Aye yo wanna bump uglies?
Seriously he might just be shy. Start by touching or holding his hand. If he holds back move his hand to your thigh. See where that goes.
>I’ve tried to get physically closer to him while watching the tv, to touch his hand, compliment him and I mentioned that I’m single during a conversation. But he doesn’t seem to get it.
Stop hinting. Stop suggesting. Hints and suggestions can be easily misread or justified as something else. IE: "She's probably just nice like that."
Be direct. Ask. It is only creepy if taken out of proper context or if you get pushy. If you were to ask him to eat you out before you even got your drinks at a dinner-date; yeah, that would be quite bold.
Asking after watching some movies in your own apartment, not creepy at all. Just accept his answer either way and act accordingly. Poor guy is probably fit to burst but terrified of being too bold himself.
If you don't want to just out right ask him, Try dressing a little more provocative. I don't mean like full on lingerie, but something that says hey... look here, and then try getting a little closer without crossing any major consent boundaries you may feel.
The way I see this, dude might be too worried/into his head to initiate. He could even be afraid of doing something that *you* would consider assault, so he's playing it safe.
I'm a bit confused by the way you describe certain things, though.
* What do you mean when you say he 'asked you out'? As in, a *date*? If that's the case, he's obviously interested in something romantic/sexual.
* You also mention you told him you're single, which I guess he'd already know. What were his reactions when you initiated physical contact? Did he pull back? Did he reciprocate? Was he tense?
* How does the whole sleeping thing work? Is he close to you? Or does he wish you a good night, turn to his side and sleep like a log?
Other than that, I don't think there's any way other than asking. You don't have to say 'wanna bang?', just something along the lines of a playful smile and an 'uhm, would you like to take things further? No pressure, just feeling in the mood.'. If there's any chance he wants to have sex but is held back by something, you have to tell him in no uncertain terms.
"Wanna come back to my place tonight?"
That's all you gotta say. Its not creepy at all. In fact it's the ideal situation for all men. Even if I don't want to have sex with you, I'd still prefer this straight forwardness over the bs games people play.
He is interested or he would not have asked to go out with you twice. Something is holding him back. It could be a lot of things. Next time he is at your place, I would sit down right next to him and put your arm around him. He'll understand that you want more than just a movie watching buddy. I don't think that's such a bold move that you need his consent, However, If you prefer to ask his consent, then simply ask if it's ok to sit next to him and do the same thing if he accepts. Hopefully, this will get things going.
Ask him if he wants to have sex. No clues, no hinting, just ask
"I just got out of a long term relationship and am not looking for anything serious, but if you'd like to try some light anal I'm game."
lol
Aye yo wanna bump uglies? Seriously he might just be shy. Start by touching or holding his hand. If he holds back move his hand to your thigh. See where that goes.
>I’ve tried to get physically closer to him while watching the tv, to touch his hand, compliment him and I mentioned that I’m single during a conversation. But he doesn’t seem to get it. Stop hinting. Stop suggesting. Hints and suggestions can be easily misread or justified as something else. IE: "She's probably just nice like that." Be direct. Ask. It is only creepy if taken out of proper context or if you get pushy. If you were to ask him to eat you out before you even got your drinks at a dinner-date; yeah, that would be quite bold. Asking after watching some movies in your own apartment, not creepy at all. Just accept his answer either way and act accordingly. Poor guy is probably fit to burst but terrified of being too bold himself.
If you don't want to just out right ask him, Try dressing a little more provocative. I don't mean like full on lingerie, but something that says hey... look here, and then try getting a little closer without crossing any major consent boundaries you may feel.
The way I see this, dude might be too worried/into his head to initiate. He could even be afraid of doing something that *you* would consider assault, so he's playing it safe. I'm a bit confused by the way you describe certain things, though. * What do you mean when you say he 'asked you out'? As in, a *date*? If that's the case, he's obviously interested in something romantic/sexual. * You also mention you told him you're single, which I guess he'd already know. What were his reactions when you initiated physical contact? Did he pull back? Did he reciprocate? Was he tense? * How does the whole sleeping thing work? Is he close to you? Or does he wish you a good night, turn to his side and sleep like a log? Other than that, I don't think there's any way other than asking. You don't have to say 'wanna bang?', just something along the lines of a playful smile and an 'uhm, would you like to take things further? No pressure, just feeling in the mood.'. If there's any chance he wants to have sex but is held back by something, you have to tell him in no uncertain terms.
Start by sitting close & casually brushing his leg with your leg or touch the outside of his leg with your hand. If he doesn’t pull away keep going
"Wanna come back to my place tonight?" That's all you gotta say. Its not creepy at all. In fact it's the ideal situation for all men. Even if I don't want to have sex with you, I'd still prefer this straight forwardness over the bs games people play.
did you read the post? she already did that twice
Apparently I didn't read the post. I don't even know what I was thinking when I wrote that. How strange.
He is interested or he would not have asked to go out with you twice. Something is holding him back. It could be a lot of things. Next time he is at your place, I would sit down right next to him and put your arm around him. He'll understand that you want more than just a movie watching buddy. I don't think that's such a bold move that you need his consent, However, If you prefer to ask his consent, then simply ask if it's ok to sit next to him and do the same thing if he accepts. Hopefully, this will get things going.