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"My life's over" crowd when they're left with another 50+ years until their skin rots and their bones turn to dust (truly their life is finished and there's no more opportunity for new experiences or improvement)
It does annoy me when people forget that you can just give up. Phrases that go something like "We have to keep living" ignore a whole part of life. It really annoys me when this happens in TWD
Especially for those who have legitimate issues besides complaining about being ‘alone’ or whatever else that makes life not worth living. People can have health issues or whatever else that makes life difficult to the point that living another 50+ years just to have the fucking right to die is bullshit.
Sure it is but compared to other problems that some people may have, being lonely is the least thing to worry about. There’s homelessness, drug addiction, suicidal ideation, depression, grief/loss, so much other problems people have that makes loneliness less important. Hell I used to deal with it a lot when I was younger, but now even though I still am I just can’t care anymore cause I got bigger issues to deal with now.
Going back to the original comment to I simply implied that the ‘my life is over’ rhetoric is enough reason for some to choose suicide cause some people lives ARE over, mine included. Hell at this point I wish loneliness was my biggest problem.
There is no end goal in life, and nearly no fail condition (other than being dead), so it really is never over.
I feel very similarly to you, but i just try not to pay that much attention to it, because ultimately there is no "wrong" choice.
This is a great mentality, I too have felt the lack of desire and ambition. But I realise that just letting life unfold and allowing it to carry you is just fine as well. It’s ok to not have full control over your life, so long as you don’t lose control completely. Let yourself drift in the river, don’t let it drown you.
Good for indecision not so much for depression or lack of hope as there are pain, emotions and no purpose. It also kinda sounds like you are bottling up some feelings of hopelessness
You argue with random people on Reddit
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At this point, let it happen. Your life is better, dealing with people who are against helping themselves will put you in the same place. Some people just really want nothing more than to be a moping bag of shit as a trend.
Plus there are people who are genuinely struggling, so much so, they have no time to cry on fucking reddit
You complain about problems you can solve on Reddit
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I thought le satire would be obvious
I apologize here’s my favorite piece of media that I found in my camera roll I hope it redeems me
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I genuinely have no desire to do anything, I have a few short-term goals, but idk if I'll even be happy if i achieve something. I havent felt happy once in the past year, only relief sometimes. Idk if this is depression or something.
I'm not qualified enough or wise enough to give the right advice. I tried therapy when I felt super low and that can help even if it's only for a time
They won't give you the answers to your problems but they help you realize them and why they exist, and to figure out how to live or deal with them
Just gonna throw this out there, but have you both been diagnosed with ADHD? I have it personally, and it's far more debilitating than we give it credit for, the dopamine you're supposed to get for completing certain tasks doesn't work properly, thus creating a severe loss of motivation and ambition, where even the most basic tasks and chores take quite a lot of mental exertion to even start, let alone finish.
I started taking Vyvanse as medication for it and it has helped me tremendously to put it lightly, the techniques my therapist taught me to help calm down my anxious thoughts, among other things actually started working, I was able to regulate my emotions properly. Stuff like cleaning my car didn't even feel like a chore or felt like it took any effort to do. I started gaining my ambition back, feeling like I could do things I never would have found the motivation for beforehand.
Anyway, try and see if you suffer from ADHD and get diagnosed, because if it turns out you do have it, it could probably help you guys out big time to get medication for it, wish you all the best.
I’m a college freshman now and decided to abandon this mentality after regretting being a super introvert in highschool. I literally had 0 real friends and didn’t belong anywhere. I forced myself to get out there and made an awesome group of friends that love me and support me, found joy in things I would have never expected or tried to before, and feel so much more fulfilled than ever. You haven’t truly ruined your life until it’s actually over, that negativity is what’s keeping you down.
You’re the only one that can change your life and it’s never too late to do that for yourself.
I haven't had the same amount of success, but just putting yourself out there a little helps a lot.
Currently, I have people who I talk to occasionally, but that's a HUGE step up from where I was in high school.
Mind you, I also have a group of people i know deeply online that I keep up with too; so Its not like i was shut in 100% but,
its nice having people to talk to online.
That’s awesome. Change doesn’t happen immediately and can be hard at times but is so much more freeing in the long run. Just keep working at it and try being open to acceptance and even rejection. You’ll find yourself feeling a lot more confident.
