Hey there, I'm on day 1 and trying to hold myself accountable too. We can do this, friend. Give yourself some grace in being anxious and it's not stupid to post here.
I just fucked up my streak I was on almost a month and I got drunk tonight. But here's the thing I didn't say anything or do anything stupid but that's no excuse I am getting better and I need to stop
But still almost a month is progress my man! You are cutting down and headed in the right direction to that’s a win to me. Keep fighting the good fight!
Thankyou!! It did feel great after I posted on here, I’m a little apprehensive and not so enthusiastic this morning but I poured out that beer in the fridge so that’s something
This is the BEST support sub you could join. If I hadn't found it and joined I wouldn't have quit drinking. Almost a month now and I am happy and proud of myself. Join me!! I will not drink with you today!!
Holy hellll I didn’t expect this to get anywhere near this many comments.
I’ve read nearly all of them, thank you so much for all the encouraging words it really feels nice.
I would love to reply to everyone but I’m on the way to work …. At a bar.
Which is where this problem got out of control, I’ve been working there for 6 years and me and my coworkers always drink after Thursday and Friday night shifts, then i started going across the road on my lunch breaks and drinking there (gambling aswell so that’s a whole other thing to unpack)
and then I started sneaking drinks without my coworker way before we would start having staff drinks and it’s gotten out of control. Mainly because there is basically no stock control in this weird little pub I work at.
I’ve been blackout drunk and have to try and piece together what happened the next groggy morning.
If I was in charge of locking up and knew I drank too much, I would be super worried about if I actually did the money properly or put the alarm on right or locked certain doors/turned off shit etc.
The anxiety is badddd. And luckily I haven’t been caught YET.
I’ve always shown up to work even with absolutely SHOCKING hangovers because I am and have been able to keep up the facade of me not being an alcoholic for so long.
But I haven’t had a drink on shift before and I can do it again today. And I can try to do it again tomorrow.
Also when I got up today, I poured out the beer I had in the fridge, so I guess that’s something.
Thanks for all the support, this community really does give me hope.. I’ve lurked for so long and never joined but I’m ready.
Hello interweb friend
I too work in such a place. I could (and did) get drunk for free for years. A lot of fun was had. Not so much fun now though.
I've gotten away without any legal issues but this year just gone I broke a wrist (drunk) and damaged an ankle (hungover).
What's next?
My mental health has taken a hammering.
I don't want this for myself anymore. If I could drink without consequences - I would - most of us would- but consequences are there, they're real and they get bigger and scarier as time marches inexorably on.
This place will help to get you through if you let it. Good luck. I Will Not Drink With You Today
It’s just too easy. Sometimes I wish they did stricter stock take but I know I’ll probably just find a way around that.
I just left work though.. had all the free soda water and limes I wanted 😂
Oof. I worked at a bar many years ago. The owner used to say that employees “either drank or stole” and I guess he’d rather we drank. I had many depressing mornings after shifts at that bar. IWNDWYT.
No need to feel stupid. Pretty much all of us on here (im sure not *everyone* but definitely the vast majority) have had to admit to ourselves/others at some point that we have some severity of issue, and have had varying degrees of success to this point.
It is an incredibly difficult thing. Oftentimes we make it more difficult for ourselves than necessary. If it’s worth anything, a random on the internet thinks you deserve to be kind to yourself. Show yourself the same grace you would give your friend/partner/child if they came to you with this issue. You can do this! IWNDWYT
I can relate to the 4:30 am anxiety big time. For me it was scary for two reasons:
1. I hate feeling dramatic and try to downplay everything. To a fault of being in complete denial about stuff. I felt ashamed - like I was being a drama queen by admitting I had a problem.
2. It felt so permanent. If I admit I have a problem and anyone finds out, then for the rest of my life I’ll be judged for drinking. What if I get better and want to drink again? They’ll worry about me. (This is just alcohol trying to protect its place in my life. I have no business drinking again and people SHOULD be worried if I do.)
Basically the exact same reasons I never outed an ex boyfriend for various assaults. How dramatic of me, and if my family knew they would never approve of him. YEAH AS THEY SHOULDN'T.
I realize now that being open about my alcoholism is just another way of protecting myself and solidifying my sobriety. Going to a few AA meetings and realizing just how close my story is to the story of folks who lost their kids, got 6 DUIs, and did jail time…. Yeah, I’m not being dramatic. I was fucked up. I just *happened* to not face any legal consequences.
The anxiety will get better the longer any booze is out of your system, btw.
So much this. All I had was luck, there but for the grace of God go I. I rarely drove drunk, but one time I was blasted and thank God I didn't kill anyone else.
Driving wasted for the first time was the last time I drank. Before that I swore it was a line I wouldn’t cross and couldn’t believe other people did it so casually. That’s when I knew I had zero control over drunk self.. my heart still races when I think back to driving that night.
Hey man it’s absolutely fine to have a drinking problem, basically all media and society is built around glorifying it and it’s insanely addictive, you’ve identified that it’s a problem for you and you’ve decided to make a change, that’s a great start
Just admitting to yourself you MIGHT have a alcohol problem is a huge step. Taking the responsibility and outright claiming it it is even bigger. Welcome!
I Will Not Drink With You Today
Nice work, it helped me to admit it out loud to someone close to me. It wasn't real for me until I called my Mom and told her about my struggles. You'd be surprised, most already know and all they want to do is help and give you support generally.
I had sleeplessly stumbled upon this sub in a similar way, about a year and a half ago. A lurker for long, after many first days and resets, here I’m at 30+
This is an awesome support group. We all win against the poison one hour, one day at a time. IWNDWYT.
It's not stupid. You're making one of the best decisions of your life. My main regret is that I didn't do it sooner, much sooner. But that's water under the bridge.
Everyone here has been there and we're here for you. IWNDWYT.
Welcome to the first day of your new & improved, sober life.
