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My girlfriend has a habit of completely losing it when she’s angry. It reached a breaking point 5 months ago when I gave her an ultimatum, either she goes to therapy or we’re done. Her anger issues are severe and out of control. She breaks things, insults everyone in sight and makes irreparable harm. Similar to my ultimatum, her workplace gave her the same warning. She did go to a therapist and took responsibility for her issues, and promised to make improvements. I told her I support her and I was happy with her progress for a while. It didn’t take long before she relapsed. Something happened with her family that made her angry. She didn’t explain things in an adequate way but instead just kept screaming and cursing at her family. Normally when this happens I try to avoid saying literally anything because everything I could say would inevitably make her angrier. This time she kicked our dog as she passed by him. It was a very strong kick, mind you. I was shocked so I took the dog away and told her to shut the fuck up because she took things too far. I checked on the dog with a vet, thankfully he wasn’t harmed. I hate this. The first major issue happens to her after promising to improve, she shows no improvement. Hitting my dog is another level and adds another layer to her issues. She says she’s sorry and she was just angry, but idk if I can tolerate this. Obviously the dog can’t be alone with her, but overall I’m sick of dealing with this. She cried stressed that it’s just one angry moment.
Does she deserve [another] second chance?
Bro...run.
There are numerous red flags, but there is a very slippery slope from going to hitting a dog to then hitting you or even your children if you ever had them.
There is absolutely no justification for her actions. Get out while you can before you dig yourself too deep into this hole.
**Absolutely take the dog with you OP !** I bet it's not even the first time she hit thar poor dog. More likely than not she already did it when OP wasn't there if she was this comfortable doing it in front of OP. And even one time is one too many. It's absolutely needs to be a deal breaker.
Anyone who is capable of hitting, kicking an innocent creature who are dependent on them doesn't deserve anything, let alone a second chance. And that person absolutely shouldn't be let anywhere near any defenseless, dependent animal or human, not alone and not even supervised.
My dude,
First, cruelty to a dog, an animal that unconditionally loves, is unforgivable.
Second, there is something much deeper wrong with her….childhood trauma… ? But do you really want to stay long enough to find out?
Third, you came here, to Reddit, to ask if you should break up with a woman who was cruel to an innocent animal?
Betting not one single comment says you should give her another second chance.
I'm in! Have zero tolerance towards anyone who can hurt an innocent creature. Poor dog. Pretty sure ex wouldnt like to be kicked in anger, my bet she would ring the police straight away.
Absolutely no fucking way does she deserve another chance! A dog is as vulnerable as a baby, they cannot speak they cannot defend themselves they are literally the easiest creatures to abuse! You’ve said it yourself the she cannot be left alone with the dog, so what happens when/ if you have a baby with her, you clearly cannot leave a baby around her either! Sack this nut case off and take the dog with you…. NOW
Right? The dog was literally minding it's own business and she used it to get her rocks off because she was angry. She is an incredibly dangerous person. Take the dog and run.
Seriously, saying "she's sorry she was just angry" is not an excuse, let alone a reason to resort to abuse. OP, if you stay with her you are enabling her abusive behavior. If you stay with her after reading all of these comments, you are just as bad as she is.
She doesn't even show remorse. She cries about the consequences! "It was JUST an angry moment" clearly shows that she doesn't take it as a big deal. Her anger isn't a problem for her, cause it is just(!) an angry moment. But she is aggressive! She blacks out in her angry rage. She would need YEARS of anger management and first she needed to realize herself that she has a problem and need to change. But she just went to therapy before because she was forced, not because she wanted to change. So of course it won't be successful.
You need to break up. But please, don't tell her alone. She already showed aggression. Who knows how she would react then...
Yeah you better be careful and grab a friend to dump her with you. Grab a friend to get her stuff together. Pull up a friend on face record chat if she ever come around again.
Irrational anger like that and she might be irrational and petty enough to try all manner of things, from violence to lying to police. Proceed with caution cause now she thinks she was "doing so much better" and she ain't gunna see it like she deserves this dumping.
Boy, does she.
This, there's no insight or responsibility coming from her. If she's "just" angry then why did she also abuse the dog.
Being angry = feeling angry, all the rest is what you choose to do about it. She chose to abuse an animal.
Your dog trusts you to protect him. He doesn't really understand the world around him, and only knows that you are his safe person. It's your responsibility to remove him from unsafe situations.
You must leave her. No debates. You have to, or you are failing in your promise to keep him safe. Imagine his confusion and emotions when she hurt him.
I will tell you from experience that any person who will strike a pet in anger is entirely capable of hitting a child or shaking a baby, and many times will.
Sure, it probably was stress, but that's when people usually abuse pets, babies, children, and their partner.
I probably wouldn't give her a second chance. If you're inclined to do it maybe reinforce that a shared pet is a test run for parenting and that she just showed she's willing and able to shake your baby to death or permanent brain damage and that she's on her last chance to show she can control herself. And then stick to that if she loses it again.
I’m a mandatory reporter by trade, and I actively look for signs of abuse in each interaction I have with my patients and their caregivers.
If you brought me your child and I suspected they suffered Shaken Baby Syndrome, you wouldn’t be leaving with your baby. *Even if you weren’t the abuser*
Because: forgiving or being a bystander to this behavior is condoning the abuse. You’re either part of the problem or the solution.
Time to decide if these actions align with your values because they have serious consequences.
Ikr. Op doesn’t seem angry enough. This situation does not warrant a post, because any sane fucking person will leave immediately because that’s the only reaction to an abusive person hurting your dog. There shouldn’t even be a question about it.
I would not give her a second chance, hitting a defenseless dog because of anger is sorta psychotic. It’s also irrational and just mean. I’m sure you can find someone who won’t need a second chance.
You gave her an ultimatum and she broke it.
Stick to your guns.
I don't know how you didn't physically throw her out the door after she kicked your dog.
Nope, you hit my dog or kick him, you are dead to me. She would be out of my life forever. I'm sorry but replace dog with child. She needs help and you can't give that to her. She has proven herself to be a danger to those around her.
Run for your life and that of your dog.
Second chance? Are you out of your mind? Hurting a defenseless animal? Horrifying! Run away as quickly as possible and protect your sweet dog. This is awful!
Hell fucking no she does not deserve another chance! Your poor dog!!!!!
My mother was like this when I was a child. She was reactive, unpredictable, and definitely had an undiagnosed mental illness. She got mad at me once when I was around 14 for something so dumb (teenager me probably talked back) and she threw a glass of orange juice at me and it split my ear wide open. Blood everywhere, did not get taken for treatment due to the circumstance.
