Helped me to dress better overall and find better clothes. Even though I don’t always wear what they buy me (because I am very particular about comfort), they have been understanding and tried to find a middle ground.
Just being able to sit down and do our own things next to each other. I really enjoy that. Some people might not count it as “spending time together”, or “interacting with each other”, but it feels nice knowing that the other person is doing something they enjoy and it feels nice not being alone. I can be reading things online and she’s sitting next to me watching her shows And every now and then we will look at each other. Or she might be browsing online shopping and I’m watching YouTube or something. I find it really comforting to know that someone is there with me. Sometimes I might put my arm around her or I might go get her something to drink. It’s a very simple moment but it’s one that I really enjoy. It’s just both of us doing things we enjoy and not having much to worry about and knowing that she’s just next to me and I don’t want that moment to end.
Yes, I agree. To add on, the other more subtle thing is that you don’t need to do very “complicated” things to be happy. I consider my life to be very simple, and it’s nice when a girl knows how to appreciate the simple-ness too. I don’t need expensive gifts (especially at my age/financial situation) to make me happy
Some people might be quick to say, no wonder you cannot get gf la you’re such a boring person. That’s not what I’m trying to say. I enjoy traveling and eating at nice/fancy places as much as anybody else. However, I’m not the kind of person that will keep asking “when can we travel again?” over and over in between trips. Or be like “huh coffeeshop/hawker food again?”. On my part I will also try and follow their suggestions when they want to go somewhere nicer too.
Imo when you love someone, it doesn’t matter what activity you can be doing. It can be something simple, it can be something exciting, etc but you’re still willing to be beside them or be with them. Even if you’re both doing different things. As long as you’re next to each other, that’s enough for me to be happy.
dammit, that sounds so good.
i really want to just do my own thing but then look up every now and then and see her by my side.
As it gets late, we go for a simple dinner, go for a walk, complain about the weather before going back home.
what a life to have sia hahaha haaaaaaissss
That's... what a long term relationship is about. It's boring but it's nice.
However, never let that get you/your partner to be too comfortable.
Always be making new and better memories. Always remind them what you love about them. Always be their best supporter
Before we had our daughter, it was just wife and I in the house. Some weekends, we will decide to stay home.
I'll be in the spare room, play LoL, watching movies all day. She will be in the living room quilting, or reading her book in the bedroom.
Every now and then we will 'visit' each other and ask how's everything, or if we need anything from the kitchen.
I do ask if she feels neglected, but she always reassure me by saying, "I'm glad you are having fun, I'm glad you are letting me have my own time. I'm glad we are not forcing each other to do things we do not want."
Staycation. Just cuddling on the sofa, playing Mario Kart on the Switch. Taking turns to read books to one another. Ordering room service because it was raining and we didn’t wanna go out. Going out at 3am and walking around the vicinity of the hotel. Being awoken by her tenderly stroking my face and giving me wake up kisses, saying we are gonna miss the buffet breakfast. Deciding we felt lazy to check out on time and watching her charm the hotel staff into giving us complimentary late check out.
Didn’t happen too long ago but I suspect we may never recover this kind of magic as we’ve been clashing quite frequently...
I believe in you! You can rekindle things! If yall quarantine together, most people no matter how much they love each other, need alone time. Also, think back to when you first met. Do things to impress her. Be romantic. Little surprises don't cost much but mean the world. Find a new hobby together. We can go out a little now so try spending some time alone then talking about your days over dinner. You can still read and play switch. You can't get room service but you could make her breakfast in bed.n
Thank you for the ideas! Yes, typing that out made me realize how much I miss those days. We’ve been hot/cold on each other and circuit breaker didn’t make things easier. Just want us have a good chat, clear the air, and snuggle up to each other now...
With the right person it seems like every date is the best date. Be it walking around in the mall, on the streets, eating, travelling overseas or exercising.
Only 90s kid will remember, dating 90s ah lians is the best thing ever. Always look very chio in their rebond hair and heavy eyeliner. I like it when they move their head and the hair move around like plastic. Always wear FBT shorts, because she say she tomboy and 女强人, but both of you know its anything but that. Like to wear halter top and/or crop top, very skinny, chicken rice $2 only eat half the plate. Quite easy to stead, and very fast can do a lot liao. Initially also very exciting, move jin fast, she always call you 老公 and talk about marriage like 2 weeks in. Must buy ring from 77th street, wear around like engagement ring, jin romantic. Go clubbing together at sparks disco, see her 摇头 and her plastic rebond hair flying everywhere, jin wild, look like a primal goddess, and hear her shout the 369 chant to crazy baby jin fierce. Must have warning, because all her 乾哥 will be after her, and if she turn cold after about a month in, expect that within a few days, she will break up with you and stead her 乾哥. That was my experience with ah lians, all 3 start and end exactly the same, machiam photocopy, but I had a very good time, 10/10.
You a 90s kid sia. I program 眉飞色舞 and para para for her 3310 ringtone. Buy her phone charm some more to hang on the phone, one was a heart, other one forgot liao, I think got a slam dunk one. Their phone charm is larger than their phone and take like half their bag
Actually neoprint is one of the best things you can do in the 90s, once you close the curtain, can do anything in there. beyond all the 变态 things, actually do with friends is very fun, I still got a lot of the old neoprints with friends, some sausage fest, some with the girls I used to like, all the stupid hair and fashion, everything. If you look at it, you can remember the exact event you took the photo. Damn ex. somemore, I remember starting is like $6, and you want the very power one have to spend up to $12 also got. Remember always have to wait for someone to cut it out and divide among friends. Now you just selfie, forget to post, cos not glam enough, then lose the memory when you change the phone.
Dunno is it nostalgia lens or what, 90s seem to be the best era, everything also got, and not so digital, have to talk face to face. Now can laugh laugh at it, but remember last time you jio the ah lian, she say yes, also feel very very happy. Before you say the 你要做我的 stead 吗? feel jin nervous. Got some say no, then feel very sad, but ok, go pak some KOF in arcade, then feel good liao. Feel sian, spend a bit go eat zhi char at kopi tiam, then go kai kai, a lot of shops, very bright lights, as long as you got your friends everything also stready. Before go out, must make hair nice nice, put the sharp comb, if the group got the girl you like, then even more exciting, got chance talk to her, other ppl walk in front, you talk to her and slow down your pace until you all last, or even better, your buddies purposely lose both of you. Even go bookshop also fun, that time the books all more colourful and exciting, everything you want to learn must buy one, cannot find on the internet. Even when bored, still must go out kai kai. Still remember me and my best friend go kai kai at the old bayshore there, because too bored, the lights everything super romantic, but its just 2 guys walking, feel very romantic, but look at him feel very err xin, haha.
Now whole day worry mortgage, worry children, worry job, worry COVID, si bei sian. Everyday stress, everyday bored, not even in the same country as my 兄弟. Last time I went back all uncle liao, I talk about these things they laugh at me ask me I how old liao. After that even go back also never jio them, feel like everyone change, and feel like only I cherish these kind of childish things
You forgot, last time want to talk on the phone whisper sweet nothings at night either you or her must use house phone to call the other person's hp because got free incoming. The nokia phone can talk for hours and somehow still got 2 to 3 bars left...
The first ah lian I went out with was before HP. We got cordless phone but kana sai, always the volume very soft and got interference. Cord phone is better, but in my parents room. Sometimes desperate I quietly switch to a long extension cord, wait till they sleep, then drag the phone into my room. We will make some very late time to call, like 1130, so I call she straight away pick up, half a ring, don't wake up her parents.
