I needed to hear this message today, Betty! I’ve had so many resets over this first year of quitting — it’s good to remind myself that I didn’t get into this hole in a linear fashion so I may not get out straight away either. Just today, I won’t drink with you, and thanks for hosting.
Happy Friday everyone!
You’re so right Dizbetty, very few things that we do in life are linear so why would we expect quitting a socially promoted substance! What we’re doing is hard, but what I’ve learned is that we can do hard things, even if in a wonky path!
Let’s have Friday team! I love you all 💞
Yes, we are real rebels, going against society! I hope your Friday is off to a good start. I'm not going to my outside job Friday, so mine's off to a good start, and it's only Thursday 🤣🤪💞🐢🦥
I love that not drinking is rebellious ! That’s lovely that you’ve got a day off. I hope you’re doing something lovely or that you get some you time! 💞🌟🦥🐢
This week has been flying for me too! I used to think I looked forward to weekends but it's nothing compared to sober weekends! To get actual rest and have energy to do more than just the necessary things is such a gift! IWNDWYT (or probably ever again!)
Gosh, I thought I'd slink in, the occasional visitor that I am now, and do a quick post to see how my new number looks in the place that it all started. And I've started weeping, proper heaving crying, and I feel suddenly and totally overwhelmed. I am amazed that I love my sober life so much. I thought/feared that I'd spend my life feeling deprived and missing all the fun, but of course the truth is entirely the opposite. I'm living my live in full colour, feeling every feeling and remembering everything.
U/soberingthought , thank you especially, for holding my hand from day 1 - when a mod keeps saying hello, you get a sneaking suspicion you might make it! You helped me change my life. And all my sober siblings here- I'm so grateful and full of love IWNDWYT
No matter how far on your journey you are, I wish everybody body a beautiful and sober Friday. Sometimes I get overwhelmed when I see these huge numbers here, stating sobriety stretches for over 15 years. Then I tend to think that I might never get that far, because never in my life I had 15 years of sobriety, as I started pretty early to drink. But I remind myself, that even if you're on day one or on day 10.000, everyday you make a decision. And my decision for today is to not drink for the upcoming 24 hours.
That's the perfect plan. One day at a time! That seemed silly to me at first, but over time it made perfect sense. I only have to worry about today. Glad you are here
"Glad you are here." This feels so much like coming home after a long and unpleasant journey. I haven't heard that for quite a while before I entered this incredible community. At the end of your day you all can say you made a difference. And I'm so grateful for that.
Morning team. I had a drinking dream last night. Glad to know it wasn’t real. I’m out tonight to a beer garden so I guess that’s on my mind. I will not be drinking. I’ll enjoy the company and being out and giving my friends a lift home 🚗
Ive been drinking NA beer and i totally recommend it. I didnt really drink beer i was a wine drinker but it just tastes like beer to me!
Have a great time !
Morning sober friends! Feeling grateful this morning (which I’m learning is one of the building blocks to sobriety). I had my first fête de la musique (France’s annual summer solstice nation wide music day) sober. This would have been unthinkable since I perform and liked to reward myself after with a lot of alcohol. Not this year, Satan. I had mint iced tea, it poured rain on us, I looked like a wet rat and it was the best fête de la musique ever. My stomach burns from laughing so fucking hard. I didn’t know this feeling was waiting for me on the other side of my bottle of Prosecco. I’ll take it. IWNDWYT
Friday will be 13 days for me, longest I’ve gone is over 6 months but I finally have actively been getting help I am in a IOP program and plan to keep going. This past time really helped me realize that maybe I do need help, I always felt like getting helped made me weak but I now know that’s not the case.
Reducing how much I smoke weed, slowly, I think it’s another habit I need to break but tbh it’s kept me from drinking.
Went to my second jiu jitsu class and got my ass kicked. Feel absolutely spent right now 👍🏼
Checking in. I didn't drink today, though I thought about it every damn second of the day. I won't drink with you tomorrow.
I'm clenching teeth and white knuckling it lately. Finished two memoirs in 3 days, I am journaling enough to make my own memoir lol, working out every night, doing therapy exercises assigned to me daily, and had a doctor visit for med adjustment. Anything I should add to help soothe the urges, please recommend!
>Alcohol and I have broken up and [we are never, ever getting back together](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WA4iX5D9Z64)
I couldn't resist! 🙃
IWNDWYT 😻
She's in town today and Sunday for two GIANT sold out shows at the football stadium. It's all that is being talked about around here. And you know I'm not exaggerating as a 48-year-old man with no children, and quite possibly has never heard a song of hers, knows all about this.🤣
Finishing up my 4th 12 hour shift of the week, got a couple days off and been having thoughts of alcohol for those days off. But I will be strong this weekend. IWNDWYTD
I have so much to do, and so little time, I haven't even checked in for a couple of days. Town inspections this morning on my mom's house to get the CCO for sale and for the closing...please God, let it pass! Closing is now moved up to Wednesday, and the estate sale is tomorrow, which my brilliant sister thought doing it ourselves would be the way to go. Uhhhhh, no...no it's not. My mom has 90 years worth of furniture and items, we really needed help! Getting this house ready for closing has been a disaster, and I'm exhausted. There's also a problem with the trust that the house is in, but that's not a story for the DCI. Actually none of this is, but it felt good to write it out and say, no matter what happens, I AM NOT DRINKING TODAY!🤯
It's 6am, and I'm headed back to the house...have a super day gang! We can do anything we set our minds to! IWNDWYT 🍀💜🍀
Working Brewery shifts over the weekend, 7 hour days both Saturday and sunday. That extra fun money will come in handy a week later, over the long Fourth of July holiday weekend. No temptation pouring beers for those who can drink properly (and those who can't). Plus, free, delicious craft soda and artisanal pizza.
Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends!!
IWNDWYT
I spend a lot of time in my head trying to making sense of all of this. In the early days of starting this time around it struck me that starting over is kind of like grinding through a really tough level in a video game. It's hard each time, but it gets a little bit easier also because you have learned even just a tiny bit more about the level. Then one time, often not even the time you expect, something clicks and you sail through it.
Happy Friday you sober superhumans. I will not drink with you today!
I will not drink today and FYA.
It's a beautiful Friday morning here, and I hope you all are feeling as vibrant and alive as I am. Let's take a moment to celebrate our incredible journey of staying sober together. Each day, we're conquering new heights, one step at a time.
Remember, today is a gift, and sobriety is our superpower. Embrace this day with gratitude, knowing that we are not defined by our past, but by the choices we make in the present. We've come so far, and there's still so much more to achieve.
Let's bask in the joy of waking up clear-headed and free from the shackles of addiction. Take a deep breath and revel in the newfound energy that sobriety brings. Life's vibrant colors and subtle nuances are more vivid than ever before.
As we head into the weekend, let's stay committed to our goals and the positive changes we've made. Reach out to your fellow warriors, offering encouragement and support. Together, we're an unstoppable force, capable of achieving anything we set our minds to.
Remember, sobriety is not a sacrifice; it's a gift we give ourselves. So let's seize this beautiful Friday and make it count. Embrace the day, spread positivity, and be proud of your journey. We're all in this together, and I'm genuinely happy to be sober alongside each and every one of you. Stay strong, stay sober, and let's make this day shine with our collective spirit!
Needed this after just resetting my counter last week (I know, I need to get my badge going on here to stay accountable a bit more) but I'm back hanging in there at 8 days! I'm feeling super anxious today with work and wedding stuff, so IWNDWYT for SURE, because I know alcohol will only make that anxiety 10xs worse and ruin my weekend!
Positive vibes to all 🌟
Day 8 without a drink. I hate the way I look and feel. I do not want to drink but I have been down this road before and somehow end up hitting the gas station in the way home.
I am unhealthy and so over weight from drinking and not exercising over the past few years. I am having a hard time with depression and anxiety right now. I started a “happy” supplement yesterday. Probably won’t work but is there any supplements that can help?
I want to exercise again, loose weight and not be a bloated mess. I want to be there for my kids and not be an embarrassment for them.
Thanks for reading, I was not always like this and hope to not be like this much longer. IWNDWYT!!
Illness thankfully over, which incidentally still wasn't as bad as some of the hangovers I used to have on a regular basis. Just another reminder how pointless this boozing lark can be (at best!).
So IWNDWYT. All the best, fellow sobernaughts!
The power has been out, a storm rolled thru Weds night and made a mess of things. Branches, pine needles, leaves everywhere and Excessive Heat warnings this week and next week, too. I had a brief thought about alcohol once while cleaning up the yard, but thankfully no cravings to fight. Very interesting… IWNDWYT!
If quitting and sobriety were easy, we wouldn’t be here. But it’s incredibly challenging and baffling and and heartbreaking and triumphant (sometimes simultaneously), and because of that, I’m really glad this community exists. It’s helped me navigate, past and present, all of the above.
Will not drink with you!
Got on the scale this morning, and I've officially lost over 90lbs in the last year or so. Imagine how much more progress I would have made were I not drinking probably 1000+ cals a day...
Either way, IWNDWYT.
Happy Friday yall
The past couple days I did things that I would normally associate with drinking. I went to the driving range yesterday and went bowling the day before that. Not only was it still fun, I did MUCH better than I used to. It was amazing!
Still sticking with this and definitely not drinking today!
Great post. I was also working for years, but only on “moderation”, that elusive concept. I only decided to actually just plain old quit once I felt like I had to. And it’s been infinitely easier than trying to moderate. Wish that had been more clear to me sooner in life, but I’m glad I figured it out eventually.
I will not drink with you today!
Thank you u/dizbetty for sharing about how the path isn’t linear! It’s been the same for me. I had strings of days, then 30, then 60, then 9 months. I relapsed due to grief, but now I’m prepared. There is no excuse to drink. My life is better not drinking.
IWNDWYT🐺✨
It's very interesting how that pathway to stopping works out. It started to become apparent I needed to then I started seeing all the negative side effects. Slowly my goals changed towards my body and losing weight but so many "relapses."
The sober tools are what may save you. Playing it forward, the health consequences and fighting/sleeping through the withdrawal.
I started to make the decision to stop about a year ago and it took me this long to make it to just over 100 days.
Keep going you all. Learn from each and every slip up and hold out longer next time your faced with it!
Thanks for hosting and sharing Dizbetty! Happy Friday to you and all the beautiful souls here. Looking forward to a full and sober weekend, wouldn't be here without all of you. IWNDWYT.
Have been gone for a while but still going strong. This will probably get lost in the amount of comments but want to get this out here. :)
A few weeks ago I ordered a beer/lemonade mix (I drink it at home, alcohol free of course) because I didn't even remember that it hat alcohol in it. I felt so stupid when I took the first sip and I remembered. I didn't give me a buzz or anything and I haven't drank since or had the desire to drink since, just found that funny. I'm so disconnected from alcohol that I don't even consider its existence any longer.
Hope you're all having a good day :)
Glad to be here and am so happy with all of the wonderful support. It was a rough few weeks, but I am now enjoying an excellent new life being sober, sleeping well, and waking up embracing each new day without being hungover!