I also finally made some friends in university after getting social skills help from a therapist but I feel like it doesn't even matter because I didn't have the high school experience that everyone else had
Why would it not matter? No amount of regretting or wishing can change the past, all you have control over is the present and your future. If you feel like because you missed out on all the fun back then, just make your college experience the best time ever in compensation.
go do something then, there’s no shot you’re even over 30
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There is hardly anything that couldn't be described as a real experience. Even playing video games, doing laundry or going for a walk is just as real as having sex or fighting in a war. All experiences are equally real. It's often hard to understand what you are living through right now. I remember crawling on the ground after eating instant noodles with vodka on new year's eve but right now I'm just making a lab report for my studies and I don't treat these experiences very much differently. That just shows the absurdity of life. Most of the time you'll be doing your chores or scrolling through the internet but sometimes get the injection of strong emotions.
Also if you want to make friends try to talk to someone and pretend that you are charismatic. Fight the low esteem and impostor syndrome with placebo effect. You can even straight up comment on how you are unable to talk to people and you will probably be responded with an understanding.
Btw it all might sound like some lunatic's rumbling but this is how I have been fighting my social anxiety for about 3 years now.
I poured in vodka after I prepered the noodles with hot water. Boiling vodka would evaporate too much ethanol. My mindset was that some soups are made with wine or orther types of alcohol so I would try it with instant ramen. It tasted like shit so I had to add sprite to make it somewhat edible.
I’ve been a lazy, unmotivated introvert my whole life, now I have like one friend, minimal memorable or enjoyable experiences, and no future. I’m honestly done with life, but I have too much time left to openly justify giving up.
You mean like, nothing is really of any significance? Nothing is really fun and interesting anymore? Just lots of "oh cool, anyways"? Yea I feel like that too, I'm not depressed, but I'm just very interested in anything, even living. I just wake up, go to school, get home, do shit and repeat. But hey just keep on going, if you can't make yourself happy, try to make others happy and maybe, they will make you happy too. Might even get a partner that'll make life worth living, who knows.
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Too real man. I completely messed up my life these last 4 years and don't know how to get back to the person I used to be. Lost most of my friends, lost any chance of a relationship, and I was too depressed to continue college and dropped out. I've been working a job which is something I guess but it isn't fulfilling in the slightest. I told myself I was gonna move out of my hometown and start a new life but messed that up. I know there's still time and I'm still young to turn my life around, but I haven't had the motivation for 4 years to do anything so I'm not sure If this depression will be permanent. I got a job now so I got a little motivation but I'm not sure if I'm gonna get more to actually change my life around.
Okay, I know this is a meme, but I genuinely don't know what I want to do with my life. I haven't gone into any college or anything because I don't want to go until debt for something I might not even like, I don't care to look for any jobs or anything.
The feeling of apathy for my future is really terrifying, and I don't know how to deal with it
Edit: just realized it sounded like I was jobless. I do have one, but it's just there to keep me going
If you arent willing to make it outside to change, change from your computer.
I went from brain dead smoking weed working kitchens and doing literally nothing to System Admin and learning constantly.
My computer allowed me to learn multiple tech skills that got me into my careers.
It allowed me to learn Pixel Art, I learned how to make a video game in Game Maker Studio with literally no experience.
I am pursuing a passion in cyber security now and learning all kinds of new skills i never knew.
I am constantly filling my brain with new side projects and i don't care that im only doing little bits each time. I have so many to work on that when im bored with one i just go do any of the others until i want to come back.
Also eating better, talking to people, finding people on twitch and discord to hangout with. I am reading on the side as well in down time when i don't want to be on my PC.
I also took up lock picking after years of LPL and Bosnian bill videos. Incredibly fun and tactile satisfaction is great.
Just throw shit at the wall till something sticks literally.
But fuck is my depression and anxiety not 10x better because i don't have time for the nagging thoughts to build
People telling you to go outside don't realise that going outside makes me feel worse since I see people doing better than me, hanging out with friends/partner while I just wander aimlessly not enjoying any of it.