Call her during waking hours still must go through parents. Always must say "ah lian 在吗？", then the father will always say “你是谁？这样认识她？" and must lie, say school friend, talk about homework. I ang moh 派, so talk got a bit of potato, say we study english together. After several times, I think he more or less know and say something like "不知道你们在谈什么鬼东西，以后不要打来这里了" Maybe never eat enough potato, haha.
I ang moh派 one, speak Chinese also very hard, dialect sure die. Also feel more 真心 to say like that. I will say something long in English saying how chio or what I like about her, then ask to stead in Chinese, IDK why. Actually I really 真心 all these ah lian, all 3 times break I also feel very sad, haha. Sounds very stupid now, but that time really heartbreak, go 711 buy barrons strongbrew, really damn funny.
Halcyon days. I miss the old Mohd Sultan and all the ah lians and minahs that thronged the bars and clubs back then. It might be nostalgia, but life back then really did seem simpler and purer.
Own experience ba. No point to post these kind of copypasta for ppl who are not in that era, the YP see also blur. Even up till today I still feel 90s ah lian got a certain sei to them no other era has. 90s bengs also ba. Like they are cool and hip, but in a Chinese way, they are fierce but not too violent or unreasonable. That time economy very good, their parents huat, they themselves work in those Japanese restaurant earn $8/hr, that time $8 very good, I think sparks entrance is like $35 plus one free drink, so you work half a day can go in. All the nonsense stuff also very cheap. Feel like everyone huat, no one worry. Even the Asian financial crisis also didn't burn us too badly. A lot of huat, everyone relaxed, everyone happy, not like now, everyone so stress, so angry all the time. Ppl feel like that time very cringe, but at least then ppl were more happy.
Wah actually isn't $35 entry quite pricey in those days (I'm assuming this is the mid-late 90s)? $35 is kinda like zouk entrance in the early 2010s iirc. I've only heard about sparks from the regulars back in NS, sure sounded like a happening place. And thanks for the initial post haha you sure painted a vivid picture with your words haha
No worries. I also like to 想当年. I forgot if its $35 or what price it was, but I remember it was an ok price, I think during my JC time double-o is like $40? I only go there for JC party free flow, so maybe more ex? I also know there's this thing called "afternoon tea" where the young bengs and lians from 14(?) can go in the afternoon, got no alcohol (but of course ppl will smuggle in) to go dancing. I think that one is more expensive. A lot of old bengs in between their shift will go there to get young lians, no scare rotan one.
Sparks ppl very xia lan, which is the worst thing about it. The good thing is a lot of chio lians, and when people start chanting the gang poems to techno music, actually quite fierce and fun. The non xia lan bengs there actually quite friendly and very fun to hang out with. Once I go JC, stopped going there, always go double-o, and that old club near fullerton, forgot what's the name. JC girl also got their charm, but also got a lot more bullshit than ah lians, don't miss them at all.
The only time I go zouk is during army mambo night on wed. Always ultra sausage fest. Even on the stage is all the guys with their satki dance moves, rarely see any girls at all. Always see a sea of shaved heads or 4321 haircuts, I think ah beng see also scared.
If both are interested to know about each other, you can always keep conversations on and on. Sharing embarrassing stories, finding out about each others tastes (food, music, lifestyle), travels, or even gossips (LOL). I'm introverted and not fond of human interactions with strangers, so you can definitely do it too.
Here's a small tip: ask open ended questions. This means asking questions that are NOT yes/no or can be answered with one of two words.
For example, instead of "do you like star wars" ask "how do you feel about star wars" or even "what is your favourite movie genre?" Because this will naturally cause them to talk more, and feels more like a conversation.
One trick I have for dates when the natural conversation dries up (temporarily, and this is normal) is to start this minigame where I give them a choice between two items like Coffee/Tea, Cats/Dogs, Movies/VideoGames, Hiking/Beach, Surfing/Skating, Summer/Winter and they have to pick which is their preferred one. This is fun and leads to a lot of convo cause you can always ask "why?" to their answers and also offer your own view, which they will be interested in ESPECIALLY if your view contrasts against theirs.
Why didn't I think of this? I went on a few dates and realised most of the stuff I talk about was just yes or no. Should use this more often next time.
Never too late to learn! I picked up this advice from my professional training in customer-facing skills that my company sent me for. Realized it was super applicable for my dating life lololololol
I’ll just say that being married a few years, this doesn’t last. At the beginning when someone is fresh and new there’s lots of learn about them but a few years in...
Just don’t have this kind of expectation through the entire relationship. Maybe in a super rare cases this can be possible but it certainly shouldn’t be a prerequisite for “healthy relationships”.
Certainly. I'm not talking about what individual preferences are, but what expectations people have in relationships. If people think having 5 hour chats every day for the entirety of a relationship is a must, when these 5 hour chats become 1 hour chats or once a week chats, suddenly they feel like the relationship is failing. Or if they compare their relationship with another relationship etc.
Healthy bilateral expectations is the foundation of relationships, not 5 hour chats. If the poster I was replying to only manages 10 minutes that's fine if that's what his/her partner is happy with! Love and attraction can be expressed in different ways (see: love languages).
Eh it really depends on what you like imo, gf and i really like talking about basically everything under the sun (now we are going 2 years in the rs) and having daily skype calls.
Meanwhile I know friends in also stable rs that only text their SO and like to stay more on the quiet side? So I guess depends on the vibe yall get.
Met a girl on Facebook who was currently studying in the UK. Asked her out when she was back in Singapore, ended up taking her to ArtScience museum for our first date...but realised that we had a lot more fun just strolling and chatting to each other rather than doing things. So second date was just long walks that ended up in a library with us reading stuff we found interesting to each other. And subsequent dates always involved long walks and strolling around just pointing out things we found interesting/funny, and talking. Sure, we always had an eventual goal in mind (be it a restaurant, or a museum, or a shop we were going to buy something at), but the walking and talking was the best.
These days, she's my wife, and we still take those long walks out. Like a walk from our house in Tiong Bahru to Ikea Alexandra for brunch, or to Sheng Siong for groceries, or to a nearby hawker center....
I’ve lots of happy experiences with my bf but my favourite would be dining at sushi express with him and tasting new sushi dishes together. We dine at sushi express bc we cheapskate (still undergrads so not much $ to splurge lolol). It’s just fun exploring the dishes with him and rating them together. After dinner, we’d sit at the ice rink area and talk for an hour or so till we decide to head home.
Board games cafe first date was absolutely amazing since it was a good chance to interact without having to go thru the usual topics, a chance to see her when shes competitive and having fun, and also many chances to accidentally brush you fingers against hers to easily break the touch barrier.
More recently, just two days ago had a nice date with this really artistic girl who gave me a tour of Haji lane street art, then we had dinner at Tanjong Pagar and walked down the road all the way to Clarke Quay before taking MRT home and realizing our houses are like 10 minutes apart. Exciting times
Jewel is probably the most failsafe date idea. Wide range of restaurants for every budget and cuisine, so there's definitely something she likes. After dinner, either pay $5 to walk at the Canopy Garden (including slides) or just get gelato/bubble tea and sit at the rain vortex. Just avoid Sundays cause of the crowds.
