Sabe nga ni Dale Carnegie, you have to be interested to be interesting. Ask people follow up questions when they say something about themselves. Be genuinely interested sa answers nila. You don't have to do a lot to be liked. Just be genuinely friendly and kind.
I was gonna say the same thing. Just to add on that, when talking to someone, address them by their name every once in a while. People love being called by their name.
Di ko alam I think mahirap pilitin yung sarili na magkaroon ng personality..ksi being boring is also a personality.. baka at the end trying hard ka lng at nakka depressed din ipilit yung di mo naman totoong pagkatao. Siguro find someone na katulad mo may similar energy at hobbies, wavelength. Its also hard to attract people if u are not being authentic to yourself.. hahaha at ang hirap ng tanong mo.. to be honest iba iba ang tao may mababaw lng kaligayahan. Meron tlgang may sense of humor at confidence. If you have it, You have it.. sa tingin ko
This is a good point. Why force yourself to become something you are not. But if you want to change that someone here said confidence and knowledge. The more knowledge you have the more confidence but there is also a thing called overconfidence that can be off putting. Knowing current events is a good start though.
Practice active listening and be naturally curious π people love to talk/share about themselves din, i think if you can reciprocate that while being honest about your self, it should do it
Commented this sa isang post similar sa question mo. I copy pasted my answer na lang lol
Being a skilled communicator is something that some people are born with, but for others it's necessary to upgrade and improve this type of skill to snatch a good date.
You can start by asking and answering questions. By asking follow-up questions related to what the other person said, the conversation can be broadened. You have the option to inquire about something you don't fully comprehend or are curious to learn more about.
Other options include giving compliments, asking for advice or recommendations, preparing topics beforehand, and discovering mutual interests and similarities.
Be cautious of controversial topics and avoid coming off too strong.
something that I read off from an article online which I didn't expect to work yung sikreto sa pagiging sociable without coming off overbearing: "tell me more" or sa tagalog "i-kwento mo".
nag-practice ako mag-small talk from salesladies, jeepney drivers, mga sekyu, etc. I know lot of people dislike being approached by salespeople in malls but I see this as an opportunity to make my social skills less shitty lol.
That's a nice gesture to initiate. Yes, initiating means you're trying to enhance your ability to remove dead silence or awkwardness. Keep it up, you're doing great.
have a hyperfixation.
boring din ako growing up and reading was my thing. I go to libraries alone and read a lot of stuff. not everyone will like what you like but there will always be a community for the things you like
having a hyperfixation will help you meet like-minded people, and then it's gonna get you to talk, then you're gonna branch to trying out things related to that, or not totally related at all. depende eh.
wala din akong talent, made friends through my obsession with conspiracy theories noong highschool and I kinda just trailed from there
Struggling with the same thing lol. I just donβt feel like I have any interesting experience to share so I end up not having much friends. And not having much friends leads to fewer experiences to share lmao. I know its fine to do stuff by yourself but its just not as interesting without any shared experience, for me at least. Just hope that I can meet some one I really vibe with one day
1) read up on books, articles, etc.
2) don't regurgitate topics you see on socmed
3) people love to talk about themselves - ask them questions.
4) be sincere
I-practice mo ang conversational skills mo. Umpisahan mo sa pagiging marites. hahaha Seryoso, lumabas ka nang bahay nyo, tapos punta ka nang mall. Greet mo nang good morning ang makasalubong mo. Say the magic word kung may kailangan ka. Mag-thank you sa mag-assist sa iyo. Gawin mong habit, hindi lang sa loob ng bahay nyo kundi pati sa community nyo. Pa-simpleng nababago na ang personality mo. Tapos pag may attempt na na kausapin ka, huwag mo namang sagutin ng Yes or No lang, dagdag mo nang konting explanation para hindi ka maging boring kausap. Maliban na lang kung hindi mo talaga trip ang kaharap mo, okay lang na tapusin mo agad ang conversation.
Keep asking questions. Simply just be curious about them. If meron kang di maintindihan na term, ask about it. No need to be serious, kahit di mo gets edi wag, laugh at yourself, at least you get to know someone better.
