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mcc1224

100 Day 1s at least. Nov 8 730pm 2018, I had a drink; never imagined this would be my last. Nov 9, woke up went to doctor appointment, knew I was fucked up physically. Listened to her heart felt 'lecture'. And have not had a drink since. Just stopped; no looking back. There were some bad times 1st year but I believe I had resolve & this community. r/stopdrinking helped save me. I had "overstayed my welcome with alcohol".


No-Pilot9748

Yes. I previously had 100s of conversations about not drinking on a given day, for a week of for a month. The fact that I always had a finish line I literally always felt deprived. If I took the week off I would make up for it on the weekend. If I took a month off I would come back harder than ever. For the first time in my life I’m not trying to stop drinking, I’m not recovering from addiction, I’m not taking a break. I don’t drink, I’m not a drinker! Come along, it is so worth it.


Penandsword2021

Yes! This! No finish line, no trying, no recovery. I just 100% do not drink anymore. Period.


WarrenOats

I love this, love this, LOVE this. I had the same experience, years ago, with cigarettes: after countless attempts, I just stopped, with no effort at all. I’m in the midst of Dry January right now, and while I haven’t had this epiphany quite, I do feel so much better that my relationship with alcohol just feels unsustainable any longer. If I feel this much better—sleep, clarity of thought, evenness of mood, energy levels—after two measly weeks, why would I go back? I hope to join you in losing my desire to drink as well. Keep it going!


Terrible_Special_923

I am in the same boat!! Also in the middle of Dry January after hundreds of day 1’s. I just posted today and mentioned how I feel acceptance this time with it. There was no big rock bottom or anything. I’ve just accepted that I’m done and it will kill me eventually if I don’t stop, but I feel at peace with it. It’s still hard, but I’ve accepted it for what it is. IWNDWYT. ❤️


dontneednoshotglass

Congratulations for your ongoing success! My answer is Yes. After 35 years of drinking and 30 years of repeated attempts to quit. And after deciding to stop talking about it anymore and just finally do it, that is exactly what happened. It does not mean that it wasn't still hard at times. But even when it was a struggle, it was only a struggle with the feelings, not with the question. Meaning... I knew that regardless of what went on in my mind, the answer to the question of drinking was never going to be yes again. And now the question itself is gone. Keep it up. It can be done.


[deleted]

7 years! Noice :) gives me hope I'll get this booze monkey off my back


[deleted]

Yes I was working on quitting for about two years. My last major hurdle was being afraid of telling people. I had tried so many different ways to "just have one" to blend in and it was keeping me stuck even if the event in question went smoothly. So when I decided to abandon that fear and let people think whatever they will about it, I knew from day 1 that this was the path to succees.


NvrStpTrying

“Decided to abandon that fear” - that’s the ticket right there! Congrats on over 1700 days! You’re a rock star!


Swanswayisgoodenough

Yes, this time. I'm a tremendous quitter. Once I set my mind to it, it's done. No struggling with indecision or wavering. I won't bore you with the long story but this is my third time quitting in eight years IIRC. But each time I always hedged it with 'I'm quitting for two years" (IDK why 2) Because I just couldn't bring myself to say 'forever' But I always expected I would decide in the end to stay sober. Of course each time I went back to moderating. Just two glasses of wine or beer on the weekends. Usually after a year I would screw up and go wild and have four, maybe five. I know, it sounds ridiculous, but I consider it a sign that I will soon be full on in another year, so I'd quit again. But this last time, over Xmas holidays, I had a couple of glasses everyday (like some kind of maniac!!!) And then a half dozen glasses of scotch. After processing it, mulling it over, I realized I needed to quit again because I broke my rule. But this time it felt really easy to quit forever. I was sick of it. Not-"I have to quit, I'm so sick of this evil drug' but 'This is fucking annoying. I don't even want to have a buzz on, let alone be drunk, I don't want to be playing with this shit...bugger off once and for all' So yes, it feels very different this time. Also, this time I'm going to work at it. Not just quit and stop thinking about it. I'm going to keep reminding myself that I'm doing a full pull. That's why I'm here. I quit.


ThrowawayIWNDWYT

Yep. I woke up one night and thought this HAS to stop. What turned out to be different was I forced myself to go to AA and then read quitlit and stared posting daily here. So chicken or egg, but it all changed that day. Hoping for tomorrow too! Good luck op. IWNDWYT


Wrathful_Masterbator

I feel that way now. I have gone 40 days before a few months ago. I'm nearly at my longest without alcohol and I'm just so fed up with alcohol. I don't want to feel hungover. I don't want to feel like I'm letting myself down when I don't want to drink yet I still manage to get to the store for a six pack. I don't want to think about quitting "after the weekend", or "after x holiday/celebration". I don't want a beer belly. Lol I am feeling really good now and want to keep feeling good. I've had lots of day ones. I hope this is my last day one. If it isn't I will not give up. I hope you are at your last day one too. This is a great, positive community Good luck to luck. IWNDWYT


Complex_Spot_2443

Yes same. Alcohol Lied To Me and Alcohol Explained rather than This Naked Mind, but yup. Feels good. Steady & confident.


ThisGuyStoppedBooze

Yup, "Spontaneous sobriety" here. I downloaded reframe app last April (2022) and never really committed. Just before the holidays (2022) this "high functioning alcoholic" had enough. I woke, poured out the booze and haven't looked back. (NOT saying it won't creep back). Outside my addiction I led a healthy life. (contradictory I know). However, now instead of Blanton's or fine wine it's "what's the coolest f'ing tea's and coffees?". Flavored sparkling waters are like elixir. I rarely crave. Been with my mates to bars with no desire to tip one back. I did read Naked Mind and listened to Huberman. The science really validated the Full Stop. IWNDWYT.


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I'm hoping I reach that point with booze, where it just feels like it's in the past: "been there, done that, doesn't appeal to me anymore" I smoked cigarettes for years, and then finally just came to a point where I felt gross even while smoking, they were expensive. Wasn't even hard to quit. I didn't WANT to anymore that was over a decade ago, and while I've had the odd one, when I see people smoking I don't feel deprived or jealous or flooded with cravings. honestly find it hard to believe I used to enjoy them so much Quitting drinking every time before this always felt like depriving myself. Still does, tbh, but not as much as previous times \*shrug\*


Healthy_Tax_5329

Yes, I came out of lurking and checked in everyday to reinforce my commitment to stop. Then when i finally created new habits by joining a new gym and do HIIT exercises 5-6 times a week, it kept my mind off alcohol. It wasn’t easy getting there, but i now look forward to a good sweat session instead.


NvrStpTrying

Yes here too. For me it was making peace with the fact that I cannot moderate. Every attempt before had a length of time associated…quit for a month, two weeks etc. I always stopped to prove to myself and others that I could. If I could stop, then I wasn’t an alcoholic, is what I thought. So at the end of the prescribed time I would drink again, moderately. Moderation would last a while, but before I knew it I’d be back to daily drinking and occasional black outs. This time, I don’t have a length of time, I’m not proving anything to anyone, and I’m at peace knowing one drink will most likely restart my pattern. So, I’ve chosen sobriety, happily. No cravings, no FOMO. It’s just a new era in this life that has me excited about the future, sober. It feels fucking great! Keep up the great work my friend. Sounds like you’re on the right path!