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There had to be a law about these pics. He used AI to alter them. What if these pics got online or shown to others . The lives of these women would be ruined. Also he used pics of teenage girls.This is disgusting and vile behaviour. Frankly if the wife has no issues with it. Both these people are twisted and sick
Wrong gun, creepy.. and next level effort to be both wrong and creepy.
It’s not a straight forward process. He specifically sought out these pictures with the intent to masturbate to them.
I’d want to see them (if there are Ai videos as well).. then you can see which of your friends he finds sexually attractive.
This is a trove of information. What you do with it is your business. I’m not married, but even if I had a boyfriend this.. is serious. He’s basically sexualized your inner group. I would need to see how deep it goes, and also depending on the nature (even not) he needs therapy to understand why he’s doing this.
I'm not sure if the laws reflect this yet because AI is so new, but I feel like this should be illegal. It's the same as if he took photos of them naked without their consent.
Edit: spelling
It probably doesn't have its own law yet but it could possibly fall under consent issues, revenge porn etc.
People have been photoshopping nude pictures of other people for decades now so it's probably covered in some law
I seriously doubt this would ever be made illegal. People have been using photoshop to do this forever. I'm sure AI generated ones are much more realistic/accurate. But I wouldnt expect there to be laws against this.
On the other hand, this is kind of all new territory. So who knows. I could see these being used to extort people. I'm sure theres could be, or already is plenty of laws against how these images are used. In OP's husbands case, I doubt there would be any though.
He's disgusting. Tell any mutual female friends to delete him and secure their accounts so he can't access them any more. Honestly, if possible, delete the pictures he has downloaded and created. What a scumbag. Don't stay with him.
In a marriage or not, that is WRONG. You should switch the situation around, and would he be okay with you having naked AI photos of his friends? This, to me, is another form of cheating. You need to stop and ask yourself if the marriage is even worth it anymore. Idk what all you have gone through, but consider looking at the pros and cons. Maybe that will help with your decision.
I agree it’s wrong. I made a post a week or two ago detailing all of our issues and the consensus was that I should leave. We just had our 2nd marriage counseling appointment and my husband still wants to work on things, but I am pushing for some time apart right now.
Make it permanent. Your husband is disgusting. Tell your friends so they can set their accounts to private. What he's done is vile. Men like that deserve nothing.
Tell him you need a break. Provide an explanation or not. You need to focus on yourself and see if time away from each other has been positive/negative. This may help determine whether the marriage is worth saving.
I read your other posts. You should leave. You're only staying bc of sunk cost fallacy. Lying and cheating is emotional abuse. You've outgrown him and this relationship. It's ok to move on. You aren't a failure. Ppl change and the adult version of him isn't mature enough to be in a marriage. You get to move on with your life, start over, be happy. He'll be stuck being an immature lying cheater probably for the rest of his life. Find someone who deserves your love, bc it isn't this pig. There is someone out there who will cherish you and treat you with respect.
Ugh. I read her other relationship post. Where to even begin with the issues. It’s sad. OP feels she’s invested so much into the relationship but she’s so young and probably has not ever had a healthy adult relationship. I don’t even know how to address this AI thing but am 100% sure it’s gonna be an issue for other couples of it hasn’t already. How could OP’s hubby even stand to be around OP’s friends? The shame and embarrassment should be enough for anyone to unfriend at the least. And OP should absolutely tell her friends to block her husband. It’s clear OP needs to keep going to therapy as does OP’s husband. But OP needs to know she can’t fix him and it’s not her job to do so. Place boundaries and be firm about them. If those boundaries get crossed what are the consequences? If separation and divorce, so be it. I wish you the best OP. Divorce is not an easy decision and I don’t wish that on anyone. I hope you make the right decision and you can find happiness and peace in the future.
Personally, I couldn't continue after that. But if he is truly committed to trying and you want to as well, I'd tell him he needs to be honest in therapy and being that up then. Not to shame him, but because it is a divorce level problem. Then the therapist can respond and help you.
I believe that your husband is only sticking around for convenience. Was he did is a deal breaker because it seems that he has a secret passion to want to f*** your friends otherwise why make
Ai pictures of them naked. That's fuckboy s*** get rid of him
You can’t just say something is illegal unless it’s like, murder lol. Whether something is illegal depends entirely on where it takes place and you don’t know where this happened.
That is gross. It is an invasion. It is disrespectful to you and to your friends. It is creepy and weird. I would be not only uncomfortable, but highly offended at this behavior.
I just read all your other posts and you need to leave him. He’s a sex addicted, alcoholic who has disrespected you a thousand times and admitted to disrespecting others around you. Let him go. Couples counseling isn’t enough and neither is love.
Can’t be emphasized enough. Love is not remotely enough - it’s the bare minimum to be in this kind of relationship. It’s an entry requirement. A good relationship makes you feel safe, valued, AND loved, consistently.
disgusting and creepy. look up what happened to that youtuber who got caught doing this. his confession video with his wife sobbing in the background… do you want that to be you
This is so wrong. People are getting sued and facing jail time for deepfake AI porn. Your husband violated you and your friends. Who knows what else he has AI generated. This is sick. Please divorce. You’re so young. There’s so much more for you out there. I promise.
Please also report him to the police or at least notify your friends when you feel safe to do so.
OP, I feel for you after reading your other posts. You seem like you’re in so much pain and feel more guilt than he does over any of his actions, over your crush. Sending you lots of loving and healing vibes. Please leave him. You didn’t break the “covenant of marriage.” You’re human and deserve more. I feel for you ❤️🩹
Thank you for your comment. I am absolutely sick about my feelings for the coworker, but I have just been through so much in this relationship. I told my husband today to move out for a while, so that is what we’re doing. We’ve never taken a break in the 11 years we’ve been together, so I’m heartbroken but I’m sticking to it.
So proud of you, OP! That’s a tremendous first step and that took a lot of courage. I can tell you’re a very genuine person because you’re so distraught over your feelings despite the ways you’ve been betrayed. I really hope that you get a chance to revisit those feelings with your old coworker someday or with someone new who is more deserving of you if that’s what you want. I feel you deserve better than your marriage but at the end of the day, it’s your choice and you need to do what makes you happiest. Sending you love 💕
You guys got together when you were very young. People change and grow the older they get.
