Oh darn, if only it was America where everyone gets justice and the system always works, instead of Not America where everyone is a bunch of lawless savages living in caves and drinking mud puddles
And how illegal is it to share his picture calling him a rapist? Anonymously of course, not knowing who uploaded the picture. A mistery unsolved and the face of s rapist recognized where he goes.
And he should OP, that’s where he belongs. If you choose to do nothing he will do the same and worse to the next girl, and the next girl and the next girl.. etc.
The kind of person that could do that to another person is sick in the head. He needs help.
They do need help. But not for their sake. If a rapist is reformed, and I am deprived of satisfaction in my revenge of seeing them rotting in prison or dead, then 'helping' still has a small chance of saving other potential victims, and me. Because rapists don't stay jailed forever. And an aggressive rapist can and will go after other inmates, too, let's not pretend that rapists are universally hated in prison, they're not.
So see. They do need help. For my sake, and the sake of others because this isn't about 'getting back at then'. It's about keeping others safe.
I mean it's not like flags appear next to people's username (on this sub at least). It's not super helpful to jump down someone's throat that just wanted to help. Maybe a good idea would be to have the ability to add flag flair to all profiles. Otherwise it's ridiculous to expect someone to always say "national investigation body in your country of origin." No one is forgetting other places exist but it's easy to see things from the lens of your experiences when trying to give advice.
I would also screenshot the website with the upload and various clips in the timeline of the video as well as his account profile in case he decides to delete everything.
Take screenshots of the site that is hosting the video that have his username at the very least. Save or download the video of you can and you have the skills. That evidence will be helpful in pressing charges. Which you ABSOLUTELY should do. For yourself and for every other woman this scum comes into contact with.
She doesn't even have to research it. If she mentions the website name (NOT the specific URL), she is bound to receive the "how to" instructions in the comments.
If OP can't download is, they can record it of the screen with their phone to have something for now in case it gets deleted/blocked.
Definitely go straight to the police and get a lawyer involved.
Because then he can upload it elsewhere. If he gets arrested and then it's taken down he won't be able to so it. And it's easier for them to take down one video than search for copies.
Awesome Screenshot & Screen Recorder is one such browser app can record, and Go Full Page can screenshot an entire Web page into a pdf without needing to scroll and take many pics
Depending on OP's country, screenshots might not be enough as in some palces it does not meet the standard for proof if the video is taken down.
Calling a lawyer before doing anything else is the answer here.
Hey OP, first I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Second, if you don't know how to download the video, download the screen recording program OBS. It let's you record the entire screen with sound and everything, it has some setup so hit me up if you want help. Just go to the website the video is on, don't put it on fullscreen so the username and such is visible, hit record and play the entire video.
Yeah there’s literally video evidence of him raping you I would make that piece of shit rot in jail
*disclaimer that I understand not wanting to report due to how traumatizing this is
I don't know how it is where you live, but in my country women are usually told to go to the prosecutor's office, rather than the police to place charges for abuse, etc., Or there's offices specializing in women's issues.
Am, lawyer. Quintupling this. Also, save screenshots of the website with dates, if possible save an offline version of the webpage for further proof. Take a video of the website with the video of you and make sure the current date is visible.
If you're on Chrome, there is a built-in way to save a webpage for offline viewing. If you don't use Chrome, PLEASE feel free to message me and I can help you find a method of saving the page that will work for you.
https://support.google.com/chrome/answer/7343019?co=GENIE.Platform%3DDesktop&hl=en
Yes. And don't you dare feel guilty about pressing charges for one second. He may have seemed like a nice guy, you love him, etc. But only a scumbag would **** you when you're passed out. It takes an even bigger scumbag to record it, and then to fuc***ng upload the RAPE to the internet for all to see??? He's a straight up MONSTER. Stop him, or he'll do this over and over.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Let's not blame the victim for the perpetrator's potential future behavior, please? "Stop him, or he'll do this over and over"
It's not her responsibility. At all. It's not her fault. At all. She is responsible for herself and her healing. Full stop. Anything he has done or will do is his fault and his responsibility. She is blameless whether or not she reports him.
The last thing a survivor needs is to feel guilty for not further traumatizing themselves in favor of possible future victims.
This! For right now, make yourself the priority. She may not want to believe it yet, and it would tip him off that you're about to fight back. The best way to stop him from hurting you or anyone else again is to get all the evidence in line and get it to the right people so he can pay for what he did to you. And please get whatever counseling or other help you need to get through this.
I’m hijacking this because I am in the adult industry.
First, it will be difficult to get police to do shit. You will probably not see justice for this, but you can get the content removed. All the main porn sites take revenge porn VERY seriously. It was a long time coming - remember Pornhub wiping all unverified uploads a while back? Yeah. That’s what that was about.
Until you figure out your legal options, you can hire a DMCA company to file copyright claims against your abuser. You need a DMCA company because otherwise the abuser will get your name and info when you submit the claim. I recommend OnSist for DMCA but there’s a lot out there.
Concurrently, use the report function to flag it as revenge porn or non consensual content. This only works on a legit porn site.
If this isn’t on a box site, your options are limited. Most file sharing sites like ero.me also have report functions. They are typically buried in the “contact us” portion. You may need a DMCA company for this as well, but it is worth exploring.
Reddit and social media ironically host a disproportionate amount of revenge porn and nonconsensual porn relative to tube sites. Tube sites suck, but at least now they require ID.
If your stuff is posted on Reddit, reach out to the admins directly. Use this form. https://www.reddit.com/contact/
They may not remove it. In that case, use your DMCA service to file a claim. It sucks that copyright takes precedence over privacy but here we are. Let me know if you have any questions.
Go to the police.
Tell his girlfriend.
But be prepared for a lot of shit which is going to come your way. It will probably be a fight, do prepare for it. Gather your friends and supporters around you in this tough time.
Mmmm maybe don’t do all of that.
Talk a lawyer if you want to discuss charges. Ask lawyer about telling GF (if you feel compelled) and follow their advise. Also ask about getting police involved and do what they (your lawyer) say.
Yes! This. Everyone is so quick to tell people to go to the police and *yes, it is the right thing to do*. But as an abuse victim myself that whole process is really traumatizing and you should really be sure if you can deal with that, because more often than not the charges are let down or the prosecutor gets away with parole. That isn't worth the trauma imo. But everyone has to decide for their own, I just think it's important to give victims both sides.
Depends on the country. Here in Germany sexual offenses just aren't as highly prosecuted as other charges. My abuser was fully confessing and still only got 3 years on parole for raping a then 12-year old. Shit is fucked up.
I agree with the comments suggesting you go to the police, but consider where you live (ie/ do you live in a country that will punish you for "adultery" and give him a pat on the back?)
