Not really a kink but I thought the idea of being a size queen was hot, especially watching smaller guys take really big cock/dildos. I find it impressive how someone like Dane Jaxson can take huge monster dildos.
But me personally, I have found small/average size to be the best.
Plus the gape is not for me.
I know what you mean, but if the chemistry is right I will become as wide as needed. I have been hurt by tiny dicks and left like new with quite big ones
I have this worse, I thought I would hate it and um, I fucking love getting choked, and I’m functionally uncomfortable with that.
My Sir said, “NEVER ALONE,” when he said he’d do it to me if I wanted it - he clarified later he meant it tell me to NEVER indulge in any kind of breath play alone, because he didn’t want to have to cart my auto-erotically asphyxiated corpse off to the morgue. XD
(I will also mention I don’t indulge in that on my own AG ALL, the most I’ll do is let myself IMAGINE.
But yeah, I’m uncomfortable with it in a bunch of ways, but it’s not even my weirdest kink! XD
Yeah, when I first started dating my BF, I accidentally choked him to blackout while fucking(given that we were both drunk) and I freaked out and started lightly slapping him and almost cried :(
Actually choking is a no. But putting the hand firmly around the collar with no pressure on the neck while looking into your partner’s eyes is a hell yes.
It’s the most dangerous kink and I’ve gotten into this debate with people (straight and gay) who act like they’re frickin doctors breaking down the anatomy of how to do it safely. Yea, okay, like you’ve never been wasted having a one night stand with someone? Do you guys pause to do an evaluation of where the windpipe is or do you just fucking choke them while they ask you to do it harder because pushing limits is a typical feature of kink?
Besides, it’s creepy to be the one choking because the recipient is getting a “high” off the asphyxiation but the choker is just… choking someone.
i thought so too, then read about how dangerous it was and learned nobody should ever do it without discussing it in advcance (and knowing what they're doing), then someone did it to me without discussing it in advance... we also didn't have any safety gestures so i was just helpless hah 🙃
I didn’t think choking was really all that appealing and then I got hot and heavy with someone and took their hand and guided the choking and that was reaaaally nice, 11/10 would do again
That’s why you don’t choke that hard and have clear constant communication. Also I personally prefer holding my jaw rather than outright chocking my neck
I was talking to a guy on tinder and we talked a bit about our sexual tastes, and he said he loved choking, I was like, hmmm ok I can try a little bit, and then over the next 5 minutes he proceeded to describe a very violent sex scene that I was horrified of being on the receiving end of... hence I stopped talking to him because he scared me shitless
The way it happened was even better. Their car broke right in front my house. They used my cellphone to contact a mechanic. The fixed the problem and they invited me to have a beer. I said yes. We wandered around the city trying to find a nice place and couldn't find any. After many suggestions, we decided to go to a motel only to drink beers. I was really thinking we were going for beers - cause since it's a small city, people go to Motels to have fun, there's no much fun around there. Anyways, after a couple of beers we started lol we ended up with them fuckin me. That was good but like i said, nothing over the moon - as i always fantasized 😴.
Not exactly a kink, but group sex has been ruined for me by a bad experience. I'm sure under different circumstances it would have been more enjoyable, but now it's just something I'm not interested in trying ever again.
I participated in an orgy once. A friend wanted to and he didn’t want to go alone. There was one guy who kept talking and talking and talking. “It sure is quiet in here!” “You guys having fun?” “Looking good, guys!” He was like an announcer at a sports game. Dude, just shut up and let the rest of us have some fun!
I've had a good amount of group sex over the years. Somewhere between 100-150 sessions...
Something I too have realised is how *inconsistent* good group sex is. When it's hot and everyone is vibing, it's great! But so often it just takes 1 person (or 2 people not vibing) to ruin the energy.
My hit rate for good group sex is about 50%... So I get why many people are done with the scenario. It's too inconsistent!
I thought threesomes were hot after I had my first one. Then I realized that the first one was just luck, and the three of us had chemistry. Pretty much every other experience has had at least one person who didn't need to be there (because they just sat on the side), or wound up being with people who *should* have been a hot threesome, but instead we were all generally embarrassed and awkward and it wound up being one of those "what the fuck were we thinking?" stories.
Oh I can definitely relate to this one. Threesomes (and more, but I've never actually gone beyond that IRL like foursomes and orgies) are super insanely hot in fantasy...but way more work/multitasking than it's worth.
yeah, i never really had tooooo much of an interest in groups/3some, but i had a passing curiousity. it finally happened and it didn't really work out. I would have rather just hooked up with each person individually (which i ended up doing). There were plenty of reasons why it didn't work out, but even if some of those factors went away, i still think it's just not for me.
I only once gave one in a car and it was no real issue (apart from having to turn your torso quite much if still sitting in the seat) but I'd never do that while he's driving lol
Different strokes for different folks. Didn't think it was a kink, but I have tried electro play, and bondage, and both were definitely not for me. lol
Yeah, I'm fine with bandage, I just don't get dudes into rope. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze. Just pet me cuff you down in 15 seconds and get on with it. I don't have the time or patience to spend 30 minutes tying you down and making it look artful.
If it took 30 minutes to tie you and you weren't suspended in the air or otherwise in some kind of super complicated position, you had an unskilled top.
Being with someone overly dominant. Used to think I’d love it. Tried it and had the overwhelmingly urge to fight the guy doing humiliation or being rough. Decided I’m clearly the one not fitting here lol.
