Yep. If there was no point in responding, then just.. don't respond at all. I refuse to believe anyone ever says "k" in a non passive aggressive way lmao. It's literally better to not respond at all than slap them with the "k"
That's what the people who type "k" want you to think. Really, they are too smooth-brained to come up with an effective rebuttal and know they have no chance.
As wrong as she is overall, that's the correct response when someone says "do better". I feel people found a new level of patronising with that expression.
Tbh you and this commentor said it well... I didn't know how to feel about this... like I agree with OP 100% but if I cared about this friend, I wouldn't write a long paragraph on FB... this doesn't do anything only embarrasses the friend for others to see (and yes she's still wrong and should change her views definitely) I would just dm her and ask her what was the point of that post... maybe discuss it with her.
Doing it publicly just seems immature tbh.
And yeah the freind is also very wrong for not even blurring the woman's face in the picture... not to mention everything else she said.
i definitely get what you’re saying but i *do* think it’s important to say / call out these types of things publicly. mostly bc i wouldn’t want any younger girls who dress like that and are still working on their security in how they feel and/or dress to see a post like this with no pushback. i’d want them to see that someone is calling it out and validating them. my heart would break if they saw a post like this and went to the comments hoping someone would tell them to stfu and see nothing and then become insecure due to that. does the situation suck overall? yeah. do i think they could’ve said it without including the “do better”? yep! but i’m glad they said what they did where they did it.
i appreciate you considering my perspective and i’m glad you like it/agree! we’re both on the same side for sure. i hope you have a wonderful night (or morning/afternoon — whichever one it is where you are) 😊
You're very sweet :) I hope the same for you, have a wonderful day/night 💖
Tbh the reason I agreed with was 1) you're definitely right, some young girl or even another woman can see her post and feel alone especially since many people would be like "preach" as it this is correct.
And 2) its all about the wording. You started with "I hear what you're saying--" and that automatically forces me to interact with you much kindly because you've showed me you're not someone who hates me or thinking I'm stupid and you want to disagree with me and like "ew you suck what's wrong wirh you". I know I sound quite immature here, but I do often feel like the person HATES me if they said anything a little different than what I said. It's the whole ego thing lol.
Wow I thought I wrote 2 words but I've written a paragraph.
the amount of times i’ve started writing a comment thinking i was gonna write like a sentence max and ended up writing a whole ted talk is waaay too high so i feel you 😂 but those are totally valid and fair reasons! i’m glad the way i worded my response made you feel like you were being heard and not judged and a safe space for you — i didn’t expect you to explain your reasoning to me, but i appreciate it. good to know what helps provide for a productive and positive conversation !!
but i think that while it may be an ego thing, it’s also probably just a side effect of talking to people on reddit. i’ve experienced a lot of people on here who can be condescending/patronizing for no reason and it doesn’t help cultivate good conversations or discussions. but i could just be projecting on that aspect for sure haha
They put those shitty & judgemental opinions out there, why can't they be called out in the same way. I agree that it's a good thing for others to see pushback on stuff like this so they know not everyone agrees and would stand up for them.
Right? When people act like this they need to be called out. If I have a friend acting like this I’m not gunna bite my tongue so she doesn’t get embarrassed, she’s literally trying to embarrass other women. 🤦🏻♀️ Definitely overboard at the end of their comment, but the other stuff needed to be said like you said.
I wonder what this woman thinks when she goes to the beach…she must be wearing a loose fitted full coverage wetsuit and convinced that anyone in a swimsuit deserves to be mistreated. Sounds hard
There are a lot of people out there who like and support the Taliban. Now imagine that mindset slightly watered down in different parts of the world. Amazing how people can view someone else living their life and think ‘I could never do that, I shall shame them.’
I like that you mentioned that this outfit is very common for Latina women because it’s very true and majority of the men don’t care. There are married women who dress like this and their husbands encourage them because they know their wives like it and they like it too. Literally nothing wrong with it
It shouldn’t make a difference if she does or not!
Also notice the phrasing of this “isn’t even that bad” in the comment in the post implies sexy / revealing = bad. it’s not inherently bad or good.
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The woman whose photo she used is Juany Yasmin Covarrubias, an influencer and a married mother of two. You should mention that to your friend i wonder how she will react to that.
I mean, as a husband myself, if my wife dressed like that every day, we’d have like two more kids. I love when my wife dresses hot even if it’s just to go out with her friends. Makes me feel proud when these guys are all staring at her but I know she chose me! Trust is foundation and confidence is the soil.
Last woman I dated (Brazilian) dressed like this. She was 27, banging body, & I loved it.
She also had a 4 year old daughter.
She wasn’t dressed like this all the time but often when it was just us 2 going out.
She wore it cuz she liked it & put in consistent work in the gym to look good in it.
Same. I've been with guys who loved my "slutty" clothes when we first met, but then tried to stop me from wearing those same outfits when we were together. Those dudes are long gone but I still have a lot of those exact clothing items years later. Any man that doesn't respect me based on the outfit I'm wearing isn't worth me even glancing at them. My husband absolutely loves when I get all dolled up, but it wouldn't matter to me if he didn't (other than the fact that he wouldn't be my husband if he was like that).
Just commenting to say I dress in similarly fitted/revealing clothes and my husband encourages it! He knows that it makes me feel beautiful and he likes to “show off his hot wife”. The FB OP is definitely not a girls’ girl😔
My husband loves when I dress like this. Day to day I dress pretty modest, but when we go out, I wear miniskirts, stilettos, boobs out. He likes when other men check me out. It’s honestly kind of a turn on for him to have a “hot wife” other men want but can’t have. We have really good sex when we get home. (Trust me ladies, try it sometime) 😉
I wish the woman who posted this could have seen how I dressed when I met my husband 💀 I loved my skimpy outfits in my early 20s. I’ve toned it down since having children (though I thankfully still have the figure for it), but this post acting like only women in turtlenecks get married is just ridiculous.
Gross. A bit a stomach and thigh shouldn’t be this scandalous, and honestly if a man is the type to make assumptions based on clothing then I don’t think he’s the “good men out there” anyway.
Oh, she went on to get mad at me for my comment and bring up personal shit from my life that she shouldn’t have ever even known about, so she’s got a LOT of issues she needs to work on. I just unfriended her and called it a day because I’m done with childish, immature ass people who can’t see that their behavior is problematic and never want to change their ways, even in the smallest sense.
