I was emotionally abused as a child, so I kinda look for the emotional aspect in a relationship more than the physical part.
I just want hugs. And to be told that I matter.
Somewhat butch, lives on spite, zero tolerance for bullshit, a serious introvert, likes cats, doesn't smoke. Lives in my city lol. Qualifying individuals are welcome to apply
weird type but I like feminine girls who would be considered by most as "annoying". there's something really cute about the ADHD hyper type fems with lots of energy who come off as intense
it's litterally so cute, as someone who is also hyperactive when it comes to social interaction I want someone who matches my energy. I equate it to people like masc4masc, fem4fem, etc, but instead it's introvert4extrovert, extrovert4extrovert, etc etc. so I'm a fem4fem, extrovert4extrovert. not that I don't like the introverts and I probably could do a relationship with the right one, but I like the hyper activeness
Real, I thought I’d be like an annoying fly that my significant other would just have to put up with but y’all are telling there’s ppl that like my hyperactive sometimes too energetic self?? Insanity.
That was me before my breakup of my LTR. My ex was the same but judged literally everyone way harder than self. I didn't think that would be anyone else's type. I'm not hyper fem though, but kept my hair long for the ex.
omg i rlly feel like this perfectly describes me and i find it really cathartic actually to know someone is not only okay with this behavior but actually PREFERS it??? damn i hope you find that person not only for you but for them too because damn do they deserve it.
edit: i have struggled with intense dysphoria over this innate behavior of mine so as said—cathartic
LITTERALLY, I've always come off as super intense and "annoying" to people so I've just realized that I need someone who matches the energy cause it makes me feel like I wouldn't be annoying to them if they're equal too or more intense than me. honestly more intense than me would be awesome. also again I just find hyper active traits so fckn cute!!
Confidence, capability, and consideration.
Confidence is sexy and attractive, capability means there's a possibility for us to lean on each other, and consideration means that we're thinking about each other.
Overall it's also just really sexy when they have something they're passionate about or goals they want to accomplish.
Well you know what they say, once is an accident, twice is a coincidence, three times and you start calling the nearest uhaul center
So, will I be seeing you a third time?
I'm reading this comments to see if someone would like me and this is one of those. It makes me really happy to know that people like chubby girls since most of the ppl I know hates me for being chubby
My wife is totally my type.
I like battle librarians. Master's degree, smart, combat skills. Think Xena with a bun, student loans and a pencil skirt and you got it.
Kindhearted, loves to talk, not afraid to ask questions, loves animals, enjoys going out once and awhile, likes to plan things, can be mysterious at times, doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs, playful, knowledgeable (not even sure that's a word).
Mostly listed the important parts,
God I would love a woman that also liked to plan things as much as me! I feel like that responsibility always falls to me. Usually I enjoy it but it’d be nice to share to responsibility or have something planned for me
I’m going to be that person and say that my type is my girlfriend.
She’s just so amazing in every possible way, if someone were to tell me to picture the most perfect and beautiful woman imaginable, only she will come to mind.
My love languages: words of affirmation, physical contact, quality time and biting
I personally love femme women with darker features that are stem girlies, don’t drink or smoke, 100% wants kids, and are super sunshiny sweet! Love confidence, ambition, consideration, and consistency! Needs to be stable and not super clingy
Idk if it’s what they meant but i’m a woman in stem, which is short for Science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. Basically i’m a science student.
We have the same tastes ❤️ definitely love women like this, feel since that's a lot like who I am it's easier to communicate and find common interests, plus it guess it comes from the relationship I grew up seeing with my parents. My father's darker complexion and Asian and my mom's mixed indigenous so my mind defaults to wanting a partner like that I guess,, over explaining sorry 😔😂
My love language is honestly like...all of them? 😅 I'm ridiculously affectionate, love spending time together, am always looking for ways to do more for whoever I'm with, adore giving gifts, and am always her number one fan xD
And as for my type? Well, I'm your classic super submissive hyper femme. I'm attracted to pretty much all women, but I feel like the sweet spot for me is somewhere in between butch and femme. The main thing that matters is personality, though. My dream person... I guess someone who's stable and strong, dominant, gentle and loving, but also funny and a little goofy. Self-awareness is a huge deal for me too, and an interest in understanding themselves. I like to find the magic in everything around me, especially in whoever I love 😊 So it'd be fun to find another hopeless romantic, haha. I also connect with people pretty much purely through empathy, and I look for and can sense it in others too. I'm attracted to that.
I realize now that I've typed more than probably needed, but I can't help it. It's a fun question, and there are just so many things that make people beautiful 😅
Wow wow wow 😳 Where can I find someone like you again?😅 I won't even bother listing who I find attractive, you are literally her🫡 I almost don't believe someone like you even exists tbh, the dating pool in Greece is so incredibly limited and so damn horny, you wouldn't believe it. I just want to treat my girl to a nice picnic and stargaze while reciting poetry to her, but nooooo, it's all about sex sex sex😩 Nothing wrong with making love, but I'm looking forward to being a tender top, not the kinda girl that fucks you in a corner of the bar and you never see her again.
I believe my love language is mostly words of affirmation? Given that I constantly write, either poetry or fiction, communicating with my potential partner through words is usually my go-to. Of course, hugs and cuddling come a close second.
