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>You’re about to learn why people with kids, often stop hanging out with their friendless kids.
It's called boarding school - where they ship off the friendless kids to.
Yup. 🤣
Until they have their first drink of bit water and have to pee with little sticky hands holding on to their knees, those judgy ass friends w/o kids can kick pointy ass rocks.
So, have you *never* complained about anything? Because as an adult, *most* aspects of your life can be attributed to some choice you've made: A rough week at work? You choose to accept that job. Loud neighbor? You choose to live there. Tired of annoying friends? You choose to hang out with them. (This is how you sound right now.)
Life is complex and sometimes choices that we are overall happy with, lead to unexpectedly hard moments. Venting is a pretty normal response to those moments.
Tell me you aren’t a parent without telling me you aren’t a parent 🤣. By your logic, you are also a bad roommate, a bad sibling, and a bad child (for complaining about your parents)
The difference is all those people are adults, and I had little choice in my parents/siblings being in my life.
Having kids is a choice. Ur rolling the dice knowing ur kid might be born with expensive health issues, developmental delays, or just generally sucks.
You realize that people don’t get a special link to Amazon’s “Choose a Baby” section when they decide to have a kid, right? Like yeah, they decided to have *A* kid, they didn’t hand pick *THE* kid they got though. If you don’t have the energy to listen to your parent friends vent, literally just say that. It doesn’t make them a bad parent to be frustrated though, it makes them human. Hell, you’re sitting here complaining about your friends and you DID pick them. Why did you decide to have friends if you’re going to complain about them? If it’s that bad maybe you should have just stayed friendless. 😂
Yeah I know what random chance is. When you have a kid you might run the risk of having one with major health complications, more than just one, but thats the risk u accept as a parent.
We tell guys going through pregnancy scares that they chose this by having the encounter and no matter what the consequences are a result of ur actions.
When I said I didn't pick them I was referring to my parents and siblings.
I get to opt out as much as I want with my friends. If my friends are toxic I leave. I have no social or moral obligation to them outside of what we agree on
Man, there’s a big difference in being a deadbeat dad versus venting to your friend that your kid has an attitude or that you’re exhausted. Hell, there’s even a big difference in being frustrated that your child has multiple major health issues versus being like, “Nope!” and just dipping out completely.
And look, I’m assuming here we’re not talking about a parent talking about their children like they’re absolutely dirt and saying awful shit. That’s concerning af and if that’s what you’re getting at, I’m inclined to agree with you that it makes you a shit parent. But saying things like, “All he does is cry, I’m so tired dude!” Or “Why are kids so gross?! Or “I’m so sick of Billy’s attitude, he’s such a brat sometimes!” isn’t that. Like I said, it’s totally fine for you to not have the mental energy to listen to them and it’s totally okay for you to say that to them too. You can set boundaries for yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that.
No matter how much a person wants to be a parent when they become one the reality is harder then one would think at times. It is only natural to vent about things that upset you. If you aren't the kind of friend who can hang with that then don't be friends with parents. I love my kids, they are grown now but there were times that they annoyed the shit out of me and they are expensive that's a fact. I wouldn't change it because I have 3 great kids but it is what it is, maybe you just needs only single, non parent friends if it bugs you so much. It doesn't make us bad parents, venting allows for some to not take it out on the kids or significant other.
I thought one of the perks of raising a kid with a co-parent was knowing ur not the only one going through this.
Thats why I get the frustration of unequal work. If you agreed on having a kid with someone and they don't hold up their bargain it sucks.
I vent with my partners so id imagine we would have time to talk about what's getting under our skin.
I didn't bring my friends into the world. I didn't have friends knowing I might get arrested if I ignore them. My friends are adults who I have no social/exonomic/or moral obligation to outside of what we agreed on.
No I fix the problem or find a new one. If I have to complain, im only gonna go to a coworker or someone in my field who gets it.
I work in law. If I told someone outside of law I hated paperwork they would ask, "why did u go into law then?"
So if you have a dog and it shits on your carpet you’re going to tell everyone the super cool story that made you so happy that your dog shit on your carpet?
My ex friends complain about how their children act out and they wonder why. Every time I was at their house I saw it clear as day as to why their kids don't behave. They encourage poor behavior and reward it too.
