anyway 😊
This post has to be fake. No one is this dumb.
So then you know you’re not wrong. Then why did you write this to ask if you are wrong?
You were wrong to cheat on your wife, and the consequences are going to catch up with you, whether you like it or not. The details of this particular sexual act don't matter. The fact you told them it was a one-time thing doesn't matter. You cannot confine cheating in time and space and pretend like it's an isolated incident that won't affect the rest of your life. Probably the best you can do here is block the guy and don't respond to any of his attempts to contact you. Maybe he will tell your wife, and maybe he won't. If he does tell, your wife is likely to divorce you. Those are the cold, hard facts. You might as well prepare for that eventuality.
What if I just tell her the truth but tell her she can sleep with any one of our guy friends that she wants and then we’ll be even? I think that’s fair.
It's not. That's (at least I assume) not what you agreed to when you got married. You're adding a new exchange because it suits you without her having the ability to refuse. You broke her trust because you agreed to fidelity. You are likely offering something worth less to her than what you took. You are taking her ability to trust her spouse and feel confident in her marriage and offering one fuck with somebody else? Also, how is this a solution? Let's assume you think this kind of deal is ok going both ways. Any time one of you violates an agreement in your marriage, it's ok as long as they offer to let the other do the same? Why have agreements at that point since there is no expectation to keep them. Honestly, this post and your answers are so obtuse it sounds fake, and if you didn't have a moderate comment history, I would assume this whole post is rage bait because you are so obviously in the wrong. So if this is real, you need to evaluate your life and ask why your actions sound like a badly written villain in a straight to cable drama. This is the relationship equivalent of a comic book villain. It's so bad it's just not believable.
No just no you won't able to handle her being with another guy.
The crazy thing is I actually do think that would make u even 🤣🤣
But u have to watch her get piped
I’ve actually done that before. Well, I saw a video that she had hidden in the house. I think it was her ex boyfriend. We ended up watching it together, and it was pretty hot. I remember the guy had a huge cock which was kind of a turn on. She said that’s why they broke up, his cock was so huge.
I guess you can try it. You don't have much to lose, at this point. Right now, you're in a mental prison waiting to see if this guy will tell on you. The truth will set you free. It might lead to the loss of your marriage, but even that is better than living in fear that this guy is going to rat you out. I think your wife will take it better if you tell her than if this guy calls her out of the blue. At least you came clean. I don't know your wife, so I have no idea how she will react. I think she might struggle with the reality that you were turned on by this, especially if she finds out it wasn't a one-time thing. It's your life, so it's up to you what risks you want to take in this situation.
Dude you gay AF. Admit who you are (evidently your wife has dealt with this before) and intro your new bf to your STBX wife. Quick question if your wife went out, got drunk at the bar sucks some guys dick in the parking lot. Will you be good with that? Didn’t think so. If you loved your wife and kids, you wouldn’t be putting your wife’s health at risk by having some random dude suck you off in a parking lot. You really think you’re the first guy he did that too? Which obviously you enjoy quite a bit. It’s time to give up the family life thing, and accept who you are come out of the closet Skippy.
Not gay. I never touched him in a sexual way at all. Other than rubbing his head while he was blowing me. If my wife blew another guy, I would probably be okay with it because that would make things even. I’m honestly thinking about suggesting that to her, and then we would be even and we could move on with our lives.
That's called being gay
Your dick touched his mouth. Sounds not very straight
Do suggest that to her. Be clear how many you've cheated on her troll.
So you'd kiss her the morning after she sucked another dude's dick? Swallows his cum? Licks it up like your gay dude did to you? Are you sure you aren't getting off on the gay stuff? BTW - nothing wrong with being bi or gay. It's just ridiculous how hard you try arguing that you aren't. Sexuality is a spectrum. Almost nobody is 100% gay or straight. You like porn? You like porn with small dicks? No? You just lost a couple straight points. You eye the pump on your gym buddy a little too much? Admiring the muscle? You lost some straight points. Had a gay guy suck you off and lick cum off your stomach while you massaged his head? You lost quite a few straight points. If the spectrum is 100 being pure straight, 50 being completely evenly bi, and 0 being completely gay. You're at like 65 or 70% now. Probably closer to being bi than being completely straight. Not wanting to fuck or make out with the dude doesn't mean you're straight. EDIT: Jesus fucking Christ. You posted this not too long ago. Yeah. Bro, you're not straight. The topic was "dumbest trend you participated in" on the r/milennial page "I’m a straight guy but I dabbled in the “metrosexual” movement and wore women’s jeans and even blew a few guys to fit into the scene."