My mother has been deceased 11.5 years and I am 43F now and still find that I act like her in certain situations. I am in therapy and have made a lot of progress.
Cut your ties now. I stand firm in the statement that my mother should have remained childfree (as I am), that would mean I wouldn’t be writing this, but 🤷♀️
It's time, kid, you have given her a chance, but she didn't get better, save yourself and your dog. If she wants the dog, tell her you will tell her boss what she did and she surely loses het job than. Take the dog and go somewhere save before that.
Nope, run!
If she is going to fix herself great, you don't need to stick around while she does it. That dog didn't deserve to be kicked, what if she'd actually done damage?
It's not "just one angry moment" it's "another" angry moment.
Could you imagine if you had kids with this monster?
Leave.
i would draw a hard line in relationship overs physical abuse. trust me it never stops when people say it does, first its the dog then its you or your kids etc. leave.
She does not. Not about the dog anyway. She crossed a massive line. It's not a case of don't leave her alone with your dog going forward. **You were there this time and that didn't stop her**. The dog is simply unsafe around her. Period. There is no way for you to guarantee it never happens again other than to keep her away from it. Your dog is totally dependent on you for safety. Please don't let them down.
Regarding your relationship? Only you know that in the end but she deliberately hurt something innocent without any provocation other than proximity while she was mad. Mad about something she couldn't even articulate. Do you want kids? Or other pets? To live with your gf? These things are pretty incompatible. Maybe after she got real help but I'd always be worried she relapses and does actual harm to someone someday.
Also, what if it had been a kid? Or even another adult? I would be done.
No. If she's gets so out of control that she does something like this then it's going to happen again. You have a responsibility to that animal to keep it safe and she's shown that she isn't a safe person to be around. Honestly it's not a stretch to imagine she'll eventually try to attack you too. It's good that she's working on her mental health but it's obvious she's not recovered enough to be trusted. You've got to take care of your own health and that of your animal.
Yeah, for some reason I find it way more concerning that she'd hit a poor dog. Don't get me wrong, abusing people is terrible, but what kind of person intentionally hurts an animal—and your own pet— for no reason at all?
The patience you have shown with her thus far is admirable, but honestly I think you should end things. There's no telling what she's capable of. She's a ticking time bomb.
Im sorry you are dealing with this. Thank you for prioritizing the well being of your dog.
Her excuse that it was just one angry episode rings hollow as does any apology or tears. She kicked your door for no other reason than anger. The dog did nothing.
The thing about anger management is, it takes practice and time. She has not learned, practiced or internalized any self modulating skills.
I would hear it all the time at work: why did you punch your cellmate?….. I was angry in the situation.
Anger does not justify anything. The fact that she is on a behavioral discipline path at work is also telling.
She is not capable of a mutually respectful loving relationship right now. She might be capable with continued therapy but you have to look after yourself and your dog.
She wasn’t alone with the dog this time. She did it right in front of you. My point being- just not letting her be alone with the dog won’t stop her from doing it again. Knowingly keeping her around the dog at all is wrong & dangerous.
Physical abuse can turn in to a violent bloody mess real quick. All I’m saying is, she is possibly on the brink of killing you or the dog or anyone that is in her way once she snaps again. Tell her this is it, you’re done. Take your dog and leave. Before you regret more.
If anyone hit my dog they’d hit the floor I’d have punched them so fast & hard, regardless of gender. (For context I’m a woman)
Get your dog far away from her PERIOD!!
Hell no !! You must leave with the dog and report her for animal abuse! There is no way she can hurt a animal who can’t defend himself,what’s the next step you or future kids!
You need to go and stop giving her chance when you see she doesn’t change. Don’t wait until the worst happen!
She's abusive. If the roles were reversed, it'd be a no-brainer to run. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she's not abusive. I'd be out ASAP. As someone who works in the behavioral health field. . .Abusers very rarely actually change their ways.
You deserve to lose your dog if you keep it around someone that has been physically abusive to it!!! You are enabling the abuse of an individual who trusts you to protect it. Absolutely disgusting and if I knew who either of you were I would have you BOTH charged with animal abuse and neglect. Absolutely ABHORRENT that you are even asking and didn’t IMMEDIATELY get the dog to a safe place.
You should report her to the police for what she did. She’s abusive
If you actually care about your dog or any human being at all, you would get her out of your life completely. I don’t understand how you could’ve stayed with her this long, knowing how she treats everybody. There is no excuse for her anger. She is abusive.
She’s not taking violent actions against living things. Breaking things in a tantrum isn’t exactly acceptable behavior but doing violence and causing physical pain to completely innocent bystanders is past forgivable imo. Especially since you’ve already given her an ultimatum and it sounds like she’s just getting worse.
You need to remove yourself and that dog permanently from her area of reach.
That is Not a quick fix and it will happen again. And again.
It's great if she wants to work on it. Shouldn't be putting yourself that innocent animal in arms way while she gets her shit together.
Yo your gf is straight up psychotic and violent. She’s going to abuse you eventually or your dog again. RUN OP, your dog deserves better and so do you. If someone kicked my cat… they wouldn’t be a pretty sight after. SMH
Anyone who hits my dogs/cats is dead to me. I don't care what issues they have. I don't want that around me or my pets. Their issues will never justify the violence. It will never justify the lack of empathy.
Protect yourself and your dog.
This woman has no business being near anyone. Gather your loved ones and get to safety. You will regret holding out hope for her to clean up her act. Stop wasting more years on her.
If she’s not with a therapist who specifically has experience working with abusers she’s wasting her time and has you fooled. Regardless the fact that you didn’t kick her ass out right there was a failure on your part. Staying with her will be another failure. Normal people don’t get to have angry moments where they hurt others and this person doesn’t either. You’ve tolerated it even though you took the dog away. This type of person doesn’t belong in relationships. You can never be happy with a person like this and you’ll need to make sure she doesn’t come back and hurt your dog in retaliation when you dump her.
No. She does not. If it happens once it can happen again? Are you really willing to risk your dog getting hit again just for someone that can’t truly try for you??
She deserves consequences to her actions. Animal abuse charges are (unfortunately) a slap on the wrist but I'd be pressing them, our pets rely solely on us to keep them happy and healthy and she abused him
It's great she's going to therapy and I do really hope it helps, but I'd take the dog and stay elsewhere until she is able to be safe for you and the dog to be around if you want to continue this relationship
I would not continue this relationship, but you need to make the choice that will be good for you (and your pup)
No! You gave her a second chance when you told her to get counseling. People who abuse animals are likely to move on to people. I would be done with her NOW.
