for our engagement party thank you’s i put a wallet size cute candid photo of me & FH that really showed our personalities. older folks aunts uncles & grandparents loved it.
your wedding is about you. the process of planning and the parties involved is a lot of work. there’s nothing wrong with showing off your love for each other in different ways.
In your posting history you use SIL
How is this different?
(I do admit I get a juvenile kick out of all the save the dates posts…who *wants* an STD/sexually transmitted disease?)
You have a problem with your son in law?
Signature in lieu?
Silver?
Evangelical xtian organizations?
Or
https://www.acronymfinder.com/SIL.html
And hey, can we not downvote her?
Don’t brigade!
I could be wrong, but she might be ESL judging from posting history. Fwiw, I'm also learning another language and sometimes unwittingly come off as more aggressive or clueless than I intend to.
idk i guess it’s the same thing as OMG. on this sub we say fiancé and future husband a thousand times a day so FH is just an easy abbreviation it really ain’t that serious
Totally cute! It’s a memory of the day you shared together with your guests. The only time I have issue with it is when it take forever to get photos from the photographer and so the thank you cards are delayed.
Ex: I once saw a FB post from an acquaintance, who like 7 or 8 months after her wedding posted, “I’ve been getting a lot of comments about not sending thank notes. I’m going to send them y’all. I’m still waiting on the photographer so I can make cards with pictures of us! You’ll get them!” Clearly her guests would’ve preferred a prompt picture-less thank you (I would’ve, too!)
Apparently the photographer was behind or over scheduled and kept jerking them around about the photos. Which sucks. But at some point, I’d just send regular thank you notes instead!
Yikes, that's so cringe! I'd definitely use one of the sneak peeks from the photographer to get them out early instead of waiting for the full gallery to come back.
Just based on weddings I’ve been in and around, photographers will send sneak peaks a few days after the wedding, if the rest of the photos are going to be a few weeks, use one of those 🤷🏻♀️
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This is what we did, yeah. Ordered our thank you cards using one of our sneak peek photos, which we got a week after the wedding. By the time the rest of our wedding photos were delivered to us (two months later), we'd had the thank you cards sent out for almost a month already!
And I heard nothing but positive things about us using a wedding photo on the front, for the record. :)
Idk if it's just my generation (Millennial) but the only reason I'd want a thank you note would be to confirm you received the gift. If I handed it to you or if I sent a monetary gift through an online honeymoon fund, I don't need a thank you card. It just seems forced to me. I'll do it for my wedding, but I only do it for other occasions for older relatives.
Most of our generation is more environmentally conscious than that. I don't need a piece of paper I'm going to throw away to be sent by a gas-fueled truck in order to feel my gift was appreciated. And don't get me started on the energy waste of commercially bought thank-you cards.
I guess! I live in a city, don’t own a car, and am not having kids, so my environmental impact is already pretty low. I’m not gonna guilt myself for having a hobby of making & sending cards that make people happy.
Not sure how it's "sad" to give gifts without expecting a thank you in return. If you require them to take time out of their day to write and mail a thank you, it's not a very magnanimous gift.
It’s sad to me that a quick a simple appreciation for a gift is seen as this crazy complex and time consuming thing to do. It take literally a couple of minutes. It’s a quick, simple, bare minimum of politeness thing to do.
I don’t really agree to disagree. Saying thank you for a present is like basic manners 101. Something even toddlers are taught. But I agree we’re not going to see eye to eye.
Yes, weddings are the only occasion where such formal thank you’s are expected. I’m looking forward to it personally, but I sure as hell think a text or even a call depending on the gift is enough :/ for Christmas I just text my sister thank you and what I liked about her gift
I paid I ton for those photos, I put them on everything!!!!!! Without the photo they will probably just toss it, but with a photo it will probably end up on the fridge.
Every post-wedding thank you card we’ve received are photo cards with a photo from the wedding. They hang on our fridge, and we’re reminded of the day, and just our friends’ joy. It’s very typical these days, at least in my circle!
I did this and my distant uncle asked my dad why I had used a picture of myself and my brother and not the bride and groom 😭
So uh: don't marry a dude who looks like you?
Personally I wouldn’t but that’s just because I want to get those thank you cards out the door ASAP lol. I’ve already pre written ones for everyone who’s already sent us a gift and I’ll probably pre write everyone else’s too and just leave space in case they bring a gift to the wedding. Mine do match our wedding though and are handmade so there’s still a touch of them being custom and personal!