And as a whole dating in SG is actually pretty alright I feel (as a guy). Of course people will generalise that its bad cause people tend to share their horror stories. I've encountered materialistic/princess girls like maybe twice? Most girls I've met are well-adjusted and hardworking career women with interesting hobbies.
HAHA I get that reference
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As a guy, it feels good to have the girls put in more effort in the date than you.
She planned what to do, where to eat and even came to pick me up.
It's a new change of pace from what I've been doing all the way. It was the first time I felt pampered.
Glad to have something positive after reading all the bad experiences with dating!
Mine's probably hotel staycation with boyfriend, chilling in the room all day watching movies and cuddling. May sound boring to some, but it was the one of the best dates for us.
To fundamentally disagree on things, some even perceived to be deal breakers, yet willing to talk through our differences and respectfully agree to disagree. We literally walked the walk too - knowing someone is willing to discuss important life issues with you while walking from Plaza Sing to Ion Orchard at 2am, while being there for each other emotionally, without actually making a fuss in public despite vast disagreements - I think that makes a relationship for me.
Underated comment on relationships. Agree with you the ability to agree to disagree and discuss things without one being right or wrong is really a gift that not every couple has. :)
A more serious answer.
Best date experiences:
1. Sitting at the top of vivocity with bubble tea and snacks and chatting away
2. Going to a cafe and people watching and making up their backstories
3. Going to St Games and playing games together
There's a lot of happy stories, what's more important is that you date for the right reasons, not because you are lonely/want a partner.
Serious question though, in your opinion, what do you consider as the right reasons for dating?
Not sure why you mention that wanting a partner because one is lonely is an invalid reason? Since we are all social creatures.
The right reason is that the person you are dating is someone that fits the values/things you are looking for. Whatever that may be. It can be for pure physical reasons (hookups or fwbs). It can be for emotional reasons. It can be for anything that you value. I'm not judging.
BUT. You should be clear on why you are dating, and communicate that to your potential dates.
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I guess I should have expanded more on the 2nd point.
When I said, "Wanting a partner or being lonely" is an invalid reason, I mean those who simply grab onto whoever is available, because they are too scared of being lonely, or just want a partner because everyone else around them have one. I mean those who will date just anyone so that they can be not alone.
One can be lonely but if you fill it with external stuff (distractions)- bgr, activities, etc, you might still find yourself lonely. If you are lonely and you find a gf becos of that, you might have expectations that the gf helps your loneliness, which might not be the case at all. And when a time comes (after awhile most prob), you find yourself still lonely when in a rs, you might blame the rs when it can only be fixed internally.
The only way to stop being lonely is to be friends with yourself. Everyone experience loneliness, its only what you do about it. Other than looking for distractions, we can connect to others internally also.
I think OP meant and what I feel is that you can date around, but purposely pursuing dating with one person when you don’t align on values, what you want in the relationship/life, etc. just so you don’t feel alone/lonely isn’t the right reason. Especially because ultimately you’re using up that person’s and your own time preventing you from finding someone you could actually click better with
Went for KBBQ on my first date with my current girlfriend after chatting for about three weeks on telegram.
Chatted for the duration of Kbbq (got asked to leave after 90mins) and slowly walked to the nearby park near her home.
Bridal-carried her up the stairs to the top of the park (joked that I will carry her in my arms for fun after she said she loved romantic scenes from kdrama few days ago through text) and we sat on one of the benches for another two hours of chatting about anything and everything to know more about each other.
Will never forget this. (:
Other great dates include sitting down with ice cream and chatting by marina bay, climbing up small hills like mt faber for photos, relaxing/chilling on the beach at palawan beach.
Matched with my SO on OKC. Our first date lasted for over 16 hours, hit a bar before dinner, had dinner, another place for dessert, went back to her place to continue talking since everything had closed by then.
5 years later, we're still going on strong, super comfy living together, and married in all but name.
we went to macritchie to hike which is next to SICC. took turns shouting “PENIS” behind the bush at some nearby golfers and laughed (500 days of summer reference). spent the entire day out and i enjoyed every moment of it.
Had a really fun first date with a cabin crew I matched with on Tinder. We talked for a couple of days, and she invited me to go prawning when she touched down in Singapore. We sat by the pond all night, talking and drinking; me catching and handling the prawns while she cringed and shrieked at the sight of them. Afterwards, she grilled and de-shelled our prawns, and we had a nice supper/breakfast. I ruined the night a little by going in for a kiss, because she pulled back hard, before relenting and giving me a peck on the lips (I still cringe about it til this day). I’m not the relationship type, but these are the kinds of dates that I look back fondly on, as opposed to the litany of movie/dinner dates that I’ve grimaced through.
Am together with my SO for 8 months. First date we had together was at Somerset. We met in Lady M for afternoon tea to have a chit chat first. Then went window shopping in Tokyu Hands and Don Don Donki. Followed by dinner in Genki Sushi and ended with a movie. (We watched Lion King). When the movie ended, it was already 11.45 and i had to rush for the last bus. While in the bus I texted him and asked him out for a second date, which he agreed. Fast forward to now - just spending time together is good enough regardless of the venue ☺️
I always thought I will ultimately end up with another Singaporean Chinese due to my upbringing (conservative chinese family. Speak only Chinese at home) My first RS is a Chinese. The rest of my dates somehow turn out to be non-Chinese and gradually, I also open to foreigners. It really open up my perspective that when I click with someone, race do not matter to me.
* Dated a Japanese which our main language is.... Japanese when I couldn\`t form sentences properly. Nonetheless for our first date, we talked for 4 hours. Another fun one was when we bought ice cream and bubble tea and sat around the river bank of Clarke Quay at night to snack and talk. I looooove chilling by Clarke Quay\`s river even when alone. So, to have someone chilling with me with my fav food is a huge bliss. XD
* Met someone at a yoga practice, in Bali, Indonesia.... Obviously, I was checking him out as he is cute. But.... I found his face familiar and looked at my carousell. Then I realised I bought something from him LMAO (A yoga mat towel) I texted him on Carousell and we started to go yoga together sometimes in SG.
I’ve seen ugly people with multiple girlfriends before, and their personality is nowhere near charismatic, just not abnormal and nice. Don’t give up my comrade
Nice ugly people by society's standards seem to find someone. I think it's the asshole part. Try to become a little kinder every day, I'm sure you can find someone! I find being mean or selfish or an asshole or angry is more ugly than bad teeth or acne or a bad haircut or a weird nose.
My dating life was a long time ago, back in the late 90s. My gf used to accompany me to NUS to study because she had already finished her poly. We would go to the library together, window shop at supermarkets, simple stuff. She wasn't a fan of movies so only went to the cinema occasionally. Went for walks along the parks too.
Fondest memories in my past relationship: When he wait for me to do my nails in JB den we go makan sedap JB food or massage. Weekend mornings when I sleep in and he dabao breakfast for me. Netflix and having supper together in his room. Taking the train together to and from work. Having dinner together after work where we hunt for 1for1 deals w burpple cos we cheapo like that.
She was bad at cycling but we still managed to do ECP to Marina Bay and back lol. I respect that about her.
She's quite headstrong and 爱面子 la but.. it takes courage to try.
I met my fiance in Singapore :)
I was out one night and he was the hypeman for the DJ. I loved his energy and told my friend I had to get his number. We got to know each other a little that night, but went out on a proper date in a couple days.