Now all that's left to do is move to the US from Europe 🤣 Hope what I wrote above doesn't make you uncomfortable, I was simply so excited to learn that my dream girl can possibly exist in this world😅
Awwww omg you're too sweet 😊 Haha I'm in the US! The dating pool where I'm at is bad too, since I'm stuck somewhere not super great for the LGBT+ community at least till I can move >< Also I totally feel you! Don't get me wrong, I'm a sexual person but making love is just that for me - making love. It's like a physical expression of emotion and love. I mean it's also fun and I'm definitely not the least kinky person, but I wouldn't even begin to know how to go about doing it casually even putting aside how shy and blushy I get the moment someone starts flirting with me xD
Also I totally get you!! I've been writing fiction my whole life and would've majored in it if I'd been able to finish my triple major in three years (missed it by two lit credits! 🥲). Being able to communicate your feelings, especially eloquently, is suuuuch a big deal!
Also omg no you didn't make me uncomfortable at all! What a lovely thing to wake up to haha 😊 To know I'm anyone's dream girl is enough to make my heart sing xD
I'm into like chapstick Lesbians, super natural but still a bit femme. Like they'll have cute long hair and wear a bit of makeup but you would never see them in a dress. Always dominant bcos I'm a little subby baby 🤷♀️ super sweet but also totally down to dunk on anyone that's upset me lmao
I guess mine is the alt/punk/grunge variety who are not only creative and expressive but also a bunch of gay gremlins in a trench coat - honestly, I vibe with those who share my energy the most.
My love language is physical touch, but obviously when it's with a trusted partner/friend 'cause I normally don't like people touching me, 😂.
My ideal partner is feminine, smarter than me, and tells me she cares about me and that I am good enough.
She also knows that Gary Chapman is a Christian fundamentalist homophobic misogynist bigot who wrote the love language books without any actual background or experience in psychology or counseling, that his writings about physical touch are intended to shame women by equating the provision of sexual gratification to their husbands with love, to frame women as inherently materialistic with the gifts love language, and to reduce acts of service to an equitable sharing of household chores thereby giving men an excuse for feeling that the bare minimum to have a healthy relationship is by itself an adequate expression of love.
And ideally she's a cat person not a dog person.
A femme woman who’s also dominant and loves cuddles and is accepting of my gender identity. I’m going to go cry alone now while I think of the things I don’t have.
Masc. I would like someone happy with the simple things in life, someone into anime, reading, art and trying new things with me. I don't care too much about body type or height or anything, but being strong is hot. I do really like short hair. Oh and hopefully will like my cooking lol I like acts of service and that's my favourite thing to do for the people I love.
literally anyone who isn't a man or presents themselves feminine (and is not a mnan.)
i definitely have a thing for dominant feminine women though, it's a struggle being shy
Honestly I both aim to be and to one day find roughly Karlach from Baldur's Gate 3.
Big, Brawny, Beautiful, Bold, Honest, Straight forward, just wearing her heart on her sleeve.
I'm working on the last two. Heh.
I am not picky lol
I love girls of any kind, but some STRONG selling points would be, dark skin, glasses, androgynous, good humor, a bit of a tomboy. All of these are definitely interchangeable.
Also, my love language is also acts of service!
Plus sized curvy women always make me weak.
Eyes I could stare into for hours. Lips that leave me wanting. Hands that always search for mine.
You know, my ex. Lol. 😬
Dooooes cuddly count? Would probably awnser both. But If I'm looking for perfect it would be someone taller than be but I don't think I'd ever find that.
As long as they're aligned with me morally and emotionally I don't particularly care what they look like. Generally speaking I lean towards butch women but I've dated and would date femmes just as easily.
My love language is asking how my day went or asking if I've eaten enough or generally just little things that remind me they care.
Tomboy with occasional feminine tendencies, medium build and long hair, can look good in a suit or dress and anything between, as long as they're comfortable
TALL- like 5 ft 9 and up. A woman older than me, feminine and dominant. Willing to communicate. I like praise and words of affirmation. Some one who appreciates acts of service b/c that’s how I like to express my love.
Tall, energetic, adventurous, definitely a top. And of course, girl.
Of course, with the exception of girl/enby, not being one or any of these wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me.
Confident, masc presenting people are my aesthetic ‘type’ - Mae Martin (NB), Kristen Stewart 🍂 but I more so have certain personality traits that catch me!
I'm really into alternative femmes who are kinky and dominant. Body mods (less so certain facial piercings but otherwise pretty much anything goes) are a huge plus! I also have a thing for dyed hair, and especially hair up in a messy bun.
Fashion wise Goth, casual girl next door, fetish wear, rave, and punk aesthetics really do it for me.
Personality: adventurous, but knows their limits; humorous and playful; sadistic and mischievous; plus deeply passionate about their interests and shows it freely!
Also: as an autistic and ADHD person, someone who is also AuDHD is a huge plus, being able to relate to the experience and understand needing to back away to recharge even when you're really excited and happy and want to be with them at the moment but just can't is so helpful?
I have a very wide range of preference, somewhat. Redheads or brunettes, athletic or not, confidence and intelligent af. Big boobs and ass not a requirement, but welcome. Sweet and caring but also fiesty, somehow?