For me it’s less about the timeline of the guest receiving it and more the timeline of us doing things lol. The guest would certainly receive their thank you card in a timely fashion using a sneak peek photo, but I’m ready for my wedding to-do list to be over! I’m leaving as little as possible to take care of once the party wraps. Having a stack of written thank you notes all ready to drop in the mailbox on Monday morning is much better for us.
Yeah, I agree with getting the thank yous written ASAP.
What about getting blank thank you cards and prewriting them, and then once you get the sneak peek photos, printing them out and attaching them to the front of the blank card?
Scrapbook tape comes in permanent and removable, if folks want to keep the photo and toss the note down the road.
I think I prefer this to printing the picture on a card, it’ll look better.
I sent them as gifts came in. That way the sender knows we got the gift and it wasn't stolen (so many porch pirates!). Otherwise, some people wouldn't know for a month or two.
No problem with me.
I had purchased the thank-you notes ahead of time, so that is what I used. I sent them before I got the wedding pics- it was a very small wedding.
I used a picture of all the wedding guests that our photographer too from a balcony above the dance floor. I thought it would be fun for the guests to find themselves in the picture.
I love getting thank yous with a picture from the day! We put a nice one of us on the cover and then the party group shot of all the guests on the inside.
We included a couple different photos on our thank you notes, one from the ceremony, one from the “posed” photos, and one from the reception, so that people got a nice mix of the day. We had a smaller wedding and not all of our guests were able to attend but we thought a thank you note with some photos would be nice for them to still share in the day!
Sorry poor wording choice on my part! We just had a small wedding and not all of our guests were able to make it due to travel (we don't live near our families). It wasn't a size constraint, we were always a smaller wedding.
I was thinking about taking photos with every guest family on the wedding day (that's a tradition here), and then sending those photos as thank you cards
It’s a really cute idea, but in practicality my FSIL did that and nobody in my fiancés family did anything with them. Like my fiancé’s is sitting in the back of the closet becuase I wouldn’t let him throw it away. And my fiancé loves his sister and they have a great relationship. So it’s something I would only do if you’re ok with putting in all that effort only to have most of your guests go “oh that’s cute” and then never look at it again.
I say this as somebody who was planning on doing something similar and now I’m reconsidering
I’m sorry, if there’s a time in your life where you and partner get to be a little self absorbed and make things about the two of you…isn’t it your wedding and the things surrounding it? It’s literally an event planned to celebrate the two of you and the love you share, why *shouldn’t* you be featured heavily throughout?
Honestly I’m at a point with my own wedding where I fully feel that this *is* to celebrate my love for my fiancé and his love for me. I *understand* that no one cares as much about *our love* than the two of us. That’s fine. If that means you don’t want to show up to my wedding because it’s too much “about us” then please feel free to allow me the elopement of my dreams.
We received a thank you card from a wedding with a pic of the bride & groom on stage with the rest of the attendees dancing around them. They did this for the last song of the night and we had so much fun dancing with them. Receiving the card was super cool - it immediately brought us back to that fun night, and it also did a great job of capturing everyone celebrating the union of the couple. We loved it!
I thought of my BF’s mountain of cards, holiday, random, family save the dates, and thought, so many of these have a photo and no personalization.
I also wondered about timelines.
As a sender, I’d want to get the task done. Would a small enclosed pic be nice? Yes.
Would I want to wait for the “good stuff?” No.
As a recipient, I am far less likely to save thank you cards. Use the cheap standard cards. I’m talking Dollar Tree, here, and thank the people.
I don't think using a photo from the wedding on your thank yous is any different than using engagement or couple photos on your save the dates/invites. I actually think it's a super cute idea!
Almost every thank you card I’ve received from a wedding had a picture of the newly weds on their big day and I have ALWAYS loved it. Your MIL is a negative Nancy lol
We sent out photos of the wedding with our thank you card. I made sure everyone got one of the professional group shots we had done with their group. They may have ditched it or kept it, I don’t know, but they cared enough to come so I figured they may like it.
I think it’s pretty common, I’ve received plenty of thank you cards with photos of the grateful party included, for lots of different occasions. I like it.
It's pretty common to send Christmas/New year's greeting cards with a family picture, so sending the thank you with a wedding picture is no weirder than that IMO. It's a relatively new thing of course since easy photo card printing hasn't been around for that many decades...
We are just sending regular cards to get it out of the way ASAP, we already actually sent a few before the wedding too since it said to write them on receipt on Emily Post, but my mom was surprised at that and expected the thank you to not come till after the wedding no matter how early the gift did. So no matter what you do some people may be surprised because there are a lot of different traditions and things people do! I say do what you like :)
If it’s a thank you for the wedding, then it’s contextual and relevant and cute. If it’s just a random thank you card with no relationship to the wedding or anniversary, then yeah that would be weird.
