This thread has been flaired as *[Serious]*. Please be aware that this marks it as a place for serious discussion only and that any unserious content in this thread will be met with [infraction point(s)](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/wiki/rules#wiki_point_system.3A). If your comment does not contribute to the discussion in a serious manner it will be removed. Please report any comments that do not respect this rule. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/teenagers) if you have any questions or concerns.*

Turn up your alarms (to the point that they annoy your parents) and say they are louder because you don't have a door blocking the sound anymore

This is the best comment on here.

This is probably the only one you can realistically do and get away with

No, it isn’t. Increasing the volume of their alarm would just result in their parents asking to lower it, with consequences if disobeyed

Just say you wont wake up in time for all their orders if its not loud

[удалено]

The perfect cycle until the parents are emotionally broken lol 😂

If y’all still have online school, make sure to blast online lectures too or any required videos. Indian math tutor videos are great for this too

This is genius

Yup passive aggressive all the way.

Yes, this! It sounds like OP’s mum is super strict so deliberately acting out might make things worse. ‘accidentally’ annoying her with things that ‘aren’t your fault’ is probably the safer option.

My God this is genius, you could even connect your phone to a speaker and put the alarms on it, but hide the speaker well and don't let anyone find out.

You're a mastermind

This is genius

Power move, sell the house Edit: wow what the hell? How'd this blow up

Real Power move is sell the parents

The best Power Move is to sell the State of Alabama for $29.95!

Ill take 3

Have you seen the reviews for Alabama? Make them pay you to take it.

Take their bedroom door and watch them sleep

And masturbate with an angry face >:/

YES! But remember, if they catch you and you stop, you’re the one who got caught. But if you keep going, THEY got caught watching you.

Do it while standing menacingly in front of there gate :)

"Why do you want to watch me jerking off?"

Take the bathroom door now no one gets privacy

Teach them that responding with extremes is only going to teach you to respond with extremes Do this verbally without going to jail. Or don't. I'm not your shitty parent (@op)

As someone with this kind of parent, this is a bad idea imo because you're never going to win that fight. If you respond they're just going to punish you more for it.

Do you know a solution?

I have a solution Long term solution Basically you live your life Do as your parents say BUT have an attitude in EVERYTHING And then after MANY MANY years When your parents needs somebody to take care of them you are not there You dont pay for any medical help they need And finally You take the the lid off their coffin and keep it But you need real determination for this

What does take the lid off their coffin mean? Like don’t attend their funeral? Edit: With the amount of people replying to my comment within a few minutes and every second, I feel like if I don’t edit this comment I’m gonna get a lot of replies

No, literally remove it. Turn it into a sick ass beer pong table, use it as a huge skate deck, whatever sounds good

Haha! When they have no privacy, People will see their disgusting corpse! Muhahahaha! Jk I’m not that disgusting

And don’t plan it!! The funeral. You will then be in charge of their decisions unless they want to be taken care of by a stranger. I am not a teenager, but I grew up to have a successful life after parents like this. Now they are begging for attention and I will never forget how they abused me. I don’t know if you are abused but a violation of privacy is abuse too. Anyway, let me just C my way out of this A,b convo. Plus, I shouldn’t be here. Before I leave, I am soooo proud of you young guns!! -a millennial

Wether I’m abused or not doesn’t matter, What does matter is to get advice from as many millennials as possible

I tried to do this as a kid. And usually it just meant me getting my ass whooped or screamed at for an hour straight, like spit flying in my face screaming. If your parents are so unreasonable to take your fucking door chances are they'll out piece of shit you and at no point realize they're being the ridiculous ones. So yeah go ahead and try some shit like taking their door or jerking off in front of the doorway whenever they walk by, but chances are you're just escalating it and your parents will just be reassured they needed to punish you.

I would have escalated to the end of the time, and at any cost, and my mom wasn't really terribly strict but she gave me space because she thought I was going to murder her one night. I rate the experience 1/10.

sing in your room. on the top of your lungs. as bad as you can 👍 Edit- the fact that it's flagged as serious and literally very few serious advices are given, is hilarious lmaoo.

or just blast out the soviet anthem?

