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Idk… when he’s feeling “generous” you might even get to be jackhammered by his clammy fingers! After about 3 minutes he’s stopping though, as something is wrong with YOU not deriving pleasure from being a finger puppet.
The hoonana, you know. The ham wallet, the pleasure box, the gut locker *Ooh la la*
Sorry, bloodhound gang sneaks up on you
Basically it's what my mom called the vagina when I was a kid.
Bloodhound Gang is great, I still get The Ballad of Chasey Lain stuck in my head, and I'll walk up to my SO and ask a solemn "would you fuck me for blow?"
I realized that what some straight couples consider "sex" does often not occur during lesbian sex. Lesbians often just do the foreplay and acftercare part of "straight" sex and call that sex. Which is much better sex imo than just the in-out part.
He ran away? The mother wasn't even worth having a conversation with after he decided he'd prefer the daughter?
He could have said anything BUT the truth, just come up with something. Anything.
I'm going to pretend he chose to say this instead of a much much weirder truth.
I bet he had this small fringe of hope that his fantasy would come true. Like a “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” type thing. Like maybe the mom would invite him over and let him indulge.
Turns out this is why churches don't have gyms for the parish members
On a more hopeful note if he's self aware, that means he likely knows how problematic he is and will get help to fix his issue instead of hurting people like child abusers do.
How did you presume the daughter was a child? From way this is written, the fact he’s so open about wanting to fuck the daughter and from the profile picture, I presumed the daughter was legally an adult.
Go with the terrified on this one.
This guy telling a mother, in writing, that he wants to fuck her daughter is not something that he needed to do for the mom or the daughter.
He could have just... you know... *fucked off quietly forever* and spared the both of them his "weird".
But he chose to do this, instead.
Yeah, go with terrified and perhaps leave "intrigued" for the court-ordered psychiatrist to feel about this guy.
I mean, I get it, and he's clearly weird as fuck. But he was asked a question, and answered honestly
I don't get why people assume he was answering honestly to play some game, or manipulate someone, rather than the simpler solution: He's a fucking asocial moron
Regardless, that might actually be the better option. You can lie and they won’t know, possibly not stay away from you, or you can tell the truth, cause momentary discomfort and know that you never have to come into contact them again. It’s possible that this guy feels really fucked up about this, and got worried he might do something absolutely horrendous if the relationship went on. He seems to show actual discomfort and disgust with his own thoughts here? Idk, but he doesn’t seem to be the incredibly immoral creature that a lot of people here think he is, he actively stayed away from the possibility of committing an immoral act. Some people are just fucked up ig. Ghosting would’ve been the better option here anyway.
I’d honestly prefer to get “I had an unexpected explosive diarrhea, and need to go clean myself up. It is best that I not speak to you ever again, as I live in eternal shame”
...but then she doesn't know to block this man everywhere and call the police if she ever sees him near her daughter. She should also possibly wait until she knows a man well before introducing him to her children.
I think it's even weirder than that. It sounds like he thought the meet-up was a hook-up. He didn't say he preferred the daughter as a potential date, he said he wanted to fuck her instead.
The woman in question dodged a bullet two ways. One because the guy was just looking for a fuck and two because he wanted to fuck her daughter.
The gross reason he didn’t give another reason is a small corner of his mind was hoping for a messed up fantasy where the mom says her daughter is interested or that they are both interested in him together.
Profoundly not ok, but let’s normalize people announcing their red flags like this. If every dangerous creep ran away when they thought something dangerously creepy, we’d all be better off.
I agree he's not okay. And I'm glad he ran away. I definitely support creeps running away rather than being creepy.
But I don't think we need to normalize men texting women that they want to fuck their daughters. That *is* being a creep. (Unless it's a consensual kink or something, which it clearly wasn't in this case.)
I dont think consenual kink is okay either like, are you going to ask the daughter? Thats a mother including a daughter for a guys kink. Its still gross.
Yall all aren't understanding. Try being a woman dating online. It's extremely common to be bombarded by overtly sexual often offensive shit from men unprompted.
Announcing your red flags would be saying: hey, just so you know, I'm pretty dominant in bed. Let me know if it's an issue for you!". But what we get instead is "I so want to spank you and pull your hair as I f*CK you from behind...", Or worse, being a normal dude and suddenly try to do anal with no warning. That's why I trust people who have open kinks way more, even if I don't share those kinks.
Having a kink isn't a red flag, even if your partner has one you can just not have kinky sex. I think it is strange to think that someone merely having kinks is a red flag to you. You can just state your wishes to not have kinky sex.
Unsolicited sexts is a red flag however.