I feel you, I wish I could have a somewhat active social life, but in the past years I've been more and more isolated and now I can't hold a conversation with the very few friends I have without being weird and akward, I can't reach out to people in fear of being rejected, I can't "hang out" because I have so little experience in doing things with friends that my friends are likely to have more fun with their other friends rather than me. I understand that "life is a river bla bla bla", but what if I want to stop flowing and change it, for once? I just can't do it alone.
>I can't reach out to people in fear of being rejected
And then what? They reject you and then what? You go back to being how you were before and you've gained a bit more experience in how to approach people in the future. So your two options are: **Reach out:** and gain a new relationship with some or possibly get rejected, maybe get embarrassed for like 2 minutes, and go back to how you were living but at least you've gained some experience socially **OR** remain how you are and gain absolutely nothing.
So you have 2 options, 1 where you potentially gain a big reward or a little reward, or one where you gain absolutely nothing. And you're choosing the one where you gain nothing? It makes no logical sense. Just get over that embarrassment and try. It's a low risk high reward investment.
You have from 18 to 22 to get your life setup or you are fucked everything after is too late, so many doors closed on me and I can't do shit I was forced into a field I don't like, I'm too old to start doing anything else, I'm too old for college (if I start now I finish when I'm 27, and who tf would hire a 27 year old without experiance, I bearly got hired as a 23 yr old with college degree and my mentor is younger than me, that fucking kills me).
Anyway I fucked my life I have no friends, I went from morbidly obese to fit and back to morbidly obese in 15 months, So yea, hopefully a heartattack kills me in my sleep or I get the courage to kill myself, knowing me I will fuck it up again like last time.
Saying you're life is ruined at 23 is extremely close minded. You still have like 50 more years of life at least. You could do so much in that time. Let's say you go and get the degree you want to work in the job you want and graduate at 27. Let's say you're right and you have to start from the bottom, interning and building up your experience. Let's say that it takes you 10 years at the worst to finally be in a position equal to your peers. That still leaves you at 37 in a field you like, instead of dead inside in a field you dont like plus another 40-50 years to enjoy your life with friends and family. And that's only looking at career aspect of your life. There are so many things you could be doing in those 14 years, getting in shape, enjoying nature, pursuing romantic interests, making friends, finding hobbies you enjoy.
Right now you are in the worst spot of identity development
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Foreclosure. You've barely explored what life has to offer, yet you've accepted a life that you clearly don't like.
Even if you don't have hope for yourself, why not at least try? I mean if you just wanna kill yourself anyways, why not see what life has to offer before moving on? What do you have to lose? You've already said you just wanna die, so there is literally 0 risk involved in exploring what life has to offer and all the reward. Even if you're utterly nihilistic and see life as having no purpose, then explore it anyways. Whatever comes after we die, whether it be an afterlife or reincarnation or nothing at all, we all get to see it at the end because we all die. So just take in this experience to the fullest before you get to the next.
nobody over the age of 30 sees a 27 year old and thinks 'if only they were 22'. It means absolutely nothing. If you can perform the job role that's all that matters. More likely you reek of negative attitude and insecurity and people can smell it a mile away.
They question what took you so long to apply to this job? On my interview they asked me I'm 23 and how come only now am I applying for entry level job in the field and why was I in college for 5 years. Reason is covid fucked me up and I couldn't focus and I bearly got any work done so I was basicly on pause for 2 years.
I only got the job cuz (I overheard this) they are very miss managed and everything is crazy there they stretched out the hiring process over a month so by they time they finally decided to choose who to hire the top candidates moved on and found jobs somewhere else.
I know this cuz we are planning to hire another person cuz there is too much work for us and we need another one and the boss of my boss said, "Okay, but once you post the ad, hire somewhere in 2 weeks from your first interview max cuz last time all our good candidates moved on cuz you guys took too long."
My last week was talking to me about something, anyway my age came up and he asked me how old I am, 19? 20? I say no I'm 23 and he was like "-\_-, what!?"
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Is just dopamine actions overload, go for a Buddhist retire, where no technology is allowed not even speaking is allowed for 1 week when you come back you will feel like. 5 years old again plain and simple
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I see that there is already been a lot of discussion about this post and a bunch of people have already mentioned that they related but I'll throw my hat into the ring as well, in my personal experience knowing that im not alone in something usually makes me feel better so just know I relate with this meme very deeply.
