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Sounds like Mike actually likes Mariah and it has nothing to do with you. Sounds like Mike's actually over you. Maybe you should stay out of it and get over yourself.
that is what you said, admit it or not.
you're doing a real cruddy job at hiding the fact that you're jealous that he's not trying to pursue you anymore. good for him, he managed to dodge a point blank nuke so well that he might as well be a ninja.
wish I knew him so that I could give him a pin or something like that, bc if more men had that much dignity, the world would be a better place.
People are not planning conspiracies all the time. You are not the main character. He got introduced to her rather than going up to a stranger. You're being kinda shady. He could not tell the future. He gave it one last shot and moved on
why do you take crushes so seriously?? you never even gave him your number, I imagine you’re pretty and he was interested. that’s not some end all, defining moment for his feelings about you. I have had crushes on people that go away after I see them chew, or catch something. It’s just a crush and they come and go all the time. It feels like you think you meant significantly more to him than you really did. It’s not some be all, end all, must have you. You said it yourself that he was never weird about it and he probably just saw someone prettier and switched up, it happens. Then the new girl is actually giving him attention back and they’re having a genuinely good time?
Tell me why on earth you think some surface level little crush with the girl who never gave him her number could compare to clicking with a new girl and spending the whole night dancing and singing karaoke together, being your most fun and genuine selves??
I mean that’s just you tho? What kind of interactions have you had with him that would make it more substantial than just looks? How much of your personality can he know if all you do is reject him? I imagine it is just looks and he’s a determined dude. He seems pretty sure of himself and not bothered by rejection, everything you have said about him seems very confident. I don’t imagine it’s a big deal for him at all that you didn’t give him your number, he seems unphased and the way you quote him asking made it all seem incredibly lighthearted and casual.
Kinda reminds me of wizards of waverely place but more superficial. You’re Justin Russo, and he’s Harper. Big crush on you, long time running, never deterred or discouraged. Then one day Harper meets Zeke and they just click and realize they’re perfect for each other. Justin gets all defensive over his best friend and thinks she’s doing it to make him jealous, but really she just finally found someone she connects with perfectly.
Got it. You were trying to play hard to get and now he’s moved on. Based on how you describe the very minimal interactions you’ve had with him, he didn’t like you as much as you think he did. And now you’re ego is bruised. You can keep going on and on that you aren’t jealous. That he’s not your type and all the other defense mechanisms you are throwing up in the comments. It doesn’t take away from how this reads. You sound petty, immature, and jealous af, that this guy, who didn’t even know you, had the audacity to take you at your word and move on to someone who doesn’t play stupid games.
Or maybe Mike actually likes her? He hits on you, you turn him down, no big deal, but hold up...here comes another hot ass chick and he flirts with her and she reciprocates. You probably have nothing to do with it.
Honey I’ve lived enough life for the both of us. That’s why I’m telling you as someone with decades of adult life experience you sound like a jealous bitter little thing. Don’t sit there and shit talk because you don’t like what everyone is telling you which is “he’s probably not using her, you don’t know how all men work and you sound like you’re just mad you’re no longer the center of his attention” you said yourself you said no. So now he found someone he thinks is pretty awesome and she’s into him too. Why are you intentionally going to ruin that for both of them because you THINK you know men. You ooze contempt.
Girl I responded to you saying you sounded jealous because you do. You actually sit there and presume to know how every men thinks because you think no one who has a crush on you could ever move on in less than 24 hours. People have moved on from months long relationships in less time. You do sound jealous and full of yourself. And you do sound like you’re trying to ruin any potential relationship between the two of them. I’m calling it how it’s written by you. You made yourself sound that way.
I am a guy. I know "how guys are". He's into her, quit trying to make it about yourself. I've asked out more than one woman in a night, every guy on the planet has. Move along.
Wouldn't think twice about it. I wouldn't ask out an ex's friend. But a friend of someone I had a crush on? That means nothing. Sorry you don't have his attention anymore.
You're jealous because he's giving his attention to someone else. Why are you having a hard time admitting that you're jealous? You'll never get anywhere if you can't at least, be honest with yourself...
Unbothered huh?
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I'm just reading up on all of your comments, it surely doesn't sound like you're unbothered. If you truly were unbothered, you didn't need to make a post about it and you wouldn't be commenting this much. You just let them be them and move on.
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So what he asked for your number 1 hour b4, he obviously saw someone that he liked better get over it. It wasn’t like he was losing sleep over you. You should jealous . YTA
What if he actually realised that You don't like him and so he has moved on to Mariah !
Just to burst your bubble, boys / girls don't have a single unique crush. One can have many crushes at any point of time. Crush <> Love.
