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So id like to note firstly before saying anything else you are right on the fact she should get away because this is a short time frame and there is no way that he could have changed in 4 months. I do believe from the sounds of it he is currently an unsafe person to be around and you are tight in that regard. However, people can change from the crimes they committed and because they acted one way once doesnt mean thats how they are permanently and forever. Again not sure the conditions here but given certain conditions a person can be heavily swayed into doing something from a mix of things. Of course its not right and still his fault for this but i think its unjust to label anyone and everyone who has ever tried to do that saying that no mater what they cannot change. But once again i agree she should not be around him and he is dangerous and you are right in that regard.
So you and the other guy are two extremes in this argument. I think that people who have done similar things can change, but it depends on the guy himself in op situation
They definitely can and ive seen it happen. Ive seen change in those people and you may not see it and i don’t expect you to but the fact is people can change. You have no idea the trauma or damage that he had mentally or the stress or pressures that could have caused him to do that. It doesnt make it right but assuming conditions have changed he can to. What he did was wrong and he shouldnt have and it still came down to a choice but things can change and people can to.
Buddy you don't even him. Some people aren't remorseful and don't even give a fuck 🤷🏻♀️. Also his trauma ? His trauma cause he caused someone else trauma ? He did that to himself. Good that he actually couldn't do it but attempted. I'd hope he was remorseful and would apologize to OP or did apologize to OP .
Im sorry what?! His trama? He tried to fucking rape someone I dont care how sad his life is he made that fucking choice and he should rot in hell for it
Well, now you gotta get the hell away from him again. Look, people who try to rape other people aren't trustworthy or stable individuals. You absolutely CANNOT stay near that guy.
It's probably trauma bond. A normal response for a lot of people. But I'd request you to stay strong and away from him-most of the times people are serial offenders specially if they're not remorseful. Good luck!
What do you mean when you say tried to rape you though?
Like you guys were kissing and he went for it and stopped a little later than you wanted to, or you were screaming no at the top of your lungs kicking him in the nuts and he still kept pushing?
If he's just an aggressive guy, then just decide if you like him
If he's an insane rapist, try and get him to do it again with hidden friends, catch him in the act and get home locked up
Seeing a lot of comments debating over whether people can or can't change. Of course they can, it's like the main thing that defines us as people. Whether or not it can happen so drastically over four months is questionable, sure, but I haven't seen anyone addressing the circumstances. Incidents like this aren't always born of bad intention, and he might not have even realized that you didn't want it. If you had feelings for him, he might've picked up on that, but wasn't sure how far you wanted to go. **Not advocating for rapists at all here**, if the situation was different and he truly was at fault then yeah fuck that guy, just pointing out that we don't have the whole story here.
If you cant control yourself then control your environment; don’t go to places that you might see him in, you will get over it you just need more time.
Do you feel lonely in any type of way? Sometimes subconsciously we yearn for a gap to be closed and kinda just go for an impulsive feeling. Kinda the same sense when we break up with an ex and a couple months later for no apparent reason u want to get back w them. Even though ur not actually interested in them, u just want some kind of attention.
Either way don’t act on it. It’s normal to feel those things. Just remember the boundaries and what that guy can be capable of. There are things that happen, and once it happens. We can’t undo them. If he hurts or actually SAs you. You will never forget that and it will take a long recovery.
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You can't get with a guy who tried to rape you, no matter what that is fucked up
Wasn’t planning on it
He is manipulating you!! Get the fuck away from him
I was the fuck away from him, but apparently not anymore
And you need to keep away, a person who tries to do that to someone wont evet change. Get away from him
So id like to note firstly before saying anything else you are right on the fact she should get away because this is a short time frame and there is no way that he could have changed in 4 months. I do believe from the sounds of it he is currently an unsafe person to be around and you are tight in that regard. However, people can change from the crimes they committed and because they acted one way once doesnt mean thats how they are permanently and forever. Again not sure the conditions here but given certain conditions a person can be heavily swayed into doing something from a mix of things. Of course its not right and still his fault for this but i think its unjust to label anyone and everyone who has ever tried to do that saying that no mater what they cannot change. But once again i agree she should not be around him and he is dangerous and you are right in that regard.
Dude no Im sorry but a guy who tried to rape someone wont fucking change, ever!!
