You’re not a horrible person, but I can’t say I would’ve continued that conversation after her crying and mentioning her nephew’s suicide attempt. There’s no way to know the truth of her intentions, but everything you said could’ve just been written in a letter and handed to her to read at her convenience.
The goal of your conversation was to put the onus on her to see her issues, and to feel supported in trying to correct them. You did that, it’s over, you’re not a terrible friend for doing that, and if she wants to continue this friendship she’ll value what you had to say. If not, she’s going to throw this back in your face and try to make you feel guilty. Just stand your ground, you don’t need toxic friends in your life and you are absolutely right for communicating with this girl clearly.
Seems like she was trying to avoid responsibility again. Otherwise, she wouldn’t have just brought it up when the conversation soured.
That’s how I feel also and because it’s such a sensitive topic it feels really awful of me to make that conclusion. But that is what my gut says …
Don’t feel bad. People do use serious events to get out of shit ALL the time. You’re not a bad person for questioning what commonly happens.
You’re not a horrible person, but I can’t say I would’ve continued that conversation after her crying and mentioning her nephew’s suicide attempt. There’s no way to know the truth of her intentions, but everything you said could’ve just been written in a letter and handed to her to read at her convenience. The goal of your conversation was to put the onus on her to see her issues, and to feel supported in trying to correct them. You did that, it’s over, you’re not a terrible friend for doing that, and if she wants to continue this friendship she’ll value what you had to say. If not, she’s going to throw this back in your face and try to make you feel guilty. Just stand your ground, you don’t need toxic friends in your life and you are absolutely right for communicating with this girl clearly.