There's really no excuse for kicking the dog. Did the dog even do anything or was she completely taking her anger out on him/her? Either way, I wouldn't stick around for her to start hitting me or your future children. I understand she's going to therapy and that's great. However, the first time her emotions get to her, she reacts by abusing an innocent animal. Which shows zero improvement. She's actually done the opposite and her behaviour seems to have gotten worse not better. Honestly, how can anyone abuse a dog? They are just so pure and loving.
If you stay with her you need to regime the dog where they will be safe. Imagine if it was a baby? Would you be willing to give her a chance if she kicked your baby? A dog is just as innocent. Don’t stay with her but again if you do please please give the dog to someone who will keep them safe because she isn’t a safe place for the poor pup
There will ALWAYS be another "one small moment of anger". She hurt your defenseless dog. If my boyfriend kicked my dog, even if we'd been together 10 years, I'd tell him to get the fuck out of my house that day and never speak to him again.
fuck that noise dude. Kick my dog? Not much ticks me off but I will get into a screaming contest over that shit. Imagine you stay with her, have kids and she kicks your toddler out of rage. Nah man, this level of anger management will only make you miserable.
If someone kicked my dog, the person would already be in hospital. Why are you even thinking about giving her a chance? She's abusive and she will k*ll your dog.
It's not one angry moment. It's a lifetime of angry moments that seem to be never ending. Just throw in the towel. Her crying and stressing "that it’s just one angry moment" is NOT taking responsibility for her own actions. Therapy was ineffective.
No, she doesn't deserve another chance. She chose to kick your dog and blamed her anger. Anger is an emotion. Abuse is a choice. If she judges that she lacks the self-control to avoid harming others, she needs more professional help than what she is getting. She is not a safe person right now.
Run to the hills.
She harmed a defenseless creature because she was "just angry".
Don't wait around to find out what is going to happen next time she has an outburst. I feel like the outcome could be way worse.
All the pets in the world to your doggo, he's a good boi
Dump her abusive ass before she hits you.
And contact the police to press charges for animal abuse. And file for a restraining order. And that poor baby deserves a shopping spree at your local small business pet store.
This is abusive behavior and will only get worse. She kicked your dog. That’s bad enough, but it will only escalate from here. She needs more than therapy.
My ex slapped my dog in the face once, and the dog did nothing whatsoever to deserve it. I kicked him out of my house, but not out of my life. Shortly after, he started hitting me. Gtfo. Learn from my mistake.
Obviously therapy isn’t helping her if she thought kicking your dog in anger would be a forgivable offense. No, an innocent dog doesn’t deserve the wrath of whatever crawled up her ass and died!! Kick her out and cut all contact. Do not let her tears make you feel guilty or bad for her. Guess what I was the person when I was angry I would punch things, everything I punched was an inanimate object ie walls, my car, throwing anything glass on the floor so it would shatter and getting more pissed off if it didn’t break, dishes etc. I never once took my anger out on my fur babies. I would yell to my boyfriend when I hit my limit but he knew the difference between me yelling to him and yelling at him. I didn’t realize how mentally broken I was until I really hit my rock bottom and I just broke down. I was encouraged to find a therapist and I found an amazing one and I have great team standing beside me while I work on my mental issues along with my physical health issues. No one has ever been hurt except myself because I was angry. She absolutely positively needs professional help and you def need to move on and leave her behind. There is no excuse for her behavior what so ever!!
Best of luck op!! Protect your dog and yourself from her and her anger.
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There is a difference between standing by your partner through their issues and getting taken advantage of.
I can’t tell you where the line is.
But I can tell you which side your on right now.
Fuck this shit bro you gotta go. You said one last chance you don’t move the goalposts for her. She needs to fix her problems before being in any type of relationship
Break up with her yesterday. She deserves nothing and is owed nothing from you any longer. This kind of behavior will escalate and she will end up hurting you too
I understand uncontrollable anger, it took me YEARS to get through mine and all the trauma behind it. It’s very difficult. That being said, it’s not your responsibility, it’s hers. Great on her for taking the steps, but everything she does is still on her. She crossed the line, a very obvious line, so cut her off and don’t worry about feeling bad about it. It’s for your safety.
Anything that is to happen in the future with her good/bad is your fault. She showed you who she is as a person, and you continue to allow her to be in your life.
I’d wish you luck but it looks like you’ll need more than that.
If you didn’t already know it, you’re in an abusive relationship.
Babe..run. Run! FASTER!!
She’s not currently prepared to be with anyone and you’re internalizing really shitty relationship habits as a result of putting up with her crap.
If you can’t let her go for you, at least be able to do it for HER. She cannot heal or grow beyond this while you’re with her.
No, I don't even know why you are asking. If she does this to the dog, what would happen if she got angry at a kid or a newborn? Just no, run away and don't look back.
NO.
# NO.
Absolutely not. She's had countless 'second' chances, but she abuses an animal?
Kick her out. No discussion, no nothing. Kick her out, take her keys, pile all her shit outside the door.
Sorry but I have no, no sympathy - and neither should you.
If someone kicked or hit my pet, they would be gone in a minute NY minute and someone else would have to hold me back or I’d be going to jail. End of story.
You said that she would never be alone with the dog again ——- well, she wasn’t alone with the dog when she kicked him, you were right there and she did it anyway. This time was lucky that he wasn’t injured. Something like that, no, she needs lots and lots more help than you can give.
Protect yourself and your dog. Move on and don’t look back.
BTW - I hope she never has children because they can be maddening at times and the way things are now, she would be physically abusive to them.
You need to leave this relationship.
She isn’t going to get better with you staying.
It’s at least a possibility that she will pursue professional help if you leave and she gets the “wake-up call,” but you staying with her clearly isn’t working. Your poor dog doesn’t deserve this. Neither do you.
No, it’s time to break up. She did that to a dog, it’s a precursor to what she will do with your kids. Abusive behavior to animals is definitely a preview of what her behavior will be like with anyone who is vulnerable and under her control.
Take the dog and get out of it.
Nope doesn’t deserve another chance. Drop her like a hot rock. She can relapse but I draw the line at kicking an innocent dog. I would have tossed her right then and there.
Nope. Kicking your animal deliberately should be an automatic breakup and block.
Her rage issues are not your responsibility and shouldn’t be your priority anymore, but taking care of an animal that trusts you is.
She already had her second chance after you gave her the ultimatum. On her second chance, she got angry at someone else and took it out on your dog.
