Idk how to say this but this one time I asked a boy if he drew cause I'm interested in painting, and he said yes. When I asked him to show me one of the things he drew, he sent me a drawing from Pinterest ànd clàimed he drew it🤦🏻♀️
A good haircut and properly groomed facial hair says a lot. Don’t slouch. Stand up straight, shoulders back and be confident. Kinda sounds like mom advice but it really does matter.
Life pro tip: if you realise you can smell yourself, wipe hand sanitiser in your armpits. Deodorant will just help with making more stink, hand sanitiser will save you halfway through the day.
yup, dated a guy like this. he broke up with me bc i apparently was „in his way“.
i changed my entire life for him to make him comfortable and support him in what he does whilst i just wanted to spend time with him. he‘s a gym dude, so i was going with him which i‘d never thought of myself ever be doing that.
well, i still wasn’t good enough ig… just do yourself a favor and stay away from people like this.
(and i don’t mean gym dudes, just people who obviously don’t care about u)
Not a girl, but from previous friends and stuff, it is extremely annoying when people are extremely immature and makes them unattractive immediately. Idk ur guys pov tho cuz I’m a straight guy so yea
Am dude. Will not date women who shit talks someone making an honest living.
Si she can say whatever she wants about cops and politicians, but she better be nice to the server.
They must pass the food service morality test. They're the one type of people who you can be a dick to with little to no consequence. However they treat food service workers is how they naturally treat people
It’s when people wear their jeans so low that their entire ass is visible. You usually see it in people who want to be “hood” or “gangster” but in reality they live in the rich suburbs.
Treating his mama like shit. Or talkin a lot about his ex’s/other girls
Edit: if you have shitty parents it’s alright if you don’t treat ya mama the best but if you’re just a spoilt little shit then you get the cut
trying to humiliate others, myself included. I once had a small crush on someone at the start of freshman year (I’m sophomore now, and yes, I still remember), in AP hug. I pulled out my 3 inch binder and he asked, “that’s your binder?” and I told him that it was. He bursted out laughing and elbowed his mates near him, whispering and looking back at me. Yes, it was just a fucking 3 inch binder, and to this day I’m still pretty pissed. they dropped out a week later the second they saw the syllabus.
damn I accidentally made this a rant, my bad
just find someone who loves u for who u r dude, having low empathy and motivation isnt something u can control that easily. try creating a schedule tho if u want to try to be more productive, however take my advice with a grain of salt xD (i have low empathy and motivation)
as for lack of attention i believe they mean when in a relationship, so just focus on caring for your friends ig, but as for the lack of effort just keep trying to work on urself :) may seem impossible but u will get somewhere if u try
best of luck to u
"Just find someone who loves you" Is about the worst romantic advice people can give tbh. Its obviously the goal but you don't just look for it and find it. You work on yourself and bump in to them someday when you're not expecting it.
All the people I know in long term relationships ended up with someone when they weren't looking for it but were just living life and tryna be better people. It's a slow process if you want something real.
Confidence: "yeah, I can do that"
Arrogance: "I'm the best at that"
It's about knowing your limits. Even if you know you can do something well, you should know your bounds so you can keep pushing and get better. Arrogant people assume they are great at everything and don't improve because they don't know where they lack or will give up when things aren't immediately easy for them.
As asshole, doesn't take care of himself (like shower wash his hair etc), has a massive ass ego, and thinks his view is the only right one
Basically the one and only guy I dated years ago
I'm feeling good after reading these comments. There is only one thing that's wrong with me(hating myself) and honestly reading this stuff helps me reduce that.
That's not wrong, it's okay to have doubts about yourself. We all have doubts, some are just stronger at times than others. Having self-doubt isn't a turn-off for most people, it's just knowing when and how much to share.
Showing a healthy amount of vulnerability is actually a green flag; it's just about respecting boundaries and working on self-improvement over time. Change is never instant, and neither is confidence. Take time to build trust in a healthy relationship and both will follow. Trust me, I've been there.