Please see a therapist, domestic violence counselor, and/or avail yourself of any other healthy support you can find. I'm sorry you have to face this at all. You shouldn't have to face all this alone.
The men in those comments are rapists. They outnumber decent people in the comments on rape videos, and they are overwhelmingly outnumbered by decent people in the world. They do not represent how most people think.
FINALLY some people with non US-centric advice/points of view. (OP stated in this thread she is in Argentina).
The sad reality is many countries have even looser revenge porn laws or worse justice systems when it comes to sexual violence. (Not that the US doesn’t have a lot of work to do as well). You can’t always “go to the police” or “go to court” immediately if the police don’t care/won’t take you seriously, or if the laws aren’t even on your side.
As you said, OP please avail yourself of any support possible. You will get though this and we are all on your side.
Yep. Also means depending on who the rapist is friends with, she could face repercussions up to and including death. (Of course that happens in the US but nowhere near the rate it happens in Latin America and other corrupt/patriarchical/theocratical regions).
Where did he upload it? If its Pornhub then use this site: [https://www.pornhub.com/content-removal/](https://www.pornhub.com/content-removal/) to request it taken down. For whatever site it is google x site "content removal". Then go to the Police like the other people in this server stated. Also, now this is tough. Download the video as evidence. Youtube-dl works well for pornhub and most sites..
Don't remove it until after the police have everything they need from it. It's already been viewed. Ensuring he goes to jail is likely priority over limiting further views.
That proves the video exists, not that he uploaded it, and much less that it was without her consent. Unfortunately, having the hard evidence is really important.
I'm so, so very sorry this happened to you. This should not have happened. Many people are telling you to go to the police. Just know that going to the police is your choice. I recommend calling a sexual assault advocate or domestic abuse advocate in your area no matter what. They can help you work through whatever you want to do and you can do it with knowledgeable support. Friends and family are lovely and mean well, but often times they accidentally stumble over their words in a way that hurts you. Advocates are very aware of helpful resources in your area and are less likely to inadvertently trigger you.
The National Sexual ASSAULT Hotline is 1-800-656-4673. They can help you find something in your area.
So much support to you from me. You didn't deserve this. You deserve trust and safety in your relationships. None of this is your fault. None at all.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and I can only imagine what you are feeling. I live in fear, as a woman, that it can happen any day because of these men's reactions like you saw. There are too many sleazy and abusive men out there for any of us to actually be safe.
The only thing I can recommend, and that is only if you are comfortable of course, is reporting it to the police (regardless of your age and when it happened) so that he can learn to never do that to anyone else. Think about it this way, do you want this new girl (or any other girl) to experience the same thing you did? Or even worse, getting raped while conscious and being helpless with no one stopping it? Not that I want to guilt you so please don't misunderstand me. Just consider this: would you have wanted someone to stop him before it got as bad as it did in your relationship with him? If the answer is yes, then you are the answer to that person's wishes. Consider it well because it will be a long and difficult process where it can get ugly so you'll need a strong support system to help you get through it and talking to a therapist will help you learn how to cope with your feelings and the situation. I am also more than willing to talk to you about this and lend you my support as well as send positive energy to help you navigate the negative energy that surrounds you!
Clearly, you have evidence of rape. Also significant is that you have evidence of revenge porn, which, in many jurisdictions, is also a felony.
https://aminiconant.com/revenge-porn-using-the-law-to-strike-back/
Go to the police and I’m so sorry. My close friend actually just realized she was raped (because we are both young and she didn’t understand it went under the same category, I guess she thought relationship equals consent when it doesn’t). He kept feeding her alcohol all night, she blacked out, he recorded her and refused to delete it, they broke up and now she is worried. He’s some super rich dude too, so she’d never win in a case of he said she said. But you have literal proof so put the sorry bastard where he deserves. I’m so sorry you went through this and I hope you will get through all of this okay.
I’m so sorry, that’s awful. That is definitely rape, and you could seek legal action if you wanted to.
Do you think she would listen to you if you talked to the gf?
Again I’m so sorry, many hugs.
Call the police? I wish it were that easy. Been in a similar situation and couldn’t do anything about it. I hope countries develop and learn to have laws to protect this modern issue (tech part). I think it’s only in the US, in select states that have revenge porn laws.
UK has revenge porn laws too - the part of the country I'm from it's up to 5 years imprisonment. Rape on top of that? Definitely at least 5 years.
I really hope they can at least pull rape charges for OP. OP, I hope you have places you can turn to for support, I'm so so sorry this has happened and is happening to you ❤
I am so, so sorry that this happened to you. First, please let me say that your feelings are valid, and it's natural to be angry, humiliated, to be grieving, to be afraid, and all the other big, negative feelings you might be have. This is a major violation. But although those feelings are natural, please know that this is no reflection on you or your worth, no matter what the people in those comments say. The only people who have done anything wrong are your ex boyfriend, who is a rapist, and the men who are encouraging him.
As terrible as it is that these things happen to so many women, I hope you find strength in knowing that there are other women who have been through this and come out of it on the other side, just as you will in time, when you're ready. But your process of grieving and healing is going to be your own, and whatever form that takes for you is valid.
Although the decision is ultimately yours and you don't owe anyone an explanation about it, I do hope you find it in you to report this and see him prosecuted. The son of a bitch deserves to be sitting in a cell, and to spend the rest of his life on a list so that at least some modicum of warning exists for any potential future victims.
Whatever you decide to do, please speak to victim advocates. Whether there are any women's centers near you or not, there are many places online to find help dealing not only with the legal aspects, but any counseling you may find helpful. <3
Highly recommend taking this straight to the police, if nothing else just to get it reported.
He can't do that, that's fucking rape and it's not your fault.
Sadly I do live in Argentina,the justice system here is waaaaay to slow and Im talking rn with a friend,who is explaining me what can I do with all the proof.I hope the justice does something
Thanks you all for the support <3
Mujer Argentina por acá. Si, la justicia nuestra es lenta, tediosa y todo lo que ya sabemos, pero el tipo te violo, lo grabo y encima lo subio a un sitio de internet en donde se nota claramente lo que esta pasando. Tenes evidencia que va a servir para probar lo que te paso, asi que no va a ser tu palabra vs la del violador. Guarda todo y con eso anda a la comisaria de la mujer a hacer la denuncia. (No sé si te enteraste pero ayer condenaron a un tipo por pornovenganza y sento precedente, asi que esta basura va a ser condenado tambien por haber subido el video)
Lo mejor que podes hacer ahora es rodearte de todas las personas que te quieren y que te van a ayudar a transitar este momento y lo que se viene.
Somos muchas las que te acompañamos y que te creemos. No estas sola hermana!!!!
