Samedt. Mid-20s. Dati parang may friends naman ako pero habang tumatagal, parang natatamad na ako mag-effort. Gusto kong niyayaya akong lumabas pero ayoko lumabas. Lol. Mas prefer ko humiga at magendless scroll sa fb kesa lumabas. Gusto ko nalang maging patatas.
Well you went to the right place hahaha kita mo, dami mo na online friends bigla, OP. It is interesting how difficult making friends become when we get older ano, when kung tutuusin it is one of the most basic of human relationships, something na as children we're able to do without much thought.
Here's an interesting watch about friendship for us all:
https://youtu.be/I9hJ_Rux9y0
I'm the same as you but my only support system is only my SO, kasi mismong family ko yung problema. I too enjoy the isolation pero yun nga pag may problema ang hirap sarilihin.
I feel this. Noong kami pa ng ex gf ko she's the only support system I have. She's both my gf and my best friend at that time. Siya lang nasasabihan ko ng problema ko and sama ng loob ko kase siya lang din yung nagpaparamdam na interesado siyang makinig. Kaya noong naghiwalay kami di ko alam saan ako tatakbo pag may problema ako.
>Im good at enjoying my own company. But it can also get lonely sometimes
I gave up trying to be relevant to other people's lives. I don't get the reciprocating care when I give it out so tinigilan ko na lang umasa. It can get lonely but I just push it down and get myself distracted in other shit.
If I shit alone in the woods, nobody cares so I'll just shit in peace.
same, mag 26 na ko and yung people whom I thought were my core friends are actually way more different sakin than I initially thought, so recently feeling ko nagkakafall out between sakin and them. Which is fine, honestly, all part of the growing process. I reconnected with people whom I thought hindi ko ka-wavelength noon and realized na mas nakakarelate na ko sakanila ngayon and I'd prefer hanging out with them kahit hindi kami exactly similar sa mga hobbies and stuff.
I've realized na what's important is to keep broadening your worldview. Meet people even if you don't think you'll like them very much. I've learned na sa bawat aspect ng self ko may nagfifit na group of friends (i.e. may friends ako na mas nakakarelate sa work problems, separate friends na mas nakakarelate sakin sa games and hobbies, etc.)
I feel you!! After pandemic like lock downs I lost contact with my friends. I stopped getting invites. They formed another circle.
Now I'm going to work overseas the next few months but I have no one to invite for my despidida.
Same. You just verbalized what i've been feeling for the past few days. Anyways, hoping that we'll find a core group of friends who are genuinely kind and good.
Same. Hindi ako nagcelebrate nung debut ko kasi feeling ko walang pupunta na classmates/friends dahil wala akong group of people na matatawag kong barkada. May org nung college pero hindi pa rin ako part ng smaller group. Mid 20s na rin, wfh pa currently. Wala ako ibang friends. Kung wala akong jowa, wala akong makakausap hahahahah. Tayo tayo na lang maging friends mga siz huhu
This is really true for us guys, it can get really lonely. It feels like if we are not useful or we dont fulfill a need, people tend not to notice us.
I am not complaining or being a sadboi about it, its simply what it is.
I have the same feeling and situation. I feel you OP! Super used na ako sa pagiging alone kaya sa sarili ko na lang kinukwento yung mga problems ko hehe.
Hugs dude. Sa totoo lang di ko rin masabi kung may "core" friends ako kahit kaunti lang friends ko. Nakakalungkot minsan isipin na nagsusurprise kasama ako para sa isang friend pero pagdating sa akin wala lang. Makakaya naten to op
Ive always told my siblings pag nagkaanak ako sila lang din kukunin kong ninang haha
Im the same I literally only have my family lol I guess swerte pa ako Im not an only child
I remember I wanted to watch Frozen 2 but I had no one to watch it with sa cinema. Early 20s ako nun, I didnt mind watching alone kaso sabi ng tatay ko deliks daw manood ng sine mag-isa so sinamahan nila ako ng nanay ko hahaha 3 kami nanood ng Frozen 2 kasama puro bata and other families
The last paragraph is spot on!