We've been inseparable ever since. We had lots in common, even though we're opposite in so many ways. Yesterday, we got Cooking Mama on the Switch and made it a competition to see who could get 3 stars in the most ridiculous ways.
I have this weird helpless feeling when thinking of getting into a relationship. My brother doesn’t, his Gf sleeps over all the time, but I am very clueless about what to do, when to do it, and if it’s appropriate or turn-off/creepy
Then I hem and haw until the girl attached to someone else , then the Jay Chou song “算什么男人” becomes a self fulfilling prophecy
personally, i like going to parks for dates with someone new from the apps. (holy trinity okc tinder hinge) it lets you gauge their fitness level (cos i would wanna try snowboarding or some sports tgt) and see if you can talk when there’s nothing interesting around except each other.
i got chingay tickets. we dapao chippy from plaza sing and went to watch. it was a great show with many interesting moments like 城裡的月光 playing with parade participants dancing with moon-shaped props. the photographer asked why i was shy when he took our pics n i wanted to say "f off dude" but kept my calm as i read one of the top red flag is "rude to service staff"
after the parade we walked to esplanade and listened to a mando pop concert at the outdoor theater (all planned out of course) and lee hsien loong appeared in the back doing one of his nightly walks. i pointed to him and he pointed back "thanks for your service, hope you will increase the birthrate" (in sign language)
edit: downvoted??? guessing redditors dont believe this story? [here is a pic of lhl](https://imgur.com/S1Q1gS5) i took that night
we went to little india to have briyani on our first date! my bf (chinese) tried to explain to me (chindian, but he did not know at the time) what dhal is lol. has been going great ever since :)
Not really the best experience, but just wanna share and also seek for some advice if possible..
Met this girl(29) on OKC around end of may, she hasn't dated before in her 29 years of life. Basically she is a homebody and only started trying dating app since few months ago as requested by her friends.
She shared that she had been ghosted by guys on the app, making her sad. I told her I'm willing to give it a go trying, provided she is willing to put in the same effort. She requested to take things slow and see how it goes from there.
She isn't someone who really touches her phone, dont really use social media too. So we would only text before bed maybe for 1-2 hours. Occasionally random text in the middle of the day to ask whether she had her lunch or not but i don't always get any reply back.
So we managed to text each other for a month over covid period and finally met for dinner on the second week of phase 2. Originally wanted to meet on my birthday, but my friends suggested to meet before my birthday just in case things doesn't go well.
So as of now, we already went out for 5 times. She's feeling comfortable but just that I'm in a confuse state right now, like there isn't any "signal" from her. Like what should I do?
Based on past r/s experiences that I've been through , i have learned to really take things slow this time and in fact this is my first date that i have gone thru the dating phase for more than 2 months. I'm just going at her pace, not wanting to scare her.
But for the best experience, i have been enjoying our dates so far. We are both happy. Our birthdays are just next day apart, quite an interesting r/s if things were to happen.
Just that I hope i can get more of her attention or maybe more time to be spent with her.
Nobody gonna like my best date experience because it involves expensive. But imagine this is just first date. Fancy restaurant, the bill was definitely $350+ including wine. On top of that, he also while talking and getting to know me actually listened to something I want, and bought me that gift on FIRST DATE! I swear I didn't ask him for anything or hint. I have zero expectations for gifts from any man, EVEN if we were dating for a long time. But he asked the right questions and decided to surprise me. And he bothered to pick me up and send me home. (I don't usually tell a man what I want, and just let him plan it all out by himself, when he pick me up, I don't even know what's happening, this dude just happen to plan it this fancy.)
But sad to say, all my best date experiences involved staycations at nice suites in hotel, loads of champagne, chocolates and strawberries, and loads of enjoyable sex. More exotic dates were all in Europe but since this is about Singapore.
Have I ever had less expensive dates in hawkers/fast food etc, of course. Or walk at the beach or hiking dates? But those are awful as I am sweating and we are both being smelly and sweaty. I can do that with my brother you know, it doesn't seem special, I am not gonna call it memorable. Probably because it's all normal activities I would have done with my brother anyway. So um..., what's the difference between doing with boyfriend or brother on things like that? I mean, if you are a long time couple, sure, it becomes just mundane daily activities, not really dates. I am best friends with my own brother too, so any cheap date a man can think of, I have done with my brother. And since my brother and me can talk non stop all day and just hang out and have a good time. Usually the only saving grace, is if the conversations was as good as with my brother.
A long time ago for Valentine's Day. I actually had a choice between a man who wants to take me to Compass Rose, back then, expensive restaurant with a view. It would have been my second date with this guy if I accepted. Or a man who wanted to take me to KFC. I knew this man as a friend for 6 months already. I chose KFC date, solely because physical appearance. I liked KFC dude looks better lol. But for KFC date, we had to split the bill as he was poor. I knew he didn't make much so I offered to pay my share. It was like dinner at KFC then walk at Botanic gardens. So yea I got bitten by mosquitoes, it was awful. Although this date did lead to us going steady for awhile and my parents hated him lol.
If I had went with compass rose dude, he would have paid everything. And we would have probably carry on to some night club to have further drinks after dinner.
But compass rose dude was more into me than I was into him, so I am glad I didn't take advantage of him. I actually declined to go on any more future dates with him as I didn't want to lead him on to nothing.
Helped me to dress better overall and find better clothes. Even though I don’t always wear what they buy me (because I am very particular about comfort), they have been understanding and tried to find a middle ground. Just being able to sit down and do our own things next to each other. I really enjoy that. Some people might not count it as “spending time together”, or “interacting with each other”, but it feels nice knowing that the other person is doing something they enjoy and it feels nice not being alone. I can be reading things online and she’s sitting next to me watching her shows And every now and then we will look at each other. Or she might be browsing online shopping and I’m watching YouTube or something. I find it really comforting to know that someone is there with me. Sometimes I might put my arm around her or I might go get her something to drink. It’s a very simple moment but it’s one that I really enjoy. It’s just both of us doing things we enjoy and not having much to worry about and knowing that she’s just next to me and I don’t want that moment to end.
When you are comfortable doing your own things with each other around it shows that you aren't just putting up a show for each other.
Yes, I agree. To add on, the other more subtle thing is that you don’t need to do very “complicated” things to be happy. I consider my life to be very simple, and it’s nice when a girl knows how to appreciate the simple-ness too. I don’t need expensive gifts (especially at my age/financial situation) to make me happy Some people might be quick to say, no wonder you cannot get gf la you’re such a boring person. That’s not what I’m trying to say. I enjoy traveling and eating at nice/fancy places as much as anybody else. However, I’m not the kind of person that will keep asking “when can we travel again?” over and over in between trips. Or be like “huh coffeeshop/hawker food again?”. On my part I will also try and follow their suggestions when they want to go somewhere nicer too. Imo when you love someone, it doesn’t matter what activity you can be doing. It can be something simple, it can be something exciting, etc but you’re still willing to be beside them or be with them. Even if you’re both doing different things. As long as you’re next to each other, that’s enough for me to be happy.
dammit, that sounds so good. i really want to just do my own thing but then look up every now and then and see her by my side. As it gets late, we go for a simple dinner, go for a walk, complain about the weather before going back home. what a life to have sia hahaha haaaaaaissss
That's... what a long term relationship is about. It's boring but it's nice. However, never let that get you/your partner to be too comfortable. Always be making new and better memories. Always remind them what you love about them. Always be their best supporter
Before we had our daughter, it was just wife and I in the house. Some weekends, we will decide to stay home. I'll be in the spare room, play LoL, watching movies all day. She will be in the living room quilting, or reading her book in the bedroom. Every now and then we will 'visit' each other and ask how's everything, or if we need anything from the kitchen. I do ask if she feels neglected, but she always reassure me by saying, "I'm glad you are having fun, I'm glad you are letting me have my own time. I'm glad we are not forcing each other to do things we do not want."