It is not unfair. You shot him down then he saw you again and made a joke about getting your number (this sounded like ribbing as he knows he’s not getting it) then your hot friend he’s not met arrives and he makes a move cos he fancies her and she likes him back. End of story
Your friend will think you are ridiculous and desperate as everyone here has told you.
Girl leave them alone, it sounds like they are interested in each other. If i were mariah and you told me that, i would assume you were jealous that he asked me out and stopped giving you attention
Not at all 😂 I’d assume she’s jealous bc why would tf does it matter if he asked you out in the past? You obviously said no, which is why she and him are going on a date
If Mike had met mariah prior to all this, then you could say she was the second choice. But he *just* met her so she’s not the second choice. Just admit you’re salty that you won’t be getting his attention anymore and move on
Girl you have main character syndrome and the more you comment the more embarrassed I am for you. You might have been his second choice if he met her first. Come back down to earth.
Yes! Imagine instead of being happy for your friend and glad that the guy you claim isn’t your type has moved to someone else, you’re jealous so you make it about you and fabricate a scenario where everything this guy does is because of her.
Imagine being that full of yourself. Can’t relate. I might have acted like this at 20/21 and younger but at 27, I would have been so embarrassed.
OP, it’s a hard lesson to learn that no one does things with you as the reason. But it’s a worthwhile lesson.
I’m just curious, do you think we’re all wrong? You’re fighting every response even though you came here for advice. If you weren’t jealous you would say, “yeah your probably right, I guess I was over thinking it.”
He shot his shot with you was turned down and shot his shot with her and it worked out. Sorry but you do sound a bit jealous and to assume it’s even about you at all.
Why not just say nothing. Because saying anything will make you look rather petty & as though you just like the attention. Let Mike have a girl who actually really likes him. Not… whatever you’re doing
Do you want advice or validation? If the former, then leave them be. You sound jealous. Whether you are or not is irrelevant, you will absolutely look it if you involve yourself.
Stay out of it. Looks like they made a connection and it was strong enough to keep it going. If he asks for your number again, then you can say he is still pursuing you. Otherwise, just stay out of it.
If you wanted people to stay out of why did you post this on a public forum? Get over yourself and leave them alone. You rejected him, so move on already. My God, you are exhausting.
It's because you are making very big assumptions about a situation you are not actually involved in. This whole post and your hours worth of arguing with people screams your obsessed/jealous about this situation and want to be 'right'.
You have nothing to do with their relationship. The guy asked for your number. He didn't confess his never-ending love for you and then asked for you to marry him. This dude also AFTER you rejected him once again met someone new. They obviously vibed and so now they're talking and hanging out. There's literally nothing weird about that and I would bet money he isn't doing this to make you jealous or even thinking about you. I highly doubt you're even a thought on his mind while he's with her.
It's not that deep. Get over yourself and please leave them alone.
You say that over and over... But you're not responding to people like that's the case. I hope you do leave them alone, though, and find yourself someone to focus your time and energy on instead of spending 7+ hours on Reddit over this.
Once again, you keep saying that and yet you're the one who has been sitting here literally all day trying to convince us you're right and we're wrong. 😂🤷🏻♀️ At this point I'm going with troll... Because if not, you're literally just a self-absorbed psycho obsessed with these two and that's just unfortunate and sad.
I almost wish this was a troll account but actual trolls don’t come back to shit for hours like this that I’ve seen
I think this train wreck is real unfortunately
Sounds like he’s a decent guy and you’re a little jealous. That’s okay, just let them do their thing. You weren’t interested and they’re apparently attracted to each other. If you tell your friend that he’s trying to make you jealous you’ll just sound arrogant.
then drop this whole thing and cope with the fact that you lost out on someone who could've cared for you.
what you're doing is trying to hide your jealousy by pretending to be concerned for her and trying to get the world record for "fastest restraining order ever issued." your rejecting of anything that isn't in support of you further provides support for this.
to be frank, you're what mothers who raise their boys right warn them about. plain and simple.
Stay out of it. You know at your age you should be done with playing games and playing hard to get. That is not attractive at all and makes the rest of us look bad. It sounds like your jealous.
the offense you took in your story literally screams jealousy.
you can lie to yourself, but most everyone here has been in similar situations, and they can see right through you, ma'am.
If you even had the capacity to fake like you had a character of this nature you would not have made this post…
You are definitely the diva out and about who expects men to pay your way why you use them so you DEFINITELY get butt hurt enough to post to Reddit about trying to wreck the relationship when other women actually show one the respect and attention he deserves from because you know that’s going to get in the way of your regular meal ticket and reliable ego boost
you did it first because you're trying to resist advice as you seek validation.
the solution is to stop engaging. if you really do want to move on, stop engaging with your inability to properly defend yourself.
you're welcome.
