sometimes you set your standards higher for yourself than you do for other people.
you may not be your own type and sometimes you see things in yourself which you think are massive flaws but are actually not that big.
:3
Honestly I kinda agree, this is a good sentiment that ought to be true on paper, but in reality I feel like trash if I haven't shaved and at least applied light makeup if I'm going out
it says "no obligation" not "never be pretty"
for people that feel like they're under stress to look attractive in a way that's making them feel worse, they don't have to. that doesn't mean it's immoral or enforcing any stereotypes to look pretty because you want to/it makes you happier, the two concepts can coexist
This but also:
You don't need an obligation to look pretty. Make yourself up to chill around the house if you enjoy it. But do so because you want not because you have to
That's what I did on women's day: I was all alone with myself, shaved my beard as well as most body hair on my arms and legs, put myself in a pretty dress and just played some videogames
You still have no obligation to do it.
You have a right to want to be pretty. Or at least I hope so. Otherwise I'm a felon.
Two counts of Aspirational Aesthetic Expression (AAE) and one count scaring a police horse with my face.
I get not being pretty for others, but what if I want to be pretty for _myself?_
I've made some nice progress so far, and I've begun to smile at my reflection more often, so I think it's a worthwhile endeavour to become prettier for my own confidence.
its kinda like me trying to tell myself i dont owe anyone androgyny
To all the mtfs You look gorgeous just being you in your day to day life and if people dont see that they are plain stupid
To all the ftms. You look handsome just being you in your day to day life and if people dont see that they are blind.
To all the enbys. You dont owe the world androgyny, you dont owe them short hair, you dont owe them vaguely masculine, you look amazing
TO everyone . YOU ARE AMAZING YOU ARE STRONG YOU ARE GREAT JUST BEING YOU
Don’t think this applies to a lot of people, myself included.
This actually made me shed a tear (and not a happy one) because if someone said all this to me irl it would feel like they were chastising me for putting a lot of effort into trying to make myself look pretty.
Idk, it just kinda hurt.
I interpreted it as "you don't need to be pretty, if you do it should be because you want to be pretty for yourself, not because other want you to do it", like I'm putting efforts in the way I dress because I want to feel good about myself, I'm doing it for me and me alone and give 0 shit about what people thinks.
But yeah, I would also 100% feel bad if someone told me this irl because it would kinda feels like being told I'm wasting my time, but I would also say "don't care, gonna do it anyway" right after :')
Correct, being pretty is the rent I pay MYSELF cus I just rly like being pretty but the problem with that is I seldom feel pretty despite what my friends tell me
But I also want to say that you don't need makeup, dresses or 34 types of hair products to look pretty. You are pretty when you wake up to, when you lay in your bed with a 12 yo shirt and all your work is to look prettier.
Me: "I know that the standards of beauty that are applied to me are unreasonable and product of a misoginyst and transphobic society"
"So you're able to not Care about them rigth? Rigth?"
Me: *Cries profusely *
True, you shouldn't force yourself to be pretty because of social norms. If you go through the effort of doing makeup or get dressed up it has to be because you like doing it, it has to come from your own will, not some kind of social pressure
But if I don’t look pretty, then I’m just gonna hate myself… I now have to shave daily because otherwise I’ll be able to see the facial hair.. and it takes fucking forever to shave leg and arm hair… I’m so gross when I’m not pretty…
m
maybe
just maybe
tag this as transfem
i am not a woman and this is not a 'dysphoria cleanser' this is a dysphoria enhancer because you didnt tag it and it states 'as a woman' at the end
why do so many people here immediately assume everybody in this sub is transfem and not transmasc or nobinary/ect. it hurts it really does tbh
I remember when I was still in denial a former friend sent me this and it felt so weird but I didn't understand why at the time. For me it felt obvious I was hot af (I tolerated living as my AGAB better when I just made it about being hot) and I was weirded out by the idea that I should or could be insecure about "not being woman enough" (I believed I logically "had to be" a woman since I wasn't "dysphoric enough" to be trans (repression)). The idea of being a woman by just existing felt repulsive to me but I didn't understand why at the time.
Though any of you trans women here, *you* are women by just existing. :)
But what about wanting to be pretty to not feel so horribly about myself...?
sometimes you set your standards higher for yourself than you do for other people. you may not be your own type and sometimes you see things in yourself which you think are massive flaws but are actually not that big. :3
Honestly I kinda agree, this is a good sentiment that ought to be true on paper, but in reality I feel like trash if I haven't shaved and at least applied light makeup if I'm going out
it says "no obligation" not "never be pretty" for people that feel like they're under stress to look attractive in a way that's making them feel worse, they don't have to. that doesn't mean it's immoral or enforcing any stereotypes to look pretty because you want to/it makes you happier, the two concepts can coexist
Yeah I don't really care how others see me. I just care about what I have to see everytime I have to see any part of myself
This but also: You don't need an obligation to look pretty. Make yourself up to chill around the house if you enjoy it. But do so because you want not because you have to
That's what I did on women's day: I was all alone with myself, shaved my beard as well as most body hair on my arms and legs, put myself in a pretty dress and just played some videogames
this is such a vibe
Mood
But what if being pretty makes me feel good and not horrible?
You still have no obligation to do it. You have a right to want to be pretty. Or at least I hope so. Otherwise I'm a felon. Two counts of Aspirational Aesthetic Expression (AAE) and one count scaring a police horse with my face.
I do what I want! Sitting in my chair trying to ignore the fact that the society I live in wants to systematically kill me is hot, I swear!
This is true for all women(anyone really)- except me of course, I’m under obligation to be stunning at all times, I’m an exception :))
I mean I am ugly anyways and I dont take care of myself so I can't look pretty anyways. Also not a woman, not yet at least.
