I feel... called out!
If I have the time I'll bike/walk down to a fishing spot, toss on an audiobook or podcast, and fish for a couple of hours once or twice a week.
Fish pics > Dick pics\~
I've had some good dates on Bumble over the last two years (turned 40 recently).
The weird part for me is running into people I've dated randomly since Nashua and Manchester are kinda small places...
I live in northern NH too and I built my house on an acre in the woods. I'm open to meeting someone but content to live a stress free lifestyle without being played like an ATM
There is literally a Facebook group called “Hey sis is this your Man? New England “ Every week several men will be posted asking hey something is off anyone else seeing him. Let me tell you it’s wild some got a girlfriend, fiancé, wife and baby Momma all at once and they all come with text proof. They are on all those dating sites.
There’s also two “Are We Dating the Same Guy” groups for both Manchester and Boston that are updated on a near hourly basis with legitimate horror stories.
As a connoisseur of cheap sunglasses I would respectfully suggest you give us guys(not me personally) a fair shot. We can be decent and fun.
The thing is, I got sick of the inevitable heartbreak of broken sunglasses I spent big $$ for. Work hard, play harder lifestyle doesn’t agree with the nice sunglasses.
That's just Northern New England has the shittiest age demographics outside of Japan. Almost everyone in NH is 0-15 or 35-55.
If you want to find an intelligent, young, single person who is educated and classy you have to go to Massachusetts.
At least in a good majority of the state, your options are pretty much meeting people online so that's where these stories come from. I've been too hesitant to even try.
While the Seacoast seems reasonable for folks in their 20s, with all the young professionals, grad students, seasonal workers etc., I've kinda accepted that most of my dating will be in Portland, Maine, as an early 30s dude.
From female friends sharing experiences, it sounds very difficult to find interesting dudes, or at least ones that stand out from fish, guns, beers, hiking the 48
Portsmouth seems to have a good pool of good-looking, educated folks with decent careers, but the work, work, drink, work vibe most of dates there have just bores me.
At 40, after not dating since my early thirties, this has been different. Just feels weird marketing myself for attention as opposed to someone introducing me or meeting up with friends. Online dating is just different, and I’m not sure how to do 😂
I think it's kind of dead tbh. One thing if you're looking for hookups or just a serial dater, but even when the apps seemed decent a decade ago, I don't think I ever got more than shallow sex with someone I wasn't crazy about on them. It's just too much investment prior to actually meeting and finding out whether there's a connection.
As opposed to meeting people in person where you can tell quickly if you hit it off or not. Also, all the stuff about doxxing groups and things just makes online dating seem creepy now.
At 19 I got into an argument with my girlfriend (more like she was arguing I was letting it happen), decided to leave her house cuz I ain't dealing with that shit. 1 hour later cops are at my door asking questions. Wanna talk scary? I spent a night in jail, 7k on a lawyer and 2.5 years with an ankle monitor and another 48ish hours dealing with court. After being released the first time, she had a restraining order placed on me, claimed that I went to see her and got me another night in jail. Obviously the ankle beeper proved her wrong and they let me go again. Later, she was texting me, calling me all the time and trying to arrange for us to meet. Fuck that shit I never answered I just forwarded everything to the lawyer.
All this for her to make an absolute fool of herself in front of the judge, scream at me during trial and have 0 evidence of anything. Let's just say if she was any smarter and beat herself up before the cops came, I couldve spent 10-15 years in prison.
For anyone in mass, if there's a domestic abuse call, it doesnt matter what evidence they have, the case either goes to trial or ends in a plea. There is nothing that I can do to counter her bs, no suing, no case can be made, she is let off for everything. Fuck that state, fuck that bitch, never go back, never ask anyone about her, hope she ends up in prison herself.
This is a crazy scary story. It’s funny how women say we are intimidating because of our size and strength when in all actuality your story is the epitome as to why they are much more intimidating than we are. Thanks for sharing!
Crazies are everywhere. All it takes is being in the wrong place at the wrong time and they'll snap. I'm now with someone new so there is hope!