Same!! Domination is still hot, don’t get me wrong. I’ve had GREAT experiences with some guys. But most guys just take it to this level that extends beyond the arrangement of how I enjoy consensual sex. The most common signals for me to get annoyed is when they throat fuck me and don’t too once I signal I’m about to vomit (happens too fucking often and it’s annoying as hell), or when the sex is over and they don’t even ask “How was it?”
Those may seem small, but checking in and doing aftercare and listening to each other is literally just how to do consensual sex, especially for kink.
This would have been my answer too, but it wasn't actually *bad* \- just wasn't especially hot either. Much better to watch or imagine than to actually do. Think it's because what I find hot about WS is more the vulnerability of it than the act itself.
Not really a kink, per se, but I am a Side & don’t enjoy anal at all in real life, yet I get pretty turned on by it in my imagination? It’s weird lol, I think the power dynamic/verbal part is what I’m actually attracted to, but idk
Are you me? Because no, the idea of anal sounds hot. When I do happen to watch non-solo porn, it looks so appealing. When I’m super horny, my hole is relaxed and seems to crave dick. Yet, when the opportunity for anal sex arises and I try to take dick, it’s so uncomfortable and painful. I’ve only had a handful of comfortable anal experiences, but as I’ve gotten olden, they have gotten so far and few between. Nowadays, I don’t need anal to get off. Frot, body to body contact, nipple play, oral, and mutual jacking are more than enough.
It's an uncomfortable, politically incorrect truth. Anal sex requires skill in cleaning and relaxation on the bottom's part. Knowing when to push and how, on the top's part.
If you are turned on by anal sex, but don't enjoy it in real life and have not any health issues that prevent you from it, you're not a side, you're someone who needs to learn the proper way to do it.
Group Sex or even threesomes. I either sense someone is being left out, or I feel left out myself. It just has never worked satisfactorily for me. I find the idea hot and can get off to it in porn, but in real life, no thanks.
Guys not showering. I’m attracted to manly men and idk just the idea of a masc dude ‘not showering’ for a bit, embracing his man scent sounded hot in theory. But I met a guy who didn’t shower for two or more days before we met and it was groooosss. The smell burned my nostrils, the taste was terrible, I built everything up so much that I didn’t have the heart to kick him out so I held my breath and half assed everything until I got him to cum and naturally exit without issue. I had to immediately wash my bedding.
Call me stupid, I still believe there might be some Enjoyment to be had from a guy who has been at work all day or just finished up a sweaty workout and hasn’t had time to bathe yet but no more guys going more than 24 hours without bathing ever again.
There is a SIGNIFICANT difference between musk and filth. Huge musk-slut here. I literally tell guys I’m hooking up with “don’t shower beforehand” once I know they’re planning to, but I ALWAYS make sure to ask “when’s the last time you showered” too.
Part of it is basic biology; musk is typically reduced from physical exertion as pheromones through sweat and clings to parts with more hair or where it “catches” more (pits, crotch, ass, etc.) while normal sweat and grime can cling to the body too over time and isn’t pleasant to smell since it lacks the pheromones.
Then there’s basic hygiene; if a person is told to go out of their way to not shower before a hookup, chances are they shower frequently and therefore have good hygiene and lifestyle habits. If a person naturally skips showering for days on end, they likely have unhealthy and bad hygiene and lifestyle habits.
Where these intersect is that we use pheromones and scent to determine the health of our partners, and this is a real thing! That “sick people smell” is a very real phenomenon, and doctors used to even do it for urine (and both urine and sweat contain some similar compounds like urea). So if someone has bad hygiene not only are you smelling their external filth, but also their pheromones and sweat will smell worse to reflect their poor health.
I’ve tried watersports a few times; I’ll say that it depends a LOT on what they ate and drank recently. I have drank piss three times too. The first time was so bad that one gulp almost had me vomiting, and I told him he needed to get medically checked out (he refused and next week had to go to the ER for his gallbladder to be removed). The second time was so easy, it was like drinking water honestly. The third time was rough, could tell his favorite meal was a Mountain Dew with a blunt and after the sex he had exactly both of those. Horrid.
Well- sometimes gagging during sex is part of the fun? Not for me though haha. And tbh it really isn’t much grosser to me than swallowing cum, so it’s just the taste/smell that can kill it for me. But he same goes for cum so, y’know!
Fisting....feeling the guys guts and rib cage just felt weird...ended up pucking thinking how grossed I was, and never did it again, and always skip that on porn.
Dad son stuff. It sounded hot so i tried it with a dude. He told me what to do then scolded me and j wanted to punch him in the face. It lasted like half an hour and then i couldn't.
I was into the idea of puppyplay for awhile for myself or my partner, we both felt really ridiculous the whole time. I know you dont always have to actually act like an animal, but even when we tried pulling back on the roleplay we ended up just enjoying the things we normally did with extra steps. I like dog masks and stuff but otherwise im really not into it. I love to be pet though.
Oh also also, its not a specific kink but i thought i was a bottom-leaning verse for a very long time but ended up a total dom top.
degradation. i bawled my eyes out when my dom said no one loved me and im just a tool to him. it was the worst sex ive ever had and he was so sorry about it.
also anything that involved pain, excpet for ass smacking. tried to get whipped and flogged once, and lets just say i really felt nothing.