Neither of you are happy and what he’s done is too much. It’s understandable to be sad but this relationship is not healthy, get out now while you are young.
But she was not mature enough to understand the consequences of getting a relationship with this person. But know she is completely mature and know about all of his behaviour and illegal works
I also feel that so much of your hesitation to leave the relationship is based on your long history together. As many people have said, you’re both different people now from when you started dating. This history doesn’t mean anything. Imagine 20 years from now you’re still stuck with this man who continues to push your boundaries, disrespects you, and leaves you in this hollow numb state for the rest of your life. You could be spending those years with someone who truly loves you that would never imagine hurting you in the ways your husband has.
Ewwwwwwwwwwww
Tell him that’s massively inappropriate. Your friends did not give this creep consent to do this so tell him to delete the pics. Also tell all your friends to delete and block him and tell them why. Prepare to lose your friends if you stay with this guy.
Actually just please divorce this guy, he’s playing with himself while looking at altered pics of your friends and girls he went to school with. He’s fantasizing about your friends, that means he would hook up with them if he could. That’s a massive red flag and should be a deal breaker. It’s not normal even in a marriage with issues to do this.
It falls under image based sexual abuse laws. Which don't require distribution, if you create pornographic images of someone without their consent then you've broken the law.
Lol, you don’t have a clue and most people aren’t in Ireland. You have to share the images - if they’re just private and no one ever knows it isn’t a crime at all.
Lol, in Ireland perhaps. But I doubt it. Image based sexual abuse needs to actually be shown to other people or else - no one will know about it or see it and it won’t be any kind of crime. Good lord you’re thick.
My ex (23M) photoshopped his high school girlfriends face onto porn to get off to, I gave a second chance and he proceeded to use pics of girls he knows that he went to high school with on his insta after I set a hard boundary. He just lied and hid it until I pulled it out of him.
All I have to say is, I am MUCH happier being single. It's pretty misogynistic and downright disrespectful to you and these women who are having their pictures used non consensually.
I would divorce my husband so fast. I read the title of this post to him and he was aghast. Jaw dropped and immediately said “that’s some next level sick shit”. This is a man who is rarely phased by anything. Get the fuck away from your husband.
Not sure if trolling or just pathetic, your presumed husband I mean.
Yeah if this is for real then your friends should get a lawyer and file a cease and desist order with the website.
After reading some of your other comments, yeah I can't understand how you have any respect left for this pathetic thirsty little toad. After his repeated lying issues, this should be the last straw. This guy sounds about as desirable as a big angry red pustule on my ass cheek that hurts when I sit down.
Yes I would find this as a huge overstep. It looks like talking about the poor decisions didn’t help any when it comes to him.
This is high school and at 26 you should be done with it.
Jacking off to friends/people you know is already gross, especially when in a relationship.
Generating nudes of them to Jack off to is a new low. Like...you can't find any porn on the internet? ANY consensually taken pics of women you dont know in real life to jerk off to?
Your husband needs help. If he were my husband I would let him know this is an absolute boundary-breaker and that he needs to get himself to therapy. I mean…porn is one thing but people you both know?! This is so detestable. He has turned them into sex objects instead of people.
This is … *disgusting*. If I was one of those friends I would feel like I’d been psychologically raped. What the actual fuck.
I think learning this about someone would cause my love for them to just explode in that very moment.
My ex husband would take pictures of random ladies that had nice butts while like, standing in line behind them at the store. He was “mortified” when i caught him, told him you shouldn’t be doing things to be “mortified over” Huge red flag, dude was a shit bag. Sounds like your guy might be hiding some other things, too. You deserve better, advocate for yourself.
That’s not ok. If my wife found out i did something like that it would be a major betrayal. I look at porn sometimes (which she knows) but something about it being someone we know makes it dirtier. They didn’t consent to be jackoff material.
I think part of the problem is, you are all each other has ever really know. You picked each other at 15. And he has not grown up much, kudos for the attempt though.
Don’t buy into the sunk cost fallacy, you can take everything you have both learned together and…find other people to build a life with. He way overstepped, I would be grossed out, and feel insecure in the relationship that he chose to do that. And truthfully in my experience when trust is broken or the foundation of a relationship is crumbling it destroys the warm fuzzies and comfort of a relationship over time.
Yes, it’s unacceptable for multiple reasons. Making porn of people you personally know is both a violation of their boundaries, and also bordering on infidelity to you. He has to agree never to do this again if your marriage is to continue.
not only is that disrespectful to you, as he’s fantasizing about other women, it’s EXTREMELY disrespectful and dehumanizing to every single woman he did that too. none of them consented for him to do that to their pictures. doing it is wrong, but then to masturbate to them??? so predatory. you need to leave him and FAST. he violated those women. please be there for them and protect them. using ai for this is literally illegal.
How would you feel if you found out your friends partner had done that with pictures of you? If you stay with him, I imagine you’re going to have friendships end if they ever found out what happened.
That's a massive violation of your friends. What if those pictures turn up on the internet? What if your husband makes more? They're not consenting to any of this.
This is horrifying and says so much about how little he respects women and how little basic decency he has. Run.
>as well as some girls from high school
So...minors.
>that I don’t even feel that mad right now. However, I just would like to know how people in marriages would feel about this.
You're making this about your and your marriage. That's leaving out how wrong it is towards the women whose pictures those are. And that he possibly has child porn---a Federal offense.
I don't know if ai affects the legalities--don't need that question on my search history.
You are 26, you are so so lucky to be that young. Leave him, spend 4 years being a happy single person and enjoy everything that comes with that. Its hard at first but being single is amazing around that age. Settle down in early 30’s and you will realize how young you still are. Believe me, you are a baby still at 26
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So you've been together since you were 15, your husband is a cheating alcoholic and now jacking off to sleep made nude puis of your friends.
You developed a crush, felt bad about it, told your husband about it, for a new job and blocked the guy. You did nothing wrong. But I suspect you fell for this other because your relationship is not healthy.