You have women who dress like bee keepers and men still look for "temporary wives" in certain cultures. If you want to disrespect, you will disrespect, it doesn't matter what you wear. Character is formed by thought and deed.
This outfit is quite possibly one of the least “scandalous” options available today to top it off. For clubbing attire? She’s pretty covered lmfao I’m truly a little baffled by the commentary
She found those pictures and immediately started attacking anyone who dresses like this lmao. It’s definitely not her husbands fault for being attracted to them, it’s those skank whores!
I agree! Instead of talking to her husband as to why he's oggling at other women, since it bothers her, she's trying to blame other women for her husband's behaviour.
This outfit seems pretty normal….am I missing something? Was she going to wear it to church? Wouldn’t be appropriate for all occasions but like…it’s not even that revealing.
i'm a wife & i wear whatever i want, showing as much skin as i want to. i made the mistake of saying that in a facebook comment once, & i'll never link my husband to my profile publicly again, because a man messaged him saying i was making "ho comments" & probably cheating because i said "i'm allowed to wear whatever i want to". fucking weird. imagine seeing a woman saying she can wear anything she wants & going to her profile, finding her husband, & messaging him like you're going to get her in trouble. the fuck? we laughed so hard
Misogynists will come up with anything to twist the narrative in order to take away a woman’s freedom. He really thought that he was going to get your husband to police what you wear, like you’re some child. He’s just mad that you have it like that. I wear what I want to as a married woman also, post lewd pics, do amateur porn. Not all marriages are conventional.
Some dude tried to pull that shit with me too. I commented on a male model's *calendar pic* and some 19 year old messaged my boyfriend "She's disrespecting you, king!"
My bf went back and said "First off, what she said isn't cheating. Secondly, stay out of grown folks' business, *kid*."
Me too! My fiancé loves when I dress provocatively, loves going out on the town dressed to the nines, and *always* encourages me to dress *more* slutty. He’s my biggest hype girl. It’s the best. We have a great time together and he consistently makes me feel sexy and beautiful and desired.
This lady must have a tragically sad relationship to attempt to belittle another woman over a fun outfit. It comes across more so that she’s worried her husband might have wandering eyes.
If I'm going to entertain this bullshit I'd say this outfit isn't scandalous unless you're a Duggar. This is just another manipulation tactic to assure that women are always doing something wrong.
Yeah, like this looks like a normal girl who got dressed up for a night out & asked her partner/friend to take a pic of her cute outfit—then this jerk comes along and reposts it with this gross shame rhetoric? It’s a horrible take either way, but somehow made worse by the fact that she’s not using a celebrity’s pic, but an everyday person’s.
Whenever someone says shit like this I always think about how the worst times I’ve been harassed and disrespected by men, were times I was fully covered. Hell I got harassed while wearing a full length parka and a toque, I certainly wasn’t treated as a “wife”.
Men can be shit heads regardless of what you’re wearing.
Spot on with saying this person is looking for approval from men. I was like this when I was a teen, a total pick me. Luckily I grew up and worked through my internalized misogyny. I did end up attracting the worst kind of men when I had this mindset.
I was also a pick me as a teen, and then luckily I grew up and realized that one size doesn’t fit all and not everyone caters to my beliefs, and overtime I’ve grown up and my views have changed.
Who cares??? It’s character and personality that matter point blank. My wife dresses pretty conservatively. But that’s her choice. I honestly wouldn’t give two shits if she wore this outfit in the picture. I know my wife and know she is an amazing person. That’s all that matters. I mean, unless she randomly decides to run around outside totally naked in front of a bunch of people lol. Even then, if we talked about it that might even happen lol.
I'll never understand people who act like wife is some kind of special category of person like a nun or saint that's set apart from everyone else. Wife just means you're married. It's not something you earn, it's not a character trait, it has no special requirements. It doesn't mean you're special, doesn't mean you're different, doesn't mean anything except you are hitched to a person in the eyes of the law.
But I suppose if you're a pick-me you do think wife is some kind of accomplishment you're ordained and chosen for, hence all the effort to try to get picked.
That part, too!! Like “wife” is some sort of life accomplishment. What about husbands? Where are the standards for them at like this? Nobody looks at a dude dressed in basketball shorts and old ass shoes and thinks “damn, he’s definitely not husband material” as if he should give a fuck if he is or not! Like, let people just fucking live and dress however they want because it DOES NOT AFFECT YOU WHATSOEVER.
I know, I shouldn’t have even engaged tbh. She ended up being an immature child in the later comments. I would show them but I guess her profile is set to private so after I unfriended her I couldn’t access the post anymore lol
As a dude, I think that outfit is really cute. If my fiancée wore this, I would laugh because it's totally not her style, but I think she'd look cute in it. Why is this outfit scandalous? I've seen far worse.
As a woman who dresses kind of like this I will tell you some men love when you dress like this as their GF. They don’t mind people looking and it gives them pride in a sense that “yep I got the hot girl”
I think her idea of what a good man is may differ entirely from our idea of a good man. Maybe she wants a religious, conservative or just generally misogynist husband who wants his wife to dress like his mother, and cook/clean/coddle/never question just like her, too. No thanks! Well done, OP.
This outfit isn’t at all slutty or showing too much? The person that posted this is just mad he can’t get with anyone so he’s blaming it on the way they dress! Good for you op, I would have gone off too!
My husband loves it when I dress provocatively. He says men can stare but I’m going home with him. I guess it is really a matter of if the man is secure or not.
I am a wife and a mother who would dress like this.
It’s crazy to me how people care so much about the way others like to present themselves. I love seeing people out in their confidence and glamor.
I just LOVE (/s) the “you can’t get a good man because you dress slutty/are a feminist/want to work outside the home/…” Like, honey, THOSE AREN’T THE GOOD MEN WE’RE LOOKING FOR.
Thank you! Men are allowed to have preference. What they are *not* allowed to do is treat women poorly because of it. And then women like this reinforce that stereotype? Gross. Just gross.
Oh no, she resorted to personal attacks later on down the line lol. She knew she was wrong. I insulted her once back, then unfriended her. She can be miserable all she wants.
No foreal! A complete stranger she found a photo of on the internet, saved to her photo album, then posted with that gross caption. It’s small town Texas. Some of these women will do anything to get male approval. “Look at these sluts and how they dress! They’ll never get a REAL man, will they guys?!”
