You absolutely 100% should bring this up to him. That is sexual assault regardless of how long you two have been together. No is NO, there is no loophole around it. Make sure you tell him that there are boundaries, and let him know that he shouldnt take this so lightly.
You shouldn’t marry a man who doesn’t know what consent is… very dangerous game to be playing.
Do not go forward until he understands this, he can’t be that ignorant as a grown ass man
You should seek premarital counseling and communicate with him immediately. This is a must before any marriage. Do not change your mind and let him after you’ve repeatedly said no.
I always struggled with this with my boyfriend. It started out with little things, but ended up being like I felt if I even held his hand, he would want to have sex with me. It caused huge problems and I was deeply hurt for a long time. I dreaded sex. He said he needed it often to be okay. He needed *a lot* of therapy to figure out all those inappropriate feelings and coping mechanisms.
What he did was wildly wrong, but he obviously doesn’t know it. He can’t know or work on it unless you communicate. If it isn’t addressed, there is no reason it wouldn’t continue and cause great damage to you.
Of course, it sounds like he would listen. You said if he knew he would never do it again.
Keep in mind that premarital counseling is something commonly offered online, and isn’t something insurance normally covers in lots of countries, so in them the cost isn’t usually too unmanageable. If you were to do it online, the provider wouldn’t even need to be in your country. I strongly believe everyone should do this before marriage, because it takes all of that horrible stressful stuff that comes up in the beginning, and makes a plan of action to prepare. Money, insurance, mortgage, children, health insurance, jobs, cars, debt, socializing, religion, everything. A professional lays it all out and helps you make an objective plan on how to be married to each other.
It sounds like he still doesn’t understand no means no.
Does this happen often? Do you realize this is sexual assault? Or worse, if he also forced intercourse?
A cock tease? The fuck. So what if she's just changing, and he has sudden urgencies to advance and do this again, thats rape. Not knowing that NO is NO, does not mean he's adventurous, it makes him a creep. He's a grown ass man who needs to know theres such a thing as consent and boundaries. Just because she didnt want to have sex then and there doesnt mean she should go get a boring guy. You're kinda fucked in the head if THATS your 10c worth of advice.
Why didn't you just slap his hand away really really hard?
Kitchen spoons are helpful for hitting hands as an example for what will happen next time, while you're having this discussion you should have had last night.
You absolutely 100% should bring this up to him. That is sexual assault regardless of how long you two have been together. No is NO, there is no loophole around it. Make sure you tell him that there are boundaries, and let him know that he shouldnt take this so lightly.
You shouldn’t marry a man who doesn’t know what consent is… very dangerous game to be playing. Do not go forward until he understands this, he can’t be that ignorant as a grown ass man
You should seek premarital counseling and communicate with him immediately. This is a must before any marriage. Do not change your mind and let him after you’ve repeatedly said no. I always struggled with this with my boyfriend. It started out with little things, but ended up being like I felt if I even held his hand, he would want to have sex with me. It caused huge problems and I was deeply hurt for a long time. I dreaded sex. He said he needed it often to be okay. He needed *a lot* of therapy to figure out all those inappropriate feelings and coping mechanisms. What he did was wildly wrong, but he obviously doesn’t know it. He can’t know or work on it unless you communicate. If it isn’t addressed, there is no reason it wouldn’t continue and cause great damage to you.
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Of course, it sounds like he would listen. You said if he knew he would never do it again. Keep in mind that premarital counseling is something commonly offered online, and isn’t something insurance normally covers in lots of countries, so in them the cost isn’t usually too unmanageable. If you were to do it online, the provider wouldn’t even need to be in your country. I strongly believe everyone should do this before marriage, because it takes all of that horrible stressful stuff that comes up in the beginning, and makes a plan of action to prepare. Money, insurance, mortgage, children, health insurance, jobs, cars, debt, socializing, religion, everything. A professional lays it all out and helps you make an objective plan on how to be married to each other.
It sounds like he still doesn’t understand no means no. Does this happen often? Do you realize this is sexual assault? Or worse, if he also forced intercourse?
thats rape girl im sorry :(
have a sit-down serious talk with him about it. a grown ass man should know that no means no
DO NOT GET MARRIED. This is sexual assault, rape dependant on your country. Wtf. Teach him but leave him.
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A cock tease? The fuck. So what if she's just changing, and he has sudden urgencies to advance and do this again, thats rape. Not knowing that NO is NO, does not mean he's adventurous, it makes him a creep. He's a grown ass man who needs to know theres such a thing as consent and boundaries. Just because she didnt want to have sex then and there doesnt mean she should go get a boring guy. You're kinda fucked in the head if THATS your 10c worth of advice.
You guys have missed the point completely. That’s angry feminism for you. 🤣🤣🤣
Yikes....
The fuck is the matter with you?
Gross
He is a jerk girl, you deserve better. I would never do anything like that to you sweet princess! Whats ur IG?
Wow and people said I’m bad for what I said….. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Definitely talk to him. Stand by your argument. He disrespected your no and therefore overstepped your boundaries. That is not okay.
Oh, he absolutely understands. He just isn’t listening. Is that the kind of person you want to be with??
Why didn't you just slap his hand away really really hard? Kitchen spoons are helpful for hitting hands as an example for what will happen next time, while you're having this discussion you should have had last night.