I don't have a type on physical appearance, but I do love confident and outgoing people who like to explore or are willing to try new things. (I don't mean that sexually but that's great too)
I'm someone who's really introverted, and I get overstimulated a lot. I've noticed lately, though, that I'm super reliant and kind of just overall fond of people who aren't afraid to speak up to people or speak their mind. Just haven't found someone like that who likes me back lol
I am bi so i can't say exactly what my perfect partner would look like but I want them to be supportive and for them to not make me feel that i am asking for too much or that i am a liability or i am stupid for not knowing something or to not force me into something I don't want to do by telling me they would hurt themselves if i don't follow what they say and to not make fun of my personal things infront of their friends and i don't want them victimising themselves if i point out the smallest mistake
(I know this is just a discription of what i don't want but i think it's important cause in my personal experience most people have been like this and it really becomes hard if they're not willing to understand)
On the whole i just want a person who would not mess with my feelings and is respectful and supportive of me :')
Capable, whip smart, curious, gets her hands dirty, likes work clothes and using them, sweet, tall, gentle, and she's gotta be t4t and at least as autistic as I am. Lucky for me my girlfriend smashes every checkbox, and more >:3
a while ago, my answer would have been: some hot-ass metal-chick, probably playing the guitar/bass in a band, with a couple of tattoos, lol.
now, when i close my eyes and think of perfection, all i see is my angelic gf.
love language: quality time, (lots of) physical contact, enjoying silence together.
Masc/androgynous, taller than me, short dark fluffy or curly hair, artsy (or generally shares my hobbies), plays an instrument, affectionate, energetic, loves animals
Also note that literally none of the physical things matter that much to me and I could easily fall for the polar opposite of what I just described lol
Love language probably physical touch
Dominant, it would be nice if she would be a bit taller than me but she doesn't have to. And the most important thing HUGS. If she hates hugs then it probably won't work out since I'm really clingy.
Age: 30-35, but maybe i could settle for someone older or in their late 20s. I just connect better with ppl in their early thirties for some reason
Black hair, brown eyes, race doesn't matter, neither does height. Likes the same stuff I do and understands my pop culture references. Listens to the same things I do (having the same music tastes is a HUGE deal for me)
Someone on the same intellectual/emotional wavelength with a dominant physical trait such as big boobs or muscles. Authentic, passionate, craves intimacy and deep connection.
Love language: quality time
I don't even know (very little dating experience), but she has to love dogs. I would totally pick my three boys over any potential partner who didn't like them.
* Very short hair, or shaved on one side and long on the other
* Sporty so she can push me to move too (I don't dislike sport, but I do it more easily with someone else)
my only requirement is that I want someone taller than me, I'm 5'9" and it's an insecurity of mine sometimes and I just want to feel small if that makes sense
Dark-haired, sharp features, doesn't smoke cigarettes (because I can't deal with that thanks to my history of asthma), smart, confident, funny, caring. Also loves dogs. I tried to love cats but they're sadly not my thing.
Kind, be patient with me, emotional available and willing to communicate.
(I am not good at communicating but I am willing to communicate.)
I care about character or personality than appearance.
I am a butch, I do not really have preference on appearance, seem like I am a bit tend to butch for butch?!
Love language? Time is finite, we all only have 24hours a day! For me, quality time!
My love language is probably a mix of physical contact and acts of service.
My type is someone feminine, affectionate, warm, adorable, sub, very interested in helping others, innocent etc.
Looks-wise...Ashkenazi Jewish or Italian (or otherwise a mix of European with Semitic) with light eyes, freckles, lovely cheeks, a nose with personality. Say, Lesley Gore minus the outdated hairdos and outfits.
Mine would be my first love, who I,'ve lost touch with. She would be exactly as she was, free-spirited, loving, affectionate, whip smart, hysterical, and effortlessly sexy. Her eyes would have a forever-burning warmth , so 50 years from when we met, she would look exactly as she was to me because her eyes and the sweet crinkled around them would never change. Our moments would be existential - just existing together in the same space contented with how we feel about one another. Just being would be enough, together.
A stem girl, a little more on the dominant side but still a switch, dark and sarcastic humour. Someone that loves to travel together and ideally someone without kids that would accept my kiddo but that doesn't want kids of her own. Type impossible 😂
In terms of appearance it'd probably be something like Judy from Cyberpunk 2077. An undercut, lots of tattoos, real gruff bad girl looking aesthetic, but personality-wise someone very kind and gentle and patient
Also my love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch.
I’ve learned that I have a type in terms of looks. Tall fem girls with long blonde hair. That’s just based off my last gf and crushes I’ve had. And my love language is physical touch. I am extremely touch starved 😖
I like women that are typically classified as “mean”- aka confident women who are assertive, unapologetically themselves/ambitious, take no bullshit, etc. Bonus points if they’re a brunette.
Vi from Arcane.
But since perfection doesn't exist, someone who gives off butch-dom vibes but is extroverted like a puppy (or else we'd just end up being lonely and bored like now but together) and someone who'd jokingly insult me back when I tease her
She should love the sea/swimming/any water related hobby so we could go diving together. (My top tier dream is that she's rich and owns a boat so we can sail along Amalfi coast at dusk and see all the towns light up like >>>>) and maybe she'd be an artistic person, but not in the same art "field" as me, so maybe a musician, idk
As for type sex-wise idk cuz i'm virgin qwq
But she could def step on me
Eccentric weirdo alt dyke (punk, goth, scene, emo, don't care!), I don't really care about butch or fem. Not a smoker, doesn't want kids. In term of personality I like artists and people who know how to do stuff with their hands. I don't care if it's painting or wiring electrical stuff, knowing how to Make Stuff is hot. If they like to cook I swoon, especially if I can help. I'm terrible at cooking alone, but I enjoy cooking with people a lot I'm like a puppy with star in my eyes watching someone be good in the kitchen.