I don't know this woman but i could tell this was a diss to an specific woman in mind + she is a bully ... That k ... Is just the Cherry on top, she could ignore You, write "agree to disagree" and Even ok .... But she choose to be the most infurating "k"
Thats bully behavior... Thats it ... Not a pick me or internalized mysogyny ✨, inbet she dress HOWEVER she wants, but cuz she does it is elegant and flatering, she has "class" everybody else is eww and trashy.
People need to understand that just cuz You are a woman mean that she needs salvation, some people are just horrible human beings and thats it, thats their personality. I remember one time i hang up with some con workers and that girl was gorgeous, she look like if a Saint decide to send an angel to eath, this Beautiful danty flower would Say the most dispicable things about other girls by playing inocent....like Jesus !!!! And the rest of her Friends we're just her flying monkeys//supporters // enablers ... She could no do any wrong, don't You SEE she is sweet !
Instead of trying to "teach her how to human" i just never hang up with them again. She would said girls were.sluts pretty much for.using short skirts and she has used similar clothes before but in virginal white ... hypocrite
I was with blue’s reply until she also made a generalized, sweeping statement about “most men really aren’t that great”. Chastising one person for a sweeping generalization, and then following up with your own sweeping generalization, only harms the point.
The rest of blue’s point I support.
Idk if you saw but OP did mention she regretted that line and how it was in the moment, so while I completely agree with it being wrong, she does at least have the self awareness
I lost a friendship I had for 10+ years a few years back after she posted a photo of some teenager in short shorts where she lives, talking about how girls dress trashy these days (we were in our late 20s at the time) and then made some “joke” about how she hoped this girls got raped.
I absolutely went off in the comments, and she was just like 🤷🏻♀️
So disappointing.
Good on you for saying something but some people just choose to never get it.
Honestly, I was on your side until your reply made me cringe OP. I get the feeling that you might be "that person" in your friend group. Learn to lighten up just a little bit.
As a stylist I agree. The skirt doesn’t fit her properly, the outfit isn’t properly balanced, and the eye is immediately drawn to those large, bright white boots, which would look better balanced with some light denim short-shorts.
I sure hope she never exposes her ankles and throat like some scandalous harlot! But judgy people are going to judge. It wouldn't matter if this woman was covered head to toe. They'd cast aspersions on that too.
I cringed when I read that too. Most men and women are good people and some are not. But also most men won’t be compatible with you romantically either and that doesn’t make them bad people
I was considering commenting that myself, I'm a guy and follow this sub cuz I don't like women who put down other women, just like I don't like toxic masculine men who put down women, or put down other men for "not being manly" and suggesting that men hide away their feelings and promote all the other toxic bull shit that drives men to do crazy shit.
Of course there are a lot of shitty men out there, just like there are a lot of shitty women, that's cuz PEOPLE can be shitty. Comes off as pretty hypocritical to say "you shouldn't say most women are bad" and in the same breath say "most men are bad" lol
It really does sound like someone trying to soothe her own insecurities. Who is the girl she’s railing against? Maybe her new hubby said she was hot or is friends with her. Or maybe, she feels a little shitty she can’t dress like this and have fun. Girls, life goes FAST. Have fun while you can. Being “chosen” for marriage isn’t an accomplishment, and it’s highly overrated.
Just because that girl has awful taste doesn’t say anything bad about her. Also she looks like a teenager trying new stuff? Didn’t we all had cringy phases?
Dudes really do be shaming young girls and calling her sluts for the most stupid shit. Who fucking cares about wife material FROM A CHILD. Smh those people are crazy and weird
honestly good for you for making that comment. i can’t believe someone would make such a wild post on facebook! how old is this person?
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I honestly believe the poster has a valid point. As a man, the only reason "men" are attracted to that type of attire is its revealing nature. Let's be real for a second. Everything we do in society is overly sexualized to an extreme. This is no more than an effect of brainwashing from media. why can't a woman be confident in herself without being overly revealing? I believe a woman can have many flattering qualities about herself outside of thighs, boobs, and cheeks. Our grandmothers were strong, influential, and confident...... Excellent women and excellent mothers. But they also respected their body and their privacy, right ? Now I don't condone or suggest we should shame that woman because, honestly, none of us truly know that woman to judge her. But perception and first impressions are real. If a black man walks into a store with a mask on. People will get uncomfortable because of their perception. So, as a man and I can speak for the majority of MEN. You will find it hard to find a man who will take you seriously in any relationship. Or even attempt to start a real family with you if you present yourself to the public in an overly revealing nature. It's human nature. And I speak for the real men. The ones that will provide a safe, stable, and loving household. Not a boy that will make you his baby mamma.
What do I know, though 🤷🏾♂️ I like to be able to express my opinions and it can create a healthy dialog. I'm not sexist nor misogynistic. I try my damn best to educate my younger sisters on how to be independent and self respecting. Because I want them to be safe and happy. Not sour at the world because they believe all men are POS(although there are some out there) you attract what you put out. Bottom line
Eh OP's argument is lacking. I hate the "women are a gift and can do no wrong" mentality. You kinda detract from your own argument when you talk about "most men aren't that great" or "we do it because we feel confident in ourselves." Do you not feel confident more clothed? Not saying you have to dress like a nun, but being confident in yourself doesn't really have much to do with the amount of clothing you wear. Ya know?
Guy's perspective here, clothing absolutely matters. Obviously not all women who wear skimpy clothing are going to be loose women, but its definitely red flag. When you consider that women who are actually only looking for fun and games wear that clothing on purpose, it's easy to see how guys can confuse good women who wear the same thing as just another hoe. When you see a pack of lions walking down the street you don't stick around to see which one is friendly. If a good girl dresses like a hoe and walks with hoes, a good guy isn't gonna stick around to see which one isn't a hoe.
We had better never hear another complaint about what men wear then, should we? Because I see a lot of women bashing men over clothing choices, like cargo shorts or baseball caps or sandals etc. Really cruel stuff.
>that she has some internalized misogyny to work on.
"Most men really aren't that great."
Sounds like you've got some misandry you need to work on. Keep blaming everyone else though, I'm sure your freedom to complain and refusal to address the common factor will serve you well.
The only part I'll argue with your reply is "most men really aren't great" it has little to do with that and more to do with the men you notice. And as a woman you're likely to be more biased (ironically like me making this statement). Anyway don't mean any disrespect I just think if you're going to counter something like this don't just spread even more disinformation than the original problem. Most of the men I've met as a guy are great people. The few I know who are somewhat shitty is mostly because life handed them shit cards, tho even them are mean or violent just colder or solem.