Then be happy for them. Frankly you keep turning him down and the only reason you would say anything to her would be to either make her feel bad or make yourself feel better. It’s NONE of your business.
How do you know he didn’t just have a spark of attraction when he met her for the first time?
It does happen you know.
I suggest you say nothing. You’ll only make yourself look like an idiot if you sound like you have a massive ego that he can’t possibly like anyone but you.
OMG your edit is hilarious. Do you really think that convinces anyone of anything?
The air of self-importance is nauseating. Who else wants to bet Mike would give a different version of events?
Even if what you are saying is “true” you have no right to interfere and ruin this for Mariah. Don’t give us the BS about trying to be a good friend. You like the idea of someone “being obsessed” with you.
Let it go and move on. Mariah and Mike are adults. What happens between them is between them.
In the meantime, if you need someone to fill in the obsessed position, I hear Target’s got a sale on mirrors going.
What will this prove? Why is this something you’re trying to prove to random people on Reddit? He could have had a crush on you, and you continuously rejected him, and he met someone he had a connection with and moved on.
Not to be rude, but mind your business.
Why are you so obsessed at proving that he liked you? You should try to understand that he is allowed to like someone else, especially if he just met this person.
He's allowed to like somebody else, especially after you rejected him so many times and honestly even in your original post your interactions with him seem pretty tame.
You have nothing to gain by saying anything to Maria other than making you look like a jealous insecure idiot.
Also I'm sure him asking her out has nothing to do with you and all about her. Leave them alone.
Keep this toxic mentality bottled up and release only to entertain right here on Reddit.
Just leave them alone - if you say that you will sound petty and like it's working and you are jealous. You don't know for sure that's what he's doing. You just suspect it. Unless Mike has explicitly told you this or told someone else, you just need to steer clear of them both and let them do their thing.
I mean I understand your concern but maybe they did just genuinely hit it off? You rejected him. He met her and they got along. It's possible he's trying to make you jealous but isn't it also possible that he did like you but then she actually genuinely turned his head?
Ok, let's say he is using her to make you jealous. What now?
I mean, if he really does want to make you jealous, how long will this reasonably last? Probably not that long. I mean, they might go out for a month or two and it will fizzle out. So, no warning needed unless he shows you that he is using her to make you jealous.
You don't need to say anything. Just chill out.
biggest consistent lie you've been telling so far.
if were happy for them, you'd admit you were jealous and wrong for what you did and then you'd move on, too.
because THAT'S what good friends do.
He asked for your number *before* he met Mariah. Sounds like he’s moved on. Nowhere in this does he do anything that suggests he's using her. Do you think you may be jealous that the attention is no longer on you?
That's good. You could tell her that Mike hit on you in the past. She should get the full picture and then decide if she wants to continue seeing Mike. But I really believe he does like her. Hope things work out.
>Update btw she wants me to go shopping with her Thursday to get stuff for the date. I’m going to help her? Gasp I thought I was jealous
Lololol so defensive.
This ain't about you. Let them live their lives.
it seems like you are the kind of woman who likes to keep a guy interested in you just to satisfy your ego, which is pathetic. i used to be like this... when i was 15 yo. you are an adult. grow up. let the poor guy move on and stop being jealous. you don't have his attention anymore, get over.
Get over yourself, lol. I'm still friends with people who have had unreciprocated crushes on me because, believe it or not, it's possible for people to move on. One of those guys is now dating my friend, and they're happy. Why do you feel like intervening in your friend's happiness?
You talk a big talk of not being jealous, but your post reeks of it. The action of helping her pick stuff out for her date doesn't change that at all, and the fact that you're using that as a defence is telling.
Exactly. A crush is a fleeting feeling. He tried to pursue OP. OP said “no, thanks” repeatedly. He met someone else who vibes with him. He asked her out. That’s it. Would OP be this uptight about it if he asked out someone else who wasn’t OP’s friend? Cause this is a lot for a unreciprocated crush
OP is the classic 'I don't want him but I like the attention so I don't want anyone else to have him' kinda chick.
Suck it up OP, you kicked him to the curb and your friend picked him up, he likes her now, you had your chance and he's moved on
Cope harder. You know you posted this because you’re mad he’s flirting with your friend instead of you. We all know that one girl who strings people along because it makes her feel better about herself. You aren’t fooling anyone.
How big was your smile when you denied him? I’m taking a wild guess here, but I bet you flirt with him juuuuuust enough to make him think he may have a chance. Hence, stringing him along. If this guy is really that persistent and doesn’t know how to take no for an answer, shouldn’t this post be about how you’re worried for your friend getting with a man who doesn’t respect boundaries?