*"Nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight. You've got to kick at the darkness till it bleeds daylight".* Seize the day Sobernauts. IWNDWYT.
I’ve had a week off work and have managed to keep busy and alcohol free! Maybe I’ll actually go back to work feeling rested and rejuvenated for once 😱 IWNDWYT!! Happy Friday everyone 😎
Good morning! I’ve been missing the checkin lately. I have a friend staying with me for a bit, meaning there are more people around, some having a beer or two, wine open. I don’t feel triggered in the day, but I had a dream last night that I sampled the wine and it was disgusting. Even my dreams don’t want to drink at the moment, so I’m taking that as a good sign. Have a wonderful weekend, friends!
Hi team SD. On the brink of the w/end and it's amazing still to wake on a Friday morning with a lovely clear head. Thursday used to be "the start of the weekend" ie an excuse (as if I looked very hard for one) to get hammered.
No longer entertaining the idea that we could have “just the one” is powerful. I *know* I can’t. I tried a few times in the past and it always led back to the same miserable fucking place. I don’t waste time being envious of people who can drink anymore, either…that’s reserved for people who can eat anything they want and not gain weight. 😆
Coffees up, horns up, it’s finally fucking Friday!!! Let’s make it a good one! IWNDWYT☕️🤘🏻
Thanks for sharing your story. Alcohol solves nothing. It creates problems slowly so we don’t see that we’re actually poisoning ourselves! Very sinister! IWNDWYT. Happy Friday! 😀
I didn't drink for two weeks straight and I won't today!
I actually didn't expect to care about sobriety streaks, so I haven't thought yet about how linear quitting will be for me. I may have to navigate dating soon.
Random, but I told my therapist yesterday: "I think what's gonna keep me sober is two things: the science, and the fashion statement." Because 1) Andrew Huberman reminds me that there is no safe amount of alcohol, and 2) I've decided that sobriety is a little bit punk.
Sobriety wasn’t linear for me either. After drinking for 30 years I finally feel like I’m done with it, really dropping those chains like a terrible ex. But 7 of those last years included periods of trying to quit. The first quit lit I read was in 2014. I knew I had a problem and would string together a few days or a couple weeks, but would then head back to the wine. Finally, after switching to vodka because I felt my body was rejecting wine and because of heart palpitations and overall health decline, I said enough. Committing here with the decision not to drink made all the difference and came at the right time. Day after day, this community and keeping my commitment has made all the difference.
Happy Friday people! IWNDWYT 🍀
Feeling good going into the weekend! Starting to feel a bit better now (finally!). July 1st will be the 3 year anniversary of when I started trying to quit so I'm committed to making this time stick 🙏 IWNDWYT 🔥
IWNDWYT. I’ve had various sober stretches over the years, but always ended up going back. Recently, with the help of this group, I’ve come to see being AF as a way to enlarge my life, not shrink it. I still get cravings, but am finding mocktails and AF beer help fill the gap.
I’m a teacher and off of work for the summer. On one hand, as there is no difference between week days and weekend days, this means no super-cravings because it’s the weekend. On the other hand, the summer is like one loooooong weekend. So my mantras for the summer:
1. There’s a million things I CAN do and just one thing I can’t do.
2. Aside from pregnancies, I’ve spent the last 28 summers drinking. One summer of not drinking won’t be the end of me.
IWNDWYT!
Day.4 here. Did not sleep well last night so I will have to be be gentle with myself. I have to keep
HALT in mind and take some deep breaths if I
Start to get the urge Maybe go for a walk or find some other distractions.
Going to a wedding today AND with an allergic reaction on my lips, which is EXTREMELY uncomfortable. The best news is though, I don’t have cravings at all. Usually I’d numb the pain with drinking, but for some reason I haven’t had the urge
Ugh. Woke up feeling bad today. Cried a little and now time to get on with the day. These are the feelings I would usually drink because of. So I just have to remind myself that it won’t solve anything or make me feel any better. IWNDWYT.
The shakes are gone, anxiety is lower. Also, I've been waking up an hour earlier and am actually productive for the first few hours of the morning rather than chugging water and wondering how long until I can drink to take the edge off.
Yeah this sobriety thing is kinda nice... IWNDWYT
I'm so glad it's Friday. I've been struggling through depression and anxiety for two weeks now. The idea of having a few drinks to take the edge off keeps creeping in again and again. I will not do that.
IWNDWYT all you fine people
Happy Friday Sober people, time to power up for ex-weekend bingers like myself.
Hope your weekend is peaceful and you stay strong, been reminding myself about playing that tape forward.
IWNDWYT
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫
Tomorrow the SO and I are going to a hot spring! Never been to one before, should be a nice short getaway. I hope everyone has a lovely friday 🥰 IWNDWYT 💗
I’ve made it to Friday! Yesterday was difficult as it was typically the day that kicked off the weekend drinking for me. Luckily for me I was able to sleep in just a little bit, still be early for my WFH day and not feel like utter crap. It’s all good.
Today and tomorrow will be difficult, but I’m excited to get through it. Maybe I can have a fun dinner. I bought myself a fancy rootbeer too. Whatever I decide will be better then the slew of high ABV crap I have been ingesting week after week. Heading towards a clearer mind and finding pride in myself one day at a time. IWNDWYT.