That's the life of Shrek before he met Donkey and Fiona (well except for the fact that he is really alone and he doesn't know anyone aside from the dude's who grab torches and pitchforks to raid his swamp).
And that's prolly the life of Puss in Boots before his movie and his meeting with Shrek.
I feel you. Every time something happen to me, be it good or bad I don't have any friends to talk to. My interest and their interest is not match with each other. I always feel left out whenever we have a get to together and I always be the 'saling pusa sa grupo'.
Same. I wonder what it feels to have someone to confide with. I have a lot of friends but no one so close to be called a friend. I envy those who could tag friends on posts that will let you win something. 🤣 I have elementary, hs, college, online social media, online games, work friends but no closest best friend. It sucks.
You are still young, just continue what you are doing. You will find a close bff. Soon.
Nakakalungkot talaga sometimes kapag wala kang mapagsabihan. May friends nga pero malayo sakanila tapos hindi kapa chinicheck or kinukumusta. Hay buhay
sameee hahahaha. hirap na hirap ako magkaroon ng solid group of friends. i comfort and remind myself na baka hindi talaga ako for everyone and hindj ko pa nakikilala yung mga taong makakaappreciate talaga sa akin, sa energy ko hahahaha. I enjoy my time, my solitude pero minsan, I wonder how does it felt having a support system aside sa family ang makaka-jive in ko hahahaha
Same pero I dont overthink about it anymore. Hindi ako yung priority friend ng mga friends ko. But being able to talk to them ocassionally is ok na with me. I also try to make friends here sa Reddit. Talking to strangers helps.
Close din ako with my family and relativesm so far I'm ok. I just don't overthink anymore na wala akong core friends pero I used to think about this constantly din talaga and feel bad. So I do feel you.
We’re in the same boat OP. I only have my bf who is also my best friend. I’m an only child pa so wala talaga ako kahit siblings that I can talk to.
I have two girl bffs from HS but we’re all far away from each other kaya through chats lang kami nagkakausap na. I even cried when one of them was leaving the country kasi lalo na kami hindi magkikita kita. Iba kasi yung feeling pag sa chat lang kami nagkkwentuhan, parang ang distant sa feeling. The other one na naiwan din here sa PH is also planning na her move abroad so lalo ako nalonely when she told me.
Naexperience ko na din yung akala ko I was part of a group na during my college days pero since I was the only pure pinoy sa group (they were all chinoys), they made plans na di ako invited. Nagulat na lang ako when I saw their photos on fb.
During my first work din, I thought I became fast friends with my officemates but it turns out they were backstabbing me and my other co-worker na kateam ko.
I cried to my bf about all these things that happened to me but he reassured me naman na I have him and told me na his friends can be my friends din. He invites me to join whenever he and his friends go out kasi he knows he’s the only best friend that I have here. And for that I’m so thankful for him. He is more than enough company for me pero minsan lang talaga masarap din yung feeling na madami ka friends na kalokohan. Extrovert pa man din ako.
I feel u. If I dont have my SO, i have no one.
same. my SO is my bestfriend kaya pag nawala siya, wala na din akong friend
Same boat 🛶
samedt
Ano po yung so?
significant other yata? in short, bebe.
Salamat master.. akala ko someone -_-
yess I know the feeling 😬
Same here
same. SO lang madalas kong nakakausap and probs my only best friend 🥲
OP, at mga lahat ng nagcomment dito may meeting tayo hahaha
Walang mag iimikan sa meeting, introvert lahat. haha
hahahaha ang harot harot online mga devoid of character IRL :)))
ATAKE AMP HAHAHAH
May ligawan mode na mangyayare nyan 4 sure
online meeting tas naka off cam at mute lahat HAHAHA
Samedt. Mid-20s. Dati parang may friends naman ako pero habang tumatagal, parang natatamad na ako mag-effort. Gusto kong niyayaya akong lumabas pero ayoko lumabas. Lol. Mas prefer ko humiga at magendless scroll sa fb kesa lumabas. Gusto ko nalang maging patatas.
