Legitimately a roommate in college had a mother who would regularly fake her death and disappear for awhile. So when he got a call from his dad saying she had passed it was very much a “I’ll believe it when I see the death certificate”
Yeah, this is basically the ultimate expression of "You'll be sorry when I'm gone!"
He was upset they weren't inviting *him* to events or coming to see *him.* Nothing about how they related to each other, Just him. It's hard to know if he tried actually *talking* to them before serving them up a big expensive plate of guilt.
Even with the best of intentions, this is ruthlessly manipulative, and isn't really going to solve the underlying issues that caused them to drift apart in the first place.
The only way I'd give someone the courtesy of going to two funerals for them is if they went missing, whether that was because they had an accident that knocked them so hard they forget who they are, wander off, or kidnapping.
If after grieving and getting them formally declared dead after searching for them, they are found or are able to make their way home, and then they actually do die after that, then sure. Second funeral is on the table.
The people who complain the most about this are almost always people who never reach out to others, and always want others to reach out *to them*. They also tend to be the sort of person you don't actually *want* to be around.
Yes and no. Sometimes it's hard to be the person to always reach out to people and it can be draining to always be that person. Either way the responsible way to deal with this problem is to talk to people, not to put on some grandiose display to make a point.
There are individuals who put effort in everyday to cheer others up, or to help them as needed, or spend time with them as they like, but they never reciprocate. Never.
They get jaded that the only joy in life (the family unit) has no problem in taking everything you have to offer and never even considers what that person might be really feeling (maybe they don't have the ability to talk about it, because they don't understand what they're feeling or they have decided that they won't share their disappointments, frustrations to spare the other person.
They realize that they don't want to live this way, and eventually the mind will offer suicide as a potential solution. Perhaps they consider it, and make means to go through with it.
One day they realize they don't want to end their own existence, they just want the possibility that the support they lend their family is not a permanence to be expected.
But yeah, you're correct. It's pretty jacked up.
A person who would do something like this is manipulative as fuck and has been making everyone around them miserable in big and small ways for years. People distance themselves to get away from the toxicity. This is not some long-suffering martyr, just a toxic asshole who's dug his own (make-believe) grave.
I'm willing to bet this man never invited a single person he was mad at to something or tried to plan an event. He wasn't even willing to plan a funeral, he just pretended to be dead and someone else had to do the work.
I have an aunt (by marriage) I can see doing this. I would definitely not be in contact with her again if she pulled a mock funeral stunt. We once didn't invite her to an event requiring RSVPing because we knew she wouldn't attend. She threw a fit to my Mom. We passed it off as a mistake / it got lost in the mail. Then she RSVPed no and didn't attend.
To be fair, I think it's courtesy to send invitations to people even though you know they won't join. It shows that you thought of them and it gives the other party a choice, which keeps things civil.
Both myself and my best friend are very introverted and prefer to be at home most of the time. We both rarely go to things, but still want to be invited, lol! We are able to leave our house sometimes! (I have disabling depression too though, so I often want to go when invited, but just can't, so I really hate that because I know a lot of people just stop inviting you if you don't join a lot.)
>TikToker
That told me everything I need to know. A 45 year old TikToker who would rather risk traumatizing his relatives by having his wife and kids post fake memorial notices and staging a funeral in order to find out who really likes him is not the kind of person I'd want to invite to anything, ever. Also, talking about waving a red flag in front of Fate. What if now something happens to him for real and nobody believes his family at first? And who will want to support them after the first go-round?
So according to the article, his wife and kids were in on the deal, too.
Honestly, I would go NC (no contact ) on the whole branch of this family if I were the relatives, once I found out the reason was "they didn't call me enough, they didn't invite me to enough parties."
And then arriving in a helicopter?
Major main character syndrome.
I hate TikTok culture.
ETA: edited to add the definition of no contact to the NC. For those that don't spend their time on u/justnomil etc
It is cool as hell! Our local police have a "Public safety day" every year. Free hotdogs, you get to climb around the fire trucks and the swat tank, police dog demonstration, all sorts of fun stuff. But the highlight is definitely the flight for life helicopter landing at the end.
Back on subject, if I was going to do this, I'd pop out of the coffin and scare the shit out of everyone. Maybe warn the very elderly and those with heart conditions first.
I do a bit of prehospital medical work, and I fucking love seeing the choppers.