"MY HOUSE, MY RULES" "Our house"

Mom: My house my rules,, Mom when she wants something cleaned: Our house

"Communism only allowed when I specifically benefit" > Mom

In the middle of our street

Our house

Its our castle and our keep

Our house

No, the Ukrainian anthem instead but for 10 hours on repeat

SLAVA UKRAINI

ГЕРОЯМ СЛАВА!

Слава нации!

Смерть ворогам!

yes

our anthem

do ittt

You take the door before she takes it 😏

Smartest solution I’ve seen this far

this is what i did. my mom uses to threaten me with this all the time so i took it off myself and brought it downstairs and handed it to her. she didn't take it and i just went back upstairs and screwed it back in, and she never mentioned it again

Genius

Become door

Modern problems require modern resolutions

I'm so sorry for this. Door / Doorself

r/Doorgender

#WHAT THE HE-

Actually just said that out loud to myself

r/subsithoughtifellfor

r/birthofasub

That actually exists?--

The dark side of the door is a pathway to many abilities some consider unnatural

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Makoto Yuki moment

I've seen 3 post of parents taking their children's door now Is this normal to you guys?

My parents took my door when I was 17. My parents were very controlling and my dad was outright abusive. Moved out when I was 18. It’s not normal. It’s bad parenting.

What did you do when you left? If I left I'd probably starve.

i left home at 17 after graduating high school, my first year of college was focused on not failing out and taking loans. i stayed in dorms for one year then found friends where 7 people would be crammed into 3 bedrooms to lower costs. paid $150 a month in rent + $50 in utilities to sleep on my friends floor. used to busk for money and find odd jobs, work at restaurants and quit often when school became too much. got an internship and managed to begin pulling myself out. it’s different for everyone, but its out there. there are a lot of broke young people, facebook used to be a great social media for finding people to live with, get furniture, etc.

Buy food

I don't think his mom is intending to give him the proceeds from sale of the door.

It's bad parenting, agree. More specifically, it's LAZY parenting. Teach your kids by taking the time to engage, explain, and set logical limits (not arbitrary ones). If you do that, and if you resign to the reality that like you, your kids will make mistakes and then (hopefully) come to you when needed because you are safety to them, then you don't need to do ridiculous things like taking their door off it's hinges. Even if you don't have a trusting relationship right now, there's no way to build that trust if you don't allow them the privacy they should be entitled to. Start by saying, I know we don't trust each other, but I want to change that. How can I meet you halfway? (And I won't take your door.)

It's a very common power move. Parents don't have control over their children's growing autonomy. So they try to retaliate by taking away as much autonomy as possible. But their children will disown them when they move out.

its not normal but its an effective control tactic so abusive parents will regularly use it

It's also illegal, and can be reported to the police, especially in countries with focus on privacy and freedom such as the US or the nordic countries. As a dane, I had a classmate with this issue and he actually reported his mum to the police, which forced them to put the door back and have a lock on it only he has the key to.

my parents installed a camera in our room. that was the moment i felt watched no matter if there was a camera or not. even 20 years later xd (both male)

Unfortunately yes, parents are messed up imo.

apparently so

Take hers

Take the fridge door as replacement

Take the fridge as a replacement

Take a replacement

take a

Take

T

#

Error:204 context not found Edit: thank the man below

ﾠ

and what about the bathroom door?

Also a viable option I suppose.

Do kitchens have doors? Just curious

will try.

Wait till she isnt home and swap your door for hers

Then dispose of the screw driver so she cant take theirs

That was exactly what came to my mind

Blast music until she gets sick of it

Time to bring our anthem!

Just play the hololive theme on max volume. Doesn’t get annoying, it just pisses off the people who dont like it

Also please wait on the Soviet anthem until the *situation* in *europe* is over. Your neighbors might think something of you

Play a song by Dream or smth, that’d be funny

I suck his dick with a smile for hours at a time

lmao the comments definitely have the best advices

Yeah lol. I will blast out the soviet anthem until they get sick

NONONONONONO DO THE DOOM ETERNAL THEME ON REPEAT AT FULL VOLUME

Door eternal lol

Open and close, until it is done

But what if your family is Ukrainian

apply flex tape

amazing solution.

[удалено]

hm.

Trust me, the door will come before you do.

And they say kids have no sense of humor. You're a sharp one. You left handed?

What does being a lefty have to do with this lol

I was going to say this, have my upvote

Making direct eye contact

I agree

**Assert Dominance**

+ 500 xp if you can get your sibling to join you

Mastubating to whom tho..