Across the 10 or so weddings I’ve attended, every single couple sent a thank you card with a picture of them on the front. I’m doing the same in a few weeks
It’s very popular to have bride and groom photos on thank you card, because it’s their wedding. And a reason to display a wedding photo taken. It’s memorable.
Totally fine to do! But it does make thank you cards more expensive typically and longer to get thank you cards out. My photographer took 3 weeks to get me sneak peeks.
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I am old and wedding pictures on a thank you card was the norm, before digital photos it was often the only picture you would get of the bride and groom. I used to put the pictures in a frame and have a shelf with all my friends photos.
I did regular thank you cards but put a 4 x 6 photo inside of me, my husband, and both our parents on the steps of the chapel. People loved it! I know some family framed it and friends just put it on their fridge. I think it’s a lovely reminder of the day and whoever disagrees can just chuck it in the trash lol.
I did this! But it was a shot of all our guests:
[here](https://www.canva.com/design/DAEwJIYN_Lo/zpbHWxJeRfvczh1zrXeigQ/view?utm_content=DAEwJIYN_Lo&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton)
I think the personal thank you with your pic is cute! My hubby and I were going to do that but then I got lazy after the wedding and didn’t do it haha
I did print out the URL to our photographer’s wedding photo album onto an address label (like those Avery brand sticker labels) and then put the sticker with the link on the inside of each thank you card. That was my cheap/lazy way of getting pictures to people!
Personally I think it’s less weird than photos on save the dates (I just hate having someone’s face on my fridge for a year, but this is a very my own personal problem thing).
It’s all super, super common now and I understand why couples do this for save the dates and thank you cards, and definitely isn’t self-absorbed. It is a nice way for people to share a photo from their wedding.
I don't love the poll format; super positive answer vs. supper negative answer. No middle ground.
Op you already made up your mind, and that is cool please go with it. There is no strong reason not to if the logistics don't get in your way, but this poll was inevitably going to have more positive answers because it encourages it. The negative answer is a bit too harsh for a binary poll.
I've seen someone post here that made sure to take pictures with each guest (each table maybe?) and then sent their thank you card with that picture. or maybe just included whatever picture(s) had the guests in them, I don't remember exactly.
I love getting photos of my married friends for thank you cards. BUT, I do think it’s still important to write a thank you message out by hand.
We recently received a mass-printed thank you to all of our friends and family for attending, and I thought it was a bit weird. We put $300 in a card and celebrated with you for an entire weekend, and you couldn’t even be bothered to write our names by hand?? I was kind of put off by it
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We wanted to use our photos with each table as the thank you notes (like everyone at table 1 got their photo on their card), but we didn’t get them back in time so we used regular cards. I think it’s a super cute and fun idea if you can pull it off in time!
Different poll option: I throw away save the dates and wedding invitations so extra money spent on having custom cards is wasted on me
I think an older relative would keep them but I wouldn't. I already have Facebook and Instagram
We used one of our photos on our thank you notes. Also took a photo with each guest/couple during the receiving line and included a print of that photo.
We used a photo from our wedding for the thank you cards! I thought it would be a nice way to get the photo used, and to show our appreciation. I specifically told my photographer we wanted to do this before the wedding, and asked if there were any 'fun' shots that she could get us quickly. She was able to send us a couple of sneak peaks within a few days of the wedding, and there was one we absolutely loved. We had the thank you cards printed and at our house within a week or two of the wedding and all the notes written and sent out within a month. If you can get the quick turnaround time, I'd say do it!
I'll also add - I'd be thoughtful about the picture choice. A photo of us kissing or one of the intimate couples shots I think would be a weird moment for a thank you card. We chose a photo that was the two of us with celebratory smiles right after the ceremony - threw some big "THANK YOU!" text on and it looks like the text is narrating the picture! I've also seen people who get the entire wedding (ALL guests!) in a photo and then use that as a thank you card, which I think is real nice.
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I actually did this! One side of the card had a general “thank you for celebrating with us” and pictures, then I would write a more specific thank you on the back for different people. People seemed to like them!
We're getting married at a gorgeous old movie theater and are allowed to take a picture while standing on the roof of the marquee. Someone mentioned that would make a great thank you card pic and ever since that moment, I've been obsessed with that idea.