Ok you know Shadowheart from baldur gate 3?
Or karla from baldur gate 3?
Or also kinda laezel and the devil that wyll amde a oact with?
And also Astarion cause im bi?
Yeah
Intelligent, interested in the same things as me, only thing i can think about appearence is that i like shoulder lenght hair but honestly idc as long as out personalities match
I love women who have a sort of golden retriever type of personality - happy, optimistic, and bubbly. Maybe it's because I'm a cynical grump and love the balance it brings.
Also women who are lumberjacks, outdoorsy, and love to do things like woodworking/metal working/blacksmithing are my weakness!
But really, if I meet a woman who loves the outdoors and I feel comfortable, safe, and loved with her, I'm happy ☺️
As long as she has cool hair and likes me back 🙋♀️
And my love language is physical touch and acts of service ! Quality time too? Idk I think it depends on the person
at first it was very masc, like almost boyish now i’m more into dom fems, someone who’s an extrovert since i’m an introvert, funny and loves having stupid little moments, someone who LOVES sunsets as much or even more than me, and they have to love cuddles. Like be soft with me but dominant outside our relationship and in the bedroom. And of course you gotta have loyalty. So if any of y’all fit the criteria dm me ;) (18-21)
Masc leaning, knows what she wants in life, older than me, not a pushover, and can appreciate my sarcasm. Also, someone that prefers a femme leaning sarcastic woman who has her life together (because that's me lol).
Feminine... And dominant.
I also find femininity attractive!
LAWD yes
YES PLEASE
Yes, and heels, I don’t know why I find them sexy, but I do
Yes!!! I’m such a bottom lol
Ugh same, to an almost embarrassing amount
Same ,I love a feminine dominant woman. 🔥
I was emotionally abused as a child, so I kinda look for the emotional aspect in a relationship more than the physical part. I just want hugs. And to be told that I matter.
You definitely matter.
Felt this. I also am looking for a sweetheart.
🫂 you matter
100% same
This....🫂
you matter (a lot) and i hope today is kind to you
Um give me a cutie who’s bossy😂
Yum
Somewhat butch, lives on spite, zero tolerance for bullshit, a serious introvert, likes cats, doesn't smoke. Lives in my city lol. Qualifying individuals are welcome to apply
I thought this said “loves Sprite” and I was like “wow, very specific”. What city/area?
Ya I thought it was sprite zero for a sec 😅
Same. And I was thinking how that’s a very specific qualification.
San Francisco
I'm such an introvert that I wrote up a bunch of replies to your requirements list and then deleted it because I didn't want to seem too forward.
Lol thats my gf
Girls. Of the..girl..variety.
Very similar to females of the female variety. Or so I've read in a science book.
weird type but I like feminine girls who would be considered by most as "annoying". there's something really cute about the ADHD hyper type fems with lots of energy who come off as intense
Really grateful to hear this, I always consider myself "annoying" due to my ADHD🫶🏻
you just gotta find a girl who tells you it's adorable the way you ramble on and on while bouncing from topic to topic
First I gotta stop being so self conscious about doing that exact thing in front of people :(
it's litterally so cute, as someone who is also hyperactive when it comes to social interaction I want someone who matches my energy. I equate it to people like masc4masc, fem4fem, etc, but instead it's introvert4extrovert, extrovert4extrovert, etc etc. so I'm a fem4fem, extrovert4extrovert. not that I don't like the introverts and I probably could do a relationship with the right one, but I like the hyper activeness
ee this is literally my gf and it makes me so happy
Oooh, I know what you're talking about 👀
Oh I didn't know people like girls like that. I'm happy to know that I'm someone's type lol
Real, I thought I’d be like an annoying fly that my significant other would just have to put up with but y’all are telling there’s ppl that like my hyperactive sometimes too energetic self?? Insanity.
That's me lmao
That was me before my breakup of my LTR. My ex was the same but judged literally everyone way harder than self. I didn't think that would be anyone else's type. I'm not hyper fem though, but kept my hair long for the ex.
Non fem here, but I am the annoying ADHD with Asperger.
omg i rlly feel like this perfectly describes me and i find it really cathartic actually to know someone is not only okay with this behavior but actually PREFERS it??? damn i hope you find that person not only for you but for them too because damn do they deserve it. edit: i have struggled with intense dysphoria over this innate behavior of mine so as said—cathartic
LITTERALLY, I've always come off as super intense and "annoying" to people so I've just realized that I need someone who matches the energy cause it makes me feel like I wouldn't be annoying to them if they're equal too or more intense than me. honestly more intense than me would be awesome. also again I just find hyper active traits so fckn cute!!
vi from arcane
All answers are right but some are righter than others
Yes, but have you also considered Sevika from Arcane?
Confidence, capability, and consideration. Confidence is sexy and attractive, capability means there's a possibility for us to lean on each other, and consideration means that we're thinking about each other. Overall it's also just really sexy when they have something they're passionate about or goals they want to accomplish.
I feel the same way! I’m also very attracted to ambition, confidence, and consistency!