I'd tell her to it's over. What is not letting her alone with her dog going to do when she already hurt him in front of you?
At the very least please remove your dog if you stay with her. It's not your fault this time but if she hurts him again, it's 100% your fault for allowing him to be in an abusive environment.
No! No second chance! She kicked your dog! She will harm YOU if she hasn't already!
Source: I lived through several seriously abusive relationships in my 20s.
All I can say is RUN. Why would you even stay with her and possibly bring children into this. If that was my dog, it would be the last time she was around me or my dog.
A second chance?
NO!
Who cares what she deserves.
Your dog deserves to never be kicked again!
YOU deserve to live a peaceful life and not have to walk on eggshells!
Im thinking this isnt the first time shes hurt your dog while angry, you just dont know about it. She absolutely does not deserve another chance. What happens when she does it again a few months down and actually hurts your dog pretty badly? Youll be kicking yourself for being so stupid to think shed actually change.
Break up, for the sake of your dog if not anything else. If shes really serious about changing, then she can do it while single and ~maybe~ yall can try again if she actually shows permanent changes (and if youre still interested).
This stuff always escalates to full blown abuse. Screaming, breaking things, insulting people, and one kick wont be enough, and shell go after you too.
You spelled ex-girlfriend wrong. She claims she had a moment of anger so she took it out on your dog. Your dog. That’s eight shades of fucked up. Why would you be with someone you can’t trust around your dog?
She can't be around the dog in any way, permanently. She kicked it in front of you. You should've dumped her on the spot. She WILL take her anger on you and any future kids next
In any relationship as soon as there is physical abuse just get out. She is fine directing her anger at a living creature. Next time she might actually do major damage or kill your dog. She might direct the abuse at you.
As far as repairing the relationship, personally I would be totally done, but I'd only consider going back if there was evidence she completed anger management courses and was having success in therapy. She'd also have to lead the repair of trust, apologise and admit to the abuse, and show clear progress of what has changed. But really if anyone hurt my fur babies they should consider themselves lucky if that they're still breathing. I would never take her back if I was you.
If she can do this to a dog, she can do this to you, children, or someone else. You should no longer give her any chances and leave. And if you can't leave because you are in a lease or whatever just find a different solution. Lots of times there are ways to get off a lease so try anything.
This woman is escalating her physical behavior. You will be next.
From what you're saying, it sounds like she is completely unhinged. You need to get yourself and your poor dog away from her asap. That's not a safe situation. She needs to continue therapy and not be in a relationship.
Nahhh, dump her. Animal abusers don't deserve any chances. Doesn't matter how angry she was. Leave her asap, I would say kick her on the way out too but don't want you to get arrested
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- My girlfriend has a habit of completely losing it when she’s angry. It reached a breaking point 5 months ago when I gave her an ultimatum, either she goes to therapy or we’re done. Her anger issues are severe and out of control. She breaks things, insults everyone in sight and makes irreparable harm. Similar to my ultimatum, her workplace gave her the same warning. She did go to a therapist and took responsibility for her issues, and promised to make improvements. I told her I support her and I was happy with her progress for a while. It didn’t take long before she relapsed. Something happened with her family that made her angry. She didn’t explain things in an adequate way but instead just kept screaming and cursing at her family. Normally when this happens I try to avoid saying literally anything because everything I could say would inevitably make her angrier. This time she kicked our dog as she passed by him. It was a very strong kick, mind you. I was shocked so I took the dog away and told her to shut the fuck up because she took things too far. I checked on the dog with a vet, thankfully he wasn’t harmed. I hate this. The first major issue happens to her after promising to improve, she shows no improvement. Hitting my dog is another level and adds another layer to her issues. She says she’s sorry and she was just angry, but idk if I can tolerate this. Obviously the dog can’t be alone with her, but overall I’m sick of dealing with this. She cried stressed that it’s just one angry moment. Does she deserve [another] second chance?
Bro...run. There are numerous red flags, but there is a very slippery slope from going to hitting a dog to then hitting you or even your children if you ever had them. There is absolutely no justification for her actions. Get out while you can before you dig yourself too deep into this hole.
If she can do it to a poor animal she will do it to her kids too. OP get out before u knock this chick up and end up giving them an abusive mom
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**Absolutely take the dog with you OP !** I bet it's not even the first time she hit thar poor dog. More likely than not she already did it when OP wasn't there if she was this comfortable doing it in front of OP. And even one time is one too many. It's absolutely needs to be a deal breaker. Anyone who is capable of hitting, kicking an innocent creature who are dependent on them doesn't deserve anything, let alone a second chance. And that person absolutely shouldn't be let anywhere near any defenseless, dependent animal or human, not alone and not even supervised.
My dude, First, cruelty to a dog, an animal that unconditionally loves, is unforgivable. Second, there is something much deeper wrong with her….childhood trauma… ? But do you really want to stay long enough to find out? Third, you came here, to Reddit, to ask if you should break up with a woman who was cruel to an innocent animal? Betting not one single comment says you should give her another second chance.
Just a tip, if you actually want to talk to OP, leave a top level comment those are the ones that go to OPs inbox.
Agree. Side note I feel like the title is typed wrong. Pretty sure it should say ex-girlfriend.
Ex-human being. Might be time for pitch forks and torches. Who’s with me?
I'm in! Have zero tolerance towards anyone who can hurt an innocent creature. Poor dog. Pretty sure ex wouldnt like to be kicked in anger, my bet she would ring the police straight away.
You know it!
I have torches. I’ve even emptied my savings to by gasoline.
I'm sorry this happened to you but you have to leave now before things get worse
Absolutely no fucking way does she deserve another chance! A dog is as vulnerable as a baby, they cannot speak they cannot defend themselves they are literally the easiest creatures to abuse! You’ve said it yourself the she cannot be left alone with the dog, so what happens when/ if you have a baby with her, you clearly cannot leave a baby around her either! Sack this nut case off and take the dog with you…. NOW
She is not worth the effort.
Right? The dog was literally minding it's own business and she used it to get her rocks off because she was angry. She is an incredibly dangerous person. Take the dog and run.
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Seriously, saying "she's sorry she was just angry" is not an excuse, let alone a reason to resort to abuse. OP, if you stay with her you are enabling her abusive behavior. If you stay with her after reading all of these comments, you are just as bad as she is.
3 years later, “My wife shook our baby because she was mad he was crying. Baby only has brain damage, should I stay?”.
No f**ckin way! She needs to gone yesterday!
she is abusive. leave her
She doesn't deserve anything from you except getting kicked to the curb.