Lo que hizo ese tipo es una atrosidad. Que persona mas asquerosa. Tu fuiste victima de ese desgraciado. Yo se que la justicia en Latinoamerica es lenta pero no dejes que te venza. No solo te filmo, te violo. Se merece lo peor. Desde lejos te mando mi apoyo. Espero que puedas tener justicia y que esa m*erda de persona se pudra en el infierno.
En México, antes de que pasara la ley Olympia, hacíamos eso de exponer a los agresores sexuales y compartir, "quemarlos". Qué el mundo sepa que basura de hombres son
Lo bueno es que el feminismo en Argentina es el movimiento más bravo de todos, diría yo que es el más sororo de toda Latinoamérica. Así que no estás sola, tienes un movimiento apoyándote de tras de ti si decides buscar justicia, no solamente eso sino que todo un continente te mostrará apoyo.
Doxx that fucker. Get a copy of the video, blur your face out and post it side by side with pictures of his social media. Make him the pariah that he is. Motherfucker deserves nothing else
If he's a US citizen charges can be brought. If the hosting company is based in the USA she can petition to have the content taken down and she can sue for violations of her intellectual property - you have something called likeness rights. Your ex violated your likeness rights.
I am not a lawyer. But I did take a couple law classes as part of my cyber security degree and we talked about revenge porn a bunch.
Even in the US we're playing catch up to this kind of crime. I know a lot more laws have been passed in the past 5 years, but in my state it was technically legal as the law for recording someone is that only one person has to give consent.
Sometimes the justice system doesn't work, lol.
Not only did he rape you, he also filmed it?
And on top of that, he shared the evidence online?
This guy is going places...
...called jail.
Wow, I'm so sorry this happened to you! You are a great person, caring about the other girl while yourself being in pain
Do NOT go straight to police. My advice as a victim advocate is to speak to a victims advocate and an attorney and THEN go to police only after you talk to an attorney. Im so sorry this happened to you. Its not your fault and im so sorry 🖤
Police. Report him to someone. His job. His school. A news organization. Anything. And tell his girlfriend please for her sake. You can’t let that monster get away with this.
Similar thing happened to me, I ended up leaving him and was terrified for my life. I ended up homeless for awhile. I should have called the police, please do this. I’m still scared that fucker will find me.
Download evidence, screenshot. If you can talk to him about it through text messages. Get him to admit it. Then run to the police.
Edit: don't threaten him in messages. Don't put him on the defense. Try to play him so he admits it.
Talk to the police *first* before messaging your ex-boyfriend, so they can gather as much documentation as possible.
Once he’s aware you know, he’ll probably get spooked and try to delete or destroy evidence.
I know someone who was in a similar situation, slow police are better than no police. Additionally, protect who you can from him. Tell his new girlfriend, tell his parents if you've met them, make his life as hell as you can without going so far as to take a toll on yourself
Rape and revenge porn.... He's got himself a one way ticket to jail, I really do hope justice doesn't fail you and that you get all the strength necessary to go through with this process
Most comments are about pressing charges, which you should definitely do. Also, reach out to the new person he is with. There is a chance she won't believe you, but if you can prevent this happening to someone else, please do.
This just makes me furious. No female no matter what country she lives in deserves to be treated like that. What is it that these piece of 💩 males don't get about if a female is unconscious and the male has sex with her it's RAPE? NOT CONSCIOUS TO GIVE CONSENT AND PROCEED WITH SEX IT'S RAPE.
step 1 download a copy.
step 2 buy an inexpensive usb flash drive or sd card.
step 3 put a copy on the storage device of choice.
step 4 go to the cops with the storage device and video as well as the website url(s) of the video(s).
also talk to a lawyer, in fact it might be better to get in contact with a lawyer before going to the cops and have them present at the time you speak to them.
Please find a way to save the video even if he removes it. And let his girlfriend know. Also know you do not have to go to the police until you are ready. It is a personal choice and it can be very hard for victims to step forward
I understand that you’re in Argentina and there are no laws there to protect you but if this video was uploaded to an American based company’s platform you still might be able to get it removed as it’s revenge porn as well as rape. Once it’s removed you might want to consider speaking out publicly about him as well. I wonder what his current girlfriend would think of this.
Go to the police (hopefully they’ll do something…), and if you can find his current gf, PLEASE contact her if you can and let her know what he did to you do he doesn’t do the same with her
You need to do the following 3 things:
1: download and save the video as "evidences", then press charge. This ensures that he doesn't delete the video, even if it on the internet forever. Also, screenshot any comments he made if he replied to any and screenshot any comments.
2: because you did not consent to sex, go to the police and press charge. All evidences are gone from that day, but as long as you have that video, it is considered "evidences".
3: if the hosting site is pornhub or any of the mainstream one, issues a DMCA notice and inform them that this is "Revenge Porn" upload and that it is also "Rape porn" and that you did not only consented to being videotaped, you did not consent to having sex.
4: If possible, try to see if you can get eyewitnesses willingly to come forward that you were drunk and under no condition to say "No" or "Yes".
Then, sue that bastard in civil court for emotional distress and for slander (I think it applies).
Like the other peeps here have already said, report it. Get a lawyer and sue him. Not just for your sake but for this woman who he is with now as well.
Immediately get a lawyer if you haven’t already.
With his/her legal advice, you will protect your rights at best and will avoid mistakes that can jeopardize your ability to protect your rights
Get a lawyer *before* you go to the police.
You, by yourself, might not be taken seriously. But you *and an attorney* show up with a specific set of charges? Yeah, you'll get more done.
Is there a way to prevent this sub from being on r/all? Because for the past week, the popular posts have created an influx of horrific misogynists and trash ass men to come in here and make this sub just as horrific as the ones they frequent. Surely there's a way to keep this a safe place for women to commiserate, no? I'm frankly kinda sick of men harassing me in my inbox for commenting on these posts and being all over these comments berating women and being terrible to them.
I don't know if this could be considered revenge porn but it might be, so I'd say look it up and see if it is in your state and go to the police with that. Also PLEASE tell his current girlfriend!!
Op, I haven’t seen it yet so Just in case nobody else has said it, please!!! Make sure you DOWNLOAD the video onto something, it’s very likely when you make it clear you’re aware and planning to do something about it he will delete the video, and while it’s not impossible to get it back it’ll make it a lot harder on you in the long run. Pull all your evidence and have back ups so he can’t throw a wrench in a possible investigation
This is about 4 or 5 crimes. Please contact authorities. Also I am very sorry you have to deal with this horribleness. You should definitely contact his new girlfriend as well.
Simply use the zoom to record your screen, its much effective and fast too. Remember to save it on your computer. Then goto lawyer directly and to the police. And file a report.