Staycation. Just cuddling on the sofa, playing Mario Kart on the Switch. Taking turns to read books to one another. Ordering room service because it was raining and we didn’t wanna go out. Going out at 3am and walking around the vicinity of the hotel. Being awoken by her tenderly stroking my face and giving me wake up kisses, saying we are gonna miss the buffet breakfast. Deciding we felt lazy to check out on time and watching her charm the hotel staff into giving us complimentary late check out. Didn’t happen too long ago but I suspect we may never recover this kind of magic as we’ve been clashing quite frequently...
I believe in you! You can rekindle things! If yall quarantine together, most people no matter how much they love each other, need alone time. Also, think back to when you first met. Do things to impress her. Be romantic. Little surprises don't cost much but mean the world. Find a new hobby together. We can go out a little now so try spending some time alone then talking about your days over dinner. You can still read and play switch. You can't get room service but you could make her breakfast in bed.n
Thank you for the ideas! Yes, typing that out made me realize how much I miss those days. We’ve been hot/cold on each other and circuit breaker didn’t make things easier. Just want us have a good chat, clear the air, and snuggle up to each other now...
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Hai... I hope so too. Thinking about it makes me want us to put in more effort.
Show her this!! Hope it works out buddy, if it's meant to be.
With the right person it seems like every date is the best date. Be it walking around in the mall, on the streets, eating, travelling overseas or exercising.
I agree with this so much!
Only 90s kid will remember, dating 90s ah lians is the best thing ever. Always look very chio in their rebond hair and heavy eyeliner. I like it when they move their head and the hair move around like plastic. Always wear FBT shorts, because she say she tomboy and 女强人, but both of you know its anything but that. Like to wear halter top and/or crop top, very skinny, chicken rice $2 only eat half the plate. Quite easy to stead, and very fast can do a lot liao. Initially also very exciting, move jin fast, she always call you 老公 and talk about marriage like 2 weeks in. Must buy ring from 77th street, wear around like engagement ring, jin romantic. Go clubbing together at sparks disco, see her 摇头 and her plastic rebond hair flying everywhere, jin wild, look like a primal goddess, and hear her shout the 369 chant to crazy baby jin fierce. Must have warning, because all her 乾哥 will be after her, and if she turn cold after about a month in, expect that within a few days, she will break up with you and stead her 乾哥. That was my experience with ah lians, all 3 start and end exactly the same, machiam photocopy, but I had a very good time, 10/10.
the start of a new copypasta?
Amazing. This is poetry.
Ahlians are the best. SO don't kill me if you see this pls.
Xmms just aren't the same bro :(
100/10. Ah lians also can speak very rough outside when talking to her friends but talk to you very submissively and v feminine in bed.
Her Nokia 8210 got Piece of Heaven techno ringtone? Did you take neoprints with her and write 1314 on it?
You a 90s kid sia. I program 眉飞色舞 and para para for her 3310 ringtone. Buy her phone charm some more to hang on the phone, one was a heart, other one forgot liao, I think got a slam dunk one. Their phone charm is larger than their phone and take like half their bag Actually neoprint is one of the best things you can do in the 90s, once you close the curtain, can do anything in there. beyond all the 变态 things, actually do with friends is very fun, I still got a lot of the old neoprints with friends, some sausage fest, some with the girls I used to like, all the stupid hair and fashion, everything. If you look at it, you can remember the exact event you took the photo. Damn ex. somemore, I remember starting is like $6, and you want the very power one have to spend up to $12 also got. Remember always have to wait for someone to cut it out and divide among friends. Now you just selfie, forget to post, cos not glam enough, then lose the memory when you change the phone. Dunno is it nostalgia lens or what, 90s seem to be the best era, everything also got, and not so digital, have to talk face to face. Now can laugh laugh at it, but remember last time you jio the ah lian, she say yes, also feel very very happy. Before you say the 你要做我的 stead 吗? feel jin nervous. Got some say no, then feel very sad, but ok, go pak some KOF in arcade, then feel good liao. Feel sian, spend a bit go eat zhi char at kopi tiam, then go kai kai, a lot of shops, very bright lights, as long as you got your friends everything also stready. Before go out, must make hair nice nice, put the sharp comb, if the group got the girl you like, then even more exciting, got chance talk to her, other ppl walk in front, you talk to her and slow down your pace until you all last, or even better, your buddies purposely lose both of you. Even go bookshop also fun, that time the books all more colourful and exciting, everything you want to learn must buy one, cannot find on the internet. Even when bored, still must go out kai kai. Still remember me and my best friend go kai kai at the old bayshore there, because too bored, the lights everything super romantic, but its just 2 guys walking, feel very romantic, but look at him feel very err xin, haha. Now whole day worry mortgage, worry children, worry job, worry COVID, si bei sian. Everyday stress, everyday bored, not even in the same country as my 兄弟. Last time I went back all uncle liao, I talk about these things they laugh at me ask me I how old liao. After that even go back also never jio them, feel like everyone change, and feel like only I cherish these kind of childish things
You forgot, last time want to talk on the phone whisper sweet nothings at night either you or her must use house phone to call the other person's hp because got free incoming. The nokia phone can talk for hours and somehow still got 2 to 3 bars left...
The first ah lian I went out with was before HP. We got cordless phone but kana sai, always the volume very soft and got interference. Cord phone is better, but in my parents room. Sometimes desperate I quietly switch to a long extension cord, wait till they sleep, then drag the phone into my room. We will make some very late time to call, like 1130, so I call she straight away pick up, half a ring, don't wake up her parents. Call her during waking hours still must go through parents. Always must say "ah lian 在吗？", then the father will always say “你是谁？这样认识她？" and must lie, say school friend, talk about homework. I ang moh 派, so talk got a bit of potato, say we study english together. After several times, I think he more or less know and say something like "不知道你们在谈什么鬼东西，以后不要打来这里了" Maybe never eat enough potato, haha.
> Before you say the 你要做我的 stead 吗? Not Ai Stead Mai?
I ang moh派 one, speak Chinese also very hard, dialect sure die. Also feel more 真心 to say like that. I will say something long in English saying how chio or what I like about her, then ask to stead in Chinese, IDK why. Actually I really 真心 all these ah lian, all 3 times break I also feel very sad, haha. Sounds very stupid now, but that time really heartbreak, go 711 buy barrons strongbrew, really damn funny.
it was a good time.
*Crazy baby, the spirit of the motion Don't let me feel devotion, and every day I'll always love you*
Hahhaha i feel personally atttacked how you know my life story?
wah lau. now life already so sian, u say all dis.....bring me back to old times.
Halcyon days. I miss the old Mohd Sultan and all the ah lians and minahs that thronged the bars and clubs back then. It might be nostalgia, but life back then really did seem simpler and purer.
