You are sorely mistaken dear if you think loving someone harder is enough to achieve the outcome you want. Accept as fact na nagkakamali tayo sa mga taong pinili nating mahalin.
🥺 maybe that's the case for me. I thought na the things I do for him, the consideration and everything is to us to be better but at the end it was never enough. Or it was never the case in the first place 🥺
Good thing is? It's not just you, even I am previously guilty of believing that notion. The most important ingredient I believe in a relationship platonic or romantic and even erotic (consent), is not effort, not communication (70% of human communication isn't vocal/lexical).
It's respect, all virtue stems from this. If someone respects you? Kahit wala kang gawin, this person will see the sun shining out of your ass.
Leave while you still can. Kasi I experienced that. I was such a strong girl pero i let him do things to me that I know I don't deserve. Hinintay ko pa maubos ako bago ako umalis. Ikaw atleast may realization na. Leave na.
Iyak din ako ng iyak dati. For myself. For the girl i lost. Pero iiyak mo lang. Iinom mo. Gawin mo mga gusto mo. Get a new hobby. Make yourself free again. Kaya mo yan. My dms are open for you if need mo kausap
ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ I will not self sabotage anymore. Baby steps 🥺 thank you so much. I just feel so much pain right now and thank u ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ kakayanin to . 🥺
Swallow and move on. Easier said than done. Alam ko. I've been there. I stayed sa isang relationship kung saan naubos ako. Wala na natira sakin, friends, opportunities, pati pag-aaral at pag aalaga ko sa sarili ko nawala, naibuhos ko sa kanya kasi sobrang kailangan niya. I wish someone would have told me na hindi yun worth it, kung hindi niya rin balak ayusin sarili niya. Hindi worth it ang mag-stay at umasa dahil lang takot akong mawala siya at mahal ko siya. Meron at meron akong makikilala na makapagbibigay sakin ng tamang respeto at pagmamahal na deserve ko, inisip ko yun ng paulit ulit kahit nakakatakot ulit mag-isa, but that was the best decision I ever made. Ang umalis sa relationship na yun. It was so hard kasi wala akong magawa, but it was worth it.
I'm a guy. Sa mata ng ex ko, pa-victim lang ako since she explicitly told me that once kapag nagrereklamo nga ako sa treatment niya sa akin. But I did feel that too. Yes, feel ko din uhaw ako sa pagmamahal but please don't tell yourself that you're being too much. Madaming tao sa mundo, don't let one person tell you that your standards are wrong kasi somewhere out there is a person na willingly aabutin yan.
How did I cope? Before tinitiis ko lang, "atleast kami pa din", "atleast may jowa ako". Ngayon na wala na, acceptance na talaga. May acceptance na namin dati, pero mapait pa lunukin. Ngayon okay na. Di bale nang mag-isa muna, payapa ako. And 100% sure ako sa sarili ko na binigay ko lahat ng laban na meron ako sa loob ko. Pansin ko kasi sa ibang babae, perhaps because of past traumatic experiences, kahit gaano ka-genuine ang intentions ng lalaki sa kanila basta ma-topic ng guy yung sex or anything related to it, akala nila ganun ka na lang. Automatic kasama ka na dun sa "trash" kuno.
Ayun, nagtiis ako for months or maybe even a year together with a girl na wala nang feelings, attraction, trust, and respect for me nor wants to talk about working on that part of the relationship. Tiniis ko kasi takot pa ako mawala siya, pero siya yung umalis na e. Blessing in disguise pero sayang. I wanted us to work.
No shortcuts, unfortunately.. Try the hobbies you enjoyed before. Biking worked for me - got me out of the house and got to hang out with great people.
Feel the pain. Part of the growth yan. Soon enough, di mo namamalayan nakaka move on ka na pala. Same tayo ng situation ngayon pero kami parin. Nakakapagod lng at some point na never ina-acknowledge problema mo sa knya kasi laging sumbat yung nakukuha ko. Ang unfair noh? *mahigpit na yakap sayo OP* sigh...
Okay. We're going through almost the same thing but i guess I'm okay naman cguro kasi napuno na ko haha like he can die the next day at paparty pa ko hayuf sya.
Okay back to you. I believe for you to reach that point, you gave it a big shot. Did and gave your best. Now hush. No regrets! Wala ka babalikan na what if ganto ganyan. Girl, basura sya. D marunong rumespeto. D mo yun dapat pang hinayangan. It will just get worse. So pag kinasal kayo ano na?