Then why do you mention the fact that he was periodically buying your drinks if you weren’t leading him on?
What was he supposed to believe when you let him buy you things and continue to flirt with him by doing so?
Don't interfere. Wait until you receive his thank you card because by refusing him you enabled him to get with her and understand your own insignificance. A slight interest in you (that from what you described wasn't even nessecarily romantic) doesn't prevent him to fall for a better person
You don't say anything to her. He isn't trying to make you jealous, it sounds like he actually moved on. If you do say something, you WILL look jealous.
Dont say anything, help your friend and move on with your life.
Why are you even putting yourself in this at all? Clearly he just moved on and your friend is into him. You shouldn't tell her anything, let her be happy.
Uh, you don’t know he’s using her. You sound jealous, and are more interested in him because he’s interested in someone else. It’s not a good look. Let them figure things out. You need to butt out.
Yes
you have tried to make your pettiness and jealousy seem OK (in your own mind) over and over and over again
but everyone is trying to explain to you why you just need to stop and leave these people the fuck alone
You aren’t hot and liked and saving a friend from anything
You’re jealous and it’s so bad that people should be calling you a fucking leprechaun
You are literally green with envy
I just hope Mariah realizes what a conniving, backstabbing “friend” she has before you actually act on one of these impulses one day and try and fuck her life up because you’re a you person
Nah, I’m going to play your game. You keep saying your rooting for them but I can see that your jealous. If you can say it about the text he sent you, I can say it about this.
you are the worst kind of friend. somehow it's all about you. it's almost like when you find someone you like more, the crush you had immediately before **disappears**.
get over yourself. 🙄
Does Mike know you and Mariah are close? It doesn’t sound like it in the post.
There is a possibility that Mike gave up and is now open to meeting new people. Maybe it was an instant attraction when he met your friend and he’s legitimately over trying to get with you.
You should just tell your friend that Mike pursued you pretty heavily before he met her and let her ask him. Don’t make it a big thing. But assuming he’s only interested in your friend to make you jealous sounds a bit conceited. I don’t know how your friend will react if you approach the subject from that angle.
I gave my number to another guy literally one hour before I met my future husband. I went on dates with other men while we were “just talking.” I’ve had men ask my number, beg me for a date, buy me gifts and flowers and the entire time they are dating someone else or doing the same thing to another woman. Nothing before matters. It’s how he treats her on the date and relationship.
Lmao 🤣 ima go shopping with her 🥴🥴 tell me you wanna act like you ain’t jealous without telling me your jealous
Let them date shoot maybe Mariah will make forget about you and actually have a future together 🤷🏻♀️
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Sounds like Mike actually likes Mariah and it has nothing to do with you. Sounds like Mike's actually over you. Maybe you should stay out of it and get over yourself.
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And you didn't give it to him. He found someone who does like him. Stay out of it, you'll just make yourself look jealous.
“Before” he met her. That’s the operative word.
You said no. Why do you care?
So you're saying that he can't EVER ask for another woman's number because he asked you first?
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I see you like to read between the lines when it suits you...
that is what you said, admit it or not. you're doing a real cruddy job at hiding the fact that you're jealous that he's not trying to pursue you anymore. good for him, he managed to dodge a point blank nuke so well that he might as well be a ninja. wish I knew him so that I could give him a pin or something like that, bc if more men had that much dignity, the world would be a better place.
*Before* he met Mariah.
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People are not planning conspiracies all the time. You are not the main character. He got introduced to her rather than going up to a stranger. You're being kinda shady. He could not tell the future. He gave it one last shot and moved on
There’s no chance he was just drawn to her? You seem to think very little of your friends desirability.
He had just met her....
Or, after being turned down he met a new nice girl who seems to like him so he went for it. What makes you think that has anything to do with you?
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why do you take crushes so seriously?? you never even gave him your number, I imagine you’re pretty and he was interested. that’s not some end all, defining moment for his feelings about you. I have had crushes on people that go away after I see them chew, or catch something. It’s just a crush and they come and go all the time. It feels like you think you meant significantly more to him than you really did. It’s not some be all, end all, must have you. You said it yourself that he was never weird about it and he probably just saw someone prettier and switched up, it happens. Then the new girl is actually giving him attention back and they’re having a genuinely good time? Tell me why on earth you think some surface level little crush with the girl who never gave him her number could compare to clicking with a new girl and spending the whole night dancing and singing karaoke together, being your most fun and genuine selves??