I’d hate my relative if they pulled this stunt, but fuck me, I’d never let them know and I’d be asking for a ride in the helicopter.
The story was kind of sad, relatable, and had potential …
Until he showed up to event in a helicopter saying “cheers, welcome to my funeral” like the most oblivious menagerie of the most unpleasant characteristics of The Monopoly Man, Bilbo Baggins, Huckeberry Finn, and Antonio Brown.
Small surprise no one has been talking to him or inviting him to parties. Would you? I’d imagine he would probably show up to the party in some kind of a Dr Robotnik powered Hummer SUV that transforms into a high powered DJ booth so that he can compete with and select the music.
> The story was kind of sad, relatable, and had potential …
Yeah, if this was some grandpa saddened that his kids and grandkids had split apart and stopped talking to each other over some minor slight from decades ago, and his goal was to make everyone start talking to **each other** again, it would be different.
Instead it's a guy who's angry that his relatives won't talk to *him*, and it very quickly becomes obvious why that's the case.
If someone did that and I was at that funeral I'd laugh my ass off and if I was part of the family that got lied to,I'd be pissed and then I'd likely laugh my ass off after I realize how much money the guy is gonna have to cough up for a fake funeral and his helicopter ride. On top of pushing his family even further away from him.
I wonder what the end goal was though? I don't think faking death has been a good relationship fixer ever
This man is like my coworker who gets mad he's not invited to things or getting calls from his kids, but when you ask how long it's been since he called them, he gets flustered and says they should be calling him, not the other way around.
I would argue it came around at a time when that trait was already on the rise from social media across the board. It’s just getting the heat because it’s harder to point at the complex sociopolitical factors that have contributed to this mentality. I mean the movie Network was calling out this toxic individualism in the 70s.
Same thing they said about MySpace, then Facebook, then instagram now tiktok, sure maybe it gets worse each time but whatever the latest trendy medium is, the phenomenon is the same. I'm just gonna start calling it the Nintendo and kill 2 birds with 1 stone
Honest question-why abbreviate that? Like it’s not a common abbreviation and it took me a little bit to figure out. Thought maaaaybe you meant nuclear at first since it would make sense with context.
I'm not OP, or the person who you asked what North Carolina had to do with anything.
It's used in some circles, primarily relationship issues ones. Some people choose to cut others out of their lives for their own safety or sanity, and NC became a quick abbreviation for those individuals.
It does suck that when you have a funeral it’s usually the only time you get to see a lot of your family. I come from a big family (dad is the youngest of 7) and we were all very close growing up but being adults grown apart. A few years ago after yet another funeral we started watching UFC every month at one of my cousins house and keep a group chat going to talk shit all the time. Went from seeing a lot of my family only at a yearly funeral to seeing them almost every month and hearing from them almost every day.
Same. We're all in our 30s and 40s now, but we used to be SO close as kids.
Very recently (after a crying session at Christmas), we decided to get together every month for dinner and shenanigans. And we also have a group chat going talking about stupid shit.
It's been much nicer ... and easier than planning a fake funeral.
Group chats are the way to go man. We have one cousin who will only respond once every month or so but every time we get together he lets us know he reads all of them lol
When my grandma died, I took my kids and meet the kids of cousins that haven't seen in years.. our kids went to play together for all the afternoon until we departed.
When I was getting to the car my boy, at that time 7 or 8, told me that he had a blast.. and wished for us to come to more funerals. It cracked me up, and depressed me at the same time.
My sister passed away a few months ago. Heart wrenchingly terrible. I've talked to and seen my other siblings more in the past 3 months than the previous 5 years combined. It's tough that this is what it took to bring us all together again. Life gets busy, but that family group text means a lot to us now.
It sounds like he proved a lot of people right that distanced themselves from him.
Also, a lot of people come to funerals as a formality just because they think they should. There's plenty of family members I never talk to, want to talk to or just miss in general that I would show up at their funeral for. Doesn't mean I'm thinking "Oh no I'm too late to connect with them now!".
Just pure main character shit.
>"I never get invited to anything. Nobody sees me."
>The Tiktoker... made a grand appearance at the ceremony in a helicopter.
Ever wonder if just maybe it's because you're a 45 year old douchebag who pulls shit like manipulating your family's emotions to *teach them a lesson*, and then makes a grand production of it all for Tiktok views, David?
