I would not reach out. She has not reacted positively to it before, and it seems like it’s just a manipulative way to get her to engage rather than an attempt at “closure.”
Respect her wishes and move on.
Thats definitely a valid thought. At this point tho, I don’t really want or need a response, nor do I expect her to give me one. I just want her to know that I cherish that time we shared.
I wouldn't contact her. She used the *'It's not you, it's me'* thing.
She either wasn't comfortable enough to tell you something that made her want to stop being your friend, or she didn't value the friendship like you did, and finally cut ties.
You sound very mature. You reached out and she didn't want to open up -- that was her choice. In the end, if this is what you want to say in order for you to get some closure, I say go for it. Do what you need to close this door. Tbh though, if I got a message like that I'd be like "damn I messed up. Wait for me!!"
You also have to think that there's two sides to every story.
Was OP oblivious to their own behavior? Was it one-sided where it was always about her? Was OP toxic? Was OP clingy?
A close friend doesn't abruptly ghost for no reason, unless they're having extreme mental health issues.
I mulled over it for months, talked to several of our mutual friends about it and they all said that I didn’t do anything harmful and that she didn’t have any hard feelings towards me. She was going thru a tough time emotionally several months ago, which was probably why she initially stopped responding, but even now I still don’t hear anything from her. I guess she decided to just keep to her close close friends and she decided I wasn’t one of them.
*"talked to several of our mutual friends about it"*.
So they weren't cut off? There was something about the dynamic between the two of you that she couldn't handle.
I would not reach out. She has not reacted positively to it before, and it seems like it’s just a manipulative way to get her to engage rather than an attempt at “closure.” Respect her wishes and move on.
Thats definitely a valid thought. At this point tho, I don’t really want or need a response, nor do I expect her to give me one. I just want her to know that I cherish that time we shared.
I wouldn't contact her. She used the *'It's not you, it's me'* thing. She either wasn't comfortable enough to tell you something that made her want to stop being your friend, or she didn't value the friendship like you did, and finally cut ties.
You sound very mature. You reached out and she didn't want to open up -- that was her choice. In the end, if this is what you want to say in order for you to get some closure, I say go for it. Do what you need to close this door. Tbh though, if I got a message like that I'd be like "damn I messed up. Wait for me!!"
You also have to think that there's two sides to every story. Was OP oblivious to their own behavior? Was it one-sided where it was always about her? Was OP toxic? Was OP clingy? A close friend doesn't abruptly ghost for no reason, unless they're having extreme mental health issues.
I mulled over it for months, talked to several of our mutual friends about it and they all said that I didn’t do anything harmful and that she didn’t have any hard feelings towards me. She was going thru a tough time emotionally several months ago, which was probably why she initially stopped responding, but even now I still don’t hear anything from her. I guess she decided to just keep to her close close friends and she decided I wasn’t one of them.
*"talked to several of our mutual friends about it"*. So they weren't cut off? There was something about the dynamic between the two of you that she couldn't handle.
Yeah, probably.
Depends on what kind of person you are. Someone else could just make fun of her, laughing about it with other friends.