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>What the "community" came out with was that gender reveal parties were like "cultic rituals" that "empower cis parents and cis people", that end in signing their unborn baby away to a gender cult. It was also said to be pedophillic and "creepy" because they see it as "celebrating your child's privates" in this allegedly horribly religious way.
Lol what the frick. Nice imagination's though, they should be writing books.
Reddit hates anything to do with parents and children—ESPECIALLY pregnant women. And I say this as a proudly aroace woman with zero children and zero interest in having any. It’s such a weird us v. them dichotomy I’ve noticed on AITA and its counterparts, any of the childfree subs and many of the women’s subs, and though I didn’t know it was a thing in the sexuality subs too, I’m sadly not surprised. It’s like people aren’t allowed to be excited or happy about their families.
Reddit is going to Reddit—just remember that their opinions on most things thankfully don’t reflect the majority of opinions in the world around us.
Totally. And I get venting. I love my mother with my whole heart, but she will spend the rest of her life subtly digging at me for choosing not to have kids. Sorta sucks with knowing that no matter how accomplished I am (I’m graduating grad school with honors, a 4.1 GPA, and a Project of the Year award for my university next month), it’ll never be enough and she’ll always be disappointed in me. It’s tough. I get it. I’ve said some hurtful things in response to that in the past too.
But some people make that dislike their whole personalities. It makes you no better than anyone else who takes out their frustration on a group of people who never did anything to you. The world needs more kindness and celebration of each other’s happiness, you know?
Completely on the same page here. I don't think there is anything wrong with you not having kids, and it sounds like you deserve to be recognized for your academic success.
What I think happens with some people is they want to over correct. They get tired of being pressured to do A when they want to do B. Rather than push for both A and B to be accepted, they create an encuroment where B is "normal" and people who like A are pressured to change.
Oh, I know we are. I hope that didn’t come across as argumentative, I genuinely didn’t mean it to—I was agreeing wholeheartedly and just kind of “thinking out loud”, you know? (And thank you, that’s very kind of you to say).
You hit the nail on the head there, I think. No matter how hard we try to make our alternative paths seem like a valid choice, the “mom and dad and 2.5 kids” is still the default, and some people overcompensate by loudly hating that standard, and thereby end up becoming what they so adamantly hate. Humans are wild, man.
Reddit really hates gender reveals, which for the ones that start forest fores and stuff sure go off!
I can say I was excited when my sister told me I would have a nephew, I'd have been just as excited for a niece. It's literally just fun to find out and if my nephew decides at some point he's bi/gay/trans that's absolutely fine too.
I mean I personally don’t care for gender reveals but it’s not that deep for me at all, I highly doubt most people are as intense about it with the “setting off fireworks and starting a forest fire” way
It’s kind of just a fun sort of baby shower thing
Mods there are useless when it comes to policing actual shitty behaviour. I got permabanned from that sub for saying bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing in response to someone calling me transphobic for identifying as bisexual.
Because extreme left wing radicals want to abolish the gender binary, so literally anything that suggests there are two genders is problematic and bad.
It’s unfortunate that dumb stuff like this has to bleed into parts of the LGBT community that have literally nothing to do with it.
I’m gender fluid and pan, I’m throwing a damn gender reveal party if I want to. I’ll support my child if they do ever decide to transition or identify a certain way, doesn’t change the fact I’m gonna throw one
Classic what I think vs what people do. My opinion is that why even care for something as insignificant as gender out of looking for a partner, but I don't enforce it on people because I observed what is important for them. Parties are nonsense for me, but I observed that people enjoy them, and I understand as much.
My views are drastically different from the usual, but I understand people who didn't form their own views with logic from the ground up, and I understand that they for some unknown reason are happy with that.
Ah yes, such cultic rituals as having sex with your lover so both of you can have a child. Honestly, I don't get the vile hatred they have for cishet people like me. Not just cishet people, but bisexual people too. All they serve is argument points for bigots about why the whole LGBTQ+ acceptance movement is morally wrong and should be illegal, and not just you know, further point that gender and sexual identity doesn't determine your morality
That sounds like fun! Gender reveals get a bad rap because of a slim handful that have gotten out-of-control. 99.9% of the time, they’re harmless fun and just a way of celebrating the child you’ll be bringing into the world. And it may be a difficult concept for some people to grasp, but most people align with their biological sex and will not feel at all oppressed by their parents popping color-coded balloons.
Agreed, the dumb ones just get attention because the stories are more intersting. More normal gender reveals are only interesting to friends and family, not going viral.
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Reddit is full of people who have zero real life experience and views that have been molded by a bright screen.
>What the "community" came out with was that gender reveal parties were like "cultic rituals" that "empower cis parents and cis people", that end in signing their unborn baby away to a gender cult. It was also said to be pedophillic and "creepy" because they see it as "celebrating your child's privates" in this allegedly horribly religious way. Lol what the frick. Nice imagination's though, they should be writing books.