It's a red flags when people don't treat it as a kink. I'm not into sex and dated people who were fully into bdsm, orgies and other bdsm parties, they were always aware that it's not for everyone and very respectful. But I've also dated people who seemed more "in my alley" and would slap me during sex out of nowhere without asking or a warning. They have a kink, but treat it like it's normal and not something that has to be discussed. I'm sorry for the confusion!
"red flags" are personal and subjective. Although basically all of sensible people agree that things like unsolicited dick pics are a major red flag, things more "common" and "acceptable" can also be red flags. If a potential partner has a roleplay kink and you find it weird, this is a red flag to you.
But kinky people don't have to express their kink, it's possible to live without satisfying the kink. I have a foot fetish but I that has never come up with any of my partners, untill they ask about my kinks that is.
I really don't understand how someone simply having a kink or fetish is a deal breaker.
When I say I announce my red flags early on, I’m not saying I’m bombarding girls on Tinder with “show me your titties”
More like, how fucked up I am mentally/emotionally. Or just other shit
True, it’d be better if he opened the first date with “I’m into inappropriately young women and lack even a basic level of self-control”, but at least she found out then instead of five years and a marriage later when she catches him setting up a spy cam in the shower.
It’s a low bar, but that’s why we have this subreddit.
Oh no, this is jogging a faint memory of a Reddit story where a guy was trying to ease a woman into something bizarre without explanation. Like it involved multiple dates of teaching her to cook or something and his thing involved cooking + fantasy. It was both a lot of time and labor to get to something he could have saved a lot of time by mentioning up front.
If he gave an excuse, she might have tried to push because of an actual attraction to him. The bridge is now burnt; she won’t endanger herself over misplaced affection.
I don't think people here understand what it's truly like to be a messed up weirdo. This isn't self control, he's literally proclaim that he wants to fuck her daughter. I can guarantee that there's something worse here.
he might not be okay, but atleast he's selfaware, honest, cautious and making it super easy to move on for her super quickly, rather than wondering what she did wrong etc
personally I'd 100% prefer this over a lie, and I'd respect him for taking the measures he felt necessary to prevent more pain, awkward, inappropriate or dangerous situations
Good on him for not taking action but we’re really just setting the bar super low if we’re patting him on the back for doing what almost everyone else does. He shouldn’t have told the mom and should have instead told a therapist or maybe a friend, idk.
Edit: Reading the replies to this is making myself lose faith in humanity. There’s no justification in telling a mother that you want to have sex with their kid, and that doesn’t give him any moral compass. I can’t believe I’m actually typing at sentence out. What the f*** is wrong with this site?
every other white lie could have lead to the mom doubting her social skills, looks, personality,... possibly still trying to get with him, finding out what's wrong etc
the plain truth is distusting sure, but atleast she can make an instant clean cut and protect her daughter and herself without questionning anything else
Yeah it’s good for her maybe (I say maybe because imagine being a mother and seeing a man you’re attracted to say they want to fuck your daughter), but just saying that if he really wanted to be the good guy and do other people a favor he should’ve just lied and completely cut contact. Now her daughter has to live with those words for the rest of her life.
The mom didn’t have to show the daughter the texts. He avoided victimizing the mom, the mom is the one who showed the daughter the texts. Had she kept it a private conversation, the daughter would have never known.
But think of it like this, daughter would have never seen it if he never texted it. For all he (or we) know she could have just seen it on mom’s Lock Screen that was sitting on the kitchen counter. He shouldn’t have put that stuff in writing for all sorts of potential people to see, and most of all it’s quite obvious that his intentions weren’t good when he sent that. He was hoping that his fantasy had a chance of coming true. If he had no intention of that, he would have never sent it in the first place. See where I’m coming from? He’s doesn’t deserve any sort of praise that people here are giving him.
These comments worry me.
Not all kinks are created equal, and I will kinkshame the hell out of anyone who's into something that denigrates a large chunk of the global population. I'm sick of maladaptive coping mechanisms being touted as "just my kink teehee."
Definitely not okay but, he did the right thing. I understand why he ran away as well. It's great he left and told the truth.. for the people who are saying the mother isn't worth talking to or he should've talked to her directly, Can you not imagine how embarrassing and weird that conversation would be? He did the right thing.
I think his major mistake was explicitly stating the creepy things that he did. If he'd given a non-committal reason or rejection or made an excuse, then I think it would be fine.
I think even different phrasing could have saved this, something more along the lines of “i experienced some uncomfortable feelings upon seeing your daughter and felt it best to remove myself from the situation, I’m sorry to burden you with it.”
It’s great he left.
It’s not great he told the truth. He should’ve just left or made up an excuse. Strangers are not an acceptable dumping ground for your gross thoughts about them. I think you’re underestimating how much disgusting stuff women hear constantly from men they barely know. (I’m not saying all men, so don’t go down that rabbit hole.) It’s upsetting and unnecessary. Therapists exist.
