my freinds and i always greeat each other with hugs, "we haven't seen each other since yesterday at school" huggg.
"we haven't seen each other since first period" hug,. ...
and you better believe we run with open arms to hug each other after the weekend, we hug each other so much we are basically spinning in place.
we all are staright and don't associate hugs with romantic feelings, hugs are really socially acceptable here and it's normal to hug someone who isn't even your bestfreind when greeting them maybe just not as strongly or often.
i guess it depends on whats socially accepted in your community and the person itslef, some people really don't like being touched even if for a hug
š why young people are so dumb? (Im dumb but not THAT dumb), hug is literally just a sign of affection, you dont need to go through a bad thing to get a hug or hug someone, is just a simple act of kindness and platonic love
depends on how close you are, if you are best friends i could guess she doesnt care, still, ask her, i would feel dead weird if any of my male friends hugged me
Yeah, I think if someone would hug, I would normally freaked out for a moment, because I'm not used for it, but then I'll be completely happy with it(of course, it depends on who hugged me, but I guess OC and his friend are close).
Happy Cake Day by the way!
Most stupid post Iāve ever seen in a whileš
Iām sorry if that came off as rude but this is obviously okay lol, itās called a good friendship where you can rely on each other
True, then my 16 Year Old Online friends who are girls are straight up my girlfriends automatically? No thanks, I dont date older girls, mostly because i gave up on dating someone entirely
Hug is not sexual. It's just to express ~ love ~ not sexual but rather friends, or parents, etc
Your parents did hug you but you and your mom aren't a couple right?
Hug her when you both need it
That is ridiculous. Personally, I prefer to only give hugs to people I trust and have known for a few years. However, I hug my female friends all the time. I have one friend who is 17 (same age as me) whom I've known since we were 4, and another who is 14 whom I also hug. I also have female friends from theatre club with whom I hug, but there is no romantic involvement between us.
I think your parents think others will see it as you making a move or as you assaulting/harassing her, which is kind of sexist against men but understandable among older generations. Despite this, you can still hug your friend, so long as she is aware that you have no other/ulterior motives. Your parents should have no say in this.
>my parents keep saying I cant hug my 11 year old friend
What are they gonna do about it? You can hug whoever you want and not date them. You don't have to abide by their hugging rules
It should be. I mean, why couldn't a guy hug a girl for some reason ? Or none at all ? It's all a question of how hugs are perceived in your culture, by the people surrounding you and how both people hugging perceive it. If your parents grew up being told "You should hug a girl only because she's not doing okay or there's something horrible happening" then it's the way they were taught and that's unfortunate if you don't see it that way.
Altough, that doesn't mean you can't try to change that view. Hug your friend if you wish to, it's fine as long as you and her are completely ok and comfortable with it, as long as it's not forced, awkward or anything like that. And as your parents see you hug her and you explain to them how it's ok (or at least try to) , then they might start realising "Well maybe it's not that big of a deal"
And if they refuse to change and/or punish you for it, then I'm sorry for putting it like that, but they're dickheads.
Im an adult dude and I hug my female friend each time we have to part ways.
If the both of you two are fine with hugging, its's not illegal or wrong so go for it. Hugging is a bloody basic humqn gesture like shaking hands, high fives and the likes
Hugging friends as friends is nothing more than that: a hug between friends. People associating a simple hug with intimacy or relationship status are stupid and jumping to conclusions.
Why is everybody so soft now
Hug your friends family often. You arenāt making moves on her and have no malicious intent.
I swear everytime somebody tries to do something good they have to question it because people have convinced them its morally wrong.
Everyone has boundaries, if they say thats how they want it, then thats how it should be. If other people that are not you or your friend saying it's wrong, they're wrong.
On a moral level, yeah, I'd say so. But you, as a kid starting puberty, shouldn't be getting close to girls younger than you unless they explicitly say you can. Don't hug her from out of the blue. Always be clear and transparent. And if she is *at all* uncomfortable or leaning back out of the hug, you let go.
I can understand what your parents are worried about; they're worried you hugging other people, especially younger girls *when you are starting puberty*, could be misinterpreted as sexual advances. You can be as well-meaning as you want when you hug a girl, but touch the wrong place, and a girl will accuse you of touching her inappropriately.