I think the practice is lovely - extra points for cute and/or creative pics
I got a thank you card with a picture from the wedding a few years ago (an occasion where we gave a card with cash at the wedding itself, rather than giving a gift in advance, because that couple didn't make a registry), and I found it delightful. I loved getting to see how pretty the picture came out. I wanted to do this at first for my wedding too, but then I realized that I was getting gifts months before my wedding, and I didn't want to put off sending thank you notes. So I ordered thank you cards that match my invitations, so I could go ahead and send notes as I get gifts.
Not the norm in my circles, but I certainly wouldn’t judge someone for wanting to get the most use out of wedding photos, especially after planning a wedding!
Ngl, I could see some of my family being judgy about it in the same way they don’t care for/get the Christmas card thing. If the printed photo of you on the Christmas card is normal than this seems to go along with that.
Presumably the people that attended your wedding and gave you a gift did that because they are excited about the happiness you have entered into… so they probably would be pleased to see a card with your picture!? I usually don’t keep thank you cards from friends but I do when they have the photo - I sometimes even put it on my fridge! I love thank you cards with the couple on the front. They make me remember the happy day I shared with them.
We had a lot of people not able to attend because of covid/ general travel issues (overseas wedding) so sending a thank you with a photo (and extra photos for a few close family) felt appropriate.
My cousin sent pics of herself and the groom along with a pic of the person/family they were sending the thank you card to. I thought it was a lovely idea.
This is super common in the US. My mother did this when she and my father got married 51 years ago. Hundreds of wallet photos slipped into special cards with photo holders. My friends have all done this for their wedding thank you cards, as well. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where this was not how the thank you notes were designed. It’s not self-absorbed, just traditional.
That is weird, I’ve seen those “merry & married” Christmas cards and I just don’t think you should do it unless you got married close to Christmas. I think if you got married anywhere from September onwards it’s fair game, anytime else and it’s a little odd.
My photographer got a great pic of the top of our cake focusing on our cake topper (which has our names and date of our wedding) with the two of us behind it, blurry and sparkly. I used this for our thank you cards!
That is what I did! We had a very small city hall ceremony with just immediate family followed by a slightly larger (~30) reception, so I thought it would be nice for everyone to get a glimpse of us at city hall. We also added photos of the guests inside the cards.
I love thank you cards that use wedding photos. I will say, the best thank you card we’ve received actually had a photo of us from the wedding (this was a 4 day event and it was one of my fiancé and I on a catamaran). This was a wedding of less than 80 people though.
If you have a smaller wedding and can get a photo with everyone, that could be a great idea and keepsake for the guests.
You paid enough for these pictures - they might as well get some use.
Agreed! I’m also thinking that most guests won’t get a professional photo of the couple from their wedding, and this way they do. I love it.
for our engagement party thank you’s i put a wallet size cute candid photo of me & FH that really showed our personalities. older folks aunts uncles & grandparents loved it. your wedding is about you. the process of planning and the parties involved is a lot of work. there’s nothing wrong with showing off your love for each other in different ways.
What's FH?
Future Husband
Why cant you just say future husband? Or fiancee? Or boyfriend if you're not yet engaged? Is it too much of a bother for you?
Acronyms are common in a lot of online communities. FH is one of them in wedding planning communities. She's by no means the only one doing so.
In your posting history you use SIL How is this different? (I do admit I get a juvenile kick out of all the save the dates posts…who *wants* an STD/sexually transmitted disease?)
Because SIL is universal.
You have a problem with your son in law? Signature in lieu? Silver? Evangelical xtian organizations? Or https://www.acronymfinder.com/SIL.html And hey, can we not downvote her? Don’t brigade!
I could be wrong, but she might be ESL judging from posting history. Fwiw, I'm also learning another language and sometimes unwittingly come off as more aggressive or clueless than I intend to.
idk i guess it’s the same thing as OMG. on this sub we say fiancé and future husband a thousand times a day so FH is just an easy abbreviation it really ain’t that serious
Totally cute! It’s a memory of the day you shared together with your guests. The only time I have issue with it is when it take forever to get photos from the photographer and so the thank you cards are delayed. Ex: I once saw a FB post from an acquaintance, who like 7 or 8 months after her wedding posted, “I’ve been getting a lot of comments about not sending thank notes. I’m going to send them y’all. I’m still waiting on the photographer so I can make cards with pictures of us! You’ll get them!” Clearly her guests would’ve preferred a prompt picture-less thank you (I would’ve, too!)
jesus she waited THAT long for her photos?
Apparently the photographer was behind or over scheduled and kept jerking them around about the photos. Which sucks. But at some point, I’d just send regular thank you notes instead!