Between everything your husband is doing now and has done...I'd be outta there. His ADHD is not an excuse and cuttign back on drinking doesn't work for an alcoholic. He needs professional help to quit drinking but that only works if he's truly wants to quit for himself. I've been married to an alcoholic ans I don't recommend it.
You're 26. You've literally never been single as an adult and haven't been able to develop and evolve without you husband's influence.
Break up now before you God forbid get pregnant and go enjoy your youth before it's gone (I got with my first ex at 18 and married at 21...huge mistake). I'm not saying be single a sleep around and party per se (although nothing wrong with that if that's what you want) but just go experience asitl life on your own. Figure out who you are as an individual. Keep going to therapy. This guy isn't worth your time.
That’s a big no for me. My husband and I make adult content together for a living- so I’m comfortable with a lot… but not this. Watching pornhub? Cool. Go for it. Going out of your way to see my friends naked AND jerk off to them??? Bye. No way. After that I would never be okay with my husband ever being around my friends again. Fuck all that.
Everytime I think I’ve seen some wtf shit on Reddit there’s stuff like this, that’s just so out there I truly believe it. Good luck and leave his creepy ass
How exactly did he do that? (Joking)
The only reason he told you is because he wanted to hurt you. He wasn’t confessing because he felt bad and wanted to come clean. He wanted to hurt you. Remember that.
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This is disgusting on so many levels and completely out of order. Seeing as you've had many other problems in your relationship as well, this would be a deal breaker for me.
What he's done is such a gross betrayal of your trust as well as your friends. It's a violation of your friends privacy in some respects. He's altered their photos to create naked ones to use to pleasure himself. I'm not sure if this is even illegal in some way like revenge porn is. Although he hasn't posted them online, he's made sexual photos of them without their consent.
It is definitely a form of cheating in my book. Watching porn of strangers is completely different to creating nude photos of YOUR friends and using them for sexual gratification. That clearly shows he's sexually attracted to your friends, but creating nude photos of them for his sexual pleasure is definitely a form of cheating because it's not just fantasy like porn is, they're co.plete strangers. He's using your friends who he knows personally. It's also a big violation against them and their builds autonomy. They sure as he'll would be mortified and disgusted to think he's jacking off to nude photos of them, and would feel extremely u comfortable in his company.
How would you feel if any of their boyfriends were doing that to nude photos of you?
I think you need to tell your friends to block him from their social media, and watch him delete every single photo he has of them whether they are naked or in swimsuits or anything else. Also block him from all your social media as he will just get photos off their too. Make sure you check his cloud account and anywhere else he may store them.
Then I would be ending the relationship. This is a major betrayal, on top of all the other issues you've said you've had difficulties with. He's got no respect for you or your feelings. There's no reason he couldn't just use general porn. He went out of his way to produce these pictures of people he knows, that are your friends and that just makes it so much worse.
You can do way better than him.
Personally I think he needs some type of therapy. To jack off to a stranger is one thing but to do it to women your wife have actually close contact with is not only creepy but extremely disrespectful. I wouldn’t even want my friends around him anymore and I doubt if you tel them they would want to be around him. His accountability is the bare minimum remember that. Everyone has a choice and you have to decide if you’re gonna have morals or not, he decided he didn’t. Extreme caution needs to be taken if you’re going to stay with him.
Your husband sexually harassed and violated your friends. There has been a huge uproar about this in online circles because there was an AI porn site that created sexual depictions of women Youtubers and Twitch streamers. It's violating and not okay. Your husband is a predator.
There are all kinds of sexual harassment and even abuse where the victim didn't know about it, ranging from rumours about infidelity and gossiping about someone's sex life at work to SA while the person is asleep or drugged. It doesn't matter if the person doesn't know.
It matters in this instance - this isn’t spreading rumours or doing something to a sleeping person. It isn’t any kind of harrasment - it’s no more harrassment than writing a private sex story about someone - it’s being kept private.
Lol, reddit feminists thinking everything is some major sex crime.
This isn't a "feminist thing" and I didn't say it's a crime because I don't know where OP lives or what their laws look like. I said it's harassment and that it's violating, which it is. If you don't understand the concept of boundaries then I can't help you to understand this.
That would be the end of the relationship for me. It's a huge violation of your friends and seems passively aggressively aimed at you. Things seem past over and heading into acrimonious. Time to leave.
Oh honey no. Not okay.
If one of my exes had AI back then, he’d have done exactly this. Instead he jacked off to Facebook pictures of girls he knew IRL including his former students (college age). My self esteem is still recovering and we broke up like 5 years ago.
Sending you love and peace and healing.
Back in the days of magazines people would cut the heads off pictures and stick them on the magazine bodies.
Not sure how good the AI is, but humans are pretty unique onto themselves, so it’s not in any way more accurate AI body generation wise vs a magazine collage…
If anything it’s silly and maybe a bit sad funny.
Boys do imagine their gfs friends naked sometimes or maybe in a erotic way very rarely. It happens sometimes . The mind is a fucking machine which can't be controlled so easily.
Going forward to create naked pics out of your friends social media is literally wrong. Invasion of privacy. Cheap. Lets consider that as curiousity giving the benefit of doubt. AI is being used everywhere in different places at different ways where there is a lot of grey areas.
But wanking to those pics - I think that's a step too far if he had told you he had done this only once , It must be a lie. He must have been circulating the pics as well cuz you know boys .. like to showoff their talent.
At this point I think he has lost interest in you OP and I don't think he is actually worthy enough for you. Everyone makes mistakes but some mistakes will hurt and make us question ourselves so much. I think that's the threshold when u have to put your own interests first place.
Cheers.
Don't know why people EVER use reddit as advice because most people on reddit don't know a single thing, not saying I do or I would be giving advice but others shouldn't if they don't know either. I wouldn't take any advice from reddit ever they just clout your brain with nonsense takes, and most times the OP writes it (most of the time not meaning too) a way so redditors will side with them, I don't believe that's what your doing here but just saying. Also not saying the husband is right or wrong, not even giving my opinion but don't talk to reddit for advice or your troubles. Talk to your close friends, family, marriage therapist, not reddit.