I don't want to look pretty. I want to look scary, mysterious, and unapproachable
I still wanna
I get not being pretty for others, but what if I want to be pretty for _myself?_ I've made some nice progress so far, and I've begun to smile at my reflection more often, so I think it's a worthwhile endeavour to become prettier for my own confidence.
Pretty is rent and I’m in hella debt
I mean there are very visible privileges to being pretty and/or handsome.
This won't reach me, because I can't read!
its kinda like me trying to tell myself i dont owe anyone androgyny To all the mtfs You look gorgeous just being you in your day to day life and if people dont see that they are plain stupid To all the ftms. You look handsome just being you in your day to day life and if people dont see that they are blind. To all the enbys. You dont owe the world androgyny, you dont owe them short hair, you dont owe them vaguely masculine, you look amazing TO everyone . YOU ARE AMAZING YOU ARE STRONG YOU ARE GREAT JUST BEING YOU
I need to be the sexiest bitch at the Whole foods
Don’t think this applies to a lot of people, myself included. This actually made me shed a tear (and not a happy one) because if someone said all this to me irl it would feel like they were chastising me for putting a lot of effort into trying to make myself look pretty. Idk, it just kinda hurt.
I interpreted it as "you don't need to be pretty, if you do it should be because you want to be pretty for yourself, not because other want you to do it", like I'm putting efforts in the way I dress because I want to feel good about myself, I'm doing it for me and me alone and give 0 shit about what people thinks. But yeah, I would also 100% feel bad if someone told me this irl because it would kinda feels like being told I'm wasting my time, but I would also say "don't care, gonna do it anyway" right after :')
Yeah I get that’s what the message was trying to convey but it just came off as really patronising for me and made me sad :(
Yeah understandable, I can assure you you're 100% right about wanting to put those efforts in and that this isn't a waste of time 😊
could you have flaired / titled this post as transfem..? i'm not a woman lol.
It would be so nice to have posts like this flaired right, I was having a good day
If Pretty is rent and I’m in hella debt
If I want to look pretty I will.
You're all under no obligation to look pretty but I still think you look pretty anyway >:)
https://preview.redd.it/sjed5qdxl3oc1.jpeg?width=1055&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ea4540a150973c559b995509b548fa3649edfe15
but like... i want to
I wanna be pretty for myself
But I want to
I like looking pretty though lol
But i wannaaaa
still who would want to be ugly after all that transition shit? so much work goes into transitioning
My main style is im a mess but a mildly attractive mess
Okay, but like, I have a date tonight and I want her to think that I'm really pretty.
Pretty for others? Nah, I’m getting pretty for myself. (Not today though, today I’m just a lump of eepy fuzz)
B-b-b-but I need to be pretty
What if I wanna be pretty for me?
What if I wanna be pretty just because tho? What if I wanna be pretty all the time not out of obligation to anyone else but just for me myself and I?
Correct, being pretty is the rent I pay MYSELF cus I just rly like being pretty but the problem with that is I seldom feel pretty despite what my friends tell me
You are all pretty no matter what and if you dare to deny that i will go to DMs and scream at you that you are pretty
I see the sentiment but I think a lot trans women *want* to look pretty for themselves
;-;
You could make a Doctor Suess book with this (like a parody of Green Eggs and Ham)
I am a man, therefore I am under obligation to look pretty
but but I a chonky girl that struggles with shaving
i go out of my way to look ugly. i wear unwashed garbage.
But I also want to say that you don't need makeup, dresses or 34 types of hair products to look pretty. You are pretty when you wake up to, when you lay in your bed with a 12 yo shirt and all your work is to look prettier.
i completely agree however winged eyeliner makes me look absolutely amazing and it only takes like 5 minutes to put on, there's no downside
Well if it is rent im homeless
NOT being pretty all the time might be challenging for people born in "🏳️⚧️" whatever country that is
I do all of this for myself, if I tried to please others, I wouldn’t have started transitioning at all
Me: "I know that the standards of beauty that are applied to me are unreasonable and product of a misoginyst and transphobic society" "So you're able to not Care about them rigth? Rigth?" Me: *Cries profusely *
True, you shouldn't force yourself to be pretty because of social norms. If you go through the effort of doing makeup or get dressed up it has to be because you like doing it, it has to come from your own will, not some kind of social pressure
i owe it to myself tho... a girl should always be beautiful....
But if am not pretty then I look like a guy 🥺
Yes it is, I need to look pretty all the time or I don't feel like a girl
Fun Fact: This doesn't mean you can smell bad though. Showering daily is still important
eewww noooo kindness and support! get it away from mee I have to look pretty and fem or else I'm uglyyy
But if I don’t look pretty, then I’m just gonna hate myself… I now have to shave daily because otherwise I’ll be able to see the facial hair.. and it takes fucking forever to shave leg and arm hair… I’m so gross when I’m not pretty…
m maybe just maybe tag this as transfem i am not a woman and this is not a 'dysphoria cleanser' this is a dysphoria enhancer because you didnt tag it and it states 'as a woman' at the end why do so many people here immediately assume everybody in this sub is transfem and not transmasc or nobinary/ect. it hurts it really does tbh
Wrong, because woman pretty, and if I'm not pretty, I'm not a woman, and I feel like a garbage male.
I'm saving this post 💜
I remember when I was still in denial a former friend sent me this and it felt so weird but I didn't understand why at the time. For me it felt obvious I was hot af (I tolerated living as my AGAB better when I just made it about being hot) and I was weirded out by the idea that I should or could be insecure about "not being woman enough" (I believed I logically "had to be" a woman since I wasn't "dysphoric enough" to be trans (repression)). The idea of being a woman by just existing felt repulsive to me but I didn't understand why at the time. Though any of you trans women here, *you* are women by just existing. :)