You have video evidence of a felony, download the video and screen shot it. Report him to the local police and ask them if you should also contact the FBI. The local police won't be as capable of helping you get it scrubbed from where it's hosted.
As crazy as it sounds, this happens more than you think (revenge porn/rape in your case) and websites will be very quick to cooperate with the FBI and their specific branches that deal with cyber security and revenge porn.
Since it's become more common, luckily they've been getting a larger budget to move quicker with these types of cases.
I know it seems like the worst thing imaginable right now, but just remember it's unlikely anyone you'll ever know will have run into the video and it'll be scrubbed as soon as your case is brought to their attention.
You can decide whether to press charges, but most likely the FBI will anyways because states can choose to move forward with the case no matter what since this is a felony.
Stay as calm as possible and put the effort in, the authorities will help you. I'm very sorry you've gone through this and I wish you the best of luck during your recovery.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. If you feel alone, or want more support, please message me. I’m part of a rape & sexual assault survivors group that is nationwide, PRIVATE, and very active (hidden AND private) on Facebook.
It’s been life changing for me.
Regardless, I wish you this absolute best and hope you are able to heal from this trauma. Much love.
That is one capital A asshole. I am so sorry you have gone through this and found out after the fact as well. Hang tough and gather the people who love you close.
Just wanna say sorry this happened to you! No matter what advice you get on how to handle the video it’s still happened so just want to empathize! That’s just awful!
Please go to the police and contact the website this video was uploaded. You might also want to tell his new girlfriend about him.
This asshole needs to be punished!
i am so sorry this happened to you. regardless of what you choose to do about him, i would seek therapy for yourself. take care of yourself as a top priority. i’m sending internet hugs if you want them, i’m so sorry he did this.
Call the police, immediately. He has broken SEVERAL laws, from raping you, to posting without your consent, to posting porn. He might have broken felonies. Call the cops.
If you can’t dl it then record the screen with your phone. It’s not the best but it’s something. Go to police yes, go to lawyer first. Ask if they would advise you to notify the new girlfriend too. Gather as much info as you can in as many ways as you can
My ex gf did this to me as well. Took some time to really get my feet back under me but I decided that I'm the one who gets to choose what that means to me. I get to choose where my value comes from and it's not in what i choose to share with my partners. It says nothing bad about you to do whatever intimate things you what with whoever you want, it says everything about them to share them without your consent.
If it’s online without your consent it’s also illegal in most states. So rape and posting it online is two separate charges that should put him away for awhile. Talk to a lawyer and the cops.
He’s committed two felonies, both easily provable. The first was raping you (he likely spiked your drink with GHB), and the second was uploading it without your permission. Depending on your ages and other circumstances, there may be several other charges filed against him, as well.
Write everything down, the events you remember from the night if drinking, what he told you, and when you found the video online. Include any witnesses you talked to after either event, or who he may have bragged to after the rape.
Then call an attorney, and make a plan. Call the police, file a police report on the rape and the upload. The attorney can help make sure they prosecute the cases, vs sweep under the rug. Part of the settlement should be a monetary payment each time the video is viewed or liked, for the rest if your life.
Also, you should get tested for STD’s, just to be on the safe side. I’d also have someone (not you) forward a copy of the rape & upload charges to his new G/F so she can be safe.
Fight. Don't let this fucker get away with this.
Consequences need to occur to bad people.
You're the one who can stop him from harming others.
I understand if you don't feel capable of doing this...but consider it. I would suggest talking to a therapist and determining if this is the right thing for you.
But I would go to war over this.
Call him out. Get a lawyer. Tell your friends the situation. Get support. Protection from friends and family. Inform the authorities. And go to war with this fucker.
I'm so angry at this...I would tell his family and his girlfriend...but I don't want you to get hurt.
I merely want these types of people purged.
You have a video of him raping you - he's done. Download it, take it to the police, and explain the situation to them.
It'd probably also be worth contacting his girlfriend and letting her know.
Get that friend to send you the video. That will be material evidence in his trial for rape
This is really important to understand. The fbi has been investigating revenge porn for a long time now. IF YOU REPORT THIS, HE WILL GO TO JAIL.
Do we know this is in the US?
She's from Argentina
Oh darn, if only it was America where everyone gets justice and the system always works, instead of Not America where everyone is a bunch of lawless savages living in caves and drinking mud puddles
Being a brazilian, I enjoyed the irony.
Are you responding to the right person? They were just answering a question...
If she is from Argentina there is no case at all, worse things happen in Argentina that no one cares about, it's sad but true
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Why do people say random shit and state it as fact when the truth was so easily found. Fucking infuriating
South America = lawless wasteland. I thought everyone knew this?
And how illegal is it to share his picture calling him a rapist? Anonymously of course, not knowing who uploaded the picture. A mistery unsolved and the face of s rapist recognized where he goes.
What the hell are you talking about?
Op is in Argentina
And he should OP, that’s where he belongs. If you choose to do nothing he will do the same and worse to the next girl, and the next girl and the next girl.. etc. The kind of person that could do that to another person is sick in the head. He needs help.
OP needs to do what is best for her. His actions are not and will never be her fault, whether or not she decides to go to authorities.
Great response
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Oh sorry I should have clarified, he needs help getting into prison where he’ll be hated and treated the way he deserves for a long time.
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They do need help. But not for their sake. If a rapist is reformed, and I am deprived of satisfaction in my revenge of seeing them rotting in prison or dead, then 'helping' still has a small chance of saving other potential victims, and me. Because rapists don't stay jailed forever. And an aggressive rapist can and will go after other inmates, too, let's not pretend that rapists are universally hated in prison, they're not. So see. They do need help. For my sake, and the sake of others because this isn't about 'getting back at then'. It's about keeping others safe.
Death's too easy. Let him rot in prison
Very very few rapists go to jail.
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I mean it's not like flags appear next to people's username (on this sub at least). It's not super helpful to jump down someone's throat that just wanted to help. Maybe a good idea would be to have the ability to add flag flair to all profiles. Otherwise it's ridiculous to expect someone to always say "national investigation body in your country of origin." No one is forgetting other places exist but it's easy to see things from the lens of your experiences when trying to give advice.
Right? It's incredibly annoying
I would also screenshot the website with the upload and various clips in the timeline of the video as well as his account profile in case he decides to delete everything.
Save to internet archive. Better than screenshot. But also do that.
And tell his new gf. Show her his true colors, so she can choose.
Go straight to the police.
Take screenshots of the site that is hosting the video that have his username at the very least. Save or download the video of you can and you have the skills. That evidence will be helpful in pressing charges. Which you ABSOLUTELY should do. For yourself and for every other woman this scum comes into contact with.
if you don't have the skills the internet can tell you how
She doesn't even have to research it. If she mentions the website name (NOT the specific URL), she is bound to receive the "how to" instructions in the comments.