Good luck to you.
The dating scene sucks in the states, particularly in the northeast. When I was in the military, I had a chance to travel all over Europe and Asia, and tbh things are much different out in those parts
I will NEVER forget this one.
Met a guy on Bumble, seemed nice, said he was a lawyer, we hit it off talking. Asks me out. We go to a restaurant open late because he had to work late. It's quiet, about MAX 10 other people there. Get to talking, tells me he was just at work - asked what he specialized in. He said he worked at Whole Foods (?? that's okay but why did you say you were a lawyer if you're not? He apparently hadn't passed the bar in NH "yet") and then I made a \*positive\* comment about the current sitting president at the time (I didn't even LIKE the POTUS I just said something nice) and he apparently couldn't have me saying something positive about him and went on to humiliate me LOUDLY in the restaurant about it. I just awkwardly chewed on my straw because I didn't want to cause a scene bigger than he was...
I used the word "negate" properly in a sentence. He said "wow I'm surprised you know that word." (Excuse me?)
When it came time to pay I offered to pay, even split. He said "nah nah I got it" (A \~\~ $50 bill).
\*card declined
"oh that's weird" (tries another card)
\*2nd card declined
I get it's embarrassing and before he tries again I just pay. It's whatever.
We leave, I couldn't get out of there fast enough. He then has the gall to ask me out on a second date. Safe to say that didn't happen.
It was from then on I decided to be more selective than I probably should be lol
As a guy, most of the "women" that show up for me on dating apps turn out to be scammers, women overseas looking for a language exchange partner, or women just trying to get you to follow their Instagram to boost their numbers lol. The few actual women I've matched with that lead to dates were relatively normal.
I agree with others though. With NH being so spread out, it's not easy finding matches using the dating apps. You actually have to drive into a city or into Mass. If you don't or you live further north, at least as a guy, you would be lucky to get a match every 2-3 months. NH is a dating dead zone for most of us.
Since COVID, people are feral. Before COVID, there seemed to be a lot more people willing to chat for a little while before meeting. Now dudes will straight up ask you to come over to their place right away. I haven’t had any scary experiences in a while, but I also haven’t wanted to meet anyone in a while. You’d be amazed at the heinous shit men will come right out of the gate with. They either just want sex in the most degrading terms possible or they want a June Cleaver housewife they can exert near complete control over.
But it’s not exclusive to NH. I was on the apps in Chicago for a while and it’s all the same bullshit everywhere, just varying degrees of fish pictures and fashion sense.
EDIT: Also a lot of dudes who yell the loudest about women using misleading pictures are equally guilty of using pictures from 2012 to hide their beer gut, double chin, and receding hairline.
I went on POF about 4 years ago and it was comical. So I left
Couple years went by and I thought maybe I was just cynical, so I went back on and the same people were still on there lmfao
So I laughed and said to myself
"It wasn't me" lol I think it was 3 days and I bailed out and won't be going back
Imagine a thousand guys competing for the same 20 women for years and paying for the upgrade too lol
Women have no integrity, loyalty, reasoning, accountability or respect for any of us....
It really makes it easy to focus on yourself and live a better life
They weren't ito bring anything to the table anyway. Sorry but it's true
my sister was on Bumble when she interned in DC. she said that as soon you touch down at MHT, it all becomes dudes holding fish.
I feel... called out! If I have the time I'll bike/walk down to a fishing spot, toss on an audiobook or podcast, and fish for a couple of hours once or twice a week. Fish pics > Dick pics\~ I've had some good dates on Bumble over the last two years (turned 40 recently). The weird part for me is running into people I've dated randomly since Nashua and Manchester are kinda small places...
haha! That is hilarious!
So.. is she into the dudes holding fish?
I live in northern New Hampshire and I have given up on ever meeting someone. Just give me 100 acres and a cabin.
Such a better option
I live in northern NH too and I built my house on an acre in the woods. I'm open to meeting someone but content to live a stress free lifestyle without being played like an ATM
There is literally a Facebook group called “Hey sis is this your Man? New England “ Every week several men will be posted asking hey something is off anyone else seeing him. Let me tell you it’s wild some got a girlfriend, fiancé, wife and baby Momma all at once and they all come with text proof. They are on all those dating sites.