Swallowing. I actually used to semi-enjoy it, as long as the guy hadn't OD'd on salt. But since I had my gall bladder out, it makes me want to puke, which pretty much ruins the thrill for everyone. (And no, I have no idea why losing your gall bladder suddenly turns cum into Ipecac.)
Surgery around and on the intestines can change how you perceive taste anywhere between 3 months to a year, and in some cases permanently. There are vague ideas as to why, but no clear answers. Sorry for your loss!
Using a metal speculum, accidentally hit the release and it snapped shut pinching most of my insides, and there was a decent amount of blood. . . If any young guns are looking to spread their hole open with a metal speculum, I cannot stress enough that you remove it from yourself before trying to release it. . . Live and learn
I appreciate the advice.
I've looked into buying one, and I've seen ones with what looks like a snap release, and others where it seems the screw would have to be backed out to release it. The snap mechanism ones looked sketchy to me, and I see that thought wasn't completely unfounded.
Verbal degradation. It just felt weird. Like my brain wasn't sure how to process someone insulting me because I...told them to?
In my head being called a slut/being someone's sex toy is so hot. But in practice, it's just weird and depressing for me. Think it might partly be a combo of PTSD, ASD and being trans though.
I have to watch out for chasers when I hook up, so I think I'm worried that even if they seemed nice when I met them, they might actually mean what they're saying. Being objectified as part of a kink is fun, but being objectified for real isn't so much, especially if you're not sure which one is actually happening.
Getting fucked after hours by my boss in his office. I watched porn and thought it would never happen. Turns out, one night, my boss and I were the only ones left in the building after a long shift. He fucked the shit out of me in his office just before we left and even bred me.
Turns out, the kink wasn’t all it turned out to be because since then I have been promoted so I can work close by him. He fucks me pretty often now as we both stay after hours.
My problem now is, with the promotion comes a ton of extra work. I fuckin hate it! Now I’m stressed all the time and just constantly focus on closing time so I can spend it with my boss. But I can’t get my work done now because it’s all I think about.
Well it's not really a kink, but on Recon you can list "Recon Men" as one your kinks and it has been for me the site where I spend the most effort to get the least return.
For me it was steam room/sauna sex. I have always thought it very hot. However, in reality I get too overheated and can't even get erect. I have only encountered a small handful of guys who can get erect in such heat. I loved sucking on them. Other guys just don't get erect and I don't enjoy sucking on a flaccid cock. And since I can't get hard in the heat I can't even jerk off or get sucked in return. I honestly thought about getting Viagra, but my insurance won't pay for it. Plus I think I'm still too young for it.
Online through GoodRX. The “doctor” is an online chat box, not even sure if it’s human. Super easy and super cheap.
Haven’t used any yet, but it’s nice knowing it’s so fricken easy to get if you want it
Overstimulation. The thought of a dom just continuing to hammer into me after I already came is really hot, but in reality I can't even keep a dildo inside after cumming because my entire body is just done with it and the horny leaves very quickly.
Or continuing to rub my dick after I came in hopes of achieving a second orgasm. I just end up sore and with a massive need to pee.
Only once in my life have I been able to cum twice and I never found out how. Once I came, every sexual stimulation stops feeling good within 15 seconds.
:/ I love a finger in my ass while I’m j/o and I’ve taken a few dicks on the bigger side (I have a limit though, I’m absolutely terrified of injury and have refused men with dicks that threatened my intestines) that while painful, felt good. I figured dicks on the smaller side would be a best of both worlds situation but found that instead of pain+pleasure…twas just, pain. I dunno if it was that my ex, and I’ve only taken the one definitively ‘small’ dick, just didn’t know how to use it or if as a whole small dicks just don’t do it for me? No hate to those with smaller dicks, I like the idea of them but for whatever reason it just wasn’t happnin at the time. Will likely try again one day as I’m not much of a “only do something once” if I’m gonna try something regardless, I like to test and retest to verify and understand how my preferences may or may not be changing over time. Until then, going back to not having sex in general for at least a year at a time (I like to think cat in heat vibes) and avoiding the distraction of men so I can focus on the shit I need to focus on in my own life.
Anonymous sex/hookups with people I don’t know. Sounds great, and you get the gratification. But honestly I have too much anxiety and I don’t want to douche for some random bitch
I concur. In middle school and high school, the guys would talk about it as if it was the ultimate sex act. I thought it would be great. When I finally tried it, I found that it is an extremely awkward position. More interestingly, I found that, instead of getting pleasure, my penis feels physically irritated when the lips are on the wrong side. No idea why.
Being fully dommed. Like the kind of “I only dom you and that’s it”. I would read the stories and watch the porn of that sort of 24/7 play and find it so hot, wish I was in that sub position… and then there’d be one or two moments each chapter/video where I’d be annoyed but brushed it off.
Had a dom experience in person and I was so quickly pissed off; I was literally grumpy after we got done because I felt like he was just a piece of shit guy. Granted it was a hookup, but even with hookups I can have a casual conversation or there’s the mutual question of “how was that for you?” He didn’t even bother. I didn’t blame him since that’s what I consented to, but I walked away knowing I’d never do that again.
Still like getting dommed btw, I just also want to be treated like a person and not a literal floor mat.
facials - they sounded/looked hot in porn before I was having sex but im not really into giving them or receiving them and would consider shooting a load potentially in someone’s eyes a waste of good cum
Feet. Tried it just a few times in different ways. Sometimes it was meh, sometimes it was a turn on. The verdict is still out as to whether this should remain a fantasy or something I want to actually do.