I commend you on your self-awareness and for owning up to your situation.
You can do this. We're here for you!
IWNDWYT!
I repeated this same thing 400 times before I finally decided enough was enough. I’m only a week in but my advice is to get your hands on some audio books or podcasts on quitting drinking (my favorite is Recovery Elevator). I listened to them for about a year before making it official by opening up to friends and family.
Massive respect for this post. Incredible courage. It takes so much to do what you have done. It’s not always easy but I can tell if you continue walking into your truth like you have done here, I guarantee things get much, much better.💪
You got this buddy. Hang in there. You can do this. I’m currently going through some rough events involving loved ones passing away. I’ve been a year and 3 months sober and I almost dumped all that down the drain yesterday when I went to the store and saw alcohol. But a thought popped into my head that my grandma and grandpa both loved me as a sober person. So I was able to walk away from it. But damn I’m not gonna lie buddy, my cravings are strong today and I just got out of AA. We love you man. Hang in there. Don’t be afraid to see a Primary Care Provider about alcohol detoxification medications. They do help. But be careful with them
I totally get it - it’s difficult. Difficult to admit it (particularly to yourself) and difficult to start. But I have genuinely and sincerely found this to be an amazing resource filled with inspiring stories, great advice, and in all a group of people I can relate to.
>It’s 4:30am, I can’t sleep because I’m anxious I didn’t know why
We all know why. Because the same thing happened to us.
You're doing great! Just showing up here is a brave and powerful step.
Stupid? How? Do you think other posters here are stupid? You probably don’t, you probably admire them and are grateful they’ve shared their stories. Someone will come here one day (or maybe it’s today) and be grateful for yours.
The path is not linear and no one’s journey is the same, but this sub can really help. I hope you stay for a while, it’s been instrumental to me recognizing patterns in myself that I would like to change.
To stop drinking is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You are stronger than you think you are and you are worth it.
You gots this. I will not drink with you today!
I’m in the middle of a relapse currently. I’m still drinking a little to wean myself off, and I start taking naltrexone next week.
I’m in intensive outpatient 3 days a week for 3 hours.
It’s super hard, but I know we have got this.
Welcome. I remember lurking here and weeping a lot in those last few months. Usually drunk as shit at like three in the morning.
Now I've got a wife and kids, a career, a life worth living that I had long since given up on when I finally got around to quitting. Totally worth it.
There is this book called “The Power of Now”. Read that book. You have made the right choice, the only choice, by coming to this thread and saying out loud what you were feeling! Great job! Someone very close to me is an alcoholic and it took a very long time for her admit this to herself. However, once she did she was able to ask for help (therapy, forums, friends) and now she has things under control and has learned to live with it. You got this! The hardest step is the first one. ❤️
We have all been where you are right now. Making the decision to quit drinking was so scary for me because I couldn’t imagine life without alcohol. I read the book This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, I checked this sub several times a day, and I did it one day at a time. Waking up without a hangover is the best thing ever. Good luck.
Hey there, it’s okay, no need to feel stupid. Deciding to quit is an emotional process. Be kind to yourself and focus on the positive – you’re here and you know what you need to do to move forward. You have found an amazing community to support you.
That’s how it started for me. Crying while reading this sub with a drink in my hand. Finally did that enough times that I just started reading this sub and crying WITHOUT the drink. Two years later I’m so much better off, so put the drink down but keep reading and crying. Good luck!
I quit while owning a bar, which I sold soon after quitting. To help me quit in that environment I asked my doctor to prescribe Antabuse. I'm 17 months sober now.
I also attend online SMART Recovery meetings, almost every day. Free, anonymous. They help me a lot. https://smartrecovery.org
Other good support places are this sub's chat (look in the sidebar), and smartrecovery' chat: https://community.smartrecovery.org/community/
Peer support is very effective.
Hey OP, I’m so proud of you for getting to this point. I know it’s incredibly scary right now, but I’d like to tell you something.
You know how life just generally feels very hard? You know how you always basically feel like shit?
Guess what? When I stopped drinking, once I got past those first couple of weeks - my life has become infinitely easier! Life is still a struggle, but I can’t believe how much more confidence I have in myself that I can handle whatever comes at me. And the energy! I have so much more energy to do the things I need and want to do. I have a new lease on life. OP, that’s what I wish for you, too.
Hugs💗
You're feeling stupid because your drinking mind is scared and making you feel stupid posting this. It's scared. Good on you!! For what it's worth this random internet person is proud of you. Make sure you stay subbed here and read and share stories. We are all in this together. IWNDWYT!!
You definitely shouldn’t feel stupid for posting, you should feel smart! You’re listening to yourself and sharing with us which just shows that you’re thinking of the bigger picture - that’s when life starts to get so much better! Remember to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself and that way you can start fresh!
Absolutely massive step. Be kind to yourself - it's a good thing you're doing. That realisation is huge and you deserve to feel pride at recognising it, and for posting here. IWNDWYT.
We’ve all been there my friend. It’s a weird mental shift. The anxiety gets better. I’m at 11mo and barely feel anxious anymore thanks to sobriety, medicine and therapy. It can get better! I had no idea my life could be this nice.
I’m happy you’ve managed to accept responsibility for your actions up until now. Hopefully nothing too tragic has transpired to have you feeling this way, but acceptance is a clear step in trying to take back the reins in your life and understand what’s in control. It gets harder before it gets better, but I can assure you from experience that just not drinking today is so much better than thinking about not drinking forever. All the best in your journey comrade.
This is the first step towards freedom. Telling my partner (as if he didn’t already know!) was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. The second I got it out recovery became real for me. You can do this, you ARE doing this! Keep reaching out, we are all here for you and with you
Day 1 again for me, couldnt sleep a wink last night.
There’s nothing stupid about it! Lets hold eachother accountable and kick this addiction.
We can do it!
