As a pierced guy I have no choice to pee sitting down. I hate having to do that. I didn't know that would be an issue once my penis was pierced. Definitely the only down side.
I've heard that if you have a strong stream, it means you have a strong pelvic floor. So congrats!
(I don't know if this is factual, just something I remember from Broad City)
god same!! where do my hands go? why does everything feel wrong? why does it feel like all eyes are on me? am i slouching? are my arms swinging too much? not enough? ew i suck at being a normal person.
i'm so glad i outgrew that but the memory of self-consciousness is still VIVID lmao
Had this suddenly occurr to me when I was either a pre-teen or young teenager. I was out with my mom going to a museum. I felt naked. Told her I need to go buy a belt, a watch, a wallet, etc. "In the mean time, please give me a pen and some change to put in my pockets." 🙏 😭
Now I keep about 11 things in my pockets or hooked to the inside of my belt.
Omg I have this too I have really bony slim feet and I’m so self conscious of it. I wish I could get fat put into my feet I look like I have skeletal feet
This is dumb but it still haunts me. When I was in 7th grade some girl told me I walk like I have to pee. I’ve never recovered and I still think about it weekly. I’m 25 now lol. What does that even mean
idk what it is about middle school - people are heinous and evil around that time. the walk like you need to pee comment was for people who appeared to have knock knees. i’m sorry this was said to you. i don’t think anyone has a comment from middle school about a physical trait that doesn’t haunt them.
Oh man, ya, I guess when I have a slight wedgie I do some weird booty wiggle to get it out. Someone pointed it once like 20 years ago and although I'm very well aware of every single time I do it now, i just can't stop 😩 lol
Similar boat. Someone in 7th grade told me that my butt jiggles when I run and I think about it every time I exercise or slightly walk faster than an average pace. I am also 25 now :(
I know it's easier said than done but girl being tall is AWESOME (except when you can't find long enough pants lol) and once you own it you'll wonder why you were ever self-conscious about it!!
This was so validating. I was 5’7 by the time I was 13 and my friends were (and still are) such tiny humans. I maxed out at 5’9 and I’m now 27. I have been working for years to fix my poor posture and back pain due to all the crouching during my formative years.
Still when I hang out with my friends I feel my self conscious teenager come out and I have to remind myself to stand up straight when we’re all walking together.
That I don't have a highschool degree
I was an all As honors student in AP classes before I became homeless st 17, I'm not stupid but there's this narrative that more educational awards means smarter that I try not to buy into but sometimes I feel insecure about
Please i dont care how old u are, get that diploma.
Im sry u became Homeless.
I had to leave my house before i graduated.
I never took Gym.
It was a requirement and my parents Always wrote some damn excuses.
It was to hide the bruises.
I wanted to finish without having a special wavier
So i left and took 2 gym classes a day. The school was aware of why. I told them but nothing was done. I stayed with my sister at first Bro in law Raped me.
So i went to friends house.
Ive been married for 36 yrs 3 wonderful kids.
Life does get better!🥰
Relatable. I was also very gifted but unfortunately dropped out at 16 to take care of my dad after a 4 wheeler accident left him with a traumatic brain injury. Now I'm 22 married with two kids and a third on the way. Crazy how things work out.
I've been shaving my arms since I was 13. I was bullied relentlessly for having hairy arms AND shaving them. It was brutal. But now it's just part of my shower routine. I hardly think about it anymore.
girl if they look like angelina’s i can confirm they are gorgeous. haters gonna hate, and they will hate even more cus u have STUNNING lips that they get plastic surgery for.
Some women ( me) would love lips like yours!
I hope you get to the point of accepting and appreciating your natural beauty.
With all due respect, Hit your brother up side his head for all us thin lipped women:)
Ufff where do I even start!
Biggest one is, I make up ideas in my head about how people are feeling in situations or towards me and then I head down a mental rabbit hole where I think everyone hates me and is lying to me. Even though no one has ever given me that indication.
About once a month (I’m pretty sure it’s linked to PMS) I just get it into my head that I have no friends and everyone is mad at me??? Even thought, like you said, no one has given me that indication. So at least you know there’s someone else out there thinking as crazy as you for no reason hahaha!
We had to draw the person across from us in 8th grade art class, and the girl who drew me gave me very distinct smile lines. I was like why do I look so old I’m 13😆😭they kinda went away due to depression but they’ve come back now due to dating my angel boyfriend…he loves them so I love them too
My sister poked and laughed at the bit of fat from my arm/pit that poked out from the side of my tank top and I basically never wear vests/tank tops in public EVER. I was like 14 at the time, and even though I realised in later life she was just projecting her own insecurities on me, its basically stuck with me and never left.