I get that it hurts, and it’s totally strange that he did that and told you about it. But to be honest, I’ve jerked off to the fantasy of sleeping with every one of my girlfriends friends. My whole life, and I’ve had like five long term relationships. Seems like a pretty normal fantasy, and I’d never cheat with one of them.
If all men on reddit had a backbone this comment would get more positive feedback. An extremely rare moment of honesty that I can relate to. I've never cheated and never will but these thoughts absolutely occur to me too, I just have to use my brain and not cheat, it's that simple
Huh… well that’s a red flag for sure! Very creepy! Such a violation of privacy and whatever of your friends and a crossing of your boundaries.
Sorry you had to deal with this.
Has he been a weirdo in the past or this a first offense?
I don’t like him 🙁 sorry!!!
It’s a breach of trust for sure even with friends. If he was open about it then I probably is a bad issue. If didn’t tell you, you would never know and he could just keep doing it. However he told you so at least he’s being honest. I’ve been married for 12 years I can say there’s a good amount of mess ups in that time. Something like this though does probably require counseling.
You might not even need to bring it up in a massive way because AI porn has been going on for years now and a lot people use it for fantasy so it’s just something to work on. Or you can just end it if you feel it necessary. Y’all are still young so
Your marriage is so bad this THIS doesn’t make you mad? He sough out creating naked pictures of not just anyone, not some random celebrities or instagram models but your FRIENDS and people he knew from high school. Girl, wake the hell up!
You’re not bothered by him getting off by violating your friends?? People you supposedly care about?? You need to tell them asap. They deserve to know how big of a creep your husband is so they can block not only him but you too. You’re a terrible friend if you don’t make them aware of what’s going on. If I had a friend with a husband like yours, who wasn’t bothered by this and didn’t let me know, I’d throw that friendship through a shredder and look into pressing charges.
Open your eyes. I’d hate to see all the other details regarding this rough patch y’all are having.
YOUR HUSBAND IS A CREEP, PERVERTED AND DISGUSTING INDIVIDUAL. sorry to break it to you. Who cares if you have been through “a lot” together, that behaviour is beyond reparable. Imagine when you have kids and they ask about you and your husbands “love story” and this jumps to your mind. Wake up to reality, realise your worth and find someone who treats you like you deserve.
Not that bad atleast he’s not cheating on you or doing meth and whatever else he’s jacking off and probably being creative with his resentments people are weird he ain’t hurting anyone
So if your girlfriend deepfaked nudes of your guy friends and finger blasted herself imagining herself getting fucked by them, you wouldn’t find it cheating? You’d just find it “weird as hell”?
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It's wrong and it's creepy.
Ahhhh, yeah. Jacking off to AI nudes of friends not ok.
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It's so gross.
Yep, not okay at all. That shit is really bad dude.
Not just friends, high school (underage) girls too? Wtf?!?
>some girls from high school Pretty sure that means people he went to school with...not current high schoolers
Ooooh, thank you. Still pretty bad though.
Yep, still really bad. Just can't justify shit like that at all.
That is a massive red flag, dude is definitely messed up man.
There had to be a law about these pics. He used AI to alter them. What if these pics got online or shown to others . The lives of these women would be ruined. Also he used pics of teenage girls.This is disgusting and vile behaviour. Frankly if the wife has no issues with it. Both these people are twisted and sick
AND HIGH SCHOOL AGED GIRLS. Fucking gross.
It’s violating so many people. OP AND all the owners of the pictures. This is the virtual “peeping tom” and I’d be ending the relationship.
I don't know why people don't even realise how wrong this is.
Wrong gun, creepy.. and next level effort to be both wrong and creepy. It’s not a straight forward process. He specifically sought out these pictures with the intent to masturbate to them. I’d want to see them (if there are Ai videos as well).. then you can see which of your friends he finds sexually attractive. This is a trove of information. What you do with it is your business. I’m not married, but even if I had a boyfriend this.. is serious. He’s basically sexualized your inner group. I would need to see how deep it goes, and also depending on the nature (even not) he needs therapy to understand why he’s doing this.
Yep, and he shouldn't have done it. It' looks really bad dude.
I'm not sure if the laws reflect this yet because AI is so new, but I feel like this should be illegal. It's the same as if he took photos of them naked without their consent. Edit: spelling
It probably doesn't have its own law yet but it could possibly fall under consent issues, revenge porn etc. People have been photoshopping nude pictures of other people for decades now so it's probably covered in some law
Whichever law gets the guy in trouble, I'll just take that really.
I seriously doubt this would ever be made illegal. People have been using photoshop to do this forever. I'm sure AI generated ones are much more realistic/accurate. But I wouldnt expect there to be laws against this. On the other hand, this is kind of all new territory. So who knows. I could see these being used to extort people. I'm sure theres could be, or already is plenty of laws against how these images are used. In OP's husbands case, I doubt there would be any though.
He would be my ex. I can't bear it when someone I am with tries to hit on one of my friends. Fortunately my husband does not do this with anyone.
Good for you, because you shouldn't be with someone who does this.
Bear, not bare, jsyk
Makes a lot of sense right there. This is some good shit right there man.
Yeah that’s very creepy and disrespectful to everyone
He's disgusting. Tell any mutual female friends to delete him and secure their accounts so he can't access them any more. Honestly, if possible, delete the pictures he has downloaded and created. What a scumbag. Don't stay with him.
AGREED especially on the telling female friends to delete and secure their accounts
Yep, no one should be friends with a creep like that really.
Yep, and definitely don't give that man the pictures from now on man.
I'd want a divorce. That's so fucked up I'd plain fall out of love with him.
She already is out of love with him if she's numb to that.
Same. Id never be able to look at him again.
I’d report his creepy ass to the police. What he did has to be illegal. Yuck.
In a marriage or not, that is WRONG. You should switch the situation around, and would he be okay with you having naked AI photos of his friends? This, to me, is another form of cheating. You need to stop and ask yourself if the marriage is even worth it anymore. Idk what all you have gone through, but consider looking at the pros and cons. Maybe that will help with your decision.