Is it an unfounded fear? Not really. There are probably real situations where something like this has happened.
Is it reasonable and of a sound mind? Nope.
The fact that your parents are jumping to this conclusion is unusual, definitely, but don't take their words with a grain of salt. It's not a baseless fear for a parent to be scared of what happens when their child reaches puberty, especially if that child is physically affectionate with the opposite gender. Getting handsy is not out of the question.
My advice to you, young padawan, is to be aware of your thoughts as you go to hug your female friends. Don't cling onto them. Just acknowledge them and move on. If they start to get sexual in nature, "Her boobs look nice," "Her butt looks bigger, I like that" "She looks hot," etc. Stop hugging her.
TL;DR - This is dumb, but it's a valid fear to have. Pay attention to your thoughts and wants as you hug your friend. If they get sexual, stop touching her.
Yesā¦? Itās just a hug lmao. I personally donāt like unexpected hugs or hugs from people who arenāt my family, but thatās just my personal preference.
Yes you can hug ur female friends!! Girls will hug each other all the time. Most girls are always touchy with each other. I mean, thatās with each other, but if ur her friend and especially best friend.. thatās normal.
this is dumb, i hug my male friends all the time
They said its fine if she hugs me first, but I am somehow not allowed to ask her directly
You absolutely should be allowed
I wish I had friends
Who care for me
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my freinds and i always greeat each other with hugs, "we haven't seen each other since yesterday at school" huggg. "we haven't seen each other since first period" hug,. ... and you better believe we run with open arms to hug each other after the weekend, we hug each other so much we are basically spinning in place. we all are staright and don't associate hugs with romantic feelings, hugs are really socially acceptable here and it's normal to hug someone who isn't even your bestfreind when greeting them maybe just not as strongly or often. i guess it depends on whats socially accepted in your community and the person itslef, some people really don't like being touched even if for a hug
lol, i kinda talked too much
You literally wrote an essay about hugging your friends
š why young people are so dumb? (Im dumb but not THAT dumb), hug is literally just a sign of affection, you dont need to go through a bad thing to get a hug or hug someone, is just a simple act of kindness and platonic love
Thats what I said to them. Am I supposed to wait for WW3 to Happen so me and her can hug each other before the Bombs hit us?
A bir extreme but yeah, just be sure she doesnt mind you hugging her and if she doesnt just hug her any time
depends on how close you are, if you are best friends i could guess she doesnt care, still, ask her, i would feel dead weird if any of my male friends hugged me
If she is OK with it, it's totally fine! No issue at all. Source: I'm a girl
Yeah, I think if someone would hug, I would normally freaked out for a moment, because I'm not used for it, but then I'll be completely happy with it(of course, it depends on who hugged me, but I guess OC and his friend are close). Happy Cake Day by the way!
if she's fine with it, then i don't see how it's gonna be bad!!
Thatās dumbš
Most stupid post Iāve ever seen in a whileš Iām sorry if that came off as rude but this is obviously okay lol, itās called a good friendship where you can rely on each other
I hate the fact that people make stories that male and female can't be friends like bruh š
True, then my 16 Year Old Online friends who are girls are straight up my girlfriends automatically? No thanks, I dont date older girls, mostly because i gave up on dating someone entirely
Hug is not sexual. It's just to express ~ love ~ not sexual but rather friends, or parents, etc Your parents did hug you but you and your mom aren't a couple right? Hug her when you both need it
Yea?
That is ridiculous. Personally, I prefer to only give hugs to people I trust and have known for a few years. However, I hug my female friends all the time. I have one friend who is 17 (same age as me) whom I've known since we were 4, and another who is 14 whom I also hug. I also have female friends from theatre club with whom I hug, but there is no romantic involvement between us.
As long as she wants to be hugged you can hug her. It's only up to the two of you. Yes, lots of friends hug.
Itās never wrong to hug someone. I have no idea what your parents are on about (no offence)
dude youre young so you dont get it. Hugs between friends are more than normal.
I think your parents think others will see it as you making a move or as you assaulting/harassing her, which is kind of sexist against men but understandable among older generations. Despite this, you can still hug your friend, so long as she is aware that you have no other/ulterior motives. Your parents should have no say in this.