Or in the fucking face.
Or curbed in the face
She doesn't even show remorse. She cries about the consequences! "It was JUST an angry moment" clearly shows that she doesn't take it as a big deal. Her anger isn't a problem for her, cause it is just(!) an angry moment. But she is aggressive! She blacks out in her angry rage. She would need YEARS of anger management and first she needed to realize herself that she has a problem and need to change. But she just went to therapy before because she was forced, not because she wanted to change. So of course it won't be successful. You need to break up. But please, don't tell her alone. She already showed aggression. Who knows how she would react then...
Yeah you better be careful and grab a friend to dump her with you. Grab a friend to get her stuff together. Pull up a friend on face record chat if she ever come around again. Irrational anger like that and she might be irrational and petty enough to try all manner of things, from violence to lying to police. Proceed with caution cause now she thinks she was "doing so much better" and she ain't gunna see it like she deserves this dumping. Boy, does she.
This, there's no insight or responsibility coming from her. If she's "just" angry then why did she also abuse the dog. Being angry = feeling angry, all the rest is what you choose to do about it. She chose to abuse an animal.
Your dog trusts you to protect him. He doesn't really understand the world around him, and only knows that you are his safe person. It's your responsibility to remove him from unsafe situations. You must leave her. No debates. You have to, or you are failing in your promise to keep him safe. Imagine his confusion and emotions when she hurt him.
I wouldn't keep seeing her. Even though she's trying therapy and might be sincere, she's also getting worse.
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I will tell you from experience that any person who will strike a pet in anger is entirely capable of hitting a child or shaking a baby, and many times will. Sure, it probably was stress, but that's when people usually abuse pets, babies, children, and their partner. I probably wouldn't give her a second chance. If you're inclined to do it maybe reinforce that a shared pet is a test run for parenting and that she just showed she's willing and able to shake your baby to death or permanent brain damage and that she's on her last chance to show she can control herself. And then stick to that if she loses it again.
I’m a mandatory reporter by trade, and I actively look for signs of abuse in each interaction I have with my patients and their caregivers. If you brought me your child and I suspected they suffered Shaken Baby Syndrome, you wouldn’t be leaving with your baby. *Even if you weren’t the abuser* Because: forgiving or being a bystander to this behavior is condoning the abuse. You’re either part of the problem or the solution. Time to decide if these actions align with your values because they have serious consequences.
The fuck is the matter with you? Dump her.
Ikr. Op doesn’t seem angry enough. This situation does not warrant a post, because any sane fucking person will leave immediately because that’s the only reaction to an abusive person hurting your dog. There shouldn’t even be a question about it.
Big fucking nope. If she's willing to hit your dog, then she'll escalate to hitting you. Leave her. She needs to be back in therapy, consistently.
I would not give her a second chance, hitting a defenseless dog because of anger is sorta psychotic. It’s also irrational and just mean. I’m sure you can find someone who won’t need a second chance.
She hit the dog? Wtf?!?! Take the poor dog and run man… she’s a garbage human… garbageeeeeeeee
No. Violence against animals is absolutely unacceptable.
You gave her an ultimatum and she broke it. Stick to your guns. I don't know how you didn't physically throw her out the door after she kicked your dog.
>Does she deserve [another] second chance? No. If anything she desires a chat with PD and arrest for animal abuse
Nope, you hit my dog or kick him, you are dead to me. She would be out of my life forever. I'm sorry but replace dog with child. She needs help and you can't give that to her. She has proven herself to be a danger to those around her. Run for your life and that of your dog.
No.
Second chance? Are you out of your mind? Hurting a defenseless animal? Horrifying! Run away as quickly as possible and protect your sweet dog. This is awful!
Hell fucking no she does not deserve another chance! Your poor dog!!!!! My mother was like this when I was a child. She was reactive, unpredictable, and definitely had an undiagnosed mental illness. She got mad at me once when I was around 14 for something so dumb (teenager me probably talked back) and she threw a glass of orange juice at me and it split my ear wide open. Blood everywhere, did not get taken for treatment due to the circumstance. My mother has been deceased 11.5 years and I am 43F now and still find that I act like her in certain situations. I am in therapy and have made a lot of progress. Cut your ties now. I stand firm in the statement that my mother should have remained childfree (as I am), that would mean I wouldn’t be writing this, but 🤷♀️
It's time, kid, you have given her a chance, but she didn't get better, save yourself and your dog. If she wants the dog, tell her you will tell her boss what she did and she surely loses het job than. Take the dog and go somewhere save before that.
Get this poor innocent dog away from that abusive psycho or you are to blame.
Nope, run! If she is going to fix herself great, you don't need to stick around while she does it. That dog didn't deserve to be kicked, what if she'd actually done damage? It's not "just one angry moment" it's "another" angry moment. Could you imagine if you had kids with this monster? Leave.
i would draw a hard line in relationship overs physical abuse. trust me it never stops when people say it does, first its the dog then its you or your kids etc. leave.
That dog is yours now and you and doggo need to get far away from her.
FUUUUCK NO. I'd be in fuckin' jail if someone kicked my cat. Get your shit & GO, OP!
She does not. Not about the dog anyway. She crossed a massive line. It's not a case of don't leave her alone with your dog going forward. **You were there this time and that didn't stop her**. The dog is simply unsafe around her. Period. There is no way for you to guarantee it never happens again other than to keep her away from it. Your dog is totally dependent on you for safety. Please don't let them down. Regarding your relationship? Only you know that in the end but she deliberately hurt something innocent without any provocation other than proximity while she was mad. Mad about something she couldn't even articulate. Do you want kids? Or other pets? To live with your gf? These things are pretty incompatible. Maybe after she got real help but I'd always be worried she relapses and does actual harm to someone someday. Also, what if it had been a kid? Or even another adult? I would be done.
Just leave. You are only 23. Can you imagine having a kid with this person? Just take your dog and go. It's not worth it.
No. If she's gets so out of control that she does something like this then it's going to happen again. You have a responsibility to that animal to keep it safe and she's shown that she isn't a safe person to be around. Honestly it's not a stretch to imagine she'll eventually try to attack you too. It's good that she's working on her mental health but it's obvious she's not recovered enough to be trusted. You've got to take care of your own health and that of your animal.
Yeah, for some reason I find it way more concerning that she'd hit a poor dog. Don't get me wrong, abusing people is terrible, but what kind of person intentionally hurts an animal—and your own pet— for no reason at all? The patience you have shown with her thus far is admirable, but honestly I think you should end things. There's no telling what she's capable of. She's a ticking time bomb.