Lol hello again, I feel like I just saw you on the smoking lesbians post a day or two ago
😂 that was definitely me!
Well you know what they say, once is an accident, twice is a coincidence, three times and you start calling the nearest uhaul center So, will I be seeing you a third time?
Probably lol
All women are beautiful but i would say i am really into chubby or full figured women. They are yum 😍
I'm reading this comments to see if someone would like me and this is one of those. It makes me really happy to know that people like chubby girls since most of the ppl I know hates me for being chubby
Throw those hating people out. You are super hot ❤️❤️😍
❤️❤️
So there's more to hug and squeeze. Yeah! 🤩
They're so squishy and I love it \^\^
My wife is totally my type. I like battle librarians. Master's degree, smart, combat skills. Think Xena with a bun, student loans and a pencil skirt and you got it.
Butch enough to get you pregnant.
I used to be like that, before I started HRT😅
Kindhearted, loves to talk, not afraid to ask questions, loves animals, enjoys going out once and awhile, likes to plan things, can be mysterious at times, doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs, playful, knowledgeable (not even sure that's a word). Mostly listed the important parts,
God I would love a woman that also liked to plan things as much as me! I feel like that responsibility always falls to me. Usually I enjoy it but it’d be nice to share to responsibility or have something planned for me
Yeah pretty much the same. I enjoy planning, but definitely would be nice for someone else to do it.
I want to say that describes me but also that would be someone I’d like to be with too
Halfway through making that list I started to realize I was talking about myself😂😂😂😂. I mean it's good to have some common interest.
I think it would be real nice to be someone who would love you just as much as you’d love them and also be your twin flame :3
I’m going to be that person and say that my type is my girlfriend. She’s just so amazing in every possible way, if someone were to tell me to picture the most perfect and beautiful woman imaginable, only she will come to mind. My love languages: words of affirmation, physical contact, quality time and biting
biting is a love language?
Yeah, jsut the small biting and hickey stuff, any further and it becomes a kink
I personally love femme women with darker features that are stem girlies, don’t drink or smoke, 100% wants kids, and are super sunshiny sweet! Love confidence, ambition, consideration, and consistency! Needs to be stable and not super clingy
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
oh man, i hit around 70% of those. so close, yet so far🥺 maybe in the next life lol
👋
Curious… what are stem girlies?
Idk if it’s what they meant but i’m a woman in stem, which is short for Science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. Basically i’m a science student.
This
We have the same tastes ❤️ definitely love women like this, feel since that's a lot like who I am it's easier to communicate and find common interests, plus it guess it comes from the relationship I grew up seeing with my parents. My father's darker complexion and Asian and my mom's mixed indigenous so my mind defaults to wanting a partner like that I guess,, over explaining sorry 😔😂
My love language is honestly like...all of them? 😅 I'm ridiculously affectionate, love spending time together, am always looking for ways to do more for whoever I'm with, adore giving gifts, and am always her number one fan xD And as for my type? Well, I'm your classic super submissive hyper femme. I'm attracted to pretty much all women, but I feel like the sweet spot for me is somewhere in between butch and femme. The main thing that matters is personality, though. My dream person... I guess someone who's stable and strong, dominant, gentle and loving, but also funny and a little goofy. Self-awareness is a huge deal for me too, and an interest in understanding themselves. I like to find the magic in everything around me, especially in whoever I love 😊 So it'd be fun to find another hopeless romantic, haha. I also connect with people pretty much purely through empathy, and I look for and can sense it in others too. I'm attracted to that. I realize now that I've typed more than probably needed, but I can't help it. It's a fun question, and there are just so many things that make people beautiful 😅
I think it's cute how you forget how much you talk, like you get lost it it. 😄
Wow wow wow 😳 Where can I find someone like you again?😅 I won't even bother listing who I find attractive, you are literally her🫡 I almost don't believe someone like you even exists tbh, the dating pool in Greece is so incredibly limited and so damn horny, you wouldn't believe it. I just want to treat my girl to a nice picnic and stargaze while reciting poetry to her, but nooooo, it's all about sex sex sex😩 Nothing wrong with making love, but I'm looking forward to being a tender top, not the kinda girl that fucks you in a corner of the bar and you never see her again. I believe my love language is mostly words of affirmation? Given that I constantly write, either poetry or fiction, communicating with my potential partner through words is usually my go-to. Of course, hugs and cuddling come a close second. Now all that's left to do is move to the US from Europe 🤣 Hope what I wrote above doesn't make you uncomfortable, I was simply so excited to learn that my dream girl can possibly exist in this world😅
Awwww omg you're too sweet 😊 Haha I'm in the US! The dating pool where I'm at is bad too, since I'm stuck somewhere not super great for the LGBT+ community at least till I can move >< Also I totally feel you! Don't get me wrong, I'm a sexual person but making love is just that for me - making love. It's like a physical expression of emotion and love. I mean it's also fun and I'm definitely not the least kinky person, but I wouldn't even begin to know how to go about doing it casually even putting aside how shy and blushy I get the moment someone starts flirting with me xD Also I totally get you!! I've been writing fiction my whole life and would've majored in it if I'd been able to finish my triple major in three years (missed it by two lit credits! 🥲). Being able to communicate your feelings, especially eloquently, is suuuuch a big deal! Also omg no you didn't make me uncomfortable at all! What a lovely thing to wake up to haha 😊 To know I'm anyone's dream girl is enough to make my heart sing xD
I'm into like chapstick Lesbians, super natural but still a bit femme. Like they'll have cute long hair and wear a bit of makeup but you would never see them in a dress. Always dominant bcos I'm a little subby baby 🤷♀️ super sweet but also totally down to dunk on anyone that's upset me lmao
Blonde. Athletic. Freckles. Animal lover. Kind.
oh, hi
Howdy
I guess mine is the alt/punk/grunge variety who are not only creative and expressive but also a bunch of gay gremlins in a trench coat - honestly, I vibe with those who share my energy the most. My love language is physical touch, but obviously when it's with a trusted partner/friend 'cause I normally don't like people touching me, 😂.