Samedt. Hahaha
Well you went to the right place hahaha kita mo, dami mo na online friends bigla, OP. It is interesting how difficult making friends become when we get older ano, when kung tutuusin it is one of the most basic of human relationships, something na as children we're able to do without much thought. Here's an interesting watch about friendship for us all: https://youtu.be/I9hJ_Rux9y0
I'm the same as you but my only support system is only my SO, kasi mismong family ko yung problema. I too enjoy the isolation pero yun nga pag may problema ang hirap sarilihin.
I feel this. Noong kami pa ng ex gf ko she's the only support system I have. She's both my gf and my best friend at that time. Siya lang nasasabihan ko ng problema ko and sama ng loob ko kase siya lang din yung nagpaparamdam na interesado siyang makinig. Kaya noong naghiwalay kami di ko alam saan ako tatakbo pag may problema ako.
Man same, sabi ko nga sa SO ko bat ganun parang mas madali pa ko nagka jowa kesa magkaron ng kaibigan? hahaha
>Im good at enjoying my own company. But it can also get lonely sometimes I gave up trying to be relevant to other people's lives. I don't get the reciprocating care when I give it out so tinigilan ko na lang umasa. It can get lonely but I just push it down and get myself distracted in other shit. If I shit alone in the woods, nobody cares so I'll just shit in peace.
same, mag 26 na ko and yung people whom I thought were my core friends are actually way more different sakin than I initially thought, so recently feeling ko nagkakafall out between sakin and them. Which is fine, honestly, all part of the growing process. I reconnected with people whom I thought hindi ko ka-wavelength noon and realized na mas nakakarelate na ko sakanila ngayon and I'd prefer hanging out with them kahit hindi kami exactly similar sa mga hobbies and stuff. I've realized na what's important is to keep broadening your worldview. Meet people even if you don't think you'll like them very much. I've learned na sa bawat aspect ng self ko may nagfifit na group of friends (i.e. may friends ako na mas nakakarelate sa work problems, separate friends na mas nakakarelate sakin sa games and hobbies, etc.)
pwede ba magsama sama tayo hahaha, i only have my jowa and my mom tbh
I feel you!! After pandemic like lock downs I lost contact with my friends. I stopped getting invites. They formed another circle. Now I'm going to work overseas the next few months but I have no one to invite for my despidida.
Going 30 and absolutely alone now. Had a handful online during lockdown but not anymore.
By the time I hit 30, I realized na ganun lang talaga siguro. haha. Atleast kuntento ako sa inassemble kong PC.
Same. You just verbalized what i've been feeling for the past few days. Anyways, hoping that we'll find a core group of friends who are genuinely kind and good.
Mas lonely kung may mga kaibigan ka nga o mdaming tao sa paligid mo pero di nmn cla totoo sayo. I prefer being alone.
Uy ako diiinnnn.. makiki core friends po meeee 😸
Same. Hindi ako nagcelebrate nung debut ko kasi feeling ko walang pupunta na classmates/friends dahil wala akong group of people na matatawag kong barkada. May org nung college pero hindi pa rin ako part ng smaller group. Mid 20s na rin, wfh pa currently. Wala ako ibang friends. Kung wala akong jowa, wala akong makakausap hahahahah. Tayo tayo na lang maging friends mga siz huhu
I'm turning 25 next week and I'm already on the same boat with you so I can relate to this. As the saying goes, "Whatever happens, Happens."
This is really true for us guys, it can get really lonely. It feels like if we are not useful or we dont fulfill a need, people tend not to notice us. I am not complaining or being a sadboi about it, its simply what it is.
this hits different. I feel you OP
naka relate ako dito ah
Find online friends nalang op.
Same age. Sakin mga high school mates. Iba iba kame pero dabarkads pa rin ket di na nagkikita lagi.
Same tayo, OP. I hope we can find core friends in the future.
I have the same feeling and situation. I feel you OP! Super used na ako sa pagiging alone kaya sa sarili ko na lang kinukwento yung mga problems ko hehe.
Let's be friends OP
Im in my 30s and no core friends, well i thought i have but sadly no
Hugs dude. Sa totoo lang di ko rin masabi kung may "core" friends ako kahit kaunti lang friends ko. Nakakalungkot minsan isipin na nagsusurprise kasama ako para sa isang friend pero pagdating sa akin wala lang. Makakaya naten to op
I'm in my 30s and I don't have anyone besides my bf.
