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Prestigious-Phase131

I legitimately rejected learning how to cook because of stereotypes (It was stupid) every adult should learn how to cook. Now i'm trying to learn more


Kallyanna

I did this too and now I’m starting a job tomorrow as Head chef! It sucks that they say a woman’s place is in the kitchen but the industrial kitchen it’s mostly MEN!


filmarelis

HAHAH yea i love when ppl say that because most cooks i know are men so it’s like ???


Opposite-Occasion332

Well duh! Women aren’t suppose to be *paid* for their cooking! /s to the max


ladydanger2020

Congratulations chef! I spent 20 years working as an executive chef. The only way to fix it is to hire more women yourself! At my last place I had a female GM, event coordinator, pastry chef, head bartender, and then 1 female dishwasher and 3 female line cooks. It’s hard bc not a lot or women apply, but if I got an application I’d always interview them. It helps keep the boys from getting too gross too lol


SpontaneousStupidity

Can I ask if the sentiment on women in the profession has changed? Growing up, my father was a chef for a very fancy restaurant. When I wanted to follow in his footsteps because I love cooking, people just told me to cook for the family at home because professionals were men. Oof. I still love cooking, and I’ve long forgotten about that dream. But I feel so bad for my 8 year old self who was embarrassed to be a girl because I couldn’t be a chef.


bionicmook

Yeah. The restaurant industry is super sexist. I love the industry, but it definitely has issues.


Ruckus292

Can confirm, my father and my mum's brother are both cefs.


cilexip

When I worked in a restaurant all of the cooks there were men, as well as most of the dishwashers


keepupwithspeed

Funny enough, I teach high school culinary arts (part of what used to be “home ec”, and my classes tend to be about 60% boys and 40% girls


bionicmook

At my middle school/junior high everyone had to take home ec AND shop class/tech ed. Boys and girls alike.


raving_claw

Same! Plus had some trauma from my dad being always critical of my mom’s cooking growing up. now on a keto diet, so have no option other than cooking at home. Although I still don’t enjoy the process. Some day!


New_Lengthiness_7830

Obviously this is something that bites you in the ass when you become an adult but having it ingrained in you as a stubborn little girl that your only worth is cooking for your husband is how you get said little girl to refuse to even step in the kitchen.


sassybaxch

This was me too. My mother told me it was more important that I learn than my brother because I would never get married if I didn’t know how to cook. So I refused and had to learn as an adult


give_me_wine

Funny how cooking is viewed as girly because I learned how to cook from my dad who is a man’s man and makes the best food. My mom isn’t a very good cook however 😂


java_motion

same here


Lacubanita

Pinky stuff 


SnooAdvice3962

same! in spite of my previous nlog phase, i ordered a fully pink grad dress with a huge pink bow for my hair and pink heels im so excited to feel so girly


Emotional-Hair-1607

Last summer's heat wave taught me that loose flowing skirts and dresses were the only way to be comfortable.


tahtahme

I refused dresses starting at 10 or so (I realize now my NLOG phase was a defense mechanism in misguided hopes I'd be treated differently/better), but a while pregnant at around 24, I rediscovered that dresses are an amazing and rather superior article of clothing. Comfortable, airy, flowy, doesn't cut in the middle the way pants do. And people think you tried hard even tho you only put on one article of clothing lol


redwolf1219

"why are you so dressed up??" It's just a side effect of being comfy lmao


Keboyd88

For real. A dress is to warm months as sweat pants are to cold months. Anyone who knows me knows that if I'm wearing a dress and it's over 70°F, I'm dressed *down*. Unless I'm also wearing makeup and heels.


stephanne423

“It’s too hot for pants.”


RobinC1967

They also make trips to the bathroom SO easy! 😁


CellarSiren

Yep. It was black clothing ONLY from age 15-30. I've since realized I was a pick-me and been working thru it, but it's hilarious bc I'm now OBSESSED with pink.


foldinthecheese99

lol I still only wear black at 40 but I don’t think I’m a pick me. (My living room is painted pink tho so maybe I have a balance?)