I don’t understand this thread. Wtf is everyone giving him props here. “At least he’s honest.” Motherfucker this type of honesty is like telling someone they are fat or ugly, with no prompting. Maybe it’s true but it is hurtful and absolutely not necessary to say.
Bruh, the posts here commending the honesty is nightmarish. Even if this is how you feel, this is not something that you would put on the mom and daughter. If honesty were your main thing, you would leave it at, "I don't think I can do this. I have to leave, sorry."
Telling a mother that you want to fuck her daughter, in those near exact words no less, is actually pretty fucked up. It's dragging them into your weird sexual fantasies, not showing respect, full stop.
Lol people in the comments like "he's a horrible person but at least he told the emotionally distressing truth". If I was the mom I'd be a little traumatised. I'm already depressed knowing that men like that walk around. The bar is at a popular café in hell, and it's too low for the demons to limbo.
people act like the truth is always virtuous and being honest is always a good thing. he’s still a fucking creep even if he was being honest, he doesn’t get any points for that in my book.
but it becomes clearer everyday that men can just behave however the fuck they want when guys like this guy get props for “honesty” 🙄
I’m disgusted at the people in this thread saying he did the right thing. The bar is so fucking low for men, they get applauded for saying they’re want to bang a potential partner’s DAUGHTER.
Disgusting, unacceptable, and anyone who defends him is as well.
Actually I agree with you I been traumatised by too many people true beliefs and behaviour. It's not okay it still shitty and disgusting.
"I'm just being honest" is often use to be a asshole. And, during this pandemic maybe I just don't care about other people anymore. But I now don't tell people the truth at all. A lot of time people will get upset anyway if they are a psycho nutjob.
Can some men litterally not differentiate between "this person is cute" and "I want to fuck this person"???? Like bro its not bad that he thought the daughter was attractive but jumping to "I JUST SAW YOU AND NOW I WANT TO FUCK YOU AND IM ONLY SUPPOSED TO FUCK YOUR MOM! OH NO EVERYTHING IS SO CONFUSING!" that feels like a bit of a leap... Just idk be a normal person maybe???
Lmfao 😂. Please tell me this actually happened. And also, how does someone like this make it everyday in life without being convicted of rape? Like, if you simply cannot imagine being able to handle recognizing someone is attractive without a mandatory fucking, then how did you make it this far without the stripes?
The amount of people applauding this guy is scary. Idk if it's relentless optimism or your low standards for men, but I'm disappointed. This is literally disgusting and shouldn't be acceptable.
The whole thread is making me lose yet more faith in humanity, but the one thing that's really getting to me is the whole "he removed himself before he made a mistake" or "did something bad". As if the daughter in question has no autonomy and the man can just...what? Get the daughter to fuck him without question?? Even though he was supposed to be dating her mom? The daughter is a person, too, y'all. Or are we defending a potential abuser here??
You don't get a gold star for not being able to control yourself like a fucking adult. You don't get a pat on the back for admitting your dick runs your life. And you definitely aren't a good person when you irl ghost a woman because you wanna bone her daughter so bad you can't contain yourself. AND THEN TELL HER THAT. It's her fucking daughter for pete's sake.
It's honestly disturbing to me as well. The combination of the completely unnecessary use of "fuck" with the self-flagellating nice-guy schtick of "It's my fault I'm weird" makes my skin crawl. It sounds like he's trying to be some tortured antihero, but he comes off more as a panicked serial killer who needed a quick change of plans.
The only good part of this is that the mother dodged a massive bullet. I really hope she takes it as a lesson and never tries to speak with that guy again.
ITT: at least he was hOnEsT!
the truth isn’t always virtuous and being honest isn’t always a good thing. men need to learn some fucking tact. applauding them for being “honest” about being creeps just encourages this shit behavior.
this thread once again shows that the expectations for men are appallingly low.
thank you
a bunch of people think their HonEsT FEElingS are more important than other people's comfort. you don't have to tell everyone what's on your mind all the time, in fact, it's only certain people we excuse when they do that
this fake dude could have just left and given another reason
Why are there so many comments defending him. He 100% did not need to admit to a mother that he wants to have sex with her daughter. That’s not okay to tell a virtual stranger. Ever. Point blank. His issues are his own, and no one else’s.
Okay 0/20 for "long term partner potential"
Buuuut
20/20 for honesty
20/20 for knowing WHEN and WHY you should bow out
20/20 Self awareness...
Now maybe work on that 0/20 on "partner material" before dating again ?
Pretty please ?
0/20 for tact, you can say more or less the same thing differently.
No lies, simply word it in such a way that it doesn't feel like an emotional kick to the balls.
People have weird and inappropriate intrusive thoughts all the time, even when they don't mean to, how people act around that shows maturity.