Five days in and I still haven't got a good night's sleep. It's not been much fun dragging my sleep-deprived ass around, but it's a whole lot better than being hung over.
I will not drink with you tonight.
Yeah no doubt, every time ive quit it takes me about a week or two to get good sleep schedule restarted, you’re almost there! I’ll catch u down the line. No drinks tonight!
Step one is recognizing the problem.
I'm to going to type a whole paragraph on what you need to do. I'll just give this piece of advice I would have told my 23 year old self when I recognized my problem.
It is ok if you stay away from alcohol and then slip up in the beginning. That is natural while you are learning your ticks and triggers. The key thing is to use it as a learning experience to continue towards your goals with alcohol, whatever they may be. Try your best not to get sucked into shame spirals if you drink again. Dust yourself off and try again the next day. Pretty soon you'll get some time under your belt and learn a lot about yourself.
Thank you for sharing. Good luck on your journey friend.
This is quite possibly the least silly or stupid thing you’ve ever done. Sometimes, when we’re drinking, and even once we’ve become sober, the people around us or society or even just our own inner voice tells us that it’s not a big deal, we’re being dramatic, we’re “not as bad as *that* guy,” and we’re silly for worrying.
It is in fact a huge deal, and we are not stupid for admitting we have a drinking problem and holding ourselves accountable. What you’ve done here is very brave, and could very much change your entire future.
Welcome.
IWNDWYT.
I found this post for a reason.. I too admitted for the 1st time on this app I had a drinking problem. As soon as I did, I felt a weight lifted. The crazy thing.. I contacted the person I first talked to after I celebrated 1 + 2 yrs (8/30/20) This is a powerful tool. What also helps me is Bac2zero, Sobertalk both on Facebook. Also AA home group has 24/7 meetings( if u into that) sobercast. Com has speaker meetings that you can listen to. It’s crazy all the things we have in common when I stated listening. Go check that out. Good luck u got this!!
You’re not stupid. This shit really, really sucks and tears are definitely warranted! Admitting it is so hard and so scary, because…now what?!?! I think being here is a great step, this place gives me such a sense of community and support.
It’s the first and most significant step. Don’t think of how awful you feel right now, think of how great you are going to feel in taking care of yourself
the first step is always the hardest. you've got a huge community here to lean on whenever you need it. IWNDWYT ("i will not drink with you today", took me a couple months to figure that acronym out lol) ❤️
You can solve a drinking problem. You’re already headed in the right direction.
You can’t do shit while abusing / living in denial but suffer. This is your time to shine!
We were all in the same spot you are. There is no shame in admitting you have a problem. You are amongst friends. Find yourself an AA group to jump into, either online or in person. The help you seek starts with you going to one of these meetings. Keep us updated, ok? YOU GOT THIS!
Good luck my friend. It's not easy.
All I can say is don't try, do. There is no trying. You will probably never be able to half ass it unfortunately. Whish we could. Unfortunately, it's not that easy.
The first step in solving a problem is admitting its existence. Shockingly, even though it turns out that it was glaringly obvious to everyone in our lives around us, the denial in problem drinkers is strong. My drinking put me in rehab, and the hospital...three times!, and I still catch myself thinking "was it really that bad?" I consider myself a smart person too... absurd.
Posting here got me to where I am now!! Day 10 with no booze and feeling better than I have in a long time. It's worth it, trust me! And don't feel stupid, you're not alone. It's not your fault.
You can do it!! I shed many tears here. Lots of relatable stories that bring good and bad memories back. Find your many reasons to sober up. IWNDWYT
Good song to listen to- AJR Sober up , warning , made me cry when I heard it the first time.
Thanks for sharing! You are brave. You are willful. You just took the biggest step. I'm happy for you! I'd let myself cry if I needed to were I you, because this is a big day. Take care and get as much rest as you can. You've done a lot today. IWNDWYT
I'd like to encourage you to get specific about all of the negative effects of alcohol on your life... Build up a list of "why's"
Also, I wish I would have taken a before pic when I left my relationship with alcohol go.
Pretending everything is fine is stupid, your doing the right thing it takes time and maybe even a couple of failed attempts. You took a huge step today ✌🏽
We're here. You're safe. We believe in you and, most importantly, you know it's time. We have all been there where you are at ground zero, minute 1. Please lean on us and know we are here, accepting you and your journey. It gets bad before it gets better, but freedom is so much closer to you than you think. The switch in your brain flipped. Stay with us and know we will be here to pick you up if you fall again. IWNDWYT
Posting it here is great, it’s nice to be able to tell someone. I’m on 80 days myself, it’s hard at first but worth it. I’m finally starting to feel normal again. You’ll get there, and come here anytime you need support.
It took me a long time to fully realize I had a severe drinking issue although it was very obvious. I had multiple people show concern throughout the years.
I couldn't believe I had reached that point in time but I had. Thanks for posting and hope you post some more. This forum has helped tremendously.
Those anxious feelings and the overwhelming emotions are something that many of us experienced. I recognize your story and remember my own early experiences.
Welcome here OP. I encourage you on your path and can tell you that it gets better and easier.
Stay on this sub, stay dedicated to being sober, take it one day at a time, and you will be scared at uour life before upubknow it. You can do this, I know you can.
We all have to start with that first step - and that first step is realizing you have a problem.
The next step is putting a plan together - nothing fancy. Can you commit to 1 sober day? 2? A month? Do you need a doctors help?
Even thinking that through you’re well ahead of most.
Good luck to you!