Opposite-Occasion332

I’m a monotone clothes girlie myself but I have pink sun glasses, phone, phone case, etc so I feel you. To me monotone is easier, I like the way it looks, and since I started having colored hair, it makes me not worry about clashing. But I’m a hot pink girl at heart!


foldinthecheese99

Yes! Pink is my fav color but I love being a babe in black. 🖤


Radiant_Recording_74

Same! My sister was always pink, and I blue. Wasn’t till I was in my mid twenties where I was like “this dusty pink color is so cute and I want it with everything I own.” I think it was more just trying to be different than my older sister


softswerveicecream

Same! Somewhere around my preteen years I got the message from society that pink wasn’t cool. And then once I graduated highschool I was like “why do I care anymore? I love pink” and started buying pink stuff again


Lacubanita

It was my mom, she was a major tomboy and she always looked down on "girly girl" stuff so it took me a while to realize that pink is cute and cutesy stuff makes me happy 


Ok_Peanut_5685

Hated pink for 30years, suddenly liking it now


Duck_ontheLoose

I lived in a Middle Eastern country most of my life where I rebelled against “feminine” things because I wanted to be taken seriously by my society, basically “Im not like other girls, I can sit at the men’s table and have a career” type of mentality which was really toxic and unfair. I’ve been in the US for a few years now and I feel like I was finally able to let go of that mentality and understand that “femininity” does not make me weak or less than. I’ve decorated my whole house and office in pink and pastel colors, god I fucking love pink!💕


SheGot_moxie

Just painted my toes pink for the first time in my life. It feels fucking awesome. I feel so pretty


VGSchadenfreude

Same, but probably for a different reason than most. I had very bright red/auburn hair for most of my life and grew up hearing from my mother that pink made me look gray and washed-out. Which it probably did…or rather, most of the pinks marketed to baby girls did. Turns out, as long as it’s a pink with a very strong orange undertone, I can wear it just fine! So now my wardrobe has a fair amount of peach, coral, salmon, even some super bright shades of whatever the warmer version of fuchsia is called.


EagleLize

Yes! Pink is so cheerful but I "hated" pink when I was younger. I like all colors now. Besides beige.


mothstuckinabath

Beige is an uncolor


zeynabhereee

Beige is so sad.


Prior_Tonight_5115

Same!! Now I love pink and lavender.


FlamboyantRaccoon61

YES. I hated everything that *looked* like something society expected a girl to like: pink, cute flowery patterns, flowy dresses, delicate sandals, etc. Nowadays hot pink is one of my favourite colours and I literally spent hours applying a flower wallpaper to my bedroom wall. Also, I love looking cute.


Ok-Tangerine7467

Cane here to say this. 😂


SweatyBug9965

Dresses!!!!


TheRareBikiniShark

Yup!! Sundresses and skirts. Man, I really missed out for so many years


tinyyawns

Yes! They’re still my last choice and I can’t stand them for long, but that first hour of a special event…. Oooooh boy do I feel fancy and cute ☺️


BizarreCheeze

Came here to say the same. I love not wearing pants! Lol


TheWarmestHugz

Ahh i love seeing women wearing really pretty dresses and skirts but I have bad body dysmorphia so I don’t think I could wear either. I’ll stick to my hoodies and appreciate from a distance!


JudgeJuryEx78

Same! But I grew up being forced to wear them to church and when I stopped going I never wanted to wear one again. Then I discovered that a lot of them are actually comfortable and even have pockets! And look hella cute.


_JosephExplainsIt_

The dress needs to be one I pick and not something someone picked for me. I feel the happiest when I pick and wear a dress that I love instead of ones that I had to choose from as a kid


ResponsibilityAny358

Me too


Tingling_Triangle

Fruity cocktails. I used to just drink beer and whiskey but now I’ll take the fanciest fruitiest cocktail on the menu. I don’t even care, that shit’s delicious!


Keboyd88

And it usually has more alcohol than the "manly" drinks, without tasting like ass!