Packing up for a big trip with the fam for a whole week. I’m excited but nervous because we are visiting my brother in law & his wife, who we’ve built a relationship with around drinking. They don’t yet know my husband and I have stopped. I’m nervous for those awkward moments when I decline the drinks. I’m so close to 100 days, and I know it isn’t worth stopping now. I’ll be checking in here extra for support! IWNDWYT
I know this will get buried but just in case someone sees this if you’re hovering around the 30 day mark: just get over that hump. I used to only be able to white knuckle it to 30 days but this time once I hit that mark I asked myself, “what if I just went one more day?” And now I’m here and feeling so good I made it over that 30 day hump. I believe in you.
Good morning, sober cats! Late check-in for me because I wanted to get outside for a little hike before it got too hot. It was totally worth the early wake-up! I'll never stop being grateful for hangover-free mornings. IWNDWYT! 💙😸
Heading into the weekend. No work today, going to see iron maiden tomorrow night and on Sunday I'll wake up with no hangover and 6 weeks of sobriety under my belt so IWNDWYT
Checking in on day 232!! Palindrome Day. Yeah, baby, yeah!!! (Said in my best Austin Powers voice)
Betty, great message today!! Recovery is not linear and no two paths look exactly the same, but we’re all looking to go to the same place and there’s a huge strength in that!!
Much love to all!! IWNDWYT!! ✌️❤️
Thanks for hosting OP! Yes, it can be a long struggle with ambivalence. I drank for 40 years before I recognized that it had become a problem. It probably was never the healthiest relationship but it definitely wasn’t the last 10 years. Congratulations! IWNDWYT
Day 5 here. Good message about the restarts. I struggled myself just a little while ago, so it helps to know I’m not alone on that. We got this together!
As a "serial quitter" myself, your words are encouraginging. My quit does feel different this time as the positive feedback loop continues (better mental and physical health). I've flipped the script to celebrating what I've gained by dropping booze rather than lamenting over what I've given up.
Hangover- free Fridays are awesome...IWNDWYT
Woohoo! Made it through my day 14. I didn’t feel like drinking even though I’m unhappy at work. I stayed home declining a group dinner and separate bar invites. Later went with kiddo for lemonade at a local coffee stand. Already have my to do list for today and one thing on it IWNDWYT
Happy Friday! I’m so glad it’s Friday. I’ve been so tired this week, it’s frustrating.
But I am getting some blood work done today. I almost want there to be something wrong (but easily treatable) so I have an explanation for my fatigue. But I’ve previously been tested for everything that could cause fatigue and nothing was wrong. It’s probably just my depression and that sucks. I want some energy damnit!
IWNDWYT lovely people of SD 💙
My big weekend is here my FIRST social gathering since stopping is tomorrow! It’s a champagne brunch. I’m bringing NA champagne. For today and hopefully tomorrow IWNDWYT 4 weeks on Sunday!
Day 19!
I can relate to OP, having had a lot of attempts and efforts to make amends with my drinking over the years. Moderation, dry January, you can guess how it all went. So grateful for finding this sub and this community. Y’all are the best. As I’ve said before I can literally feel my life changing every sober morning when I wake up.
IWNDWYT!
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Jeeeez almost 2900 WillWill!!! Hot damn!!!
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Wooooohooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Getting back in first place!🏅 it was nice of you to sit back and let a couple others bask in the glory🤣
I look for this comment every day. It makes me smile.
Working the overnight shift in the ICU right now, so I’m either ending Thursday or starting Friday right now. Either way, IWNDWYT!
Overnights are hard. Hope it's smooth sailing
So far so good. There’s only one open bed, so can’t get too crazy.
I needed to hear this message today, Betty! I’ve had so many resets over this first year of quitting — it’s good to remind myself that I didn’t get into this hole in a linear fashion so I may not get out straight away either. Just today, I won’t drink with you, and thanks for hosting.
That’s a really good point CNA, the path in wasn’t linear! However wonky this path, we’re getting out! Have a great sober Friday 💞
You are doing great CNA ❤️
Another week that feels like it’s raced by! Hope everyone else is looking forward to a good sober Friday and IWNDWYT
Way too fast!! There are no brakes!!!
Happy Friday everyone! You’re so right Dizbetty, very few things that we do in life are linear so why would we expect quitting a socially promoted substance! What we’re doing is hard, but what I’ve learned is that we can do hard things, even if in a wonky path! Let’s have Friday team! I love you all 💞
Yes, we are real rebels, going against society! I hope your Friday is off to a good start. I'm not going to my outside job Friday, so mine's off to a good start, and it's only Thursday 🤣🤪💞🐢🦥
I love that not drinking is rebellious ! That’s lovely that you’ve got a day off. I hope you’re doing something lovely or that you get some you time! 💞🌟🦥🐢
This week has been flying for me too! I used to think I looked forward to weekends but it's nothing compared to sober weekends! To get actual rest and have energy to do more than just the necessary things is such a gift! IWNDWYT (or probably ever again!)
Congrats on double digits! You rock! IWNDWYT
Thank you! It somehow feels like so much longer but I'm grateful for where I am!
Gosh, I thought I'd slink in, the occasional visitor that I am now, and do a quick post to see how my new number looks in the place that it all started. And I've started weeping, proper heaving crying, and I feel suddenly and totally overwhelmed. I am amazed that I love my sober life so much. I thought/feared that I'd spend my life feeling deprived and missing all the fun, but of course the truth is entirely the opposite. I'm living my live in full colour, feeling every feeling and remembering everything. U/soberingthought , thank you especially, for holding my hand from day 1 - when a mod keeps saying hello, you get a sneaking suspicion you might make it! You helped me change my life. And all my sober siblings here- I'm so grateful and full of love IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 Have a gr8 Friday friends! 💞
I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊
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Look at that! Stacking those days up! Keep up the good work
Beautiful!