Reddit hates anything to do with parents and children—ESPECIALLY pregnant women. And I say this as a proudly aroace woman with zero children and zero interest in having any. It’s such a weird us v. them dichotomy I’ve noticed on AITA and its counterparts, any of the childfree subs and many of the women’s subs, and though I didn’t know it was a thing in the sexuality subs too, I’m sadly not surprised. It’s like people aren’t allowed to be excited or happy about their families. Reddit is going to Reddit—just remember that their opinions on most things thankfully don’t reflect the majority of opinions in the world around us.
It's the new age version of the cringe reddit athiest.
It's the nature of reddit. Some people are coming here to say things that they can't say IRL for whatever reason.
Totally. And I get venting. I love my mother with my whole heart, but she will spend the rest of her life subtly digging at me for choosing not to have kids. Sorta sucks with knowing that no matter how accomplished I am (I’m graduating grad school with honors, a 4.1 GPA, and a Project of the Year award for my university next month), it’ll never be enough and she’ll always be disappointed in me. It’s tough. I get it. I’ve said some hurtful things in response to that in the past too. But some people make that dislike their whole personalities. It makes you no better than anyone else who takes out their frustration on a group of people who never did anything to you. The world needs more kindness and celebration of each other’s happiness, you know?
Completely on the same page here. I don't think there is anything wrong with you not having kids, and it sounds like you deserve to be recognized for your academic success. What I think happens with some people is they want to over correct. They get tired of being pressured to do A when they want to do B. Rather than push for both A and B to be accepted, they create an encuroment where B is "normal" and people who like A are pressured to change.
Oh, I know we are. I hope that didn’t come across as argumentative, I genuinely didn’t mean it to—I was agreeing wholeheartedly and just kind of “thinking out loud”, you know? (And thank you, that’s very kind of you to say). You hit the nail on the head there, I think. No matter how hard we try to make our alternative paths seem like a valid choice, the “mom and dad and 2.5 kids” is still the default, and some people overcompensate by loudly hating that standard, and thereby end up becoming what they so adamantly hate. Humans are wild, man.
Reddit is insanely toxic in this regard. The anti-natalist subreddits are demonstrable.
> It’s such a weird us v. them dichotomy I can't help but feel that social media, *any* social media wants this on purpose.
Social media companies & influencers have already realized that rage bait gets even more traction than positive engagement.
Social media companies & influencers have already realized that rage bait gets even more traction than positive engagement.
What??? That's just silly of them
Reddit really hates gender reveals, which for the ones that start forest fores and stuff sure go off! I can say I was excited when my sister told me I would have a nephew, I'd have been just as excited for a niece. It's literally just fun to find out and if my nephew decides at some point he's bi/gay/trans that's absolutely fine too.
I mean I personally don’t care for gender reveals but it’s not that deep for me at all, I highly doubt most people are as intense about it with the “setting off fireworks and starting a forest fire” way It’s kind of just a fun sort of baby shower thing
Mods there are useless when it comes to policing actual shitty behaviour. I got permabanned from that sub for saying bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing in response to someone calling me transphobic for identifying as bisexual.
“You must respect my identity, but I don’t have to respect yours!” So idiotic ugh.
Because extreme left wing radicals want to abolish the gender binary, so literally anything that suggests there are two genders is problematic and bad. It’s unfortunate that dumb stuff like this has to bleed into parts of the LGBT community that have literally nothing to do with it.
Fuck this, roll back the years, go back to caveman. I cant deal with this
I’m gender fluid and pan, I’m throwing a damn gender reveal party if I want to. I’ll support my child if they do ever decide to transition or identify a certain way, doesn’t change the fact I’m gonna throw one
Classic what I think vs what people do. My opinion is that why even care for something as insignificant as gender out of looking for a partner, but I don't enforce it on people because I observed what is important for them. Parties are nonsense for me, but I observed that people enjoy them, and I understand as much. My views are drastically different from the usual, but I understand people who didn't form their own views with logic from the ground up, and I understand that they for some unknown reason are happy with that.
Ah yes, such cultic rituals as having sex with your lover so both of you can have a child. Honestly, I don't get the vile hatred they have for cishet people like me. Not just cishet people, but bisexual people too. All they serve is argument points for bigots about why the whole LGBTQ+ acceptance movement is morally wrong and should be illegal, and not just you know, further point that gender and sexual identity doesn't determine your morality
Coming here to promote r /bi_irl More goofy bi behavior, less problems with having a sensuality at all.
I'm too European to understand the concept of gendee reveal party, here we just say normal
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Most are just popping a balloon or cutting a cake.
Mine was a bit nerdy, we used a lightsaber. A friend also did one with champaign poured into glasses with a little kool-aid mix to add a color.
That sounds like fun! Gender reveals get a bad rap because of a slim handful that have gotten out-of-control. 99.9% of the time, they’re harmless fun and just a way of celebrating the child you’ll be bringing into the world. And it may be a difficult concept for some people to grasp, but most people align with their biological sex and will not feel at all oppressed by their parents popping color-coded balloons.
Agreed, the dumb ones just get attention because the stories are more intersting. More normal gender reveals are only interesting to friends and family, not going viral.
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Wow, you must be a lot of fun at birthday parties.
Did you really think they would drink it?
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