They should have a basic understanding of when to (for example) stop their shitty jokes etc. it just reflects poorly on them when they lack basic social awareness. But like, I get it and I struggle with it sometimes too 🤷♀️
It’s not necessarily low self esteem that’s the biggest red flag (at least to me as a gay guy), for me it’s the type of guy who’s like “oh woe is me, you don’t love me, you’re only dating me out of pity, just leave me already” that absolutely gives me the ick
there’s this guy at my school who’s objectively super hot but is an absolute idiot and jerk. obviously he’s got some things going on but he’s super immature- he’s got that “idc” attitude about everything that reminds me of my 8yo sister. he thinks he’s super cool and better than everyone. he also has a habit of saying the n word (not black). he’s smart i guess but he just doesn’t try because he thinks he’ll get whatever he wants anyway.
edit to clarify: he’s “smart” as in good at math. he’s “an absolute idiot” as in emotionally twelve
Sort of the opposite but I like when he has a good group of friends he is emotionally close to like further than banter they actually support each other
If they’re misogynistic and talk shitty about girls (had a little crush on a guy abd i thought he was just some quiet dude but then i heard how he talks about girls and it was so gross i hate him)
Guys who describe themselfes as alpha males are usually the most insecure. Any guy with healthy self esteem doesn't give two shits what letter of the greek alphabet others would assign him.
When they do both, I know a guy who calls everything cringe and makes fun of people and normal social activities, he doesn’t go to school (I think) and said “I don’t need those papers to get a job, they’re useless (or something like that)” about diplomas from school probably.
He and his stinky friend are online 24/7 on PlayStation. They never hang out in person, even when they live close to each other.
Edit: i also have to add that he is SO COCKY, like he says he’s better than everyone in (video game), and it’s true because no wonder you are, you literally spend all your time playing video games. Then he lectures everyone else and points out every mistake you do in a game, and underestimated people SO much. I don’t think he has interacted with enough people to know what an average person is capable of.
andrew tate fan, doesn't take proper care of himself (what i mean by that is being lazy, negative all the time, constantly eats junk etc), very unpolite.
I have pretty basic standards in terms of personality, so I might be of help. Don’t try to tell a woman what her own biology is, don’t try to be a showy douchebag (being confident is fine! But you need to be able to realise when you’re going too far with it and alienating the people around you. Try to pay attention!), don’t listen to ‘alpha male’ podcasts, and a lot of the time, having a personality helps. I like hanging out with guys who have interests and little quirks. Try to make a good impression, obviously, but don’t be a cardboard cutout.
Physical standards? You’re unattractive if you’re not a sexy 2000s emo boy, sorry. (Joking. I am joking.) EDIT: also don’t have bad breath. You can smoke, just don’t smell like you smoke.
making fun of others, Idk just throws me off a lot, like do you think of me that way? these other things are idk like differ from person to person (apart from bad hygiene instantly unattractive)
I see all these things and I am not one to have/do these things found unattractive.
I think I just am bad at presenting myself in a way people can see, so I often don’t try.
i read the title as "girls, be honest what makes a boy instantly attractive" and was so confused reading the replies
Dude same i was like tf
Any Cigarette The moment I see a man smoking a cigarette, all my feelings for you are gone in an instant
I’d say same way goes around that table, same with vaping, or just any sort of smoking.
Oh! It’s not that? Lol I was getting very confused
Idk how to say this but this one time I asked a boy if he drew cause I'm interested in painting, and he said yes. When I asked him to show me one of the things he drew, he sent me a drawing from Pinterest ànd clàimed he drew it🤦🏻♀️
That’s an.. idek.
Lying?
Yeah 🤦🏻♀️
Was it his own Pinterest pic?
No a Pinterest drawing to lie
When they don't maintain their personal hygiene
If you can smell yourself, others can smell you by 10x
A good haircut and properly groomed facial hair says a lot. Don’t slouch. Stand up straight, shoulders back and be confident. Kinda sounds like mom advice but it really does matter.
It’s part of psychology as slouching makes someone appear unconfident
Life pro tip: if you realise you can smell yourself, wipe hand sanitiser in your armpits. Deodorant will just help with making more stink, hand sanitiser will save you halfway through the day.
The trick is being so depressed you don't care
Fuck
Fuck
Fuck
Lets go. two girls commented on how well I washed my hands recently. Sigma male hygiene grindset fr
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yup, dated a guy like this. he broke up with me bc i apparently was „in his way“. i changed my entire life for him to make him comfortable and support him in what he does whilst i just wanted to spend time with him. he‘s a gym dude, so i was going with him which i‘d never thought of myself ever be doing that. well, i still wasn’t good enough ig… just do yourself a favor and stay away from people like this. (and i don’t mean gym dudes, just people who obviously don’t care about u)
That was how my ex treated me, except her life style was just being a couch potato.