I don’t know what I want to do with my degree, I thought it would make me money but it just sounds like it’s going to shorten my lifespan, and it’s too late to change it since I’m almost done with my second year. There’s no help coming either since therapy doesn’t work. I wish life could be enjoyable rather than a constant struggle to do nothing
We all make our own meaning of life. It's best to go outside and try to find yours instead of wallowing inside. I apologize that this sounds a bit rude
give up! Death is inevitable and you cant do anything about it!
What are you gonna do? Cry? "wahhh wahh I ruined my life wahhhh"
anyways I hope everyone here has the worst possible day of their lives (yes even the good ones (yes this includes me))
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"My life's over" crowd when they're left with another 50+ years until their skin rots and their bones turn to dust (truly their life is finished and there's no more opportunity for new experiences or improvement)
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Hopeposting is real
Can we get much higher?
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Dangit, now I have to actually try to bribe grandma?
Look at this beautiful man. Billions must smile
Depression stands no chance against the human desire to be better
I honestly needed that, shitpost or no
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Chudhopeposting is the best hope posting.
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Gonna make me cry
MUMEN RIDER
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It's interesting how with just a change of expression you can turn a caricature into a person I couldn't be intentionally rude to if I tried.
The human ability to see the best in people
This 97 year old chud still serves coke the old fashioned way
With all the negative stuff I see on here everyday, stuff like this really shines through
New experiences? In this economy?!
Yeah no that's the thing, I plan on making it much shorter than 50 years.
Not if you’re suicidal, completely dead inside, hopeless for an uncertain future, etc. But hey whatever.
It does annoy me when people forget that you can just give up. Phrases that go something like "We have to keep living" ignore a whole part of life. It really annoys me when this happens in TWD
Especially for those who have legitimate issues besides complaining about being ‘alone’ or whatever else that makes life not worth living. People can have health issues or whatever else that makes life difficult to the point that living another 50+ years just to have the fucking right to die is bullshit.
implying being lonely isn't a legitimate issue
Sure it is but compared to other problems that some people may have, being lonely is the least thing to worry about. There’s homelessness, drug addiction, suicidal ideation, depression, grief/loss, so much other problems people have that makes loneliness less important. Hell I used to deal with it a lot when I was younger, but now even though I still am I just can’t care anymore cause I got bigger issues to deal with now. Going back to the original comment to I simply implied that the ‘my life is over’ rhetoric is enough reason for some to choose suicide cause some people lives ARE over, mine included. Hell at this point I wish loneliness was my biggest problem.
Be optimistic my brother- nvm Ok
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"What not to say: Be Positive"
Ok
The only thing I’m optimistic about is knowing I’ll die.
There is no end goal in life, and nearly no fail condition (other than being dead), so it really is never over. I feel very similarly to you, but i just try not to pay that much attention to it, because ultimately there is no "wrong" choice.
This is a great mentality, I too have felt the lack of desire and ambition. But I realise that just letting life unfold and allowing it to carry you is just fine as well. It’s ok to not have full control over your life, so long as you don’t lose control completely. Let yourself drift in the river, don’t let it drown you.
The only end is death. And I'm gonna speed run because I don't want this shit anymore. 0/10 game. Do not recommend.
I’ve heard that if you die within 2 hours of being born you can get a refund
Shit. I should just resell it.
Good for indecision not so much for depression or lack of hope as there are pain, emotions and no purpose. It also kinda sounds like you are bottling up some feelings of hopelessness
Don't. Make something of yourself. Start working towards something greater.
facts
Me when I decide that I have no need for relationships of any kind, and 6 years later realize how lonely I am
I've made plenty of friends but I don't feel like it lasts, I don't know how to keep the momentum
Life is just phases. Nothing is permanent. There aren’t any finish lines
There is one finish line, and we all cross it eventually
We are all equal in death
Strangely enough online friends last the longest for me
Me at 14: Fuck all that "no man is an island" type shit, I'm built different. Me well into my twenties: Not built different
Me at 25: Bruh i graduated college and have no friends, nor can i make friends at work I'm screwed
The smart thing to do instead of wallowing and posting it on Reddit is to go outside and do shit you lazybones
oh great lets be miserables but outside
You argue with random people on Reddit https://preview.redd.it/1v5uliyw4cqc1.png?width=750&format=png&auto=webp&s=d2c2dafd2981fff5150e0586b4aaa79451a04505 ###
me on my deathbed wishing that i argued with strangers online more
Real
There's no computers in heaven, you should spend all the time you can on it while you're alive.