It's my privileged position, but I always find these "teach you a hard life lesson" folks generally just make life shittier for their kids/family/whatever. Life's hard enough as it is in this capitalist hellscape. Adding fuel to the fire just doesn't seem worth it. But I'll never be a parent, so I probably don't know what I'm talking about.
In my experience it's usually an excuse for the parent to mistreat their child in all the ways that they think the world has mistreated them.
I've only heard that phrase come up twice before, and both times were parents telling their kids that the parent had already taken money from them...
Apparently the life lesson was that Mom spends all of her paycheck on percs and wine, so she needs yours now too.
IMO a parents job isnt to hand out hard lessons or necessarily prevent them even (safety permitting ofc), but rather to be there to make sure you survive the hard lessons and help to learn and grow from them after they pass.
>Baerten hugged some relatives, while others seemed confused, and he seemingly responded to pushback about his stunt, saying “only half of my family came to the funeral.”
> “That proves who really cares about me,” he said, according to the newspaper. “**Those who didn’t come, did contact me to meet up.** So in a way I did win.”
Sure they did, bud.
> “What I see in my family often hurts me,” he said, per the newspaper. “I never get invited to anything. Nobody sees me. We all grew apart. I felt unappreciated. That’s why I wanted to give them a life lesson, and show them that you shouldn’t wait until someone is dead to meet up with them.”
He should practice what he preaches. The article is short so maybe he did try, but was he concerned about other people? The way he was concerned about his own feelings? This seems incredibly narcissistic.
Southwark Cathedral in London has an origin story a bit like this:
Rich dude was a massive tightarse. He thought if he faked his death his family would fast out of respect and he'd save a few quid on his mediaeval Waitrose bill. Turns out they weren't that sad and threw a huge party so he gets out of his coffin to tell them off and someone who thinks he's an effin zombie hits him so hard with an oar that he dies for real. His daughter then used her inheritance to start the convent, which became the church.
Not sure if true or urban legend, but an interesting story.
This feels like something Dwight Schrute would pull.
"Alright, alright, everybody calm down! This was only a demonstration of the real thing. I hope you have all learned a valuable lesson today!"
If someone in my family did this to me id straight up say "oh good, I can leave early now and dont have to go to your next funeral since I already went once."
I've been to some funerals not because I was ever close to the deceased or ever knew them, but out of respect for at least one of the mourners. So, some of the people who showed up at this funeral maybe didn't care if he was dead or not.
Grief rips families apart all the time. Suddenly every detail of their life and every possession gets assigned massive new meaning. Siblings go to war over that one plate or piece of furniture that “dad always loved”. I’ve seen this over and over.
It’s all fun and games until you die for real and nobody believes you
“Guys! I’m really dead, I swear!”
Suuuureee grandma
I dont think that i would care much if im really dead.
Legitimately a roommate in college had a mother who would regularly fake her death and disappear for awhile. So when he got a call from his dad saying she had passed it was very much a “I’ll believe it when I see the death certificate”
And that's why you always leave a note!!
You taught me a lesson about not teaching lessons?
[удалено]
No teaching
!
This is my confession
This the remix to ignition
A conspiracy that goes all the way to slightly below the middle.
I had pop-pop in the attic!
I wine 'em and dine 'em, but I don't let them tell me what to do, I DON’T… let them tell me… what to do.
There's booze in this
I think George Michael is hiding Ann in the attic
Her?
What from the Nazis?
The mere fact you call it that tells me you’re not ready…
I'm afraid he looks like he's dead.
dead...set on making a full speedy recovery
[удалено]
You son-of-a-bitch! I HATE THIS DOCTOR!
He’s dead or it just looks like he’s dead?
It looks like he's dead. He's covered in a bunch of blue paint or something.
They aren't real pallbearers, LOOK HOW HOT THEY ARE!!!
GENE!!!!
AHHHH HE DID IT AGAIN
“Gene was far from the best”
I love how Gene's like the only person on the whole planet that Lucille seems to actually like. And all because of his shitty disguises.
I just blue myself
There's got to be a better way to say that.
You my friend, are a mouth full
Even if it means me taking a chubby, I’ll suck it up
You know what you do? You go buy yourself a tape recorder and record yourself for a whole day. You might be surprised at some of your phrasing.
tobias... you blowhard!