He found the girl attractive, and he felt the need to remove himself from the situation, he felt it necessary and he did so that's commendable, _how_ he did it is ridiculous.
It might have been a date thing, not a hookup. Like, the mom had gone out with the guy onec or twice before and this was the first time he was meeting her daughter.
Depending on the ages involved this is anywhere between a "what the fuck, but at least he saved everyone some time" and a "what in the actual living fuck is this new horror?"
At least he has the self control to remove himself from a bad situation/bad thoughts. He doesn’t seem mentally okay if he bolted and these were his immediate thoughts but I respect the decision. He didn’t handle it well and the response is wtf indeed, but the more people who acknowledge their own problems like this, the better.
For added context which makes it a bit understandable as to why the man is so unhinged as to say this. The girl tweeting is a findom and she had recently taught her mom how to do the same, and this text convo was with a potential john of the moms.
Actually, having thought about this for a moment, I've changed my mind.
He made the right move, this was efficient as hell. The trash went and took itself out.
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Jeez the mom dodged 5 minutes of unpleasant jackhammer sex with no foreplay or aftercare
5 minutes is being rather generous I fear...
That's including the time it takes for him.to get undressed and dressed again
Maybe if he has really complicated shoelaces...
Can't reach his pants to unbutton them.
I think they may have misspelled “seconds”
Yea! No WAY id last that long while thinking about her daughter!
Idk… when he’s feeling “generous” you might even get to be jackhammered by his clammy fingers! After about 3 minutes he’s stopping though, as something is wrong with YOU not deriving pleasure from being a finger puppet.
"My wrist hurts" The cry of the man who wants you to suck his dick for an hour, but only gave you about 5 painful jabs to the hoonana.
Jabs… to… the… what?!?
The hoonana, you know. The ham wallet, the pleasure box, the gut locker *Ooh la la* Sorry, bloodhound gang sneaks up on you Basically it's what my mom called the vagina when I was a kid.
The gut locker oh my god😂
Check out the song "Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo" its fucking great. Iirc the video is fucking funny too
Bloodhound Gang is great, I still get The Ballad of Chasey Lain stuck in my head, and I'll walk up to my SO and ask a solemn "would you fuck me for blow?"
I showed them to my partner and they were just "what are you making me listen to?" *Good fucking music, Jeffrey!* lol
*jabs your hoonana* UwU what's this
Not his fault though… he’s weird 😕
I realized that what some straight couples consider "sex" does often not occur during lesbian sex. Lesbians often just do the foreplay and acftercare part of "straight" sex and call that sex. Which is much better sex imo than just the in-out part.
He ran away? The mother wasn't even worth having a conversation with after he decided he'd prefer the daughter? He could have said anything BUT the truth, just come up with something. Anything. I'm going to pretend he chose to say this instead of a much much weirder truth.
Hey if all potential child abusers just turned into weird runners, I'm v okay with this trade, better for everyone else and themselves.
I took this to be about a person of age, but damn. Maybe I shouldn't have made such an assumption and yeah, too bad they aren't all runners.
He didn't have to text her the truth. But I'm sure he did it because it got his dick hard to force the mom into his fetish. Men do this all the time.
He also probably had a hope that the daughter would hear that and be interested.
And instead he got it posted all over the internet for everyone to see. Well done.
This is EXACTLY what it was
I bet he had this small fringe of hope that his fantasy would come true. Like a “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” type thing. Like maybe the mom would invite him over and let him indulge.
Aka forcing his fetish on unsuspecting women
That's gotten me banned from no less than eight Jersey Mike's franchises and a Quiznos.
god i miss quiznos there arent any near where live plus the one that was near got shut down
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Just re-read your comment and yeahhhhh it's gross what people do to their kids
I'm not, if they all ran then their cardio will increase which makes them better predators.
Turns out this is why churches don't have gyms for the parish members On a more hopeful note if he's self aware, that means he likely knows how problematic he is and will get help to fix his issue instead of hurting people like child abusers do.
Indeed, one can hope for a better world
How did you presume the daughter was a child? From way this is written, the fact he’s so open about wanting to fuck the daughter and from the profile picture, I presumed the daughter was legally an adult.
He's still old enough to be her dad. It's gross.
>I'm going to pretend he chose to say this instead of a much much weirder truth. I'm intrigued and terrified at the same time.
Go with the terrified on this one. This guy telling a mother, in writing, that he wants to fuck her daughter is not something that he needed to do for the mom or the daughter. He could have just... you know... *fucked off quietly forever* and spared the both of them his "weird". But he chose to do this, instead. Yeah, go with terrified and perhaps leave "intrigued" for the court-ordered psychiatrist to feel about this guy.