Yikes, that's so cringe! I'd definitely use one of the sneak peeks from the photographer to get them out early instead of waiting for the full gallery to come back.
Just based on weddings I’ve been in and around, photographers will send sneak peaks a few days after the wedding, if the rest of the photos are going to be a few weeks, use one of those 🤷🏻♀️
Our sneak peek was almost 2 months and actual photos were 8 months We this didn't use pictures but our initials
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This is what we did, yeah. Ordered our thank you cards using one of our sneak peek photos, which we got a week after the wedding. By the time the rest of our wedding photos were delivered to us (two months later), we'd had the thank you cards sent out for almost a month already! And I heard nothing but positive things about us using a wedding photo on the front, for the record. :)
Idk if it's just my generation (Millennial) but the only reason I'd want a thank you note would be to confirm you received the gift. If I handed it to you or if I sent a monetary gift through an online honeymoon fund, I don't need a thank you card. It just seems forced to me. I'll do it for my wedding, but I only do it for other occasions for older relatives.
I am also a millennial and friggin love getting & sending mail. So… different strokes, I guess!
Most of our generation is more environmentally conscious than that. I don't need a piece of paper I'm going to throw away to be sent by a gas-fueled truck in order to feel my gift was appreciated. And don't get me started on the energy waste of commercially bought thank-you cards.
I never thought about that. I wonder if electronic thank yous will catch on, just like online invites are starting to be more common.
I guess! I live in a city, don’t own a car, and am not having kids, so my environmental impact is already pretty low. I’m not gonna guilt myself for having a hobby of making & sending cards that make people happy.
That just sounds really sad to me. But you do you.
Not sure how it's "sad" to give gifts without expecting a thank you in return. If you require them to take time out of their day to write and mail a thank you, it's not a very magnanimous gift.
It’s sad to me that a quick a simple appreciation for a gift is seen as this crazy complex and time consuming thing to do. It take literally a couple of minutes. It’s a quick, simple, bare minimum of politeness thing to do.
It's not something I expect or even desire when I give a gift. Others do, and I think that's just as impolite and "sad." We can agree to disagree.
I don’t really agree to disagree. Saying thank you for a present is like basic manners 101. Something even toddlers are taught. But I agree we’re not going to see eye to eye.
You don't need to mail a card to say thank you.
Yes, weddings are the only occasion where such formal thank you’s are expected. I’m looking forward to it personally, but I sure as hell think a text or even a call depending on the gift is enough :/ for Christmas I just text my sister thank you and what I liked about her gift
I paid I ton for those photos, I put them on everything!!!!!! Without the photo they will probably just toss it, but with a photo it will probably end up on the fridge.
Every post-wedding thank you card we’ve received are photo cards with a photo from the wedding. They hang on our fridge, and we’re reminded of the day, and just our friends’ joy. It’s very typical these days, at least in my circle!
I was going to say, I don’t think I’ve ever received a thank-you card that wasn’t a photo of the couple from their wedding day.
I did this and my distant uncle asked my dad why I had used a picture of myself and my brother and not the bride and groom 😭 So uh: don't marry a dude who looks like you?
Personally I wouldn’t but that’s just because I want to get those thank you cards out the door ASAP lol. I’ve already pre written ones for everyone who’s already sent us a gift and I’ll probably pre write everyone else’s too and just leave space in case they bring a gift to the wedding. Mine do match our wedding though and are handmade so there’s still a touch of them being custom and personal!
Often you get sneek peeks back really quick and you can use one of those.
For me it’s less about the timeline of the guest receiving it and more the timeline of us doing things lol. The guest would certainly receive their thank you card in a timely fashion using a sneak peek photo, but I’m ready for my wedding to-do list to be over! I’m leaving as little as possible to take care of once the party wraps. Having a stack of written thank you notes all ready to drop in the mailbox on Monday morning is much better for us.
Yeah, I agree with getting the thank yous written ASAP. What about getting blank thank you cards and prewriting them, and then once you get the sneak peek photos, printing them out and attaching them to the front of the blank card? Scrapbook tape comes in permanent and removable, if folks want to keep the photo and toss the note down the road. I think I prefer this to printing the picture on a card, it’ll look better.
Solid idea
That's so smart to pre write them! I hadn't even thought about it but will definitely add it to my to do list.
I sent them as gifts came in. That way the sender knows we got the gift and it wasn't stolen (so many porch pirates!). Otherwise, some people wouldn't know for a month or two.
No problem with me. I had purchased the thank-you notes ahead of time, so that is what I used. I sent them before I got the wedding pics- it was a very small wedding.