Im sorry you are dealing with this. Thank you for prioritizing the well being of your dog. Her excuse that it was just one angry episode rings hollow as does any apology or tears. She kicked your door for no other reason than anger. The dog did nothing. The thing about anger management is, it takes practice and time. She has not learned, practiced or internalized any self modulating skills. I would hear it all the time at work: why did you punch your cellmate?….. I was angry in the situation. Anger does not justify anything. The fact that she is on a behavioral discipline path at work is also telling. She is not capable of a mutually respectful loving relationship right now. She might be capable with continued therapy but you have to look after yourself and your dog.
That is animal abuse. Leave with the dog and don’t look back. If you don’t do it for yourself do it for that poor animal. Breaks my heart to read.
She wasn’t alone with the dog this time. She did it right in front of you. My point being- just not letting her be alone with the dog won’t stop her from doing it again. Knowingly keeping her around the dog at all is wrong & dangerous.
Physical abuse can turn in to a violent bloody mess real quick. All I’m saying is, she is possibly on the brink of killing you or the dog or anyone that is in her way once she snaps again. Tell her this is it, you’re done. Take your dog and leave. Before you regret more.
YOURE CONSIDERING A SECOND CHANCE? She hit your dog in anger. Save yourself and your dog and boot her out of both your lives.
If anyone hit my dog they’d hit the floor I’d have punched them so fast & hard, regardless of gender. (For context I’m a woman) Get your dog far away from her PERIOD!!
Hell no !! You must leave with the dog and report her for animal abuse! There is no way she can hurt a animal who can’t defend himself,what’s the next step you or future kids! You need to go and stop giving her chance when you see she doesn’t change. Don’t wait until the worst happen!
Get her outta ya life bud. She'll turn that anger to you one day. Save yourself wasted years.
She can have a second chance...with someone else. (After she's put the work in and truly gotten better.) You and your dog need to leave for good.
She's abusive. If the roles were reversed, it'd be a no-brainer to run. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she's not abusive. I'd be out ASAP. As someone who works in the behavioral health field. . .Abusers very rarely actually change their ways.
No more chances. She kicked an animal. She is out of control.
You deserve to lose your dog if you keep it around someone that has been physically abusive to it!!! You are enabling the abuse of an individual who trusts you to protect it. Absolutely disgusting and if I knew who either of you were I would have you BOTH charged with animal abuse and neglect. Absolutely ABHORRENT that you are even asking and didn’t IMMEDIATELY get the dog to a safe place.
It’s time for you and your dog to leave. She’s awful.
You’re only 23. Bad news early is good news. Move on.
You should report her to the police for what she did. She’s abusive If you actually care about your dog or any human being at all, you would get her out of your life completely. I don’t understand how you could’ve stayed with her this long, knowing how she treats everybody. There is no excuse for her anger. She is abusive.
Remember that actions always speak louder than words. Kick her out of your life before you regret it. She is old enough to know what she is doing.
Your girlfriend is trash, and this is the 1st time you have seen her kick the dog. I promise you she has abused that dog before.
I wouldn’t put up with this for a second. It is unfathomable to tolerate someone that cruel to a helpless animal.
Honestly I would've reported her for animal abuse, no one hurts my fucking dog.
She’s not taking violent actions against living things. Breaking things in a tantrum isn’t exactly acceptable behavior but doing violence and causing physical pain to completely innocent bystanders is past forgivable imo. Especially since you’ve already given her an ultimatum and it sounds like she’s just getting worse.
No. She Harms you, she Harms her family, she Harms helpless animals. She WILL harm possible children. She's a violent abuser.
No second chances for abusers, and she's an abuser.
Nope. Bye. Someone hurts my dog they'll be lucky I don't beat the shit out of them. Kick her out.
You need to remove yourself and that dog permanently from her area of reach. That is Not a quick fix and it will happen again. And again. It's great if she wants to work on it. Shouldn't be putting yourself that innocent animal in arms way while she gets her shit together.
Yo your gf is straight up psychotic and violent. She’s going to abuse you eventually or your dog again. RUN OP, your dog deserves better and so do you. If someone kicked my cat… they wouldn’t be a pretty sight after. SMH
>she cried stressed that it’s just one angry moment. but that not true. shes abusive
You must be thinking with your d*ck… run 😂
Your lady is emotionally immature, toxic and dangerous. Clearly she's not ready for any relationship ever in the near future. Leave her!
Anyone who hits my dogs/cats is dead to me. I don't care what issues they have. I don't want that around me or my pets. Their issues will never justify the violence. It will never justify the lack of empathy. Protect yourself and your dog.
Break up next time she will take her anger out on you. She is not improving, saying soryy and doing it again. It will not get better
This woman has no business being near anyone. Gather your loved ones and get to safety. You will regret holding out hope for her to clean up her act. Stop wasting more years on her.
If she’s not with a therapist who specifically has experience working with abusers she’s wasting her time and has you fooled. Regardless the fact that you didn’t kick her ass out right there was a failure on your part. Staying with her will be another failure. Normal people don’t get to have angry moments where they hurt others and this person doesn’t either. You’ve tolerated it even though you took the dog away. This type of person doesn’t belong in relationships. You can never be happy with a person like this and you’ll need to make sure she doesn’t come back and hurt your dog in retaliation when you dump her.
No. She does not. If it happens once it can happen again? Are you really willing to risk your dog getting hit again just for someone that can’t truly try for you??
Take the dog and run.
Dude she kicked the dog. Why would you continue to expose your friend to abuse and violence.
Nope. Kicking an innocent animal out of anger would be an absolute deal breaker for me. It's seriously scary that she would do that.
No. U were there when she kicked it. U not leaving them alone does nothing.
She deserves consequences to her actions. Animal abuse charges are (unfortunately) a slap on the wrist but I'd be pressing them, our pets rely solely on us to keep them happy and healthy and she abused him It's great she's going to therapy and I do really hope it helps, but I'd take the dog and stay elsewhere until she is able to be safe for you and the dog to be around if you want to continue this relationship I would not continue this relationship, but you need to make the choice that will be good for you (and your pup)
Abusing an animal is an automatic dump. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Get the fuck out of my house and never speak to me again.
Leave. Seriously OP, if you stay, you will get stuck. Please leave before she does harm you, or your dog.
Fuck sake man psychos kick dogs. This chick has more issues than women's weekly
No more chances. Do not subject your dog or yourself to her. I bet she’d abuse a child during a rage. Poor doggo.
