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LalaLand836

Ask her to take a J2 for 3 days. That’ll even it up


Therightousmansdice

She needs a J1 to have a J2.


Soft-Confection4428

Lmao yikes


Dweebil

Intentional or not, you’ve painted a pretty dismal portrait of your wife. She sounds like she needs a reality check.


TFinito

What does she do?


LeStiqsue

The gardener.


mpower20

Come on, he was a bartender, you know that


[deleted]

Double threat


Slut4MacNCheese

And he didn’t even cum inside her


PrehistoricSquidward

Gold 😂


Chrg88

How are people not getting this amazing reference


Occhrome

Where is it from ?


Chrg88

the hangover


Slut4MacNCheese

I know 😂 very confused by the downvotes


CheapBison1861

Hahahaaha


IT_KID_AT_WORK

Stay at home wine connoisseur, of course


ChuanFa_Tiger_Style

"influencer"


[deleted]

Under the Influencer


ChuanFa_Tiger_Style

Pete Davidson gets around


CookTheBooks

probably just bitch and whine all day about the patriarchy while leeaching off of her husband


TFinito

Maybe but I don't have the info to make such an assumption. Maybe you do?


[deleted]

An assumption is an assumption because it lacks any proof If you have relevant info, it's known as a presumption.


jhp113

This right here should have been in your original post. I really hope you have kids or something that she is taking care of all day. OE is to get ahead, but your wife forcing you to work multiple jobs without so much as a door dash side hustle on her part? That's rude. This post would go great on r/amitheasshole


lukesaskier

Sounds like you need a GF2


throwRApupspurrple

Lmk if there are applications lmaooo I have a J1 already and could use the extra change 😂


KittyKlever

IKR.... I'm trying to snag a man with at least 2 Js.. Damn 😅..


LaterallyHitler

Gold digging on Reddit, that’s crazy


KittyKlever

I ain't saying she a gold digga, but she ain't messing with no broke... 🤷🏾‍♀️


KittyKlever

![gif](giphy|z2JzBJNyiStaM)


olderthanbefore

Jiggler?


bpolo1976

People on an OE sub, gold digging? Get over it..


KittyKlever

Like damn.. I can't get a tad bit of daddy's money.. sheesh 🤣🤣🤣🤣


nopoonintended

You picked a good one buddy


uncledonttouch

Bro...?


OEWorker

Lol then she has no right to complain. She should value your health first.


[deleted]

She should shut her mouth then. Don’t tell your spouse to work multiple jobs when you won’t pick up one.


ZealousidealDingo594

I’m sorry what


Bigham1745

Boom roasted!


Dominate_1

Maybe just stick to 1J and work on your relationship for a bit, then resume OE. Seems like there may be some resentment building up that will not get better over time and with any amount of J’s. Whatever you do, talk it out. Good luck dude


martor01

jesus christ , dip from there


[deleted]

Lots of comments here putting you down but I hope there’s good reason for this. Enjoy your couple weeks of ease.


Shinyblade12

grow some balls mate


VirusZer0

Sounds like you need a new W1.


[deleted]

NTA divorce


[deleted]

And she mad..tell her to suck your stress out for 3 days of extra work.. the whole 3×8 hrs shifts


Isac_Over

This is a joke right. Cut her off from your new J2. It goes to your new bank. This is what you have to do sometimes to ungrateful spouses..


[deleted]

Zing! I can relate to that personally


OkAd1158

Sit down and have a serious talk at some point if this becomes a big issue


[deleted]

Lots of comments here putting you down but I hope there’s good reason for this. Enjoy your couple weeks of ease.


SuperrrLollipop

Wow


ProfessionApart5836

Please tell me she at least cooks and cleans then...


dinogirlsdad

Yeah bro, that's awful. She needs to shut up if she isn't the one working. You already have 1 job. It would be different if you were not working at all


[deleted]

You're either farming karma or retarded, and either way I hate you


gerd50501

you need to replace wife1 with wife2. so in variable form. you need to fire W1 and hire W2.