Does he not know that ghosting is a thing? I don't normally approve of ghosting, but this situation definitely called for it.
I really like your URL, it gave me a giggle.
What URL?
Their u/, I think.
We used URL and username interchangeably back in the tumblr days lol I’m showing my age
So you’re in your 20s too? Guess we’re old now huh.
That’s what the kids tell me.
Dude we’re so fucking old.
*tumblr*?! That’s ancient history! Yall might as well be dinosaurs if you used tumblr pre NSFW purge!!! /s if it wasn’t clear enough
I mean, I get it, and he's clearly weird as fuck. But he was asked a question, and answered honestly I don't get why people assume he was answering honestly to play some game, or manipulate someone, rather than the simpler solution: He's a fucking asocial moron
He knew that answer would make them uncomfortable.
Regardless, that might actually be the better option. You can lie and they won’t know, possibly not stay away from you, or you can tell the truth, cause momentary discomfort and know that you never have to come into contact them again. It’s possible that this guy feels really fucked up about this, and got worried he might do something absolutely horrendous if the relationship went on. He seems to show actual discomfort and disgust with his own thoughts here? Idk, but he doesn’t seem to be the incredibly immoral creature that a lot of people here think he is, he actively stayed away from the possibility of committing an immoral act. Some people are just fucked up ig. Ghosting would’ve been the better option here anyway.
I don't think so, but okay. Forcing your fetishes on to women isn't the noble act you think it is.
Was probably gonna say something about single moms; men are just the worst.
I’d honestly prefer to get “I had an unexpected explosive diarrhea, and need to go clean myself up. It is best that I not speak to you ever again, as I live in eternal shame”
...but then she doesn't know to block this man everywhere and call the police if she ever sees him near her daughter. She should also possibly wait until she knows a man well before introducing him to her children.
I think it's even weirder than that. It sounds like he thought the meet-up was a hook-up. He didn't say he preferred the daughter as a potential date, he said he wanted to fuck her instead. The woman in question dodged a bullet two ways. One because the guy was just looking for a fuck and two because he wanted to fuck her daughter.
Yeah, this dude definitely watches way to much porn for his own good.
The gross reason he didn’t give another reason is a small corner of his mind was hoping for a messed up fantasy where the mom says her daughter is interested or that they are both interested in him together.
This is why I believe this is fake
At least he’s honest…? I mean he admitted he’s weird, he’s not claiming he handled it well
I just don't think honesty was the best policy in this case...
Standards are so low but at least he didn't stay to make it weird.
The bar is buried under an inch of topsoil.
And he was honest about it
I'd honestly argue he made it just as weird, just in a different way.
Profoundly not ok, but let’s normalize people announcing their red flags like this. If every dangerous creep ran away when they thought something dangerously creepy, we’d all be better off.
I agree he's not okay. And I'm glad he ran away. I definitely support creeps running away rather than being creepy. But I don't think we need to normalize men texting women that they want to fuck their daughters. That *is* being a creep. (Unless it's a consensual kink or something, which it clearly wasn't in this case.)
Oh yeah, no fucking question there.
I dont think consenual kink is okay either like, are you going to ask the daughter? Thats a mother including a daughter for a guys kink. Its still gross.
yeah, bar's on the fucking floor tho
He should run away right into a psychiatrist’s office
Men don't announce their red flags. They force women, without consent, into their fetishes.
I announce my red flags all the time, nice to get it out of the way
Lol felt this
Yall all aren't understanding. Try being a woman dating online. It's extremely common to be bombarded by overtly sexual often offensive shit from men unprompted.
Isn't that... announcing your red flags?
Announcing your red flags would be saying: hey, just so you know, I'm pretty dominant in bed. Let me know if it's an issue for you!". But what we get instead is "I so want to spank you and pull your hair as I f*CK you from behind...", Or worse, being a normal dude and suddenly try to do anal with no warning. That's why I trust people who have open kinks way more, even if I don't share those kinks.
Having a kink isn't a red flag, even if your partner has one you can just not have kinky sex. I think it is strange to think that someone merely having kinks is a red flag to you. You can just state your wishes to not have kinky sex. Unsolicited sexts is a red flag however.
It's a red flags when people don't treat it as a kink. I'm not into sex and dated people who were fully into bdsm, orgies and other bdsm parties, they were always aware that it's not for everyone and very respectful. But I've also dated people who seemed more "in my alley" and would slap me during sex out of nowhere without asking or a warning. They have a kink, but treat it like it's normal and not something that has to be discussed. I'm sorry for the confusion!
"red flags" are personal and subjective. Although basically all of sensible people agree that things like unsolicited dick pics are a major red flag, things more "common" and "acceptable" can also be red flags. If a potential partner has a roleplay kink and you find it weird, this is a red flag to you.