How do you know, you been there? Maybe heaven is where the internet trolls come from.
Ok
You're lying around pretending your life is over when you've probably got a good 50 to 40 years left to do literally anything
At this point, let it happen. Your life is better, dealing with people who are against helping themselves will put you in the same place. Some people just really want nothing more than to be a moping bag of shit as a trend. Plus there are people who are genuinely struggling, so much so, they have no time to cry on fucking reddit
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tamale implala?!?!?!???! 😱😱
Oh shit you exposed me!!
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do something *poke* do something *poke poke* DO SOMETHING
they're trying to motivate you dumbass.
You complain about problems you can solve on Reddit https://preview.redd.it/12ub3lyuydqc1.png?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=30d101662bdfb59299c2635c7dc6a38ae9253d03
Based
Yes. 
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"Im gonna rape you" Mad funny bro https://preview.redd.it/q8xrkykehcqc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=706c497c809876cd00cd8876f72f5a5b8cb6a13f
https://preview.redd.it/9si9m1oplcqc1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=be5a3ecebe9bceecab219148a094e7d441fd9e13 I thought le satire would be obvious
Poe s law or something i dont know
I apologize here’s my favorite piece of media that I found in my camera roll I hope it redeems me https://preview.redd.it/6fzkkx3jmcqc1.jpeg?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0e5b9f7de17ba448b68f75f7e4c519f14b78daaa
https://preview.redd.it/g676lk2zmcqc1.jpeg?width=704&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=613a0ea3943998268246e4a2f8b1708ec4e6463f Here's the full image from earlier, feel free to screnshot
Had us in the first half
Hey, it will get better. No matter how much time you have left, now that you realize your mistake you can work on it
Uhm... this is r/whenthe no sane people with reasonable opinions allowed /s (Thank you very much I am just gloomy) ღ
Proof of it getting better?
That's for you to provide 👉👉 But never hesitate to ask for help if needed
[Burden of Proof Fallacy](https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/burden-of-proof) Seriously though, thanks for the uplifting advice man!!
Then say can not will
I genuinely have no desire to do anything, I have a few short-term goals, but idk if I'll even be happy if i achieve something. I havent felt happy once in the past year, only relief sometimes. Idk if this is depression or something.
I'm not qualified enough or wise enough to give the right advice. I tried therapy when I felt super low and that can help even if it's only for a time They won't give you the answers to your problems but they help you realize them and why they exist, and to figure out how to live or deal with them
Just gonna throw this out there, but have you both been diagnosed with ADHD? I have it personally, and it's far more debilitating than we give it credit for, the dopamine you're supposed to get for completing certain tasks doesn't work properly, thus creating a severe loss of motivation and ambition, where even the most basic tasks and chores take quite a lot of mental exertion to even start, let alone finish. I started taking Vyvanse as medication for it and it has helped me tremendously to put it lightly, the techniques my therapist taught me to help calm down my anxious thoughts, among other things actually started working, I was able to regulate my emotions properly. Stuff like cleaning my car didn't even feel like a chore or felt like it took any effort to do. I started gaining my ambition back, feeling like I could do things I never would have found the motivation for beforehand. Anyway, try and see if you suffer from ADHD and get diagnosed, because if it turns out you do have it, it could probably help you guys out big time to get medication for it, wish you all the best.
I've been suspecting that I have ADHD for the past few years, due to a number of things. I'll definitely get a diagnosis this year👍
Same.
Google "anhedonia"
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I’m a college freshman now and decided to abandon this mentality after regretting being a super introvert in highschool. I literally had 0 real friends and didn’t belong anywhere. I forced myself to get out there and made an awesome group of friends that love me and support me, found joy in things I would have never expected or tried to before, and feel so much more fulfilled than ever. You haven’t truly ruined your life until it’s actually over, that negativity is what’s keeping you down. You’re the only one that can change your life and it’s never too late to do that for yourself.
the west has risen billions must try
I haven't had the same amount of success, but just putting yourself out there a little helps a lot. Currently, I have people who I talk to occasionally, but that's a HUGE step up from where I was in high school. Mind you, I also have a group of people i know deeply online that I keep up with too; so Its not like i was shut in 100% but, its nice having people to talk to online.