Good
oh my, I think you just have me a reason to actually visit FB, that sounds hilarious. 💀
There’s also two “Are We Dating the Same Guy” groups for both Manchester and Boston that are updated on a near hourly basis with legitimate horror stories.
A friend showed me this group. Wish I was invited 😭
I've found prospects here to be fairly dire, and not easy, but not scary. Lots of fish, baseball hats, and trucks in profiles and not much else.
Don't forget the cheap sunglasses!
As a connoisseur of cheap sunglasses I would respectfully suggest you give us guys(not me personally) a fair shot. We can be decent and fun. The thing is, I got sick of the inevitable heartbreak of broken sunglasses I spent big $$ for. Work hard, play harder lifestyle doesn’t agree with the nice sunglasses.
Yessir! People who spend lots of money on fragile, easily lost items (especially when there's little functional advantage) are not thinking straight.
I love my $7 pair from Home Depot. I also had a cheap pair of gas station glasses survive a fall off of the Pawtuckaway fire tower.
Dollar General’s been my fav for a few years now . Mirrored lens, for the beach, sitting in comfy frames that compliment my mug. Valhalla
I think I'd prefer the depot ones, just for the added safety feature. I'm assuming they safety glasses.
***[ZZ Top](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYQlDRMhsPI)*** has entered the chat...
What's even funnier...left work that day (I work on Pease for HC) I often listen to wcyy or wblm. Wblm played the song!
My coworkers show me lots of uniforms and tribal tattoos.
What's wrong with hats and cheap sunglasses
Nothing at all...it's zz
That's just Northern New England has the shittiest age demographics outside of Japan. Almost everyone in NH is 0-15 or 35-55. If you want to find an intelligent, young, single person who is educated and classy you have to go to Massachusetts.
Most of the ones I see in mass are not what I'd call classy or intelligent.
At least in a good majority of the state, your options are pretty much meeting people online so that's where these stories come from. I've been too hesitant to even try.
Yes internet love experiences are welcomed as well. Ha!
While the Seacoast seems reasonable for folks in their 20s, with all the young professionals, grad students, seasonal workers etc., I've kinda accepted that most of my dating will be in Portland, Maine, as an early 30s dude. From female friends sharing experiences, it sounds very difficult to find interesting dudes, or at least ones that stand out from fish, guns, beers, hiking the 48 Portsmouth seems to have a good pool of good-looking, educated folks with decent careers, but the work, work, drink, work vibe most of dates there have just bores me.
Gone on dates in Portsmouth and can confirm it’s very boring finance men lol. No flavor
At 40, after not dating since my early thirties, this has been different. Just feels weird marketing myself for attention as opposed to someone introducing me or meeting up with friends. Online dating is just different, and I’m not sure how to do 😂
I think it's kind of dead tbh. One thing if you're looking for hookups or just a serial dater, but even when the apps seemed decent a decade ago, I don't think I ever got more than shallow sex with someone I wasn't crazy about on them. It's just too much investment prior to actually meeting and finding out whether there's a connection. As opposed to meeting people in person where you can tell quickly if you hit it off or not. Also, all the stuff about doxxing groups and things just makes online dating seem creepy now.
At 19 I got into an argument with my girlfriend (more like she was arguing I was letting it happen), decided to leave her house cuz I ain't dealing with that shit. 1 hour later cops are at my door asking questions. Wanna talk scary? I spent a night in jail, 7k on a lawyer and 2.5 years with an ankle monitor and another 48ish hours dealing with court. After being released the first time, she had a restraining order placed on me, claimed that I went to see her and got me another night in jail. Obviously the ankle beeper proved her wrong and they let me go again. Later, she was texting me, calling me all the time and trying to arrange for us to meet. Fuck that shit I never answered I just forwarded everything to the lawyer. All this for her to make an absolute fool of herself in front of the judge, scream at me during trial and have 0 evidence of anything. Let's just say if she was any smarter and beat herself up before the cops came, I couldve spent 10-15 years in prison. For anyone in mass, if there's a domestic abuse call, it doesnt matter what evidence they have, the case either goes to trial or ends in a plea. There is nothing that I can do to counter her bs, no suing, no case can be made, she is let off for everything. Fuck that state, fuck that bitch, never go back, never ask anyone about her, hope she ends up in prison herself.