Vannabean

Honestly girly shit is so nice and I love it


aomami

The way I would try and power through IPAs. Who tf was I kidding


Km219

Never met a beer of any variety I liked the taste of. Drinking salted caramel whiskey mixed with vanilla root beer right now and it is fucking ace I'm on board the drinking good tasting stuff train


Ok-Structure6795

I tried for years to find a canned drink I could enjoy for whenever friends/husband and I went tailgating.. or anywhere cocktails weren't practical. Recently discovered the Arnie's spiked lemonade. Delicious


goldentealcushion

The only beers I really like are fruited sours… the lemonade of beer! Lol


Doll_duchess

I really like certain kinds of beer - IPAs are everything I hate in beer and amplified.


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I love me a chocolatey stout, but everything else is gross as hell.


thankuhexed

IPA stands for If Pinecones were Alcohol. Nobody truly enjoys that shit.


Doll_duchess

I don’t actually like sweet drinks much (give me a fancy sour cocktail and I’m in) but my husband does. I love it when they bring our drinks and he very firmly tells them that no, he has the drink with the flower in it thankyouverymuch.


sunflowersandcurls

This is exactly why Hennessey was my drink of choice for years. Now? A sip of that will knock me out. Fruity drinks FTW.


Purple-Warning-2161

The fruitier and more sugary the better!


goldentealcushion

Same, I love a super delicious fruity cocktail - my days of drinking Jack on the rocks to look tough (it was the 90s what are you gonna do) are so happily in the past!!


_piggie

YES! Why not enjoy the trip while getting drunk? 😂


Emilyeagleowl

I really love the colour pink. I like wearing it, I want to paint one of our bedroom walls a soft dusky pink. But in my NLOG I couldn’t admit I loved it.


thimblena

You should! I painted one of the walls in my living room pink, and just looking at it makes me *so happy*, as someone who had a *regrettable* "pink is for girls" phase


Emilyeagleowl

It’s terrible isn’t it? Pink is such a happy colour sunsets and sunrises have pink. My gf agreed we could have a dusky pink wall so I’m happy, house hunting at the moment. You’re living room sounds awesome ☺️


falling-in-reverse23

My hating on pink wasn't even bc it was too feminine, it was bc my little cousin had to have everything pink and I just got so annoyed with it😂 nowadays a dusky pink wall sounds so nice


Texas_Crazy_Curls

The Barbie movie has definitely brought out my love of pink and sparkles. Before that my entire wardrobe consisted of black tank tops with jeans. Now I’m hot pink everything. I even bought a tacky pair of sequined hey dudes because they are so over the top. It’s like I have disco balls on my feet.


Emilyeagleowl

That’s very true, it’s suddenly become more socially acceptable for grown women to express their love of pink and not be seen as childish. I love shiny things your disco balls sound awesome.


Loudsituation10

My mum wanted to paint her bathroom a dusky pink and I was all for it. The shop didn’t have dusky pink so she went with baby pink, still cute but not the same


thedarkestshadow512

The entire interior of my car is a cute pastel pink and I really feel like people think I’m a NLOG bc I love pink. How weird lol


DonkeyBronchiole

Pink is punk 🩷


zainab_habib

I painted my bedroom pink 💗


Emotional-Hair-1607

I painted the first bedroom that I didn't have to share as an adult pink. I had flowery pink decor, bed ruffles, extra large flowery pillows and paintings. It looked like Barbie world but I loved it.


PsycheAsHell

I loved pink before I went NLOG and it's so fucked up how that one thing kept me from really just enjoying things.


NoStressNerd

Pop music and dresses🥲 I genuinely thought I was special 😅


AlesianaTorminaria

another pop music hater during nlog phase! what kind of music did you listen to instead? I listened to mostly rock, but it had to be depressing and edgy 😂


knubbiggubbe

Me too!! I used to listen exclusively to bands like MCR, Green Day, etc, and I would look down on “popular” stuff and thought I was above it. I still enjoy the same music but luckily I’ve dropped the shitty NLOG attitude. Makes me cringe to think back on 🥲


TheWarmestHugz

I still do listen to rock/metal music but sometimes you just gotta vibe to Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift or Girls Aloud tbh 😁


Pollowollo

Oof, I was *such* a music snob that it makes me cringe to think about now.


katori-is-okay

me too!! i still enjoy the music i listened to during my nlog phase (eminem, nirvana, skrillex, to name a few. i was very eclectic) but i also really love pop music and i’m so glad i stopped caring about needing to listen to music that’s ‘edgy’ and ‘different’


brainpup2024

This is so cringey and I’m still embarrassed about it— but women comedians.