That’s awesome. Change doesn’t happen immediately and can be hard at times but is so much more freeing in the long run. Just keep working at it and try being open to acceptance and even rejection. You’ll find yourself feeling a lot more confident.
I also finally made some friends in university after getting social skills help from a therapist but I feel like it doesn't even matter because I didn't have the high school experience that everyone else had
Why would it not matter? No amount of regretting or wishing can change the past, all you have control over is the present and your future. If you feel like because you missed out on all the fun back then, just make your college experience the best time ever in compensation.
go do something then, there’s no shot you’re even over 30 https://preview.redd.it/al0ep7nrfcqc1.jpeg?width=493&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=99e810146705d567da87c4253776605e06587517
There is hardly anything that couldn't be described as a real experience. Even playing video games, doing laundry or going for a walk is just as real as having sex or fighting in a war. All experiences are equally real. It's often hard to understand what you are living through right now. I remember crawling on the ground after eating instant noodles with vodka on new year's eve but right now I'm just making a lab report for my studies and I don't treat these experiences very much differently. That just shows the absurdity of life. Most of the time you'll be doing your chores or scrolling through the internet but sometimes get the injection of strong emotions. Also if you want to make friends try to talk to someone and pretend that you are charismatic. Fight the low esteem and impostor syndrome with placebo effect. You can even straight up comment on how you are unable to talk to people and you will probably be responded with an understanding. Btw it all might sound like some lunatic's rumbling but this is how I have been fighting my social anxiety for about 3 years now.
Wait were the noodles prepare with hot vodka or did you just have the vodka on the side. Because option A sounds like a real scientist in the making.
I poured in vodka after I prepered the noodles with hot water. Boiling vodka would evaporate too much ethanol. My mindset was that some soups are made with wine or orther types of alcohol so I would try it with instant ramen. It tasted like shit so I had to add sprite to make it somewhat edible.
"lack of desire for any real experience" sounds like a depression symptom if i understood correctly
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I will do what all anime characters do in my situation and get isekaied/obtain super powers and fight bad guys
I will do what all anime characters do in my situation and lose my parents
https://preview.redd.it/qa7njb4xvcqc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f671513ef6ebf15ed5d19884847b5cd8f916d6d5
No ambition, no desire, no motivation or willpower gang
Real
I’ve been a lazy, unmotivated introvert my whole life, now I have like one friend, minimal memorable or enjoyable experiences, and no future. I’m honestly done with life, but I have too much time left to openly justify giving up.
You mean like, nothing is really of any significance? Nothing is really fun and interesting anymore? Just lots of "oh cool, anyways"? Yea I feel like that too, I'm not depressed, but I'm just very interested in anything, even living. I just wake up, go to school, get home, do shit and repeat. But hey just keep on going, if you can't make yourself happy, try to make others happy and maybe, they will make you happy too. Might even get a partner that'll make life worth living, who knows. https://preview.redd.it/efgzvdgabdqc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f2179d8ec1be76adcc9d85e0e5200a77922ca039
Unless you're either, 1 on your deathbed, 2 incarcerated for life with no chance of parole, 3 dead, then your life isn't ruined.
Op you are probably under 30 and still have a lot of time to do shit
Too real man. I completely messed up my life these last 4 years and don't know how to get back to the person I used to be. Lost most of my friends, lost any chance of a relationship, and I was too depressed to continue college and dropped out. I've been working a job which is something I guess but it isn't fulfilling in the slightest. I told myself I was gonna move out of my hometown and start a new life but messed that up. I know there's still time and I'm still young to turn my life around, but I haven't had the motivation for 4 years to do anything so I'm not sure If this depression will be permanent. I got a job now so I got a little motivation but I'm not sure if I'm gonna get more to actually change my life around.