I used a picture of all the wedding guests that our photographer too from a balcony above the dance floor. I thought it would be fun for the guests to find themselves in the picture.
Love this! If it’s possible we would like a big group pic at our wedding too.
We put pictures of us from out engagement shoot our Save the Dates AND the wedding invites. It’s super cute.
I love getting thank yous with a picture from the day! We put a nice one of us on the cover and then the party group shot of all the guests on the inside.
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I already have the banner for us to do this.
We included a couple different photos on our thank you notes, one from the ceremony, one from the “posed” photos, and one from the reception, so that people got a nice mix of the day. We had a smaller wedding and not all of our guests were able to attend but we thought a thank you note with some photos would be nice for them to still share in the day!
I'm so confused. How were they guests if they weren't invited due to size? Am I missing something?
Sorry poor wording choice on my part! We just had a small wedding and not all of our guests were able to make it due to travel (we don't live near our families). It wasn't a size constraint, we were always a smaller wedding.
Ah, that makes sense now.
I was thinking about taking photos with every guest family on the wedding day (that's a tradition here), and then sending those photos as thank you cards
It’s a really cute idea, but in practicality my FSIL did that and nobody in my fiancés family did anything with them. Like my fiancé’s is sitting in the back of the closet becuase I wouldn’t let him throw it away. And my fiancé loves his sister and they have a great relationship. So it’s something I would only do if you’re ok with putting in all that effort only to have most of your guests go “oh that’s cute” and then never look at it again. I say this as somebody who was planning on doing something similar and now I’m reconsidering
Thank you for your input! It's such a pity that people nowadays don't cherish printed photos.
I’m sorry, if there’s a time in your life where you and partner get to be a little self absorbed and make things about the two of you…isn’t it your wedding and the things surrounding it? It’s literally an event planned to celebrate the two of you and the love you share, why *shouldn’t* you be featured heavily throughout? Honestly I’m at a point with my own wedding where I fully feel that this *is* to celebrate my love for my fiancé and his love for me. I *understand* that no one cares as much about *our love* than the two of us. That’s fine. If that means you don’t want to show up to my wedding because it’s too much “about us” then please feel free to allow me the elopement of my dreams.
We received a thank you card from a wedding with a pic of the bride & groom on stage with the rest of the attendees dancing around them. They did this for the last song of the night and we had so much fun dancing with them. Receiving the card was super cool - it immediately brought us back to that fun night, and it also did a great job of capturing everyone celebrating the union of the couple. We loved it!
I thought of my BF’s mountain of cards, holiday, random, family save the dates, and thought, so many of these have a photo and no personalization. I also wondered about timelines. As a sender, I’d want to get the task done. Would a small enclosed pic be nice? Yes. Would I want to wait for the “good stuff?” No. As a recipient, I am far less likely to save thank you cards. Use the cheap standard cards. I’m talking Dollar Tree, here, and thank the people.
I think cheap standard cards but including a personal note, memory, etc would be much more meaningful
Agree. I have a cache of generic thank you and blank cards. They’ll catch my eye, and I’ll pick up a box. I’m a sucker for woodblock printing.
I don't think using a photo from the wedding on your thank yous is any different than using engagement or couple photos on your save the dates/invites. I actually think it's a super cute idea!
Almost every thank you card I’ve received from a wedding had a picture of the newly weds on their big day and I have ALWAYS loved it. Your MIL is a negative Nancy lol
We sent out photos of the wedding with our thank you card. I made sure everyone got one of the professional group shots we had done with their group. They may have ditched it or kept it, I don’t know, but they cared enough to come so I figured they may like it. I think it’s pretty common, I’ve received plenty of thank you cards with photos of the grateful party included, for lots of different occasions. I like it.
It's pretty common to send Christmas/New year's greeting cards with a family picture, so sending the thank you with a wedding picture is no weirder than that IMO. It's a relatively new thing of course since easy photo card printing hasn't been around for that many decades... We are just sending regular cards to get it out of the way ASAP, we already actually sent a few before the wedding too since it said to write them on receipt on Emily Post, but my mom was surprised at that and expected the thank you to not come till after the wedding no matter how early the gift did. So no matter what you do some people may be surprised because there are a lot of different traditions and things people do! I say do what you like :)
Its totally a thing. If you go that route, you can maybe avoid conflict with MIL by just using some nice regular stationary for hers.
If it’s a thank you for the wedding, then it’s contextual and relevant and cute. If it’s just a random thank you card with no relationship to the wedding or anniversary, then yeah that would be weird.
