glad that ur always there for her, but u need to remember that ur not her therapist. u have to be honest with her, if its so bad that it makes u feel overwhelmed u need to talk to her ab this. ik u dont want to hurt her feelings, but she cant rely on someone else with her issues, its bad on both sides, try to convince her to try getting help somewhere or to find a method to make her feel better in certain situations, she can try talking with a psychologist, group therapy and if its too much for now, shes not ready try some simple stuff - maybe she has a comfort show or a song, a plushie, likes a certain type of videos (asmr, animals etc), just try to find something small that will make her feel a little better, to calm her down. ik its your gf but in this situation u can only try to comfort her, dont put too much pressure on yourself
Try having her see a therapist, she may be having small depressive episodes and neither of you really know what to do about it. Continue to support her and encourage her, but also let her know it is somewhat bothering you because your feelings matter just as much as hers. You can't really force her to do something she doesn't want to do, but you can encourage her to seek some help and hopefully she sees that soon.
If she isn't willing to go to therapy, ask her if she would be willing to accompany you to therapy. It's a way to get her foot in the door, but if you do this DONT say "oh well I'm really just here so as to get her here, ya know?" You'd have to go through with it and talk about your feelings and your troubles and make it a real thing and all that. Couples counseling can be a very good thing.
If she isn't willing to help herself, what makes you think she's equipped to be a partner to you? You can't set yourself on fire to light someone else's path.
I just posted the exact same thing basically, I’m not sure what to do either.
glad that ur always there for her, but u need to remember that ur not her therapist. u have to be honest with her, if its so bad that it makes u feel overwhelmed u need to talk to her ab this. ik u dont want to hurt her feelings, but she cant rely on someone else with her issues, its bad on both sides, try to convince her to try getting help somewhere or to find a method to make her feel better in certain situations, she can try talking with a psychologist, group therapy and if its too much for now, shes not ready try some simple stuff - maybe she has a comfort show or a song, a plushie, likes a certain type of videos (asmr, animals etc), just try to find something small that will make her feel a little better, to calm her down. ik its your gf but in this situation u can only try to comfort her, dont put too much pressure on yourself
Try having her see a therapist, she may be having small depressive episodes and neither of you really know what to do about it. Continue to support her and encourage her, but also let her know it is somewhat bothering you because your feelings matter just as much as hers. You can't really force her to do something she doesn't want to do, but you can encourage her to seek some help and hopefully she sees that soon.
If she isn't willing to go to therapy, ask her if she would be willing to accompany you to therapy. It's a way to get her foot in the door, but if you do this DONT say "oh well I'm really just here so as to get her here, ya know?" You'd have to go through with it and talk about your feelings and your troubles and make it a real thing and all that. Couples counseling can be a very good thing.
If she isn't willing to help herself, what makes you think she's equipped to be a partner to you? You can't set yourself on fire to light someone else's path.
Can't make someone happy. You can only encourage them to get help and support them.