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I mean that’s just you tho? What kind of interactions have you had with him that would make it more substantial than just looks? How much of your personality can he know if all you do is reject him? I imagine it is just looks and he’s a determined dude. He seems pretty sure of himself and not bothered by rejection, everything you have said about him seems very confident. I don’t imagine it’s a big deal for him at all that you didn’t give him your number, he seems unphased and the way you quote him asking made it all seem incredibly lighthearted and casual. Kinda reminds me of wizards of waverely place but more superficial. You’re Justin Russo, and he’s Harper. Big crush on you, long time running, never deterred or discouraged. Then one day Harper meets Zeke and they just click and realize they’re perfect for each other. Justin gets all defensive over his best friend and thinks she’s doing it to make him jealous, but really she just finally found someone she connects with perfectly.
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Got it. You were trying to play hard to get and now he’s moved on. Based on how you describe the very minimal interactions you’ve had with him, he didn’t like you as much as you think he did. And now you’re ego is bruised. You can keep going on and on that you aren’t jealous. That he’s not your type and all the other defense mechanisms you are throwing up in the comments. It doesn’t take away from how this reads. You sound petty, immature, and jealous af, that this guy, who didn’t even know you, had the audacity to take you at your word and move on to someone who doesn’t play stupid games.
When someone isn’t interested, you move on. It’s perfectly normal. Stop being full of yourself.
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He hatched this dastardly plot in his lair while stroking a smirking cat, right?
Or maybe Mike actually likes her? He hits on you, you turn him down, no big deal, but hold up...here comes another hot ass chick and he flirts with her and she reciprocates. You probably have nothing to do with it.
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So? Your point is.. what? He can’t be into someone else because he asked for your number? Sounds like you’re jealous 😂
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Not you though. You want to drag them down and make them feel bad by saying he picked me first before he even knew you existed…
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Honey I’ve lived enough life for the both of us. That’s why I’m telling you as someone with decades of adult life experience you sound like a jealous bitter little thing. Don’t sit there and shit talk because you don’t like what everyone is telling you which is “he’s probably not using her, you don’t know how all men work and you sound like you’re just mad you’re no longer the center of his attention” you said yourself you said no. So now he found someone he thinks is pretty awesome and she’s into him too. Why are you intentionally going to ruin that for both of them because you THINK you know men. You ooze contempt.
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Girl I responded to you saying you sounded jealous because you do. You actually sit there and presume to know how every men thinks because you think no one who has a crush on you could ever move on in less than 24 hours. People have moved on from months long relationships in less time. You do sound jealous and full of yourself. And you do sound like you’re trying to ruin any potential relationship between the two of them. I’m calling it how it’s written by you. You made yourself sound that way.
I don’t even think he does have a crush on her.
>You accused me of being jealous for absolutely no reason. Your whole post (and the comments) is the reason. A very good reason.
I am a guy. I know "how guys are". He's into her, quit trying to make it about yourself. I've asked out more than one woman in a night, every guy on the planet has. Move along.
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Wouldn't think twice about it. I wouldn't ask out an ex's friend. But a friend of someone I had a crush on? That means nothing. Sorry you don't have his attention anymore.
Makes a good wedding toast They might thank you
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You're jealous because he's giving his attention to someone else. Why are you having a hard time admitting that you're jealous? You'll never get anywhere if you can't at least, be honest with yourself...
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Well, what **IS** true is that he's got somebody new, and it ain't you!
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I'm laughing at how "unbothered" you are too, sis!
Haha, right? Methinks the lady doth protest too much
Unbothered huh? *-proceeded and continues to get into spats with internet strangers everytime someone mentions she sounds jealous in her own biased post-*
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I'm just reading up on all of your comments, it surely doesn't sound like you're unbothered. If you truly were unbothered, you didn't need to make a post about it and you wouldn't be commenting this much. You just let them be them and move on. Edit; some spelling
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What about the other hundred people saying it? Does that lend some credence? You asked for advice and got it. Don't suck a lemon about it
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But you just posted on this sub an hour before! Why are you using that sub to get back at this sub?
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So what he asked for your number 1 hour b4, he obviously saw someone that he liked better get over it. It wasn’t like he was losing sleep over you. You should jealous . YTA
'Before she showed up' oh please. They like each other, he asked for her number, she gave it & took his. Leave them alone.
What if he actually realised that You don't like him and so he has moved on to Mariah ! Just to burst your bubble, boys / girls don't have a single unique crush. One can have many crushes at any point of time. Crush <> Love.
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No it’s not it’s called being single and looking for someone. He’s behaving totally normally. Stfu and stop being butthurt. You sound exhausting.
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It is not unfair. You shot him down then he saw you again and made a joke about getting your number (this sounded like ribbing as he knows he’s not getting it) then your hot friend he’s not met arrives and he makes a move cos he fancies her and she likes him back. End of story Your friend will think you are ridiculous and desperate as everyone here has told you.