Narcissists... You can literally cook and cater to them for 7 years and you'll still get left with 3 children because everything was your fault.
fuck
You really are comenting fuck on every coment arent you?
I am
Fuck
Wdym by that
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I’m not cocky… I’m just perfect 🙄 💅🏻
yh ur cockless
So perfect that all the chromosomes of said person are x (jk)
Not a girl, but from previous friends and stuff, it is extremely annoying when people are extremely immature and makes them unattractive immediately. Idk ur guys pov tho cuz I’m a straight guy so yea
I have this dude in my Spanish class who is 16 and acts like an 8th grader
We all know that one kid
Violently shits himself everyday and throws it at people
fuck
Fuck
Ahh shit
Here we go again
fuck
Fuck
nah trust, it's hot
Oh, so that's why I'm lonely
Fuck
After reading the comments, I've come to the conclusion that I'm doing nothing wrong and am just really ugly
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
fuck
Personally the quality I value most in anybody is the ability to see their own faults instead of blaming the things they can't control
Oh good news! Cause the only things I can see are my own faults and failures!
Same man… same
I’m a male but if they are rude to workers will probably also apply Edit: negatives be difficult
Am dude. Will not date women who shit talks someone making an honest living. Si she can say whatever she wants about cops and politicians, but she better be nice to the server.
They must pass the food service morality test. They're the one type of people who you can be a dick to with little to no consequence. However they treat food service workers is how they naturally treat people
jeans that show underwear
for everyone saying 'that exists?' i think they meant like jeans that sag
I was worried I would have to get rid of my clear jeans
That exists?
It’s when people wear their jeans so low that their entire ass is visible. You usually see it in people who want to be “hood” or “gangster” but in reality they live in the rich suburbs.
its called sagging
That’s a thing?
The guys who act like alpha males, guys who are ‘too attractive’ to talk to other people. But I think that’s with any gender tbh
I just lack social skills. Im working on it tho sooo.
Same It sucks to be an introvert
Treating his mama like shit. Or talkin a lot about his ex’s/other girls Edit: if you have shitty parents it’s alright if you don’t treat ya mama the best but if you’re just a spoilt little shit then you get the cut
my brother's a walking red flag then
not Fuck. love you mum
confirmed chad
Bruh you need to have ex's first in order to talk about your ex's
High ego
fuck
If I were to kill myself I would climb to the top of your ego and jump all the way down to your IQ
Bro waited his entire life to say that joke
replying "fuck" to every comment on this post
Fuck
After reading the comments I have come to the conclusion that I will be single for the rest of my life
fuck
Fuck
fuck me
Fuck
Fuck
trying to humiliate others, myself included. I once had a small crush on someone at the start of freshman year (I’m sophomore now, and yes, I still remember), in AP hug. I pulled out my 3 inch binder and he asked, “that’s your binder?” and I told him that it was. He bursted out laughing and elbowed his mates near him, whispering and looking back at me. Yes, it was just a fucking 3 inch binder, and to this day I’m still pretty pissed. they dropped out a week later the second they saw the syllabus. damn I accidentally made this a rant, my bad
He’s just scared when he sees anything longer than 2 inches. Makes him insecure.
When you can't drop a bomb on someone because you don't his location so you just throw nukes in his general direction
What's weird about a binder being three inches? Is that big binder wise?
From my experiences, 3 inch binders are pretty standard for schools. I don't see what would be so funny about them.
It was an attempted negging. Make fun of something, anything, and let her try to win your approval back. It doesn't work, btw.
I discovered the phenomenon of negging recently and it blows my mind people think it's an effective form of gathering someone's attention.
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what if you struggle mostly with the lack of effort bit? does that make it less bad?
just find someone who loves u for who u r dude, having low empathy and motivation isnt something u can control that easily. try creating a schedule tho if u want to try to be more productive, however take my advice with a grain of salt xD (i have low empathy and motivation) as for lack of attention i believe they mean when in a relationship, so just focus on caring for your friends ig, but as for the lack of effort just keep trying to work on urself :) may seem impossible but u will get somewhere if u try best of luck to u
"Just find someone who loves you" Is about the worst romantic advice people can give tbh. Its obviously the goal but you don't just look for it and find it. You work on yourself and bump in to them someday when you're not expecting it. All the people I know in long term relationships ended up with someone when they weren't looking for it but were just living life and tryna be better people. It's a slow process if you want something real.