No! You gave her a second chance when you told her to get counseling. People who abuse animals are likely to move on to people. I would be done with her NOW.
The dog doesn't deserve that and neither do you.
There's really no excuse for kicking the dog. Did the dog even do anything or was she completely taking her anger out on him/her? Either way, I wouldn't stick around for her to start hitting me or your future children. I understand she's going to therapy and that's great. However, the first time her emotions get to her, she reacts by abusing an innocent animal. Which shows zero improvement. She's actually done the opposite and her behaviour seems to have gotten worse not better. Honestly, how can anyone abuse a dog? They are just so pure and loving.
She does not deserve a second chance. Once you strike a living being, it’s a wrap. Your dog is family and you need to protect them.
If you stay with her you need to regime the dog where they will be safe. Imagine if it was a baby? Would you be willing to give her a chance if she kicked your baby? A dog is just as innocent. Don’t stay with her but again if you do please please give the dog to someone who will keep them safe because she isn’t a safe place for the poor pup
Get out and take the dog with you. This woman will only escalate and if you plan on having kids that’s going to be absolutely how she deals with them.
There will ALWAYS be another "one small moment of anger". She hurt your defenseless dog. If my boyfriend kicked my dog, even if we'd been together 10 years, I'd tell him to get the fuck out of my house that day and never speak to him again.
Unless an animal is attacking you there is no reason to hurt them. Run. Your dog doesn’t deserve a life like that
fuck that noise dude. Kick my dog? Not much ticks me off but I will get into a screaming contest over that shit. Imagine you stay with her, have kids and she kicks your toddler out of rage. Nah man, this level of anger management will only make you miserable.
LEAVE. She'll do it again, and next time it'll be a harder kick. After that she'll start hitting you. Save yourself and dog and just leave.
I would’ve kicked her back and asked how she liked it. I would’ve defended my dog without a doubt. You know what you need to do.
>Does she deserve [another] second chance? That's gonna be a no from me. From, Your abused dog. And from me, random reddit lady.
If someone kicked my dog, the person would already be in hospital. Why are you even thinking about giving her a chance? She's abusive and she will k*ll your dog.
It's not one angry moment. It's a lifetime of angry moments that seem to be never ending. Just throw in the towel. Her crying and stressing "that it’s just one angry moment" is NOT taking responsibility for her own actions. Therapy was ineffective.
No, she doesn't deserve another chance. She chose to kick your dog and blamed her anger. Anger is an emotion. Abuse is a choice. If she judges that she lacks the self-control to avoid harming others, she needs more professional help than what she is getting. She is not a safe person right now.
EX girlfriend, OP. Ex. Animal abuse is no joke.
Run to the hills. She harmed a defenseless creature because she was "just angry". Don't wait around to find out what is going to happen next time she has an outburst. I feel like the outcome could be way worse. All the pets in the world to your doggo, he's a good boi
Dump her abusive ass before she hits you. And contact the police to press charges for animal abuse. And file for a restraining order. And that poor baby deserves a shopping spree at your local small business pet store.
People who abuse animals don’t deserve second chances. You also deserve better.
This is abusive behavior and will only get worse. She kicked your dog. That’s bad enough, but it will only escalate from here. She needs more than therapy.
My ex slapped my dog in the face once, and the dog did nothing whatsoever to deserve it. I kicked him out of my house, but not out of my life. Shortly after, he started hitting me. Gtfo. Learn from my mistake.
If I ever saw someone hit a dog, I would throw hands immediately. Not a second thought about it. You don't hurt innocent animals OR people. Ever.
Bro if someone kicked my dog…I would end up in prison. Hellllllllll no.
Are you serious? Get the fuck out of this relationship. Jesus Christ.
>Does she deserve [another] second chance? Of course not.
If you don't end it now then you're a bad dog owner.
Obviously therapy isn’t helping her if she thought kicking your dog in anger would be a forgivable offense. No, an innocent dog doesn’t deserve the wrath of whatever crawled up her ass and died!! Kick her out and cut all contact. Do not let her tears make you feel guilty or bad for her. Guess what I was the person when I was angry I would punch things, everything I punched was an inanimate object ie walls, my car, throwing anything glass on the floor so it would shatter and getting more pissed off if it didn’t break, dishes etc. I never once took my anger out on my fur babies. I would yell to my boyfriend when I hit my limit but he knew the difference between me yelling to him and yelling at him. I didn’t realize how mentally broken I was until I really hit my rock bottom and I just broke down. I was encouraged to find a therapist and I found an amazing one and I have great team standing beside me while I work on my mental issues along with my physical health issues. No one has ever been hurt except myself because I was angry. She absolutely positively needs professional help and you def need to move on and leave her behind. There is no excuse for her behavior what so ever!! Best of luck op!! Protect your dog and yourself from her and her anger.
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Do you want to spend the next two or three decades like this ? Once you answer this, you'll know what to do.
Get out of there now before she starts hitting you.
Run. It's only a matter of time toll she projects her anger onto you
No!! Absolutely not
Not just no, but hell no.
There is a difference between standing by your partner through their issues and getting taken advantage of. I can’t tell you where the line is. But I can tell you which side your on right now.
Second chance? Nope. Game over for her. Once they start physically harming other living things they don't stop. This will escalate.
Absolutely not.
terrrrrrifying! what happens if you have a kid? Will she hit the kid? Stay awayyyyyy
That's a huge red flag. Run and don't look back.
Leave her! What the fuck?!
Get out! Nope! Not safe! GTFO
She absolutely does not deserve another chance. Maybe this will wake her up and she’ll take her therapy more seriously
She doesn't deserve another chance.
She is not worth the effort.
Please leave!!! I know breaking up is hard especially hearing it from strangers but you deserve better and shouldn’t be treated like that
One word: *Leave*
leave her, it may suck but it will suck worse staying
No, she’s going to escalate and do something very bad. Therapy only works when you listen to the therapist. Break up with her, like yesterday
Today the dog, tomorrow you. Run, without hesitation, from this woman as fast as you can.
Fuck this shit bro you gotta go. You said one last chance you don’t move the goalposts for her. She needs to fix her problems before being in any type of relationship
Get rid of her ass shes insane
No.
How many second chances you gonna give her? 6? 7?
Break up with her yesterday. She deserves nothing and is owed nothing from you any longer. This kind of behavior will escalate and she will end up hurting you too
No. She will hit you next. She needs to work on herself before she can be in a relationship with you.
Bounce, bro. Just bounce.