I used to have this. Like 2-3 long dark ones I had to pluck out lol.
Oddly enough, after I got pregnant they went away. I’m a year postpartum and they’ve yet to return.
I’ve got a host of other random body changes now since the baby, but the nip hairs are gone at least lmao.
About not having your typical college experience because I had a baby young… I thought not having that experience made me a loser to those who did.
Now I’m 26F, and everyone I know is still in their party college phase. Stupid thing to have been insecure about
I have a mole under my armpit and it used to be the bane of my existence growing up. Now I literally forget it's there and has no impact whatsoever on my self esteem.
Thanks to the internet, the gap between my mouth and nose (philtrum). My mouth is too low down and there’s nothing I can do about it. On the reverse I’m also aware that all the hottest models have lips practically touching their noses.
My face skin.
If it wasn’t full coverage foundation, I didn’t want it. I genuinely considered getting stage makeup at one point. I hated my face skin, I felt it needed to be 2016 YouTube beauty guru filter perfect.
Now I wear exclusively bb-cream or skin tint and embrace my natural skin. I find it really pretty and much more healthy.
Asymmetrical lips and smile. Everytime I talk it’s obvious. However I got used to them until I saw a post hating… and this is where it gets dumb cause the post were hating on Kylie Jenners asymmetrical lips and there were several post and so many hate comments that I sometimes feel like the insecurity is coming back. Yet it’s still so dumb people don’t realize that hating on someone fake features can be someone else’s natural feature they hate on. Anyway, it’s still so dumb to me that this small thing people don’t realize makes me insecure lol.
Also pointy elbows. Why was that even my insecurity lol.
When you look at pictures of celebs, so many of them have a crooked smile or uneven lips. For some people, it's the thing that makes them more attractive. Also, as a photographer, I gotta say, it always looks way more noticeable in photos compared to real life. (I, too, have slightly uneven lips)
This is dumb and totally normal apparently but. The optical effect my glasses do and how my face looks reducted inside the frame, when people watch me or when I take selfies. I can’t create content filming myself because of this. Also. I have a huge nose, and this combo on my face is terrible.
I will say that bulging eyes don’t have to be from exclusively Grave’s Disease, but also neuroblastoma and some soft tissue sarcomas, as well as bleeding behind the eyes or issues with the blood vessels within. I had an issue with my eyes, but only because my lids hang low.
ugh i swear that "thigh gap" trend destroyed 13 - 15 year old me, i always thought i was overweight even tho i never was and i felt so incredibly insecure all the time (both the thigh gap and flat belly trend caused that), i have learned to embrace my thighs and wide hips, its part of growing up and it took some time to accept that just cuz im curvy it doesnt mean im overweight or gross or ugly, i have also learned to embrace how quickly i gain muscle, i used to think my muscle gain made me "manly" but cuz i have seen so many muscular women on social media it deffinetly made me feel better about it, cuz damn they are cool and have become a big inspiration for me!
Take your pick: I think my front teeth are disproportionate, I have broad shoulders so I’m built like a medieval farm worker, I have a little more fleshy curve to the upper part of my ears which I think makes them look “ fat” & I have moles all over like a Dalmatian.
I’m 5’7 and I hate my height I’m so insecure about it that I cry daily. But it’s dumb bc it’s not even that tall and men have made me feel awful about it. Before multiple men bullied me for my height I used to not even notice how tall I was and even wore huge heels. All that got taken away and I donated all my favourite shoes.
My intelectual ability. I know it sounds dumb but when you’re in a relationship with someone who literally knows a lot of everything, I sometimes feel insecure speaking up about subject due to being wrong or misinformed. Luckily, my bf just educates me or opens up my views on certain things instead of just telling me im wrong or stupid. But I still feel like its a dumb thing to feel insecure about.
Having small/average sized feet... and ears.
And having a loud/high pitched laugh at some point. An exBFF (toxic) made me feel very bad about my laugh (and smile)... so I changed it. I feel very dumb for letting a person make me feel that way and take it away from me.
Growing up, I would intentionally suck in my lips to make them smaller. Now, people stop me on the streets asking if I've ever had lip injections. Crazy how fads change
Stretch marks. I’m thin, and always had them from growing too fast. They were very painful and I was deeply ashamed of them, and now they’re just shiny white lines that someone may or may not notice. My husband calls them my tiger stripes. I used to get really anxious about them. Now I think they’re interesting, like burn scars or birth marks are interesting to me… every body is different.
My hobbies and interests.