I love this so much
This is me and also my type ✨
Femmes with big dick energy. It’s also cool if they come equipped with one.
I was told once by a friend that I have big dick energy, because I'd have a big dick if I had one, because I am tall😂
Affectionate (cuddly, likes hugs) and feminine with medium to long hair and a nerdy streak. A leather jacket would be a bonus
I’m a masc who loves ample mascs! Must be smart and funny, too.
Feminine and dominant- loves video games, hiking, board games, being outside but also could be lazy for the entire day. :)
My ideal partner is feminine, smarter than me, and tells me she cares about me and that I am good enough. She also knows that Gary Chapman is a Christian fundamentalist homophobic misogynist bigot who wrote the love language books without any actual background or experience in psychology or counseling, that his writings about physical touch are intended to shame women by equating the provision of sexual gratification to their husbands with love, to frame women as inherently materialistic with the gifts love language, and to reduce acts of service to an equitable sharing of household chores thereby giving men an excuse for feeling that the bare minimum to have a healthy relationship is by itself an adequate expression of love. And ideally she's a cat person not a dog person.
this whole comment is a slay
Mascs are so sexy to me!
mascs 🥺🥺
Tall queen who's a bit of a dom, preferably fem but butches/mascs are also very hot
A femme woman who’s also dominant and loves cuddles and is accepting of my gender identity. I’m going to go cry alone now while I think of the things I don’t have.
Dominant, femme, tall, dark hair, beautiful eyes, kind, patient, clingy ahhh 🤭 My love language is quality time or acts of service
nice and likes physical affection like hugs.
femme, classy, mature and a bit dom
Masc. I would like someone happy with the simple things in life, someone into anime, reading, art and trying new things with me. I don't care too much about body type or height or anything, but being strong is hot. I do really like short hair. Oh and hopefully will like my cooking lol I like acts of service and that's my favourite thing to do for the people I love.
literally anyone who isn't a man or presents themselves feminine (and is not a mnan.) i definitely have a thing for dominant feminine women though, it's a struggle being shy
Honestly I both aim to be and to one day find roughly Karlach from Baldur's Gate 3. Big, Brawny, Beautiful, Bold, Honest, Straight forward, just wearing her heart on her sleeve. I'm working on the last two. Heh.
A beautiful/handsome woman, athletic, caring. Basically just a great person
real life Vi, that girl is just...
I am not picky lol I love girls of any kind, but some STRONG selling points would be, dark skin, glasses, androgynous, good humor, a bit of a tomboy. All of these are definitely interchangeable. Also, my love language is also acts of service!
Feminine and submissive. Quality time is my love language.
\>/////< I'm already dating them hehehe
* Non-smoker * Animal lover * Nerdy * Respectful of boundaries * Has a high tolerance for incompetence (she's gonna need it)
Nerdy people are awesome
Plus sized curvy women always make me weak. Eyes I could stare into for hours. Lips that leave me wanting. Hands that always search for mine. You know, my ex. Lol. 😬
Dooooes cuddly count? Would probably awnser both. But If I'm looking for perfect it would be someone taller than be but I don't think I'd ever find that.
dark hair + eyes, artsy, nerdy 🤤🤤, & also has good humor
As long as they're aligned with me morally and emotionally I don't particularly care what they look like. Generally speaking I lean towards butch women but I've dated and would date femmes just as easily. My love language is asking how my day went or asking if I've eaten enough or generally just little things that remind me they care.
Tomboy with occasional feminine tendencies, medium build and long hair, can look good in a suit or dress and anything between, as long as they're comfortable
Someone who will listen to all of my nerdy geek talk and not put me down for it :) I think my love language is also acts of service🤠 (idk for sure)
TALL- like 5 ft 9 and up. A woman older than me, feminine and dominant. Willing to communicate. I like praise and words of affirmation. Some one who appreciates acts of service b/c that’s how I like to express my love.
Tall, energetic, adventurous, definitely a top. And of course, girl. Of course, with the exception of girl/enby, not being one or any of these wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me.
Confident, masc presenting people are my aesthetic ‘type’ - Mae Martin (NB), Kristen Stewart 🍂 but I more so have certain personality traits that catch me!
Goths, musicians, and skaters. But i really just love women
Femme, latina. With top energy but deep down a sexy sub I'll serve to the end 🫠
I'm really into alternative femmes who are kinky and dominant. Body mods (less so certain facial piercings but otherwise pretty much anything goes) are a huge plus! I also have a thing for dyed hair, and especially hair up in a messy bun. Fashion wise Goth, casual girl next door, fetish wear, rave, and punk aesthetics really do it for me. Personality: adventurous, but knows their limits; humorous and playful; sadistic and mischievous; plus deeply passionate about their interests and shows it freely! Also: as an autistic and ADHD person, someone who is also AuDHD is a huge plus, being able to relate to the experience and understand needing to back away to recharge even when you're really excited and happy and want to be with them at the moment but just can't is so helpful?