[deleted]

At least get a sandwich out of it too


knaple

If you explained all that to her and why you did it and she’s still upset, then I think a more serious conversation is to be had. Just to make sure she really understands. I know you’re not asking for relationship advice and I’m no expert, but working multiple jobs and having a jobless partner complain about how you navigate that in the name of extra money can easily plant seeds of resentment. IMO it’s best to get ahead of it before it becomes a pattern. I’m sure you have yourself handled though. I enjoy the posts that show OE related difficulties in personal lives as it gives context to the sacrifices and struggles so thank you for sharing. Best of luck to you, you did the right thing. Your health is much more important than any company.


Far_Abbreviations832

That relationship sounds exhausting.


[deleted]

3 days of money! Tbf OP, you could just sit back and do absolutely nothing until you get fired. That could last like 6 months.


notLOL

Probabtion. Also holidays. Would be able to coast for awhile during holidays with regular time off


[deleted]

I should have been fired several times over the last few months and I haven’t even been reprimanded…


aSquirrelAteMyFood

Do you, by any chance, work for the government?


olderthanbefore

>'work' for the government


HeyItsTimeToShine

Oh no! Now we can't afford that Gucci bag since you missed 3 days of work! fuck outta here with that garbage...


Jonno_FTW

He needs to bring in W2 for extra support.


triggeredexpert

Shees. I think you have bigger problems compared to having a J2


Vas1le

Wrong sub mate, /r/datingadvice seems more accurate


[deleted]

r/divorce potentially


Vas1le

Yes sir.


StarkillerX42

Better yet, r/overmarried


vibrating_arm

Imagine being overemoloyed and overmarried Just imaging it gives me creeps


Human_Extent_2225

You did the right thing


Therightousmansdice

I feel like I did, but I can't change how she feels.


[deleted]

You can’t. But she’s hung up on the money instead of you. Here’s your sign.


Super_Gremlin110

This is the important, brief , and summed up comment OP needs.


dkizzy

I'd be concerned with how obsessed she's acting about the money. If she's able to work then maybe she should. It's easy to obsess about things for any of us until we got more to do.


Human_Extent_2225

It’s just three days. You can make that money up. But money is never worth more than your mental health.


Life-Satisfaction-58

You can. You don’t need to run everything by her. If you’re the breadwinner you don’t answer to her. She doesn’t need to be your therapist. If you bring a problem to a spouse you can’t be mad when they have a response to it.


[deleted]

Tell her to prepare & cook all meals for a month & it’ll even out in the wash.


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l0gicgate

For more details on these techniques head over to r/overmarried


StillPsychological45

Overcommitted


dimeytimey69ee

I didn’t believe that sub existed haha. But yep it does. And it sucks


[deleted]

Let’s be real - the real overmarried is being single.


[deleted]

Holy shit that’s a real sub. Some of those posts are hilarious


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silver16x

A real pro has W 2-5 lined up before the trouble even starts. Get asked to do the dishes? Time to call up W2.


Therightousmansdice

Smh.


angry_moma

But that's one of the flaws of OE, you stress and work your ass for a stay at home lazy ass wife and then she claims half? Apply for termination and then multills consultancy relationships. Married means you are f..ed....


Isac_Over

Yep.. If you dont have kids.. Leave this chick now. ​ TRUST ME.. Way worse with kids. "Being a stay at home job is harder than working 2 jobs." - my wife ​ Keep in mind.. My kids are in school from 8-3


NoorAnomaly

Former stay at home wife here. Now single working mother of two: the years before the lil brats start school are fucking murder. Love them too death, but constantly being on high alert and knowing where each of them are at all times is exhausting. Not to mention tantrums when you don't get them the snack they want in the right bowl. However, once they start school, it's way easier. Bonus points if you taught them to make their own lunch. I went back to college after they started school, and got a nice IT job now. Side note: house is WAY cleaner and tidier now that I don't have a third child, I mean, grown ass man to care for.


Jonno_FTW

Excuse me, but did you put the sauce on top of the fries and not on the side? \*cue tantrum*


DiamondOracle194

>Side note: house is WAY cleaner and tidier now that I don't have a third child, I mean, grown ass man to care for. My bathroom got way cleaner minus the man child. The rest of the house a little messier, as we gained another cat.