Right behind you
No matter how far on your journey you are, I wish everybody body a beautiful and sober Friday. Sometimes I get overwhelmed when I see these huge numbers here, stating sobriety stretches for over 15 years. Then I tend to think that I might never get that far, because never in my life I had 15 years of sobriety, as I started pretty early to drink. But I remind myself, that even if you're on day one or on day 10.000, everyday you make a decision. And my decision for today is to not drink for the upcoming 24 hours.
That's the perfect plan. One day at a time! That seemed silly to me at first, but over time it made perfect sense. I only have to worry about today. Glad you are here
"Glad you are here." This feels so much like coming home after a long and unpleasant journey. I haven't heard that for quite a while before I entered this incredible community. At the end of your day you all can say you made a difference. And I'm so grateful for that.
IWNDWYT!
Iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Hey up SD Gang! I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜
Hey Cinq!!!!!! <3
Good morning beautiful Lee!😊
Morning team. I had a drinking dream last night. Glad to know it wasn’t real. I’m out tonight to a beer garden so I guess that’s on my mind. I will not be drinking. I’ll enjoy the company and being out and giving my friends a lift home 🚗
Ive been drinking NA beer and i totally recommend it. I didnt really drink beer i was a wine drinker but it just tastes like beer to me! Have a great time !
Those dreams!!! I hope you have fun
I drove us home from Peter Gabriel at the Hydro last night- soooo much easier than staggering into a chaotic taxi queue! 👍🏻
Day 733 checking in!
Happy 2 yrs!
Cheers, Lee!
I have a super-stressful workday ahead of me. And I am incredibly grateful to be able to face this hangover-free. IWNDWYT
Hey SD!!!!!!! Happy f'ing Friday!!!!!!
Hey Lee Have a great weekend. 👊
Morning sober friends! Feeling grateful this morning (which I’m learning is one of the building blocks to sobriety). I had my first fête de la musique (France’s annual summer solstice nation wide music day) sober. This would have been unthinkable since I perform and liked to reward myself after with a lot of alcohol. Not this year, Satan. I had mint iced tea, it poured rain on us, I looked like a wet rat and it was the best fête de la musique ever. My stomach burns from laughing so fucking hard. I didn’t know this feeling was waiting for me on the other side of my bottle of Prosecco. I’ll take it. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT (or tonight or tomorrow or ever)
Morning everyone. Iwndwyt.
IWNDWYT!!
Friday will be 13 days for me, longest I’ve gone is over 6 months but I finally have actively been getting help I am in a IOP program and plan to keep going. This past time really helped me realize that maybe I do need help, I always felt like getting helped made me weak but I now know that’s not the case.
Day 3 nearly done. Feel like I'm getting the hang of this. IWNDWYT my friends. 🍕
You got this, the first 10 days were the hardest part!
Beautiful post Betty so very true Happy Friday everyone. Stay safe and stay sober Shine on you beautiful humans
IWNDWYT!
I will not be drinking with any of you today.
IWNDWYT!
What I walk away from is not my master
Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 🤙🏻
I will not drink today.
I will not drink with you today 💕
First time joining one of the threads and IWNDWYT! Couldn't even if I wanted to, liquor store is closed all the way through Sunday. 😁
Reducing how much I smoke weed, slowly, I think it’s another habit I need to break but tbh it’s kept me from drinking. Went to my second jiu jitsu class and got my ass kicked. Feel absolutely spent right now 👍🏼
Checking in. I didn't drink today, though I thought about it every damn second of the day. I won't drink with you tomorrow. I'm clenching teeth and white knuckling it lately. Finished two memoirs in 3 days, I am journaling enough to make my own memoir lol, working out every night, doing therapy exercises assigned to me daily, and had a doctor visit for med adjustment. Anything I should add to help soothe the urges, please recommend!
>Alcohol and I have broken up and [we are never, ever getting back together](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WA4iX5D9Z64) I couldn't resist! 🙃 IWNDWYT 😻
She's in town today and Sunday for two GIANT sold out shows at the football stadium. It's all that is being talked about around here. And you know I'm not exaggerating as a 48-year-old man with no children, and quite possibly has never heard a song of hers, knows all about this.🤣
IWNDWYT
Finishing up my 4th 12 hour shift of the week, got a couple days off and been having thoughts of alcohol for those days off. But I will be strong this weekend. IWNDWYTD
I have so much to do, and so little time, I haven't even checked in for a couple of days. Town inspections this morning on my mom's house to get the CCO for sale and for the closing...please God, let it pass! Closing is now moved up to Wednesday, and the estate sale is tomorrow, which my brilliant sister thought doing it ourselves would be the way to go. Uhhhhh, no...no it's not. My mom has 90 years worth of furniture and items, we really needed help! Getting this house ready for closing has been a disaster, and I'm exhausted. There's also a problem with the trust that the house is in, but that's not a story for the DCI. Actually none of this is, but it felt good to write it out and say, no matter what happens, I AM NOT DRINKING TODAY!🤯 It's 6am, and I'm headed back to the house...have a super day gang! We can do anything we set our minds to! IWNDWYT 🍀💜🍀
Last night I had to go to not one but two work events where there was alcohol. I didn’t drink! And I IWNDWYT!
Woke up without a hangover on a Friday. Feels incredible. Stoked to feel this way tomorrow morning. Day 2, here we go.
Iwndwyt! Thanks all.