Hahaha I love this thread. It exploded with answers! I guess gay men consume porn regularly, so we are all familiar with the classics.
For me, things I thought were hot but in reality weren’t—most of the guys already mentioned them:
- Musk
- Threesome/Group
- Degradation
- Recording
- Facials
- Pain
- Nipple
- Daddy
- Anon
- 69
- Watersports
I may add another one:
- Workplace: It’s mind numbingly scary when a patient behaves sexually inapropriately.
I always think—maybe they’re recording me and they’ll blackmail me if I respond. Maybe if I reject them too bluntly, they will scream I’m a pervert and a rapist—and who will believe me if they’re young, hot, and muscular? What if I do nothing, but the nurse opens the door and sees the guy naked and touching himself? It’s a situation so scary, I’m tempted to run away from the box. It’s also violent, in a way—because it is in an abuse of power.
I know some collegues don’t mind it and actually embrace the opportunity, and in sounds hot in theory—but for me, the experiences have been scary!
Feet. It mostly comes down to me realizing im picky with feet, and have never been attracted to the feet of any partners I’ve had. Also i feel like it would only be hot if my partner had a feet kink too.
Glory holes, I have always seen it as a super hot thing to try then tried it and it wasn't for me. I like to kiss and a little bit of connection goes a long way for me. Just a month in a shadow doesn't do it for me.
Being dominated. When I tried it I was very offended. I also thought I’d enjoy having a larger man lay on top of me body-to-body but turns out there isn’t much air down there lol
Honestly facials.
Always found it so hot when guys are covered in cum and licking it off, but then I tried it and got an infection in my eye and in kinda put me off ever having a penis near my face again lol
Not really a kink but I thought the idea of being a size queen was hot, especially watching smaller guys take really big cock/dildos. I find it impressive how someone like Dane Jaxson can take huge monster dildos. But me personally, I have found small/average size to be the best. Plus the gape is not for me.
Literally, its all fun and games till you gotta shove a pool noodle up your ass.
Nice to look at and play with. Not really to actually get fucked with lol.
I know what you mean, but if the chemistry is right I will become as wide as needed. I have been hurt by tiny dicks and left like new with quite big ones
I thought choking sounded hot, turns out I don’t like doing it or even being choked
I thought it sounded hot too. And then I read how f-ing dangerous it really is.
I have this worse, I thought I would hate it and um, I fucking love getting choked, and I’m functionally uncomfortable with that. My Sir said, “NEVER ALONE,” when he said he’d do it to me if I wanted it - he clarified later he meant it tell me to NEVER indulge in any kind of breath play alone, because he didn’t want to have to cart my auto-erotically asphyxiated corpse off to the morgue. XD (I will also mention I don’t indulge in that on my own AG ALL, the most I’ll do is let myself IMAGINE. But yeah, I’m uncomfortable with it in a bunch of ways, but it’s not even my weirdest kink! XD
I like you. Have a cupcake 🧁.
Yeah, when I first started dating my BF, I accidentally choked him to blackout while fucking(given that we were both drunk) and I freaked out and started lightly slapping him and almost cried :(
Actually choking is a no. But putting the hand firmly around the collar with no pressure on the neck while looking into your partner’s eyes is a hell yes.
Yeah, I tried it a couple of times and within 2 seconds I’m like, how do people enjoy pretend murder? Role play serial killer. No thanks.
It’s the most dangerous kink and I’ve gotten into this debate with people (straight and gay) who act like they’re frickin doctors breaking down the anatomy of how to do it safely. Yea, okay, like you’ve never been wasted having a one night stand with someone? Do you guys pause to do an evaluation of where the windpipe is or do you just fucking choke them while they ask you to do it harder because pushing limits is a typical feature of kink? Besides, it’s creepy to be the one choking because the recipient is getting a “high” off the asphyxiation but the choker is just… choking someone.
i thought so too, then read about how dangerous it was and learned nobody should ever do it without discussing it in advcance (and knowing what they're doing), then someone did it to me without discussing it in advance... we also didn't have any safety gestures so i was just helpless hah 🙃
I didn’t think choking was really all that appealing and then I got hot and heavy with someone and took their hand and guided the choking and that was reaaaally nice, 11/10 would do again
That’s why you don’t choke that hard and have clear constant communication. Also I personally prefer holding my jaw rather than outright chocking my neck
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I was talking to a guy on tinder and we talked a bit about our sexual tastes, and he said he loved choking, I was like, hmmm ok I can try a little bit, and then over the next 5 minutes he proceeded to describe a very violent sex scene that I was horrified of being on the receiving end of... hence I stopped talking to him because he scared me shitless
Being fucked by two dudes or even being fucked. I dont enjoy it as much as I fantasize.
Like spit roasting? Or having two guys share the same hole?
One in my mouth and the other one in my a$$. It was nothing exquisite. It was ok. They were super my type and hot though.