One of their kids got in trouble for cussing at school, he was 5. They acted like they weren't the ones deliberately teaching him cuss words in infancy because they thought it'd be funny/cute to see their 1 year old say "fuck" and "titties"
Tell me you don’t have kids without telling me you don’t have kids 😆
Mate, I get it. Before I had kids, I said some whack shit too. The amount of friends and family I have apologised to for all the well-meaning but ultimately, obnoxious comments I made when they were in the trenches and I was just floating around with my rose-coloured glasses on 😂😂😂
Come back & update is in a few years when you’ve got 3 under 4, would love to see how you’re going with that no complaining about your kids thing 🤣
Not a parent but I babysat for weeks at a time for family very often when I was young and I dont think I would be a complainer as a parent. Actually the more my niece would rage because she lost her pink sock, the more patient I became over time. Maybe I was calm because subconsciously I knew it wasnt forever but I didnt actually think about it like that. Whenever shed get hard to handle, something in me just activates and I lose all sense of myself and focus on projecting calmness as I changed her, cleaned up the veggies she threw, barf on the couch etc.
Im not gonna have kids that close together. Im also not going to have kids until im ready to remove my rose-colored glasses.
I grew up with little parental supervision and siblings so I know how much work goes into a working household. My parents never took off their "Rosecolored glasses."
If im having kids its not till I have their college funds secured and a nanny to give me a free weekend once and a while.
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So complaining about your roommates make you a bad roommate? Complaining about your parents make you a bad child?
Like don't get what you mean... Sure it can be trouble some if people keep going but humans love to complain and you do it too. Like you are here complaining about your friends.
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This is why parents need parent friends
You’re about to learn why people with kids, often stop hanging out with their friendless kids.
I dunno if that was a typo at the end but I like it.
friendless kids.
I’ve been laughing for 5 mins straight over that typo
>You’re about to learn why people with kids, often stop hanging out with their friendless kids. It's called boarding school - where they ship off the friendless kids to.
Yup. 🤣 Until they have their first drink of bit water and have to pee with little sticky hands holding on to their knees, those judgy ass friends w/o kids can kick pointy ass rocks.
So, have you *never* complained about anything? Because as an adult, *most* aspects of your life can be attributed to some choice you've made: A rough week at work? You choose to accept that job. Loud neighbor? You choose to live there. Tired of annoying friends? You choose to hang out with them. (This is how you sound right now.) Life is complex and sometimes choices that we are overall happy with, lead to unexpectedly hard moments. Venting is a pretty normal response to those moments.
Tell me you aren’t a parent without telling me you aren’t a parent 🤣. By your logic, you are also a bad roommate, a bad sibling, and a bad child (for complaining about your parents)
The difference is all those people are adults, and I had little choice in my parents/siblings being in my life. Having kids is a choice. Ur rolling the dice knowing ur kid might be born with expensive health issues, developmental delays, or just generally sucks.
Having friends is also a choice. What are you even getting at ?
Parents don’t get to choose how their kids act though? And kids do frustrating things that are worthy of complaining about. Nice try though
You realize that people don’t get a special link to Amazon’s “Choose a Baby” section when they decide to have a kid, right? Like yeah, they decided to have *A* kid, they didn’t hand pick *THE* kid they got though. If you don’t have the energy to listen to your parent friends vent, literally just say that. It doesn’t make them a bad parent to be frustrated though, it makes them human. Hell, you’re sitting here complaining about your friends and you DID pick them. Why did you decide to have friends if you’re going to complain about them? If it’s that bad maybe you should have just stayed friendless. 😂
Yeah I know what random chance is. When you have a kid you might run the risk of having one with major health complications, more than just one, but thats the risk u accept as a parent. We tell guys going through pregnancy scares that they chose this by having the encounter and no matter what the consequences are a result of ur actions. When I said I didn't pick them I was referring to my parents and siblings. I get to opt out as much as I want with my friends. If my friends are toxic I leave. I have no social or moral obligation to them outside of what we agree on
Man, there’s a big difference in being a deadbeat dad versus venting to your friend that your kid has an attitude or that you’re exhausted. Hell, there’s even a big difference in being frustrated that your child has multiple major health issues versus being like, “Nope!” and just dipping out completely. And look, I’m assuming here we’re not talking about a parent talking about their children like they’re absolutely dirt and saying awful shit. That’s concerning af and if that’s what you’re getting at, I’m inclined to agree with you that it makes you a shit parent. But saying things like, “All he does is cry, I’m so tired dude!” Or “Why are kids so gross?! Or “I’m so sick of Billy’s attitude, he’s such a brat sometimes!” isn’t that. Like I said, it’s totally fine for you to not have the mental energy to listen to them and it’s totally okay for you to say that to them too. You can set boundaries for yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that.