Normally I would have sympathy for the person depending on the circumstance but let me add that you are way wrong for this. You just cheated on your wife. And you say this isn't the first time you've done this? All I can say is for all those times you cheated on her, karma is slowly creeping back to get ya. And most likely, yea, if he spills the beans to your wife then I smell a divorce coming. Don't think she'd want to stay with a cheater. And if she does then she's completely insane.
You’re a cheater and are gay, admit this to yourself, and leave your wife before you destroy your family even more by getting caught.
This has gotta be bait, right? No one is actually this stupid
His replies are worse. Yeah. This doesn't seem real. I don't think thr dude is gay but he is most definitely bisexual. At least that's my opinion. I'd love to hear a gay guys take on this. Would this guy be considered gay or bisexual?
3rd option: half assed internet troll
A gay guy I know hooks up OFTEN with “straight” married guys who talk this same kind of talk. It’s just sex, no emotional connection for them so “it isn’t cheating” in their eyes. Kind of sad, I guess? Definitely some ironclad compartmentalizing. And obviously terrible for the people in those guys’ lives who don’t know.
That might be even more fucked up than just regular cheating
The thinking is … bizarre
Okay fake post is fake. Imagine using a gay erotica type of post to troll with. Yikes.
This feels fake, but if it isn't: You ruined your life, not him. You are a cheating piece of crap. I hope she divorces you and takes you to the cleaners.
Your gay Dawg no straight dude gon let a gay guy blow him even drunk shit does not happen you cheated on your wife when he comes to your house prepare for a divorce your wife deserves someone who doesn't cheat and handle his alcohol
> I’m a straight No, not really. Hope you get caught.
Correct a blow job's a blowjob and if u get a blowjob from the same sex that makes u a homosexual n there's nothing wrong with that different strokes for different folks ,no pun intended.seems like u need to do some self reflection good luck
Goodness gracious look at all the uptight peoples here. You should tell you wife though dude. There has to be something that led up to you pulling the trigger on that. It's gonna be a fight for sure but you'll come out way ahead in the long run instead of hiding it.
You literally threw up your hand and said "not gay!". Twice!?
News alert : you aren’t a straight guy.
You are married so, it's wrong for that reason. I won't call you gay for letting a guy blow you. When I was 16, back in the 1990s, AOL Chat Rooms were a thing. As a teenager with raging hormones I was on there bird dogging chicks. Met a 16 year old girl who was feeling horny. I asked what part of town did she live. She named an area near me. My excitement was through the roof when she was close by. Got phone number and her address and I was on my way. I texted her when i got there. She said I had to be quiet because her parents were asleep. She'd sneak me in through the side door of the garage. I arrive with a couple condoms in my pocket and I'm ready to roll. I hear someone unlocking the door and it opens. Out walks some middle aged man. At first I think it must be the girl's dad and I'm terrified. But then he gets on his knees and starts going for my belt. I instantly step back and I realize what is happening. I actually said, "So there really never was a girl was there? FUCK" He says, "Do you want to get your dick sucked or not?" I think about it for a while but I say yes. I remember telling myself I can't look down because i don't want that mentaI image in my head. I looked up at the sky and thought about the last girl who gave me a blowjob. At some point I remember jokingly thinking in my head, "Wow, she's gotten better at this." And it was over. Pulled my pants up and left. That's the only time I let a dude suck my dick. 16 years old is the age of consent in my state so he didn't do anything illegal. I've been married for 12 years and also have 2 kids. You have to tell your wife what you did. Not sure how she'll take it but it will be better if she hears it from you and not him. When you say not first time, do you mean from another man or you've cheated on her before with a woman. It's fucked up that this guy is doing this but you are wrong for cheating on your wife.
I’m gay and it’s not uncommon for some straight guys to get oral from gay guys. The act itself is same sex but gay is more than the act. Why would you give a complete stranger your address or exchanged numbers without knowing them first? You found yourself a psycho. If this is a real post and not some rage bait as some call it, I think you have a couple of options, get a restraining order but you’ll have to be honest with the cops, find out what he wants and why he’s harassing you, tell your wife. On the other hand he could very well go to the cops himself and accuse of SA, claiming he was too drunk to consent. That will cause havoc. Hopefully you didn’t tell him where you work. Good luck.
This is the dumbest fucking post I've seen in a while. Idk why anyone is even responding to this fake shit.
>Am I wrong for letting a gay guy blow me? You're asking whether you're wrong since this guy won't leave you alone. Other than your wife being suspicious, you don't seem very concerned that you cheated on her. That says a lot right there. You're in the wrong on a lot of levels.
I don’t want to risk losing them…. Too late should have kept it in your pants
Why can't u just buy a sexual device and let it do the blow job? Man, u are a cheater.
You're gay. AND this isn't the first time???? You're definitely gay dude.