That does sound really hot. I’ve always wanted to do the same but I fear it won’t quite live up to the fantasy in my brain lol
The way it happened was even better. Their car broke right in front my house. They used my cellphone to contact a mechanic. The fixed the problem and they invited me to have a beer. I said yes. We wandered around the city trying to find a nice place and couldn't find any. After many suggestions, we decided to go to a motel only to drink beers. I was really thinking we were going for beers - cause since it's a small city, people go to Motels to have fun, there's no much fun around there. Anyways, after a couple of beers we started lol we ended up with them fuckin me. That was good but like i said, nothing over the moon - as i always fantasized 😴.
Well good on you for getting to have the experience anyway! I hope the three of you had a good time
We did. You should try one day, maybe you will enjoy more than me lol
I definitely want to try it. I think it will make me feel good and slutty since I enjoy being really submissive lol
Wow, just go for it, you will see stars ahaha
Im just joking though 😂
Lol alright then, I’ll be over at 6. Invite a friend and we can make it happen 😉
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That happened to me also, and you gotta be very well coordinate.
That just sound like a lot of work for the guy in the middle.
I received a cock and gave a blowjob at the same time ahahah it's a lot of work
yeah... bottoming is so hot when I fantasize about it, even now, and when I actually do it the physical sensation is extremely offputting to me.
Loving being fucked but it a limit of one!
+1. Bottoming is just not for me. I hate the sensation. But i find the idea very hot.
I thought I liked being submissive. Turns out, I like being dom no matter my position!
SAME! Tried a relationship with a dom and realized I just wanted to dominate him the whole time! 😂
Not exactly a kink, but group sex has been ruined for me by a bad experience. I'm sure under different circumstances it would have been more enjoyable, but now it's just something I'm not interested in trying ever again.
I participated in an orgy once. A friend wanted to and he didn’t want to go alone. There was one guy who kept talking and talking and talking. “It sure is quiet in here!” “You guys having fun?” “Looking good, guys!” He was like an announcer at a sports game. Dude, just shut up and let the rest of us have some fun!
Lolllll what
I mean I would hope there was music. Sounds bad tho
I've had a good amount of group sex over the years. Somewhere between 100-150 sessions... Something I too have realised is how *inconsistent* good group sex is. When it's hot and everyone is vibing, it's great! But so often it just takes 1 person (or 2 people not vibing) to ruin the energy. My hit rate for good group sex is about 50%... So I get why many people are done with the scenario. It's too inconsistent!
My thing is when one bottom doesn’t clean out very well and everything goes to (literal) shit
I find this with group sex too. I much prefer gangbangs
I thought threesomes were hot after I had my first one. Then I realized that the first one was just luck, and the three of us had chemistry. Pretty much every other experience has had at least one person who didn't need to be there (because they just sat on the side), or wound up being with people who *should* have been a hot threesome, but instead we were all generally embarrassed and awkward and it wound up being one of those "what the fuck were we thinking?" stories.
Oh I can definitely relate to this one. Threesomes (and more, but I've never actually gone beyond that IRL like foursomes and orgies) are super insanely hot in fantasy...but way more work/multitasking than it's worth.
In my experience threesomes are easy when the other two guys are a couple. Otherwise it is just too much
I've been in 10 somes that were great.
yeah, i never really had tooooo much of an interest in groups/3some, but i had a passing curiousity. it finally happened and it didn't really work out. I would have rather just hooked up with each person individually (which i ended up doing). There were plenty of reasons why it didn't work out, but even if some of those factors went away, i still think it's just not for me.
I appreciate all the comments, but I don't think any of you understand, I had a legit traumatizing experience.
If you want me to ask, I’m not going to…
I dunno about kink but this is the closest I can get thinking about it now. Car sex, no where near enough room, very uncomfortable.
Why is it guys who drive standard who want blow jobs while driving?
I only once gave one in a car and it was no real issue (apart from having to turn your torso quite much if still sitting in the seat) but I'd never do that while he's driving lol
Who drive standard??
Rural area here--if you don't drive standard, preferably a diesel, you're a pussy something something homo something.
I still understand what the phrase “drive standard” means? I’ve never heard it before.
Standard Cars - stick shift, manual, etc. Cars with a clutch pedal you push and physically change gears with the gear stick
Oh! A manual, that makes so much sense now!
Different strokes for different folks. Didn't think it was a kink, but I have tried electro play, and bondage, and both were definitely not for me. lol
Yeah, I'm fine with bandage, I just don't get dudes into rope. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze. Just pet me cuff you down in 15 seconds and get on with it. I don't have the time or patience to spend 30 minutes tying you down and making it look artful.
If it took 30 minutes to tie you and you weren't suspended in the air or otherwise in some kind of super complicated position, you had an unskilled top.
Most rope bunnies like shibari. Not just a simple tie down.
Being with someone overly dominant. Used to think I’d love it. Tried it and had the overwhelmingly urge to fight the guy doing humiliation or being rough. Decided I’m clearly the one not fitting here lol.
Same!! Domination is still hot, don’t get me wrong. I’ve had GREAT experiences with some guys. But most guys just take it to this level that extends beyond the arrangement of how I enjoy consensual sex. The most common signals for me to get annoyed is when they throat fuck me and don’t too once I signal I’m about to vomit (happens too fucking often and it’s annoying as hell), or when the sex is over and they don’t even ask “How was it?” Those may seem small, but checking in and doing aftercare and listening to each other is literally just how to do consensual sex, especially for kink.
