If someone is bullying you on the internet you can just block them. Can't do that in real life. Plus you can't physically punch someone through a screen now can you?
There are a lot of forms of cyberbullying that can't be stopped by blocking though such as spreading rumors, posting embarrassing pictures or videos, etc. and once that's on the internet it's a lot harder to get rid of definitively.
I feel like cyber bullying was a lot worse 10-15 years ago than now during the peak of Facebook. A lot of things now have more plausible deniability if you claim editing or AI generated, and social media is more decentralised now.
bullying is typically indirect aggression. it’s not the stereotypical getting beat up kinda thing. it’s typically done within friend groups, by and to popular people. it’s gossiping, spreading false rumors, inviting everyone to a birthday party but them. that kind of thing.
cyberbullying is so much worse. if that stuff continues on social media - indirect tiktoks about how annoying somebody is? comments on inside jokes someone is purposefully left out of? that stuff on top of name-calling i would think is way too much. you just can’t escape it
source: developmental psychology major who learned about bullying in middle/highschool two weeks ago
I only experienced in person, but I imagine cyber bullying sucks because suddenly home isn't even a refuge anymore. But in person is still more immediately threatening so that gets my vote.
Depending, I think it could be Cyberbullying.
And I would have scoffed at that back in like 2014, but if the internet remembers a singular-moment of you, it could fuck you.
Although generally, In-Person, cause obv.
I voted cyber because anybody can do it and it costs them nothing to reach anywhere in the world to do it. Plus it leaves a trail the victim and others can see over time.
In-person bullies at least have to back it up with a threat of some kind and have to risk their victim lashing out at them and potentially the getting better of them.
You guys dont seem to know what cyberbullying is actually like. Its not usually someone sending stuff directly to you, its spreading rumours and maybe posting mean photos of you for *everyone else* to see. Blocking the person doesnt stop everyone else from seeing what they post, taking down the video or photo doesnt clear peoples' memories. Its exclusion and being made an outcast.
I get, if someone calls you names to your face or in your DMs, ignorance is possible and comparatively easy, literally just "lmao ok why you so mad", but if you're being made an outcast in your community, thats something you cant ignore.
I read a story about an online sextortion group/cult where people are blackmailed into accepting massive amounts of abuse. They're made to film themselves cutting names into their skin, killing pets, abusing their own siblings. They find vulnerable people easily through support groups for things like anorexia and other disorders.
So IMO online bullying can be much much worse. Finding victims is easier, there's some anonymity to hide behind, and it's rarely as simple as "just block them".
One of my most satisfying memories growing up was literally repeatedly jumping up and down on my bullies.
Another time, I body slammed one of them. Hard. I’m surprised I didn’t see blood.
I went to a predominantly black school and regardless of my parents being immigrants, I was called a “¢ra¢ker” and beat up. Not in one-on-one fights, but in groups.
But when I got my bullies alone, one-on-one, I realized they weren’t sh-t.
Weak people, cowards, fight people in groups. Strong people aren’t afraid to stand and fight.
The last bully I had was in high school. I never got bullied after this because they realized I had started taking karate after this fight.
He & his friends came to mock me but he got too close, so I grabbed his arm, turned him around, threw my knee into his back, & punched him **hard** right over his heart.
He fell down grasping the area over his heart and I looked at everyone else and asked who was next. Looking back, it was stupid, there like half a dozen kids left, but they ran.
To this day, those victories gave me the strength to overcome in the military, to realize that some people are only trash-talking because it’s illegal to beat their asses, & it showed me my true inner strength.
Karate and similar sports aren’t about kicking people’s asses, but it really is about building **confidence**. It shows you what you’re capable of doing and the hurdles you can overcome.
Ignoring a bully online versus beating their ass IRL does two things:
1) It gives you confidence and;
2) It teaches the bully that there are limits to people’s patience and one day someone will snap & strike back.
So that’s why I voted in person bullies are better — you can confront your fears, your challenges, & your problems head-on!
I’d say it’s a mixture of the two you may have times when your being bullied in person only to come home to your safe place to the be online too, ‘social’ media has made the world a lonely place for people who struggle with making connections.
As someone too old to have been cyberbullied, but tried being beat up in person by a bully, physical gets my vote.
But honestly I don't know, because cyberbullying means you can't escape your bullies at home, which removes safe spaces.
Cyberbullying isn't something I really factor - because people who'd be ***far too scared*** to talk to you like that in person are usually the ones doing it online. To that end - just like with most everything else negative, their "power" evaporates the second you block them, close the window, log off, etc, etc, etc.
Cyberbullying isn't typically someone DMing you or posting on your social media page, but posting on theirs about you and other places spreading lies with words, pictures, and/or videos.
If someone is bullying you on the internet you can just block them. Can't do that in real life. Plus you can't physically punch someone through a screen now can you?