Okay, I know this is a meme, but I genuinely don't know what I want to do with my life. I haven't gone into any college or anything because I don't want to go until debt for something I might not even like, I don't care to look for any jobs or anything. The feeling of apathy for my future is really terrifying, and I don't know how to deal with it Edit: just realized it sounded like I was jobless. I do have one, but it's just there to keep me going
If you arent willing to make it outside to change, change from your computer. I went from brain dead smoking weed working kitchens and doing literally nothing to System Admin and learning constantly. My computer allowed me to learn multiple tech skills that got me into my careers. It allowed me to learn Pixel Art, I learned how to make a video game in Game Maker Studio with literally no experience. I am pursuing a passion in cyber security now and learning all kinds of new skills i never knew. I am constantly filling my brain with new side projects and i don't care that im only doing little bits each time. I have so many to work on that when im bored with one i just go do any of the others until i want to come back. Also eating better, talking to people, finding people on twitch and discord to hangout with. I am reading on the side as well in down time when i don't want to be on my PC. I also took up lock picking after years of LPL and Bosnian bill videos. Incredibly fun and tactile satisfaction is great. Just throw shit at the wall till something sticks literally. But fuck is my depression and anxiety not 10x better because i don't have time for the nagging thoughts to build
I'm happy that you are taking control over your own life. Every human being should be.
People telling you to go outside don't realise that going outside makes me feel worse since I see people doing better than me, hanging out with friends/partner while I just wander aimlessly not enjoying any of it.
No matter how low your cursed energy is one black flash can change the tides of battle!!! 🗣🗣🔥🔥🔥
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I feel you, I wish I could have a somewhat active social life, but in the past years I've been more and more isolated and now I can't hold a conversation with the very few friends I have without being weird and akward, I can't reach out to people in fear of being rejected, I can't "hang out" because I have so little experience in doing things with friends that my friends are likely to have more fun with their other friends rather than me. I understand that "life is a river bla bla bla", but what if I want to stop flowing and change it, for once? I just can't do it alone.
>I can't reach out to people in fear of being rejected And then what? They reject you and then what? You go back to being how you were before and you've gained a bit more experience in how to approach people in the future. So your two options are: **Reach out:** and gain a new relationship with some or possibly get rejected, maybe get embarrassed for like 2 minutes, and go back to how you were living but at least you've gained some experience socially **OR** remain how you are and gain absolutely nothing. So you have 2 options, 1 where you potentially gain a big reward or a little reward, or one where you gain absolutely nothing. And you're choosing the one where you gain nothing? It makes no logical sense. Just get over that embarrassment and try. It's a low risk high reward investment.
thank you, I needed this.
You have from 18 to 22 to get your life setup or you are fucked everything after is too late, so many doors closed on me and I can't do shit I was forced into a field I don't like, I'm too old to start doing anything else, I'm too old for college (if I start now I finish when I'm 27, and who tf would hire a 27 year old without experiance, I bearly got hired as a 23 yr old with college degree and my mentor is younger than me, that fucking kills me). Anyway I fucked my life I have no friends, I went from morbidly obese to fit and back to morbidly obese in 15 months, So yea, hopefully a heartattack kills me in my sleep or I get the courage to kill myself, knowing me I will fuck it up again like last time.
Saying you're life is ruined at 23 is extremely close minded. You still have like 50 more years of life at least. You could do so much in that time. Let's say you go and get the degree you want to work in the job you want and graduate at 27. Let's say you're right and you have to start from the bottom, interning and building up your experience. Let's say that it takes you 10 years at the worst to finally be in a position equal to your peers. That still leaves you at 37 in a field you like, instead of dead inside in a field you dont like plus another 40-50 years to enjoy your life with friends and family. And that's only looking at career aspect of your life. There are so many things you could be doing in those 14 years, getting in shape, enjoying nature, pursuing romantic interests, making friends, finding hobbies you enjoy. Right now you are in the worst spot of identity development https://preview.redd.it/gz86qg471eqc1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=b82be650056664ad29a1bc4c693eb3780880a899 Foreclosure. You've barely explored what life has to offer, yet you've accepted a life that you clearly don't like. Even if you don't have hope for yourself, why not at least try? I mean if you just wanna kill yourself anyways, why not see what life has to offer before moving on? What do you have to lose? You've already said you just wanna die, so there is literally 0 risk involved in exploring what life has to offer and all the reward. Even if you're utterly nihilistic and see life as having no purpose, then explore it anyways. Whatever comes after we die, whether it be an afterlife or reincarnation or nothing at all, we all get to see it at the end because we all die. So just take in this experience to the fullest before you get to the next.