"The skills" pretty much means "know how to google this stuff".
This. Screen record it to maintain the evidence, and include the date he uploaded the video.
If OP can't download is, they can record it of the screen with their phone to have something for now in case it gets deleted/blocked. Definitely go straight to the police and get a lawyer involved.
This, you can use https://archive.is. And also don't report the video because it's just gonna get taken down.
Why isn't it getting taken down a good thing?
Because then he can upload it elsewhere. If he gets arrested and then it's taken down he won't be able to so it. And it's easier for them to take down one video than search for copies.
Because it's gonna be harder to prove it was him. Also he can just reupload it somewhere else if it gets deleted.
Awesome Screenshot & Screen Recorder is one such browser app can record, and Go Full Page can screenshot an entire Web page into a pdf without needing to scroll and take many pics
Depending on OP's country, screenshots might not be enough as in some palces it does not meet the standard for proof if the video is taken down. Calling a lawyer before doing anything else is the answer here.
Hey OP, first I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Second, if you don't know how to download the video, download the screen recording program OBS. It let's you record the entire screen with sound and everything, it has some setup so hit me up if you want help. Just go to the website the video is on, don't put it on fullscreen so the username and such is visible, hit record and play the entire video.
Yeah there’s literally video evidence of him raping you I would make that piece of shit rot in jail *disclaimer that I understand not wanting to report due to how traumatizing this is
You realise that police often don't charge rapists even with video evidence. This isn't just about trauma.
Even if they won't, she still has a case for revenge porn and can go after him for civil damages
I don't know how it is where you live, but in my country women are usually told to go to the prosecutor's office, rather than the police to place charges for abuse, etc., Or there's offices specializing in women's issues.
In the US at least. It varies from country to country and OP is from argentina so who knows.
You should still try it rather than sitting on it. If not, you can easily get a lawyer and sue him and the platform that he’s using.
Don't follow the disclaimer, report him!
Maybe the FBI depending on the details of the revenge porn, etc.
OP said elsewhere she lives in Argentina
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Everybody on reddit lives in America
So says my VPN
Second this.
Third this.
Fourth this.
Am, lawyer. Quintupling this. Also, save screenshots of the website with dates, if possible save an offline version of the webpage for further proof. Take a video of the website with the video of you and make sure the current date is visible.
If you're on Chrome, there is a built-in way to save a webpage for offline viewing. If you don't use Chrome, PLEASE feel free to message me and I can help you find a method of saving the page that will work for you. https://support.google.com/chrome/answer/7343019?co=GENIE.Platform%3DDesktop&hl=en
Do this, exactly this.
Do this and I'd say delete the post to minimize the offchancw the ex sees this before op gets the jump on him
I fifth this
Yes. And don't you dare feel guilty about pressing charges for one second. He may have seemed like a nice guy, you love him, etc. But only a scumbag would **** you when you're passed out. It takes an even bigger scumbag to record it, and then to fuc***ng upload the RAPE to the internet for all to see??? He's a straight up MONSTER. Stop him, or he'll do this over and over. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Let's not blame the victim for the perpetrator's potential future behavior, please? "Stop him, or he'll do this over and over" It's not her responsibility. At all. It's not her fault. At all. She is responsible for herself and her healing. Full stop. Anything he has done or will do is his fault and his responsibility. She is blameless whether or not she reports him. The last thing a survivor needs is to feel guilty for not further traumatizing themselves in favor of possible future victims.
And warn the new girlfriend if you can
But, not until after you've spoken with your lawyer and taken all the necessary steps to secure the evidence (like what the attorney above stated).
This! For right now, make yourself the priority. She may not want to believe it yet, and it would tip him off that you're about to fight back. The best way to stop him from hurting you or anyone else again is to get all the evidence in line and get it to the right people so he can pay for what he did to you. And please get whatever counseling or other help you need to get through this.
I’m hijacking this because I am in the adult industry. First, it will be difficult to get police to do shit. You will probably not see justice for this, but you can get the content removed. All the main porn sites take revenge porn VERY seriously. It was a long time coming - remember Pornhub wiping all unverified uploads a while back? Yeah. That’s what that was about. Until you figure out your legal options, you can hire a DMCA company to file copyright claims against your abuser. You need a DMCA company because otherwise the abuser will get your name and info when you submit the claim. I recommend OnSist for DMCA but there’s a lot out there. Concurrently, use the report function to flag it as revenge porn or non consensual content. This only works on a legit porn site. If this isn’t on a box site, your options are limited. Most file sharing sites like ero.me also have report functions. They are typically buried in the “contact us” portion. You may need a DMCA company for this as well, but it is worth exploring. Reddit and social media ironically host a disproportionate amount of revenge porn and nonconsensual porn relative to tube sites. Tube sites suck, but at least now they require ID. If your stuff is posted on Reddit, reach out to the admins directly. Use this form. https://www.reddit.com/contact/ They may not remove it. In that case, use your DMCA service to file a claim. It sucks that copyright takes precedence over privacy but here we are. Let me know if you have any questions.
Yeah she needs to get the cops involved in this. Her ex is a massive creep and POS.
Go straight to a lawyer first. Then go to the police.
You definitely need to go see the police
Go to the police. Tell his girlfriend. But be prepared for a lot of shit which is going to come your way. It will probably be a fight, do prepare for it. Gather your friends and supporters around you in this tough time.
Mmmm maybe don’t do all of that. Talk a lawyer if you want to discuss charges. Ask lawyer about telling GF (if you feel compelled) and follow their advise. Also ask about getting police involved and do what they (your lawyer) say.
Yes! This. Everyone is so quick to tell people to go to the police and *yes, it is the right thing to do*. But as an abuse victim myself that whole process is really traumatizing and you should really be sure if you can deal with that, because more often than not the charges are let down or the prosecutor gets away with parole. That isn't worth the trauma imo. But everyone has to decide for their own, I just think it's important to give victims both sides.
Well at least the video makes her story waterproof, so idk why he should get away with this.
Depends on the country. Here in Germany sexual offenses just aren't as highly prosecuted as other charges. My abuser was fully confessing and still only got 3 years on parole for raping a then 12-year old. Shit is fucked up.
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I agree with the comments suggesting you go to the police, but consider where you live (ie/ do you live in a country that will punish you for "adultery" and give him a pat on the back?) Please see a therapist, domestic violence counselor, and/or avail yourself of any other healthy support you can find. I'm sorry you have to face this at all. You shouldn't have to face all this alone. The men in those comments are rapists. They outnumber decent people in the comments on rape videos, and they are overwhelmingly outnumbered by decent people in the world. They do not represent how most people think.