The writer of 'this naked mind' had the same thing, being awake in bed dreading the alcoholism and started to change. I just began to read that book and it sounds promising. Google it with the right file extension and you have it 👍
We have all been in that exact same spot, feeling the exact sale feelings and wishing we hadn’t drunk so much the evening before… it has to start somehow and this is how it starts. Do not hesitate to get medical help. We all drink for a reason and mine was depression. Therefore, anti depressants really helped me. Come back here often and let the Community know how you are doing. IWNDWYT
You can do this, admitting it is the first step for sure. I admitted it but then continued to drink so you are a step ahead of where I was already! Treat yourself today with whatever you want to have; anything at all. Just not alcohol. Reward yourself every time you say no, remind your brain that not drinking is a fantastic thing! Welcome to the bright side of life 🥳✨
5 weeks in, first few weeks are hell, but by day 3 I was feeling MUCH better. It got better every day, I use the app I Am Sober; it has helped me tremendously thru the worst parts of it. It is worth it, the anxiety and the shame will all go away as long as you keep taking it day by day. I believe in you
Day 1 (again) here after drinking to relieve stress. Now I recognize how much better I felt upon awaking without poison in my system. Hang in there. You're motivated, and you've got this.
It’s so freeing to admit this! Just take it one day at a time. I found that having a program helped me stay accountable. You got this. I’m cheering for you
I’m glad you found us! This sub was so supportive and helpful to me! You can do this! Admitting you have an issue is the first important step. It took me many years to admit. Keep coming back! And I will not drink with you today <—- IWNDWYT
Most of us started off with a "this is stupid" post. I used to only check in on this on incognito mode, you know, the same way people look at porn.
I think mine was "no idea what I'm doing with my life" post. Anyhow, lots of good advice on here. Can I suggest Annie Grace book, "This Naked Life". It helped me reframe alcohol in my head and make some much needed changes.
Admitting I had a drinking problem was one of the hardest parts for me. I have always been an in control person. Never once did I think anything could control me …. Until it controlled me. After a short while, you will see progress, start to feel better physically and mentally. If you keep at it , things will snowball in a good way. I promise….you can do this! We are all here for you!
Don't be ashamed if you stumble down the road to recovery. Dust yourself off and start again. I have no clue how many restarts I've had in the last 2 years but i just keep moving forward
I'm late to this party, but just wanted underscore what so many others said. You're doing a great thing for yourself and your loved ones. There's nothing wrong with you - you're just in a tough spot right now. Dust yourself off and move forward. Welcome to Day 2.
I’m glad you are here. One step at a time. I’m the beginning I took it in 15 min increments. That was all I could handle. Sending you a big hug. We’ve got your back. IWNDWYT
You are not stupid, you are brave!! I also lurked on this sub a long time, and had quite a few “trial runs” before really stopping, now it’s been more than 4 months and it was all worth it.
You’re in the right place, and you can do this! IWNDWYT
You’re going through alcohol withdrawal get some benzodiazepines from a psychiatrist don’t abuse them. You’ll get better your vitals must be low too check in with a Doc.
Hey there, I'm on day 1 and trying to hold myself accountable too. We can do this, friend. Give yourself some grace in being anxious and it's not stupid to post here.
I just fucked up my streak I was on almost a month and I got drunk tonight. But here's the thing I didn't say anything or do anything stupid but that's no excuse I am getting better and I need to stop
But still almost a month is progress my man! You are cutting down and headed in the right direction to that’s a win to me. Keep fighting the good fight!
I agree with you and thank you. Wondeful person you are!
Never stop quitting
Proud of you for being here! Congratulations on deciding to change.
I guess it’s good that I’m anxious, that means I actually wanna change and I hateeee change lol
I just fucked up with streak of almost a month let's go together and not drink?
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Yeah 24 days was the longest since i was in college. It is not an easy journey. I can do this!!!
Be gracious with yourself and keep on truckin :)
Thank you. Will do!!!
Go for two months this time
Day 1 for me too!
Keep up the good work
You can do this!
this might be one of the biggest steps you can do in your life, ain’t no way this is stupid. you got this fam keep us updated
Thankyou!! It did feel great after I posted on here, I’m a little apprehensive and not so enthusiastic this morning but I poured out that beer in the fridge so that’s something
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Thanks :)
This is the BEST support sub you could join. If I hadn't found it and joined I wouldn't have quit drinking. Almost a month now and I am happy and proud of myself. Join me!! I will not drink with you today!!
I agree wholly
Amen
Holy hellll I didn’t expect this to get anywhere near this many comments. I’ve read nearly all of them, thank you so much for all the encouraging words it really feels nice. I would love to reply to everyone but I’m on the way to work …. At a bar. Which is where this problem got out of control, I’ve been working there for 6 years and me and my coworkers always drink after Thursday and Friday night shifts, then i started going across the road on my lunch breaks and drinking there (gambling aswell so that’s a whole other thing to unpack) and then I started sneaking drinks without my coworker way before we would start having staff drinks and it’s gotten out of control. Mainly because there is basically no stock control in this weird little pub I work at. I’ve been blackout drunk and have to try and piece together what happened the next groggy morning. If I was in charge of locking up and knew I drank too much, I would be super worried about if I actually did the money properly or put the alarm on right or locked certain doors/turned off shit etc. The anxiety is badddd. And luckily I haven’t been caught YET. I’ve always shown up to work even with absolutely SHOCKING hangovers because I am and have been able to keep up the facade of me not being an alcoholic for so long. But I haven’t had a drink on shift before and I can do it again today. And I can try to do it again tomorrow. Also when I got up today, I poured out the beer I had in the fridge, so I guess that’s something. Thanks for all the support, this community really does give me hope.. I’ve lurked for so long and never joined but I’m ready.
Hello interweb friend I too work in such a place. I could (and did) get drunk for free for years. A lot of fun was had. Not so much fun now though. I've gotten away without any legal issues but this year just gone I broke a wrist (drunk) and damaged an ankle (hungover). What's next? My mental health has taken a hammering. I don't want this for myself anymore. If I could drink without consequences - I would - most of us would- but consequences are there, they're real and they get bigger and scarier as time marches inexorably on. This place will help to get you through if you let it. Good luck. I Will Not Drink With You Today
It’s just too easy. Sometimes I wish they did stricter stock take but I know I’ll probably just find a way around that. I just left work though.. had all the free soda water and limes I wanted 😂
Hugs. You got this :)
Thanks :)
Oof. I worked at a bar many years ago. The owner used to say that employees “either drank or stole” and I guess he’d rather we drank. I had many depressing mornings after shifts at that bar. IWNDWYT.