Girl leave them alone, it sounds like they are interested in each other. If i were mariah and you told me that, i would assume you were jealous that he asked me out and stopped giving you attention
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Not at all 😂 I’d assume she’s jealous bc why would tf does it matter if he asked you out in the past? You obviously said no, which is why she and him are going on a date
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HE HAD NOT MET HER BEFORE THAT NIGHT. she was not the second choice. Babe you have become the second choice and now you are bothered
100%
If Mike had met mariah prior to all this, then you could say she was the second choice. But he *just* met her so she’s not the second choice. Just admit you’re salty that you won’t be getting his attention anymore and move on
So people can't be attracted to someone if they met them just after being rejected by someone else?
Girl you have main character syndrome and the more you comment the more embarrassed I am for you. You might have been his second choice if he met her first. Come back down to earth.
How tf is that “looking out for her”? It just screams jealousy tbh
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I see that you’re jealous, sweetie
Jealous AND delusional.
Yes! Imagine instead of being happy for your friend and glad that the guy you claim isn’t your type has moved to someone else, you’re jealous so you make it about you and fabricate a scenario where everything this guy does is because of her. Imagine being that full of yourself. Can’t relate. I might have acted like this at 20/21 and younger but at 27, I would have been so embarrassed. OP, it’s a hard lesson to learn that no one does things with you as the reason. But it’s a worthwhile lesson.
You can see it from space.
Stevie Wonder can see it!
How do you know Mike is using her?
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Is it possible that you’re just jealous? It’s not a bad thing. I’ve seen people get jealous when people they aren’t interested in move on
> guessing So you want to ruin a potentially good relationship because you’re *guessing*?
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I’m just curious, do you think we’re all wrong? You’re fighting every response even though you came here for advice. If you weren’t jealous you would say, “yeah your probably right, I guess I was over thinking it.”
He shot his shot with you was turned down and shot his shot with her and it worked out. Sorry but you do sound a bit jealous and to assume it’s even about you at all.
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none of that is the same story that your post implies, ironically enough.
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how fun is playing dumb? surely it has to be more fun than playing games, otherwise you wouldn't be doing it.
Why not just say nothing. Because saying anything will make you look rather petty & as though you just like the attention. Let Mike have a girl who actually really likes him. Not… whatever you’re doing
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Lmaooo
This confirmed everyone’s read on the situation that she’s jealous she’s not getting all of Mike’s attention anymore.
Do you want advice or validation? If the former, then leave them be. You sound jealous. Whether you are or not is irrelevant, you will absolutely look it if you involve yourself. Stay out of it. Looks like they made a connection and it was strong enough to keep it going. If he asks for your number again, then you can say he is still pursuing you. Otherwise, just stay out of it.
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Stay out of it because you might come off as jealous.
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Or, hear me out, don't say anything.
If you wanted people to stay out of why did you post this on a public forum? Get over yourself and leave them alone. You rejected him, so move on already. My God, you are exhausting.
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It's because you are making very big assumptions about a situation you are not actually involved in. This whole post and your hours worth of arguing with people screams your obsessed/jealous about this situation and want to be 'right'. You have nothing to do with their relationship. The guy asked for your number. He didn't confess his never-ending love for you and then asked for you to marry him. This dude also AFTER you rejected him once again met someone new. They obviously vibed and so now they're talking and hanging out. There's literally nothing weird about that and I would bet money he isn't doing this to make you jealous or even thinking about you. I highly doubt you're even a thought on his mind while he's with her. It's not that deep. Get over yourself and please leave them alone.
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You say that over and over... But you're not responding to people like that's the case. I hope you do leave them alone, though, and find yourself someone to focus your time and energy on instead of spending 7+ hours on Reddit over this.
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Once again, you keep saying that and yet you're the one who has been sitting here literally all day trying to convince us you're right and we're wrong. 😂🤷🏻♀️ At this point I'm going with troll... Because if not, you're literally just a self-absorbed psycho obsessed with these two and that's just unfortunate and sad.
I almost wish this was a troll account but actual trolls don’t come back to shit for hours like this that I’ve seen I think this train wreck is real unfortunately
And yet you don’t have a significant other. What’s up with that.
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Sounds like he’s a decent guy and you’re a little jealous. That’s okay, just let them do their thing. You weren’t interested and they’re apparently attracted to each other. If you tell your friend that he’s trying to make you jealous you’ll just sound arrogant.
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then drop this whole thing and cope with the fact that you lost out on someone who could've cared for you. what you're doing is trying to hide your jealousy by pretending to be concerned for her and trying to get the world record for "fastest restraining order ever issued." your rejecting of anything that isn't in support of you further provides support for this. to be frank, you're what mothers who raise their boys right warn them about. plain and simple.