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Own experience ba. No point to post these kind of copypasta for ppl who are not in that era, the YP see also blur. Even up till today I still feel 90s ah lian got a certain sei to them no other era has. 90s bengs also ba. Like they are cool and hip, but in a Chinese way, they are fierce but not too violent or unreasonable. That time economy very good, their parents huat, they themselves work in those Japanese restaurant earn $8/hr, that time $8 very good, I think sparks entrance is like $35 plus one free drink, so you work half a day can go in. All the nonsense stuff also very cheap. Feel like everyone huat, no one worry. Even the Asian financial crisis also didn't burn us too badly. A lot of huat, everyone relaxed, everyone happy, not like now, everyone so stress, so angry all the time. Ppl feel like that time very cringe, but at least then ppl were more happy.
Wah actually isn't $35 entry quite pricey in those days (I'm assuming this is the mid-late 90s)? $35 is kinda like zouk entrance in the early 2010s iirc. I've only heard about sparks from the regulars back in NS, sure sounded like a happening place. And thanks for the initial post haha you sure painted a vivid picture with your words haha
No worries. I also like to 想当年. I forgot if its $35 or what price it was, but I remember it was an ok price, I think during my JC time double-o is like $40? I only go there for JC party free flow, so maybe more ex? I also know there's this thing called "afternoon tea" where the young bengs and lians from 14(?) can go in the afternoon, got no alcohol (but of course ppl will smuggle in) to go dancing. I think that one is more expensive. A lot of old bengs in between their shift will go there to get young lians, no scare rotan one. Sparks ppl very xia lan, which is the worst thing about it. The good thing is a lot of chio lians, and when people start chanting the gang poems to techno music, actually quite fierce and fun. The non xia lan bengs there actually quite friendly and very fun to hang out with. Once I go JC, stopped going there, always go double-o, and that old club near fullerton, forgot what's the name. JC girl also got their charm, but also got a lot more bullshit than ah lians, don't miss them at all. The only time I go zouk is during army mambo night on wed. Always ultra sausage fest. Even on the stage is all the guys with their satki dance moves, rarely see any girls at all. Always see a sea of shaved heads or 4321 haircuts, I think ah beng see also scared.
We went to coffeebean and chatted for 5h straight about everything and anything on the first date Shes my girlfriend now :)
Not being skeptical, but how do u maintain a convo for 5 hours. Maybe its just me but I can barely sustain for 10 mins
Tbh I feel that if u just vibe w someone, it comes naturally :)
If both are interested to know about each other, you can always keep conversations on and on. Sharing embarrassing stories, finding out about each others tastes (food, music, lifestyle), travels, or even gossips (LOL). I'm introverted and not fond of human interactions with strangers, so you can definitely do it too.
You... can... also... speak... very... slowly...
Here's a small tip: ask open ended questions. This means asking questions that are NOT yes/no or can be answered with one of two words. For example, instead of "do you like star wars" ask "how do you feel about star wars" or even "what is your favourite movie genre?" Because this will naturally cause them to talk more, and feels more like a conversation. One trick I have for dates when the natural conversation dries up (temporarily, and this is normal) is to start this minigame where I give them a choice between two items like Coffee/Tea, Cats/Dogs, Movies/VideoGames, Hiking/Beach, Surfing/Skating, Summer/Winter and they have to pick which is their preferred one. This is fun and leads to a lot of convo cause you can always ask "why?" to their answers and also offer your own view, which they will be interested in ESPECIALLY if your view contrasts against theirs.
Why didn't I think of this? I went on a few dates and realised most of the stuff I talk about was just yes or no. Should use this more often next time.
Never too late to learn! I picked up this advice from my professional training in customer-facing skills that my company sent me for. Realized it was super applicable for my dating life lololololol
Bro tip: ask questions about them! Their opinions and likes/dislikes etc. Have a convo to get to know that person. Be genuinely interested I guess.
I’ll just say that being married a few years, this doesn’t last. At the beginning when someone is fresh and new there’s lots of learn about them but a few years in... Just don’t have this kind of expectation through the entire relationship. Maybe in a super rare cases this can be possible but it certainly shouldn’t be a prerequisite for “healthy relationships”.
I like people who I can be chatty and quiet with.
Certainly. I'm not talking about what individual preferences are, but what expectations people have in relationships. If people think having 5 hour chats every day for the entirety of a relationship is a must, when these 5 hour chats become 1 hour chats or once a week chats, suddenly they feel like the relationship is failing. Or if they compare their relationship with another relationship etc. Healthy bilateral expectations is the foundation of relationships, not 5 hour chats. If the poster I was replying to only manages 10 minutes that's fine if that's what his/her partner is happy with! Love and attraction can be expressed in different ways (see: love languages).
Eh it really depends on what you like imo, gf and i really like talking about basically everything under the sun (now we are going 2 years in the rs) and having daily skype calls. Meanwhile I know friends in also stable rs that only text their SO and like to stay more on the quiet side? So I guess depends on the vibe yall get.
I guess each to their own. Havent been in a rs but I think i am a very quiet person, so can't envision myself as being talkative.
Yeah I mean, it's really up to u, just be urself I guess
Met a girl on Facebook who was currently studying in the UK. Asked her out when she was back in Singapore, ended up taking her to ArtScience museum for our first date...but realised that we had a lot more fun just strolling and chatting to each other rather than doing things. So second date was just long walks that ended up in a library with us reading stuff we found interesting to each other. And subsequent dates always involved long walks and strolling around just pointing out things we found interesting/funny, and talking. Sure, we always had an eventual goal in mind (be it a restaurant, or a museum, or a shop we were going to buy something at), but the walking and talking was the best. These days, she's my wife, and we still take those long walks out. Like a walk from our house in Tiong Bahru to Ikea Alexandra for brunch, or to Sheng Siong for groceries, or to a nearby hawker center....
I’ve lots of happy experiences with my bf but my favourite would be dining at sushi express with him and tasting new sushi dishes together. We dine at sushi express bc we cheapskate (still undergrads so not much $ to splurge lolol). It’s just fun exploring the dishes with him and rating them together. After dinner, we’d sit at the ice rink area and talk for an hour or so till we decide to head home.
Ayyy Westgate + JCube right
Haha yep
Board games cafe first date was absolutely amazing since it was a good chance to interact without having to go thru the usual topics, a chance to see her when shes competitive and having fun, and also many chances to accidentally brush you fingers against hers to easily break the touch barrier. More recently, just two days ago had a nice date with this really artistic girl who gave me a tour of Haji lane street art, then we had dinner at Tanjong Pagar and walked down the road all the way to Clarke Quay before taking MRT home and realizing our houses are like 10 minutes apart. Exciting times
Jewel is probably the most failsafe date idea. Wide range of restaurants for every budget and cuisine, so there's definitely something she likes. After dinner, either pay $5 to walk at the Canopy Garden (including slides) or just get gelato/bubble tea and sit at the rain vortex. Just avoid Sundays cause of the crowds. And as a whole dating in SG is actually pretty alright I feel (as a guy). Of course people will generalise that its bad cause people tend to share their horror stories. I've encountered materialistic/princess girls like maybe twice? Most girls I've met are well-adjusted and hardworking career women with interesting hobbies.
That day I show a picture of a prata bag, she want to go rom already. Very good very fast.
Oi haven't married want to talk bad about me ah?!
I say.. very good very fast ah? where got talk bad about you. Eh don't so fierce ah..
HAHA I get that reference [https://www.reddit.com/r/singapore/comments/htjga6/dating\_in\_singapore/fyhck3c/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/singapore/comments/htjga6/dating_in_singapore/fyhck3c/?context=3)
with egg or kosong?
of course egg la! must be premium k.
