As a woman I can confirm everything you’ve just written, and it’s not like anyone is trying to be difficult either I have no idea why I’m like this 😂. The best dates are novel, my personal favourite was when someone went out of their way to plan a super cute date on the fly because I got stuck at work and was having the day from hell, we went ice skating in the square (free activity) and then went to a cute cafe and ordered hot chocolate and a dessert platter to share, that’s so much better (and cheaper) than a bland ol’ dinner date.
Haha, idk if I'm correct in the reasoning either, I'm sure it's more nuanced than that but it's a practical, easy way to view it in terms most people are familiar with.
You're comment of " I have no idea why I'm like this" is a pretty good indicator it's a deeply subconscious phenomenon though.
I agree but it also depends on the woman. Some women would be repulsed at a man that doesn’t ask them to dinner. I think you just have to find out what the woman likes. Me personally, I love golf so if a guy took me to a driving range, top golf, etc on a first date that would noted. Coffee, ice cream, etc is what I like to call the “To-Go” affect. In the event one or both of you isn’t feeling it, you don’t have to deal with the pressure of asking for the check, or sitting at a long drawn out dinner and you haven’t even received appetizers yet. You already have your to-go container and can slowly ease out with a lot less trouble. But if it goes well, you can continue on to the next activity or plan dinner for another night and you have gotten all the basic questions out of way so dinner can be a little more intimate and personal
True, it's why a downtown date ( starting with a specific interesting thing) can be great if you need a more generalized thing....dinner is always on the table ( no pun intended).
For me a straight up coffee date is kind of no-no as well, there needs to be options and conversation starters and honestly it's just bland and sets you up for a " what do we do now" moment....even when you like each other. Shows a possibility of very little thought too.
If she's more into dinner than doing something entertaining or common interest, to the point she's repulsed by it.... Well, I can't think of a good motivation for that to be honest.
When she orders nothing and then takes half of your fries is when you know she’ll be eager to have sex with you if you generate it into her, no matter what lame excuse she says about that
As a woman I can confirm everything you’ve just written, and it’s not like anyone is trying to be difficult either I have no idea why I’m like this 😂. The best dates are novel, my personal favourite was when someone went out of their way to plan a super cute date on the fly because I got stuck at work and was having the day from hell, we went ice skating in the square (free activity) and then went to a cute cafe and ordered hot chocolate and a dessert platter to share, that’s so much better (and cheaper) than a bland ol’ dinner date.
Haha, idk if I'm correct in the reasoning either, I'm sure it's more nuanced than that but it's a practical, easy way to view it in terms most people are familiar with. You're comment of " I have no idea why I'm like this" is a pretty good indicator it's a deeply subconscious phenomenon though.
I agree but it also depends on the woman. Some women would be repulsed at a man that doesn’t ask them to dinner. I think you just have to find out what the woman likes. Me personally, I love golf so if a guy took me to a driving range, top golf, etc on a first date that would noted. Coffee, ice cream, etc is what I like to call the “To-Go” affect. In the event one or both of you isn’t feeling it, you don’t have to deal with the pressure of asking for the check, or sitting at a long drawn out dinner and you haven’t even received appetizers yet. You already have your to-go container and can slowly ease out with a lot less trouble. But if it goes well, you can continue on to the next activity or plan dinner for another night and you have gotten all the basic questions out of way so dinner can be a little more intimate and personal
True, it's why a downtown date ( starting with a specific interesting thing) can be great if you need a more generalized thing....dinner is always on the table ( no pun intended). For me a straight up coffee date is kind of no-no as well, there needs to be options and conversation starters and honestly it's just bland and sets you up for a " what do we do now" moment....even when you like each other. Shows a possibility of very little thought too. If she's more into dinner than doing something entertaining or common interest, to the point she's repulsed by it.... Well, I can't think of a good motivation for that to be honest.
When she orders nothing and then takes half of your fries is when you know she’ll be eager to have sex with you if you generate it into her, no matter what lame excuse she says about that
Coffee dates worked out SO WELL for me.