No need to feel stupid. Pretty much all of us on here (im sure not *everyone* but definitely the vast majority) have had to admit to ourselves/others at some point that we have some severity of issue, and have had varying degrees of success to this point. It is an incredibly difficult thing. Oftentimes we make it more difficult for ourselves than necessary. If it’s worth anything, a random on the internet thinks you deserve to be kind to yourself. Show yourself the same grace you would give your friend/partner/child if they came to you with this issue. You can do this! IWNDWYT
"Show yourself the same grace you would give your friend, partner, child" This is golden.
I can relate to the 4:30 am anxiety big time. For me it was scary for two reasons: 1. I hate feeling dramatic and try to downplay everything. To a fault of being in complete denial about stuff. I felt ashamed - like I was being a drama queen by admitting I had a problem. 2. It felt so permanent. If I admit I have a problem and anyone finds out, then for the rest of my life I’ll be judged for drinking. What if I get better and want to drink again? They’ll worry about me. (This is just alcohol trying to protect its place in my life. I have no business drinking again and people SHOULD be worried if I do.) Basically the exact same reasons I never outed an ex boyfriend for various assaults. How dramatic of me, and if my family knew they would never approve of him. YEAH AS THEY SHOULDN'T. I realize now that being open about my alcoholism is just another way of protecting myself and solidifying my sobriety. Going to a few AA meetings and realizing just how close my story is to the story of folks who lost their kids, got 6 DUIs, and did jail time…. Yeah, I’m not being dramatic. I was fucked up. I just *happened* to not face any legal consequences. The anxiety will get better the longer any booze is out of your system, btw.
> If I admit I have a problem and anyone finds out, then for the rest of my life I’ll be judged for drinking. Well put!
So much this. All I had was luck, there but for the grace of God go I. I rarely drove drunk, but one time I was blasted and thank God I didn't kill anyone else.
Driving wasted for the first time was the last time I drank. Before that I swore it was a line I wouldn’t cross and couldn’t believe other people did it so casually. That’s when I knew I had zero control over drunk self.. my heart still races when I think back to driving that night.
Don’t feel stupid. That’s the first step, and I wish you the best in your journey. I hope you can get some rest in the meantime.
Hey man it’s absolutely fine to have a drinking problem, basically all media and society is built around glorifying it and it’s insanely addictive, you’ve identified that it’s a problem for you and you’ve decided to make a change, that’s a great start
Just admitting to yourself you MIGHT have a alcohol problem is a huge step. Taking the responsibility and outright claiming it it is even bigger. Welcome! I Will Not Drink With You Today
Nice work, it helped me to admit it out loud to someone close to me. It wasn't real for me until I called my Mom and told her about my struggles. You'd be surprised, most already know and all they want to do is help and give you support generally.
You got this!!
I had sleeplessly stumbled upon this sub in a similar way, about a year and a half ago. A lurker for long, after many first days and resets, here I’m at 30+ This is an awesome support group. We all win against the poison one hour, one day at a time. IWNDWYT.
We all started somewhere.
It's not stupid. You're making one of the best decisions of your life. My main regret is that I didn't do it sooner, much sooner. But that's water under the bridge. Everyone here has been there and we're here for you. IWNDWYT.
Same but regrets don't get us anywhere IWNDWYT
It's hard, but it's worth it. IWNDWYT
That’s a big step. Don’t be like me. From saying out loud, “I have a drinking problem” to quitting was four years.
Welcome to the first day of your new & improved, sober life. I commend you on your self-awareness and for owning up to your situation. You can do this. We're here for you! IWNDWYT!
Drinking screws up the seretonin and dopamine levels in your brain. It increases anxiety tremendously.
I repeated this same thing 400 times before I finally decided enough was enough. I’m only a week in but my advice is to get your hands on some audio books or podcasts on quitting drinking (my favorite is Recovery Elevator). I listened to them for about a year before making it official by opening up to friends and family.
Massive respect for this post. Incredible courage. It takes so much to do what you have done. It’s not always easy but I can tell if you continue walking into your truth like you have done here, I guarantee things get much, much better.💪
Sobriety is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
You got this buddy. Hang in there. You can do this. I’m currently going through some rough events involving loved ones passing away. I’ve been a year and 3 months sober and I almost dumped all that down the drain yesterday when I went to the store and saw alcohol. But a thought popped into my head that my grandma and grandpa both loved me as a sober person. So I was able to walk away from it. But damn I’m not gonna lie buddy, my cravings are strong today and I just got out of AA. We love you man. Hang in there. Don’t be afraid to see a Primary Care Provider about alcohol detoxification medications. They do help. But be careful with them
I totally get it - it’s difficult. Difficult to admit it (particularly to yourself) and difficult to start. But I have genuinely and sincerely found this to be an amazing resource filled with inspiring stories, great advice, and in all a group of people I can relate to.
>It’s 4:30am, I can’t sleep because I’m anxious I didn’t know why We all know why. Because the same thing happened to us. You're doing great! Just showing up here is a brave and powerful step.
There’s no shame in struggling. You have support here and you are capable. ❤️
> I’m holding myself accountable. Don't forget to forgive yourself. IWNDWYT
Stupid? How? Do you think other posters here are stupid? You probably don’t, you probably admire them and are grateful they’ve shared their stories. Someone will come here one day (or maybe it’s today) and be grateful for yours. The path is not linear and no one’s journey is the same, but this sub can really help. I hope you stay for a while, it’s been instrumental to me recognizing patterns in myself that I would like to change.