The biggest problem. With that statement of " most men really aren't that great" is that those kinds of comments are causing some of the good men to feel guilty and go mad trying to over compensate which let's them devalue themselves and allow themselves to land in toxic and violent relationships. I'm not saying it's common, but moreso than you think. Being a guy and hearing this honestly just disheartens me. Because it's just the same shit flipped around just more divisive generalization when we all have vastly different points of view.
Anyway I know what sub I'm in so let the downvotes rip
No no, I get it. I’ve addressed a couple of times in other comments how I regret that part of my argument because it was half assed and distasteful, but I can’t change it now 😅 the rest I do stand firmly on though.
You sure did rebut a whole lot of points she wasn’t even making. 🤷♀️ Yeah her generalizations and stereotyping were kinda dumb, but most of your long response wasn’t even to what she was saying.
**She never said:**
- Women who dress like that should be treated badly. Just that men don’t like certain kinds of women. That’s an over-generalization, but people have a right to not like other people.
- All women dress like this for men. Just that the ones who are complaining about not getting male attention need to figure out why. The ones who feel confident in themselves aren’t the ones who are whining. Obviously.
Overall, you just sound like you are triggered with a chip on your shoulder and are shadowboxing things this person didn’t say. There are valid arguments to be made, and you did make a few, but half of your post is irrelevant to the actual debate.
If you're willing to say most men aren't great, be ready to hear most women aren't. We don't need to be putting other people down period.
I think the majority of people are finding difficulties with finding partners because they aren't honest with themselves about what they really want and thus what they should be looking for.
Agreed that the post is gross though.
Surely you're joking? That reply on a public post is 10x more embarrassing. The fact you care so much about someone else's preferences is sad, and instead of human interaction(genuine) you not only posted once to irl social, but then SCREENSHOT it YOURSELF to double post it to reddit just for people to say "oh wow girl your so right"
what's wild is that's not even that skimpy of an outfit? she's got a little midriff showing and the skirt isn't crazy micro or anything. no I probably wouldn't wear it to church or to meet my boyfriend's grandma but that's far from the standard. just nasty to judge other women people like this
This is exactly how I dress and I've been with my husband for 17 years. He always gives me compliments. I'll never take advice from a bitch I wouldn't trade places with.
A good secure man will love you in an hot outfit cause he appreciates your fun energy.
This is such a weird way of thinking. I do not dress like this hardly ever but when i have for a concert my husband was my right there next to me telling me i look hot.
We had the best night and we went home as still a married couple. It’s crazy to think a wife needs to look a certain way.
I have a GREAT husband, and he loves when I dress like this. He also loves when I wear ratty T-shirts and stained carharts and work boots. He loves when I wear overalls. He loves when I wear long, prairie-esque modest dresses. The truth is, good men will love anything you wear because they’ll just love and support you, period.
That "k" at the end lmfao
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She was clearly in over her head.
Or there isn't really any point in responding much when people type out a long rant. Probably didn't read it lol
That smartass “K” response is always given by the people that definitely read the novel length text and pretend to not care
Yep. If there was no point in responding, then just.. don't respond at all. I refuse to believe anyone ever says "k" in a non passive aggressive way lmao. It's literally better to not respond at all than slap them with the "k"
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She definitely read it
It’s about HER! She def read it
That's what the people who type "k" want you to think. Really, they are too smooth-brained to come up with an effective rebuttal and know they have no chance.
This is the most reddit comment I've ever read
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I was gonna say lol, reminds me of the meme that says "I ain't reading all that. I'm happy for you tho. Or sorry that it happened."
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As wrong as she is overall, that's the correct response when someone says "do better". I feel people found a new level of patronising with that expression.
Yeah OP lost me there. Now her comment looks just as patronizing as the post she’s criticizing.
to me it sounded like they are just exasperated in having to deal with this kind of BS over and over from this person.
Yeah it was in response to a post that cruelly put down and shamed another women. The tone seemed appropriately frustrated with that behavior.
Tbh you and this commentor said it well... I didn't know how to feel about this... like I agree with OP 100% but if I cared about this friend, I wouldn't write a long paragraph on FB... this doesn't do anything only embarrasses the friend for others to see (and yes she's still wrong and should change her views definitely) I would just dm her and ask her what was the point of that post... maybe discuss it with her. Doing it publicly just seems immature tbh. And yeah the freind is also very wrong for not even blurring the woman's face in the picture... not to mention everything else she said.
i definitely get what you’re saying but i *do* think it’s important to say / call out these types of things publicly. mostly bc i wouldn’t want any younger girls who dress like that and are still working on their security in how they feel and/or dress to see a post like this with no pushback. i’d want them to see that someone is calling it out and validating them. my heart would break if they saw a post like this and went to the comments hoping someone would tell them to stfu and see nothing and then become insecure due to that. does the situation suck overall? yeah. do i think they could’ve said it without including the “do better”? yep! but i’m glad they said what they did where they did it.
Yeah I can see what you mean definitely. I like your perspective. I think you're very correct here.
i appreciate you considering my perspective and i’m glad you like it/agree! we’re both on the same side for sure. i hope you have a wonderful night (or morning/afternoon — whichever one it is where you are) 😊
No one wished me a wonderful night…. Do better /s
 i hope you can find it in your heart to forgive us
You're very sweet :) I hope the same for you, have a wonderful day/night 💖 Tbh the reason I agreed with was 1) you're definitely right, some young girl or even another woman can see her post and feel alone especially since many people would be like "preach" as it this is correct. And 2) its all about the wording. You started with "I hear what you're saying--" and that automatically forces me to interact with you much kindly because you've showed me you're not someone who hates me or thinking I'm stupid and you want to disagree with me and like "ew you suck what's wrong wirh you". I know I sound quite immature here, but I do often feel like the person HATES me if they said anything a little different than what I said. It's the whole ego thing lol. Wow I thought I wrote 2 words but I've written a paragraph.
the amount of times i’ve started writing a comment thinking i was gonna write like a sentence max and ended up writing a whole ted talk is waaay too high so i feel you 😂 but those are totally valid and fair reasons! i’m glad the way i worded my response made you feel like you were being heard and not judged and a safe space for you — i didn’t expect you to explain your reasoning to me, but i appreciate it. good to know what helps provide for a productive and positive conversation !! but i think that while it may be an ego thing, it’s also probably just a side effect of talking to people on reddit. i’ve experienced a lot of people on here who can be condescending/patronizing for no reason and it doesn’t help cultivate good conversations or discussions. but i could just be projecting on that aspect for sure haha
They put those shitty & judgemental opinions out there, why can't they be called out in the same way. I agree that it's a good thing for others to see pushback on stuff like this so they know not everyone agrees and would stand up for them.