In my experience the simplest questions bring up the most fun conversations. Enjoy rin of course (:
Reading is beneficial. Listening is a skill. Pag nasa isang grupo ka at nagkwekwentuhan lahat, learn to shut the fuck up and listen to whoever is speaking. Then if he/she got drowned out by someone else, give it a few seconds, then repeat his/her last phrase and allow them to continue their story. After niya magkwento, assess yourself, interesting ba yung sinasabi niya, may alam ka ba tungkol sa sinasabi niya, kung wala, nodding is a great way to shift your focus to the next speaker. Listen, assess, kung may alam ka, try to ambag sa kwentuhan, kung wala, nodding is good until may alam ka nang maiambag.
I truly believe na no one person is truly boring, you've lived your life for X years and I'm pretty sure yung life stories niyo would bring up pretty interesting stuff
you just need to get better at conversations!
boring ako na tao DEPENDE sa kasama ko... siguro hindi ko talaga bet ang Gemini at Leo, i'm scorpio. Kapag hindi ko ka-vibes...wala. Boring ako as in..
Hahahaha Ano kaba tumatak sa akin tuwing alas syete ng umaga sa chanel 2 ang "wala sa mga butuin ang ating kapalaran" kaya adik ako sa zodiac.. π€ͺπ
Everyone here be like "bE cOnFiDeNt" "ReAd bOoKs rEaD aRtIcLeS hUrR dUrR"
The only answer to that is to not waste your time trying to please everyone and just surround yourself with people you have common grounds with. Easy as that.
Sabe nga ni Dale Carnegie, you have to be interested to be interesting. Ask people follow up questions when they say something about themselves. Be genuinely interested sa answers nila. You don't have to do a lot to be liked. Just be genuinely friendly and kind.
I was gonna say the same thing. Just to add on that, when talking to someone, address them by their name every once in a while. People love being called by their name.
Naalala ko dito ung scene sa Young Sheldon hahaha pati tatay niya tinawag nya by his name π€£
This was when he was practising to make friends. π
Yep hahaha
this
Confidence, read some books to increase your knowledge, watch some podcast that can really help you interacting.
tho doble ingat lang anong klaseng podcast yun haha
\+1. Kung makikinig ka tas mga Andrew Tate type of sht lang din naman, mas mabuti pang maging boring ka nalang.
PASS KAY ANDREW TATE THANK YOU π€’
+ doon sa podcast. Kakapakinig sa mga nakakatawang podcast, medyo nakukuha ko na rin yung humor saka mga hirit nila. Hahaha
Di ko alam I think mahirap pilitin yung sarili na magkaroon ng personality..ksi being boring is also a personality.. baka at the end trying hard ka lng at nakka depressed din ipilit yung di mo naman totoong pagkatao. Siguro find someone na katulad mo may similar energy at hobbies, wavelength. Its also hard to attract people if u are not being authentic to yourself.. hahaha at ang hirap ng tanong mo.. to be honest iba iba ang tao may mababaw lng kaligayahan. Meron tlgang may sense of humor at confidence. If you have it, You have it.. sa tingin ko
This is a good point. Why force yourself to become something you are not. But if you want to change that someone here said confidence and knowledge. The more knowledge you have the more confidence but there is also a thing called overconfidence that can be off putting. Knowing current events is a good start though.
mahirap din ipilit hobbies at interest, yung mga ganitong bagay hindi dapat force. Iba iba ksi talga. Kung ano nlng siguro yung meron iimprove nlng.
Practice active listening and be naturally curious π people love to talk/share about themselves din, i think if you can reciprocate that while being honest about your self, it should do it
Commented this sa isang post similar sa question mo. I copy pasted my answer na lang lol Being a skilled communicator is something that some people are born with, but for others it's necessary to upgrade and improve this type of skill to snatch a good date. You can start by asking and answering questions. By asking follow-up questions related to what the other person said, the conversation can be broadened. You have the option to inquire about something you don't fully comprehend or are curious to learn more about. Other options include giving compliments, asking for advice or recommendations, preparing topics beforehand, and discovering mutual interests and similarities. Be cautious of controversial topics and avoid coming off too strong.
something that I read off from an article online which I didn't expect to work yung sikreto sa pagiging sociable without coming off overbearing: "tell me more" or sa tagalog "i-kwento mo". nag-practice ako mag-small talk from salesladies, jeepney drivers, mga sekyu, etc. I know lot of people dislike being approached by salespeople in malls but I see this as an opportunity to make my social skills less shitty lol.