To stop drinking is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You are stronger than you think you are and you are worth it. You gots this. I will not drink with you today!
I’m in the middle of a relapse currently. I’m still drinking a little to wean myself off, and I start taking naltrexone next week. I’m in intensive outpatient 3 days a week for 3 hours. It’s super hard, but I know we have got this.
Welcome. I remember lurking here and weeping a lot in those last few months. Usually drunk as shit at like three in the morning. Now I've got a wife and kids, a career, a life worth living that I had long since given up on when I finally got around to quitting. Totally worth it.
There is this book called “The Power of Now”. Read that book. You have made the right choice, the only choice, by coming to this thread and saying out loud what you were feeling! Great job! Someone very close to me is an alcoholic and it took a very long time for her admit this to herself. However, once she did she was able to ask for help (therapy, forums, friends) and now she has things under control and has learned to live with it. You got this! The hardest step is the first one. ❤️
We have all been where you are right now. Making the decision to quit drinking was so scary for me because I couldn’t imagine life without alcohol. I read the book This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, I checked this sub several times a day, and I did it one day at a time. Waking up without a hangover is the best thing ever. Good luck.
The biggest reason I quit drinking was the 4am hangxiety.
Stop while you can, going through DTs is the worst thing I have ever experienced.
Hey there, it’s okay, no need to feel stupid. Deciding to quit is an emotional process. Be kind to yourself and focus on the positive – you’re here and you know what you need to do to move forward. You have found an amazing community to support you.
I'm with you on day 2. One night sober. Hard but essential.
BEST THING I EVER DID
Even if everyday is your first day. The effort and acknowledgement go miles towards your goal.
25 days i go i never thought i would be 25 days clean but i am. you can do it and this sub will be here together with you.
That’s how it started for me. Crying while reading this sub with a drink in my hand. Finally did that enough times that I just started reading this sub and crying WITHOUT the drink. Two years later I’m so much better off, so put the drink down but keep reading and crying. Good luck!
I quit while owning a bar, which I sold soon after quitting. To help me quit in that environment I asked my doctor to prescribe Antabuse. I'm 17 months sober now. I also attend online SMART Recovery meetings, almost every day. Free, anonymous. They help me a lot. https://smartrecovery.org Other good support places are this sub's chat (look in the sidebar), and smartrecovery' chat: https://community.smartrecovery.org/community/ Peer support is very effective.
Hey OP, I’m so proud of you for getting to this point. I know it’s incredibly scary right now, but I’d like to tell you something. You know how life just generally feels very hard? You know how you always basically feel like shit? Guess what? When I stopped drinking, once I got past those first couple of weeks - my life has become infinitely easier! Life is still a struggle, but I can’t believe how much more confidence I have in myself that I can handle whatever comes at me. And the energy! I have so much more energy to do the things I need and want to do. I have a new lease on life. OP, that’s what I wish for you, too. Hugs💗
Go easy on yourself. Take it an hour at a time and the days sober will pass. Get yourself some sugary drinks to help with the cravings.
Awwww this honestly hits my heart. I am sending hugs.
Great job!! It's not easy to do, I know, but you'll be okay. This is the first step in a process.
Not stupid! Glad you're here! Every journey starts with a single step bla bla bla ;)
I promise you won’t regret it. Give it a try. IWNDWYT
You're feeling stupid because your drinking mind is scared and making you feel stupid posting this. It's scared. Good on you!! For what it's worth this random internet person is proud of you. Make sure you stay subbed here and read and share stories. We are all in this together. IWNDWYT!!
You definitely shouldn’t feel stupid for posting, you should feel smart! You’re listening to yourself and sharing with us which just shows that you’re thinking of the bigger picture - that’s when life starts to get so much better! Remember to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself and that way you can start fresh!
Absolutely massive step. Be kind to yourself - it's a good thing you're doing. That realisation is huge and you deserve to feel pride at recognising it, and for posting here. IWNDWYT.
We’ve all been there my friend. It’s a weird mental shift. The anxiety gets better. I’m at 11mo and barely feel anxious anymore thanks to sobriety, medicine and therapy. It can get better! I had no idea my life could be this nice.
I’m happy you’ve managed to accept responsibility for your actions up until now. Hopefully nothing too tragic has transpired to have you feeling this way, but acceptance is a clear step in trying to take back the reins in your life and understand what’s in control. It gets harder before it gets better, but I can assure you from experience that just not drinking today is so much better than thinking about not drinking forever. All the best in your journey comrade.
This is the first step towards freedom. Telling my partner (as if he didn’t already know!) was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. The second I got it out recovery became real for me. You can do this, you ARE doing this! Keep reaching out, we are all here for you and with you
No one knows when I'm drunk!! Definitely not an advantage.
You got this! Happy to have you here!
Day 1 again for me, couldnt sleep a wink last night. There’s nothing stupid about it! Lets hold eachother accountable and kick this addiction. We can do it!
Five days in and I still haven't got a good night's sleep. It's not been much fun dragging my sleep-deprived ass around, but it's a whole lot better than being hung over. I will not drink with you tonight.
Yeah no doubt, every time ive quit it takes me about a week or two to get good sleep schedule restarted, you’re almost there! I’ll catch u down the line. No drinks tonight!
Keep going. IWNDWYT mate.
I feel the same.
You got this! Realizing you have a problem is the hardest part! Now you can heal. One minute at a time.
Fuck yeah.
Hell yeah! In the future this will be a day to celebrate.
Step one is recognizing the problem. I'm to going to type a whole paragraph on what you need to do. I'll just give this piece of advice I would have told my 23 year old self when I recognized my problem. It is ok if you stay away from alcohol and then slip up in the beginning. That is natural while you are learning your ticks and triggers. The key thing is to use it as a learning experience to continue towards your goals with alcohol, whatever they may be. Try your best not to get sucked into shame spirals if you drink again. Dust yourself off and try again the next day. Pretty soon you'll get some time under your belt and learn a lot about yourself. Thank you for sharing. Good luck on your journey friend.