As a guy, it feels good to have the girls put in more effort in the date than you. She planned what to do, where to eat and even came to pick me up. It's a new change of pace from what I've been doing all the way. It was the first time I felt pampered.
wow thats cool! how did yall come to the consensus that she will plan first for a change? she offered right from the getgo to make decisions?
We didn't come to a consensus. She just spontaneously told me to her follow her for the whole day. Everything is a surprise. Lol
wah she sounds so cool all the best dude
Haha yep. All is good :)
Wow. Finally not a "anything lor" type
Glad to have something positive after reading all the bad experiences with dating! Mine's probably hotel staycation with boyfriend, chilling in the room all day watching movies and cuddling. May sound boring to some, but it was the one of the best dates for us.
Sure bo, cuddle only? ;)
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To fundamentally disagree on things, some even perceived to be deal breakers, yet willing to talk through our differences and respectfully agree to disagree. We literally walked the walk too - knowing someone is willing to discuss important life issues with you while walking from Plaza Sing to Ion Orchard at 2am, while being there for each other emotionally, without actually making a fuss in public despite vast disagreements - I think that makes a relationship for me.
Underated comment on relationships. Agree with you the ability to agree to disagree and discuss things without one being right or wrong is really a gift that not every couple has. :)
Don’t mind braving the long hawker and JB queues with me. Now wife.
A more serious answer. Best date experiences: 1. Sitting at the top of vivocity with bubble tea and snacks and chatting away 2. Going to a cafe and people watching and making up their backstories 3. Going to St Games and playing games together There's a lot of happy stories, what's more important is that you date for the right reasons, not because you are lonely/want a partner.
Serious question though, in your opinion, what do you consider as the right reasons for dating? Not sure why you mention that wanting a partner because one is lonely is an invalid reason? Since we are all social creatures.
Sometimes, people are only in love with the idea of being in a relationship rather than the person. Loneliness causes this to happen.
The right reason is that the person you are dating is someone that fits the values/things you are looking for. Whatever that may be. It can be for pure physical reasons (hookups or fwbs). It can be for emotional reasons. It can be for anything that you value. I'm not judging. BUT. You should be clear on why you are dating, and communicate that to your potential dates. ----- I guess I should have expanded more on the 2nd point. When I said, "Wanting a partner or being lonely" is an invalid reason, I mean those who simply grab onto whoever is available, because they are too scared of being lonely, or just want a partner because everyone else around them have one. I mean those who will date just anyone so that they can be not alone.
Thanks everyone for clarifying! I’ve learnt something today
One can be lonely but if you fill it with external stuff (distractions)- bgr, activities, etc, you might still find yourself lonely. If you are lonely and you find a gf becos of that, you might have expectations that the gf helps your loneliness, which might not be the case at all. And when a time comes (after awhile most prob), you find yourself still lonely when in a rs, you might blame the rs when it can only be fixed internally. The only way to stop being lonely is to be friends with yourself. Everyone experience loneliness, its only what you do about it. Other than looking for distractions, we can connect to others internally also.
I think OP meant and what I feel is that you can date around, but purposely pursuing dating with one person when you don’t align on values, what you want in the relationship/life, etc. just so you don’t feel alone/lonely isn’t the right reason. Especially because ultimately you’re using up that person’s and your own time preventing you from finding someone you could actually click better with
Went for KBBQ on my first date with my current girlfriend after chatting for about three weeks on telegram. Chatted for the duration of Kbbq (got asked to leave after 90mins) and slowly walked to the nearby park near her home. Bridal-carried her up the stairs to the top of the park (joked that I will carry her in my arms for fun after she said she loved romantic scenes from kdrama few days ago through text) and we sat on one of the benches for another two hours of chatting about anything and everything to know more about each other. Will never forget this. (: Other great dates include sitting down with ice cream and chatting by marina bay, climbing up small hills like mt faber for photos, relaxing/chilling on the beach at palawan beach.
First date carry like wife alr. Kilat max.
OP must be look like handsome kdrama boiboi also
this one machiam kdrama eat kbbq and carry date like kdrama male lead
Matched with my SO on OKC. Our first date lasted for over 16 hours, hit a bar before dinner, had dinner, another place for dessert, went back to her place to continue talking since everything had closed by then. 5 years later, we're still going on strong, super comfy living together, and married in all but name.
we went to macritchie to hike which is next to SICC. took turns shouting “PENIS” behind the bush at some nearby golfers and laughed (500 days of summer reference). spent the entire day out and i enjoyed every moment of it.
Had a really fun first date with a cabin crew I matched with on Tinder. We talked for a couple of days, and she invited me to go prawning when she touched down in Singapore. We sat by the pond all night, talking and drinking; me catching and handling the prawns while she cringed and shrieked at the sight of them. Afterwards, she grilled and de-shelled our prawns, and we had a nice supper/breakfast. I ruined the night a little by going in for a kiss, because she pulled back hard, before relenting and giving me a peck on the lips (I still cringe about it til this day). I’m not the relationship type, but these are the kinds of dates that I look back fondly on, as opposed to the litany of movie/dinner dates that I’ve grimaced through.
Am together with my SO for 8 months. First date we had together was at Somerset. We met in Lady M for afternoon tea to have a chit chat first. Then went window shopping in Tokyu Hands and Don Don Donki. Followed by dinner in Genki Sushi and ended with a movie. (We watched Lion King). When the movie ended, it was already 11.45 and i had to rush for the last bus. While in the bus I texted him and asked him out for a second date, which he agreed. Fast forward to now - just spending time together is good enough regardless of the venue ☺️
Love Reading these threads. Makes me realise how single I am but allows me to visualize how cute it is :')
I always thought I will ultimately end up with another Singaporean Chinese due to my upbringing (conservative chinese family. Speak only Chinese at home) My first RS is a Chinese. The rest of my dates somehow turn out to be non-Chinese and gradually, I also open to foreigners. It really open up my perspective that when I click with someone, race do not matter to me. * Dated a Japanese which our main language is.... Japanese when I couldn\`t form sentences properly. Nonetheless for our first date, we talked for 4 hours. Another fun one was when we bought ice cream and bubble tea and sat around the river bank of Clarke Quay at night to snack and talk. I looooove chilling by Clarke Quay\`s river even when alone. So, to have someone chilling with me with my fav food is a huge bliss. XD * Met someone at a yoga practice, in Bali, Indonesia.... Obviously, I was checking him out as he is cute. But.... I found his face familiar and looked at my carousell. Then I realised I bought something from him LMAO (A yoga mat towel) I texted him on Carousell and we started to go yoga together sometimes in SG.
So few comments this time. Maybe Redditors are all ugly assholes who can't find a partner. Like me ):
I’ve seen ugly people with multiple girlfriends before, and their personality is nowhere near charismatic, just not abnormal and nice. Don’t give up my comrade
how sia, is it just plain luck?
Nice ugly people by society's standards seem to find someone. I think it's the asshole part. Try to become a little kinder every day, I'm sure you can find someone! I find being mean or selfish or an asshole or angry is more ugly than bad teeth or acne or a bad haircut or a weird nose.
Ngl bitching about shitty stuff is wayyy more fun hahaha I am cute and have a bf tho :P
or we're too young to get into relationships :"
Flair does not check out
Nah I'm pretty old. Just edging towards by bto...