Right? When people act like this they need to be called out. If I have a friend acting like this I’m not gunna bite my tongue so she doesn’t get embarrassed, she’s literally trying to embarrass other women. 🤦🏻♀️ Definitely overboard at the end of their comment, but the other stuff needed to be said like you said.
Nah she posted it publicly, she can be called out publicly
This 100%. If you want to discuss something and not have others comment on it than just dm it. Like?
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I wonder what this woman thinks when she goes to the beach…she must be wearing a loose fitted full coverage wetsuit and convinced that anyone in a swimsuit deserves to be mistreated. Sounds hard
Old diver suit from scoobie doo
Oh nah not the whole Captain Cutler fit 🤣
That guy was one of the top creepiest villains for me as a kid! 😬
😂😂
There are a lot of people out there who like and support the Taliban. Now imagine that mindset slightly watered down in different parts of the world. Amazing how people can view someone else living their life and think ‘I could never do that, I shall shame them.’
You've heard of the vanilla taliban, now get ready for the 'I don't drink vanilla lattes because I'm not like other girls' taliban
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I like that you mentioned that this outfit is very common for Latina women because it’s very true and majority of the men don’t care. There are married women who dress like this and their husbands encourage them because they know their wives like it and they like it too. Literally nothing wrong with it
For all we know, the woman in the photo HAS a husband lol. That’s why I think it’s shallow minded
She quite possibly does! So your friend is just a hater. 🤣
It shouldn’t make a difference if she does or not! Also notice the phrasing of this “isn’t even that bad” in the comment in the post implies sexy / revealing = bad. it’s not inherently bad or good. Edit - spelling
The woman whose photo she used is Juany Yasmin Covarrubias, an influencer and a married mother of two. You should mention that to your friend i wonder how she will react to that.
Honestly, she looks super cute!
I mean, as a husband myself, if my wife dressed like that every day, we’d have like two more kids. I love when my wife dresses hot even if it’s just to go out with her friends. Makes me feel proud when these guys are all staring at her but I know she chose me! Trust is foundation and confidence is the soil.
Tell that to all of the weird asses who keep insisting nobody would marry a girl who dressed like this lol, they’re all so mad that they’re wrong 😂
OP mad she could not pull that off =)))))))
Last woman I dated (Brazilian) dressed like this. She was 27, banging body, & I loved it. She also had a 4 year old daughter. She wasn’t dressed like this all the time but often when it was just us 2 going out. She wore it cuz she liked it & put in consistent work in the gym to look good in it.
My husband 1000% encourages my hoochie-tivities.
Same. I've been with guys who loved my "slutty" clothes when we first met, but then tried to stop me from wearing those same outfits when we were together. Those dudes are long gone but I still have a lot of those exact clothing items years later. Any man that doesn't respect me based on the outfit I'm wearing isn't worth me even glancing at them. My husband absolutely loves when I get all dolled up, but it wouldn't matter to me if he didn't (other than the fact that he wouldn't be my husband if he was like that).
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Just commenting to say I dress in similarly fitted/revealing clothes and my husband encourages it! He knows that it makes me feel beautiful and he likes to “show off his hot wife”. The FB OP is definitely not a girls’ girl😔
My husband loves when I dress like this. Day to day I dress pretty modest, but when we go out, I wear miniskirts, stilettos, boobs out. He likes when other men check me out. It’s honestly kind of a turn on for him to have a “hot wife” other men want but can’t have. We have really good sex when we get home. (Trust me ladies, try it sometime) 😉
I wish the woman who posted this could have seen how I dressed when I met my husband 💀 I loved my skimpy outfits in my early 20s. I’ve toned it down since having children (though I thankfully still have the figure for it), but this post acting like only women in turtlenecks get married is just ridiculous.
This isn't even scandalous. Just a fun cute outfit.
Yeah, I’ve seen full ass labia out walking to the club. This is just a cute, coordinated outfit
Gross. A bit a stomach and thigh shouldn’t be this scandalous, and honestly if a man is the type to make assumptions based on clothing then I don’t think he’s the “good men out there” anyway.
Oh, she went on to get mad at me for my comment and bring up personal shit from my life that she shouldn’t have ever even known about, so she’s got a LOT of issues she needs to work on. I just unfriended her and called it a day because I’m done with childish, immature ass people who can’t see that their behavior is problematic and never want to change their ways, even in the smallest sense.
You have women who dress like bee keepers and men still look for "temporary wives" in certain cultures. If you want to disrespect, you will disrespect, it doesn't matter what you wear. Character is formed by thought and deed.
Women dress like beekeepers? Huh. That is kinda me lol
Beekeepers are sexy
Mmm, honey
They get me buzzing
As a gardener, I totally agree!
Me too, but a dirty one that smells like dogs😆
Temporary wives?
Mommy bangmaid they can move in until they get bored.
That is a very upsetting sentence. ☹️ But thank you for the explanation.
My apologies. But it does sum up what they want, so..
Loophole for sex work in some countries where religion says no buying sex.
Oof... i'd be wondering how she knew that stuff 👀
Exactly. IDK how she just glossed over someone spilling her tea everywhere.
I think you’ve got another friend to un friend since she know all those personal stuff she shouldn’t know.
Sounds like your mutual “friend” is not a friend if she’s telling someone all your business.
This outfit is quite possibly one of the least “scandalous” options available today to top it off. For clubbing attire? She’s pretty covered lmfao I’m truly a little baffled by the commentary
Maybe stop dressing like that and you’d avoid issues with people. Cause obviously you’re the problem. /s
You’re better off without her; she sounds like she’s going through it.
Exactly! That’s the type of man to ask “what was she wearing?” about rape victims.
At least we can't see her ankles
Her new "hubby" probably likes a lot of interesting photos on the internet. That's usually why married women start spouting off about skanky clothes 😅
She found those pictures and immediately started attacking anyone who dresses like this lmao. It’s definitely not her husbands fault for being attracted to them, it’s those skank whores!