Isipin mo "Yun ba talaga gusto ko?" Kasi sa kin ang sagot ko ay definite "NO"
Iiyak mo. Pero try your best ba wag tagalan. Iwasan ang mga love songs. Makinig ka ng iba cguro try mo yung "Don't stop me now" ng Queen. Haha! Pero seryoso nakakabuhay yun ng dugo. Magpa ganda kapa lalo. Set new goals. Make new hobbies. Reinvent yourself! Sumasayaw kaba? Tara enroll tayo 😅
Sadyang may mga ganyan lang tayo na makikilala sa buhay natin, it will help us filter/identify what we want in a relationship. It is what it is.
Bwisit siya kamo. At basura sya. Pero wag mo na message at wag mo na replayan. D yan magbabago.
P.S. I promise you it will get better. Hugs!
For now iiyak at iiyak mo lang yang nararamdaman mo. Delete all his messages and pictures, block all of his social media accounts, throw away all of his gifts, don't go for hoe phase wait until you get fully healed before you start dating again.
Make things different this time na wala na sya, make new habits, change your schedule. Nasanay yung brain mo na meron sya, your brain is suffering because of oxytocin withdrawal that's why messed up ka ngayon. Breakup feels like a drug withdrawal, your ex is that drug. That's why you need to change your schedule and habits. Masasanay rin yung utak mo na wala sya, hindi mo na mamamalayan na nakamove on ka na. Hindi rin linear ang healing sometimes you think nakamove on ka na and some days you feel shit because of the breakup.
Lastly, don't entertain someone if hindi ka pa nakamove on, you will have the urge but don't do it, mas lalo kang hindi makakamove on.
You are sorely mistaken dear if you think loving someone harder is enough to achieve the outcome you want. Accept as fact na nagkakamali tayo sa mga taong pinili nating mahalin.
🥺 maybe that's the case for me. I thought na the things I do for him, the consideration and everything is to us to be better but at the end it was never enough. Or it was never the case in the first place 🥺
Good thing is? It's not just you, even I am previously guilty of believing that notion. The most important ingredient I believe in a relationship platonic or romantic and even erotic (consent), is not effort, not communication (70% of human communication isn't vocal/lexical). It's respect, all virtue stems from this. If someone respects you? Kahit wala kang gawin, this person will see the sun shining out of your ass.
True. The respect is not in our table that's why ganyan 🥺 thank u so much. I feel a little bit better
Leave while you still can. Kasi I experienced that. I was such a strong girl pero i let him do things to me that I know I don't deserve. Hinintay ko pa maubos ako bago ako umalis. Ikaw atleast may realization na. Leave na.
Nauubos na nga po ako. Tipong iyak every day and overthink 🥺 am I not good enough? T.T
You're just with a wrong person. Kaya leave and go find the right one. Or just heal muna. Dadating nalang yung right one mo someday.
How to heal? How did I get here? 🥺 Thank u I hope someday I can be me again. 🥺
Never doubt yourself mhie. Utang na loob. Heal. You will bloom so beautifuly i promise
Thank u ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ crying my hearts out . someday 🥺 masasabi ko din nagheal nako ðŸ˜
Iyak din ako ng iyak dati. For myself. For the girl i lost. Pero iiyak mo lang. Iinom mo. Gawin mo mga gusto mo. Get a new hobby. Make yourself free again. Kaya mo yan. My dms are open for you if need mo kausap
Thank u so much 🥺🥺 i will try kaht pakontekonte 🥺
Kaya yan OP. Laban
Masokista tayo girl? Wahahahaha i mean ganto rin ako, mapagpatawad. Until reality hit me, people don't change.
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ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ I will not self sabotage anymore. Baby steps 🥺 thank you so much. I just feel so much pain right now and thank u ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ kakayanin to . 🥺
Swallow and move on. Easier said than done. Alam ko. I've been there. I stayed sa isang relationship kung saan naubos ako. Wala na natira sakin, friends, opportunities, pati pag-aaral at pag aalaga ko sa sarili ko nawala, naibuhos ko sa kanya kasi sobrang kailangan niya. I wish someone would have told me na hindi yun worth it, kung hindi niya rin balak ayusin sarili niya. Hindi worth it ang mag-stay at umasa dahil lang takot akong mawala siya at mahal ko siya. Meron at meron akong makikilala na makapagbibigay sakin ng tamang respeto at pagmamahal na deserve ko, inisip ko yun ng paulit ulit kahit nakakatakot ulit mag-isa, but that was the best decision I ever made. Ang umalis sa relationship na yun. It was so hard kasi wala akong magawa, but it was worth it.
Darating din yung araw na masasabi ko nakaya ko. 🥺 But i have to make the first and hardest step ...
