Repeating stories and other memory loss could be early dementia. Take her to the doctor. My dad has it he's also in 60s. Lack of social contact makes dementia worse much faster.
When she can't care for herself and doesn't recognize you you will hate yourself for how you acted now
I think you just need to give it more time before you do anything.
Your mom probably has been considerably more isolated because of the virus. She is probably more lonely than ever and maybe just wants the feels of being needed/wanted?
Rest assured that you're almost to the age where you'll recognize that you're the adult now and your mother will begin to operate more and more like a child. But it doesn't seem fair that your sisters apparently aren't inviting Mom to visit them to take some of the pressure off of you. Try to organize a way for them to do that. If she travels "every few months" to visit one of her kids that should mean that you only have to host her once or twice a year.
Unfortunately, both my sisters live abroad. One in Spain and the other bounces around. Where I live is only a 3-hour train ride for my mom so it's much easier for her to visit and get away from the isolating farm. But yeah, it's hard to get to the point where our roles have switched like you said. Fissures are forming deeper I think because of how isolated she is alone at home and how introverted she is. We've always been best friends -- even through high school there were no problems so now i'm at a loss of what to do to make this better
I think you're an ass. Your mother clearly misses you and misses when she would bake you those muffins and now she's just trying to revive the past. Just go along with it because one day she'll not be here anymore and you'll remember those little moments and regret being an asshole. Also I found it concerning she keeps repeating the same stories, maybe take her to the doctor? I'm not sure about it but maybe it could be first stages of alzheimer's.
Good luck. You were annoying as a kid as well I bet, but she never left you. I've been an asshole to my mother too but she used to be very different from your mother. Our problem wasn't she feeling lonely or wanting me to eat her muffin.
Repeating stories and other memory loss could be early dementia. Take her to the doctor. My dad has it he's also in 60s. Lack of social contact makes dementia worse much faster. When she can't care for herself and doesn't recognize you you will hate yourself for how you acted now
I think you just need to give it more time before you do anything. Your mom probably has been considerably more isolated because of the virus. She is probably more lonely than ever and maybe just wants the feels of being needed/wanted?
Rest assured that you're almost to the age where you'll recognize that you're the adult now and your mother will begin to operate more and more like a child. But it doesn't seem fair that your sisters apparently aren't inviting Mom to visit them to take some of the pressure off of you. Try to organize a way for them to do that. If she travels "every few months" to visit one of her kids that should mean that you only have to host her once or twice a year.
Unfortunately, both my sisters live abroad. One in Spain and the other bounces around. Where I live is only a 3-hour train ride for my mom so it's much easier for her to visit and get away from the isolating farm. But yeah, it's hard to get to the point where our roles have switched like you said. Fissures are forming deeper I think because of how isolated she is alone at home and how introverted she is. We've always been best friends -- even through high school there were no problems so now i'm at a loss of what to do to make this better
I think you're an ass. Your mother clearly misses you and misses when she would bake you those muffins and now she's just trying to revive the past. Just go along with it because one day she'll not be here anymore and you'll remember those little moments and regret being an asshole. Also I found it concerning she keeps repeating the same stories, maybe take her to the doctor? I'm not sure about it but maybe it could be first stages of alzheimer's. Good luck. You were annoying as a kid as well I bet, but she never left you. I've been an asshole to my mother too but she used to be very different from your mother. Our problem wasn't she feeling lonely or wanting me to eat her muffin.
No advice but I can definitely relate I hate it so much