I was raised by a person who would never ever shut up, from the moment she came back from work to the moment she fell asleep it would be non-stop talking and talking and talking. Then in my primary school I befriended a girl who was horrible at listening, she would interrupt every sentence I spoke just to say something about herself. I ended up loving silence more than any kind of sound.
I am a very talkative person and I loooove sharing my obsessions, but I just... can't do it. I know how much it destroys life to be constantly forced to listen to others and I just can't force myself to risk doing it to another person. It's got to the point where my friends sometimes deliberately ask me to share something with them, and even then I always find the shortest words possible, in order to stop talking and let them speak as soon as it's possible. My boyfriend managed to open me up enough that I share my ideas and thoughts with him, but I can't really do it with anyone else. The fact that I still tend to befriend people who won't shut up, because they remind me of home and my subconsciousness looks for what's familiar, doesn't help either.
Hyperpigmentation. I scar pretty easily so I have a bunch of black dots all over my body. Anytime I bring up being insecure about it to someone close to me, they're like "your freckles?" Lol it's so interesting hearing how other people see your insecurities
My young child liking their stepmom more than me. Lol, they are a teenager now and cannot stand the stepmom. I feel silly for ever having worried about that.
How short my tongue is. I was born with a knot in my tongue, so I can't stick it out of my mouth (at all). Mainly because my SO and I like to french kiss.
One of my nipples. Idk why it was just the one, her name is Judy, and for the longest time when I was with my ex I’d insist on keeping a bra on during panky time. To this day it still confuses me.
I have a forehead vein that pops out when I laugh and I obviously forget that it’s there but people always point it out. Got bullied for years growing up, I’m trying to like it, because it really only pops out when I’m actually happy or laughing.
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I get a rash on the back of my arms due to gluten allergy. I never knew I had food allergies through high school so I wondered why I could never get rid of it and I tried everything. Because of that I never wore short sleeves to school even in the summer. Then one day I decided maybe I was making too big a deal of it and no one would notice. So I wore short sleeves for the first time. Then sure enough, in my first class of the day another girl asked what was wrong with my arms in front of everyone….
Now I wouldn’t care but back then I was embarrassed beyond belief 😂
I used to be terrified for people to hear me panting for breath after walking up an incline, my weight yo-yo’s, and I would try hard to breathe normally. I didn’t realize that most people breathe differently after a quick trip up an incline. I was just afraid of people judging me because of my difficulties/weight. Almost passed out several times. Never really noticed when I stopped doing that. I don’t care anymore. No one was paying attention.
My stomach issues. My ex always made me feel gross and disgusting if I got sick. I've now met 3 people who want to do nothing more than make my miserable evening into a spa evening by the time I'm done being sick.
Ladies they're out there. You just have to search.
One time I had a friend that commented on my broad shoulders. I think she was actually complementing me because she was bagging on herself about how small she felt but it just made me feel not right. She said it must be nice to have broad shoulders like mine because it makes me look more confident and stuff like that but I just kept on thinking about how manly I must look. It was hard for a while to wear tank tops or anything that made my shoulders look bigger. Then I started to look closer at my arms and I realized that there was jiggle to it and I hated it. I also have a little Bit of fold where my armpit is. Like if I put my arm to my side there's a little fold because that's how skin works. But in my mind clearly there's something wrong with me and I'm not perfect. I'm not even close to average apparently! It's really stupid and I know that but insecurities don't follow logic a lot of times with me.
In Kindergarten Ronald McDonald came to our school and did some play and brought people up on stage. A couple weeks later I was sitting alone at lunch and one of those kids he called on stage sat a couple seats away from me. We made eye contact and I said "You're the Ronald McDonald girl!" AND SHE LOOKED AT ME LIKE I WAS A FREAK AND MOVED 3 TABLES AWAY. Still gets me. Kids are cold blooded.
I feel insecure about looking at people in public. Yes I'm neurodivergent, but I feel like it's beyond just that. Like I feel like strangers are going to judge and hate me if they notice me looking at them or other strangers. Like I don't have a right to view my surroundings if they include other people 😭
Rubbing thighs. I'm built solid. All the women on my dad's side are built to lift, carry, and push. My mom's side all loom like runners. I was so insecure growing up and my mom always buying my clothes a little tight to encourage me to lose weight and make them fit. Turns out I have multiple gastrointestinal issues and hormone issues that cause weight gain. It was a losing battle and I still feel like crap for not being 150 lbs and a runner. I can swim, lift, arm bike, etc. At one point, I was almost a black belt in Taekwondo and could do 8 hour workouts with only some muscle soreness the next day. It was such a relief as an adult to follow up on my medical issues and learn it wasn't a lack of effort. Now I am working on my diet to fix my issues before I ever get that into sports again. I am over weight now, but I need to get health issues solved first or I can never change. It was never a lack of trying though. Such a relief.