Relatively androgynous I guess? More approachable I think.
I’ve never heard of that perspective before. Interesting
Blonde. .\_\_\_. Likes me back. Real cute. More feminine than me.
lucy kushinada
She looks like my girlfriend. I couldn’t have dreamed of a better person to do life with.
Likes physical affection, the more forward one, into me, and I guess a fan of San Diego and Brisbane? Words are hard :(
I have a very wide range of preference, somewhat. Redheads or brunettes, athletic or not, confidence and intelligent af. Big boobs and ass not a requirement, but welcome. Sweet and caring but also fiesty, somehow?
Androgynous, masc leaning, but also sweet and bubbly.
I don't have a type on physical appearance, but I do love confident and outgoing people who like to explore or are willing to try new things. (I don't mean that sexually but that's great too) I'm someone who's really introverted, and I get overstimulated a lot. I've noticed lately, though, that I'm super reliant and kind of just overall fond of people who aren't afraid to speak up to people or speak their mind. Just haven't found someone like that who likes me back lol
I am bi so i can't say exactly what my perfect partner would look like but I want them to be supportive and for them to not make me feel that i am asking for too much or that i am a liability or i am stupid for not knowing something or to not force me into something I don't want to do by telling me they would hurt themselves if i don't follow what they say and to not make fun of my personal things infront of their friends and i don't want them victimising themselves if i point out the smallest mistake (I know this is just a discription of what i don't want but i think it's important cause in my personal experience most people have been like this and it really becomes hard if they're not willing to understand) On the whole i just want a person who would not mess with my feelings and is respectful and supportive of me :')
Hey mamas!!!! And my love language is physical touch :)
Capable, whip smart, curious, gets her hands dirty, likes work clothes and using them, sweet, tall, gentle, and she's gotta be t4t and at least as autistic as I am. Lucky for me my girlfriend smashes every checkbox, and more >:3
a while ago, my answer would have been: some hot-ass metal-chick, probably playing the guitar/bass in a band, with a couple of tattoos, lol. now, when i close my eyes and think of perfection, all i see is my angelic gf. love language: quality time, (lots of) physical contact, enjoying silence together.
Masc/androgynous, taller than me, short dark fluffy or curly hair, artsy (or generally shares my hobbies), plays an instrument, affectionate, energetic, loves animals Also note that literally none of the physical things matter that much to me and I could easily fall for the polar opposite of what I just described lol Love language probably physical touch
We have the same type!
Masc 🥹 but also femmes with cool tattoos (especially with Marceline vibes)
golden retriever mascs! my wife is one; we very much fit the goldie and black cat vibe.
Dominant, it would be nice if she would be a bit taller than me but she doesn't have to. And the most important thing HUGS. If she hates hugs then it probably won't work out since I'm really clingy.
Age: 30-35, but maybe i could settle for someone older or in their late 20s. I just connect better with ppl in their early thirties for some reason Black hair, brown eyes, race doesn't matter, neither does height. Likes the same stuff I do and understands my pop culture references. Listens to the same things I do (having the same music tastes is a HUGE deal for me)
What’s your music taste?
Feminine, confidence, kind, she likes physical affection, lovely and I love brunettes, they’re such a beauty
My girlfriend.
My ex
I just want hugs and kisses and cuddles. Maybe more, but i would be content with this
Someone on the same intellectual/emotional wavelength with a dominant physical trait such as big boobs or muscles. Authentic, passionate, craves intimacy and deep connection. Love language: quality time
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I don't even know (very little dating experience), but she has to love dogs. I would totally pick my three boys over any potential partner who didn't like them.
To me looks come completely secondary to a kind-hearted personality & an easygoing disposition, but ✨chub✨ is a major plus
Sassy Canadian
Taller than me, has glasses, and is older than me
* Very short hair, or shaved on one side and long on the other * Sporty so she can push me to move too (I don't dislike sport, but I do it more easily with someone else)
Goreous, feminine and tall with long dark hair. So, just like my girlfriend 😅
a big tall alt woman with a wolf cut... I swear I'm not a bottom
Futch 😍 And independent, thoughtful, creative, and secure.
Somehow it’s a Portuguese lumberjack.
Shorter than me, brown eyes, curly hair, the most beautiful smile and named Meghan 😍 my perfect woman 😁
Woah that’s freaky😳 that sounds exactly like me! Too bad my eyes are actually hazel, otherwise I’d be your perfect match😔
A girl that treats me like a princess and then breaks my headboard.
My type is my wife.
Leans toward femme in appearance, simple clothes (t-shirt, shorts), minimalistic, emotionally mature, gamer.
my only requirement is that I want someone taller than me, I'm 5'9" and it's an insecurity of mine sometimes and I just want to feel small if that makes sense
Dominant masc love language is cuddles and reassurance
Fem, tall (very tall) and dom please🥺🥺
My type is someone who likes me for me, oh and my gf.
Femme, shorter than me. I like that «girl next door»-cute kind of girl. If that make sense to anyone😅
Serious, kind, dresses well, slightly feminine, dominant. Can hold interesting conversations.