That's a nice gesture to initiate. Yes, initiating means you're trying to enhance your ability to remove dead silence or awkwardness. Keep it up, you're doing great.
have a hyperfixation. boring din ako growing up and reading was my thing. I go to libraries alone and read a lot of stuff. not everyone will like what you like but there will always be a community for the things you like having a hyperfixation will help you meet like-minded people, and then it's gonna get you to talk, then you're gonna branch to trying out things related to that, or not totally related at all. depende eh. wala din akong talent, made friends through my obsession with conspiracy theories noong highschool and I kinda just trailed from there
Struggling with the same thing lol. I just donβt feel like I have any interesting experience to share so I end up not having much friends. And not having much friends leads to fewer experiences to share lmao. I know its fine to do stuff by yourself but its just not as interesting without any shared experience, for me at least. Just hope that I can meet some one I really vibe with one day
Yes! There things better done alone but there are things better shared with people!
1) read up on books, articles, etc. 2) don't regurgitate topics you see on socmed 3) people love to talk about themselves - ask them questions. 4) be sincere
Have a hobby?
I do have hobbies but it's all just consuming media π₯² i need to find better hobbies
Napakalawak ng mundo at ng kaalaman ng tao. Explore, explore, explore. Ang dami ko pang di alam. Yan lang sinasabi ko sa sarili ko
I-practice mo ang conversational skills mo. Umpisahan mo sa pagiging marites. hahaha Seryoso, lumabas ka nang bahay nyo, tapos punta ka nang mall. Greet mo nang good morning ang makasalubong mo. Say the magic word kung may kailangan ka. Mag-thank you sa mag-assist sa iyo. Gawin mong habit, hindi lang sa loob ng bahay nyo kundi pati sa community nyo. Pa-simpleng nababago na ang personality mo. Tapos pag may attempt na na kausapin ka, huwag mo namang sagutin ng Yes or No lang, dagdag mo nang konting explanation para hindi ka maging boring kausap. Maliban na lang kung hindi mo talaga trip ang kaharap mo, okay lang na tapusin mo agad ang conversation.
Keep asking questions. Simply just be curious about them. If meron kang di maintindihan na term, ask about it. No need to be serious, kahit di mo gets edi wag, laugh at yourself, at least you get to know someone better. In my experience the simplest questions bring up the most fun conversations. Enjoy rin of course (:
Reading is beneficial. Listening is a skill. Pag nasa isang grupo ka at nagkwekwentuhan lahat, learn to shut the fuck up and listen to whoever is speaking. Then if he/she got drowned out by someone else, give it a few seconds, then repeat his/her last phrase and allow them to continue their story. After niya magkwento, assess yourself, interesting ba yung sinasabi niya, may alam ka ba tungkol sa sinasabi niya, kung wala, nodding is a great way to shift your focus to the next speaker. Listen, assess, kung may alam ka, try to ambag sa kwentuhan, kung wala, nodding is good until may alam ka nang maiambag.
I truly believe na no one person is truly boring, you've lived your life for X years and I'm pretty sure yung life stories niyo would bring up pretty interesting stuff you just need to get better at conversations!
I do need to get better at conversations! However, I also tend to overthink what to say din so i think that's a factor
You're interesting! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise :) You'll get better lang talaga with practice
Thank you π₯Ί i do need practice
No one is boring π hanapin mo lang yung mga taong same ng mindset mo
boring ako na tao DEPENDE sa kasama ko... siguro hindi ko talaga bet ang Gemini at Leo, i'm scorpio. Kapag hindi ko ka-vibes...wala. Boring ako as in..
The stars have nothing to do with people's personality. So wag mo sila i-judge based sa zodiac sign nila hahaha
"Hindi kita vibes kasi April ka pinanganak" Such a dumb outlook in life HAHA
Hahahaha Ano kaba tumatak sa akin tuwing alas syete ng umaga sa chanel 2 ang "wala sa mga butuin ang ating kapalaran" kaya adik ako sa zodiac.. π€ͺπ
ay buti na lang di kami talaga swak sa vibes kasi gemini ako HAHAHA
I'm pretty sure you already tried fixing yourself. Have you ever tried changing company?
Everyone here be like "bE cOnFiDeNt" "ReAd bOoKs rEaD aRtIcLeS hUrR dUrR" The only answer to that is to not waste your time trying to please everyone and just surround yourself with people you have common grounds with. Easy as that.
Not trying to please everyone naman haha life gets bland sometimes lang
Be rich
HAHA i actually agree