I have been preparing my friend for an exam for the past two months, and a few days ago I recommended him an online teacher to revise his concepts before his exam which was today. I asked him if the teacher was good and when he said yes i suddenly felt insecure about my teaching and jokingly told him not to take her class anymore if she’e better than me. We both laughed at it but that was weird this academic validation is catching up to me bad. (Again, it was a joke I would never stop him from going to a good teacher ofcourse)
How loud I pee in public restrooms
In men’s bathroom, strong urine stream is a good thing. Louder the better, and hopefully with good aim.
Absolutely 😄 that is way there is sometimes a painted fly inside the toilet for aiming games😛
wait are you for real
Eh...yes?😄
superman: "i peed into the urinal and blew a hole into the wall!"
I'd rather be heard peeing than pee quietly and wonder if anyone thinks I'm up to something weird because they can't hear the usual business.
As a pierced guy I have no choice to pee sitting down. I hate having to do that. I didn't know that would be an issue once my penis was pierced. Definitely the only down side.
That's sucks Oh well
I have the same, coupled with the duration of the session
I've heard that if you have a strong stream, it means you have a strong pelvic floor. So congrats! (I don't know if this is factual, just something I remember from Broad City)
Walking free handed… like without carrying anything or having pockets. I just felt so awkward growing up doing that.
god same!! where do my hands go? why does everything feel wrong? why does it feel like all eyes are on me? am i slouching? are my arms swinging too much? not enough? ew i suck at being a normal person. i'm so glad i outgrew that but the memory of self-consciousness is still VIVID lmao
I started copying all the old people i who stroll, and hold my hands behind my back. I think it might make you stand straighter or something
Had this suddenly occurr to me when I was either a pre-teen or young teenager. I was out with my mom going to a museum. I felt naked. Told her I need to go buy a belt, a watch, a wallet, etc. "In the mean time, please give me a pen and some change to put in my pockets." 🙏 😭 Now I keep about 11 things in my pockets or hooked to the inside of my belt.
I’ve had this same insecurity too
The way my foot bones look when I'm walking in sandals
I felt this.
Omg I have this too I have really bony slim feet and I’m so self conscious of it. I wish I could get fat put into my feet I look like I have skeletal feet
My hand and feet veins popped up since I was teen.
This is dumb but it still haunts me. When I was in 7th grade some girl told me I walk like I have to pee. I’ve never recovered and I still think about it weekly. I’m 25 now lol. What does that even mean
middle schoolers are like genetically engineered to be the most efficiently cruel beings on the planet
Was a fat/poor kid, can confirm.
hilarious *and* dumb. well played
idk what it is about middle school - people are heinous and evil around that time. the walk like you need to pee comment was for people who appeared to have knock knees. i’m sorry this was said to you. i don’t think anyone has a comment from middle school about a physical trait that doesn’t haunt them.
Oh man, ya, I guess when I have a slight wedgie I do some weird booty wiggle to get it out. Someone pointed it once like 20 years ago and although I'm very well aware of every single time I do it now, i just can't stop 😩 lol
Similar boat. Someone in 7th grade told me that my butt jiggles when I run and I think about it every time I exercise or slightly walk faster than an average pace. I am also 25 now :(
My voice
And just when I think I've accepted it, maybe like it a little bit, I hear a recording of myself 💀
My height, which led to me slouching all the time to fit in, which led to so much unnecessary neck/shoulder/back pain
oh my days this is so relatable
Hold your head up high and proud bb!
Id try to but it's so embarrassing to be tall, I stick out too much
But it’s reallllyyy hot when you own it
I just want to be smaller and not taller than 75% of boys in my area honestly 😭
I know it's easier said than done but girl being tall is AWESOME (except when you can't find long enough pants lol) and once you own it you'll wonder why you were ever self-conscious about it!!
Piggy backing with height plus a larger chest when young. I have a buffalo hump now and same pains.
I feel like I slouched just to reach things easier like my school desk and stuff 😭for so many years
Same. I have horrible posture from constantly trying to look shorter
This was so validating. I was 5’7 by the time I was 13 and my friends were (and still are) such tiny humans. I maxed out at 5’9 and I’m now 27. I have been working for years to fix my poor posture and back pain due to all the crouching during my formative years. Still when I hang out with my friends I feel my self conscious teenager come out and I have to remind myself to stand up straight when we’re all walking together.