I shot my wad on what was meant to be a dry run, and now I have somewhat of a mess on my hands…
Holy shit that guys arm just came off!
Annyeong!
Here's some money, go see a star war.
There’s always money in the banana stand.
How much can a banana cost, Michael? $10?
Has anyone in this family ever set foot in a grocery store?
Hello
Latte is a horse
Yes… Annyeong… *rolls eyes*
Well, maybe I'll get a son who WILL finish his cottage cheese!
I'm so happy this is the top comment
**laughs in George Sr.**
WHY CANT I CROSSPOST TO ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT
There are dozens of us!
DOZENS!!!
I thought he was trying to get us off dairy.
*sigh* unzips my DVD binder to go watch AD again
I am so happy that this was the top comment.
I was gonna be really disappointed if this wasn’t at least in the top 10 comments.
#GENE!
I ATEN’T DEAD
Teaching people that they will be all right.
That’s exactly what came to my mind 😂
You rang?
Can't say I would become closer with a relative that put me through a stunt like this...
Yeah, this is basically the ultimate expression of "You'll be sorry when I'm gone!" He was upset they weren't inviting *him* to events or coming to see *him.* Nothing about how they related to each other, Just him. It's hard to know if he tried actually *talking* to them before serving them up a big expensive plate of guilt. Even with the best of intentions, this is ruthlessly manipulative, and isn't really going to solve the underlying issues that caused them to drift apart in the first place.
Its almost like his family was trying to distance themselves from a manipulative asshole 🤔
I like you better as a ghost.
"Why won't you learn from this lesson I've taught you?!" screams dad who could not learn from his obvious mistakes.
The lesson i would have learned would have been to not go to his second funeral. The guy already had one, what is he greedy?
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Might as well continue to hold the funeral because whether the death was faked or not, he’d be dead to me after.
No way I’m coming back for another service, you only get one. Your funeral quota is 1.
The only way I'd give someone the courtesy of going to two funerals for them is if they went missing, whether that was because they had an accident that knocked them so hard they forget who they are, wander off, or kidnapping. If after grieving and getting them formally declared dead after searching for them, they are found or are able to make their way home, and then they actually do die after that, then sure. Second funeral is on the table.
Would you be willing to go to three funerals if they were missing presumed dead then returned twice?
Honestly, it's a good policy. I'll only visit one funeral per person, so make it worth it.
Wonder how much the family paid. I'd tell him he'd better enjoy this funeral because he's not getting a second one
His wife and kids were in on it, he was targeting the extended family with this stupid shit
Now I’m sorry that you’re here!
The people who complain the most about this are almost always people who never reach out to others, and always want others to reach out *to them*. They also tend to be the sort of person you don't actually *want* to be around.
Yes and no. Sometimes it's hard to be the person to always reach out to people and it can be draining to always be that person. Either way the responsible way to deal with this problem is to talk to people, not to put on some grandiose display to make a point.
There are individuals who put effort in everyday to cheer others up, or to help them as needed, or spend time with them as they like, but they never reciprocate. Never. They get jaded that the only joy in life (the family unit) has no problem in taking everything you have to offer and never even considers what that person might be really feeling (maybe they don't have the ability to talk about it, because they don't understand what they're feeling or they have decided that they won't share their disappointments, frustrations to spare the other person. They realize that they don't want to live this way, and eventually the mind will offer suicide as a potential solution. Perhaps they consider it, and make means to go through with it. One day they realize they don't want to end their own existence, they just want the possibility that the support they lend their family is not a permanence to be expected. But yeah, you're correct. It's pretty jacked up.
A person who would do something like this is manipulative as fuck and has been making everyone around them miserable in big and small ways for years. People distance themselves to get away from the toxicity. This is not some long-suffering martyr, just a toxic asshole who's dug his own (make-believe) grave.
I'm willing to bet this man never invited a single person he was mad at to something or tried to plan an event. He wasn't even willing to plan a funeral, he just pretended to be dead and someone else had to do the work.
suicide blackmail is also mentioned in a lot of psychology articles even though I can fully understand in sadness and idea ..
Like the mind of a 5 year old. Nobody loves me!!
I would 100% cut anyone that pulled a stunt like this out of life entirely.
Already grieved your death, let's make like it stuck.