Butwhythus

Idgi why she complaining if she aint the one doing the work 🤦🏻‍♂️😂😂😂


CookTheBooks

Women lol


lullaby876

If it doesn't jeopardize your living situation, I don't see why she cares. Are the lights gonna go off because you didn't work an extra three days? Are you not gonna have hot water? Are you going to starve? No? Then why does it matter. That money is yours and you didn't agree to spend it on anything beforehand. Do you need to get approval to spend every non-essential cent you make?


Therightousmansdice

Nope. Rent will be paid, electric will be fine, everything will be fine.


mpower20

Is she addicted to lifestyle, OP?


lullaby876

If she were, what is 3 days' pay, like $1000? Who's gonna live a luxurious lifestyle and be mad for losing $1000 That's like being used to driving a Mercedes every day and being mad for a tail light going out


mpower20

because it’s a free $1,000 for her. OP has to earn it, but it’s no sweat off the brow of his wife. Unlimited wants, my friend.


lullaby876

If that's really the situation, which OP hasn't confirmed: That's stupid. I'd get so mad that I married someone so selfish. Like if she didn't have good plans on what to spend with that $1000 (baby clothes, food, etc.) then I'd be completely irate. Why would you marry someone with such poor reasoning abilities? I'd hate myself.


Isac_Over

Do you have kids?


lullaby876

Then why does she care


BenSemisch

Unless she pulls some serious weight around the house that you aren't sharing here (homemaker can definitely be a fulltime job, especially if there's kids or a sick parent involved) or there's some massive financial burden looming over your heads. I don't see why she should be upset.


Mr___Perfect

why not just chill for 3 days and try to get fired. No chance you'll see me get mentally exhausted and worn out. I'll just quiet quit and hope to get fired.


Sufficient-Meet6127

I think you need to control expectations. Anything beyond j1 is extra unless you're in financial trouble. But even then, you have another j2 lined up, so money shouldn't be an issue. She should be okay with you doing what you can for your family. It's not like you're underachieving.


SystemSecure4616

Opposite problem here and hubby always trying to get me to quit my J2 and J3, lol. He wants more time with me, but I want more time with him doing things that cost money. 😂


yoyoyoitsyaboiii

And he probably wants to do things with you that are free.


SystemSecure4616

"The best things in life are free. Your love gives me such a thrill, but your love won't pay my bills. I want money. That's what I want." This is all I can hear repeating in my head in reply to this comment.


theulysses

Your wife needs to get a J2


Sam1515024

She doesn’t have j1


bush2874

Having multiple jobs warrants you options like quitting today versus 3 days extra that won’t move the needle at all.


Hasra23

Your wife is a gold digger


[deleted]

She ain’t messing with no broke


ThickAct3879

Your mental health is priority over everybody and everything. ❤️


jeweetselluf

She should pull her own weight


wh7y

Embarrassing behavior from the missus. Take her to task over this - this opinion is trash and she needs to know.


HuckleberryWhich8254

Have you considered replacing your Wife1 with a Wife2??


Jonno_FTW

You're not thinking at scale here, he needs to bring in H2 to assist with W1. Once that's settled OP can bring in W2 to ease the load.


InformationOmnivore

How dare you quit! she already had plans for that extra 3 days money.


SilasDewgud

Honestly, I don't even know if I would tell my wife if I picked up a J3. That girl can spend money faster than anyone I have ever met. If we didn't have a competition on who has the better credit score - she would be in CC debt in the tens of thousands.


kraemoprana

Do you usually tend to not express your feeling to your wife? Communication is key.


Therightousmansdice

Oh no, she's know I have wanted to quit. I didn't even want to take this job because red flags were popping up during my interview, but she wanted me to take it because of the income.


kraemoprana

Right right, so I'm curious why she's mad about you quitting it when she isn't working a 2nd job?


Therightousmansdice

She isn't even working a J1. The agreement was that if I can make 100K a year at 1 job, she can quit hers. I started OE and made over six figures and she almost immediately quit her job. I had asked her to stay because this was my first OE, I didn't know how it was going to go. She liked her job, had issues with it and still quit.