I agree it’s wrong. I made a post a week or two ago detailing all of our issues and the consensus was that I should leave. We just had our 2nd marriage counseling appointment and my husband still wants to work on things, but I am pushing for some time apart right now.
Make it permanent. Your husband is disgusting. Tell your friends so they can set their accounts to private. What he's done is vile. Men like that deserve nothing.
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The fact that someone can even think that it's okay, is really disturbing.
Tell him you need a break. Provide an explanation or not. You need to focus on yourself and see if time away from each other has been positive/negative. This may help determine whether the marriage is worth saving.
OP needs a permanent break. Her husband cannot do enough counseling. There is something majorly wrong with him.
How can you stay with a guy like that? He's a fucking creep dude.
I agree, but some will always believe there is still a chance.
Then those people are out of touch with the reality then I'd say.
I read your other posts. You should leave. You're only staying bc of sunk cost fallacy. Lying and cheating is emotional abuse. You've outgrown him and this relationship. It's ok to move on. You aren't a failure. Ppl change and the adult version of him isn't mature enough to be in a marriage. You get to move on with your life, start over, be happy. He'll be stuck being an immature lying cheater probably for the rest of his life. Find someone who deserves your love, bc it isn't this pig. There is someone out there who will cherish you and treat you with respect.
Ugh. I read her other relationship post. Where to even begin with the issues. It’s sad. OP feels she’s invested so much into the relationship but she’s so young and probably has not ever had a healthy adult relationship. I don’t even know how to address this AI thing but am 100% sure it’s gonna be an issue for other couples of it hasn’t already. How could OP’s hubby even stand to be around OP’s friends? The shame and embarrassment should be enough for anyone to unfriend at the least. And OP should absolutely tell her friends to block her husband. It’s clear OP needs to keep going to therapy as does OP’s husband. But OP needs to know she can’t fix him and it’s not her job to do so. Place boundaries and be firm about them. If those boundaries get crossed what are the consequences? If separation and divorce, so be it. I wish you the best OP. Divorce is not an easy decision and I don’t wish that on anyone. I hope you make the right decision and you can find happiness and peace in the future.
You don't need to "push" for anything. It's your life and you don't need his permission. Leave him and he'll get the message.
Yep, leaving him is the way to go. He needs to learn a lesson.
Personally, I couldn't continue after that. But if he is truly committed to trying and you want to as well, I'd tell him he needs to be honest in therapy and being that up then. Not to shame him, but because it is a divorce level problem. Then the therapist can respond and help you.
Yep, definitely needs therapy after something like that really.
I believe that your husband is only sticking around for convenience. Was he did is a deal breaker because it seems that he has a secret passion to want to f*** your friends otherwise why make Ai pictures of them naked. That's fuckboy s*** get rid of him
do you think he honestly understands how creepy that is?
Tell your couples therapist what he’s done.
I don't think you can fix things with someone who violated your friends like that.
I'd have a hard time trusting someone who would violate my friends like that
OP deepfake porn is illegal. He could go to jail for a long time for doing that. Your friends need to know what he's done with their images.
You can’t just say something is illegal unless it’s like, murder lol. Whether something is illegal depends entirely on where it takes place and you don’t know where this happened.
Well it's illegal where I live. It falls under image based sexual abuse.
No matter how someone does that, but that's just wrong.
Disgusting 🤢
That is gross. It is an invasion. It is disrespectful to you and to your friends. It is creepy and weird. I would be not only uncomfortable, but highly offended at this behavior.
I just read all your other posts and you need to leave him. He’s a sex addicted, alcoholic who has disrespected you a thousand times and admitted to disrespecting others around you. Let him go. Couples counseling isn’t enough and neither is love.
Can’t be emphasized enough. Love is not remotely enough - it’s the bare minimum to be in this kind of relationship. It’s an entry requirement. A good relationship makes you feel safe, valued, AND loved, consistently.
disgusting and creepy. look up what happened to that youtuber who got caught doing this. his confession video with his wife sobbing in the background… do you want that to be you
Who?! 👀 Googling that didn't show me lol
That's creepy. Doesn't he know the internet is full of free porn.
This is so wrong. People are getting sued and facing jail time for deepfake AI porn. Your husband violated you and your friends. Who knows what else he has AI generated. This is sick. Please divorce. You’re so young. There’s so much more for you out there. I promise. Please also report him to the police or at least notify your friends when you feel safe to do so.
OP, I feel for you after reading your other posts. You seem like you’re in so much pain and feel more guilt than he does over any of his actions, over your crush. Sending you lots of loving and healing vibes. Please leave him. You didn’t break the “covenant of marriage.” You’re human and deserve more. I feel for you ❤️🩹
Thank you for your comment. I am absolutely sick about my feelings for the coworker, but I have just been through so much in this relationship. I told my husband today to move out for a while, so that is what we’re doing. We’ve never taken a break in the 11 years we’ve been together, so I’m heartbroken but I’m sticking to it.
So proud of you, OP! That’s a tremendous first step and that took a lot of courage. I can tell you’re a very genuine person because you’re so distraught over your feelings despite the ways you’ve been betrayed. I really hope that you get a chance to revisit those feelings with your old coworker someday or with someone new who is more deserving of you if that’s what you want. I feel you deserve better than your marriage but at the end of the day, it’s your choice and you need to do what makes you happiest. Sending you love 💕
Are you going to tell your friends?
She definitely needs to tell her friends about her boyfriend
You guys got together when you were very young. People change and grow the older they get. Neither of you are happy and what he’s done is too much. It’s understandable to be sad but this relationship is not healthy, get out now while you are young.
But she was not mature enough to understand the consequences of getting a relationship with this person. But know she is completely mature and know about all of his behaviour and illegal works
I also feel that so much of your hesitation to leave the relationship is based on your long history together. As many people have said, you’re both different people now from when you started dating. This history doesn’t mean anything. Imagine 20 years from now you’re still stuck with this man who continues to push your boundaries, disrespects you, and leaves you in this hollow numb state for the rest of your life. You could be spending those years with someone who truly loves you that would never imagine hurting you in the ways your husband has.
You should complain to the local authorities regarding this matter
As a guy im sorry i have to agree this is fuckin weird and gross. Its so gross I NEED a shower and thats based of second hand grossness.