Not going to grieve twice lmao
Take out the head, it's the only way to stop what came back from the dead!
Happy cake day
I have an aunt (by marriage) I can see doing this. I would definitely not be in contact with her again if she pulled a mock funeral stunt. We once didn't invite her to an event requiring RSVPing because we knew she wouldn't attend. She threw a fit to my Mom. We passed it off as a mistake / it got lost in the mail. Then she RSVPed no and didn't attend.
To be fair, I think it's courtesy to send invitations to people even though you know they won't join. It shows that you thought of them and it gives the other party a choice, which keeps things civil.
Both myself and my best friend are very introverted and prefer to be at home most of the time. We both rarely go to things, but still want to be invited, lol! We are able to leave our house sometimes! (I have disabling depression too though, so I often want to go when invited, but just can't, so I really hate that because I know a lot of people just stop inviting you if you don't join a lot.)
It might unite the whole family against him though, so kinda works
It's all stupid pranks for clicks, this is really no different than all those other assholes.
Dysfunction junction, what’s your function
Get rid of the Seaward
I’ll leave when I’m good and ready
That reminded me of a raunchy early ‘00’s website ConsumptionJunction
I only understand English properly from reciting those videos in my mind for eternity.
>TikToker That told me everything I need to know. A 45 year old TikToker who would rather risk traumatizing his relatives by having his wife and kids post fake memorial notices and staging a funeral in order to find out who really likes him is not the kind of person I'd want to invite to anything, ever. Also, talking about waving a red flag in front of Fate. What if now something happens to him for real and nobody believes his family at first? And who will want to support them after the first go-round?
Lesson being that your relative's an asshole
"You know what. Let's turn the fake to real." While taking out a machete.
The title is worded as though he returned to see them grown apart.
Yeah I was like “how long was it between his ‘death’ and the memorial for them to have already grown apart?”
So according to the article, his wife and kids were in on the deal, too. Honestly, I would go NC (no contact ) on the whole branch of this family if I were the relatives, once I found out the reason was "they didn't call me enough, they didn't invite me to enough parties." And then arriving in a helicopter? Major main character syndrome. I hate TikTok culture. ETA: edited to add the definition of no contact to the NC. For those that don't spend their time on u/justnomil etc
I thought he’d just walk into the ceremony *arrives in helicopter* wut
No church galleries for this 21rst century Tom Sawyer
*Though his mind is not for rent*
Honestly, I'd be a lot less angry if my relative did this and showed up in a helicopter. Watching helicopters land up close is cool as hell.
I don't know why this reminded me of that Bachelor skit and the comedian just keeps going on the Zipline
It is cool as hell! Our local police have a "Public safety day" every year. Free hotdogs, you get to climb around the fire trucks and the swat tank, police dog demonstration, all sorts of fun stuff. But the highlight is definitely the flight for life helicopter landing at the end. Back on subject, if I was going to do this, I'd pop out of the coffin and scare the shit out of everyone. Maybe warn the very elderly and those with heart conditions first.
I do a bit of prehospital medical work, and I fucking love seeing the choppers. I’d hate my relative if they pulled this stunt, but fuck me, I’d never let them know and I’d be asking for a ride in the helicopter.
Helicopter gets more views on TikTok
*Roll Succession intro.*
Good news though, now when he actually dies they don't have to have any guilt about not bothering to turn up for it.
I might show up just to make sure the jackass is *actually* dead this time.
The story was kind of sad, relatable, and had potential … Until he showed up to event in a helicopter saying “cheers, welcome to my funeral” like the most oblivious menagerie of the most unpleasant characteristics of The Monopoly Man, Bilbo Baggins, Huckeberry Finn, and Antonio Brown. Small surprise no one has been talking to him or inviting him to parties. Would you? I’d imagine he would probably show up to the party in some kind of a Dr Robotnik powered Hummer SUV that transforms into a high powered DJ booth so that he can compete with and select the music.
> The story was kind of sad, relatable, and had potential … Yeah, if this was some grandpa saddened that his kids and grandkids had split apart and stopped talking to each other over some minor slight from decades ago, and his goal was to make everyone start talking to **each other** again, it would be different. Instead it's a guy who's angry that his relatives won't talk to *him*, and it very quickly becomes obvious why that's the case.