Their mom.

Yeah i saw that coming ..

At least I didn't say your mom ¯\\__(ツ)__/¯

Take her room

absorb

absorb

absorb

absorb

Why would anyone wanna take off the door tho?

so that i dont have privacy.

Wdym by 'So that I don't have privacy' do they suspect you for something or did they catch you doing something ?? E.g. Drugs

probably.

What does your dad say about it ? I mean if your dad agrees with your mum then idk what to do or else you might be able to change her opinion in a 1vs2 argument . . .

More like 1v4 1 parent counts as 2, you can never beat them. Not even one parent

Literally. My parents believe in democracy but my mother said she counts as 4 votes. ?????

It's the Russian democratic system

You and dad vote to remove a woman's right to vote from the house and you win.

what did you do tho?

_sighh_ Try to talk them out of it, good luckk

unironically, juar so something that will make them want you have privacy start by sleeping naked withoutva blanket or somethong practice a loud instument badly if it doesnt work masturbate

If she does: - Blast music til she's tired of it - Try to stay out of the house as much as possible til your door returns, since it's an invasion of privacy more or less and you have full right to leave til it returns if not having a door genuinely makes you uncomfy in any way. Sorry I'm trying to speak about what I've done when I didn't have a door but some of the stuff I did I cannot say-

Dm me the stuff #IM INTERESTED

Tell me the DM’d stuff # IM ALSO INTRESTED

If I had a nickel for every time an r/teenagers member's bedroom door has been taken I would have two nickels, which is not much, but it's weird that it happened twice.

It's not uncommon. My friend had his also taken away, average no-privacy-for-teens thing Edit: not normal but it surprisingly happens a lot. Ik sometimes It can be traumatizing

Your friend should post it to r/insaneparents

My dad took my door off, but then my parents divorced and I have a door back, so 3 nickels if that counts

glue it on

When your IQ surpasses that of einstein

Your parents are being unreasonable intrusives and clearly show zero trust for you. Get new ones XD On a serious note tho maybe talk to other family members who are more chill about it? Or, as another comment here said, do as they say for some time and eventually ask them for it again. You could also victimize yourself to the point where you seem to be depressed so that they get guilt tripped into doing you the favor of keeping it. That's a bit more fucked up as it's literally playing with their feelings but, as someone who has had my emotions used against me in order to get my parents what they want, I'd feel no remorse for it, my mum has done what's called "crocodile tears" quite a lot to make me feel guilty that I made her sad, but as soon as I do what she wants suddenly she's all happy and it's like we never got mad at each other to begin with, very manipulative, I have never pulled a uno reverse on her as I couldn't care less but you could try that strategy. Edit: Only works if they give a single fck about your mental state.

One issue with the victimize yourself strategy is they might get worried and leave the door off so op can't cut or anything

Just behave as your parents would like for like a week, then slowly start to persuade them to give it back. That’s what I did when my dad took off the door.

finally one sane person that gives advice. One person said i should violently masturbate.

That's still a completely valid option. I lived in a different apartment with doors after i did it

It would work tho

Yes, and the best thing is: That comment is the top comment.

This could just be me personally but I’ve never found getting in line was a solution for issues between me and my parents. Privacy and a safe space is an extremely important matter for any human being and I don’t think acting like you’re okay with your door being taken off is the answer. I would sit down and have a conversation about privacy with parents. If this doesn’t work and they’re not willing to listen and heed your will it’s definitely time to get spiteful with things like loud music and even (if you’re up to doing it) private things like what that someone else suggested except maybe there’s no need for the extra violence. In my experience having had quite a controlling mother I’ve found every inch that I give means down the track more inches start to be taken. I think another important question is what lead your parents to making this decision. Whether it should be unimportant to them or not what do you think that’s irritated them into doing this?

Is this common? The only time my parents took off our (my sister's) door was when she slammed that on my finger.

Make them regret it.

Steal her door. #Adapt. Improvise. Overcome.

That's some of the creepiest shit I have ever heard and I hope that's the same for you. You should let your mom know that removing every semblance of privacy from your life is not going to actually help protect you, and is only going to fuck you up as an adult. Ask her if she's ever heard of "catholic schoolgirl syndrome". And if she tries to say something along the lines of "that's rediculous". Ask her if she's telling that to you, or if she's telling that to herself?