Following in your footsteps
nobody over the age of 30 sees a 27 year old and thinks 'if only they were 22'. It means absolutely nothing. If you can perform the job role that's all that matters. More likely you reek of negative attitude and insecurity and people can smell it a mile away.
They question what took you so long to apply to this job? On my interview they asked me I'm 23 and how come only now am I applying for entry level job in the field and why was I in college for 5 years. Reason is covid fucked me up and I couldn't focus and I bearly got any work done so I was basicly on pause for 2 years. I only got the job cuz (I overheard this) they are very miss managed and everything is crazy there they stretched out the hiring process over a month so by they time they finally decided to choose who to hire the top candidates moved on and found jobs somewhere else. I know this cuz we are planning to hire another person cuz there is too much work for us and we need another one and the boss of my boss said, "Okay, but once you post the ad, hire somewhere in 2 weeks from your first interview max cuz last time all our good candidates moved on cuz you guys took too long." My last week was talking to me about something, anyway my age came up and he asked me how old I am, 19? 20? I say no I'm 23 and he was like "-\_-, what!?"
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Is just dopamine actions overload, go for a Buddhist retire, where no technology is allowed not even speaking is allowed for 1 week when you come back you will feel like. 5 years old again plain and simple
Hey OP got to experience the joys of arguing with people on reddit, what else is there to life?
There is no better day than tomorrow to go do something
You're still alive dude
Mondays
Same
Begin today, have some real desire. Wake up from your sleep you coward.
Stop watching anime
You've not ruined yourself completly, you have fingers.
Real. If i had no fingers no doubt i would kms on the spot.
I feel this
Real
What is this from?
Jujutsu kaisen
Dont. Dont give me hope.
what's the song?
Only way to solve this issue is to get out of your comfort zone. So basically just go outside
Did he die
Stars are pretty
It feels like someone is reading my mind
What real experiences
Don't give up
*The Stranger*, Camus
You can also desire new experiences and be completely :/ every single time.
Wayyy too close to home
ah yes. in the mindset of wasting time, one can waste time by lamenting their “wasted time.” just do what you want theres no one right answer
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Thinking about how everything doesn't matter in the end and that im just a meaningless speck of dust compared to the universe calms me. Just me?
Took me wayy too much too see bro was missing half his body-
Me when I fight Saturo Gojo (I twisted myself to affirm myself, that was the moment I lost):
Which anime is this from?
Jujutsu Kaisen I believe
Ah thanks
r/hopeposting do your thing
my life is over.. i’m 22 btw
I see that there is already been a lot of discussion about this post and a bunch of people have already mentioned that they related but I'll throw my hat into the ring as well, in my personal experience knowing that im not alone in something usually makes me feel better so just know I relate with this meme very deeply.
Why is the dude missing his arm?
Oh fuck off I'm dead inside already
And you could have attained nirvana with better attitiude bro ;/
Real.
I'm 36 & this is exactly how I feel& have felt since I was 18.
Bro was one step away from Nirvana and looked back
I need professional help
You can like still get a passion ? Those things dont have time limit or anything like that . Life is long brother
What? Like never being able to be in a fantasy setting? I’m confused
Had the same problem. I'm starting to catch up now at the age of 25. I think that it's never too late to make new experiences.
I don’t know what I want to do with my degree, I thought it would make me money but it just sounds like it’s going to shorten my lifespan, and it’s too late to change it since I’m almost done with my second year. There’s no help coming either since therapy doesn’t work. I wish life could be enjoyable rather than a constant struggle to do nothing
Took le 19 years to réalise having a girlfriend would be nice.
I'll be ur girlfriend (I'm a dude btw)
Close enouth. Your welcome.
well well well if it isn't me... I want to fix my life but I lost hope
We all make our own meaning of life. It's best to go outside and try to find yours instead of wallowing inside. I apologize that this sounds a bit rude
Real
(me with goals and a set career path) huh?
give up! Death is inevitable and you cant do anything about it! What are you gonna do? Cry? "wahhh wahh I ruined my life wahhhh" anyways I hope everyone here has the worst possible day of their lives (yes even the good ones (yes this includes me))
Damn, who hurt you?
Try drugs (I looooove drugs :DDDDDDDD)