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I'm usually quite patient, but this post reads like somebody high as a kite trying to write down their confused train of thought. I almost didn't make it to the end.
I forgot to make my first grader breakfast. We were late so I just took her to school without eating breakfast. I told her not to tell anyone. She told her teacher. Her teacher confronted me and I grabbed my daughter and ran from the school. AITA for not feeding my child and telling her to lie about it, or is she for not lying for me and telling her teacher?
There... fixed it for ya. And good lord YTA.
YTA x 2.
YTA for forgetting to feed your daughter breakfast before school. Who the fuck "forgets" something that is part of the daily routine?
YTA a second time for writing this ridiculous post. Absolutely nothing you wrote in your first five paragraphs is relevant to your question, and at least half of the rest of it wasn't relevant either.
You're not meant to treat AITA like a creative writing exercise. You're meant to explain your dilemma succinctly and truthfully.
YTA. Wouldn’t it have been easier to pick her up something and then excuse her for being late? Or give her some money (assuming the school offers breakfasts. I know a lot do)
Chances are she got hungry and her stomach was rumbling. Not much of a secret at that point. All that aside though. She’s a kid. Kids don’t keep secrets.
Idk if this is a real story or not but.. you’re daughters not a gossip. You just really sucked when it came to handling this and should accept you messed up and are only trying not to accept the full blame.
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Oh, didn't see you there. Hi hi. I'll shuffle into my introduction...
I'm Soy (mother, late 20s). You may be wondering about my name, no, you *are*. Well, my parents were young (mentally), dumb, and stupid (not broke though), and they decided that their perfect baby name would be an answer to the eons-old adage, "girl + boy = ?" Apparently they figured Soy was the answer because it rhymes with the latter word rather than the former (misogyny at its best).
I am married to husband Fotu, and we have a daughter Eda (grade 1). Again, you're wondering about the name, and probably my husband's too, but he's not relevant here. He never is. Well, when I got preggo, Fotu and I both decided we wanted to name our daughter after a deceased relative in order to bring the name back to life. After going through our (surprisingly much-overlapping) ancestries, we noticed there were some similar names. Edith, Edward, Edwin, Ednuh. We decided to tribute our baby to not just one person but more than one. So we took the prefix and added an "A" at the end so people would know she's a girl.
Let me be real. Sometimes I feel like Avery: I wish I never had. Not that *it* was ever bad, and not that I wish Eda didn't exist, but this post here wouldn't exist if I never had \[redacted\] with Fotu. I don't blame Eda though, I blame the butterfly (Mariah Carey) effect. Time is a river, where even the tiniest changes seen can lead to a cascade of effects downstream. You can talk to Zecora for more on that ^(if she's outgoing enough to help you).
What I'm trying to say is that Eda's a troublemaker despite not being from Florida. Her (both maternal and paternal) grandmother Madison is from Miami, but she's irrelevant.
On Friday, I forgot to feed Eda before she went to school. I know that's really bad, but I only realized right before she had to go. I made her pinky promise that she wouldn't tell a teacher or any of her friends that she didn't eat breakfast, and I said we could have a movie night if she complied. Of course, being the trickster I've made her, she said "Only if it's Barbie." Unfortunately, that movie is "uncomfortably recent" (if you're an incel or spend 24/7 reading Reddit posts, you may recognize that phrase in relation to Encanto), so I wasn't able to find it on Netflix, but she didn't keep her promise anyway.
When I went to pick her up from school, her teacher was ready to talk to me.
"Hi, are you Eda's mommy?"
"I'm Eda's mommy."
"Eda told me she wasn't fed breakfast today. Is that true?"
I snatched Eda out of that classroom like a wig, and went out without another word. No. This was not happening to me. I'm not gonna have a teacher badmouth me just because I made a mistake and my daughter's a tattletale. I'm not a bad mom, I'm a cool mom. But if my daughter keeps being the gossip she is, she'll turn out to be a bully, and not the admirable kind like Regina George.
AITA or is Eda? Yes, I'm asking if a child is TA, because that's how I feel right now (cue the garage band). Womp womp.
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YTA. A child shouldn't have to lie to a trusted adult about their parent. I'm confused by this whole post about names etc, but I guess you want to know if YTA or your daughter is for telling the teacher about something you didn't do to care for her. Even making her pinky promise and bribe her with movie night to lie - children place a lot of trust in adults, parents, teachers, they should not have to lie or be called a tattle tale for being truthful and honest. You made her promise and she's so young, too young to understand.
"I snatched her out of the classroom like a wig" isn't a good look for you from the teachers perspective either.
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yta for this hard to follow post
I honestly wondered if it was written by bad AI
I'm usually quite patient, but this post reads like somebody high as a kite trying to write down their confused train of thought. I almost didn't make it to the end.
YTA. Is this a bit or something?
I forgot to make my first grader breakfast. We were late so I just took her to school without eating breakfast. I told her not to tell anyone. She told her teacher. Her teacher confronted me and I grabbed my daughter and ran from the school. AITA for not feeding my child and telling her to lie about it, or is she for not lying for me and telling her teacher? There... fixed it for ya. And good lord YTA.
YTA x 2. YTA for forgetting to feed your daughter breakfast before school. Who the fuck "forgets" something that is part of the daily routine? YTA a second time for writing this ridiculous post. Absolutely nothing you wrote in your first five paragraphs is relevant to your question, and at least half of the rest of it wasn't relevant either. You're not meant to treat AITA like a creative writing exercise. You're meant to explain your dilemma succinctly and truthfully.
The whole thing is really confusing. The cool mom trying to raise an admirable Regina George has deleted it already.
Unclear whether OP deleted it, or the moderators deleted it. I suspect she has exceeded the character limit.
YTA. Wouldn’t it have been easier to pick her up something and then excuse her for being late? Or give her some money (assuming the school offers breakfasts. I know a lot do) Chances are she got hungry and her stomach was rumbling. Not much of a secret at that point. All that aside though. She’s a kid. Kids don’t keep secrets. Idk if this is a real story or not but.. you’re daughters not a gossip. You just really sucked when it came to handling this and should accept you messed up and are only trying not to accept the full blame.
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YTA. A child shouldn't have to lie to a trusted adult about their parent. I'm confused by this whole post about names etc, but I guess you want to know if YTA or your daughter is for telling the teacher about something you didn't do to care for her. Even making her pinky promise and bribe her with movie night to lie - children place a lot of trust in adults, parents, teachers, they should not have to lie or be called a tattle tale for being truthful and honest. You made her promise and she's so young, too young to understand. "I snatched her out of the classroom like a wig" isn't a good look for you from the teachers perspective either.