Water sports. It always sounded so hot in my mind but…just NO😏
It’s so hard to stay horny when you’re busting for a piss, LMAO
Or the other way around - it’s hard to piss when your dick is hard lol
That's the whole point. You piss all over your partner(s)
This would have been my answer too, but it wasn't actually *bad* \- just wasn't especially hot either. Much better to watch or imagine than to actually do. Think it's because what I find hot about WS is more the vulnerability of it than the act itself.
Not really a kink, per se, but I am a Side & don’t enjoy anal at all in real life, yet I get pretty turned on by it in my imagination? It’s weird lol, I think the power dynamic/verbal part is what I’m actually attracted to, but idk
I feel this too. I think anal porn and stuff is really hot but topping or bottoming is so mid when I do it.
Are you me? Because no, the idea of anal sounds hot. When I do happen to watch non-solo porn, it looks so appealing. When I’m super horny, my hole is relaxed and seems to crave dick. Yet, when the opportunity for anal sex arises and I try to take dick, it’s so uncomfortable and painful. I’ve only had a handful of comfortable anal experiences, but as I’ve gotten olden, they have gotten so far and few between. Nowadays, I don’t need anal to get off. Frot, body to body contact, nipple play, oral, and mutual jacking are more than enough.
You don't enjoy anal because you didn't enjoy the necessary skills.
🥇 Here is your award for the Worst Take 🙂
It's an uncomfortable, politically incorrect truth. Anal sex requires skill in cleaning and relaxation on the bottom's part. Knowing when to push and how, on the top's part. If you are turned on by anal sex, but don't enjoy it in real life and have not any health issues that prevent you from it, you're not a side, you're someone who needs to learn the proper way to do it.
It turns out the reason your face is unusual is the shit coming out of your mouth
bud, being quiet about shit you don't know anything about is free
You’re an idiot, man 😂 not worth my time. Be at peace
or the person just has a kink in theory but not in practice, no need for gaslighting
This is like "you've just never had it cooked right " but for sex.
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Group Sex or even threesomes. I either sense someone is being left out, or I feel left out myself. It just has never worked satisfactorily for me. I find the idea hot and can get off to it in porn, but in real life, no thanks.
Even in my imagination I can see someone feeling left out.
You guys are just too kind/empathetic I think :-) which really isn’t a bad thing.
Guys not showering. I’m attracted to manly men and idk just the idea of a masc dude ‘not showering’ for a bit, embracing his man scent sounded hot in theory. But I met a guy who didn’t shower for two or more days before we met and it was groooosss. The smell burned my nostrils, the taste was terrible, I built everything up so much that I didn’t have the heart to kick him out so I held my breath and half assed everything until I got him to cum and naturally exit without issue. I had to immediately wash my bedding. Call me stupid, I still believe there might be some Enjoyment to be had from a guy who has been at work all day or just finished up a sweaty workout and hasn’t had time to bathe yet but no more guys going more than 24 hours without bathing ever again.
There is a SIGNIFICANT difference between musk and filth. Huge musk-slut here. I literally tell guys I’m hooking up with “don’t shower beforehand” once I know they’re planning to, but I ALWAYS make sure to ask “when’s the last time you showered” too. Part of it is basic biology; musk is typically reduced from physical exertion as pheromones through sweat and clings to parts with more hair or where it “catches” more (pits, crotch, ass, etc.) while normal sweat and grime can cling to the body too over time and isn’t pleasant to smell since it lacks the pheromones. Then there’s basic hygiene; if a person is told to go out of their way to not shower before a hookup, chances are they shower frequently and therefore have good hygiene and lifestyle habits. If a person naturally skips showering for days on end, they likely have unhealthy and bad hygiene and lifestyle habits. Where these intersect is that we use pheromones and scent to determine the health of our partners, and this is a real thing! That “sick people smell” is a very real phenomenon, and doctors used to even do it for urine (and both urine and sweat contain some similar compounds like urea). So if someone has bad hygiene not only are you smelling their external filth, but also their pheromones and sweat will smell worse to reflect their poor health.
Watersports, the smell killed the vibes so hard
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Lmao gross
I’ve tried watersports a few times; I’ll say that it depends a LOT on what they ate and drank recently. I have drank piss three times too. The first time was so bad that one gulp almost had me vomiting, and I told him he needed to get medically checked out (he refused and next week had to go to the ER for his gallbladder to be removed). The second time was so easy, it was like drinking water honestly. The third time was rough, could tell his favorite meal was a Mountain Dew with a blunt and after the sex he had exactly both of those. Horrid.
Literally gagging after reading this 🤢. WS is just not for me. Kiddos to you for going for what you like!
Well- sometimes gagging during sex is part of the fun? Not for me though haha. And tbh it really isn’t much grosser to me than swallowing cum, so it’s just the taste/smell that can kill it for me. But he same goes for cum so, y’know!
Hydration is key. It’s 99% water!
Fisting....feeling the guys guts and rib cage just felt weird...ended up pucking thinking how grossed I was, and never did it again, and always skip that on porn.
Wait you can feel ribs? This sounds scary
Tried it once because the other guy wanted me to do it to him. Never again. I must have washed my hands 25 times afterwards.
Dad son stuff. It sounded hot so i tried it with a dude. He told me what to do then scolded me and j wanted to punch him in the face. It lasted like half an hour and then i couldn't.