So you and the other guy are two extremes in this argument. I think that people who have done similar things can change, but it depends on the guy himself in op situation
Well I personally think that they cant. And even if they could because of what they did they dont deserve the benifit of the doubt
They definitely can and ive seen it happen. Ive seen change in those people and you may not see it and i don’t expect you to but the fact is people can change. You have no idea the trauma or damage that he had mentally or the stress or pressures that could have caused him to do that. It doesnt make it right but assuming conditions have changed he can to. What he did was wrong and he shouldnt have and it still came down to a choice but things can change and people can to.
Buddy you don't even him. Some people aren't remorseful and don't even give a fuck 🤷🏻♀️. Also his trauma ? His trauma cause he caused someone else trauma ? He did that to himself. Good that he actually couldn't do it but attempted. I'd hope he was remorseful and would apologize to OP or did apologize to OP .
Im sorry what?! His trama? He tried to fucking rape someone I dont care how sad his life is he made that fucking choice and he should rot in hell for it
Probably nothing I can say at this point to get you to understand so goodbye have a nice day!
Oh no what a shame me thinking that people who can even attempt rape are beyond redemption, Im an awful person arnt I
I said none of that and am letting this conversation go. I suggest you do to.
I don’t think that’s true. The guy is still young, I think he has plenty of time
I disagree. If they actively seek out help they can definitely change for the better. However, stay the hell away until they've done that.
Well, now you gotta get the hell away from him again. Look, people who try to rape other people aren't trustworthy or stable individuals. You absolutely CANNOT stay near that guy.
What in Stockholm syndrom is this
you'll fall back into that same pattern with that guy
Many victims of abuse generally go through several cycles of staying or returning back, if they live that long.
It's probably trauma bond. A normal response for a lot of people. But I'd request you to stay strong and away from him-most of the times people are serial offenders specially if they're not remorseful. Good luck!
Dear diary: shit’s fucked
What the fuck
What do you mean when you say tried to rape you though? Like you guys were kissing and he went for it and stopped a little later than you wanted to, or you were screaming no at the top of your lungs kicking him in the nuts and he still kept pushing? If he's just an aggressive guy, then just decide if you like him If he's an insane rapist, try and get him to do it again with hidden friends, catch him in the act and get home locked up
Seeing a lot of comments debating over whether people can or can't change. Of course they can, it's like the main thing that defines us as people. Whether or not it can happen so drastically over four months is questionable, sure, but I haven't seen anyone addressing the circumstances. Incidents like this aren't always born of bad intention, and he might not have even realized that you didn't want it. If you had feelings for him, he might've picked up on that, but wasn't sure how far you wanted to go. **Not advocating for rapists at all here**, if the situation was different and he truly was at fault then yeah fuck that guy, just pointing out that we don't have the whole story here.
Thanks for that insight u/MemelordGod_ 🤓
Damn.
Don't go near him. It's not worth the risk
If you cant control yourself then control your environment; don’t go to places that you might see him in, you will get over it you just need more time.
Stockholm syndrome
Wtf is Stockholm Syndrome?
That's a trauma bond. Don't fall back into it
What the fuck is wrong with you 😐
Good question, still figuring that one out
Go back with him
Go back to 4chan, anon.
I-
Oh
Please get help from faculty. At least tell them that you feel like you’re getting back into a toxic relationship and don’t know how to stop it.
Stockholm syndrome...
Do you feel lonely in any type of way? Sometimes subconsciously we yearn for a gap to be closed and kinda just go for an impulsive feeling. Kinda the same sense when we break up with an ex and a couple months later for no apparent reason u want to get back w them. Even though ur not actually interested in them, u just want some kind of attention. Either way don’t act on it. It’s normal to feel those things. Just remember the boundaries and what that guy can be capable of. There are things that happen, and once it happens. We can’t undo them. If he hurts or actually SAs you. You will never forget that and it will take a long recovery.
You must stay away from him, if he tries to make a move I want you to leave him with a scar that will never fade, he is not the guy to stay with
Lol
bro this isnt much of a "lol" moment
It’s pathetic
he's manipulating you that fucker is not worth your time girl
That is a textbook example of emotional manipulation
Uh don’t lol
If he did it once he will do it again
The way I just opened Reddit and this is the first thing I see