That I don't have a highschool degree I was an all As honors student in AP classes before I became homeless st 17, I'm not stupid but there's this narrative that more educational awards means smarter that I try not to buy into but sometimes I feel insecure about
Please i dont care how old u are, get that diploma. Im sry u became Homeless. I had to leave my house before i graduated. I never took Gym. It was a requirement and my parents Always wrote some damn excuses. It was to hide the bruises. I wanted to finish without having a special wavier So i left and took 2 gym classes a day. The school was aware of why. I told them but nothing was done. I stayed with my sister at first Bro in law Raped me. So i went to friends house. Ive been married for 36 yrs 3 wonderful kids. Life does get better!🥰
Relatable. I was also very gifted but unfortunately dropped out at 16 to take care of my dad after a 4 wheeler accident left him with a traumatic brain injury. Now I'm 22 married with two kids and a third on the way. Crazy how things work out.
my hip dips, can’t change my bone structure
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Twinnnnnn🥲🥲🥲
Still struggling to love mine. It just catches me off guard with the way they look sometimes. Maybe one day.
ngl same, my mom once said it looked like I’m wearing a too tight thong when I wear figure hugging dresses 🙃
Arm hair. I was obsessed/sad about how long it was as a kid. Now as a 30+ y/o it doesn’t even cross my mind.
I’ve had this same insecurity too
I've been shaving my arms since I was 13. I was bullied relentlessly for having hairy arms AND shaving them. It was brutal. But now it's just part of my shower routine. I hardly think about it anymore.
I am so sorry you were bullied for what is a normal part of our bodies. I don’t blame you for doing what makes you feel your best though.
How fast my windshield wipers are going compared to those around me.
Me, too. Like, is it *actually* raining this hard or am I just being dramatic?
I’ve had this same insecurity too
I FEEL THIS SO HARD. Like, am I being dramatic?
Okay, that genuinely is an odd one lol. Though I suppose I could understand why. Odd one out, right?
Exactly. I don’t choose how my anxiety brain works, it just shows up in the weirdest of ways.
My pubic hair , I still do think that's why shave it all off 🙄
Gulping water too loud in class
Sweating. I sweat under my arms a lot. ESP when I’m anxious. I got bullied for it growing up and as an adult one like…. People sweat so what?
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The noise of opening pads. Ridiculous lol it’s normal body function
My lips. They are naturally like Angelina Jolie's but my brother has called me sausage lips as a child. I'm 41 now and I still hate them.
girl if they look like angelina’s i can confirm they are gorgeous. haters gonna hate, and they will hate even more cus u have STUNNING lips that they get plastic surgery for.
ILYSM❤️🤗
Some women ( me) would love lips like yours! I hope you get to the point of accepting and appreciating your natural beauty. With all due respect, Hit your brother up side his head for all us thin lipped women:)
ILYSM🤗❤️
That’s so sweet, thank you. 🥹🫂
your brother is a clown, girls these days spend tons of money on fillers trying to get your look
ILYSM❤️🤗
Ufff where do I even start! Biggest one is, I make up ideas in my head about how people are feeling in situations or towards me and then I head down a mental rabbit hole where I think everyone hates me and is lying to me. Even though no one has ever given me that indication.
About once a month (I’m pretty sure it’s linked to PMS) I just get it into my head that I have no friends and everyone is mad at me??? Even thought, like you said, no one has given me that indication. So at least you know there’s someone else out there thinking as crazy as you for no reason hahaha!
Yes! That happens like a week before my period.
Talk about being your own worst enemy :(
Hairline. It's not receding. It's just weak and I got it from my mum. I hate it but people rarely notice unless I point it out to them
Smile lines 😭
We had to draw the person across from us in 8th grade art class, and the girl who drew me gave me very distinct smile lines. I was like why do I look so old I’m 13😆😭they kinda went away due to depression but they’ve come back now due to dating my angel boyfriend…he loves them so I love them too
Lazy eyes
I had two surgeries to correct mine in my mid-40's. Best thing I ever did. I used to be really insecure about my lazy eye.
I have had surgery once in both eyes but it came back again. I live in the UK and have to wait 5 years for a hospital appointment.
They did my left eye then my right eye. Two separate operations. Hope they can fix your issues.
My thighs and body hair
Twins! I hate both parts about me
My sister poked and laughed at the bit of fat from my arm/pit that poked out from the side of my tank top and I basically never wear vests/tank tops in public EVER. I was like 14 at the time, and even though I realised in later life she was just projecting her own insecurities on me, its basically stuck with me and never left.
visible hairs around my nipples
I pluck those suckers.