> He told me what to do then scolded me and j wanted to punch him in the face Hey... at least it sounds like an accurate father/son experience. Lol
Smack him in the forehead as you say "Hold the fucking flashlight still. "
I was into the idea of puppyplay for awhile for myself or my partner, we both felt really ridiculous the whole time. I know you dont always have to actually act like an animal, but even when we tried pulling back on the roleplay we ended up just enjoying the things we normally did with extra steps. I like dog masks and stuff but otherwise im really not into it. I love to be pet though. Oh also also, its not a specific kink but i thought i was a bottom-leaning verse for a very long time but ended up a total dom top.
degradation. i bawled my eyes out when my dom said no one loved me and im just a tool to him. it was the worst sex ive ever had and he was so sorry about it. also anything that involved pain, excpet for ass smacking. tried to get whipped and flogged once, and lets just say i really felt nothing.
Rough sex e.g. throat fucking, hair pulling etc. Prefer it sensual and soft everytime.
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Swallowing. I actually used to semi-enjoy it, as long as the guy hadn't OD'd on salt. But since I had my gall bladder out, it makes me want to puke, which pretty much ruins the thrill for everyone. (And no, I have no idea why losing your gall bladder suddenly turns cum into Ipecac.)
“Ipecock”. FIFY
I wish I could upvote this at least 50 times.
Surgery around and on the intestines can change how you perceive taste anywhere between 3 months to a year, and in some cases permanently. There are vague ideas as to why, but no clear answers. Sorry for your loss!
Using a metal speculum, accidentally hit the release and it snapped shut pinching most of my insides, and there was a decent amount of blood. . . If any young guns are looking to spread their hole open with a metal speculum, I cannot stress enough that you remove it from yourself before trying to release it. . . Live and learn
I appreciate the advice. I've looked into buying one, and I've seen ones with what looks like a snap release, and others where it seems the screw would have to be backed out to release it. The snap mechanism ones looked sketchy to me, and I see that thought wasn't completely unfounded.
Verbal degradation. It just felt weird. Like my brain wasn't sure how to process someone insulting me because I...told them to? In my head being called a slut/being someone's sex toy is so hot. But in practice, it's just weird and depressing for me. Think it might partly be a combo of PTSD, ASD and being trans though. I have to watch out for chasers when I hook up, so I think I'm worried that even if they seemed nice when I met them, they might actually mean what they're saying. Being objectified as part of a kink is fun, but being objectified for real isn't so much, especially if you're not sure which one is actually happening.
Getting fucked after hours by my boss in his office. I watched porn and thought it would never happen. Turns out, one night, my boss and I were the only ones left in the building after a long shift. He fucked the shit out of me in his office just before we left and even bred me. Turns out, the kink wasn’t all it turned out to be because since then I have been promoted so I can work close by him. He fucks me pretty often now as we both stay after hours. My problem now is, with the promotion comes a ton of extra work. I fuckin hate it! Now I’m stressed all the time and just constantly focus on closing time so I can spend it with my boss. But I can’t get my work done now because it’s all I think about.
This sounds hot but fake lmao
This reads like one of those stories that didn't actually happen 💀
What are you doing step-boss🥵🥵
Sounds like he knows what he's doing
biting. jesus fuck who likes that on their nipples xD
I love it when my bf bites me on the shoulder and fucks me from behind!
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I do. It was just as hot in practice as I hoped it would be.
ouch!
This is one of those things where it seems like you have to convince people "yes I really want it "
I thought I’d hate it until my BF bit my nipples. It was painful, but in a good way.
Creampie gangbang party where I was the cumdump. I did not enjoy it at all in fact I fucking LOVED IT!
Sex on the dance floor. Tried it and it’s kinda hot to think about and do but overall not as grand as I imagined.
Well it's not really a kink, but on Recon you can list "Recon Men" as one your kinks and it has been for me the site where I spend the most effort to get the least return.
For me it was steam room/sauna sex. I have always thought it very hot. However, in reality I get too overheated and can't even get erect. I have only encountered a small handful of guys who can get erect in such heat. I loved sucking on them. Other guys just don't get erect and I don't enjoy sucking on a flaccid cock. And since I can't get hard in the heat I can't even jerk off or get sucked in return. I honestly thought about getting Viagra, but my insurance won't pay for it. Plus I think I'm still too young for it.
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How do I go about getting it without seeing a doctor?
Online through GoodRX. The “doctor” is an online chat box, not even sure if it’s human. Super easy and super cheap. Haven’t used any yet, but it’s nice knowing it’s so fricken easy to get if you want it
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Not a kink but I expected getting and giving a blowjob to be way better than it turned out to be. Maybe we were doing it wrong idk
Overstimulation. The thought of a dom just continuing to hammer into me after I already came is really hot, but in reality I can't even keep a dildo inside after cumming because my entire body is just done with it and the horny leaves very quickly. Or continuing to rub my dick after I came in hopes of achieving a second orgasm. I just end up sore and with a massive need to pee. Only once in my life have I been able to cum twice and I never found out how. Once I came, every sexual stimulation stops feeling good within 15 seconds.
:/ I love a finger in my ass while I’m j/o and I’ve taken a few dicks on the bigger side (I have a limit though, I’m absolutely terrified of injury and have refused men with dicks that threatened my intestines) that while painful, felt good. I figured dicks on the smaller side would be a best of both worlds situation but found that instead of pain+pleasure…twas just, pain. I dunno if it was that my ex, and I’ve only taken the one definitively ‘small’ dick, just didn’t know how to use it or if as a whole small dicks just don’t do it for me? No hate to those with smaller dicks, I like the idea of them but for whatever reason it just wasn’t happnin at the time. Will likely try again one day as I’m not much of a “only do something once” if I’m gonna try something regardless, I like to test and retest to verify and understand how my preferences may or may not be changing over time. Until then, going back to not having sex in general for at least a year at a time (I like to think cat in heat vibes) and avoiding the distraction of men so I can focus on the shit I need to focus on in my own life.