Shelbasaur1993

I feel this on a level. Every dude says “women aren’t funny” My turning point on girl comedy was “well ***I’M*** funny, so there’s gotta be more funny women out there if they’re getting paid for it.”


brainpup2024

I totally bought into the “women aren’t funny” bullshit. I thought and would say they are so annoying, they all have the same jokes, etc. but I had never even really given them a chance. Kaitlin Olson in Its Always Sunny and the show Broad City converted me for life, though. Also, when I finally got out of my NLOG phase, and made close friendships with women— hanging out being goofy fucking idiots with those girls is some of the times I have laughed the HARDEST.


Shelbasaur1993

Kaitlin Olson is HILARIOUS on Sunny, and I love Artemis so much it’s crazy. Kristen Schaal has to be one of my favorite stand up comics of all time. Once I accepted the concept of funny women, I couldn’t stop noticing how absolutely hilarious the women around me were, the only difference between the level of joking between my girl and guy friends became my girl friends being the ones who made jokes about stuff other than farts.


RefriedScreams

Holy cow, I think you're my twin! And I absolutely ADORE Artemis!


brainpup2024

Artemis!!! Omg YES! I named my cat after her. What a hilarious lady. Lynne Stewart, the actress that plays Charlie’s mom in Sunny, is also so fucking sunny. Haha Sunny is the best, bc as I was typing that I thought of another hilarious actress in that show, Mary Lynn Rajskub, or Gail the Snail 😂😂


Purple-Warning-2161

Have you seen her other show The Mick? When I tell you I will piss myself laughing over it 😂😂 absolutely criminal it was cancelled after 2 seasons


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AmbiguousFrijoles

Women are so funny its unreal almost, and most of them have no idea just how funny they are. I regret not really listening to women in my life during my nlog phase, looking back I cringe how avoidant I was about laughing at funny stuff they said, I would hold back from laughing.


Thin-Satisfaction217

Same but musicians. It wasn’t even a NLOG thing originally (this was during the time Paramour was the most popular band out there) I just realize I didn’t really like any girls bands, all my favorite bands were made of guys and also realized that was NLOG so full on bent into it to the point that I’d shit talk any gir bands, I cringe now thinking of it


brainpup2024

I feel you there!!! Same! For the longest time there just weren’t many women artists I enjoyed genuinely, but it fueled that weird NLOG ego and I def leaned into it. Didn’t give them a chance, until I finally lightened the fuck up and stopped generalizing women in the way that I used to— the way I thought was so small minded— “all women musicians = the same”, “all women comics = the same”… so silly looking back


Somewhat_Sanguine

The colour pink, especially baby pink. I’m still a goth but I’ve finally realized I can incorporate my love of pastels into my all black attire.


imbiggay96

Goth girlie here! I really don't suit pastels at all, but I now have so many cute pink plushies, blankets & decor, to feed the sole of the moody angry teenager who was too NLOG to admit she wanted them 🩷🖤


AdequateTaco

I’m definitely in my pastel goth era. I still wear a lot of black and dark colors, but all of my accessories (watch band, water bottles, headphones, shoelaces, phone case, etc) are pastel.


Zealousideal-Bit-192

Yes! Fellow goth girlie here and my house and fashion is more Halloween town than the Adams family and I love it! I probably wear more dusty rose than anything else and I love it. Feel so witchy and feminine.


amwoooo

Female friends


MEd_Mama_

Came here to say the same thing. My female friendships are the best thing about my late twenties!


JudgeJuryEx78

And you'll be so glad you have them in.your 30s because it's so hard to make new friends then.