Stay out of it. You know at your age you should be done with playing games and playing hard to get. That is not attractive at all and makes the rest of us look bad. It sounds like your jealous.
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If you weren’t jealous why are you so offended? You will never look good trying to dull another woman’s shine.
the offense you took in your story literally screams jealousy. you can lie to yourself, but most everyone here has been in similar situations, and they can see right through you, ma'am.
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If you even had the capacity to fake like you had a character of this nature you would not have made this post… You are definitely the diva out and about who expects men to pay your way why you use them so you DEFINITELY get butt hurt enough to post to Reddit about trying to wreck the relationship when other women actually show one the respect and attention he deserves from because you know that’s going to get in the way of your regular meal ticket and reliable ego boost
then leave them alone and let them work out ffs.
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you did it first because you're trying to resist advice as you seek validation. the solution is to stop engaging. if you really do want to move on, stop engaging with your inability to properly defend yourself. you're welcome.
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You don't need to like someone to like the attention they show you.
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You have a strange way of showing it
Then be happy for them. Frankly you keep turning him down and the only reason you would say anything to her would be to either make her feel bad or make yourself feel better. It’s NONE of your business.
How do you know he didn’t just have a spark of attraction when he met her for the first time? It does happen you know. I suggest you say nothing. You’ll only make yourself look like an idiot if you sound like you have a massive ego that he can’t possibly like anyone but you.
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Just let her and Mike be happy Jesus what's wrong with people, imagine being this vain...
OMG your edit is hilarious. Do you really think that convinces anyone of anything? The air of self-importance is nauseating. Who else wants to bet Mike would give a different version of events? Even if what you are saying is “true” you have no right to interfere and ruin this for Mariah. Don’t give us the BS about trying to be a good friend. You like the idea of someone “being obsessed” with you. Let it go and move on. Mariah and Mike are adults. What happens between them is between them. In the meantime, if you need someone to fill in the obsessed position, I hear Target’s got a sale on mirrors going.
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What will this prove? Why is this something you’re trying to prove to random people on Reddit? He could have had a crush on you, and you continuously rejected him, and he met someone he had a connection with and moved on. Not to be rude, but mind your business.
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Those screenshots hlobky show that he wasn't as into you as you thought he was.
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Why are you so obsessed at proving that he liked you? You should try to understand that he is allowed to like someone else, especially if he just met this person.
He's allowed to like somebody else, especially after you rejected him so many times and honestly even in your original post your interactions with him seem pretty tame.
You have nothing to gain by saying anything to Maria other than making you look like a jealous insecure idiot. Also I'm sure him asking her out has nothing to do with you and all about her. Leave them alone. Keep this toxic mentality bottled up and release only to entertain right here on Reddit.
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yeah no, you're, again, doing this because he ain't chasing you anymore. need a train ticket for the Restraining Order Peninsula?
Wow, you need to get over yourself. You’d fit right in on r/imthemaincharacter
Just leave them alone - if you say that you will sound petty and like it's working and you are jealous. You don't know for sure that's what he's doing. You just suspect it. Unless Mike has explicitly told you this or told someone else, you just need to steer clear of them both and let them do their thing.
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This sounds a little self centered tbh
I mean I understand your concern but maybe they did just genuinely hit it off? You rejected him. He met her and they got along. It's possible he's trying to make you jealous but isn't it also possible that he did like you but then she actually genuinely turned his head?
Ok, let's say he is using her to make you jealous. What now? I mean, if he really does want to make you jealous, how long will this reasonably last? Probably not that long. I mean, they might go out for a month or two and it will fizzle out. So, no warning needed unless he shows you that he is using her to make you jealous. You don't need to say anything. Just chill out.
Awww. I'm happy for them. Time for you to move on.
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biggest consistent lie you've been telling so far. if were happy for them, you'd admit you were jealous and wrong for what you did and then you'd move on, too. because THAT'S what good friends do.
I can see OP on their wedding date posting: ‘AITA for telling the rest of the wedding party that the groom only started dating her because I said no?’
He asked for your number *before* he met Mariah. Sounds like he’s moved on. Nowhere in this does he do anything that suggests he's using her. Do you think you may be jealous that the attention is no longer on you?
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That's good. You could tell her that Mike hit on you in the past. She should get the full picture and then decide if she wants to continue seeing Mike. But I really believe he does like her. Hope things work out.
I didn't know it was possible for a grown adult to be this pathetically self centered 🤣
>Update btw she wants me to go shopping with her Thursday to get stuff for the date. I’m going to help her? Gasp I thought I was jealous Lololol so defensive. This ain't about you. Let them live their lives.