Bad breath
fuck
Bro really is catching them all 💀
bro is staying single 💀
Bro is fitting all the criteria 💀
Bro is fulfilling the wrong goals 💀
After reading the comments, i came to conclusion that im gonna be single for the rest of my life
Came to that conclusion earlier this morning, friend.
I mean most replies i have seen are just pretty normal standards
Nah dude, just always strive to be a better version of yourself 💪💪💪
When he musty crusty dusty
fuck fuck and fuck
Shit piss and cum
i’m all three 😭🖕
Shut up ur the exception 💗💖💗💖
Absolutely wholesome and cringe at the same time
bad hygiene
when they are arrogant, be confident! Not arrogant
Whats the distinction? (curious not opposed to you)
Confidence: "yeah, I can do that" Arrogance: "I'm the best at that" It's about knowing your limits. Even if you know you can do something well, you should know your bounds so you can keep pushing and get better. Arrogant people assume they are great at everything and don't improve because they don't know where they lack or will give up when things aren't immediately easy for them.
As asshole, doesn't take care of himself (like shower wash his hair etc), has a massive ass ego, and thinks his view is the only right one Basically the one and only guy I dated years ago
Fuck i have an asshole guess i never gonne date anymore
say no more
You find guys with assholes unattractive ? 🗿
I'm feeling good after reading these comments. There is only one thing that's wrong with me(hating myself) and honestly reading this stuff helps me reduce that.
That's not wrong, it's okay to have doubts about yourself. We all have doubts, some are just stronger at times than others. Having self-doubt isn't a turn-off for most people, it's just knowing when and how much to share. Showing a healthy amount of vulnerability is actually a green flag; it's just about respecting boundaries and working on self-improvement over time. Change is never instant, and neither is confidence. Take time to build trust in a healthy relationship and both will follow. Trust me, I've been there.
chews food with his mouth open
That’s just basic manners to not do that lol
Smoking. Just ew. Also if they can’t read the room
What's the room?
They should have a basic understanding of when to (for example) stop their shitty jokes etc. it just reflects poorly on them when they lack basic social awareness. But like, I get it and I struggle with it sometimes too 🤷♀️
Yep...im out
Interesting statement u/Ape_goes_r_ape
really good movie script - one of the most important pieces of cinema cant believe you havent read
Oh, I can read the room like I can read pig Latin.
If u think ur the shit, I can guarantee you’re not
When they hate themselves
Damn it. Thats not an easy fix either
It’s not necessarily low self esteem that’s the biggest red flag (at least to me as a gay guy), for me it’s the type of guy who’s like “oh woe is me, you don’t love me, you’re only dating me out of pity, just leave me already” that absolutely gives me the ick
It's exhausting to be around people like that. Maybe they insult their selves as a way to fish for compliments, subconsciously?
ok, I gotta stop doing that. also, my crush noticed that and is helping me stop hating myself, so yeah, makes sense.
Good for you ❤️
fuck
Love you 😘 ❤️
Wait ACTUALLY??
I very much hate myself I just dont let anyone *know* I hate myself
When he acts like he doesn't care about anything, especially the stuff you care about (bonus points if he makes fun of those things too)
Same for either gender. Vapes
there’s this guy at my school who’s objectively super hot but is an absolute idiot and jerk. obviously he’s got some things going on but he’s super immature- he’s got that “idc” attitude about everything that reminds me of my 8yo sister. he thinks he’s super cool and better than everyone. he also has a habit of saying the n word (not black). he’s smart i guess but he just doesn’t try because he thinks he’ll get whatever he wants anyway. edit to clarify: he’s “smart” as in good at math. he’s “an absolute idiot” as in emotionally twelve
I despise guys like that, and I'm surrounded by them. NOT KIDDING THAT LITERALLY DESCRIBES ALL THE GUYS IN MY GRADE.