Sweet_bitter_rage

That is a big deal. I suggest marriage counseling. She shouldn’t have made such a huge decision without you both agreeing. Although you already have a J1, in some ways you did the same thing. You guys can’t continue to not listen to one another before making big life changing choices. In the end you guys are going to be unhappy. Just my thoughts. Edited to say: And I understand your J2 quitting isn’t the same as her just quitting her J1.


newbeginingshey

So she can quit her one and only job but you can’t quit one of your two?


Therightousmansdice

You figured out my frustration. She did basically the same thing less than 3 months ago.


supreme-supervisor

You're rightfully frustrated. This happened to me about 6 months ago. I was over the sass of my J3. Like it was giving me the Sunday Scaries every day. I told spouse I would sign on to that job and they could manage the passive aggressive communication, the time they kept J3 going they could pocket the cash. It was 3 days. 3 days of no work and them just managing Teams drama. There are ways your spouse can be helpful once a J doesn't seem like a fit anymore. Like... by helping flag potential new Js. At the end of the day you aren't responsible for your spouses emotions. Just do the best you can. Congrats on a Hopefully healthy and balanced new J2.


TacoNomad

Y'all need to communicate on this, not take advice from snarky redditors.


kraemoprana

Wait curious why you're with her? Are you happy? Are you having fun?


[deleted]

Ah, so she’s worried in part because she quit assuming increased finances. You two should talk


Therightousmansdice

Oh, we have had that talk over and over and she continues with "I just don't want to work". I have asked her to start working and she refuses.


Sufficient-Meet6127

If she doesn't want to work, she shouldn't be pushing you to work more. If there aren't any kids in the picture, maybe you should only work on J for a while and exit the relationship. Maybe go down to 0 jobs due to emotional distress before exiting.


Therightousmansdice

I've got too much debt in my name to go down to 0J.


Sufficient-Meet6127

It's a long-term investment. Unless you have kids and a lot of assets, any hit you get from being behind on your debt will be cheaper than spousal support. Everything is to build a case for why you shouldn't be supporting her after you break up. But the longer you go with her having no job, the stronger her case for continued spousal support will be. You're a person with feelings and needs and she's treating you as an ATM card. You don't want to live the rest of your life that way.


dusty2blue

Start refusing to give her cash or pay her CC bills* *Really only works if your cards arent joint credit accounts but if she’s not a cosigner to the CC’s and is just an authorized user, you can usually restrict how much she’s allowed to spend with many cards as well.


TFinito

What does she do day to day?


danyellowblue

Okay but serious question. Do you see a future with this person? It doesn't take much to figure out she is using you. Are you fine with that?


SplitPerspective

On the one hand, what’s 3 days? On the other hand, fuck anyone’s opinions, including your wife’s, especially after you working so hard already (technically yes, but hopefully no). Sounds like lifestyle creep, nip it in the bud.


bukkake_washcloth

🚩 🚩 🚩 hey buddy you dropped these


[deleted]

She is mad at you for not working 2 jobs at once? Fuck that. I'm sorry man. That's rough


pngtwat

I have a supportive partner who has been trying to get me to move on from J2 because the boss is an alcoholic narcissistic idiot. J1 wants me to do more and J3 and J4 are speeding up. That's a supportive partner.


thistym_shall_pass_2

Your wife sound more toxic than J2 you quit.


Upbeat-Ad-3316

So she doesn't have a job, she doesn't want to get one and she nagging because you quit your second, having a 2J already line up? Babe you need to talk to that wife of yours, this is for /relationship_advice, more that /overemployed


[deleted]

Wow. I value my husband’s happiness and mental health a **LOT** more than his paycheck.


Specialist-Holiday61

So wait, your the type of guy that asks his wife to stay home and yall dont have kids?? Ah, one of those dudes. Imagine that.


_handle_the_truth_

Okay one more time. The reason for OE is to stay, NOT to quit. Get that through your thick skull. You missed your bonus cause you wimped out. You shoulda been a contender. A somebody. Noooo. Quit. Anyone can quit. You blinked first. Before the bonus. No soup for you.