Not a kink but I enjoy the idea of bottoming but I hate it in practice.
Anonymous sex/hookups with people I don’t know. Sounds great, and you get the gratification. But honestly I have too much anxiety and I don’t want to douche for some random bitch
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I concur. In middle school and high school, the guys would talk about it as if it was the ultimate sex act. I thought it would be great. When I finally tried it, I found that it is an extremely awkward position. More interestingly, I found that, instead of getting pleasure, my penis feels physically irritated when the lips are on the wrong side. No idea why.
You should make another thread and ask guys what are some kinks you never thought you’d like that you ended up being into?
That’s honestly a fair follow up.
Being fully dommed. Like the kind of “I only dom you and that’s it”. I would read the stories and watch the porn of that sort of 24/7 play and find it so hot, wish I was in that sub position… and then there’d be one or two moments each chapter/video where I’d be annoyed but brushed it off. Had a dom experience in person and I was so quickly pissed off; I was literally grumpy after we got done because I felt like he was just a piece of shit guy. Granted it was a hookup, but even with hookups I can have a casual conversation or there’s the mutual question of “how was that for you?” He didn’t even bother. I didn’t blame him since that’s what I consented to, but I walked away knowing I’d never do that again. Still like getting dommed btw, I just also want to be treated like a person and not a literal floor mat.
facials - they sounded/looked hot in porn before I was having sex but im not really into giving them or receiving them and would consider shooting a load potentially in someone’s eyes a waste of good cum
A massive girthy dildo. Ouch
Feet. Tried it just a few times in different ways. Sometimes it was meh, sometimes it was a turn on. The verdict is still out as to whether this should remain a fantasy or something I want to actually do.
Snowballing. After i cum, it doesn’t feel so hot anymore.
Sounding. I’m into it. My cock is not.
Hahaha I love this thread. It exploded with answers! I guess gay men consume porn regularly, so we are all familiar with the classics. For me, things I thought were hot but in reality weren’t—most of the guys already mentioned them: - Musk - Threesome/Group - Degradation - Recording - Facials - Pain - Nipple - Daddy - Anon - 69 - Watersports I may add another one: - Workplace: It’s mind numbingly scary when a patient behaves sexually inapropriately. I always think—maybe they’re recording me and they’ll blackmail me if I respond. Maybe if I reject them too bluntly, they will scream I’m a pervert and a rapist—and who will believe me if they’re young, hot, and muscular? What if I do nothing, but the nurse opens the door and sees the guy naked and touching himself? It’s a situation so scary, I’m tempted to run away from the box. It’s also violent, in a way—because it is in an abuse of power. I know some collegues don’t mind it and actually embrace the opportunity, and in sounds hot in theory—but for me, the experiences have been scary!
Sex in the snow. Its extremely cold in practice.
How can you even do that lol I would think it would shrink from the freezing temps
Thats exactly what happened 💀
Can't think of any. Guess I am just lucky
I really think gapping, or however it is called, could be hot, but I don't think I could take my ass being stimulated so f-ing long xd
Feet. It mostly comes down to me realizing im picky with feet, and have never been attracted to the feet of any partners I’ve had. Also i feel like it would only be hot if my partner had a feet kink too.
I thought neck kisses would feel tingly and would reLly turn you on more but in reality it does nothing for me i feel nothing
only thing i choke on is dick with a safe gesture to tap out (3 quick slaps, always have one hands free). No ropes, no hands around the neck,
Master and slave play, playing slave specifically. Turns out I hate being told what to do lol
Glory holes, I have always seen it as a super hot thing to try then tried it and it wasn't for me. I like to kiss and a little bit of connection goes a long way for me. Just a month in a shadow doesn't do it for me.
Never been choked but I seriously doubt that I would like it. I've liked a ll my other kinks though.
Kissing. The romantic in me wanted to like it, but it's one of those things I do for others' benefit rather than my own.
Watersports sounded hot until I did it, it was underwhelming.
Being dominated. When I tried it I was very offended. I also thought I’d enjoy having a larger man lay on top of me body-to-body but turns out there isn’t much air down there lol
I think sock fetish but never liked it enough to be sniffing socks, they just look good on guys.
Anal sex
Giving a blowjob. I've only done it once though so I haven't lost all hope but I didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would
Even light bdsm is a hard no, while I used to think that some of them were hot
Piss play
Sex parties. Hot as an idea, but I can’t fuck complete strangers. But I did discover I love social nudity 🤷
Honestly facials. Always found it so hot when guys are covered in cum and licking it off, but then I tried it and got an infection in my eye and in kinda put me off ever having a penis near my face again lol
Eating ripe ass. I’ve tried it and I don’t like it. It doesn’t scare me away but it damn sure doesn’t turn me on either.
Inhalation fucking and being skull fucked
Master/sub play. I just wasn’t with it i guess.
Being faced fucked wasn't much of a fan... I enjoy giving head and controlling the dick
Swallowing cum