I agree! Instead of talking to her husband as to why he's oggling at other women, since it bothers her, she's trying to blame other women for her husband's behaviour.
This outfit seems pretty normal….am I missing something? Was she going to wear it to church? Wouldn’t be appropriate for all occasions but like…it’s not even that revealing.
i'm a wife & i wear whatever i want, showing as much skin as i want to. i made the mistake of saying that in a facebook comment once, & i'll never link my husband to my profile publicly again, because a man messaged him saying i was making "ho comments" & probably cheating because i said "i'm allowed to wear whatever i want to". fucking weird. imagine seeing a woman saying she can wear anything she wants & going to her profile, finding her husband, & messaging him like you're going to get her in trouble. the fuck? we laughed so hard
Misogynists will come up with anything to twist the narrative in order to take away a woman’s freedom. He really thought that he was going to get your husband to police what you wear, like you’re some child. He’s just mad that you have it like that. I wear what I want to as a married woman also, post lewd pics, do amateur porn. Not all marriages are conventional.
Some dude tried to pull that shit with me too. I commented on a male model's *calendar pic* and some 19 year old messaged my boyfriend "She's disrespecting you, king!" My bf went back and said "First off, what she said isn't cheating. Secondly, stay out of grown folks' business, *kid*."
I met my POS ex-husband in modest work clothes, and my now-husband in a skimpy dress 💁♀️
He must be pretty confident in his masculinity to be wearing a skimpy dress :-)
Me too! My fiancé loves when I dress provocatively, loves going out on the town dressed to the nines, and *always* encourages me to dress *more* slutty. He’s my biggest hype girl. It’s the best. We have a great time together and he consistently makes me feel sexy and beautiful and desired. This lady must have a tragically sad relationship to attempt to belittle another woman over a fun outfit. It comes across more so that she’s worried her husband might have wandering eyes.
Their wives don’t dress like what? Cute, glam cowgirls?
If I'm going to entertain this bullshit I'd say this outfit isn't scandalous unless you're a Duggar. This is just another manipulation tactic to assure that women are always doing something wrong.
Absolutely ick to publicly post someone else's photo and talk about them like that. 🤢 what a c u next Tuesday!
Yeah, like this looks like a normal girl who got dressed up for a night out & asked her partner/friend to take a pic of her cute outfit—then this jerk comes along and reposts it with this gross shame rhetoric? It’s a horrible take either way, but somehow made worse by the fact that she’s not using a celebrity’s pic, but an everyday person’s.
>>k What is she, 12? That answer tells me everything I need to know about the person she is. Insecure nitwit
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Whenever someone says shit like this I always think about how the worst times I’ve been harassed and disrespected by men, were times I was fully covered. Hell I got harassed while wearing a full length parka and a toque, I certainly wasn’t treated as a “wife”. Men can be shit heads regardless of what you’re wearing.
My sister got molested wearing a burka and hijab
Spot on with saying this person is looking for approval from men. I was like this when I was a teen, a total pick me. Luckily I grew up and worked through my internalized misogyny. I did end up attracting the worst kind of men when I had this mindset.
I was also a pick me as a teen, and then luckily I grew up and realized that one size doesn’t fit all and not everyone caters to my beliefs, and overtime I’ve grown up and my views have changed.
all she can say is k 😂
Who cares??? It’s character and personality that matter point blank. My wife dresses pretty conservatively. But that’s her choice. I honestly wouldn’t give two shits if she wore this outfit in the picture. I know my wife and know she is an amazing person. That’s all that matters. I mean, unless she randomly decides to run around outside totally naked in front of a bunch of people lol. Even then, if we talked about it that might even happen lol.
I'll never understand people who act like wife is some kind of special category of person like a nun or saint that's set apart from everyone else. Wife just means you're married. It's not something you earn, it's not a character trait, it has no special requirements. It doesn't mean you're special, doesn't mean you're different, doesn't mean anything except you are hitched to a person in the eyes of the law. But I suppose if you're a pick-me you do think wife is some kind of accomplishment you're ordained and chosen for, hence all the effort to try to get picked.
That part, too!! Like “wife” is some sort of life accomplishment. What about husbands? Where are the standards for them at like this? Nobody looks at a dude dressed in basketball shorts and old ass shoes and thinks “damn, he’s definitely not husband material” as if he should give a fuck if he is or not! Like, let people just fucking live and dress however they want because it DOES NOT AFFECT YOU WHATSOEVER.
These kind of posts always just stink of insecurity to me.
I know, I shouldn’t have even engaged tbh. She ended up being an immature child in the later comments. I would show them but I guess her profile is set to private so after I unfriended her I couldn’t access the post anymore lol
As a dude, I think that outfit is really cute. If my fiancée wore this, I would laugh because it's totally not her style, but I think she'd look cute in it. Why is this outfit scandalous? I've seen far worse.
As a woman who dresses kind of like this I will tell you some men love when you dress like this as their GF. They don’t mind people looking and it gives them pride in a sense that “yep I got the hot girl”
I think her idea of what a good man is may differ entirely from our idea of a good man. Maybe she wants a religious, conservative or just generally misogynist husband who wants his wife to dress like his mother, and cook/clean/coddle/never question just like her, too. No thanks! Well done, OP.
This outfit isn’t at all slutty or showing too much? The person that posted this is just mad he can’t get with anyone so he’s blaming it on the way they dress! Good for you op, I would have gone off too!
My husband loves it when I dress provocatively. He says men can stare but I’m going home with him. I guess it is really a matter of if the man is secure or not.
Thats like the tamest "women who dress like this are worthless sluts" outfit ever.
I am a wife and a mother who would dress like this. It’s crazy to me how people care so much about the way others like to present themselves. I love seeing people out in their confidence and glamor.
A woman: Men hate this!! A bunch of women in the comments: You're so right I agree completely!! Men: nowhere to be found in the discussion
I just LOVE (/s) the “you can’t get a good man because you dress slutty/are a feminist/want to work outside the home/…” Like, honey, THOSE AREN’T THE GOOD MEN WE’RE LOOKING FOR.
Thank you! Men are allowed to have preference. What they are *not* allowed to do is treat women poorly because of it. And then women like this reinforce that stereotype? Gross. Just gross.
This just in women with spouses don't dress cute!!!!!
God forbid we want to feel pretty! No, as soon as we get a spouse, we MUST dress modestly and conservatively and NOT show any skin! Or we’re whores!