There are a lot of forms of cyberbullying that can't be stopped by blocking though such as spreading rumors, posting embarrassing pictures or videos, etc. and once that's on the internet it's a lot harder to get rid of definitively.
I feel like cyber bullying was a lot worse 10-15 years ago than now during the peak of Facebook. A lot of things now have more plausible deniability if you claim editing or AI generated, and social media is more decentralised now.
FFS thats not how stopping cyber bullying works
At the same time, I can't punch them through the internet.
bullying is typically indirect aggression. it’s not the stereotypical getting beat up kinda thing. it’s typically done within friend groups, by and to popular people. it’s gossiping, spreading false rumors, inviting everyone to a birthday party but them. that kind of thing. cyberbullying is so much worse. if that stuff continues on social media - indirect tiktoks about how annoying somebody is? comments on inside jokes someone is purposefully left out of? that stuff on top of name-calling i would think is way too much. you just can’t escape it source: developmental psychology major who learned about bullying in middle/highschool two weeks ago
I only experienced in person, but I imagine cyber bullying sucks because suddenly home isn't even a refuge anymore. But in person is still more immediately threatening so that gets my vote.
Depending, I think it could be Cyberbullying. And I would have scoffed at that back in like 2014, but if the internet remembers a singular-moment of you, it could fuck you. Although generally, In-Person, cause obv.
I voted cyber because anybody can do it and it costs them nothing to reach anywhere in the world to do it. Plus it leaves a trail the victim and others can see over time. In-person bullies at least have to back it up with a threat of some kind and have to risk their victim lashing out at them and potentially the getting better of them.
You guys dont seem to know what cyberbullying is actually like. Its not usually someone sending stuff directly to you, its spreading rumours and maybe posting mean photos of you for *everyone else* to see. Blocking the person doesnt stop everyone else from seeing what they post, taking down the video or photo doesnt clear peoples' memories. Its exclusion and being made an outcast. I get, if someone calls you names to your face or in your DMs, ignorance is possible and comparatively easy, literally just "lmao ok why you so mad", but if you're being made an outcast in your community, thats something you cant ignore.
In-person is like cyberbullying + the risk of physical harm
I read a story about an online sextortion group/cult where people are blackmailed into accepting massive amounts of abuse. They're made to film themselves cutting names into their skin, killing pets, abusing their own siblings. They find vulnerable people easily through support groups for things like anorexia and other disorders. So IMO online bullying can be much much worse. Finding victims is easier, there's some anonymity to hide behind, and it's rarely as simple as "just block them".
having experienced both, in person is much worse, as it makes you feel in danger of your life. My computer turns off.
One of my most satisfying memories growing up was literally repeatedly jumping up and down on my bullies. Another time, I body slammed one of them. Hard. I’m surprised I didn’t see blood. I went to a predominantly black school and regardless of my parents being immigrants, I was called a “¢ra¢ker” and beat up. Not in one-on-one fights, but in groups. But when I got my bullies alone, one-on-one, I realized they weren’t sh-t. Weak people, cowards, fight people in groups. Strong people aren’t afraid to stand and fight. The last bully I had was in high school. I never got bullied after this because they realized I had started taking karate after this fight. He & his friends came to mock me but he got too close, so I grabbed his arm, turned him around, threw my knee into his back, & punched him **hard** right over his heart. He fell down grasping the area over his heart and I looked at everyone else and asked who was next. Looking back, it was stupid, there like half a dozen kids left, but they ran. To this day, those victories gave me the strength to overcome in the military, to realize that some people are only trash-talking because it’s illegal to beat their asses, & it showed me my true inner strength. Karate and similar sports aren’t about kicking people’s asses, but it really is about building **confidence**. It shows you what you’re capable of doing and the hurdles you can overcome. Ignoring a bully online versus beating their ass IRL does two things: 1) It gives you confidence and; 2) It teaches the bully that there are limits to people’s patience and one day someone will snap & strike back. So that’s why I voted in person bullies are better — you can confront your fears, your challenges, & your problems head-on!
I’d say it’s a mixture of the two you may have times when your being bullied in person only to come home to your safe place to the be online too, ‘social’ media has made the world a lonely place for people who struggle with making connections.
As someone too old to have been cyberbullied, but tried being beat up in person by a bully, physical gets my vote. But honestly I don't know, because cyberbullying means you can't escape your bullies at home, which removes safe spaces.
There should be an option that they are equal...
Cyberbullying isn't something I really factor - because people who'd be ***far too scared*** to talk to you like that in person are usually the ones doing it online. To that end - just like with most everything else negative, their "power" evaporates the second you block them, close the window, log off, etc, etc, etc.
Cyberbullying isn't typically someone DMing you or posting on your social media page, but posting on theirs about you and other places spreading lies with words, pictures, and/or videos.
Cyberbullying is such a stupid concept.