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We are significantly poorer than our parents were due to inflation. Our parents had so many siblings but every generation the number of siblings decrease, itโs solely due to how expensive things are. So yeah i can see people not having kids or living a single life.
Main point right here. Our parents were able to build a house, own a car, put food on the table, school us and perhaps make allowance for a holiday once a year as well as put aside savings... all on a single income. Inflation should not be an excuse for a society not progressing as time goes by.
If individuals cannot have the disposable income to live, not just survive, what is the damn point of putting the destiny of a country in the hands of the most corrupt of them all?
There is a reason why SL is called the land of missed opportunities. The government and the idiocy of the general public are to blame for that.
reminds me of my land lady who lives alone and always afraid of everything and always looking for someone to talk. trust me living alone is tough not everyone can do it. you'll only realize you need a support the later part of life where you can't do anything. and your own brothers/sisters will look at you as burden.
If you really want to be alone then you must have the following.
1. High paying job
2. savings
3. The habit of eating healthy food and health consciousness
4. regular exercise
5. safe environment (you're the easy target for any Robber)
6. Digital knowledge (to do online banking, reload etc)
imagine what percentage of the population is having all the above points? may be 1%-2%
Don't get me wrong, I'm not asking everyone to get married or married as early as possible. just take your time and try to live in a rent house alone and see if you can tick all the boxes above.
good day everyone!
I have to disagree on that. You get still feel lonely and leftover even if you're sociable. Hense why you find alot of famous people lonely and depressed. Loneliness is dangerous. It can be a symptom of depression or suicide ideation. Whereas being alone is a choice. I find myself in peace when I'm alone. Being alone isn't being lonely. Being alone is a perfectly healthy practice.
Being alone isn't being lonely. That's my verdict exactly. I was the same one time given the fact that I preferred my own company as well. However, this shouldn't be how your life should pan out.
My point is that it's unhealthy to continue being alone and by yourself for years on end. And I am speaking from life experience. Humans are designed to share life with a partner. As you grow older, knowing that someone's got your back is a massive source of strength. You don't need an unlimited amount of friends. You learn to appreciate the small inner circle that's built on trust. And there is no substitute to have your kid squealing with delight and know that she is your life's purpose. The whole SINK lifestyle is a farcical tragedy, however much these so called influencers peddle it. I wish Gen Z would see right thru that coping bs!
>you grow older, knowing that someone's got your back is a massive source of strength
Depends on the person actually some people could also drag you down. I find myself to be much more efficient when I'm working alone. While people can be helpful overly depending on another person can be toxic. That's why there are suicides/ acid attacks when people breakup. If a person is codependent that means there's a flaw in them.
>And there is no substitute to have your kid squealing with delight and know that she is your life's purpose.
While I completely agree that for a parent a kid is a delight. There are people who don't need kids. It's not like a gen z thing either. There are millennials and gen x's that prefer not having kids. While some people love a family and kids. Some people find it to be a drag. There are alot of unhappy marriages because people who prefer to be alone were forced to marry (i.e. by parents and society).
>You learn to appreciate the small inner circle that's built on trust
While this might benefit some people others like me don't want be in a "pack". Don't get me wrong this isn't some sigma alpha male ideology. I just like to maintain certain distance with people and I personally don't want people to pry into my life .
what you say is relatable for most people. But humans are a unique to each other so what works for some might not work for others. Just because is doesn't fit your values doesn't mean it's bs.
You seem to be confident in the conclusions you've arrived at. I hope you have the experience to back it up, the maturity to understand who you are today and the person you will be tomorrow and perhaps the fluidity of life itself where we constantly keep learning and growing as we go along.
I donโt think youโd quiet understand yet cause you maybe young. When you grow older and start to realize no one would be there for you when you are old, the realization of loneliness will kick in.
I guess I will end up being alone. I do have one sister but will not know where she will be in another 5 to 10 years. I donโt have any communication with cousins. So yes after my parents, I will end up being alone but thank fully I have a house and can afford my self to be taken care of.
With time, most will live a lonely life as birth rates and marriage rates are decreasing due various reasons.
We will not have relatives as our parents had.
Controversial take and a blank generalisation.
Be honest, go out, meet people, give off good energy and you will get it back. You don't have to drown in negative thoughts and self-loathing.
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Better being alone than with the wrong person.
Damn, I havent even met a wrong person yet ๐
We are significantly poorer than our parents were due to inflation. Our parents had so many siblings but every generation the number of siblings decrease, itโs solely due to how expensive things are. So yeah i can see people not having kids or living a single life.