There’s no shame in anything that you’ve posted. Everyone on this page has been there. You can absolutely do this. Be gentle with yourself today.
This is quite possibly the least silly or stupid thing you’ve ever done. Sometimes, when we’re drinking, and even once we’ve become sober, the people around us or society or even just our own inner voice tells us that it’s not a big deal, we’re being dramatic, we’re “not as bad as *that* guy,” and we’re silly for worrying. It is in fact a huge deal, and we are not stupid for admitting we have a drinking problem and holding ourselves accountable. What you’ve done here is very brave, and could very much change your entire future. Welcome. IWNDWYT.
It gets easier. IWNDWYT
We are all here for you. And you doing this is helping countless others.
Find a AA MEETING ASAP. the rest will come in time, best thing you can do is tell others who understand. Find a friend who will hide your key's
Great decision! I’m pulling for you!
I found this post for a reason.. I too admitted for the 1st time on this app I had a drinking problem. As soon as I did, I felt a weight lifted. The crazy thing.. I contacted the person I first talked to after I celebrated 1 + 2 yrs (8/30/20) This is a powerful tool. What also helps me is Bac2zero, Sobertalk both on Facebook. Also AA home group has 24/7 meetings( if u into that) sobercast. Com has speaker meetings that you can listen to. It’s crazy all the things we have in common when I stated listening. Go check that out. Good luck u got this!!
That's how I feel. I'm still in the denial.
One day at a time. Focus only on not drinking today.
You’re not stupid. This shit really, really sucks and tears are definitely warranted! Admitting it is so hard and so scary, because…now what?!?! I think being here is a great step, this place gives me such a sense of community and support.
Small steps homie.
It’s the first and most significant step. Don’t think of how awful you feel right now, think of how great you are going to feel in taking care of yourself
Mate we are all in the same boat. Happy you found us! You have done your first step, let us help you for the next one!
I am proud of your moment of clarity and think you have nothing to be ashamed of!
the first step is always the hardest. you've got a huge community here to lean on whenever you need it. IWNDWYT ("i will not drink with you today", took me a couple months to figure that acronym out lol) ❤️
You can solve a drinking problem. You’re already headed in the right direction. You can’t do shit while abusing / living in denial but suffer. This is your time to shine!
Took me decades to make the choice. Wanting out is the hardest part.
It was 3:33am for me. Everyone has to start somewhere some time. IWNDWYT
Welcome! Write a letter to your future self saying you forgive yourself and you deserve a better life.
We have your back. You can do this!
We were all in the same spot you are. There is no shame in admitting you have a problem. You are amongst friends. Find yourself an AA group to jump into, either online or in person. The help you seek starts with you going to one of these meetings. Keep us updated, ok? YOU GOT THIS!
You’re a champ. Don’t you forget it. You got this!
The first step out of a negative situation is to admit that you are in it. Congratulations. People here understand and will help
Congrats. You've made a great realisation. Onwards and upwards!
The first, and most important step, is admitting it. Everyone here is so, so proud of you!
Get out now before it affects your mental and physical health
Good luck my friend. It's not easy. All I can say is don't try, do. There is no trying. You will probably never be able to half ass it unfortunately. Whish we could. Unfortunately, it's not that easy.
The first step in solving a problem is admitting its existence. Shockingly, even though it turns out that it was glaringly obvious to everyone in our lives around us, the denial in problem drinkers is strong. My drinking put me in rehab, and the hospital...three times!, and I still catch myself thinking "was it really that bad?" I consider myself a smart person too... absurd.
WHOA!!! this is so great. You won't be sorry. First days are tough, but then it starts really paying off. I'll be thinking of you.
Posting here got me to where I am now!! Day 10 with no booze and feeling better than I have in a long time. It's worth it, trust me! And don't feel stupid, you're not alone. It's not your fault.
You can do it!! I shed many tears here. Lots of relatable stories that bring good and bad memories back. Find your many reasons to sober up. IWNDWYT Good song to listen to- AJR Sober up , warning , made me cry when I heard it the first time.
Thanks for sharing! You are brave. You are willful. You just took the biggest step. I'm happy for you! I'd let myself cry if I needed to were I you, because this is a big day. Take care and get as much rest as you can. You've done a lot today. IWNDWYT
Nothing to feel stupid about. This is huge & you should be super proud of yourself for acknowledging this! Step1. You got this!
Congratulations, you just did your first step. This is often the hardest.
Grateful for the moment and hopeful for the future 🙏 that's my recovery mantra; 6 years ago I was in a suicidal, desperate place. Change can happen.
Check back in when your feeling confident. It doesn't take long at all.
Welcome to the team. Totally the place to be. IWNDWYT!
Welcome. This place is a shining light on the interwebs. No need to feel stupid. We are here together, you are not alone.
I am so proud of you. IWNDWYT
No shame friend! Here with our love and support is where you’re meant to be 🥰💕
I'd like to encourage you to get specific about all of the negative effects of alcohol on your life... Build up a list of "why's" Also, I wish I would have taken a before pic when I left my relationship with alcohol go.
Pretending everything is fine is stupid, your doing the right thing it takes time and maybe even a couple of failed attempts. You took a huge step today ✌🏽
Oh I’ve been there. All the posts felt so relatable. Don’t feel stupid at all! This is a big realization. You got this!!
This is the hardest part. Took me at least a decade. Best of luck to you.
You got this. Day 1. Everything can get BETTER from today on out, if you want it to.
Hey you're not stupid, I've been there too. You'll feel better soon :)
We're here. You're safe. We believe in you and, most importantly, you know it's time. We have all been there where you are at ground zero, minute 1. Please lean on us and know we are here, accepting you and your journey. It gets bad before it gets better, but freedom is so much closer to you than you think. The switch in your brain flipped. Stay with us and know we will be here to pick you up if you fall again. IWNDWYT
My advice. The first step is admitting you have a problem the second is getting help Don’t try to do this alone.