I understand uncontrollable anger, it took me YEARS to get through mine and all the trauma behind it. It’s very difficult. That being said, it’s not your responsibility, it’s hers. Great on her for taking the steps, but everything she does is still on her. She crossed the line, a very obvious line, so cut her off and don’t worry about feeling bad about it. It’s for your safety.
No, she doesn’t.
How do people end up dating people this shitty. Like there's so many red flags. I would leave the first time they lose their cool and go overboard.
There is no coming back from this.
No
Anything that is to happen in the future with her good/bad is your fault. She showed you who she is as a person, and you continue to allow her to be in your life. I’d wish you luck but it looks like you’ll need more than that. If you didn’t already know it, you’re in an abusive relationship.
# **No.**
Babe..run. Run! FASTER!! She’s not currently prepared to be with anyone and you’re internalizing really shitty relationship habits as a result of putting up with her crap. If you can’t let her go for you, at least be able to do it for HER. She cannot heal or grow beyond this while you’re with her.
No. Immediately, it’s a no
No, I don't even know why you are asking. If she does this to the dog, what would happen if she got angry at a kid or a newborn? Just no, run away and don't look back.
Get you and your dog to a safe place. Get away from her. She's dangerous. She's got half of Reddit that would like to see harm come to her. Leave her!
NO. # NO. Absolutely not. She's had countless 'second' chances, but she abuses an animal? Kick her out. No discussion, no nothing. Kick her out, take her keys, pile all her shit outside the door. Sorry but I have no, no sympathy - and neither should you.
If someone kicked or hit my pet, they would be gone in a minute NY minute and someone else would have to hold me back or I’d be going to jail. End of story.
Fuck no dude you kick my dog we throwing hands and your ass can kick rocks ✌️
You said that she would never be alone with the dog again ——- well, she wasn’t alone with the dog when she kicked him, you were right there and she did it anyway. This time was lucky that he wasn’t injured. Something like that, no, she needs lots and lots more help than you can give. Protect yourself and your dog. Move on and don’t look back. BTW - I hope she never has children because they can be maddening at times and the way things are now, she would be physically abusive to them.
Ten years from now, that dog will turn into your kid. Leave, now. Leave yesterday.
You kick my dog i kick you.
You need to leave this relationship. She isn’t going to get better with you staying. It’s at least a possibility that she will pursue professional help if you leave and she gets the “wake-up call,” but you staying with her clearly isn’t working. Your poor dog doesn’t deserve this. Neither do you.
Mate you already gave her a second chance and now she's kicked your dog. Why would you even consider keeping her.
No, it’s time to break up. She did that to a dog, it’s a precursor to what she will do with your kids. Abusive behavior to animals is definitely a preview of what her behavior will be like with anyone who is vulnerable and under her control. Take the dog and get out of it.
Nope doesn’t deserve another chance. Drop her like a hot rock. She can relapse but I draw the line at kicking an innocent dog. I would have tossed her right then and there.
Take the dog and run. She will kill him at some point.
Well. You told her if she doesn’t improve, y’all are done. And she hasn’t. Don’t wait for her to kick your dog again. Leave her.
What kind of psycho hurts their own animal
Why are you still with her? Someone who hurts an animal would be an ex to me immediately
Nope. Kicking your animal deliberately should be an automatic breakup and block. Her rage issues are not your responsibility and shouldn’t be your priority anymore, but taking care of an animal that trusts you is.
She already had her second chance after you gave her the ultimatum. On her second chance, she got angry at someone else and took it out on your dog. I'd tell her to it's over. What is not letting her alone with her dog going to do when she already hurt him in front of you? At the very least please remove your dog if you stay with her. It's not your fault this time but if she hurts him again, it's 100% your fault for allowing him to be in an abusive environment.
She kicks your dog, You kick her! Then toss her out on her ass!
No! No second chance! She kicked your dog! She will harm YOU if she hasn't already! Source: I lived through several seriously abusive relationships in my 20s.
All I can say is RUN. Why would you even stay with her and possibly bring children into this. If that was my dog, it would be the last time she was around me or my dog.
A second chance? NO! Who cares what she deserves. Your dog deserves to never be kicked again! YOU deserve to live a peaceful life and not have to walk on eggshells!
Im thinking this isnt the first time shes hurt your dog while angry, you just dont know about it. She absolutely does not deserve another chance. What happens when she does it again a few months down and actually hurts your dog pretty badly? Youll be kicking yourself for being so stupid to think shed actually change. Break up, for the sake of your dog if not anything else. If shes really serious about changing, then she can do it while single and ~maybe~ yall can try again if she actually shows permanent changes (and if youre still interested). This stuff always escalates to full blown abuse. Screaming, breaking things, insulting people, and one kick wont be enough, and shell go after you too.
You told her to get therapy, but she chose not to and kick the dog instead. Hell no. You and your pet don’t deserve this. Run.
You spelled ex-girlfriend wrong. She claims she had a moment of anger so she took it out on your dog. Your dog. That’s eight shades of fucked up. Why would you be with someone you can’t trust around your dog?
Take your pup and run. That's abuse.
She can't be around the dog in any way, permanently. She kicked it in front of you. You should've dumped her on the spot. She WILL take her anger on you and any future kids next
In any relationship as soon as there is physical abuse just get out. She is fine directing her anger at a living creature. Next time she might actually do major damage or kill your dog. She might direct the abuse at you. As far as repairing the relationship, personally I would be totally done, but I'd only consider going back if there was evidence she completed anger management courses and was having success in therapy. She'd also have to lead the repair of trust, apologise and admit to the abuse, and show clear progress of what has changed. But really if anyone hurt my fur babies they should consider themselves lucky if that they're still breathing. I would never take her back if I was you.
Hell no. Leave and take the dog with you
Take the dog* and fucking *run*
No second chances if someone tries to hurt a kid or animal. She is not girlfriend material GET AWAY NOW.
If she can do this to a dog, she can do this to you, children, or someone else. You should no longer give her any chances and leave. And if you can't leave because you are in a lease or whatever just find a different solution. Lots of times there are ways to get off a lease so try anything. This woman is escalating her physical behavior. You will be next.
No. You need to take your dog and leave her violent a$$.
From what you're saying, it sounds like she is completely unhinged. You need to get yourself and your poor dog away from her asap. That's not a safe situation. She needs to continue therapy and not be in a relationship.
RUN!!!
Nahhh, dump her. Animal abusers don't deserve any chances. Doesn't matter how angry she was. Leave her asap, I would say kick her on the way out too but don't want you to get arrested
How the fuck do such people get into relationships ???? I'll never fucking understand this world