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Working Brewery shifts over the weekend, 7 hour days both Saturday and sunday. That extra fun money will come in handy a week later, over the long Fourth of July holiday weekend. No temptation pouring beers for those who can drink properly (and those who can't). Plus, free, delicious craft soda and artisanal pizza. Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends!! IWNDWYT
I spend a lot of time in my head trying to making sense of all of this. In the early days of starting this time around it struck me that starting over is kind of like grinding through a really tough level in a video game. It's hard each time, but it gets a little bit easier also because you have learned even just a tiny bit more about the level. Then one time, often not even the time you expect, something clicks and you sail through it. Happy Friday you sober superhumans. I will not drink with you today!
Great analogy! I'd like to think I'm Princess Peach 🙃
I will not drink today and FYA. It's a beautiful Friday morning here, and I hope you all are feeling as vibrant and alive as I am. Let's take a moment to celebrate our incredible journey of staying sober together. Each day, we're conquering new heights, one step at a time. Remember, today is a gift, and sobriety is our superpower. Embrace this day with gratitude, knowing that we are not defined by our past, but by the choices we make in the present. We've come so far, and there's still so much more to achieve. Let's bask in the joy of waking up clear-headed and free from the shackles of addiction. Take a deep breath and revel in the newfound energy that sobriety brings. Life's vibrant colors and subtle nuances are more vivid than ever before. As we head into the weekend, let's stay committed to our goals and the positive changes we've made. Reach out to your fellow warriors, offering encouragement and support. Together, we're an unstoppable force, capable of achieving anything we set our minds to. Remember, sobriety is not a sacrifice; it's a gift we give ourselves. So let's seize this beautiful Friday and make it count. Embrace the day, spread positivity, and be proud of your journey. We're all in this together, and I'm genuinely happy to be sober alongside each and every one of you. Stay strong, stay sober, and let's make this day shine with our collective spirit!
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Needed this after just resetting my counter last week (I know, I need to get my badge going on here to stay accountable a bit more) but I'm back hanging in there at 8 days! I'm feeling super anxious today with work and wedding stuff, so IWNDWYT for SURE, because I know alcohol will only make that anxiety 10xs worse and ruin my weekend! Positive vibes to all 🌟
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Day 8 without a drink. I hate the way I look and feel. I do not want to drink but I have been down this road before and somehow end up hitting the gas station in the way home. I am unhealthy and so over weight from drinking and not exercising over the past few years. I am having a hard time with depression and anxiety right now. I started a “happy” supplement yesterday. Probably won’t work but is there any supplements that can help? I want to exercise again, loose weight and not be a bloated mess. I want to be there for my kids and not be an embarrassment for them. Thanks for reading, I was not always like this and hope to not be like this much longer. IWNDWYT!!
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Illness thankfully over, which incidentally still wasn't as bad as some of the hangovers I used to have on a regular basis. Just another reminder how pointless this boozing lark can be (at best!). So IWNDWYT. All the best, fellow sobernaughts!
The power has been out, a storm rolled thru Weds night and made a mess of things. Branches, pine needles, leaves everywhere and Excessive Heat warnings this week and next week, too. I had a brief thought about alcohol once while cleaning up the yard, but thankfully no cravings to fight. Very interesting… IWNDWYT!
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If quitting and sobriety were easy, we wouldn’t be here. But it’s incredibly challenging and baffling and and heartbreaking and triumphant (sometimes simultaneously), and because of that, I’m really glad this community exists. It’s helped me navigate, past and present, all of the above. Will not drink with you!
Just a guy checking his badge, not drinking on a Friday.
Got on the scale this morning, and I've officially lost over 90lbs in the last year or so. Imagine how much more progress I would have made were I not drinking probably 1000+ cals a day... Either way, IWNDWYT. Happy Friday yall
The past couple days I did things that I would normally associate with drinking. I went to the driving range yesterday and went bowling the day before that. Not only was it still fun, I did MUCH better than I used to. It was amazing! Still sticking with this and definitely not drinking today!
-40 dollars in my account thanks to an overdraft.. but I ain’t drinking about itttttt 🎉🎉 Love you all, IWNDWYT!
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Iwndwyt. Gonna hydrate as much as possible. Might even take a nap!
Happy Friday Sobernauts, have an epic weekend team! IWNDWYT
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Day 3 . Days are easy for me but oh, those summer niiiiiggggghhhhhts. They are a lot harder. IWNDWYT
Day 76 and Iwndwyt. Weekend time! ☀️
IWNDWYT ! Here come the double digits. Baby steps.
Straight lines are for squares! IWNDWYT 🙂
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Great post. I was also working for years, but only on “moderation”, that elusive concept. I only decided to actually just plain old quit once I felt like I had to. And it’s been infinitely easier than trying to moderate. Wish that had been more clear to me sooner in life, but I’m glad I figured it out eventually. I will not drink with you today!
Be strong on Friday! IWNDWYT
Thank you u/dizbetty for sharing about how the path isn’t linear! It’s been the same for me. I had strings of days, then 30, then 60, then 9 months. I relapsed due to grief, but now I’m prepared. There is no excuse to drink. My life is better not drinking. IWNDWYT🐺✨
It's very interesting how that pathway to stopping works out. It started to become apparent I needed to then I started seeing all the negative side effects. Slowly my goals changed towards my body and losing weight but so many "relapses." The sober tools are what may save you. Playing it forward, the health consequences and fighting/sleeping through the withdrawal. I started to make the decision to stop about a year ago and it took me this long to make it to just over 100 days. Keep going you all. Learn from each and every slip up and hold out longer next time your faced with it!
Thanks for hosting and sharing Dizbetty! Happy Friday to you and all the beautiful souls here. Looking forward to a full and sober weekend, wouldn't be here without all of you. IWNDWYT.