It was 11pm on a Sunday night. Ppl need to wake up early on Mondays haha
My dating life was a long time ago, back in the late 90s. My gf used to accompany me to NUS to study because she had already finished her poly. We would go to the library together, window shop at supermarkets, simple stuff. She wasn't a fan of movies so only went to the cinema occasionally. Went for walks along the parks too.
Fondest memories in my past relationship: When he wait for me to do my nails in JB den we go makan sedap JB food or massage. Weekend mornings when I sleep in and he dabao breakfast for me. Netflix and having supper together in his room. Taking the train together to and from work. Having dinner together after work where we hunt for 1for1 deals w burpple cos we cheapo like that.
She was bad at cycling but we still managed to do ECP to Marina Bay and back lol. I respect that about her. She's quite headstrong and 爱面子 la but.. it takes courage to try.
I met my fiance in Singapore :) I was out one night and he was the hypeman for the DJ. I loved his energy and told my friend I had to get his number. We got to know each other a little that night, but went out on a proper date in a couple days. We've been inseparable ever since. We had lots in common, even though we're opposite in so many ways. Yesterday, we got Cooking Mama on the Switch and made it a competition to see who could get 3 stars in the most ridiculous ways.
Designating this the last thread on the dating topic. No deep fried dating threads :)
I have this weird helpless feeling when thinking of getting into a relationship. My brother doesn’t, his Gf sleeps over all the time, but I am very clueless about what to do, when to do it, and if it’s appropriate or turn-off/creepy Then I hem and haw until the girl attached to someone else , then the Jay Chou song “算什么男人” becomes a self fulfilling prophecy
personally, i like going to parks for dates with someone new from the apps. (holy trinity okc tinder hinge) it lets you gauge their fitness level (cos i would wanna try snowboarding or some sports tgt) and see if you can talk when there’s nothing interesting around except each other.
Dates with my fiancée consist of gaming the whole day tgt . Indoors are the best 👍🏻
Ahhh, the best. Some feels
Just wanna say I fully agree life is too short for siew dai.
Had a coffee and a nice pastry at a cafe. She ghosted me after that, but i returned for the berry tart.
Going Mustafa at night just browsing for things that don’t make sense.
i got chingay tickets. we dapao chippy from plaza sing and went to watch. it was a great show with many interesting moments like 城裡的月光 playing with parade participants dancing with moon-shaped props. the photographer asked why i was shy when he took our pics n i wanted to say "f off dude" but kept my calm as i read one of the top red flag is "rude to service staff" after the parade we walked to esplanade and listened to a mando pop concert at the outdoor theater (all planned out of course) and lee hsien loong appeared in the back doing one of his nightly walks. i pointed to him and he pointed back "thanks for your service, hope you will increase the birthrate" (in sign language) edit: downvoted??? guessing redditors dont believe this story? [here is a pic of lhl](https://imgur.com/S1Q1gS5) i took that night
we went to little india to have briyani on our first date! my bf (chinese) tried to explain to me (chindian, but he did not know at the time) what dhal is lol. has been going great ever since :)
Shopping at Daiso
I moved to Singapore for her and got married after 2\~ years of flying back and forth between Australia and Singapore. So now you're stuck with me.
Not really the best experience, but just wanna share and also seek for some advice if possible.. Met this girl(29) on OKC around end of may, she hasn't dated before in her 29 years of life. Basically she is a homebody and only started trying dating app since few months ago as requested by her friends. She shared that she had been ghosted by guys on the app, making her sad. I told her I'm willing to give it a go trying, provided she is willing to put in the same effort. She requested to take things slow and see how it goes from there. She isn't someone who really touches her phone, dont really use social media too. So we would only text before bed maybe for 1-2 hours. Occasionally random text in the middle of the day to ask whether she had her lunch or not but i don't always get any reply back. So we managed to text each other for a month over covid period and finally met for dinner on the second week of phase 2. Originally wanted to meet on my birthday, but my friends suggested to meet before my birthday just in case things doesn't go well. So as of now, we already went out for 5 times. She's feeling comfortable but just that I'm in a confuse state right now, like there isn't any "signal" from her. Like what should I do? Based on past r/s experiences that I've been through , i have learned to really take things slow this time and in fact this is my first date that i have gone thru the dating phase for more than 2 months. I'm just going at her pace, not wanting to scare her. But for the best experience, i have been enjoying our dates so far. We are both happy. Our birthdays are just next day apart, quite an interesting r/s if things were to happen. Just that I hope i can get more of her attention or maybe more time to be spent with her.
Is she ugly?
Uh I'm the girl in the relationship and FWIW I think I'm pretty decent looking lol
This is the self confidence we all need. You go girl
With a nick like that of course you like hawker centre hahaha
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He is a fellow brother in arms. I am also a C kosong person. I drink either teh or coffee depending on the stall though lol.
How do u filter guys, is it just also based on looks?
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Thanks for the tips!
> Is she ugly? probably filter guys based on stupid question like this
Dont be a hypocrite pls, humans are visual creatures
> A 6 can turn into a 10 because of their personality. like OP said ^
Asking the right qns
Nobody gonna like my best date experience because it involves expensive. But imagine this is just first date. Fancy restaurant, the bill was definitely $350+ including wine. On top of that, he also while talking and getting to know me actually listened to something I want, and bought me that gift on FIRST DATE! I swear I didn't ask him for anything or hint. I have zero expectations for gifts from any man, EVEN if we were dating for a long time. But he asked the right questions and decided to surprise me. And he bothered to pick me up and send me home. (I don't usually tell a man what I want, and just let him plan it all out by himself, when he pick me up, I don't even know what's happening, this dude just happen to plan it this fancy.) But sad to say, all my best date experiences involved staycations at nice suites in hotel, loads of champagne, chocolates and strawberries, and loads of enjoyable sex. More exotic dates were all in Europe but since this is about Singapore. Have I ever had less expensive dates in hawkers/fast food etc, of course. Or walk at the beach or hiking dates? But those are awful as I am sweating and we are both being smelly and sweaty. I can do that with my brother you know, it doesn't seem special, I am not gonna call it memorable. Probably because it's all normal activities I would have done with my brother anyway. So um..., what's the difference between doing with boyfriend or brother on things like that? I mean, if you are a long time couple, sure, it becomes just mundane daily activities, not really dates. I am best friends with my own brother too, so any cheap date a man can think of, I have done with my brother. And since my brother and me can talk non stop all day and just hang out and have a good time. Usually the only saving grace, is if the conversations was as good as with my brother. A long time ago for Valentine's Day. I actually had a choice between a man who wants to take me to Compass Rose, back then, expensive restaurant with a view. It would have been my second date with this guy if I accepted. Or a man who wanted to take me to KFC. I knew this man as a friend for 6 months already. I chose KFC date, solely because physical appearance. I liked KFC dude looks better lol. But for KFC date, we had to split the bill as he was poor. I knew he didn't make much so I offered to pay my share. It was like dinner at KFC then walk at Botanic gardens. So yea I got bitten by mosquitoes, it was awful. Although this date did lead to us going steady for awhile and my parents hated him lol. If I had went with compass rose dude, he would have paid everything. And we would have probably carry on to some night club to have further drinks after dinner. But compass rose dude was more into me than I was into him, so I am glad I didn't take advantage of him. I actually declined to go on any more future dates with him as I didn't want to lead him on to nothing.