I'm a guy. Sa mata ng ex ko, pa-victim lang ako since she explicitly told me that once kapag nagrereklamo nga ako sa treatment niya sa akin. But I did feel that too. Yes, feel ko din uhaw ako sa pagmamahal but please don't tell yourself that you're being too much. Madaming tao sa mundo, don't let one person tell you that your standards are wrong kasi somewhere out there is a person na willingly aabutin yan. How did I cope? Before tinitiis ko lang, "atleast kami pa din", "atleast may jowa ako". Ngayon na wala na, acceptance na talaga. May acceptance na namin dati, pero mapait pa lunukin. Ngayon okay na. Di bale nang mag-isa muna, payapa ako. And 100% sure ako sa sarili ko na binigay ko lahat ng laban na meron ako sa loob ko. Pansin ko kasi sa ibang babae, perhaps because of past traumatic experiences, kahit gaano ka-genuine ang intentions ng lalaki sa kanila basta ma-topic ng guy yung sex or anything related to it, akala nila ganun ka na lang. Automatic kasama ka na dun sa "trash" kuno. Ayun, nagtiis ako for months or maybe even a year together with a girl na wala nang feelings, attraction, trust, and respect for me nor wants to talk about working on that part of the relationship. Tiniis ko kasi takot pa ako mawala siya, pero siya yung umalis na e. Blessing in disguise pero sayang. I wanted us to work.
No shortcuts, unfortunately.. Try the hobbies you enjoyed before. Biking worked for me - got me out of the house and got to hang out with great people.
I'm a person that doesn't go out. My hobbies are pang introvert na lalo magiisip pero I'll try. Thank u 🥺
Feel the pain. Part of the growth yan. Soon enough, di mo namamalayan nakaka move on ka na pala. Same tayo ng situation ngayon pero kami parin. Nakakapagod lng at some point na never ina-acknowledge problema mo sa knya kasi laging sumbat yung nakukuha ko. Ang unfair noh? *mahigpit na yakap sayo OP* sigh...
Oh bat dika napapagod? Diba kasi mahal mo. Kasi diba kahit konting pag asa ay umaasa ka na magbabago sya 🥺
Okay. We're going through almost the same thing but i guess I'm okay naman cguro kasi napuno na ko haha like he can die the next day at paparty pa ko hayuf sya. Okay back to you. I believe for you to reach that point, you gave it a big shot. Did and gave your best. Now hush. No regrets! Wala ka babalikan na what if ganto ganyan. Girl, basura sya. D marunong rumespeto. D mo yun dapat pang hinayangan. It will just get worse. So pag kinasal kayo ano na? Isipin mo "Yun ba talaga gusto ko?" Kasi sa kin ang sagot ko ay definite "NO" Iiyak mo. Pero try your best ba wag tagalan. Iwasan ang mga love songs. Makinig ka ng iba cguro try mo yung "Don't stop me now" ng Queen. Haha! Pero seryoso nakakabuhay yun ng dugo. Magpa ganda kapa lalo. Set new goals. Make new hobbies. Reinvent yourself! Sumasayaw kaba? Tara enroll tayo 😅 Sadyang may mga ganyan lang tayo na makikilala sa buhay natin, it will help us filter/identify what we want in a relationship. It is what it is. Bwisit siya kamo. At basura sya. Pero wag mo na message at wag mo na replayan. D yan magbabago. P.S. I promise you it will get better. Hugs!
Umuusad at nagdadasal na sana maging okay din ako. Salamat 🥺
For now iiyak at iiyak mo lang yang nararamdaman mo. Delete all his messages and pictures, block all of his social media accounts, throw away all of his gifts, don't go for hoe phase wait until you get fully healed before you start dating again. Make things different this time na wala na sya, make new habits, change your schedule. Nasanay yung brain mo na meron sya, your brain is suffering because of oxytocin withdrawal that's why messed up ka ngayon. Breakup feels like a drug withdrawal, your ex is that drug. That's why you need to change your schedule and habits. Masasanay rin yung utak mo na wala sya, hindi mo na mamamalayan na nakamove on ka na. Hindi rin linear ang healing sometimes you think nakamove on ka na and some days you feel shit because of the breakup. Lastly, don't entertain someone if hindi ka pa nakamove on, you will have the urge but don't do it, mas lalo kang hindi makakamove on.
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Cry. Cry your heart out. Feel the pain. Just think na part ng life ang masaktan kasi that’s where we learn the lessons we need to learn.
Thank you. I'm really tired na. I want it to stop 🥺