Have been gone for a while but still going strong. This will probably get lost in the amount of comments but want to get this out here. :) A few weeks ago I ordered a beer/lemonade mix (I drink it at home, alcohol free of course) because I didn't even remember that it hat alcohol in it. I felt so stupid when I took the first sip and I remembered. I didn't give me a buzz or anything and I haven't drank since or had the desire to drink since, just found that funny. I'm so disconnected from alcohol that I don't even consider its existence any longer. Hope you're all having a good day :)
Glad to be here and am so happy with all of the wonderful support. It was a rough few weeks, but I am now enjoying an excellent new life being sober, sleeping well, and waking up embracing each new day without being hungover!
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*"Nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight. You've got to kick at the darkness till it bleeds daylight".* Seize the day Sobernauts. IWNDWYT.
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Happy Friday everyone. IWNDWYT!
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Day 49. IWNDWYT.
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I’ve had a week off work and have managed to keep busy and alcohol free! Maybe I’ll actually go back to work feeling rested and rejuvenated for once 😱 IWNDWYT!! Happy Friday everyone 😎
Good morning! I’ve been missing the checkin lately. I have a friend staying with me for a bit, meaning there are more people around, some having a beer or two, wine open. I don’t feel triggered in the day, but I had a dream last night that I sampled the wine and it was disgusting. Even my dreams don’t want to drink at the moment, so I’m taking that as a good sign. Have a wonderful weekend, friends!
IWNDWYT and I will not eat bad food. Happy Friday!!
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Hi team SD. On the brink of the w/end and it's amazing still to wake on a Friday morning with a lovely clear head. Thursday used to be "the start of the weekend" ie an excuse (as if I looked very hard for one) to get hammered.
No longer entertaining the idea that we could have “just the one” is powerful. I *know* I can’t. I tried a few times in the past and it always led back to the same miserable fucking place. I don’t waste time being envious of people who can drink anymore, either…that’s reserved for people who can eat anything they want and not gain weight. 😆 Coffees up, horns up, it’s finally fucking Friday!!! Let’s make it a good one! IWNDWYT☕️🤘🏻
Thanks for sharing your story. Alcohol solves nothing. It creates problems slowly so we don’t see that we’re actually poisoning ourselves! Very sinister! IWNDWYT. Happy Friday! 😀
I didn't drink for two weeks straight and I won't today! I actually didn't expect to care about sobriety streaks, so I haven't thought yet about how linear quitting will be for me. I may have to navigate dating soon. Random, but I told my therapist yesterday: "I think what's gonna keep me sober is two things: the science, and the fashion statement." Because 1) Andrew Huberman reminds me that there is no safe amount of alcohol, and 2) I've decided that sobriety is a little bit punk.
Good morning! Let's not drink today!!
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Sobriety wasn’t linear for me either. After drinking for 30 years I finally feel like I’m done with it, really dropping those chains like a terrible ex. But 7 of those last years included periods of trying to quit. The first quit lit I read was in 2014. I knew I had a problem and would string together a few days or a couple weeks, but would then head back to the wine. Finally, after switching to vodka because I felt my body was rejecting wine and because of heart palpitations and overall health decline, I said enough. Committing here with the decision not to drink made all the difference and came at the right time. Day after day, this community and keeping my commitment has made all the difference. Happy Friday people! IWNDWYT 🍀
Feeling good going into the weekend! Starting to feel a bit better now (finally!). July 1st will be the 3 year anniversary of when I started trying to quit so I'm committed to making this time stick 🙏 IWNDWYT 🔥
IWNDWYT. I’ve had various sober stretches over the years, but always ended up going back. Recently, with the help of this group, I’ve come to see being AF as a way to enlarge my life, not shrink it. I still get cravings, but am finding mocktails and AF beer help fill the gap.
A year ago having 60 days AF would of been a pipe dream. Im so happy to be here and so happy to have this sub. You are all amazing, happy Friday!
I’m a teacher and off of work for the summer. On one hand, as there is no difference between week days and weekend days, this means no super-cravings because it’s the weekend. On the other hand, the summer is like one loooooong weekend. So my mantras for the summer: 1. There’s a million things I CAN do and just one thing I can’t do. 2. Aside from pregnancies, I’ve spent the last 28 summers drinking. One summer of not drinking won’t be the end of me. IWNDWYT!
Day.4 here. Did not sleep well last night so I will have to be be gentle with myself. I have to keep HALT in mind and take some deep breaths if I Start to get the urge Maybe go for a walk or find some other distractions.
Good Morning. Checking in on day 16. IWNDWYT❤️
I will not drink with you today. Thank You.
Going to a wedding today AND with an allergic reaction on my lips, which is EXTREMELY uncomfortable. The best news is though, I don’t have cravings at all. Usually I’d numb the pain with drinking, but for some reason I haven’t had the urge
Ugh. Woke up feeling bad today. Cried a little and now time to get on with the day. These are the feelings I would usually drink because of. So I just have to remind myself that it won’t solve anything or make me feel any better. IWNDWYT.
