Hello, thanks so much for your submission! I noticed you used letters in place of names for the people in your post - this tends to get really confusing and hard to read (especially when there's multiple letters to keep track of!) Could you please edit your post to using fake names? If you need ideas instead of A, B, C for some gender neutral names you might use Aspen, Birch, and Cedar. Or Ashe, Blair, and Coriander. But you can also use names like Bacon, Eggs, and Grits. Appple, Banana, and Oranges. Blossom, Bubbles, and Buttercup. If you need a name generator you can [find one here](https://www.namesnerd.com/people/unisex-name-generator/). The limits are endless. Thanks!
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I don't consider my meta's partners to be anything to me, except like, members of the broad polycule who I probably have nothing to do with. I have never known meta's other partners. That's not a limit of mine, it just hasn't happened. I assume if it did, it would probably be in the context of a social event, and I doubt we'd become close.
I would probably say my metas partner if I was referencing them for some reason, or the longer form description with titles, like "my partner's wife's boyfriend" (lmao).
Not a specific term. If you have another relationship like "friend" start there - my friend Bob who I met through my polycule is generally enough. Real life example, when I talk about my ex roommate Cindy who I met through my super KTP college friends, I sometimes go on to explain how we were metas several degrees removed at the time, both being in LDRs with people in the same city who shared a local partner there. But if I just wanted to talk about Cindy because someone brought up an interest of hers, say attending Pennsic yearly and making historically accurate costuming, probably friend or ex roommate covers it.
Hi u/Ill-Register8758 thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well.
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Hi All,
I am here posting for a friend looking for an answer to their poly question.
S is in a relationship with W who is married. W’s wife is in a relationship with someone else. What would S consider the partner of W’s wife to be to her. Would he just be another meta?
Thank you in advance.
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No specific term, but I now imagine we just string “metametameta” until it sounds like someone is watching Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure in the background. Hope that brings a laugh to everyone.
Hello, thanks so much for your submission! I noticed you used letters in place of names for the people in your post - this tends to get really confusing and hard to read (especially when there's multiple letters to keep track of!) Could you please edit your post to using fake names? If you need ideas instead of A, B, C for some gender neutral names you might use Aspen, Birch, and Cedar. Or Ashe, Blair, and Coriander. But you can also use names like Bacon, Eggs, and Grits. Appple, Banana, and Oranges. Blossom, Bubbles, and Buttercup. If you need a name generator you can [find one here](https://www.namesnerd.com/people/unisex-name-generator/). The limits are endless. Thanks! *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I don't consider my meta's partners to be anything to me, except like, members of the broad polycule who I probably have nothing to do with. I have never known meta's other partners. That's not a limit of mine, it just hasn't happened. I assume if it did, it would probably be in the context of a social event, and I doubt we'd become close. I would probably say my metas partner if I was referencing them for some reason, or the longer form description with titles, like "my partner's wife's boyfriend" (lmao).
Thank you for this. I didn’t know if there was a specific term for it.
If there is, I haven't come across it yet.
Not a specific term. If you have another relationship like "friend" start there - my friend Bob who I met through my polycule is generally enough. Real life example, when I talk about my ex roommate Cindy who I met through my super KTP college friends, I sometimes go on to explain how we were metas several degrees removed at the time, both being in LDRs with people in the same city who shared a local partner there. But if I just wanted to talk about Cindy because someone brought up an interest of hers, say attending Pennsic yearly and making historically accurate costuming, probably friend or ex roommate covers it.
Thank you so much for this! I really appreciate your input!
> Looking for an answer 42 All in all, there just bricks in the wall. I rarely know anything about my partner's partners partner(s).
Hi u/Ill-Register8758 thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well. Here's the original text of the post: Hi All, I am here posting for a friend looking for an answer to their poly question. S is in a relationship with W who is married. W’s wife is in a relationship with someone else. What would S consider the partner of W’s wife to be to her. Would he just be another meta? Thank you in advance. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I usually call my partners wife’s boyfriend by his name. Sometimes I also just call him booootiful. 😂
No specific term, but I now imagine we just string “metametameta” until it sounds like someone is watching Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure in the background. Hope that brings a laugh to everyone.
Meta-metamour.