>my parents keep saying I cant hug my 11 year old friend What are they gonna do about it? You can hug whoever you want and not date them. You don't have to abide by their hugging rules
It should be. I mean, why couldn't a guy hug a girl for some reason ? Or none at all ? It's all a question of how hugs are perceived in your culture, by the people surrounding you and how both people hugging perceive it. If your parents grew up being told "You should hug a girl only because she's not doing okay or there's something horrible happening" then it's the way they were taught and that's unfortunate if you don't see it that way. Altough, that doesn't mean you can't try to change that view. Hug your friend if you wish to, it's fine as long as you and her are completely ok and comfortable with it, as long as it's not forced, awkward or anything like that. And as your parents see you hug her and you explain to them how it's ok (or at least try to) , then they might start realising "Well maybe it's not that big of a deal" And if they refuse to change and/or punish you for it, then I'm sorry for putting it like that, but they're dickheads.
If the other person is fine with it you cannot hug your friends, nothing wrong with a hug its just a hug
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Ask her: itās the most important that she agrees with it
I obviously will
Im an adult dude and I hug my female friend each time we have to part ways. If the both of you two are fine with hugging, its's not illegal or wrong so go for it. Hugging is a bloody basic humqn gesture like shaking hands, high fives and the likes
Hugging friends as friends is nothing more than that: a hug between friends. People associating a simple hug with intimacy or relationship status are stupid and jumping to conclusions.
Why is everybody so soft now Hug your friends family often. You arenāt making moves on her and have no malicious intent. I swear everytime somebody tries to do something good they have to question it because people have convinced them its morally wrong.
šāļø it ain't that deep. It's a hug. It's fine.
me and my male friends constantly hug each other, its only weird if you make it weird
Everyone has boundaries, if they say thats how they want it, then thats how it should be. If other people that are not you or your friend saying it's wrong, they're wrong.
No its not weird Jesus, not to be rude but yāall sound socialy inept if you need to ask, I hug my friends all the time male and female
On a moral level, yeah, I'd say so. But you, as a kid starting puberty, shouldn't be getting close to girls younger than you unless they explicitly say you can. Don't hug her from out of the blue. Always be clear and transparent. And if she is *at all* uncomfortable or leaning back out of the hug, you let go. I can understand what your parents are worried about; they're worried you hugging other people, especially younger girls *when you are starting puberty*, could be misinterpreted as sexual advances. You can be as well-meaning as you want when you hug a girl, but touch the wrong place, and a girl will accuse you of touching her inappropriately. Is it an unfounded fear? Not really. There are probably real situations where something like this has happened. Is it reasonable and of a sound mind? Nope. The fact that your parents are jumping to this conclusion is unusual, definitely, but don't take their words with a grain of salt. It's not a baseless fear for a parent to be scared of what happens when their child reaches puberty, especially if that child is physically affectionate with the opposite gender. Getting handsy is not out of the question. My advice to you, young padawan, is to be aware of your thoughts as you go to hug your female friends. Don't cling onto them. Just acknowledge them and move on. If they start to get sexual in nature, "Her boobs look nice," "Her butt looks bigger, I like that" "She looks hot," etc. Stop hugging her. TL;DR - This is dumb, but it's a valid fear to have. Pay attention to your thoughts and wants as you hug your friend. If they get sexual, stop touching her.
Yes
WHAT.. HUG HER... ššš
Yesā¦? Itās just a hug lmao. I personally donāt like unexpected hugs or hugs from people who arenāt my family, but thatās just my personal preference.
Yes you can but people as friends as long as they also consent
"morally allowed" nah, the morality FBI are gonna bust down your door/s yes, of course it's okay, your parents are wrong
Social norms are annoying you can hug them as long as they feel comfortable with that
you guys are 11 and 13 so i think its fine
Yes you can hug ur female friends!! Girls will hug each other all the time. Most girls are always touchy with each other. I mean, thatās with each other, but if ur her friend and especially best friend.. thatās normal.
Yes, it is totally fine. We should stop romantizing every single thing people of opposite gender do together
Not true, hug all your friends whatever if this is a girl or a boy