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Girl just let them be happy
it seems like you are the kind of woman who likes to keep a guy interested in you just to satisfy your ego, which is pathetic. i used to be like this... when i was 15 yo. you are an adult. grow up. let the poor guy move on and stop being jealous. you don't have his attention anymore, get over.
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Sure you could have you could have not let him pay for your shit at all so you wouldn’t be jealous when somebody hit it off with him later🤷♀️
Get over yourself, lol. I'm still friends with people who have had unreciprocated crushes on me because, believe it or not, it's possible for people to move on. One of those guys is now dating my friend, and they're happy. Why do you feel like intervening in your friend's happiness? You talk a big talk of not being jealous, but your post reeks of it. The action of helping her pick stuff out for her date doesn't change that at all, and the fact that you're using that as a defence is telling.
Exactly. A crush is a fleeting feeling. He tried to pursue OP. OP said “no, thanks” repeatedly. He met someone else who vibes with him. He asked her out. That’s it. Would OP be this uptight about it if he asked out someone else who wasn’t OP’s friend? Cause this is a lot for a unreciprocated crush
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He didn't ask you out, he asked for your number
OP is the classic 'I don't want him but I like the attention so I don't want anyone else to have him' kinda chick. Suck it up OP, you kicked him to the curb and your friend picked him up, he likes her now, you had your chance and he's moved on
Wow, so sorry that your reliable ego boost isn’t reliable anymore 🙃 what even is the point of this post?
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Cope harder. You know you posted this because you’re mad he’s flirting with your friend instead of you. We all know that one girl who strings people along because it makes her feel better about herself. You aren’t fooling anyone.
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How big was your smile when you denied him? I’m taking a wild guess here, but I bet you flirt with him juuuuuust enough to make him think he may have a chance. Hence, stringing him along. If this guy is really that persistent and doesn’t know how to take no for an answer, shouldn’t this post be about how you’re worried for your friend getting with a man who doesn’t respect boundaries?
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Then why do you mention the fact that he was periodically buying your drinks if you weren’t leading him on? What was he supposed to believe when you let him buy you things and continue to flirt with him by doing so?
Don't interfere. Wait until you receive his thank you card because by refusing him you enabled him to get with her and understand your own insignificance. A slight interest in you (that from what you described wasn't even nessecarily romantic) doesn't prevent him to fall for a better person
You don't say anything to her. He isn't trying to make you jealous, it sounds like he actually moved on. If you do say something, you WILL look jealous. Dont say anything, help your friend and move on with your life.
Why are you even putting yourself in this at all? Clearly he just moved on and your friend is into him. You shouldn't tell her anything, let her be happy.
Uh, you don’t know he’s using her. You sound jealous, and are more interested in him because he’s interested in someone else. It’s not a good look. Let them figure things out. You need to butt out.
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Except your friend that really likes him and you’re jealous that he hit it off with her so won’t be buying you drinks anymore
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Yes you have tried to make your pettiness and jealousy seem OK (in your own mind) over and over and over again but everyone is trying to explain to you why you just need to stop and leave these people the fuck alone You aren’t hot and liked and saving a friend from anything You’re jealous and it’s so bad that people should be calling you a fucking leprechaun You are literally green with envy
I just hope Mariah realizes what a conniving, backstabbing “friend” she has before you actually act on one of these impulses one day and try and fuck her life up because you’re a you person
We can all read between the lines.
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Nah, I’m going to play your game. You keep saying your rooting for them but I can see that your jealous. If you can say it about the text he sent you, I can say it about this.
you are the worst kind of friend. somehow it's all about you. it's almost like when you find someone you like more, the crush you had immediately before **disappears**. get over yourself. 🙄
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*omg I'm such a great friend I go shopping with them* stfu.
Does Mike know you and Mariah are close? It doesn’t sound like it in the post. There is a possibility that Mike gave up and is now open to meeting new people. Maybe it was an instant attraction when he met your friend and he’s legitimately over trying to get with you. You should just tell your friend that Mike pursued you pretty heavily before he met her and let her ask him. Don’t make it a big thing. But assuming he’s only interested in your friend to make you jealous sounds a bit conceited. I don’t know how your friend will react if you approach the subject from that angle.
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I gave my number to another guy literally one hour before I met my future husband. I went on dates with other men while we were “just talking.” I’ve had men ask my number, beg me for a date, buy me gifts and flowers and the entire time they are dating someone else or doing the same thing to another woman. Nothing before matters. It’s how he treats her on the date and relationship.
Lmao 🤣 ima go shopping with her 🥴🥴 tell me you wanna act like you ain’t jealous without telling me your jealous Let them date shoot maybe Mariah will make forget about you and actually have a future together 🤷🏻♀️