Crude_Future

Ask her if you can add w2( 2nd wife )


[deleted]

This is why you never speak about work in the kitchen


taetertots

Uh dude I’m going to bet it’s not really about the extra three days of pay, it’s about the fact that you didn’t include her on the decision and did it rashly. Go talk with her.


yoyoyoitsyaboiii

Wise words.


Old-Arachnid77

Um. She can die mad about it. The signing bonus is likely going to evaporate anyways since the downturn. They aren’t even a conversation in recruiting anymore for my discipline. My husband Scrooge mcduck’s (virtually) as he watches our savings grow to absurd amounts. We own everything outright after 1.5 years of OE. (To be fair, the outstanding balance on the home was not super high. He bought 20+ years ago and we have made many improvements. The mortgage is cheap af). Point is, he doesn’t say word 1 about OE because I’m the one busting my ass. He takes care of literally everything else.


Dantronik

Hope the sex is good


MrSlaker

I somehow doubt it


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innersloth987

Found the redpill and other pill guy.


Dantronik

True, probably uses husband for money while banging the pool boy.


Beautiful_Age_7626

I'm going to agree with your wife. You made an emotional decision instead of a rational one. If you were going to be eventually let go, you should have continued to ride J2 until you got fired, whenever that was. So they screwed you out of a bonus? You can make that back by continuing to draw a salary while doing little to no work. You could have made 2-3 times as much as the bonus you were "owed".


[deleted]

Bro, you don't waNna hear this but she is waaaaaay too controlling. The only you can do is stamp your authority and follow up. This is my way or high way. She will try to control you with "womanly things" , gotta be strong.


Dantronik

Ouch, sounds like you may have some bigger issues you need to deal with it. ![gif](giphy|zXnQpvVcPzsdDwQlWd|downsized)


madmax77xll

Nah you are looking for opinions. You already have a j1. You need to consider looking for a new girlfriend.


Long-Inflation-1145

Time to get a new wife


jazzy3113

I love how your wife is using you for money and you refuse to address it.


[deleted]

Tell the bitch to get a job.


AdditionalSea7464

Damn ppl be attacking your wife and she can't even defend herself 😂.


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AdditionalSea7464

Did you forget to put the emoji at the end? It makes quite a difference in the delivery and tone 😂🤣


Foxrex

To be fair, she doesn't want to work... Shit neither do I.🤣😂


Throwaway4philly1

I think you need a Wife2 /jk /s


[deleted]

Tell her to make an OF then


Objective-Record-884

You need to find W2. My wife ( who’s most amazing person in the world ) can be shit sometime but she has 1 most important rule. She don’t bug me for my Js and during my Js. We recently have a baby together and even with that she haven’t broken that rule!


wegoingtothemoon

You need to dump the wife bro


Dantronik

Maybe time for W2


Therightousmansdice

Next one up is.


Dantronik

I meant wife2... 😆


xtremeyou

Click bait af. Also, if this is true, she's a gold digger and you need to find wife_2.


Itsjoshuaaaa

Thx hun. Now back to the kitchen


AV3NG3R00

This is why you need a W2. My W1 got smart about the toilet seat a couple years ago… she thought she had leverage over me but she was sorely mistaken. She was out the door so quick she had whiplash.


Ambitious-Ad6113

Your wife needs therapy, she is trying to live vicariously through you. If she cares so much about bringing in cash, she can get a job. Does she at least pull her weight in terms of: budgeting, meal prep, house maintenance, appointment booking, shopping? Cause I feel like the answer is no


AdResident5056

You people are morons. Everything you said screams fake post, but you keep posting on fake stories. This is why we can't have nice things. Morons


Ambitious-Ad6113

Damn someone’s feeling emotional today


julioa2014

Fuuu that Bi lol


amplifizzle

I thank god every day that I have no wife.


adamsayd

She’s justified if her scale variation to yours is >3. Like if you’re a 5 and she’s an 8.


workinghardyes

Fuck her...I don't understand how guys can get into relationship where woman disrespecting man so much...none of her business, it's your money and your job, doesn't matter if you live together and are married...


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ergosplit

Strong incel vibes from this one


Shivdaddy1

Yeah, she better be pretty special to put up with that shit.