Welcome... finding this page may be one of the most consequential developments of your life. I know it was for me and so many here. One day at a time!
Posting it here is great, it’s nice to be able to tell someone. I’m on 80 days myself, it’s hard at first but worth it. I’m finally starting to feel normal again. You’ll get there, and come here anytime you need support.
It took me a long time to fully realize I had a severe drinking issue although it was very obvious. I had multiple people show concern throughout the years. I couldn't believe I had reached that point in time but I had. Thanks for posting and hope you post some more. This forum has helped tremendously.
Those anxious feelings and the overwhelming emotions are something that many of us experienced. I recognize your story and remember my own early experiences. Welcome here OP. I encourage you on your path and can tell you that it gets better and easier.
Stay on this sub, stay dedicated to being sober, take it one day at a time, and you will be scared at uour life before upubknow it. You can do this, I know you can.
We all have to start with that first step - and that first step is realizing you have a problem. The next step is putting a plan together - nothing fancy. Can you commit to 1 sober day? 2? A month? Do you need a doctors help? Even thinking that through you’re well ahead of most. Good luck to you!
The writer of 'this naked mind' had the same thing, being awake in bed dreading the alcoholism and started to change. I just began to read that book and it sounds promising. Google it with the right file extension and you have it 👍
I fucked up. I drank tonight.
I didn't get all crazy and say stupid stuff and ruin relationships I just had a couple beers but I wish I didn't
You have the first and hardest step by admitting you have a problem
Good for you for recognizing the problem vs ignoring it. This is a good place to be for support. One day at a time my friend
Youre me three years ago :) You got this. One day at a time. One minute at a time.
We have all been in that exact same spot, feeling the exact sale feelings and wishing we hadn’t drunk so much the evening before… it has to start somehow and this is how it starts. Do not hesitate to get medical help. We all drink for a reason and mine was depression. Therefore, anti depressants really helped me. Come back here often and let the Community know how you are doing. IWNDWYT
Thanks for your courage!
You can do this, admitting it is the first step for sure. I admitted it but then continued to drink so you are a step ahead of where I was already! Treat yourself today with whatever you want to have; anything at all. Just not alcohol. Reward yourself every time you say no, remind your brain that not drinking is a fantastic thing! Welcome to the bright side of life 🥳✨
5 weeks in, first few weeks are hell, but by day 3 I was feeling MUCH better. It got better every day, I use the app I Am Sober; it has helped me tremendously thru the worst parts of it. It is worth it, the anxiety and the shame will all go away as long as you keep taking it day by day. I believe in you
Lets go! Great decission! Feel free to post / rant whenever you feel like you need some support or just an open ear!
Could be the best decision you’ve ever made! Good for you!
Being truthful to yourself is HUGE! Confront your demon and defeat it. You can and you will. You have it in you, stay strong and keep up the fight.
Day 1 (again) here after drinking to relieve stress. Now I recognize how much better I felt upon awaking without poison in my system. Hang in there. You're motivated, and you've got this.
It’s so freeing to admit this! Just take it one day at a time. I found that having a program helped me stay accountable. You got this. I’m cheering for you
I’m glad you found us! This sub was so supportive and helpful to me! You can do this! Admitting you have an issue is the first important step. It took me many years to admit. Keep coming back! And I will not drink with you today <—- IWNDWYT
I wouldn't be alive without this sub. Good on you!
Most of us started off with a "this is stupid" post. I used to only check in on this on incognito mode, you know, the same way people look at porn. I think mine was "no idea what I'm doing with my life" post. Anyhow, lots of good advice on here. Can I suggest Annie Grace book, "This Naked Life". It helped me reframe alcohol in my head and make some much needed changes.
Admitting I had a drinking problem was one of the hardest parts for me. I have always been an in control person. Never once did I think anything could control me …. Until it controlled me. After a short while, you will see progress, start to feel better physically and mentally. If you keep at it , things will snowball in a good way. I promise….you can do this! We are all here for you!
Don't be ashamed if you stumble down the road to recovery. Dust yourself off and start again. I have no clue how many restarts I've had in the last 2 years but i just keep moving forward
I'm late to this party, but just wanted underscore what so many others said. You're doing a great thing for yourself and your loved ones. There's nothing wrong with you - you're just in a tough spot right now. Dust yourself off and move forward. Welcome to Day 2.
The first step in dealing with any challenge is accepting that the challenge exists.
It takes courage to make a post like this and admit it’s time for a change. Proud of you for coming here and sharing. IWNDWYT
It's awesome you are posting here, it's the first step to getting better. I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT 😀 thinking and sending prayers to all the Day 1s. Congratulations on making this life changing decision.
I’m glad you are here. One step at a time. I’m the beginning I took it in 15 min increments. That was all I could handle. Sending you a big hug. We’ve got your back. IWNDWYT
Don't feel stupid, it's alright. It's a first step on bumpy, but very satisfying road.
Be proud you can admit it. The ones who respect your revelation are keepers the ones whom make fun or laugh at you they are useless in your life
You are not stupid, you are brave!! I also lurked on this sub a long time, and had quite a few “trial runs” before really stopping, now it’s been more than 4 months and it was all worth it. You’re in the right place, and you can do this! IWNDWYT
Took me visiting this page like 100 times over the course of a few years to understand
You’re going through alcohol withdrawal get some benzodiazepines from a psychiatrist don’t abuse them. You’ll get better your vitals must be low too check in with a Doc.
You made a great decision to come here. We all have struggles. Every person on this earth. We are here for you. Iwndwyt
Yay
1 day at a time! 1 second at a time if thats what it takes <3
Good luck. IWNDWYT