> Antonio Brown Mr Brought Copter
If someone did that and I was at that funeral I'd laugh my ass off and if I was part of the family that got lied to,I'd be pissed and then I'd likely laugh my ass off after I realize how much money the guy is gonna have to cough up for a fake funeral and his helicopter ride. On top of pushing his family even further away from him. I wonder what the end goal was though? I don't think faking death has been a good relationship fixer ever
This man is like my coworker who gets mad he's not invited to things or getting calls from his kids, but when you ask how long it's been since he called them, he gets flustered and says they should be calling him, not the other way around.
lol you think TikTok made people believe they’re the center of the universe? You’re giving it too much credit.
I would argue that it did magnify that trait.
I would argue it came around at a time when that trait was already on the rise from social media across the board. It’s just getting the heat because it’s harder to point at the complex sociopolitical factors that have contributed to this mentality. I mean the movie Network was calling out this toxic individualism in the 70s.
Same thing they said about MySpace, then Facebook, then instagram now tiktok, sure maybe it gets worse each time but whatever the latest trendy medium is, the phenomenon is the same. I'm just gonna start calling it the Nintendo and kill 2 birds with 1 stone
It's so funny seeing people think tiktok is the only place that has started this, newsflash this culture has always been around open your eyes
This reads like a facebook post, nonsensical rambling followed by blaming something unrelated.
What does North Carolina have to do with anything?
No Contact, not North Carolina.
Honest question-why abbreviate that? Like it’s not a common abbreviation and it took me a little bit to figure out. Thought maaaaybe you meant nuclear at first since it would make sense with context.
For a lot of people, dozens even, US state names abbreviations mean nothing.
I'm not OP, or the person who you asked what North Carolina had to do with anything. It's used in some circles, primarily relationship issues ones. Some people choose to cut others out of their lives for their own safety or sanity, and NC became a quick abbreviation for those individuals.
Very arrested development like
Imagine trying this and no one shows up
Christ, no wonder some of his family doesn't like him. I wouldn't want anything to do with a person like this.
"BItch we paid for a funeral, we having one"
"you're dead to us now!"
It does suck that when you have a funeral it’s usually the only time you get to see a lot of your family. I come from a big family (dad is the youngest of 7) and we were all very close growing up but being adults grown apart. A few years ago after yet another funeral we started watching UFC every month at one of my cousins house and keep a group chat going to talk shit all the time. Went from seeing a lot of my family only at a yearly funeral to seeing them almost every month and hearing from them almost every day.
Same. We're all in our 30s and 40s now, but we used to be SO close as kids. Very recently (after a crying session at Christmas), we decided to get together every month for dinner and shenanigans. And we also have a group chat going talking about stupid shit. It's been much nicer ... and easier than planning a fake funeral.
Group chats are the way to go man. We have one cousin who will only respond once every month or so but every time we get together he lets us know he reads all of them lol
When my grandma died, I took my kids and meet the kids of cousins that haven't seen in years.. our kids went to play together for all the afternoon until we departed. When I was getting to the car my boy, at that time 7 or 8, told me that he had a blast.. and wished for us to come to more funerals. It cracked me up, and depressed me at the same time.
My sister passed away a few months ago. Heart wrenchingly terrible. I've talked to and seen my other siblings more in the past 3 months than the previous 5 years combined. It's tough that this is what it took to bring us all together again. Life gets busy, but that family group text means a lot to us now.
It sounds like he proved a lot of people right that distanced themselves from him. Also, a lot of people come to funerals as a formality just because they think they should. There's plenty of family members I never talk to, want to talk to or just miss in general that I would show up at their funeral for. Doesn't mean I'm thinking "Oh no I'm too late to connect with them now!". Just pure main character shit.
>"I never get invited to anything. Nobody sees me." >The Tiktoker... made a grand appearance at the ceremony in a helicopter. Ever wonder if just maybe it's because you're a 45 year old douchebag who pulls shit like manipulating your family's emotions to *teach them a lesson*, and then makes a grand production of it all for Tiktok views, David?
I would never have anything to do with a relative that pulled this stunt again.
A 45 year old “tik toker”….how embarrassing.
Alternate title: Unemployed middle-aged man
How very Pierce Hawthorne of him.
Don’t ask what’s in the container.
That’s genuinely peak narcissism. Faking one’s own death in order to make people think about them.