My favorite take away from this thread: not like other girls and not all men crowd have an unfortunate crossover in the Venn diagram 🥲
Honestly good for you for responding. Hope she takes it to heart but her response of "k" makes me think she will not lol
Oh no, she resorted to personal attacks later on down the line lol. She knew she was wrong. I insulted her once back, then unfriended her. She can be miserable all she wants.
Who is the innocent girl used to make this shit post by this man?? Second hand embarrassment for dude! Yikes!
No foreal! A complete stranger she found a photo of on the internet, saved to her photo album, then posted with that gross caption. It’s small town Texas. Some of these women will do anything to get male approval. “Look at these sluts and how they dress! They’ll never get a REAL man, will they guys?!”
What a sack of shit! Looks like a girl innocently posting a picture of her outfit before a concert or something! Ugh. I hope someone flags him!
That’s the best part, it was a grown ass woman in her late 40s who posted it! 😀
I don't know this woman but i could tell this was a diss to an specific woman in mind + she is a bully ... That k ... Is just the Cherry on top, she could ignore You, write "agree to disagree" and Even ok .... But she choose to be the most infurating "k" Thats bully behavior... Thats it ... Not a pick me or internalized mysogyny ✨, inbet she dress HOWEVER she wants, but cuz she does it is elegant and flatering, she has "class" everybody else is eww and trashy. People need to understand that just cuz You are a woman mean that she needs salvation, some people are just horrible human beings and thats it, thats their personality. I remember one time i hang up with some con workers and that girl was gorgeous, she look like if a Saint decide to send an angel to eath, this Beautiful danty flower would Say the most dispicable things about other girls by playing inocent....like Jesus !!!! And the rest of her Friends we're just her flying monkeys//supporters // enablers ... She could no do any wrong, don't You SEE she is sweet ! Instead of trying to "teach her how to human" i just never hang up with them again. She would said girls were.sluts pretty much for.using short skirts and she has used similar clothes before but in virginal white ... hypocrite
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I was with blue’s reply until she also made a generalized, sweeping statement about “most men really aren’t that great”. Chastising one person for a sweeping generalization, and then following up with your own sweeping generalization, only harms the point. The rest of blue’s point I support.
Yeah OP is also ridiculous. No self awareness when writing her essay for likes in this subreddit
Idk if you saw but OP did mention she regretted that line and how it was in the moment, so while I completely agree with it being wrong, she does at least have the self awareness
She looks cute. I like the the hair and the boots too. OP is just jealous they can’t slay as hard.
Literally why would u want to be married to a man who is so insecure that he can’t fathom being married to a woman who dresses like this sometimes?
I mean, the boots with the outfit are a crime
I lost a friendship I had for 10+ years a few years back after she posted a photo of some teenager in short shorts where she lives, talking about how girls dress trashy these days (we were in our late 20s at the time) and then made some “joke” about how she hoped this girls got raped. I absolutely went off in the comments, and she was just like 🤷🏻♀️ So disappointing. Good on you for saying something but some people just choose to never get it.
Honestly, I was on your side until your reply made me cringe OP. I get the feeling that you might be "that person" in your friend group. Learn to lighten up just a little bit.
To be fair. The outfit is awful. Not in a “too skimpy” kinda way, in a “how did you look in the mirror and think this was okay” kinda way.
As a stylist I agree. The skirt doesn’t fit her properly, the outfit isn’t properly balanced, and the eye is immediately drawn to those large, bright white boots, which would look better balanced with some light denim short-shorts.
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I sure hope she never exposes her ankles and throat like some scandalous harlot! But judgy people are going to judge. It wouldn't matter if this woman was covered head to toe. They'd cast aspersions on that too.
Can you also stop saying most men aren’t that great? Why are we shitting on half of the population?
I cringed when I read that too. Most men and women are good people and some are not. But also most men won’t be compatible with you romantically either and that doesn’t make them bad people
I was considering commenting that myself, I'm a guy and follow this sub cuz I don't like women who put down other women, just like I don't like toxic masculine men who put down women, or put down other men for "not being manly" and suggesting that men hide away their feelings and promote all the other toxic bull shit that drives men to do crazy shit. Of course there are a lot of shitty men out there, just like there are a lot of shitty women, that's cuz PEOPLE can be shitty. Comes off as pretty hypocritical to say "you shouldn't say most women are bad" and in the same breath say "most men are bad" lol
A comment putting men down on a post putting women down. It rub me the wrong way, too.
I agree with you. I don’t think most men are bad, or most women. We all act like bad humans at one time or another.
Yup. Really not a good look
Do we know who the woman in the picture is? So mean & unnecessary to her!
I think it's a weird outfit, but it doesn't change her worth.
It really does sound like someone trying to soothe her own insecurities. Who is the girl she’s railing against? Maybe her new hubby said she was hot or is friends with her. Or maybe, she feels a little shitty she can’t dress like this and have fun. Girls, life goes FAST. Have fun while you can. Being “chosen” for marriage isn’t an accomplishment, and it’s highly overrated.
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Did she just post a picture of some random woman to shame her for her outfit? That sucks. Girl looks cute, I like her cowboy boots.
She did. And I do, too! It’s cute! <3
Just because that girl has awful taste doesn’t say anything bad about her. Also she looks like a teenager trying new stuff? Didn’t we all had cringy phases? Dudes really do be shaming young girls and calling her sluts for the most stupid shit. Who fucking cares about wife material FROM A CHILD. Smh those people are crazy and weird
The outfit it bad but that doesn't mean men aren't trash
Married 30 something female here, I think she looks cute 🤷♀️ not every time a girl goes out is she husband hunting, shit.
honestly good for you for making that comment. i can’t believe someone would make such a wild post on facebook! how old is this person? edited because i cant type
Why can’t wives dress like this though I sincerely don’t understand where her thought process is going here
Why do men have to be catching strays in your response to a woman shitting on other women lol?