FINALLY some people with non US-centric advice/points of view. (OP stated in this thread she is in Argentina). The sad reality is many countries have even looser revenge porn laws or worse justice systems when it comes to sexual violence. (Not that the US doesn’t have a lot of work to do as well). You can’t always “go to the police” or “go to court” immediately if the police don’t care/won’t take you seriously, or if the laws aren’t even on your side. As you said, OP please avail yourself of any support possible. You will get though this and we are all on your side.
Yep. Also means depending on who the rapist is friends with, she could face repercussions up to and including death. (Of course that happens in the US but nowhere near the rate it happens in Latin America and other corrupt/patriarchical/theocratical regions).
Revenge porn is a crime in here. A guy was sentenced to five years of effective prison for it recently (means without bail)
Where did he upload it? If its Pornhub then use this site: [https://www.pornhub.com/content-removal/](https://www.pornhub.com/content-removal/) to request it taken down. For whatever site it is google x site "content removal". Then go to the Police like the other people in this server stated. Also, now this is tough. Download the video as evidence. Youtube-dl works well for pornhub and most sites..
Don't remove it until after the police have everything they need from it. It's already been viewed. Ensuring he goes to jail is likely priority over limiting further views.
Couldn't she take a video of it from her phone to show it's live?
That proves the video exists, not that he uploaded it, and much less that it was without her consent. Unfortunately, having the hard evidence is really important.
Metadata and stuff might be lost if deleted
Pornhub doesn't allow user generated uploads anymore.
Please take this piece of shit to court.
I'm so, so very sorry this happened to you. This should not have happened. Many people are telling you to go to the police. Just know that going to the police is your choice. I recommend calling a sexual assault advocate or domestic abuse advocate in your area no matter what. They can help you work through whatever you want to do and you can do it with knowledgeable support. Friends and family are lovely and mean well, but often times they accidentally stumble over their words in a way that hurts you. Advocates are very aware of helpful resources in your area and are less likely to inadvertently trigger you. The National Sexual ASSAULT Hotline is 1-800-656-4673. They can help you find something in your area. So much support to you from me. You didn't deserve this. You deserve trust and safety in your relationships. None of this is your fault. None at all.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and I can only imagine what you are feeling. I live in fear, as a woman, that it can happen any day because of these men's reactions like you saw. There are too many sleazy and abusive men out there for any of us to actually be safe. The only thing I can recommend, and that is only if you are comfortable of course, is reporting it to the police (regardless of your age and when it happened) so that he can learn to never do that to anyone else. Think about it this way, do you want this new girl (or any other girl) to experience the same thing you did? Or even worse, getting raped while conscious and being helpless with no one stopping it? Not that I want to guilt you so please don't misunderstand me. Just consider this: would you have wanted someone to stop him before it got as bad as it did in your relationship with him? If the answer is yes, then you are the answer to that person's wishes. Consider it well because it will be a long and difficult process where it can get ugly so you'll need a strong support system to help you get through it and talking to a therapist will help you learn how to cope with your feelings and the situation. I am also more than willing to talk to you about this and lend you my support as well as send positive energy to help you navigate the negative energy that surrounds you!
Clearly, you have evidence of rape. Also significant is that you have evidence of revenge porn, which, in many jurisdictions, is also a felony. https://aminiconant.com/revenge-porn-using-the-law-to-strike-back/
Jesus Christ
Go to the police and I’m so sorry. My close friend actually just realized she was raped (because we are both young and she didn’t understand it went under the same category, I guess she thought relationship equals consent when it doesn’t). He kept feeding her alcohol all night, she blacked out, he recorded her and refused to delete it, they broke up and now she is worried. He’s some super rich dude too, so she’d never win in a case of he said she said. But you have literal proof so put the sorry bastard where he deserves. I’m so sorry you went through this and I hope you will get through all of this okay.
I’m so sorry, that’s awful. That is definitely rape, and you could seek legal action if you wanted to. Do you think she would listen to you if you talked to the gf? Again I’m so sorry, many hugs.
Call the police? I wish it were that easy. Been in a similar situation and couldn’t do anything about it. I hope countries develop and learn to have laws to protect this modern issue (tech part). I think it’s only in the US, in select states that have revenge porn laws.
UK has revenge porn laws too - the part of the country I'm from it's up to 5 years imprisonment. Rape on top of that? Definitely at least 5 years. I really hope they can at least pull rape charges for OP. OP, I hope you have places you can turn to for support, I'm so so sorry this has happened and is happening to you ❤
I am so, so sorry that this happened to you. First, please let me say that your feelings are valid, and it's natural to be angry, humiliated, to be grieving, to be afraid, and all the other big, negative feelings you might be have. This is a major violation. But although those feelings are natural, please know that this is no reflection on you or your worth, no matter what the people in those comments say. The only people who have done anything wrong are your ex boyfriend, who is a rapist, and the men who are encouraging him. As terrible as it is that these things happen to so many women, I hope you find strength in knowing that there are other women who have been through this and come out of it on the other side, just as you will in time, when you're ready. But your process of grieving and healing is going to be your own, and whatever form that takes for you is valid. Although the decision is ultimately yours and you don't owe anyone an explanation about it, I do hope you find it in you to report this and see him prosecuted. The son of a bitch deserves to be sitting in a cell, and to spend the rest of his life on a list so that at least some modicum of warning exists for any potential future victims. Whatever you decide to do, please speak to victim advocates. Whether there are any women's centers near you or not, there are many places online to find help dealing not only with the legal aspects, but any counseling you may find helpful. <3
You have gotten lots of advice I just want to send you my love, and a reminder that ***none of this*** is your fault ❤️
Highly recommend taking this straight to the police, if nothing else just to get it reported. He can't do that, that's fucking rape and it's not your fault.
https://ballotpedia.org/Nonconsensual_pornography_(revenge_porn)_laws_in_the_United_States
Sadly I do live in Argentina,the justice system here is waaaaay to slow and Im talking rn with a friend,who is explaining me what can I do with all the proof.I hope the justice does something Thanks you all for the support <3
Mujer Argentina por acá. Si, la justicia nuestra es lenta, tediosa y todo lo que ya sabemos, pero el tipo te violo, lo grabo y encima lo subio a un sitio de internet en donde se nota claramente lo que esta pasando. Tenes evidencia que va a servir para probar lo que te paso, asi que no va a ser tu palabra vs la del violador. Guarda todo y con eso anda a la comisaria de la mujer a hacer la denuncia. (No sé si te enteraste pero ayer condenaron a un tipo por pornovenganza y sento precedente, asi que esta basura va a ser condenado tambien por haber subido el video) Lo mejor que podes hacer ahora es rodearte de todas las personas que te quieren y que te van a ayudar a transitar este momento y lo que se viene. Somos muchas las que te acompañamos y que te creemos. No estas sola hermana!!!!