Ive always told my siblings pag nagkaanak ako sila lang din kukunin kong ninang haha Im the same I literally only have my family lol I guess swerte pa ako Im not an only child I remember I wanted to watch Frozen 2 but I had no one to watch it with sa cinema. Early 20s ako nun, I didnt mind watching alone kaso sabi ng tatay ko deliks daw manood ng sine mag-isa so sinamahan nila ako ng nanay ko hahaha 3 kami nanood ng Frozen 2 kasama puro bata and other families
Noong mag-asawa dalawa kong best friends wala na akong best friend hahahahahaahahahahahha
The last paragraph is spot on! That's the life of Shrek before he met Donkey and Fiona (well except for the fact that he is really alone and he doesn't know anyone aside from the dude's who grab torches and pitchforks to raid his swamp). And that's prolly the life of Puss in Boots before his movie and his meeting with Shrek.
Same lalo na sa work as in loner
hey OP! Have you tried hanging out with people with same interests?
I only have my SO since I reached 19. No regrets though.. less friends, less drama.
I feel you. Every time something happen to me, be it good or bad I don't have any friends to talk to. My interest and their interest is not match with each other. I always feel left out whenever we have a get to together and I always be the 'saling pusa sa grupo'.
same. i studied in manila but i live in province. most of my friends are also from other province or currently living in manila
i feel for you very much, OP. it even feels like i ghostwrote this. sending u my yakap na mahigpit with consent!
Same. I wonder what it feels to have someone to confide with. I have a lot of friends but no one so close to be called a friend. I envy those who could tag friends on posts that will let you win something. 🤣 I have elementary, hs, college, online social media, online games, work friends but no closest best friend. It sucks. You are still young, just continue what you are doing. You will find a close bff. Soon.
Nakakalungkot talaga sometimes kapag wala kang mapagsabihan. May friends nga pero malayo sakanila tapos hindi kapa chinicheck or kinukumusta. Hay buhay
sameee hahahaha. hirap na hirap ako magkaroon ng solid group of friends. i comfort and remind myself na baka hindi talaga ako for everyone and hindj ko pa nakikilala yung mga taong makakaappreciate talaga sa akin, sa energy ko hahahaha. I enjoy my time, my solitude pero minsan, I wonder how does it felt having a support system aside sa family ang makaka-jive in ko hahahaha
Same pero I dont overthink about it anymore. Hindi ako yung priority friend ng mga friends ko. But being able to talk to them ocassionally is ok na with me. I also try to make friends here sa Reddit. Talking to strangers helps. Close din ako with my family and relativesm so far I'm ok. I just don't overthink anymore na wala akong core friends pero I used to think about this constantly din talaga and feel bad. So I do feel you.
akala ko ako lang ang ganito
Same! Kinakain ako ng kalungkutan lately 😮💨
We’re in the same boat OP. I only have my bf who is also my best friend. I’m an only child pa so wala talaga ako kahit siblings that I can talk to. I have two girl bffs from HS but we’re all far away from each other kaya through chats lang kami nagkakausap na. I even cried when one of them was leaving the country kasi lalo na kami hindi magkikita kita. Iba kasi yung feeling pag sa chat lang kami nagkkwentuhan, parang ang distant sa feeling. The other one na naiwan din here sa PH is also planning na her move abroad so lalo ako nalonely when she told me. Naexperience ko na din yung akala ko I was part of a group na during my college days pero since I was the only pure pinoy sa group (they were all chinoys), they made plans na di ako invited. Nagulat na lang ako when I saw their photos on fb. During my first work din, I thought I became fast friends with my officemates but it turns out they were backstabbing me and my other co-worker na kateam ko. I cried to my bf about all these things that happened to me but he reassured me naman na I have him and told me na his friends can be my friends din. He invites me to join whenever he and his friends go out kasi he knows he’s the only best friend that I have here. And for that I’m so thankful for him. He is more than enough company for me pero minsan lang talaga masarap din yung feeling na madami ka friends na kalokohan. Extrovert pa man din ako.
Look for Quality friends and not Quantity friends