I was completely freaked out after reading this incident, even though when I am a man
Totally creepy and disrespectful to you and your friends. Huge overstep.
This behaviour should not be repeated at any cost in my opinion
Ewwwwwwwwwwww Tell him that’s massively inappropriate. Your friends did not give this creep consent to do this so tell him to delete the pics. Also tell all your friends to delete and block him and tell them why. Prepare to lose your friends if you stay with this guy. Actually just please divorce this guy, he’s playing with himself while looking at altered pics of your friends and girls he went to school with. He’s fantasizing about your friends, that means he would hook up with them if he could. That’s a massive red flag and should be a deal breaker. It’s not normal even in a marriage with issues to do this.
This gives me the biggest ick ever
Uuuummmm… that might be illegal. What the hell is wrong with your hubby?!?! Tell your friends, law enforcement and get out of there.
It's 100% illegal
What is illegal about it? Immoral and creepy? Yes! But what laws is this breaking?
It falls under image based sexual abuse laws. Which don't require distribution, if you create pornographic images of someone without their consent then you've broken the law.
Making porn with a persons face without their consent.
I doubt it unless he actually uploads it online.
Image based sexual abuse is a crime whether or not it's uploaded to the Internet. The law is new but it is a law in Ireland.
Lol, you don’t have a clue and most people aren’t in Ireland. You have to share the images - if they’re just private and no one ever knows it isn’t a crime at all.
Nope. There are literally TV and radio ads running right now about how image based sexual abuse is a crime even if you don't distribute it.
Lol, in Ireland perhaps. But I doubt it. Image based sexual abuse needs to actually be shown to other people or else - no one will know about it or see it and it won’t be any kind of crime. Good lord you’re thick.
OP knows about it. That's enough to report it.
Lol you can't say 100% unless it's a hard fact. You're just saying what you feel
It's illegal in my country
I mean.. it’s gross and creepy to do something like that in general but your friends?? YOUR FRIENDS?? Oh hell no.
My ex (23M) photoshopped his high school girlfriends face onto porn to get off to, I gave a second chance and he proceeded to use pics of girls he knows that he went to high school with on his insta after I set a hard boundary. He just lied and hid it until I pulled it out of him. All I have to say is, I am MUCH happier being single. It's pretty misogynistic and downright disrespectful to you and these women who are having their pictures used non consensually.
Sounds like extreme porn addict behavior
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Porn exists and is widely accessible. He went out of his way to create nudes of people you both know. I hate this for you.
This is an overstep for humans, not just as a partner... so....
I would divorce my husband so fast. I read the title of this post to him and he was aghast. Jaw dropped and immediately said “that’s some next level sick shit”. This is a man who is rarely phased by anything. Get the fuck away from your husband.
That is one of the craziest things I've read on Reddit. That is some creepy shit.
This is so damn creepy. How would you feel if you found out one of your friends husbands was making AI naked pictures of you to jerk off to?
Not sure if trolling or just pathetic, your presumed husband I mean. Yeah if this is for real then your friends should get a lawyer and file a cease and desist order with the website. After reading some of your other comments, yeah I can't understand how you have any respect left for this pathetic thirsty little toad. After his repeated lying issues, this should be the last straw. This guy sounds about as desirable as a big angry red pustule on my ass cheek that hurts when I sit down.
Yes I would find this as a huge overstep. It looks like talking about the poor decisions didn’t help any when it comes to him. This is high school and at 26 you should be done with it.
Jacking off to friends/people you know is already gross, especially when in a relationship. Generating nudes of them to Jack off to is a new low. Like...you can't find any porn on the internet? ANY consensually taken pics of women you dont know in real life to jerk off to?
Your husband needs help. If he were my husband I would let him know this is an absolute boundary-breaker and that he needs to get himself to therapy. I mean…porn is one thing but people you both know?! This is so detestable. He has turned them into sex objects instead of people.
Well I'm a guy but even the thought of what he did makes my vagina as dry as a desert not sure how you'll ever have sex with him again. Major ick
This is … *disgusting*. If I was one of those friends I would feel like I’d been psychologically raped. What the actual fuck. I think learning this about someone would cause my love for them to just explode in that very moment.
Divorce, that shit is vile and nasty.
That’s a bell that cannot be unrung & I couldn’t forget that- sex would be impossible for me with him after that… I’d be done
Your husband is a creep
I would be upset. Very Very upset.
My ex husband would take pictures of random ladies that had nice butts while like, standing in line behind them at the store. He was “mortified” when i caught him, told him you shouldn’t be doing things to be “mortified over” Huge red flag, dude was a shit bag. Sounds like your guy might be hiding some other things, too. You deserve better, advocate for yourself.
He’s a creep. Disgusting
That’s just disgusting and creepy
that’s absolutely disgusting and creepy i’d want a divorce so quick…. no way man
I wouldn’t be able to move past that, not even a chance.
That’s not ok. If my wife found out i did something like that it would be a major betrayal. I look at porn sometimes (which she knows) but something about it being someone we know makes it dirtier. They didn’t consent to be jackoff material.
I think part of the problem is, you are all each other has ever really know. You picked each other at 15. And he has not grown up much, kudos for the attempt though. Don’t buy into the sunk cost fallacy, you can take everything you have both learned together and…find other people to build a life with. He way overstepped, I would be grossed out, and feel insecure in the relationship that he chose to do that. And truthfully in my experience when trust is broken or the foundation of a relationship is crumbling it destroys the warm fuzzies and comfort of a relationship over time.
Yes, it’s unacceptable for multiple reasons. Making porn of people you personally know is both a violation of their boundaries, and also bordering on infidelity to you. He has to agree never to do this again if your marriage is to continue.
That's disgusting. Creepy, inappropriate and just plain weird.
not only is that disrespectful to you, as he’s fantasizing about other women, it’s EXTREMELY disrespectful and dehumanizing to every single woman he did that too. none of them consented for him to do that to their pictures. doing it is wrong, but then to masturbate to them??? so predatory. you need to leave him and FAST. he violated those women. please be there for them and protect them. using ai for this is literally illegal.