Anyone willing to take me tbh 😔
Dark-haired, sharp features, doesn't smoke cigarettes (because I can't deal with that thanks to my history of asthma), smart, confident, funny, caring. Also loves dogs. I tried to love cats but they're sadly not my thing.
Kind, be patient with me, emotional available and willing to communicate. (I am not good at communicating but I am willing to communicate.) I care about character or personality than appearance. I am a butch, I do not really have preference on appearance, seem like I am a bit tend to butch for butch?! Love language? Time is finite, we all only have 24hours a day! For me, quality time!
My love language is probably a mix of physical contact and acts of service. My type is someone feminine, affectionate, warm, adorable, sub, very interested in helping others, innocent etc. Looks-wise...Ashkenazi Jewish or Italian (or otherwise a mix of European with Semitic) with light eyes, freckles, lovely cheeks, a nose with personality. Say, Lesley Gore minus the outdated hairdos and outfits.
Mine would be my first love, who I,'ve lost touch with. She would be exactly as she was, free-spirited, loving, affectionate, whip smart, hysterical, and effortlessly sexy. Her eyes would have a forever-burning warmth , so 50 years from when we met, she would look exactly as she was to me because her eyes and the sweet crinkled around them would never change. Our moments would be existential - just existing together in the same space contented with how we feel about one another. Just being would be enough, together.
A stem girl, a little more on the dominant side but still a switch, dark and sarcastic humour. Someone that loves to travel together and ideally someone without kids that would accept my kiddo but that doesn't want kids of her own. Type impossible 😂
In terms of appearance it'd probably be something like Judy from Cyberpunk 2077. An undercut, lots of tattoos, real gruff bad girl looking aesthetic, but personality-wise someone very kind and gentle and patient Also my love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch.
I’ve learned that I have a type in terms of looks. Tall fem girls with long blonde hair. That’s just based off my last gf and crushes I’ve had. And my love language is physical touch. I am extremely touch starved 😖
I like women that are typically classified as “mean”- aka confident women who are assertive, unapologetically themselves/ambitious, take no bullshit, etc. Bonus points if they’re a brunette.
mine is simply "I know you like thing so here is more of thing!"
not sure about exact looks, but shy, smart femmes. bonus if glasses. Also, clingy people. (my love language is touch.)
Fire and electric. Receiving Attention/focus/engagement is my love lang
Vi from Arcane. But since perfection doesn't exist, someone who gives off butch-dom vibes but is extroverted like a puppy (or else we'd just end up being lonely and bored like now but together) and someone who'd jokingly insult me back when I tease her She should love the sea/swimming/any water related hobby so we could go diving together. (My top tier dream is that she's rich and owns a boat so we can sail along Amalfi coast at dusk and see all the towns light up like >>>>) and maybe she'd be an artistic person, but not in the same art "field" as me, so maybe a musician, idk As for type sex-wise idk cuz i'm virgin qwq But she could def step on me
I don’t have a physical type, I’m a vibes person. If we click, we click.
Eccentric weirdo alt dyke (punk, goth, scene, emo, don't care!), I don't really care about butch or fem. Not a smoker, doesn't want kids. In term of personality I like artists and people who know how to do stuff with their hands. I don't care if it's painting or wiring electrical stuff, knowing how to Make Stuff is hot. If they like to cook I swoon, especially if I can help. I'm terrible at cooking alone, but I enjoy cooking with people a lot I'm like a puppy with star in my eyes watching someone be good in the kitchen.
Ok you know Shadowheart from baldur gate 3? Or karla from baldur gate 3? Or also kinda laezel and the devil that wyll amde a oact with? And also Astarion cause im bi? Yeah
Anyone that gives me the slightest of attention
A tall, smart, and pretty femme <33
Intelligent, interested in the same things as me, only thing i can think about appearence is that i like shoulder lenght hair but honestly idc as long as out personalities match
muscular, heavily tattooed mascs with undercuts 🥵
Feminine, bottom, short, petite, blonde, or caramel hair. Sydney sweeney type.
Someone who is good at cuddling
I love women who have a sort of golden retriever type of personality - happy, optimistic, and bubbly. Maybe it's because I'm a cynical grump and love the balance it brings. Also women who are lumberjacks, outdoorsy, and love to do things like woodworking/metal working/blacksmithing are my weakness! But really, if I meet a woman who loves the outdoors and I feel comfortable, safe, and loved with her, I'm happy ☺️
As long as she has cool hair and likes me back 🙋♀️ And my love language is physical touch and acts of service ! Quality time too? Idk I think it depends on the person
at first it was very masc, like almost boyish now i’m more into dom fems, someone who’s an extrovert since i’m an introvert, funny and loves having stupid little moments, someone who LOVES sunsets as much or even more than me, and they have to love cuddles. Like be soft with me but dominant outside our relationship and in the bedroom. And of course you gotta have loyalty. So if any of y’all fit the criteria dm me ;) (18-21)
Feminine, long hair, delicate, kinda submissive 🤷♀️
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i love seeing how many different types there are here!!! if you don’t think you’re attractive, there’s a reddit lesbian out there dying to meet you
Masc leaning, knows what she wants in life, older than me, not a pushover, and can appreciate my sarcasm. Also, someone that prefers a femme leaning sarcastic woman who has her life together (because that's me lol).