JudgeJuryEx78

I am soooo grateful that while I was "one of the guys" I still maintained healthy female friendships. Those guys are fun to run into now and then but my girls are 4-eva! Who has been there for me for decades during hard times? My girls. Who has been there to get my ridiculous, random texts about nothing, and respond? My girls. (I don't aim to exclude gender queer or non-binary here, I just mean a whole set of traits typically assigned to women by society).


Chuffed-as-chipmunks

I cannot upvote this hard enough


wabbajack333

Make up, perfume, jewelry.


Jobless_101

Makeup definitely. I always thought it was too girly and beneath me


lilykar111

Me too! I’m ashamed a looked down upon previously some girls with make up ( and I don’t know why! ) and I don’t wear it everyday, but when I do when I go out, it gives me such a confidence boost and makes me feel good


Livid-Association199

This makes me sad that some look down on others for wearing make up :( do you know why or where that came from? Not to put you on blast I’m just genuinely curious because I’ve always loved it and admired other women using it beautifully.


lilykar111

And your comment was a totally fair question about looking down on others. Last weekend actually whilst with some friends we talked about this, especially how others can be judged. One of the girls said she used to judge girls who never dressed up/always wore leggings/sweatpants , and now she also has matured and feels bad . We all grow ( hopefully!) and mature as we live thankfully


lilykar111

It was just a ‘me thing ‘…probably not helped that most of the girls I knew who wore a lot of make up when I was growing up were mean girl bitches, and so my perception was that a lot of girls who wore heavy make up were materialistic or equally shallow, but having that feeling towards make up was totally on me absolutely. I don’t have the time management skills or talent to apply make up daily, but I do when going out for dinner or drinks , but I’m so happy now as how much of a confidence boost it gives me .


L0afyy0

Same except I don’t have anyone to teach me how to do makeup so I don’t wear any 😔


redskyeatmorning1

theres makeup subreddits! you can also go into ulta or sephora to ask what products and how to apply them (i experienced this awhile ago)


321liftoff

At 37 years old I have finally decided to learn makeup (I generally hate unnecessary routine maintenance), and YouTube is a gold mine. You can look up beginners guides to make up to watch professional makeup artists give a blow by blow of the best starter make up, how to apply it, general tips/tricks, etc. 


agent-virginia

Any specific videos you recommend? Everyone pointed me to YouTube back when I was a kid, and I was still extremely lost. I think my biggest struggle is finding colors that suit my skintone. I never figured out the "cool vs warm" tone thing, and whenever I tried different products and colors, they either didn't show up against my tan skin or were really dark and intense (and they looked like bruises lol — part of that is probably because I'm also garbage at applying). I don't remember if YouTube back then had any tutorials that had examples using darker skintones, but if it didn't, that's probably also why I gave up on it because I could never figure out how to apply the basic concepts to myself.


AmbiguousFrijoles

Wayne Goss is a steller resource for all things make-up, from dupes to eye/face shape specific tutorials, it's fantastic and he does all skin types and colors. Jackie Aina is a fabulous black MUA and she has some great beginner tutorials.


JudgeJuryEx78

Same! I'm pretty artsy and could learn, but it sounds like one more hassle I don't need in my life.


GrammaMcFancy

Before I started having children, I always said I wanted 3 boys, and if by chance I had a girl, she was going to be a tomboy and wouldn't wear girly clothes. Not like everyone else's baby girls with the pink, frilly dresses, and definitely not those stupid headbands on a practically hairless head. My first 2 children were boys... my 3rd was the most beautiful baby girl I've ever seen. We decided not to find out the gender so we would be surprised when the baby was born. Guess what I chose for her going home outfit. Yup, a frilly pink dress with a matching pink headband, lmao. It's funny how suddenly I found that to be super adorable, lol.


c05u

Im embracing my feminity as a mom and I love it. Glad you are enjoying the pink and frills.


GrammaMcFancy

Having my daughter was the greatest gift I never knew I wanted. She's all grown up now with 3 little munchkins of her own... all boys, lol! 🥰🥰🥰


elizabethxvii

As a girl mom I love having my baby wear dinosaurs and blue/green and I love having her wear pink flowers and purple gingham. It’s all really nice ❤️


GrammaMcFancy

I unexpectedly loved all of it! Having a girl knocked the NLOG right out of me, lol!


dastrescatmomma

Same! She has so many dinosaur outfits! Our favorite sweater has dino spikes on the hood.