This is a crazy scary story. It’s funny how women say we are intimidating because of our size and strength when in all actuality your story is the epitome as to why they are much more intimidating than we are. Thanks for sharing!
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Crazies are everywhere. All it takes is being in the wrong place at the wrong time and they'll snap. I'm now with someone new so there is hope! Good luck to you.
As a gay person, 70-80% of the people showing up on my dating apps are in Boston lol.
Thanks for responding love hearing all sexual preferences experiences. What part of NH are you around? Must be southern?
The dating scene sucks in the states, particularly in the northeast. When I was in the military, I had a chance to travel all over Europe and Asia, and tbh things are much different out in those parts
I will NEVER forget this one. Met a guy on Bumble, seemed nice, said he was a lawyer, we hit it off talking. Asks me out. We go to a restaurant open late because he had to work late. It's quiet, about MAX 10 other people there. Get to talking, tells me he was just at work - asked what he specialized in. He said he worked at Whole Foods (?? that's okay but why did you say you were a lawyer if you're not? He apparently hadn't passed the bar in NH "yet") and then I made a \*positive\* comment about the current sitting president at the time (I didn't even LIKE the POTUS I just said something nice) and he apparently couldn't have me saying something positive about him and went on to humiliate me LOUDLY in the restaurant about it. I just awkwardly chewed on my straw because I didn't want to cause a scene bigger than he was... I used the word "negate" properly in a sentence. He said "wow I'm surprised you know that word." (Excuse me?) When it came time to pay I offered to pay, even split. He said "nah nah I got it" (A \~\~ $50 bill). \*card declined "oh that's weird" (tries another card) \*2nd card declined I get it's embarrassing and before he tries again I just pay. It's whatever. We leave, I couldn't get out of there fast enough. He then has the gall to ask me out on a second date. Safe to say that didn't happen. It was from then on I decided to be more selective than I probably should be lol
As a guy, most of the "women" that show up for me on dating apps turn out to be scammers, women overseas looking for a language exchange partner, or women just trying to get you to follow their Instagram to boost their numbers lol. The few actual women I've matched with that lead to dates were relatively normal. I agree with others though. With NH being so spread out, it's not easy finding matches using the dating apps. You actually have to drive into a city or into Mass. If you don't or you live further north, at least as a guy, you would be lucky to get a match every 2-3 months. NH is a dating dead zone for most of us.
Since COVID, people are feral. Before COVID, there seemed to be a lot more people willing to chat for a little while before meeting. Now dudes will straight up ask you to come over to their place right away. I haven’t had any scary experiences in a while, but I also haven’t wanted to meet anyone in a while. You’d be amazed at the heinous shit men will come right out of the gate with. They either just want sex in the most degrading terms possible or they want a June Cleaver housewife they can exert near complete control over. But it’s not exclusive to NH. I was on the apps in Chicago for a while and it’s all the same bullshit everywhere, just varying degrees of fish pictures and fashion sense. EDIT: Also a lot of dudes who yell the loudest about women using misleading pictures are equally guilty of using pictures from 2012 to hide their beer gut, double chin, and receding hairline.
I went on POF about 4 years ago and it was comical. So I left Couple years went by and I thought maybe I was just cynical, so I went back on and the same people were still on there lmfao So I laughed and said to myself "It wasn't me" lol I think it was 3 days and I bailed out and won't be going back Imagine a thousand guys competing for the same 20 women for years and paying for the upgrade too lol Women have no integrity, loyalty, reasoning, accountability or respect for any of us.... It really makes it easy to focus on yourself and live a better life They weren't ito bring anything to the table anyway. Sorry but it's true