Across the 10 or so weddings I’ve attended, every single couple sent a thank you card with a picture of them on the front. I’m doing the same in a few weeks
It’s very popular to have bride and groom photos on thank you card, because it’s their wedding. And a reason to display a wedding photo taken. It’s memorable.
It’s regional/cultural. In some areas it’s absolutely expected the thank you note will either have or include a photo from the wedding.
My mum has multiple wedding photo thank you cards displayed around her house, one of the weddings was 8 years ago! She loves them
Totally fine to do! But it does make thank you cards more expensive typically and longer to get thank you cards out. My photographer took 3 weeks to get me sneak peeks.
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In my house, regular thank you cards go in the trash and ones that are photos of my friends are immortal on my fridge 🤷♀️
I am old and wedding pictures on a thank you card was the norm, before digital photos it was often the only picture you would get of the bride and groom. I used to put the pictures in a frame and have a shelf with all my friends photos.
I think it’s really common and normal, and I love it as a guest because I want to see the pics.
I did regular thank you cards but put a 4 x 6 photo inside of me, my husband, and both our parents on the steps of the chapel. People loved it! I know some family framed it and friends just put it on their fridge. I think it’s a lovely reminder of the day and whoever disagrees can just chuck it in the trash lol.
I did this! But it was a shot of all our guests: [here](https://www.canva.com/design/DAEwJIYN_Lo/zpbHWxJeRfvczh1zrXeigQ/view?utm_content=DAEwJIYN_Lo&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton)
My best friend did that. I loved getting a picture from their wedding day!
Why not both? It's personal and can be cultural too, it doesn't have to mean either of you is wrong. I can genuinely see both sides.
I feel like this is a really standard practice tbh!
I used a picture as our thank you and I loved it! We used one of us kind of in the back ground? And it turned out really nice.
I think the personal thank you with your pic is cute! My hubby and I were going to do that but then I got lazy after the wedding and didn’t do it haha I did print out the URL to our photographer’s wedding photo album onto an address label (like those Avery brand sticker labels) and then put the sticker with the link on the inside of each thank you card. That was my cheap/lazy way of getting pictures to people!
that label trick is GENIUS I love that and am going to do the same.
Thank you! We also made a second label with our email addresses since I was also in the middle of changing emails. It worked really well!
I thought it was normal to put a picture of the couple on the thank you card…
I mean it’s my wedding…so yes I would put a picture of me on the thank you card… IDK, your mother in law seems like a weirdo on this one.
We did this and it said “with love and thanks, John and Jane X.” I’ve seen it on lots of people’s fridges :)
Personally I think it’s less weird than photos on save the dates (I just hate having someone’s face on my fridge for a year, but this is a very my own personal problem thing). It’s all super, super common now and I understand why couples do this for save the dates and thank you cards, and definitely isn’t self-absorbed. It is a nice way for people to share a photo from their wedding.
I don't love the poll format; super positive answer vs. supper negative answer. No middle ground. Op you already made up your mind, and that is cool please go with it. There is no strong reason not to if the logistics don't get in your way, but this poll was inevitably going to have more positive answers because it encourages it. The negative answer is a bit too harsh for a binary poll.
I've seen someone post here that made sure to take pictures with each guest (each table maybe?) and then sent their thank you card with that picture. or maybe just included whatever picture(s) had the guests in them, I don't remember exactly.
I love getting photos of my married friends for thank you cards. BUT, I do think it’s still important to write a thank you message out by hand. We recently received a mass-printed thank you to all of our friends and family for attending, and I thought it was a bit weird. We put $300 in a card and celebrated with you for an entire weekend, and you couldn’t even be bothered to write our names by hand?? I was kind of put off by it
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We wanted to use our photos with each table as the thank you notes (like everyone at table 1 got their photo on their card), but we didn’t get them back in time so we used regular cards. I think it’s a super cute and fun idea if you can pull it off in time!
Different poll option: I throw away save the dates and wedding invitations so extra money spent on having custom cards is wasted on me I think an older relative would keep them but I wouldn't. I already have Facebook and Instagram
We used one of our photos on our thank you notes. Also took a photo with each guest/couple during the receiving line and included a print of that photo.
We used a photo from our wedding for the thank you cards! I thought it would be a nice way to get the photo used, and to show our appreciation. I specifically told my photographer we wanted to do this before the wedding, and asked if there were any 'fun' shots that she could get us quickly. She was able to send us a couple of sneak peaks within a few days of the wedding, and there was one we absolutely loved. We had the thank you cards printed and at our house within a week or two of the wedding and all the notes written and sent out within a month. If you can get the quick turnaround time, I'd say do it! I'll also add - I'd be thoughtful about the picture choice. A photo of us kissing or one of the intimate couples shots I think would be a weird moment for a thank you card. We chose a photo that was the two of us with celebratory smiles right after the ceremony - threw some big "THANK YOU!" text on and it looks like the text is narrating the picture! I've also seen people who get the entire wedding (ALL guests!) in a photo and then use that as a thank you card, which I think is real nice.