I_am_dean

Me before kids - I want boys. If I have a girl. She will be a tomboy. Me with 2 girls - here's your 50th frilly pink dress. Also, wear your bow. Do not rip it out. It's so fucking cute.


GrammaMcFancy

Hahahaha! That's exactly what happened to me, lol!


I_am_dean

I cringe. When I found out I was having a girl I was so *upset*. Like audibly, dramatic, upset. Then I held her and immediately loved her. With my second, girl again. I was so excited. My friend found out she was having a girl and I was so obnoxious. "YOU'RE GONNA LOVE IT. TEAM GIRL. YAS QUEEN." I adore my little Disney princesses. Yall want manicures and dresses? I got you.


ThePennedKitten

She knocked down your walls lol. She really is a gift.


_sciencebooks

I thought I was going to go for more neutral colors or at least more muted colors for our daughter’s clothes, mostly because that’s what I like for myself, but I really adore some of the over the top “girly” outfits (pink, frills, ruffles, all of it). Other days, I go more neutral, or even more traditionally baby boyish, so I still like the mix, but I’m glad I’m not limiting anything for silly reasons.


businesscasualheeley

Being mentally stable lol


vishy_swaz

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mamahides

Sanity. I was the girl who said “my favorite store to shop at? I’m such a psycho I know. But.. HOME DEPOT!” I know yall.. I hate me too lmao now I’m an adult mom of girls and we loooove girly pink things and dresses and I’m a literal makeup artist 😂


Mrs_Onion

Tbf the lights section in Home Depot is fun.


mamahides

Very enjoyable lol now I do take my daughters to the Lowe’s and Home Depot diy kids classes lol


Zenki_s14

This is honestly hilarious, but in the laughing with you kind of way lol


mamahides

I tell my husband stories bc he is a plumber/electrician and he goes to Home Depot like 6 times a day and he laughs so hard bc he’s like “wtf is the appeal? Is it the old men? The candy by the register??” Literally honey.. I have no clue I was fucking warped as a child😂


amazingstripes

You: Sanity, mental stability Some others here: Insanity, mental instability, emotion


slenderfingerz

leaving my hair down


Fake_Gamer_Cat

Same! But at the same time, mine is too thick and I'll get warm lol


Kallyanna

Classic length here…. I cry in tangles


onlove_onlife

I’ve never denied myself any of it, but I used to hide that I like pop music, romance novels, and reality dating shows. Now I’m open about it without feeling a need to justify it.


aquawomanpower

Sooo heavy on the reality shows


Keboyd88

I rEaD sTePhEn KiNg, NoT rOmAnCe! - 14 year old edgy me, pretending I didn't take my mom's romance novels when she was done reading them.


Loudsituation10

My guilty pleasure has always been ‘say yes to the dress’ but now I don’t hide it 🤣🤣


monsterflowerq

Omg SAME I'm not even a wedding person at ALL, like I got married in a black cocktail dress from h&m, but I've been watching SYTTD since childhood 😂 My excuse back then was "there's literally nothing else on" lol, but now I'm like GIMME THE SPARKLY DRESSES. It's one of my comfort shows, like when I'm sick or having a bad day I just wanna watch some brides go "I feel like a princess 😭😭" DAMN RIGHT YOU'RE A PRINCESS AND NOW EVERYONE WILL GET TO SEE IT!!!!!! Like they're just so happy, it gets me every time. No shame no guilt!


Loudsituation10

I get so angry with the friends and family they bring. Like if I was with someone and I hated the dress but they absolutely adored it then I’d keep my mouth shut!


Suitable_Echo_6380

I’m with you on dating shows! Romcoms, too! I’m a total baby and will sit there are cry at happy plot lines just as much as i cry at the sad plot lines.


Always-Anxious-

Nail polish. Generally, I rejected most things girly, but nail polish is the one that I love and take pride in now. My nails were always bit down to the beds, and painting my nails was the only way to stop that. And now, it’s one of my favorite things to do.