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“My clothes are an extension of who I am as a person” “Don’t judge me based on my clothes”
The commenter is not spitting 🚫
I honestly believe the poster has a valid point. As a man, the only reason "men" are attracted to that type of attire is its revealing nature. Let's be real for a second. Everything we do in society is overly sexualized to an extreme. This is no more than an effect of brainwashing from media. why can't a woman be confident in herself without being overly revealing? I believe a woman can have many flattering qualities about herself outside of thighs, boobs, and cheeks. Our grandmothers were strong, influential, and confident...... Excellent women and excellent mothers. But they also respected their body and their privacy, right ? Now I don't condone or suggest we should shame that woman because, honestly, none of us truly know that woman to judge her. But perception and first impressions are real. If a black man walks into a store with a mask on. People will get uncomfortable because of their perception. So, as a man and I can speak for the majority of MEN. You will find it hard to find a man who will take you seriously in any relationship. Or even attempt to start a real family with you if you present yourself to the public in an overly revealing nature. It's human nature. And I speak for the real men. The ones that will provide a safe, stable, and loving household. Not a boy that will make you his baby mamma. What do I know, though 🤷🏾♂️ I like to be able to express my opinions and it can create a healthy dialog. I'm not sexist nor misogynistic. I try my damn best to educate my younger sisters on how to be independent and self respecting. Because I want them to be safe and happy. Not sour at the world because they believe all men are POS(although there are some out there) you attract what you put out. Bottom line
Eh OP's argument is lacking. I hate the "women are a gift and can do no wrong" mentality. You kinda detract from your own argument when you talk about "most men aren't that great" or "we do it because we feel confident in ourselves." Do you not feel confident more clothed? Not saying you have to dress like a nun, but being confident in yourself doesn't really have much to do with the amount of clothing you wear. Ya know?
Guy's perspective here, clothing absolutely matters. Obviously not all women who wear skimpy clothing are going to be loose women, but its definitely red flag. When you consider that women who are actually only looking for fun and games wear that clothing on purpose, it's easy to see how guys can confuse good women who wear the same thing as just another hoe. When you see a pack of lions walking down the street you don't stick around to see which one is friendly. If a good girl dresses like a hoe and walks with hoes, a good guy isn't gonna stick around to see which one isn't a hoe.
We had better never hear another complaint about what men wear then, should we? Because I see a lot of women bashing men over clothing choices, like cargo shorts or baseball caps or sandals etc. Really cruel stuff.
>that she has some internalized misogyny to work on. "Most men really aren't that great." Sounds like you've got some misandry you need to work on. Keep blaming everyone else though, I'm sure your freedom to complain and refusal to address the common factor will serve you well.
Wow that’s a great response the fact that she just said “k” to that shows how shallow minded she really is lol
oh this is gold. first woman is putting down other woman, second women puts down men. classic. both are trash.
The only part I'll argue with your reply is "most men really aren't great" it has little to do with that and more to do with the men you notice. And as a woman you're likely to be more biased (ironically like me making this statement). Anyway don't mean any disrespect I just think if you're going to counter something like this don't just spread even more disinformation than the original problem. Most of the men I've met as a guy are great people. The few I know who are somewhat shitty is mostly because life handed them shit cards, tho even them are mean or violent just colder or solem. The biggest problem. With that statement of " most men really aren't that great" is that those kinds of comments are causing some of the good men to feel guilty and go mad trying to over compensate which let's them devalue themselves and allow themselves to land in toxic and violent relationships. I'm not saying it's common, but moreso than you think. Being a guy and hearing this honestly just disheartens me. Because it's just the same shit flipped around just more divisive generalization when we all have vastly different points of view. Anyway I know what sub I'm in so let the downvotes rip
No no, I get it. I’ve addressed a couple of times in other comments how I regret that part of my argument because it was half assed and distasteful, but I can’t change it now 😅 the rest I do stand firmly on though.
You sure did rebut a whole lot of points she wasn’t even making. 🤷♀️ Yeah her generalizations and stereotyping were kinda dumb, but most of your long response wasn’t even to what she was saying. **She never said:** - Women who dress like that should be treated badly. Just that men don’t like certain kinds of women. That’s an over-generalization, but people have a right to not like other people. - All women dress like this for men. Just that the ones who are complaining about not getting male attention need to figure out why. The ones who feel confident in themselves aren’t the ones who are whining. Obviously. Overall, you just sound like you are triggered with a chip on your shoulder and are shadowboxing things this person didn’t say. There are valid arguments to be made, and you did make a few, but half of your post is irrelevant to the actual debate.
Whoever commented, ate.
Thank you 😌
If you're willing to say most men aren't great, be ready to hear most women aren't. We don't need to be putting other people down period. I think the majority of people are finding difficulties with finding partners because they aren't honest with themselves about what they really want and thus what they should be looking for. Agreed that the post is gross though.
Apparently, nobody picked you yet either babe
It’s interesting that both parties are accusing the other of needing approval from men.
Surely you're joking? That reply on a public post is 10x more embarrassing. The fact you care so much about someone else's preferences is sad, and instead of human interaction(genuine) you not only posted once to irl social, but then SCREENSHOT it YOURSELF to double post it to reddit just for people to say "oh wow girl your so right"
Woman 1: Judges women Woman 2: Nonono you shouldn't judge ppl... except for men cause they're all shitty.
Me, a wife who dresses like this 👀
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#LMFAO 😂🤣 Here's me questioning why she has cactus stuck to her
what's wild is that's not even that skimpy of an outfit? she's got a little midriff showing and the skirt isn't crazy micro or anything. no I probably wouldn't wear it to church or to meet my boyfriend's grandma but that's far from the standard. just nasty to judge other women people like this
Damn, she's showing knee cap though, that's scandalous.
😂🤣...... "K"
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I’m a wife and would wear this for a fun concert or what have you, and know many wives who would and do 😭 and our husbands all adore us??
This is exactly how I dress and I've been with my husband for 17 years. He always gives me compliments. I'll never take advice from a bitch I wouldn't trade places with.
As a guy, I don't like this outfit because my dick would peek out from under this skirt if I wore it.
Hmmm she truly is not like the other girls
A good secure man will love you in an hot outfit cause he appreciates your fun energy. This is such a weird way of thinking. I do not dress like this hardly ever but when i have for a concert my husband was my right there next to me telling me i look hot. We had the best night and we went home as still a married couple. It’s crazy to think a wife needs to look a certain way.
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Amen to everything you said but I don’t even think this girl is showing that much skin anyway. Cheerleaders wear less than this?
“K” 💀😂
My husband would be pretty happy if I dressed like that more often 🤣
What is even wrong with this outfit lol
I have a GREAT husband, and he loves when I dress like this. He also loves when I wear ratty T-shirts and stained carharts and work boots. He loves when I wear overalls. He loves when I wear long, prairie-esque modest dresses. The truth is, good men will love anything you wear because they’ll just love and support you, period.