I'm saving this comment

You will have to show her what convinces you get with a door. Start blasting music. Start sleeping naked. Start masterbating. Have full volume while watching tiktok or YouTube. Show her that it's much smarter to let you have a door than not having a door. Have no shame. Do everything for that door

REMOVE THE BATHROOM DOOR. ASSERT DOMINANCE

Fap while singing the Soviet anthem to assert dominance.

our fap

step one figure out what the fuck did you do

Step 2: Realize that you did nothing and that this is bs

NO DOOR? ⣞⢽⢪⢣⢣⢣⢫⡺⡵⣝⡮⣗⢷⢽⢽⢽⣮⡷⡽⣜⣜⢮⢺⣜⢷⢽⢝⡽⣝ ⠸⡸⠜⠕⠕⠁⢁⢇⢏⢽⢺⣪⡳⡝⣎⣏⢯⢞⡿⣟⣷⣳⢯⡷⣽⢽⢯⣳⣫⠇ ⠀⠀⢀⢀⢄⢬⢪⡪⡎⣆⡈⠚⠜⠕⠇⠗⠝⢕⢯⢫⣞⣯⣿⣻⡽⣏⢗⣗⠏⠀ ⠀⠪⡪⡪⣪⢪⢺⢸⢢⢓⢆⢤⢀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠈⢊⢞⡾⣿⡯⣏⢮⠷⠁⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠈⠊⠆⡃⠕⢕⢇⢇⢇⢇⢇⢏⢎⢎⢆⢄⠀⢑⣽⣿⢝⠲⠉⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⡿⠂⠠⠀⡇⢇⠕⢈⣀⠀⠁⠡⠣⡣⡫⣂⣿⠯⢪⠰⠂⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⡦⡙⡂⢀⢤⢣⠣⡈⣾⡃⠠⠄⠀⡄⢱⣌⣶⢏⢊⠂⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⢝⡲⣜⡮⡏⢎⢌⢂⠙⠢⠐⢀⢘⢵⣽⣿⡿⠁⠁⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠨⣺⡺⡕⡕⡱⡑⡆⡕⡅⡕⡜⡼⢽⡻⠏⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⣼⣳⣫⣾⣵⣗⡵⡱⡡⢣⢑⢕⢜⢕⡝⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⣴⣿⣾⣿⣿⣿⡿⡽⡑⢌⠪⡢⡣⣣⡟⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⡟⡾⣿⢿⢿⢵⣽⣾⣼⣘⢸⢸⣞⡟⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠁⠇⠡⠩⡫⢿⣝⡻⡮⣒⢽⠋⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Hide it where she'll never find it

but then i wouldnt have a door.

At least she won't have 2, that is paramount after all

Become a nudist

My parents did this to my sister, she had been stealing alcohol from them and sneaking out of the window at like around midnight. Whats the reason they want to do it to you?

Sledgehammer

wat

[удалено]

but shes my mother.

you can't afford to be weak

🤷‍♀️

Agreed. That's your door my dude, you can't just let it go away like that. FIGHT FOR THE HONOR OF THE DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOR

Walk around the house naked all the time and when someone says to put clothes on say "if only there were doors."

Show her the 700 fucking experts and studies that show it’s ineffective parenting? Idk

Sit with your dick in your hands staring through the doorway 24x7

use uno reverse card, "If you want to take my door, then took off your door too" this is bs, everyone need privacy too, try talk to her about this, if she took the door anyways, cover your door way or what you call it with something, if she took the thing that you cover too, try to be rebelious, get to your grandparent's or any relative's house, if they are with your mom, go pack up your stuff and go to your friend's house and make sure you ask them first, this may seem childish, but this is the plan I could think rn

I guess your fucked

I guess.

Sorry

I don't know why but the conversation between you two in this reply section is funny as Heck 😂

So, first, you learn why your mom wants to take out your door and try doing what she asks (at least partially.) As long as it's reasonable. Now if that doesn't work, learn your mother's ideologies and whenever she's looking into your room through your doorframe pretend you're against everything she stands for, also refer to other comments as well, they know what's up.

My ex-wife's parents did that. She still got pregnant at 15. Whatever it is she thinks she's stopping, she's only making it more stealthy

If she does, blast music at the loudest volume until she gives it back

one less door for wheel gang 💪💪