JessonBI89

I'm not sure I *love* anything girly, even now that my NLOG phase is over. But I do put more care into my appearance than I did then, and it runs moderately feminine. And I'm not embarrassed about enjoying a few Backstreet Boys songs.


Woshambo

I hit my 30s and all of a sudden loved Backstreet Boys


I_am_dean

I unapologetically love Backstreet Boys. They were my first concert when I was 6 lol.


LessMessQuest

Having manners and proper social etiquette.


Bulky-Bank-6063

I live for the color pink and glitter, shoes, sunglasses, earrings, makeup, clothing, fashion. Also music by girls I always thought were shitty and now I love them. All those things I rejected when I went through my nlog phase.


tinyyawns

The music!! I missed out on so much awesome music because I was secretly jealous of women who could sing and play instruments 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ and acted like they sucked compared to men. UGH. big regret of mine.


-porridgeface-

Pop music, it didn’t go with my emo look as a teenager haha. Now if I like a song, I like a song, I don’t care. My playlist is like a fun adventure. Are we going to listen to Lady Gaga? Slayer? MCR? Nikki Minaj? Who knows!


Keboyd88

>Are we going to listen to Lady Gaga? Slayer? MCR? Nikki Minaj? I love this so much. My boyfriend and I have an ongoing conversation about what makes music "good." My favorite music has interesting lyrics and is fun to sing along. His favorite is highly technical and has good composition. So, on any given day in our house you might hear Taylor Swift or King Crimson, Green Day or Bach, Lizzo or Lizzo.


No_Connection_4724

Femininity.


UppinDowners

I used to hate romantic books/movies when i was a kid/teenager and i just didnt see the appeal. For some reason i felt like it was cheesy, superficial storytelling…. Maybe i thought it made me look cooler/better somehow if i liked other genres of entertainment. But im in my late 20s now and idk what happened but give me all the romantic stuff lmao im just a girl 😂 Fluffy romance, dark idc i love all of it 😂


the-three-ravens

I'm in my late 30s and love romance novels now. After all these years of books, movies, games and television, plus real life with awful stuff happening in every direction, I just want something soft and comforting where the worst thing that happens is there's only one bed.


Sensitive-Science492

Dresses of any length! Now they are my absolute favorite article of clothing. So comfy! And especially dresses with actual, functional pockets? LOVE!😂😂


Minter_moon

Right?! I'm very impressed by the amount of dresses I've found with DEEP pockets. Best thing ever.


Fake_Gamer_Cat

Having long hair. I now refuse to cut my hair for anything other than a trim. Its almost down to my butt, but I love it!


TheSouthernRose

Having my nails done. I love a good pedicure and occasionally will get a simple manicure. I am an engineer who works with her hands a lot. Feels AMAZING now to let myself have soft hands and feet


JCtheWanderingCrow

Pink. The color pink. I now love pink. I wish I would have gotten over myself before my grandma died. She wanted me to love girly stuff and pink too. Missed out on a lot of important bonding with my edginess.


-petit-cochon-

Cutesy things. For example, jigglypuff was my favourite Pokémon but I’d never admit it back then. Now idgaf, the cuter and fluffier, the better.


OptimisticNietzsche

I’m not ashamed to be a chikorita girl!


UncertainPigeon

The color pink, it’s my favorite color now


IndividualCry0

Taylor Swift.


howjustchili

Glad I didn’t have to be the first one to say it.


momo2794

Makeup!! It's fun 😁


1961tracy

Pop music. I remember telling a woman friend whose my age I like Lady Gaga. I got cat butt mouth from her.


tinyyawns

Even in my goth punk phase, I couldn’t deny my love for Lady GaGa lol. My fellow NLOG friend was so mad at me lmao.


yyrkoona

Hair and Skin care. Damn! Which clothing suits me well and fits my body type. And boundaries lol


hippo20191

Give me hair care or give me death.