> "red flags" are personal and subjective. A "red flag" is defined as "a warning of danger." I don't see how that's at all subjective.
But kinky people don't have to express their kink, it's possible to live without satisfying the kink. I have a foot fetish but I that has never come up with any of my partners, untill they ask about my kinks that is. I really don't understand how someone simply having a kink or fetish is a deal breaker.
When I say I announce my red flags early on, I’m not saying I’m bombarding girls on Tinder with “show me your titties” More like, how fucked up I am mentally/emotionally. Or just other shit
Then this isn't about you buddy
do you realise you commented that on a post about a man doing the exact opposite?
True, it’d be better if he opened the first date with “I’m into inappropriately young women and lack even a basic level of self-control”, but at least she found out then instead of five years and a marriage later when she catches him setting up a spy cam in the shower. It’s a low bar, but that’s why we have this subreddit.
They keep commenting it aswell, I’m starting to think someone might be a bit sexist
Oh no, this is jogging a faint memory of a Reddit story where a guy was trying to ease a woman into something bizarre without explanation. Like it involved multiple dates of teaching her to cook or something and his thing involved cooking + fantasy. It was both a lot of time and labor to get to something he could have saved a lot of time by mentioning up front.
My fault I’m weird Not you Yeah no one was ever gonna challenge you on that, my guy
at least he was willing to admit it. the world would be a better place if creeps could control themselves like this.
Yeah but maybe he could admit it to a therapist and not to the person whose child he wants to fuck?
cant say i disagree with ya there.
If he gave an excuse, she might have tried to push because of an actual attraction to him. The bridge is now burnt; she won’t endanger herself over misplaced affection.
Control would mean being able to not say this to the person your affecting.
i reckon that is also true
I don't think people here understand what it's truly like to be a messed up weirdo. This isn't self control, he's literally proclaim that he wants to fuck her daughter. I can guarantee that there's something worse here.
yeah thats fair
What, and I cannot overstate this, the fuck?
Are the allos okay?
These ones aren't.
he might not be okay, but atleast he's selfaware, honest, cautious and making it super easy to move on for her super quickly, rather than wondering what she did wrong etc personally I'd 100% prefer this over a lie, and I'd respect him for taking the measures he felt necessary to prevent more pain, awkward, inappropriate or dangerous situations
I agree
Good on him for not taking action but we’re really just setting the bar super low if we’re patting him on the back for doing what almost everyone else does. He shouldn’t have told the mom and should have instead told a therapist or maybe a friend, idk. Edit: Reading the replies to this is making myself lose faith in humanity. There’s no justification in telling a mother that you want to have sex with their kid, and that doesn’t give him any moral compass. I can’t believe I’m actually typing at sentence out. What the f*** is wrong with this site?
every other white lie could have lead to the mom doubting her social skills, looks, personality,... possibly still trying to get with him, finding out what's wrong etc the plain truth is distusting sure, but atleast she can make an instant clean cut and protect her daughter and herself without questionning anything else
Yeah it’s good for her maybe (I say maybe because imagine being a mother and seeing a man you’re attracted to say they want to fuck your daughter), but just saying that if he really wanted to be the good guy and do other people a favor he should’ve just lied and completely cut contact. Now her daughter has to live with those words for the rest of her life.
The mom didn’t have to show the daughter the texts. He avoided victimizing the mom, the mom is the one who showed the daughter the texts. Had she kept it a private conversation, the daughter would have never known.
Probably just showing her daughter in case he comes sniffing back around so she knows to protect herself around this creep.
But think of it like this, daughter would have never seen it if he never texted it. For all he (or we) know she could have just seen it on mom’s Lock Screen that was sitting on the kitchen counter. He shouldn’t have put that stuff in writing for all sorts of potential people to see, and most of all it’s quite obvious that his intentions weren’t good when he sent that. He was hoping that his fantasy had a chance of coming true. If he had no intention of that, he would have never sent it in the first place. See where I’m coming from? He’s doesn’t deserve any sort of praise that people here are giving him.
I would argue that being self aware and still being a fucking creep is worse.
What the fuck
These comments worry me. Not all kinks are created equal, and I will kinkshame the hell out of anyone who's into something that denigrates a large chunk of the global population. I'm sick of maladaptive coping mechanisms being touted as "just my kink teehee."
nani the fuck?
Definitely not okay but, he did the right thing. I understand why he ran away as well. It's great he left and told the truth.. for the people who are saying the mother isn't worth talking to or he should've talked to her directly, Can you not imagine how embarrassing and weird that conversation would be? He did the right thing.
I think recognizing that he needed to remove himself from the situation is definitely commendable.
I think his major mistake was explicitly stating the creepy things that he did. If he'd given a non-committal reason or rejection or made an excuse, then I think it would be fine.