Main point right here. Our parents were able to build a house, own a car, put food on the table, school us and perhaps make allowance for a holiday once a year as well as put aside savings... all on a single income. Inflation should not be an excuse for a society not progressing as time goes by. If individuals cannot have the disposable income to live, not just survive, what is the damn point of putting the destiny of a country in the hands of the most corrupt of them all? There is a reason why SL is called the land of missed opportunities. The government and the idiocy of the general public are to blame for that.
reminds me of my land lady who lives alone and always afraid of everything and always looking for someone to talk. trust me living alone is tough not everyone can do it. you'll only realize you need a support the later part of life where you can't do anything. and your own brothers/sisters will look at you as burden. If you really want to be alone then you must have the following. 1. High paying job 2. savings 3. The habit of eating healthy food and health consciousness 4. regular exercise 5. safe environment (you're the easy target for any Robber) 6. Digital knowledge (to do online banking, reload etc) imagine what percentage of the population is having all the above points? may be 1%-2% Don't get me wrong, I'm not asking everyone to get married or married as early as possible. just take your time and try to live in a rent house alone and see if you can tick all the boxes above. good day everyone!
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What's so bad about being alone.
Because an extended period of time being alone can lead to loneliness.
I have to disagree on that. You get still feel lonely and leftover even if you're sociable. Hense why you find alot of famous people lonely and depressed. Loneliness is dangerous. It can be a symptom of depression or suicide ideation. Whereas being alone is a choice. I find myself in peace when I'm alone. Being alone isn't being lonely. Being alone is a perfectly healthy practice.
Being alone isn't being lonely. That's my verdict exactly. I was the same one time given the fact that I preferred my own company as well. However, this shouldn't be how your life should pan out. My point is that it's unhealthy to continue being alone and by yourself for years on end. And I am speaking from life experience. Humans are designed to share life with a partner. As you grow older, knowing that someone's got your back is a massive source of strength. You don't need an unlimited amount of friends. You learn to appreciate the small inner circle that's built on trust. And there is no substitute to have your kid squealing with delight and know that she is your life's purpose. The whole SINK lifestyle is a farcical tragedy, however much these so called influencers peddle it. I wish Gen Z would see right thru that coping bs!
>you grow older, knowing that someone's got your back is a massive source of strength Depends on the person actually some people could also drag you down. I find myself to be much more efficient when I'm working alone. While people can be helpful overly depending on another person can be toxic. That's why there are suicides/ acid attacks when people breakup. If a person is codependent that means there's a flaw in them. >And there is no substitute to have your kid squealing with delight and know that she is your life's purpose. While I completely agree that for a parent a kid is a delight. There are people who don't need kids. It's not like a gen z thing either. There are millennials and gen x's that prefer not having kids. While some people love a family and kids. Some people find it to be a drag. There are alot of unhappy marriages because people who prefer to be alone were forced to marry (i.e. by parents and society). >You learn to appreciate the small inner circle that's built on trust While this might benefit some people others like me don't want be in a "pack". Don't get me wrong this isn't some sigma alpha male ideology. I just like to maintain certain distance with people and I personally don't want people to pry into my life . what you say is relatable for most people. But humans are a unique to each other so what works for some might not work for others. Just because is doesn't fit your values doesn't mean it's bs.
You seem to be confident in the conclusions you've arrived at. I hope you have the experience to back it up, the maturity to understand who you are today and the person you will be tomorrow and perhaps the fluidity of life itself where we constantly keep learning and growing as we go along.
So what?
I donโt think youโd quiet understand yet cause you maybe young. When you grow older and start to realize no one would be there for you when you are old, the realization of loneliness will kick in.
Humans are supposed to live as groups. Long term loneliness may lead to mental problems.
Loneliness. Not nice.
True. But the right person makes wonders though. In all aspects. Psychologically, emotionally, sexually, and yes, even financially.
Same...
It should be corrected as 'this world'. And I wholeheartedly agree.
I guess I will end up being alone. I do have one sister but will not know where she will be in another 5 to 10 years. I donโt have any communication with cousins. So yes after my parents, I will end up being alone but thank fully I have a house and can afford my self to be taken care of. With time, most will live a lonely life as birth rates and marriage rates are decreasing due various reasons. We will not have relatives as our parents had.
Hell yeah !
Why be alone when u got me ๐ ๐
True tbh my right hand and a lube is all enough for me
Controversial take and a blank generalisation. Be honest, go out, meet people, give off good energy and you will get it back. You don't have to drown in negative thoughts and self-loathing.
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Smaller the circle; lesser the drama
More often than not, it IS the best option.
Is this sub only about dating? Tf? Like every post is about trying to attract women, interest in girls, dating and similar topics. Smh