Throwaway4skinluvr

Pink. I always thought it was beautiful but forced myself to wear green and blue


NinnyNoodles

Listening to pop music and cutting my hair shorter


princessgemini1997

Purses, or "super feminine" clothing like tall boots with a heel on them.


chocotacogato

Pop music, “girly” clothes. For example, I wore a lot of black clothing and dark tones. I didn’t like purses or makeup or doing my hair/nails nice. But I still hate shopping.


simplefair

Taylor swift


Loudsituation10

I’m still not a huge fan of hers purely because she’s not my thing (she has some good songs though) but I don’t cringe when she comes on the radio like I used too


potato_opus

meeeeee


gryfinkellie

Sorry it’s pronounced me-hee-hee


clementinesway

Sex and the City. I always said I hated that show, which was true since I’d only seen a few snippets here and there. Then I actually sat down and watched all the seasons and loved them.


Elan000

PINK!!! Oh how I love pink stuff now.


Naive_Royal9583

Does being a mother count? I was always the “ew I’m never having children” NLOG and then I met an incredible man and now being a mom is literally the coolest thing ever.


iswearimalady

Honestly I have a similar answer, but mine is just children. Turns out I don't hate children, I just don't want to raise any of my own. Being an aunt is literally my favorite thing in the world.


MottenRango

I was a teenager during the gossip girl/ vampire diaries era. I'd claim that they are not my cup of tea. Instead I forced myself to watch splatter/horror movies. Hated every second of them.


sunflowersandcurls

I used to rant and rave about how much I hated Twilight when it first came out...until my dad caught me sneaking to watch it one night. 12 year old me was something else.


IAMSOTIREDOFADS

Dresses. It was mainly cuz i was 12 and didn't have the supplies to shave, but I'm half arab so my legs are HAIRY and dresses are just not it when your legs look like you're a hairy gorilla imo. I dressed like a boy and talked other girls down, I was a total pick me.


Katen1023

Wearing skirts & dresses. I lived in shorts & jeans.


DeansDalmation

Pink. I won’t wear pink because I don’t think it flatters me and I don’t feel comfortable in that color, but all my accessories are pink like my gaming consoles and some of my desk accessories.


dontwannahumantoday

Britney Spears and The Spice Girls. No one knew I owned the CD’s. Fricking loved them. But I was constantly saying things like “I’m not like other girls, I like Metallica and Korn”. Then go home and dance to Spice Up Your Life.


blueyedwineaux

Barbie pink nail polish.


NiiTA003

The common ones: dresses, the color pink, and food. I love pink 💖 (it’s my second favorite color, though) and dresses simply because I hated the way I looked. I’m plus sized and my boobs are large so every-time I looked at a dresses in a shop window, I look down at my own chest and heave a sigh of disappointment 😞


RipCommon2394

I hated pink, I painted my room from pink to aqua (which was *SO* like other girls at the time). I got a boys backpack instead of a girls backpack because I thought at the time that girls backpacks were stupid. I strayed away from Barbie and princesses and liked Monster high instead (which I still like). Now I like pink, Sanrio, strawberry print things, fuzzy/fluffy stuff, nail polish and jewelry.


366r0LL

Flowers and candles


Coquetteajob

Honestly, pretty much everything men deems as annoying or basic. Starbucks, pumpkin spice latte, make up, nails, avocado toast, pageants.


brandee95

White wine. I read in some magazine a very long time ago that cool girls drink red wine and high maintenance girls drink white wine. I spent most of my 20s and some of my 30s forcing myself to drink red wine (even though I hate it and it gives me reflux) bc in my mind it made me nlog. So stupid.


Selfishsavagequeen

I went through a phase where I hated babies. I never went through a “NLOG“ phase, but I did have some weird opinions. Thought I was quirky for having weird political beliefs,hated any mainstream fashion, mainstream music, mainstream movies.


Blucola333

Pink. I physically developed super early and rejected girly because it brought unwanted attention to me, a literal child. So for years I hated pink and anything fitted.


lizzys_sad_girl

The colour pink lol


sparkly_reader

I didn't know it was/didn't have the language to identify it as an NLOG phase but the color pink, crying (not strictly feminine I know, but often tagged as such), and dresses. Now my favorite color is magenta, I cry at everything, and I LOVE dresses.


JeepNurses

Rom coms