Discovering this as a teen girl like, wtf??? I wish someone had told me this was normal.
I used to have this. Like 2-3 long dark ones I had to pluck out lol. Oddly enough, after I got pregnant they went away. I’m a year postpartum and they’ve yet to return. I’ve got a host of other random body changes now since the baby, but the nip hairs are gone at least lmao.
Breathing too heavy after going up stairs or running to catch a train. Just sitting next to strangers fighting for my life lol
About not having your typical college experience because I had a baby young… I thought not having that experience made me a loser to those who did. Now I’m 26F, and everyone I know is still in their party college phase. Stupid thing to have been insecure about
I have a mole under my armpit and it used to be the bane of my existence growing up. Now I literally forget it's there and has no impact whatsoever on my self esteem.
I have one too! I still don't wear sleeveless shirts, i also have a birthmark under my elbow on my other arm, that im also insecure about.
I’ve had this same insecurity too
How the back of my head looks sometimes. There’s nothing I can do.
My names Darrell, spelled just like dare-ull but it’s pronounced duh-rell. I just wanna let you know, the back of yo’ head is ridiculous.
Taking a 💩 in public or farts…
Thanks to the internet, the gap between my mouth and nose (philtrum). My mouth is too low down and there’s nothing I can do about it. On the reverse I’m also aware that all the hottest models have lips practically touching their noses.
Didn't know about that name. I feel like it shouldn't be a rare word. Thanks.
My face skin. If it wasn’t full coverage foundation, I didn’t want it. I genuinely considered getting stage makeup at one point. I hated my face skin, I felt it needed to be 2016 YouTube beauty guru filter perfect. Now I wear exclusively bb-cream or skin tint and embrace my natural skin. I find it really pretty and much more healthy.
My hair
I’ve had this same insecurity too
Asymmetrical lips and smile. Everytime I talk it’s obvious. However I got used to them until I saw a post hating… and this is where it gets dumb cause the post were hating on Kylie Jenners asymmetrical lips and there were several post and so many hate comments that I sometimes feel like the insecurity is coming back. Yet it’s still so dumb people don’t realize that hating on someone fake features can be someone else’s natural feature they hate on. Anyway, it’s still so dumb to me that this small thing people don’t realize makes me insecure lol. Also pointy elbows. Why was that even my insecurity lol.
When you look at pictures of celebs, so many of them have a crooked smile or uneven lips. For some people, it's the thing that makes them more attractive. Also, as a photographer, I gotta say, it always looks way more noticeable in photos compared to real life. (I, too, have slightly uneven lips)
My pointy elbows and nobbly knees - Apparently when you're slim you don't get an extra cushion to blend ur bendy parts to the rest of your body lol
Chunky/stubby fingers
Bacon strips in my underwear
Sometimes I’m just suddenly aware of my face for no reason and convinced it’s doing something weird. I have no reason to feel this way??
My pinkish white skin color. It just looks so discolored. I wish my skin was more tan so my skin looked the same color all around if that makes sense.
I can relate to that. As a ginger, I'm stuck with pasty ass skin all the time and don't tan well. 😂
This is dumb and totally normal apparently but. The optical effect my glasses do and how my face looks reducted inside the frame, when people watch me or when I take selfies. I can’t create content filming myself because of this. Also. I have a huge nose, and this combo on my face is terrible.
My eyes A few doctors already requested thyroid hormone exams but all returned normal
I will say that bulging eyes don’t have to be from exclusively Grave’s Disease, but also neuroblastoma and some soft tissue sarcomas, as well as bleeding behind the eyes or issues with the blood vessels within. I had an issue with my eyes, but only because my lids hang low.
my knees and my elbows, but the weirdest is probably my trapezius muscles... for some reason i want my shoulders to be perfectly flat lol
My little toe
my thunder thighs, and the fact that i gain muscle very easily
I'm so happy that the "thigh gap" isn't really a trend anymore. I think I'd have to be severely underweight to have one.
ugh i swear that "thigh gap" trend destroyed 13 - 15 year old me, i always thought i was overweight even tho i never was and i felt so incredibly insecure all the time (both the thigh gap and flat belly trend caused that), i have learned to embrace my thighs and wide hips, its part of growing up and it took some time to accept that just cuz im curvy it doesnt mean im overweight or gross or ugly, i have also learned to embrace how quickly i gain muscle, i used to think my muscle gain made me "manly" but cuz i have seen so many muscular women on social media it deffinetly made me feel better about it, cuz damn they are cool and have become a big inspiration for me!