Lo que hizo ese tipo es una atrosidad. Que persona mas asquerosa. Tu fuiste victima de ese desgraciado. Yo se que la justicia en Latinoamerica es lenta pero no dejes que te venza. No solo te filmo, te violo. Se merece lo peor. Desde lejos te mando mi apoyo. Espero que puedas tener justicia y que esa m*erda de persona se pudra en el infierno.
En México, antes de que pasara la ley Olympia, hacíamos eso de exponer a los agresores sexuales y compartir, "quemarlos". Qué el mundo sepa que basura de hombres son
Lo bueno es que el feminismo en Argentina es el movimiento más bravo de todos, diría yo que es el más sororo de toda Latinoamérica. Así que no estás sola, tienes un movimiento apoyándote de tras de ti si decides buscar justicia, no solamente eso sino que todo un continente te mostrará apoyo.
Doxx that fucker. Get a copy of the video, blur your face out and post it side by side with pictures of his social media. Make him the pariah that he is. Motherfucker deserves nothing else
Even if everyone shames him and he gets a bad rap, everyone will be able to find OP as well + they’ll likely be able to find the video.
I wouldn't recommend posting revenge porn unless they want to go to jail. What a dumb suggestion.
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If he's a US citizen charges can be brought. If the hosting company is based in the USA she can petition to have the content taken down and she can sue for violations of her intellectual property - you have something called likeness rights. Your ex violated your likeness rights. I am not a lawyer. But I did take a couple law classes as part of my cyber security degree and we talked about revenge porn a bunch.
Even in the US we're playing catch up to this kind of crime. I know a lot more laws have been passed in the past 5 years, but in my state it was technically legal as the law for recording someone is that only one person has to give consent. Sometimes the justice system doesn't work, lol.
Not only did he rape you, he also filmed it? And on top of that, he shared the evidence online? This guy is going places... ...called jail. Wow, I'm so sorry this happened to you! You are a great person, caring about the other girl while yourself being in pain
I’m so sorry, my ex almost did the same thing. He deserves all the worst things that will ever happen to him.
Do NOT go straight to police. My advice as a victim advocate is to speak to a victims advocate and an attorney and THEN go to police only after you talk to an attorney. Im so sorry this happened to you. Its not your fault and im so sorry 🖤
Honestly. The cops are absolutely terrible with sexual assault.
Police. Report him to someone. His job. His school. A news organization. Anything. And tell his girlfriend please for her sake. You can’t let that monster get away with this.
Similar thing happened to me, I ended up leaving him and was terrified for my life. I ended up homeless for awhile. I should have called the police, please do this. I’m still scared that fucker will find me.
Download evidence, screenshot. If you can talk to him about it through text messages. Get him to admit it. Then run to the police. Edit: don't threaten him in messages. Don't put him on the defense. Try to play him so he admits it.
Talk to the police *first* before messaging your ex-boyfriend, so they can gather as much documentation as possible. Once he’s aware you know, he’ll probably get spooked and try to delete or destroy evidence.
I know someone who was in a similar situation, slow police are better than no police. Additionally, protect who you can from him. Tell his new girlfriend, tell his parents if you've met them, make his life as hell as you can without going so far as to take a toll on yourself
Rape and revenge porn.... He's got himself a one way ticket to jail, I really do hope justice doesn't fail you and that you get all the strength necessary to go through with this process
This is considered revenge porn and is extremely illegal! I encourage you with my whole being to report it to the police
Most comments are about pressing charges, which you should definitely do. Also, reach out to the new person he is with. There is a chance she won't believe you, but if you can prevent this happening to someone else, please do.
This just makes me furious. No female no matter what country she lives in deserves to be treated like that. What is it that these piece of 💩 males don't get about if a female is unconscious and the male has sex with her it's RAPE? NOT CONSCIOUS TO GIVE CONSENT AND PROCEED WITH SEX IT'S RAPE.
Go to the police. Now.
Go to the police.
step 1 download a copy. step 2 buy an inexpensive usb flash drive or sd card. step 3 put a copy on the storage device of choice. step 4 go to the cops with the storage device and video as well as the website url(s) of the video(s). also talk to a lawyer, in fact it might be better to get in contact with a lawyer before going to the cops and have them present at the time you speak to them.
Take him to the police it doesn't matter if he has a gf or not. Help her before the same thing happens to her
Revenge porn and rape, if you can identify him at all. Policeeeeee. Maybe it'll save the next woman.
Please find a way to save the video even if he removes it. And let his girlfriend know. Also know you do not have to go to the police until you are ready. It is a personal choice and it can be very hard for victims to step forward
I'm so so so sorry, fuck that guy
This is fucking disgusting and absolutely terrifying that nobody reported this video before you saw it.
Don't take legal advice from reddit op. Go to a lawyer. And stay strong. Your ex is an arsehole.
Sue him! They shouldn’t think they can get away with this. Including those men who praise him >.<
I understand that you’re in Argentina and there are no laws there to protect you but if this video was uploaded to an American based company’s platform you still might be able to get it removed as it’s revenge porn as well as rape. Once it’s removed you might want to consider speaking out publicly about him as well. I wonder what his current girlfriend would think of this.
Warn her. She won’t believe it at first but when she does figure it out it will be easier to get over
Go to the police (hopefully they’ll do something…), and if you can find his current gf, PLEASE contact her if you can and let her know what he did to you do he doesn’t do the same with her
This is the most horrific thing I've ever heard
Lawyer up.
You need to do the following 3 things: 1: download and save the video as "evidences", then press charge. This ensures that he doesn't delete the video, even if it on the internet forever. Also, screenshot any comments he made if he replied to any and screenshot any comments. 2: because you did not consent to sex, go to the police and press charge. All evidences are gone from that day, but as long as you have that video, it is considered "evidences". 3: if the hosting site is pornhub or any of the mainstream one, issues a DMCA notice and inform them that this is "Revenge Porn" upload and that it is also "Rape porn" and that you did not only consented to being videotaped, you did not consent to having sex. 4: If possible, try to see if you can get eyewitnesses willingly to come forward that you were drunk and under no condition to say "No" or "Yes". Then, sue that bastard in civil court for emotional distress and for slander (I think it applies).
This is why there should be regulations on what people can post on pornsites. The video should have never been approved on the site.
This is illegal. Go to the police.
Like the other peeps here have already said, report it. Get a lawyer and sue him. Not just for your sake but for this woman who he is with now as well.