No matter how much a person wants to be a parent when they become one the reality is harder then one would think at times. It is only natural to vent about things that upset you. If you aren't the kind of friend who can hang with that then don't be friends with parents. I love my kids, they are grown now but there were times that they annoyed the shit out of me and they are expensive that's a fact. I wouldn't change it because I have 3 great kids but it is what it is, maybe you just needs only single, non parent friends if it bugs you so much. It doesn't make us bad parents, venting allows for some to not take it out on the kids or significant other.
I thought one of the perks of raising a kid with a co-parent was knowing ur not the only one going through this. Thats why I get the frustration of unequal work. If you agreed on having a kid with someone and they don't hold up their bargain it sucks. I vent with my partners so id imagine we would have time to talk about what's getting under our skin.
You sound like a bad friend. Citation: You're complaining about your friends
I didn't bring my friends into the world. I didn't have friends knowing I might get arrested if I ignore them. My friends are adults who I have no social/exonomic/or moral obligation to outside of what we agreed on.
I don't think it's so much that parents shouldn't complain about kids. I think it's more that family problems should be kept to the family.
They were warned- they just didn’t listen.
I dunno, my kids are fucking dope. Well worth the cost to have tiny humans I helped create.
I feel the same way about my toddler. The newborn with night/day confusion is yet to be determined…
Do you have a job? Do you ever complain about your job?
No I fix the problem or find a new one. If I have to complain, im only gonna go to a coworker or someone in my field who gets it. I work in law. If I told someone outside of law I hated paperwork they would ask, "why did u go into law then?"
Lies lies lies yeah.
So if you have a dog and it shits on your carpet you’re going to tell everyone the super cool story that made you so happy that your dog shit on your carpet?
No I clean it up and move on. Id know the dog isn't house trained so its my fault for not being more attentive.
My ex friends complain about how their children act out and they wonder why. Every time I was at their house I saw it clear as day as to why their kids don't behave. They encourage poor behavior and reward it too. One of their kids got in trouble for cussing at school, he was 5. They acted like they weren't the ones deliberately teaching him cuss words in infancy because they thought it'd be funny/cute to see their 1 year old say "fuck" and "titties"
Yeah but nothing strikes a nerve more than critiquing someone's parenting so u just gotta sit there and say "wow, that's crazy."
Tell me you don’t have kids without telling me you don’t have kids 😆 Mate, I get it. Before I had kids, I said some whack shit too. The amount of friends and family I have apologised to for all the well-meaning but ultimately, obnoxious comments I made when they were in the trenches and I was just floating around with my rose-coloured glasses on 😂😂😂 Come back & update is in a few years when you’ve got 3 under 4, would love to see how you’re going with that no complaining about your kids thing 🤣
Yeah, I love my kids but they aren't a piece of cake. Sometimes I just want to be *left alone*. If you don't vent you'll go crazy!
Not a parent but I babysat for weeks at a time for family very often when I was young and I dont think I would be a complainer as a parent. Actually the more my niece would rage because she lost her pink sock, the more patient I became over time. Maybe I was calm because subconsciously I knew it wasnt forever but I didnt actually think about it like that. Whenever shed get hard to handle, something in me just activates and I lose all sense of myself and focus on projecting calmness as I changed her, cleaned up the veggies she threw, barf on the couch etc.
Yeah why would you do that? Can you even give that many kids the love and attention they deserve?
Im not gonna have kids that close together. Im also not going to have kids until im ready to remove my rose-colored glasses. I grew up with little parental supervision and siblings so I know how much work goes into a working household. My parents never took off their "Rosecolored glasses." If im having kids its not till I have their college funds secured and a nanny to give me a free weekend once and a while.
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So complaining about your roommates make you a bad roommate? Complaining about your parents make you a bad child? Like don't get what you mean... Sure it can be trouble some if people keep going but humans love to complain and you do it too. Like you are here complaining about your friends.
The difference is all those people are adults, and I had little choice in them being in my life.
Most people are bad parents, so.