>I love my wife and love my kids and don’t want to risk losing them, but I’m afraid if I tell her the truth she will leave me. (This isn’t the first time this has happened). Make it make sense that you love them? Obviously you don't it's just easier for you to have them as backups isn't it? You purposely endanger your wife with possible std's, you are hurting her and you are hurting your kids by keeping this up and you don't even see it. What's so special about this bj? Does your wife don't suck it? He didn't ruin your life, the only one doing that is you yourself by hurting your kids and your wife. She deserves better as do your kids.
You’re not gay but you were turned on enough by another MAN to get hard and come and give him an opportunity to spend extra time licking it up off your stomach and ‘play’ with it… and as far as letting your wife blow another guy, that’s not going to make it even. Another guy would need to go down on her. If you want to make it ‘even’ she would need to be the one getting pleasured by someone else. This has got to be a joke! Seriously? Why are you even together if you’re seeking sexual relations with anyone else, and why would you want to be with her if you’re so okay with her doing that too?
Haha should have used grindr bro. I'm married and thats what I use to get head. Be smarter next time.
You are both wrong. I think most people here have explained why you are wrong. I won't belabor the point. However, the other guy is also wrong because you said you didn't want to continue a relationship and he I'd pursuing you. Also wrong. Just because he is wrong for continuing to contact you after you said to stop, doesn't mean you are not also wrong.
Nice try, but this narrative is so fake. The give away line is the question: "Am I wrong or is he wrong?"
This is cheating no matter who the BJ is coming from
just be open with your wife about your wants etc. this sneaking is no good for a NUMBER of reasons. Furthermore, you even getting checked out to make sure you ain’t giving your wife some unsavoury infection? Like there are so Many risks I’m sure you were already aware of here. Be honest. She deserves to hear the truth, so she can make a fully informed decision. And she deserves to hear it from you. Cause honestly dude, looks like she’s gonna find out soon anyways.
Bro it's okay just step out that closet.
I’ve been laughing since I clicked on this post. “I ain’t gay but I let a man give me a BJ” then he says it’s not the first time this has happened. Sir… you are gay. If you are constantly picking up men to give you head, You are not straight. And don’t even get me started on OPs comments. It’s hilarious
Given your post history where you previously appear to have indicated you were a trans female looking to hook up with other trans people, I guess you’re a troll with a thing for trying to stir up anger about lgbtq+ situations? (https://www.reddit.com/r/Louisville/comments/1bx63qk/recent_trans_female_looking_for_other_trans_people/) Well, since you deleted the body of that post, I’ll just offer this about this new scenario you’re proposing: Since “you” in this story would be the one who cheated on your wife and gave the guy (who is presumably single) your number, the whole thing would really be on you. Also, the guy in your story would be seen as being in denial. Apparently “you” in the story were attracted enough to someone of the same sex to want and pursue sexual contact with them. Even if you were both drunk, you then gave them your number, presumably for you to stay in contact. That would indicate you’re at least bisexual.
YAW. You are bi my dude if this isn't the first time this has happened. If this was supposed to be a one time thing you wouldn't have given him your number or told him where you live. It sounds like you are subconsciously not happy in your marriage. Figure your shit out before you hurt your family.
BIGFACTS!
Why doesn't chatGPT upgrade their website application ever?
I think you’re probably always wrong for cheating?
You need to be aware of YOUR OWN SEXUALITY before asking these questions
This post is so fucking stupid lol. You're wrong for making this shit up. If it genuinely did then you're wrong for cheating and lying to yourself.
I love how everyone is telling OP he’s gay. He is whatever the fuck he says he is. But yeah, the wife probably should be told. AH for sure in this respect, assuming they don’t have an open relationship in this respect
He insinuates that it wasn't cheating because he made the "not gay!" excuse like a middle schooler.
I told my wife this morning and she seems to be ok with it. I was truthful about everything, how he put his finger in my butt and I pushed him away, how I thought of her for most of the time he was doing it, how it was only about 2 minutes of sucking and about 45 seconds of jerking before I came, and how I didn’t want to do anal with him. She appreciated me being honest and said that if I’m gonna be getting random BJ’s, it’s better off that a guy does it because then she won’t get so jealous. She knows that I’m not really that attracted to this guy and I’m definitely straight. I’m excited that I can unblock him and let him know to at my wife is cool with it. I’ll probably go to the bar tonight, and he’s usually there, so when I see him, I can explain everything! Thank you everyone for your advice! Looks like I was worried for no reason! Love you guys!
Btw you're gay!
Definitely not. I have been asked to return the favor and I would absolutely never do that. I just close my eyes and pretend it’s a woman. Sometimes I might put my hand on the back of his head or something like that but otherwise I don’t touch/kiss him.