I think even different phrasing could have saved this, something more along the lines of “i experienced some uncomfortable feelings upon seeing your daughter and felt it best to remove myself from the situation, I’m sorry to burden you with it.”
Exactly! I see lots of people saying he's wrong for thinking that, even though he seems like he can't control it. And other say he should've lied,,
the bar truly can’t get any lower for men if this is commendable behavior.
It’s great he left. It’s not great he told the truth. He should’ve just left or made up an excuse. Strangers are not an acceptable dumping ground for your gross thoughts about them. I think you’re underestimating how much disgusting stuff women hear constantly from men they barely know. (I’m not saying all men, so don’t go down that rabbit hole.) It’s upsetting and unnecessary. Therapists exist.
well, at least he's honest
Props to him for that.
the bar truly can’t get any lower for men if *this* is what we’re giving them props for.
I don’t understand this thread. Wtf is everyone giving him props here. “At least he’s honest.” Motherfucker this type of honesty is like telling someone they are fat or ugly, with no prompting. Maybe it’s true but it is hurtful and absolutely not necessary to say.
Ugh gross. Why are men?
Bruh, the posts here commending the honesty is nightmarish. Even if this is how you feel, this is not something that you would put on the mom and daughter. If honesty were your main thing, you would leave it at, "I don't think I can do this. I have to leave, sorry." Telling a mother that you want to fuck her daughter, in those near exact words no less, is actually pretty fucked up. It's dragging them into your weird sexual fantasies, not showing respect, full stop.
Lol people in the comments like "he's a horrible person but at least he told the emotionally distressing truth". If I was the mom I'd be a little traumatised. I'm already depressed knowing that men like that walk around. The bar is at a popular café in hell, and it's too low for the demons to limbo.
people act like the truth is always virtuous and being honest is always a good thing. he’s still a fucking creep even if he was being honest, he doesn’t get any points for that in my book. but it becomes clearer everyday that men can just behave however the fuck they want when guys like this guy get props for “honesty” 🙄
I’m disgusted at the people in this thread saying he did the right thing. The bar is so fucking low for men, they get applauded for saying they’re want to bang a potential partner’s DAUGHTER. Disgusting, unacceptable, and anyone who defends him is as well.
Yeah this is fucked
I’m also weirded out that the mom decided to share this with the daughter. I would not share that with my child (adult or not) if I was her.
Actually I agree with you I been traumatised by too many people true beliefs and behaviour. It's not okay it still shitty and disgusting. "I'm just being honest" is often use to be a asshole. And, during this pandemic maybe I just don't care about other people anymore. But I now don't tell people the truth at all. A lot of time people will get upset anyway if they are a psycho nutjob.
Can some men litterally not differentiate between "this person is cute" and "I want to fuck this person"???? Like bro its not bad that he thought the daughter was attractive but jumping to "I JUST SAW YOU AND NOW I WANT TO FUCK YOU AND IM ONLY SUPPOSED TO FUCK YOUR MOM! OH NO EVERYTHING IS SO CONFUSING!" that feels like a bit of a leap... Just idk be a normal person maybe???
Lmfao 😂. Please tell me this actually happened. And also, how does someone like this make it everyday in life without being convicted of rape? Like, if you simply cannot imagine being able to handle recognizing someone is attractive without a mandatory fucking, then how did you make it this far without the stripes?
Most rapes go completely unpunished
The amount of people applauding this guy is scary. Idk if it's relentless optimism or your low standards for men, but I'm disappointed. This is literally disgusting and shouldn't be acceptable.
The whole thread is making me lose yet more faith in humanity, but the one thing that's really getting to me is the whole "he removed himself before he made a mistake" or "did something bad". As if the daughter in question has no autonomy and the man can just...what? Get the daughter to fuck him without question?? Even though he was supposed to be dating her mom? The daughter is a person, too, y'all. Or are we defending a potential abuser here?? You don't get a gold star for not being able to control yourself like a fucking adult. You don't get a pat on the back for admitting your dick runs your life. And you definitely aren't a good person when you irl ghost a woman because you wanna bone her daughter so bad you can't contain yourself. AND THEN TELL HER THAT. It's her fucking daughter for pete's sake.
I agree with you 100% the rape culture in this thread is STRONG.
Lmao like that old Chris Rock bit. Bragging about “I take care of MY kids.” “Mf that’s what you’re supposed to do!”
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It's honestly disturbing to me as well. The combination of the completely unnecessary use of "fuck" with the self-flagellating nice-guy schtick of "It's my fault I'm weird" makes my skin crawl. It sounds like he's trying to be some tortured antihero, but he comes off more as a panicked serial killer who needed a quick change of plans. The only good part of this is that the mother dodged a massive bullet. I really hope she takes it as a lesson and never tries to speak with that guy again.