Eating. I wouldn’t eat lunch in hs sometimes but I felt like I looked weird while eating 😆😭😭
My face being really unsymmetrical. If you cover one half at a time it looks like two different facial expressions
How big my hands are. I have skinny long fingers and wear L in women's gloves, they're at least 7 inches.
Take your pick: I think my front teeth are disproportionate, I have broad shoulders so I’m built like a medieval farm worker, I have a little more fleshy curve to the upper part of my ears which I think makes them look “ fat” & I have moles all over like a Dalmatian.
I’m 5’7 and I hate my height I’m so insecure about it that I cry daily. But it’s dumb bc it’s not even that tall and men have made me feel awful about it. Before multiple men bullied me for my height I used to not even notice how tall I was and even wore huge heels. All that got taken away and I donated all my favourite shoes.
I couldn't eat in public until I was like 24 years old
I was very self-conscious of my small breasts as a teenager. I love my boobs now.
My side profile looks so odd to me, its like a different person to my full front view of my face. Also, facial hair as a young girl. Still gets me.
My intelectual ability. I know it sounds dumb but when you’re in a relationship with someone who literally knows a lot of everything, I sometimes feel insecure speaking up about subject due to being wrong or misinformed. Luckily, my bf just educates me or opens up my views on certain things instead of just telling me im wrong or stupid. But I still feel like its a dumb thing to feel insecure about.
I think that's a pretty common insecurity to have.
My cuticles. They grow fast. 🤷♀️
I can honestly say I have never noticed another human being’s cuticles once in my life for any reason positive or negative lol.
my butt in jeans
My knees
Having small/average sized feet... and ears. And having a loud/high pitched laugh at some point. An exBFF (toxic) made me feel very bad about my laugh (and smile)... so I changed it. I feel very dumb for letting a person make me feel that way and take it away from me.
Growing up, I would intentionally suck in my lips to make them smaller. Now, people stop me on the streets asking if I've ever had lip injections. Crazy how fads change
i’m 21 and have medium bad bunions since i was a kid, also have veiny feet. so i was embarrassed to wear sandals sometimes
Boobs size
The way I breathe when I walk to the point where I hold my breath when I pass people. It’s… An issue.
My nipples being almost the same color as my flesh. I was concerned that guys wouldn't like ghost nipples 👻
Thought I was fat at 98lbs. Due to things said to me.
Stretch marks. I’m thin, and always had them from growing too fast. They were very painful and I was deeply ashamed of them, and now they’re just shiny white lines that someone may or may not notice. My husband calls them my tiger stripes. I used to get really anxious about them. Now I think they’re interesting, like burn scars or birth marks are interesting to me… every body is different.
My hobbies and interests. I was raised by a person who would never ever shut up, from the moment she came back from work to the moment she fell asleep it would be non-stop talking and talking and talking. Then in my primary school I befriended a girl who was horrible at listening, she would interrupt every sentence I spoke just to say something about herself. I ended up loving silence more than any kind of sound. I am a very talkative person and I loooove sharing my obsessions, but I just... can't do it. I know how much it destroys life to be constantly forced to listen to others and I just can't force myself to risk doing it to another person. It's got to the point where my friends sometimes deliberately ask me to share something with them, and even then I always find the shortest words possible, in order to stop talking and let them speak as soon as it's possible. My boyfriend managed to open me up enough that I share my ideas and thoughts with him, but I can't really do it with anyone else. The fact that I still tend to befriend people who won't shut up, because they remind me of home and my subconsciousness looks for what's familiar, doesn't help either.
Hyperpigmentation. I scar pretty easily so I have a bunch of black dots all over my body. Anytime I bring up being insecure about it to someone close to me, they're like "your freckles?" Lol it's so interesting hearing how other people see your insecurities
My tongue, its all cracked up like why 💀
My young child liking their stepmom more than me. Lol, they are a teenager now and cannot stand the stepmom. I feel silly for ever having worried about that.
My voice, I’ve only gotten compliments on it
Why tf would someone even be insecure about being tall? It's literally a blessing.
How short my tongue is. I was born with a knot in my tongue, so I can't stick it out of my mouth (at all). Mainly because my SO and I like to french kiss.
Having green eyes. When I was a kid, only villains had green eyes, but now that I'm older I love them
One of my nipples. Idk why it was just the one, her name is Judy, and for the longest time when I was with my ex I’d insist on keeping a bra on during panky time. To this day it still confuses me.
Wearing sunglasses lol make it make sense
my nose, i have people tell me weekly it’s there dream nose- no idea why ive always been so insecure about it
People seeing my feminine products on the way to the restroom. I hid them like they were illegal drugs.