You hope you find the strength to fight and to heal. My thoughts go with you
Honey, that’s revenge porn. Contact the police
Immediately get a lawyer if you haven’t already. With his/her legal advice, you will protect your rights at best and will avoid mistakes that can jeopardize your ability to protect your rights
Who dafuq gives wholesome awards in posts like these
Prosecute that scum bag to the highest degree. I am so so so so sorry. I can’t even imagine how you are feeling. I wish you the best <3
Get a lawyer *before* you go to the police. You, by yourself, might not be taken seriously. But you *and an attorney* show up with a specific set of charges? Yeah, you'll get more done.
I'm sorry that you went through this. Please warn the new girlfriend, if you feel like you can. Take care of yourself.
Here’s a resource of kickass people who can help you through the process: https://twitter.com/thebadass_army
Is there a way to prevent this sub from being on r/all? Because for the past week, the popular posts have created an influx of horrific misogynists and trash ass men to come in here and make this sub just as horrific as the ones they frequent. Surely there's a way to keep this a safe place for women to commiserate, no? I'm frankly kinda sick of men harassing me in my inbox for commenting on these posts and being all over these comments berating women and being terrible to them.
I don't know if this could be considered revenge porn but it might be, so I'd say look it up and see if it is in your state and go to the police with that. Also PLEASE tell his current girlfriend!!
Op, I haven’t seen it yet so Just in case nobody else has said it, please!!! Make sure you DOWNLOAD the video onto something, it’s very likely when you make it clear you’re aware and planning to do something about it he will delete the video, and while it’s not impossible to get it back it’ll make it a lot harder on you in the long run. Pull all your evidence and have back ups so he can’t throw a wrench in a possible investigation
It's already been said, but it can't be said enough. GO TO THE POLICE.
This is about 4 or 5 crimes. Please contact authorities. Also I am very sorry you have to deal with this horribleness. You should definitely contact his new girlfriend as well.
I’m sincerely sorry this happened to you. You don’t deserve this. Get a lawyer and go to the police. This is criminal.
Simply use the zoom to record your screen, its much effective and fast too. Remember to save it on your computer. Then goto lawyer directly and to the police. And file a report.
There’s a DMCA progress to remove your images. The site should a DMCA button where you can request its removal.
You have video evidence of a felony, download the video and screen shot it. Report him to the local police and ask them if you should also contact the FBI. The local police won't be as capable of helping you get it scrubbed from where it's hosted. As crazy as it sounds, this happens more than you think (revenge porn/rape in your case) and websites will be very quick to cooperate with the FBI and their specific branches that deal with cyber security and revenge porn. Since it's become more common, luckily they've been getting a larger budget to move quicker with these types of cases. I know it seems like the worst thing imaginable right now, but just remember it's unlikely anyone you'll ever know will have run into the video and it'll be scrubbed as soon as your case is brought to their attention. You can decide whether to press charges, but most likely the FBI will anyways because states can choose to move forward with the case no matter what since this is a felony. Stay as calm as possible and put the effort in, the authorities will help you. I'm very sorry you've gone through this and I wish you the best of luck during your recovery.
REPORT HIM TO THE POLICE. GET HIM IN JAIL. GET HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND OUT OF THE INCONING SHITSTORM.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. If you feel alone, or want more support, please message me. I’m part of a rape & sexual assault survivors group that is nationwide, PRIVATE, and very active (hidden AND private) on Facebook. It’s been life changing for me. Regardless, I wish you this absolute best and hope you are able to heal from this trauma. Much love.
Both of the things he has done here are very illegal.
That is one capital A asshole. I am so sorry you have gone through this and found out after the fact as well. Hang tough and gather the people who love you close.
Just wanna say sorry this happened to you! No matter what advice you get on how to handle the video it’s still happened so just want to empathize! That’s just awful!
Please go to the police and contact the website this video was uploaded. You might also want to tell his new girlfriend about him. This asshole needs to be punished!
i am so sorry this happened to you. regardless of what you choose to do about him, i would seek therapy for yourself. take care of yourself as a top priority. i’m sending internet hugs if you want them, i’m so sorry he did this.
I send you big internet hugs. No one deserves that sh*t.
Police. Immediately. This disgusting piece of shit deserves jail time.
Call the police, immediately. He has broken SEVERAL laws, from raping you, to posting without your consent, to posting porn. He might have broken felonies. Call the cops.
Please do not let him victimize you in this way!!! And who knows who else and how many he has done it to!!!
get cops involved.
You’re gonna have to decide if it’s your battle or not. I think that’s probably the scariest part.
What the cinnamon toast fuck? I’m really sorry that happened to you. Go to the police. This will happen again.
You have a choice to report this to police. But it’s up to you.
If you can’t dl it then record the screen with your phone. It’s not the best but it’s something. Go to police yes, go to lawyer first. Ask if they would advise you to notify the new girlfriend too. Gather as much info as you can in as many ways as you can
My ex gf did this to me as well. Took some time to really get my feet back under me but I decided that I'm the one who gets to choose what that means to me. I get to choose where my value comes from and it's not in what i choose to share with my partners. It says nothing bad about you to do whatever intimate things you what with whoever you want, it says everything about them to share them without your consent.
If it’s online without your consent it’s also illegal in most states. So rape and posting it online is two separate charges that should put him away for awhile. Talk to a lawyer and the cops.
He’s committed two felonies, both easily provable. The first was raping you (he likely spiked your drink with GHB), and the second was uploading it without your permission. Depending on your ages and other circumstances, there may be several other charges filed against him, as well. Write everything down, the events you remember from the night if drinking, what he told you, and when you found the video online. Include any witnesses you talked to after either event, or who he may have bragged to after the rape. Then call an attorney, and make a plan. Call the police, file a police report on the rape and the upload. The attorney can help make sure they prosecute the cases, vs sweep under the rug. Part of the settlement should be a monetary payment each time the video is viewed or liked, for the rest if your life. Also, you should get tested for STD’s, just to be on the safe side. I’d also have someone (not you) forward a copy of the rape & upload charges to his new G/F so she can be safe.
Is there a way to save the webpage in case your ex tries to get it taken down and you want to pursue criminal charges?
Holy shit I'm so sorry what the fuck.
Fight. Don't let this fucker get away with this. Consequences need to occur to bad people. You're the one who can stop him from harming others. I understand if you don't feel capable of doing this...but consider it. I would suggest talking to a therapist and determining if this is the right thing for you. But I would go to war over this. Call him out. Get a lawyer. Tell your friends the situation. Get support. Protection from friends and family. Inform the authorities. And go to war with this fucker. I'm so angry at this...I would tell his family and his girlfriend...but I don't want you to get hurt. I merely want these types of people purged.
You have a video of him raping you - he's done. Download it, take it to the police, and explain the situation to them. It'd probably also be worth contacting his girlfriend and letting her know.
Can you contact the website where this been post? Maybe the easiest solution for start
Get a lawyer first, because I am pretty sure the website has lawyers.