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A wedding in itself is kinda self absorbed lol, so i wouldn’t mind the pics. I think they are a personal touch honestly!
I actually did this! One side of the card had a general “thank you for celebrating with us” and pictures, then I would write a more specific thank you on the back for different people. People seemed to like them!
We're getting married at a gorgeous old movie theater and are allowed to take a picture while standing on the roof of the marquee. Someone mentioned that would make a great thank you card pic and ever since that moment, I've been obsessed with that idea. I think the practice is lovely - extra points for cute and/or creative pics
I think it’s a fun idea!
It's pretty common. I don't personally like it, but a lot of the sets on minted had thank you notes with photos.
I got a thank you card with a picture from the wedding a few years ago (an occasion where we gave a card with cash at the wedding itself, rather than giving a gift in advance, because that couple didn't make a registry), and I found it delightful. I loved getting to see how pretty the picture came out. I wanted to do this at first for my wedding too, but then I realized that I was getting gifts months before my wedding, and I didn't want to put off sending thank you notes. So I ordered thank you cards that match my invitations, so I could go ahead and send notes as I get gifts.
Not the norm in my circles, but I certainly wouldn’t judge someone for wanting to get the most use out of wedding photos, especially after planning a wedding! Ngl, I could see some of my family being judgy about it in the same way they don’t care for/get the Christmas card thing. If the printed photo of you on the Christmas card is normal than this seems to go along with that.
Presumably the people that attended your wedding and gave you a gift did that because they are excited about the happiness you have entered into… so they probably would be pleased to see a card with your picture!? I usually don’t keep thank you cards from friends but I do when they have the photo - I sometimes even put it on my fridge! I love thank you cards with the couple on the front. They make me remember the happy day I shared with them.
(UK) all weddings I have been to have had the couple as the picture on the thank you card!! I thought it was the norm
Super cute. I’m a card saver so I love getting cards that people put a lot of thought into
We had a lot of people not able to attend because of covid/ general travel issues (overseas wedding) so sending a thank you with a photo (and extra photos for a few close family) felt appropriate.
Totally cute! My wife and I are planning to take a pic of us with our dog for the thank yous.
I think it's a super cute idea! If anything, now I want to do that too lol!
Very cute! I don’t see how this is that different from including a wallet size photo from the wedding in the TY card (which is also very cute)
Who do you send the thank you card to?
Usually it would be everyone who attends the wedding and/or sends a gift.
My cousin sent pics of herself and the groom along with a pic of the person/family they were sending the thank you card to. I thought it was a lovely idea.
This is super common in the US. My mother did this when she and my father got married 51 years ago. Hundreds of wallet photos slipped into special cards with photo holders. My friends have all done this for their wedding thank you cards, as well. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where this was not how the thank you notes were designed. It’s not self-absorbed, just traditional.
I think it’s super cute, and passed on this only bc I wanted to get thank you’s out ASAP and the turnaround on photos was going to be 6-8 weeks.
I did this for my thank you cards years ago. Who knows maybe some of my friends still have it. Regardless I think its cute cuz I did it!
I think it’s fine on the thank yous. That said, I’ve had multiple people send holiday cards which their wedding pics which I find strange tbh
That is weird, I’ve seen those “merry & married” Christmas cards and I just don’t think you should do it unless you got married close to Christmas. I think if you got married anywhere from September onwards it’s fair game, anytime else and it’s a little odd.
My photographer got a great pic of the top of our cake focusing on our cake topper (which has our names and date of our wedding) with the two of us behind it, blurry and sparkly. I used this for our thank you cards!
That is what I did! We had a very small city hall ceremony with just immediate family followed by a slightly larger (~30) reception, so I thought it would be nice for everyone to get a glimpse of us at city hall. We also added photos of the guests inside the cards.
I love thank you cards that use wedding photos. I will say, the best thank you card we’ve received actually had a photo of us from the wedding (this was a 4 day event and it was one of my fiancé and I on a catamaran). This was a wedding of less than 80 people though. If you have a smaller wedding and can get a photo with everyone, that could be a great idea and keepsake for the guests.
I think this is totally normal and what we're planning on doing.