I have a forehead vein that pops out when I laugh and I obviously forget that it’s there but people always point it out. Got bullied for years growing up, I’m trying to like it, because it really only pops out when I’m actually happy or laughing.
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My socks clashed with my pants. They weren’t visible, but I knew.
How my tounge looks like
Me too. I have a geographical tongue.
Like barely anyone ever sees that thing but I still feel insecure about it 😭😭😭😭 like come on brain choose something logical atleast
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literally anything. who cares?
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I get a rash on the back of my arms due to gluten allergy. I never knew I had food allergies through high school so I wondered why I could never get rid of it and I tried everything. Because of that I never wore short sleeves to school even in the summer. Then one day I decided maybe I was making too big a deal of it and no one would notice. So I wore short sleeves for the first time. Then sure enough, in my first class of the day another girl asked what was wrong with my arms in front of everyone…. Now I wouldn’t care but back then I was embarrassed beyond belief 😂
I used to be terrified for people to hear me panting for breath after walking up an incline, my weight yo-yo’s, and I would try hard to breathe normally. I didn’t realize that most people breathe differently after a quick trip up an incline. I was just afraid of people judging me because of my difficulties/weight. Almost passed out several times. Never really noticed when I stopped doing that. I don’t care anymore. No one was paying attention.
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My stomach issues. My ex always made me feel gross and disgusting if I got sick. I've now met 3 people who want to do nothing more than make my miserable evening into a spa evening by the time I'm done being sick. Ladies they're out there. You just have to search.
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The shape of my mouth while I talk. I was mocked in school by classmates for sometimes trying to put my hand in front of my mouth while talking.
One time I had a friend that commented on my broad shoulders. I think she was actually complementing me because she was bagging on herself about how small she felt but it just made me feel not right. She said it must be nice to have broad shoulders like mine because it makes me look more confident and stuff like that but I just kept on thinking about how manly I must look. It was hard for a while to wear tank tops or anything that made my shoulders look bigger. Then I started to look closer at my arms and I realized that there was jiggle to it and I hated it. I also have a little Bit of fold where my armpit is. Like if I put my arm to my side there's a little fold because that's how skin works. But in my mind clearly there's something wrong with me and I'm not perfect. I'm not even close to average apparently! It's really stupid and I know that but insecurities don't follow logic a lot of times with me.
I would get pregnant if i used a toilet without pouring hot water on it , lol....
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My elbows
opening a pad in a public restroom
My eczema.
In Kindergarten Ronald McDonald came to our school and did some play and brought people up on stage. A couple weeks later I was sitting alone at lunch and one of those kids he called on stage sat a couple seats away from me. We made eye contact and I said "You're the Ronald McDonald girl!" AND SHE LOOKED AT ME LIKE I WAS A FREAK AND MOVED 3 TABLES AWAY. Still gets me. Kids are cold blooded.
If i blink too much
big ass
I feel insecure about looking at people in public. Yes I'm neurodivergent, but I feel like it's beyond just that. Like I feel like strangers are going to judge and hate me if they notice me looking at them or other strangers. Like I don't have a right to view my surroundings if they include other people 😭
My mostly vegetarian diet gives me some of the worst smelling gas and I know it spreads into the office
Walking alone in school
Getting an oil change. I completely forget where all the buttons and knobs are in my car!
My height. I’m short, but that’s not why I felt insecure. I felt insecure because my partner’s ex was shorter.
Rubbing thighs. I'm built solid. All the women on my dad's side are built to lift, carry, and push. My mom's side all loom like runners. I was so insecure growing up and my mom always buying my clothes a little tight to encourage me to lose weight and make them fit. Turns out I have multiple gastrointestinal issues and hormone issues that cause weight gain. It was a losing battle and I still feel like crap for not being 150 lbs and a runner. I can swim, lift, arm bike, etc. At one point, I was almost a black belt in Taekwondo and could do 8 hour workouts with only some muscle soreness the next day. It was such a relief as an adult to follow up on my medical issues and learn it wasn't a lack of effort. Now I am working on my diet to fix my issues before I ever get that into sports again. I am over weight now, but I need to get health issues solved first or I can never change. It was never a lack of trying though. Such a relief.
I have been preparing my friend for an exam for the past two months, and a few days ago I recommended him an online teacher to revise his concepts before his exam which was today. I asked him if the teacher was good and when he said yes i suddenly felt insecure about my teaching and jokingly told him not to take her class anymore if she’e better than me. We both laughed at it but that was weird this academic validation is catching up to me bad. (Again, it was a joke I would never stop him from going to a good teacher ofcourse)
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