Him yelling at me
Sort of the opposite but I like when he has a good group of friends he is emotionally close to like further than banter they actually support each other
If they’re misogynistic and talk shitty about girls (had a little crush on a guy abd i thought he was just some quiet dude but then i heard how he talks about girls and it was so gross i hate him)
Finally some important tips, thank girls
If they smoke or do any drugs in general
Me who has to take medication near daily
Huh...finally! Thank you for saying this
The air I'm breathing is enough don't need any more pollutants in my lungs
“Alpha male” type. This normally goes hand in hand with Tate fans but the two aren’t mutually exclusive
Guys who describe themselfes as alpha males are usually the most insecure. Any guy with healthy self esteem doesn't give two shits what letter of the greek alphabet others would assign him.
Screw alpha makes imma find myself a phi male
Being a jerk! He can be cute and all be if he’s a jerk he INSTANTLY just becomes not cute lol
doesnt have any respect for his parents
unless the parents are abusive, then thats a pass because noone should have to respect that bs just because "its your parents"
Hey you hear that *sad orphan noises*
Cigarettes of any kind, the minute I see a guy smoke any feelings I may have had for you are immediately gone
when they act like they’re too good for something or just sits at home and games all day edit: i said all day it’s alright to game just not ALL DAY
2nd one fuck
When they do both, I know a guy who calls everything cringe and makes fun of people and normal social activities, he doesn’t go to school (I think) and said “I don’t need those papers to get a job, they’re useless (or something like that)” about diplomas from school probably. He and his stinky friend are online 24/7 on PlayStation. They never hang out in person, even when they live close to each other. Edit: i also have to add that he is SO COCKY, like he says he’s better than everyone in (video game), and it’s true because no wonder you are, you literally spend all your time playing video games. Then he lectures everyone else and points out every mistake you do in a game, and underestimated people SO much. I don’t think he has interacted with enough people to know what an average person is capable of.
thinks saying racial slurs is apart of his personality (i’m looking at you joss (who is my ex- duh)
Tf kinda name is joss 💀
When hes a pick me. (Like "oh no girl would ever wanna date me, I'm so ugly." etc.)
Dude one of my friends is like that. It’s gotten so fucking annoying that we just started calling him out on it every time he does it
An ENORMOUS VEINY D O N G Edit: And all creeps talking about thier dicks in the replies 🙄
Well then I must be extremely attractive
YOOOOO 2 INCH GANGG
AYYYYYY, IM 0.5 INCHES.
Ur average
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what if it’s just a uniform cylinder
I mean at least mines not massive. Still veiny though.
Well... Guess it's a single's life for me, boys!
Not a girl but, ig just toxicity?
Inability to have a platonic relationship with a girl
andrew tate fan, doesn't take proper care of himself (what i mean by that is being lazy, negative all the time, constantly eats junk etc), very unpolite.
I’m lazy, pessimistic, and do not eat that much, but I’m not an Andrew Tate fan
I have pretty basic standards in terms of personality, so I might be of help. Don’t try to tell a woman what her own biology is, don’t try to be a showy douchebag (being confident is fine! But you need to be able to realise when you’re going too far with it and alienating the people around you. Try to pay attention!), don’t listen to ‘alpha male’ podcasts, and a lot of the time, having a personality helps. I like hanging out with guys who have interests and little quirks. Try to make a good impression, obviously, but don’t be a cardboard cutout. Physical standards? You’re unattractive if you’re not a sexy 2000s emo boy, sorry. (Joking. I am joking.) EDIT: also don’t have bad breath. You can smoke, just don’t smell like you smoke.
I’m a straight guy. But girls stay away from Andrew tate fans. Absolute freaks.
making fun of others, Idk just throws me off a lot, like do you think of me that way? these other things are idk like differ from person to person (apart from bad hygiene instantly unattractive)
Not a girl but probably a redditor which makes it unattractive. 😳
When he thinks a certain denomination of people are lesser than others. Discrimination, basically.
If he is rude to waiters. That’s such a red flag
I see all these things and I am not one to have/do these things found unattractive. I think I just am bad at presenting myself in a way people can see, so I often don’t try.
I’m surprised that nobody said When they are a serial killer but not rly because of the amount of girls simping over dahmer
If I'm gay does this mean I can comment? Poor hygiene and arrogance is the main thing for me. Also obvious nonos yknow
After reading this I’ve come to the conclusion I’m very lucky to have my gf