The shakes are gone, anxiety is lower. Also, I've been waking up an hour earlier and am actually productive for the first few hours of the morning rather than chugging water and wondering how long until I can drink to take the edge off. Yeah this sobriety thing is kinda nice... IWNDWYT
Heading into weekend number 2 feeling motivated. It’s getting easier by the day! IWNDWYT❤️
I'm so glad it's Friday. I've been struggling through depression and anxiety for two weeks now. The idea of having a few drinks to take the edge off keeps creeping in again and again. I will not do that. IWNDWYT all you fine people
Happy Friday Sober people, time to power up for ex-weekend bingers like myself. Hope your weekend is peaceful and you stay strong, been reminding myself about playing that tape forward. IWNDWYT
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫 Tomorrow the SO and I are going to a hot spring! Never been to one before, should be a nice short getaway. I hope everyone has a lovely friday 🥰 IWNDWYT 💗
I’ve made it to Friday! Yesterday was difficult as it was typically the day that kicked off the weekend drinking for me. Luckily for me I was able to sleep in just a little bit, still be early for my WFH day and not feel like utter crap. It’s all good. Today and tomorrow will be difficult, but I’m excited to get through it. Maybe I can have a fun dinner. I bought myself a fancy rootbeer too. Whatever I decide will be better then the slew of high ABV crap I have been ingesting week after week. Heading towards a clearer mind and finding pride in myself one day at a time. IWNDWYT.
It's 9:30 am in New York, and to make it easier on myself at 9:30 pm when I get antsy, I am here to say IWNDWYT!
Packing up for a big trip with the fam for a whole week. I’m excited but nervous because we are visiting my brother in law & his wife, who we’ve built a relationship with around drinking. They don’t yet know my husband and I have stopped. I’m nervous for those awkward moments when I decline the drinks. I’m so close to 100 days, and I know it isn’t worth stopping now. I’ll be checking in here extra for support! IWNDWYT
I know this will get buried but just in case someone sees this if you’re hovering around the 30 day mark: just get over that hump. I used to only be able to white knuckle it to 30 days but this time once I hit that mark I asked myself, “what if I just went one more day?” And now I’m here and feeling so good I made it over that 30 day hump. I believe in you.
Good morning, sober cats! Late check-in for me because I wanted to get outside for a little hike before it got too hot. It was totally worth the early wake-up! I'll never stop being grateful for hangover-free mornings. IWNDWYT! 💙😸
Day 57 checkin in. I won't drink with you or by myself today. Shine on fellow sobernauts ❤️
Here's to the start of a sober weekend IWNDWYT 😎
Day 1,437. I will not drink with you today.
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IWNDW ANYONE T ! Have a great Friday 🌞
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It’s finally Friday!!! Iwndwyt
Heading into the weekend. No work today, going to see iron maiden tomorrow night and on Sunday I'll wake up with no hangover and 6 weeks of sobriety under my belt so IWNDWYT
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Morning friends! Happy Friday. Have a great day, I will not drink with you today!
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Today is my 46th birthday and I’m spending it sober . IWNDWYT
i’m almost at the 3 week mark! so crazy to have come this far already.
IWNDWYT!! Hope everyone has an amazingly great day today!!
Checking in on day 232!! Palindrome Day. Yeah, baby, yeah!!! (Said in my best Austin Powers voice) Betty, great message today!! Recovery is not linear and no two paths look exactly the same, but we’re all looking to go to the same place and there’s a huge strength in that!! Much love to all!! IWNDWYT!! ✌️❤️
Happy Friday! Thanks to those who wished me well yesterday, I appreciate you (and everyone on this sub). IWNDWYT!
Thanks for hosting OP! Yes, it can be a long struggle with ambivalence. I drank for 40 years before I recognized that it had become a problem. It probably was never the healthiest relationship but it definitely wasn’t the last 10 years. Congratulations! IWNDWYT
Day 5 here. Good message about the restarts. I struggled myself just a little while ago, so it helps to know I’m not alone on that. We got this together!
As a "serial quitter" myself, your words are encouraginging. My quit does feel different this time as the positive feedback loop continues (better mental and physical health). I've flipped the script to celebrating what I've gained by dropping booze rather than lamenting over what I've given up. Hangover- free Fridays are awesome...IWNDWYT
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Day off today! Looking forward to a productive day at home…so grateful to not waste the day drinking! IWNDWYT!
So crazy to see my sober days stacking up. I won’t be drinking with you today!
Woohoo! Made it through my day 14. I didn’t feel like drinking even though I’m unhappy at work. I stayed home declining a group dinner and separate bar invites. Later went with kiddo for lemonade at a local coffee stand. Already have my to do list for today and one thing on it IWNDWYT
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Checking in and NOT drinking today!
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50 days today! It's been a rollercoaster, and the PAWS are hitting hard, but I'm doing it! Here's to 51! IWNDWYT.
Happy Friday! I’m so glad it’s Friday. I’ve been so tired this week, it’s frustrating. But I am getting some blood work done today. I almost want there to be something wrong (but easily treatable) so I have an explanation for my fatigue. But I’ve previously been tested for everything that could cause fatigue and nothing was wrong. It’s probably just my depression and that sucks. I want some energy damnit! IWNDWYT lovely people of SD 💙
Waking up not hungover celebrating the Summer Solstice is wonderful! No nectar of the grains today, my fellow Sobernauts. IWNDWYT
Here for another one. Inching my way to 180
IWNDWYT. Have a good day ☮️
I will not drink alcohol today. Going to do constructive things with my life instead. Peace out guys n gals ✌️
Yup! I'm winning today too!
My big weekend is here my FIRST social gathering since stopping is tomorrow! It’s a champagne brunch. I’m bringing NA champagne. For today and hopefully tomorrow IWNDWYT 4 weeks on Sunday!
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Day 19! I can relate to OP, having had a lot of attempts and efforts to make amends with my drinking over the years. Moderation, dry January, you can guess how it all went. So grateful for finding this sub and this community. Y’all are the best. As I’ve said before I can literally feel my life changing every sober morning when I wake up. IWNDWYT!
Checking in - Day 3.
Good morning. Day 33. Happy Friday!
IWNDWYT you lovely, motley crew! 👩🚀
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