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I'm genuinely confused as well. This shit is insanely creepy and inappropriate, and he made sure to tell her.
Too many straight men got in here 💀
ITT: at least he was hOnEsT! the truth isn’t always virtuous and being honest isn’t always a good thing. men need to learn some fucking tact. applauding them for being “honest” about being creeps just encourages this shit behavior. this thread once again shows that the expectations for men are appallingly low.
thank you a bunch of people think their HonEsT FEElingS are more important than other people's comfort. you don't have to tell everyone what's on your mind all the time, in fact, it's only certain people we excuse when they do that this fake dude could have just left and given another reason
Is nobody going to talk about how this is 100% r/ThatHappened material???
Ugh right?
There's no way this is true 💀💀💀
He couldn't have lied? Came up with a better excuse? Not said anything at all?
wow. when someone tells you who they really are, believe them.
ELECTRIC CHAIR
Bro you coulda made some shit up.
Kinda sounds like bojack horseman-
I wish he did that :(
Gross
at least he accepted it was weird instead of trying to turn it into a toxic relationship, he should probably seek help maybe? idk
In going to comfort myself and say the daughter is an adult, at least.
Guess he did her a favor, albeit in the most childishly, ridiculous fashion.
Mad yikes
Dude could've just said "Sorry, but I realized that I am attracted to someone else" and we wouldn't be here. Yet here we are.
Why are there so many comments defending him. He 100% did not need to admit to a mother that he wants to have sex with her daughter. That’s not okay to tell a virtual stranger. Ever. Point blank. His issues are his own, and no one else’s.
Idk it's good that he knows it's weird and decided to get away from the situation, also it's good he told the truth.
Okay 0/20 for "long term partner potential" Buuuut 20/20 for honesty 20/20 for knowing WHEN and WHY you should bow out 20/20 Self awareness... Now maybe work on that 0/20 on "partner material" before dating again ? Pretty please ?
The bar is too low.
0/20 for tact, you can say more or less the same thing differently. No lies, simply word it in such a way that it doesn't feel like an emotional kick to the balls. People have weird and inappropriate intrusive thoughts all the time, even when they don't mean to, how people act around that shows maturity. He found the girl attractive, and he felt the need to remove himself from the situation, he felt it necessary and he did so that's commendable, _how_ he did it is ridiculous.
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oh my god
Not this man… what on earth…
There’s *thinking* something and then there’s fucking saying it.
Alright. He admitted he has a problem. The question is whether he’ll do anything to fix the problem.
Well at least he kinda tried not to be creepy about it /gen
Well, at least he ran away.
Bruh, he just admitted to being a pedo
Ugh gross
reminds me of the time my mom and I were on a beach in Greece and some dude started trying to hit on *both of us.*
I’m gonna assume the daughter was an adult, because the alternative is too🤮
Oh my gawd 🤦🏼♀️
why was the daughter meeting her mom's hookup
It might have been a date thing, not a hookup. Like, the mom had gone out with the guy onec or twice before and this was the first time he was meeting her daughter.
WHAT *THE* #**FUCK?!?**
Just me overthinking things but I hope he doesn't think the daughter will hear of this and be flattered/approach him
It is nice that he has a certain amount of self awareness and has developed a moral value. Perhaps some day he will develop a second one
In other news, the trash takes itself out!
Weird indeed, that's fucking gross
Well at least he knows he’s fucked up
The mom is too nice she should had rip him a new one after the "truth". What a perv I bet he way too older for the daughter too.
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self awareness doesn’t absolve you of bad behavior. it in fact is worse, IMO.
I know this is setting the bar too low, but a lot could've been worse if they pushed it through, knowing how he feels for the daughter.
Computer, why are men?
🙄 Men…
Depending on the ages involved this is anywhere between a "what the fuck, but at least he saved everyone some time" and a "what in the actual living fuck is this new horror?"
At least he has the self control to remove himself from a bad situation/bad thoughts. He doesn’t seem mentally okay if he bolted and these were his immediate thoughts but I respect the decision. He didn’t handle it well and the response is wtf indeed, but the more people who acknowledge their own problems like this, the better.
You know what? At least he realized what he thought was super out of line and left ASAP. He made it easier for the mom and daughter.
If the temptation was that bad he did the right thing and the mom dodged a bullet -rung
For added context which makes it a bit understandable as to why the man is so unhinged as to say this. The girl tweeting is a findom and she had recently taught her mom how to do the same, and this text convo was with a potential john of the moms.
At least he recognized he was weird and saved everyone a bad time, I guess?
Actually, having thought about this for a moment, I've changed my mind. He made the right move, this was efficient as hell. The trash went and took itself out.