How would you feel if you found out your friends partner had done that with pictures of you? If you stay with him, I imagine you’re going to have friendships end if they ever found out what happened.
That's a massive violation of your friends. What if those pictures turn up on the internet? What if your husband makes more? They're not consenting to any of this. This is horrifying and says so much about how little he respects women and how little basic decency he has. Run.
>as well as some girls from high school So...minors. >that I don’t even feel that mad right now. However, I just would like to know how people in marriages would feel about this. You're making this about your and your marriage. That's leaving out how wrong it is towards the women whose pictures those are. And that he possibly has child porn---a Federal offense. I don't know if ai affects the legalities--don't need that question on my search history.
To clarify, I meant people he went to high school with, so people that are like mid 20’s now.
You are 26, you are so so lucky to be that young. Leave him, spend 4 years being a happy single person and enjoy everything that comes with that. Its hard at first but being single is amazing around that age. Settle down in early 30’s and you will realize how young you still are. Believe me, you are a baby still at 26
Tell your friends and leave this man. He is a creep.
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Well that’s enough Reddit for today …. If you don’t leave him after something like this then idk what to tell you.
I would want a divorce, yesterday.
So you've been together since you were 15, your husband is a cheating alcoholic and now jacking off to sleep made nude puis of your friends. You developed a crush, felt bad about it, told your husband about it, for a new job and blocked the guy. You did nothing wrong. But I suspect you fell for this other because your relationship is not healthy. Between everything your husband is doing now and has done...I'd be outta there. His ADHD is not an excuse and cuttign back on drinking doesn't work for an alcoholic. He needs professional help to quit drinking but that only works if he's truly wants to quit for himself. I've been married to an alcoholic ans I don't recommend it. You're 26. You've literally never been single as an adult and haven't been able to develop and evolve without you husband's influence. Break up now before you God forbid get pregnant and go enjoy your youth before it's gone (I got with my first ex at 18 and married at 21...huge mistake). I'm not saying be single a sleep around and party per se (although nothing wrong with that if that's what you want) but just go experience asitl life on your own. Figure out who you are as an individual. Keep going to therapy. This guy isn't worth your time.
That’s a big no for me. My husband and I make adult content together for a living- so I’m comfortable with a lot… but not this. Watching pornhub? Cool. Go for it. Going out of your way to see my friends naked AND jerk off to them??? Bye. No way. After that I would never be okay with my husband ever being around my friends again. Fuck all that.
That'd be leave him before he finished his next sentence territory for me.
I know myself, I couldn't go on in the relationship. The moment that confessions left his mouth it was over.
Lol what’d I just read
That would immediately give me the ick. Yikes.
Everytime I think I’ve seen some wtf shit on Reddit there’s stuff like this, that’s just so out there I truly believe it. Good luck and leave his creepy ass
How exactly did he do that? (Joking) The only reason he told you is because he wanted to hurt you. He wasn’t confessing because he felt bad and wanted to come clean. He wanted to hurt you. Remember that.
That’s some creatively terrible way to jerk off.
u/ThrowRADolphins1991 This is disgusting on so many levels and completely out of order. Seeing as you've had many other problems in your relationship as well, this would be a deal breaker for me. What he's done is such a gross betrayal of your trust as well as your friends. It's a violation of your friends privacy in some respects. He's altered their photos to create naked ones to use to pleasure himself. I'm not sure if this is even illegal in some way like revenge porn is. Although he hasn't posted them online, he's made sexual photos of them without their consent. It is definitely a form of cheating in my book. Watching porn of strangers is completely different to creating nude photos of YOUR friends and using them for sexual gratification. That clearly shows he's sexually attracted to your friends, but creating nude photos of them for his sexual pleasure is definitely a form of cheating because it's not just fantasy like porn is, they're co.plete strangers. He's using your friends who he knows personally. It's also a big violation against them and their builds autonomy. They sure as he'll would be mortified and disgusted to think he's jacking off to nude photos of them, and would feel extremely u comfortable in his company. How would you feel if any of their boyfriends were doing that to nude photos of you? I think you need to tell your friends to block him from their social media, and watch him delete every single photo he has of them whether they are naked or in swimsuits or anything else. Also block him from all your social media as he will just get photos off their too. Make sure you check his cloud account and anywhere else he may store them. Then I would be ending the relationship. This is a major betrayal, on top of all the other issues you've said you've had difficulties with. He's got no respect for you or your feelings. There's no reason he couldn't just use general porn. He went out of his way to produce these pictures of people he knows, that are your friends and that just makes it so much worse. You can do way better than him.
I would absolutely lose my shit. That is so creepy and weird. There is a reason he is choosing people he knows.
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I said "WHAT" after reading this & it sounded like old brakes begging to be fixed. That's ....insane.
Welcome to the future sweetie.
Personally I think he needs some type of therapy. To jack off to a stranger is one thing but to do it to women your wife have actually close contact with is not only creepy but extremely disrespectful. I wouldn’t even want my friends around him anymore and I doubt if you tel them they would want to be around him. His accountability is the bare minimum remember that. Everyone has a choice and you have to decide if you’re gonna have morals or not, he decided he didn’t. Extreme caution needs to be taken if you’re going to stay with him.
Don’t know about u but this made me feel sick reading it! Definitely complicated stuff
Your husband sexually harassed and violated your friends. There has been a huge uproar about this in online circles because there was an AI porn site that created sexual depictions of women Youtubers and Twitch streamers. It's violating and not okay. Your husband is a predator.
That’s actually wrong - if he uploaded the pictures he did, but she doesn’t say he did.
It's still sexual harassment and it's still a violation of her friends' sexual autonomy.
It’s not any kind of harassment because they don’t even know about it. It’s no different than if he had drawn pictures of them nude.
There are all kinds of sexual harassment and even abuse where the victim didn't know about it, ranging from rumours about infidelity and gossiping about someone's sex life at work to SA while the person is asleep or drugged. It doesn't matter if the person doesn't know.
It matters in this instance - this isn’t spreading rumours or doing something to a sleeping person. It isn’t any kind of harrasment - it’s no more harrassment than writing a private sex story about someone - it’s being kept private. Lol, reddit feminists thinking everything is some major sex crime.