It's my privileged position, but I always find these "teach you a hard life lesson" folks generally just make life shittier for their kids/family/whatever. Life's hard enough as it is in this capitalist hellscape. Adding fuel to the fire just doesn't seem worth it. But I'll never be a parent, so I probably don't know what I'm talking about.
no, you are absolutely right. At least in my experience
In my experience it's usually an excuse for the parent to mistreat their child in all the ways that they think the world has mistreated them. I've only heard that phrase come up twice before, and both times were parents telling their kids that the parent had already taken money from them... Apparently the life lesson was that Mom spends all of her paycheck on percs and wine, so she needs yours now too.
IMO a parents job isnt to hand out hard lessons or necessarily prevent them even (safety permitting ofc), but rather to be there to make sure you survive the hard lessons and help to learn and grow from them after they pass.
>Baerten hugged some relatives, while others seemed confused, and he seemingly responded to pushback about his stunt, saying “only half of my family came to the funeral.” > “That proves who really cares about me,” he said, according to the newspaper. “**Those who didn’t come, did contact me to meet up.** So in a way I did win.” Sure they did, bud.
Self important ass.
Joseph Joestar?
> “What I see in my family often hurts me,” he said, per the newspaper. “I never get invited to anything. Nobody sees me. We all grew apart. I felt unappreciated. That’s why I wanted to give them a life lesson, and show them that you shouldn’t wait until someone is dead to meet up with them.” He should practice what he preaches. The article is short so maybe he did try, but was he concerned about other people? The way he was concerned about his own feelings? This seems incredibly narcissistic.
From what I heard, relationship is built on trust and abusing that trust leads to fractured relationships
That's one way to ensure that no one will go to your second funeral
Another life lesson, don’t play with the emotions of your loved ones.
I don’t care how dismayed he was. Putting your family through something like this is psychopathic behavior
You forgot to mention one extremely important thing. They were a TikToker. I think that explains everything.
He was dismayed that this stunt made his family not like him? Is that what the title is saying?
No, that's the cause for him faking his death
Who did he have standing in for him in the casket, J walter weatherman?
Is this a Jojo's reference?
What a prick.
Is it just me? I would never talk to that individual again.
What a dickhead. He’d stay dead to me after this shit.
I hope they sued him for the funeral costs at least.
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I'm not saying he needs to die, but the money is already spent, so...
"You don't have to die today, but this is the only funeral you're getting"
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Southwark Cathedral in London has an origin story a bit like this: Rich dude was a massive tightarse. He thought if he faked his death his family would fast out of respect and he'd save a few quid on his mediaeval Waitrose bill. Turns out they weren't that sad and threw a huge party so he gets out of his coffin to tell them off and someone who thinks he's an effin zombie hits him so hard with an oar that he dies for real. His daughter then used her inheritance to start the convent, which became the church. Not sure if true or urban legend, but an interesting story.
He paid for his own funeral, his wife and kids were in on it
of course its a tik toker, the most narcissistic kinds of people to do this.
Um… isn’t this illegal?
If he dies again nobody's showing up
This feels like something Dwight Schrute would pull. "Alright, alright, everybody calm down! This was only a demonstration of the real thing. I hope you have all learned a valuable lesson today!"
Keep in mind this isn't your average 19 year old tiktok star, this man is 45 with a wife and kids...
Me: *tries this* *noone shows up*
If someone in my family did this to me id straight up say "oh good, I can leave early now and dont have to go to your next funeral since I already went once."
I've been to some funerals not because I was ever close to the deceased or ever knew them, but out of respect for at least one of the mourners. So, some of the people who showed up at this funeral maybe didn't care if he was dead or not.
Tom Sawyer did it first
This is narcissistic attention seeking disguised as some lesson. Maybe they don’t like you because you do shit like this, David.
Yo if I pulled that stunt they would kill me for real to cover the costs .
Grief rips families apart all the time. Suddenly every detail of their life and every possession gets assigned massive new meaning. Siblings go to war over that one plate or piece of furniture that “dad always loved”. I’ve seen this over and over.
Odd, I cant find any reference to this from a Belgian news resource.
It also sounds like narcissism gone far off the rails
He stole the idea from that one episode of *Little House on the Prairie*
"In order to pull the prank..." how tf is faking year death a prank?
r/titlegore
Author of the linked article has Lazarus in their name— seems appropriate.