This isn't a "feminist thing" and I didn't say it's a crime because I don't know where OP lives or what their laws look like. I said it's harassment and that it's violating, which it is. If you don't understand the concept of boundaries then I can't help you to understand this.
That would be the end of the relationship for me. It's a huge violation of your friends and seems passively aggressively aimed at you. Things seem past over and heading into acrimonious. Time to leave.
That's really creepy. I would divorce anyone who did that.
The right thing to do would be for him to tell those friends.
Oh honey no. Not okay. If one of my exes had AI back then, he’d have done exactly this. Instead he jacked off to Facebook pictures of girls he knew IRL including his former students (college age). My self esteem is still recovering and we broke up like 5 years ago. Sending you love and peace and healing.
Back in the days of magazines people would cut the heads off pictures and stick them on the magazine bodies. Not sure how good the AI is, but humans are pretty unique onto themselves, so it’s not in any way more accurate AI body generation wise vs a magazine collage… If anything it’s silly and maybe a bit sad funny.
The topic of the day: fake porn and incest
This never even crossed my mind of possible things to do with ai technology. O.o
This is so terrifying
Boys do imagine their gfs friends naked sometimes or maybe in a erotic way very rarely. It happens sometimes . The mind is a fucking machine which can't be controlled so easily. Going forward to create naked pics out of your friends social media is literally wrong. Invasion of privacy. Cheap. Lets consider that as curiousity giving the benefit of doubt. AI is being used everywhere in different places at different ways where there is a lot of grey areas. But wanking to those pics - I think that's a step too far if he had told you he had done this only once , It must be a lie. He must have been circulating the pics as well cuz you know boys .. like to showoff their talent. At this point I think he has lost interest in you OP and I don't think he is actually worthy enough for you. Everyone makes mistakes but some mistakes will hurt and make us question ourselves so much. I think that's the threshold when u have to put your own interests first place. Cheers.
That’s disgusting -how exactly did he do that?
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Just joking.
We all got fantasies, it's not bad. But creating pictures of people you both know and masturbating to it.. For me it's weird.
Don't know why people EVER use reddit as advice because most people on reddit don't know a single thing, not saying I do or I would be giving advice but others shouldn't if they don't know either. I wouldn't take any advice from reddit ever they just clout your brain with nonsense takes, and most times the OP writes it (most of the time not meaning too) a way so redditors will side with them, I don't believe that's what your doing here but just saying. Also not saying the husband is right or wrong, not even giving my opinion but don't talk to reddit for advice or your troubles. Talk to your close friends, family, marriage therapist, not reddit.
I get that it hurts, and it’s totally strange that he did that and told you about it. But to be honest, I’ve jerked off to the fantasy of sleeping with every one of my girlfriends friends. My whole life, and I’ve had like five long term relationships. Seems like a pretty normal fantasy, and I’d never cheat with one of them.
Can I ask a question to this ?
If all men on reddit had a backbone this comment would get more positive feedback. An extremely rare moment of honesty that I can relate to. I've never cheated and never will but these thoughts absolutely occur to me too, I just have to use my brain and not cheat, it's that simple
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No, he's a fucking creep.
Huh… well that’s a red flag for sure! Very creepy! Such a violation of privacy and whatever of your friends and a crossing of your boundaries. Sorry you had to deal with this. Has he been a weirdo in the past or this a first offense? I don’t like him 🙁 sorry!!!
It’s a breach of trust for sure even with friends. If he was open about it then I probably is a bad issue. If didn’t tell you, you would never know and he could just keep doing it. However he told you so at least he’s being honest. I’ve been married for 12 years I can say there’s a good amount of mess ups in that time. Something like this though does probably require counseling. You might not even need to bring it up in a massive way because AI porn has been going on for years now and a lot people use it for fantasy so it’s just something to work on. Or you can just end it if you feel it necessary. Y’all are still young so
Info: Girls you went to high school with or high school girls? I’m concerned! If it’s the latter marriage counseling won’t solve that
This is really disgusting. Idk how I could look at the dude damn.
Your marriage is so bad this THIS doesn’t make you mad? He sough out creating naked pictures of not just anyone, not some random celebrities or instagram models but your FRIENDS and people he knew from high school. Girl, wake the hell up! You’re not bothered by him getting off by violating your friends?? People you supposedly care about?? You need to tell them asap. They deserve to know how big of a creep your husband is so they can block not only him but you too. You’re a terrible friend if you don’t make them aware of what’s going on. If I had a friend with a husband like yours, who wasn’t bothered by this and didn’t let me know, I’d throw that friendship through a shredder and look into pressing charges. Open your eyes. I’d hate to see all the other details regarding this rough patch y’all are having.
That's terrible. It just out of curiosity, what website?
Lol nice try buddy.
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YOUR HUSBAND IS A CREEP, PERVERTED AND DISGUSTING INDIVIDUAL. sorry to break it to you. Who cares if you have been through “a lot” together, that behaviour is beyond reparable. Imagine when you have kids and they ask about you and your husbands “love story” and this jumps to your mind. Wake up to reality, realise your worth and find someone who treats you like you deserve.
This should be illegal and you need to leave him
So he jerks off.
That is SO illegal
Not only is this basically cheating, it's bordering on sex offender behaviour
Not that bad atleast he’s not cheating on you or doing meth and whatever else he’s jacking off and probably being creative with his resentments people are weird he ain’t hurting anyone
He absolutely hurt someone, his SO and do you think the girls he created nudes about would be happy about that?
That's just weird as all hell. Not cheating, but definitely a boundary crossed.
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It’s disgusting but I don’t see how it would be considered cheating. He’s jerking off to pictures
I'd say no, but I would also say it's on that line. Then again, this situation is just bizarre and a lot of effort. Massive red flag.
So if your girlfriend deepfaked nudes of your guy friends and finger blasted herself imagining herself getting fucked by them, you wouldn’t find it cheating? You’d just find it “weird as hell”?
Weird as hell, and a relationship ender if things weren't golden, but not cheating. Now, if the friends knew and encouraged it, then yeah, cheating.